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Trusting God When Times Are Hard (Part 1 of 2)

Trusting God When Times Are Hard (Part 1 of 2)

Crystal Evans Hurst shares fun stories about her family to make a serious point: only God has the right perspective on our life, especially when times are hard. We need to understand how being a child of God also makes us His responsibility, and what that really means in daily life. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: September 20, 2022

John Fuller: Today’s guest on Focus on the Family is Chrystal Evans Hurst, and she offers hope for those who are hurting.

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Chrystal Evans Hurst: You still can have, in the midst of the best of times, and the worst of times, the right perspective. And the right perspective changes everything.

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John: There is more encouragement ahead from Chrystal. Thanks for joining us today. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: We’ve had Chrystal visit our studios here in Colorado Springs twice over the past few years. Uh, once with her dad, our good friend, Dr. Tony Evans. Uh, Chrystal is a very dynamic speaker and so today, we’re featuring a presentation that she gave to a big crowd at a Women of Joy conference. And I think you’ll hear echoes of Tony in her speaking style.

John: Yeah, she really does have energy and that passion comes through. And, uh, Chrystal is a blogger, a podcaster, and the author of the book She’s Still There: Rescuing the Girl in You. We have copies of that, of course. Uh, swing by the website to see more. And I should note that Chrystal is a homeschooling mom, and also a grandmother. Uh, with that, here’s Chrystal Evans Hurst, speaking at Women of Joy, as you said, Jim, in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina on today’s Focus on the Family.

Audience: Whoo! Whoo!

Chrystal: Good morning!

Audience: [Cheering].

Chrystal: Listen, I love it to be in a room full of women who love Jesus and who are taking the opportunity to be in a room with, uh, women who also love Jesus because something happens when women get together to sing praises, to let it all hang loose, and to just have a good time. Are you having a good time so far this weekend?

Audience: Whoo! Whoo!

Chrystal: (laughs) I’m so glad to be here with you. My husband is floating around somewhere in the building. Normally, I leave him home with, uh, our boys and they are all happy that I’m gone because then they do things that they don’t think I know about, but I know.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: I see the, uh, folded up cereal boxes in the trashcan. You know. The Frosted Flakes that I don’t buy, the Cocoa Puffs I don’t buy, the Lucky Charms that I don’t buy, the wrapper from the Honey Buns. I know what they’re…

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: … doing when I’m not there.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: I always just ask ’em, hey, when I come back, can you just make sure that everybody’s alive? And so I’m really grateful to him, most of the time, for, um, sharing me. Uh, and letting you borrow me for a weekend or two here and there. But this weekend, he’s with me. So I just wanted to honor him. We have five children from ages 30 to 13. I don’t know how that’s possible because I’m not even 30 yet, but whatever.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: We also have, uh, three and a half grandchildren. We have two boys still at home. Everybody else is either in college or out of the house. And the two boys are teenagers. I have teenagers in the house, and I am happy about it. What I always tell them though is that, uh, when they are looking at me like, like, uh, you know, and I really do believe that there’s a point in the lives of young people where, when you’re the mom, especially when you’re dealing with, um, those of the male species, it doesn’t matter what I say. All they hear is, “Wah, wah, wah, wah, wah, wah.”

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: And they give me these crazy looks like they don’t really understand what I just said. Um, and then I make sure that I tell them, “You’re the one who’s crazy, not me.”

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Not me. You’re the one with the raging hormones, you’re the one who’s trying to figure out who you are. You’re the one that is trying to figure out what you’re gonna do when you get all of the freedom in the world to leave our house. But I actually am not the crazy one, you are, and that’s okay. I love you anyway. Uh, dear lady, uh, that I don’t know in an elevator one day was asking me about the ages of my children. And I told her at the time, my oldest was 13. She said, “Can I give you some advice? And I’ma give you this advice for free.” I said, “Sure.” She said, “Just feel sorry for her.”

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: I said, “What do you mean?” She said, “Well, would you wanna go back and go through all that?” I said, “Probably not.” She said, “Exactly. So whatever it is, just tell her, ‘I’m so sorry that you’re gonna have to be on punishment this weekend, but I love you. I’m so sorry you don’t like what I said, but I love you.’” Or, in the case of my daughter, “I’m so sorry that your room does not have a door that’s on the hinges because it’s…

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: … my room, not yours.”

Audience: (laughs)

Audience: Whoo!

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: I’m so sorry.

Audience: Whoo!

Chrystal: (laughs) And I just realized that my 13-year-old is turning. You know, there’s a point in time, and it could be, so depending on the kid, it could be 11, 12, it could be 15. Um, th- it, there’s a time where you look at them and you go, “Oh, it’s happening to you.”

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Does anybody know what I’m talking about? You just, you just start seeing, it’s just a turn. Looked at my baby boy and I said, “Oh, you’re turning on me.” And he said, “No, I’m not.” I said, “Yes, you are.” This is the baby who has been tracking with us with all the other things because you know when you have a bunch of kids and the younger kids come along, I don’t care what you think you’re doing with those older kids and, in terms of scheduling and being, uh, official, and having all of your ducks in a row, when those younger kids come, they just gotta do what everybody else is doing and catching at where they can. And so this is the youngest child, who used to go with me to all the sporting events, and he was just easy, and, uh, he still is pretty easy. There was a season where we were playing football and we were homeschool parents on accident now for 20 years. Every year, I look at my husband and say, “Are we still doing this?” He says, “I guess so.” I say, “Okay, well, I guess so.” Um, I used to stress out about it, but three of ’em now have gone to college so I must be doing something right. The baby, though, has been tracking with us to all these homeschool football games. And when you play homeschool sports, or maybe you know this to be true because of private school sports. You really just have to go where you can play. So that often means we’re going far distances to play games. On one particular Friday night, we were going about 45 minutes away from our home. We took two separate cars. My husband took the two older boys, and I said I would come later with the younger one. Um, we drove all those, those two cars out north. Uh, we live in the Dallas Fort Worth area. And we won the game. It was great. Uh, after the game, we decided to go to Whataburger because after the game, in Texas, we go to Whataburger.

Audience: Whoo! Yeah!

Audience: Whoo!

Chrystal: And my children…

Audience: Whoo!

Chrystal: … are so very excited. I don’t typically buy soda in our home. It’s kind of a special guest, uh, f- Sunday, big family have, uh, a hospitality thing. And other than that, we don’t really have soda in our house. So it’s a big deal. And my children get the big size, and they go to the spigot. And my youngest son just looks at me smiling while he says, “Ksh, k. Ksh, k.”

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Ksh, k.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Ksh, k.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Because he wants to get all the different flavors of soda. Now, when you were young, did you do that where you just filled up with all the different flavors? What do we call that?

Audience: Rainbow.

Chrystal: There you go. And I don’t even know why we do that ’cause it’s nasty.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: But I think when you’re younger, it’s just the idea that you could have all the flavors and do whatever kind of mixture you want. And so he got all the flavors, and, um, was just smiling at me while he was doing it ’cause he was so excited. Came, sat down, ate his burger, ate his fries, drank the majority of his soda. When it was about time to go, uh, he said, “Mom, before I go, can I fill up my soda again?” I said, “Sure.” So he went back there, ksh, k. Ksh, k. Ksh. Filled it up again because he wanted to make sure that he took this opportunity to drink as much soda (laughs) as he possibly could.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: So we get in the car. Uh, he and I are traveling home, uh, by ourselves and the traffic is horrible, y’all. It’s a Friday night and there should not be traffic on the Dallas tollway. But there totally was. And I’m just riding my brakes down the tollway thinking it’s already been a long night. We already spent extra time after the game going to Whataburger. I cannot wait to go home. You know that feeling that you have when you’re in traffic and you don’t even know why you’re in traffic, but at some point, the traffic breaks. And you may never even know why the traffic was happening. You don’t see the accident; you don’t see the car on the side of the road. You just know now I can go. So the car in front of me obviously got the signal that it was time for him to go, so he hit his gas. And I looked at him and thought, “This is awesome.” And as soon as he took off, I took off. Well, he misjudged how fast he shoulda been going. So he took off and then immediately hit his breaks really hard, which meant I then had to hit my breaks really hard. Now, the good news is, I had my seatbelt on. My son had his seatbelt on. But there was one thing in the car that did not have…

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: … the seatbelt on. Y’all, that soda from Whataburger went flying forward. It splashed against the front of my windshield and all of that juice came ricocheting off the windshield back onto my face.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Into my hair, into my purse.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: All over my car. But y’all, I’m a good mother.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: I’m a good mother. So the first thing I said out loud in my, out of my mouth was, “Baby, are you okay?”

Audience: Whoo!

Chrystal: Well, I don’t think my son was a good son that day.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: ‘Cause the first thing out of his mouth was, “My soda!”

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: And that really upset me. Because I’m thinking, not only have I damaged by your soda… You’re not damaged by the soda. You’re in the backseat. My car still, to this day, there’s a button in my car that if I press that button, it sticks, which means it shortcuts the electric circuit for everything else and none of the other buttons will work, still. I have cleaned that thing with alcohol, stuck Q-Tips in around it, put a knife in there trying to clean it up. It still stuck. Y’all, this was, like, seven years ago.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: The button’s still sticking. But you know what? The car is paid off, so it is what it is. I’m not…

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: (laughs)

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: But I was also upset because, to me of course, my vantage point as a mom, his vantage point as a young, young man, my vantage point is that we are okay. You’re okay. You had your seatbelt on and that’s why I said that to him. I said that to him because I know that, had I not hit my brakes or had we not had our seatbelts on, this could be a story that did not end very well for our car or for our lives. And I’m thinking as I’m looking at him, you totally have the wrong perspective. Boy, I need you to be grateful. I just saved your life. You had your seatbelt on. I saved you from impending injury or (laughs) impending death and all you can think about is that doggone soda. And that’s not the last time you’re gonna have it. And there’s more where that comes from.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: But I saved your life.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: And sometimes, y’all, I wonder if God doesn’t look at us girls when life stops suddenly for us, or when we run into, uh, unexpected traffic, or when we have to hit the brakes hard because something in front of us is, uh, not doing what we expected it to do. And something in our lives flies off the handle, does something we don’t expect. And when God looks at us and he’s saying, “Girl, listen. I know you’re okay. You have the seatbelt of the blood of Jesus Christ holding you in and guaranteeing your life, and you are crying over something that spilled. And I need you to get correct perspective because I’ve saved your life.”

Audience: [Cheering].

Chrystal: And probably what you are crying over…

Audience: Whoo!

Chrystal: … there’s either more where that came from, or you don’t need to worry about because you’ll have everything you ever want in eternity with me.

Audience: Whoo!

Chrystal: I need you to get correct perspective, girl. So what I wanna do this morning is just to walk you through a passage of scripture in hopes that it helps your perspective. Now, I realize, I understand it because, uh w- I, in my own life, I know what it is to have things spill. Something that you hold precious and dear, something that you thought you’d be able to enjoy for longer than you had it. And it slips right through your fingers, and it’s disappointing. It’s discouraging. It’s depressing. And you are honestly more focused on the thing that you thought you’d have than the God who gave you the life to have it. I know what it is like to have the feelings and the emotions that say in a certain moment, “God, are you serious?” Because in that moment, listen. My son was mad at me for hitting the brakes. He did not have correct perspective that by me hitting the brakes, I actually was saving his life. And sometimes, that’s what happens when God allows the brakes in our life to be, to be hit suddenly and we are just feeling the ricochet, the pain, the frustration of what has happened, and we’re not paying attention or we’re not knowledgeable of the bigger picture because the bible says his ways are not our ways, his thoughts are not our thoughts. And we have to realize that sometimes, things are happening in our life, and we don’t know why. We don’t have an answer. We don’t have an explanation. But we can always choose to have the right perspective.

John: You’re listening to Focus on the Family, and that’s Chrystal Evans Hurst. And this reminder, we have Chrystal’s book. It’s called She’s Still There. Make a donation of any amount to the ministry today and we’ll send that book to you, including a free audio download of her entire presentation. Donate and request those at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Let’s return now to more from Chrystal Evans Hurst.

Chrystal: In Ephesians chapter two, there’s a series of verses that talk to us about what it means to have the correct perspective. I love reading the bible in different versions or different paraphrases. It just helps with a variety of words and vocabulary to help me look at the word of God in a, a different way, to see a nuance of it that maybe I don’t see in the version that I always read. So I would like to read for you, actually, Ephesians chapter two verses one through 10 in the message paraphrase because I love how this reads and the picture that it paints for us. It wasn’t so long ago that you were mired in that old stagnant life of sin. You let the world, which doesn’t know the first thing about living, tell you how to live. You filled your lungs with polluted unbelief and then exhaled disobedience. We all did it, all of us doing what we felt like doing when we felt like doing it. All of us in the same boat. It’s a wonder God didn’t lose his temper and do away with the whole lot of us. Instead, immense in mercy and with an incredible love, he embraced us. He took our sin dead lives and made us alive in Christ. He did all of this on his own, with no help from us. And then he picked us up and set us down in highest heaven, in company with Jesus our Messiah. Now, God has us where he wants us with all of the time in this world and the next to shower grace and kindness in Christ Jesus upon us. Saving is all his idea. It’s all his work. All we do is trust him enough to let him do it. It’s God’s gift from start to finish. We don’t play the major role because if we did, we might go around bragging that we’ve done the whole thing. No. We neither make nor save ourselves. God does both the making and the saving. He creates each of us by Christ to join him in the work he does, the good work he has gotten ready for us to do, work we had better be doing. I wanna walk you through verse 10, for we are his workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we could walk in them, because I want you to remember to keep the right perspective even when life is not doing for you what you’d like for it to do. It’s not giving what you’d like for it to give. You still can have, in the midst of the best of times and the worst of times, the right perspective. And the right perspective changes everything. We are His. My oldest daughter went to college at Baylor University, which was, at the time, about an hour and a half from our house. So I would dart down there every now and again to see her, just because I could. One particular Friday afternoon, I called her. I said, “Hey, what are you doing?” Um, she told me she was about to be done with her last class. And I said, “Well, I’m gonna come down and see you this afternoon. Just make a drive down there and drive back.” She said, “Great.” So I got in my car, y’all, and on the way there, I drove through Sonic because Sonic Ice is a gift of the body of Christ.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Let me tell how I order it. I get a large Route 44 cup of ice and then I get a medium sweet tea. ‘Cause really, I don’t need that much sweet tea. I just need mostly the ice and the sweet tea to make it go down and keep it cold. It’s great.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: So I created my own concoction in the car. Uh, got in the car and started driving down to the school. When I got to the school, I got my Route 44 out of the car and walked up to her room. When I walked into her room, she, uh, hugged me. She was glad to see me. I proceeded into her room with my Route 44 in my hand and was looking for a place to put it down. I saw her desk. It was fairly clean, so I set it on the desk. She runs over to the desk, and picks up the Route 44, and says, “Mom!” And she grabs a paper towel, folds it in a square…

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Puts it on her desk, and then sets my Route 44 on her desk. And I’m just in shock ’cause I c- I don’t even know why, I do- I’m even shocked that she cares. Why do you care? She said, “Mom, you’re gonna mess up my desk.” And I’ve, the first problem I have with this is it ain’t your desk, girl.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: That’s number one. This is a desk that you’re only gonna have for this, even this year. And then you’re gonna change dorm rooms or move off campus and do something else. Number two, I’m in shock because why do you care? You’re the same kid that was putting glasses all over my furniture at home.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: I had to tell you all the time, please don’t put that glass on that wood because the condensation from the outside of the glass is gonna mess up my stuff. And you never cared.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: So why, all of a sudden, do you care? I could tell you why she cares, because she thought that it was hers. And I’m sitting there looking at her like, not only are you not even gonna have this next year. The only reason why you have it this year is ’cause I wrote the school a check. Are you crazy?

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Perspective.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: But in her mind, because she thought it was hers, she decided she was going to take care of it. My boys, uh, recently, um, in the last few years, I, I just looked at them and said, “I’m done.” I’m done with the video games. I’m not buying you anymore consoles. No Wii, no PlayStation, no Switch, no nothing. I’m done. I’m not buying any games. Uh, I’m just, I’m sorry. I’m just, I’m sick of it. And, um, they were in shock because what else are we gonna get for Christmas besides technology?

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: So I saw them one day, a couple days after Christmas, huddled up having a conversation. They were just sitting, like really talking deeply. And as I got closer, they kind of got quiet. Like they didn’t want me to hear what they were talking about. So I kind of backed up, but you know, they don’t know that we moms, our ears are super strength, super powered.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: What I realized they were doing is trying to figure out how they were gonna use the gift cards and cash that they had gotten from cousins and aunts and different people, grandparents. They were gonna pool their resources to buy the PlayStation that their mother would- didn’t get them.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: So they pool their res- I have never seen them work together and cooperate so great. It was amazing.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: I said, “Ye- y’all can do whatever you want. I’m not buying it.” So they did. They pooled their resources together and bought a PlayStation. They were negotiating who’s putting what in, and who’s gone buy the controllers. Y’all, that thing arrived. They were so careful with how they set it up and…

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: They put the controllers in the right place. No one had to ever tell anybody else to find the controller. They knew where it was. Every time they finished playing, they would roll up the cords all nice and neat, and put everything…

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: … exactly where it’s supposed to be ’cause they paid for it.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Then, one time, we were going out of town on a road trip, and they said, “Well, when we get to the hotel, will the hotel have connectors for our PlayStation?” I said, “I don’t know. I, I don’t know. I don’t know.” All of a sudden, the communication skills went through the roof. The research skills went through the roof.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: One Googled the number to the hotel, the other one made the phone call.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Excuse me, can I speak with someone at the front desk?

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Uh, we need to know if you have HDMI connections as well as left and right sound out. I’m looking at them like…

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: (laughs) Wow. (laughs)

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Then, when we got ready to go, they didn’t just pack the PlayStation. One kid brought out the original bubble wrap.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: Another kid brought out the original box.

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: So they wrapped it back up and they put it in the box. Then they were negotiating who’s carrying the actual console, who’s carrying the remotes, and who’s carrying the games. And I was like, “I should’ve been parenting like this a long time ago.”

Audience: (laughs)

Chrystal: This is phenomenal. Do you wanna know why they were acting like that? The same reason my daughter was acting that way with my Route 44. They thought it belonged to them. When you think something belongs to you, you take care of it differently. There’s a difference in how you take care of the repairs that are needed for an apartment than a home. It’s different. You, it’s different when you’re in a hotel room versus when you’re in a, a lodging that you take care of and that you’re responsible for. It’s different and it is different in the same way with God. He takes care of what belongs to him, which means he takes care of you and me. So I realize that there are times in your life where there may be things that spilled, things that you’re disappointed about, things that have been depressing or discouraging, things that you were hoping to enjoy that you didn’t get to enjoy as long or at all, and I realize that when those things slip through your fingers, when they make a mess in your life, the reaction is to think, “God doesn’t love me. He doesn’t care. He didn’t even allow me to keep the thing that I was so looking forward to enjoying or that I was so hoping that I would experience,” and you have to remember that God takes care of what belongs to him. He takes care of you. And lest you think that he does not take care of you or that you don’t belong to him, let me read some passages of scripture for you. Genesis 127 says that God created man and woman in his image. Psalm 24:1, the earth is the lord’s and all it contains, the world and those who dwell in it. Psalm 100 verse three, know ye that the Lord he is God. It is he who has made us and not we ourselves. We are his people and the sheep of his pasture. Isaiah 43:1, “But now, says the Lord O God, your creator, oh Jacob, and he who formed you, oh Israel, do not fear for I have redeemed you. I have called you by name. You are mine.” 1 Corinthians 6:19, “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the holy spirit who is in you, who you have from God and your body is not your own?” You belong to him, and God takes care of those things, those people that belong to Him. So when you are thinking in your life that things are falling apart, you have to trust the fact that even though it seems like what you want has slipped through your fingers. What you desire, you don’t have. What you had hoped for has not come to pass. That the most important thing is you, and you belong to God, and He is taking care of you.

Audience: (Applause).

Chrystal: And I was thinking in the son with my son in the car. As long as you’re okay, I can buy you another soda another day. And I wonder sometimes if God is looking at you and I and saying, “Listen, I know it’s devastating, but I can do, at another time, exceedingly, abundantly, above and beyond everything that you could ask or think Ephesians 3 tells us. Don’t get too hung up on this because what if there’s more to your life than this? You are His, so you’ve gotta develop a holy confidence in who you are because of whose you are. You are his workmanship.

John: We’ve been enjoying a message from Chrystal Evans Hurst, speaking at a Women of Joy conference. And we’ll continue her presentation next time.

Jim: Ah, that was so good. I love Chrystal’s story about her kids taking excellent care of their PlayStation (laughs) because they had to buy it themselves. That’s human nature, and it’s a great illustration of the fact that God will take care of us in good times and bad because we belong to Him. And we are his workmanship, and we are his children if we’ve accepted Jesus Christ as our savior and Lord. In fact, in the New Testament Book of Matthew, chapter seven verse 11, it says, “If you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly father give good gifts to those who ask him?” God wants to give us good things. But sometimes, our circumstances don’t line up with that promise and that can be so difficult. And if you’re going through a hard time right now, we have a wonderful staff who would welcome the opportunity to talk to you and refer you to one of our caring Christian counselors if you need that. Uh, a counselor can call you back for a free one-time consultation and even help you find a like-minded therapist in your area. That’s a service we’ve been providing for over 40 years here at Focus on the Family. The goal is to help your family thrive in Christ. Here’s the feedback we received from Barbara. Throughout our 30 years of marriage, my husband and I leaned heavily on Focus to help our blended family truly thrive, not just survive. We made use of your counseling services and other materials, and now we are so grateful to be reaping the benefits of all the support you provided. Thank you. It’s so good. And let me give a big shoutout to the donor community, who make our free counseling services possible. We couldn’t help families like Barbara’s without you. And if you haven’t given to Focus on the Family, let me encourage you to do so today. You can do ministry through Focus. And when you make a donation of any amount, we’ll send you a copy of Chrystal’s book. It’s called She’s Still There: Rescuing the Girl in You. If you’re wondering what God had planned when he created you, maybe you regret some decisions from your past. This is the book for you. Chrystal explains how to become the person God intended you to be. So get a copy from us today.

John: Request your copy when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, 800-232-6459. Or go online and, uh, donate as you can at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. When you request the book from us, we’ll include a free audio download of Chrystal’s entire presentation. Next time, more encouragement for difficult days from Chrystal Evans Hurst.

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Chrystal Evans Hurst: Maybe, instead of lamenting your mess, you just need to own your mess and say, “God knows what he’s doing.”

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Forgiving Others, Freeing the Soul (Part 1 of 2)

Dr. Tim Keller unpacks powerful stories of forgiveness and shares Scripture to help you forgive those who’ve wronged you, as you gain a better understanding of all that Christ has forgiven. Dr. Keller takes you through the steps to forgiveness, including the need to forgive yourself, and how to lovingly confront others. (Part 1 of 2)

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Chaplain Bill Goodrich of God Cares Ministry describes the vibrant opportunity to befriend and share Christ with the elderly in your community. He shares his heart for this forgotten generation of precious people who deserve our love and attention.

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Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

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Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

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Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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