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Uncovering the Secrets of Being a Happy Wife

Uncovering the Secrets of Being a Happy Wife

Popular blogger Fawn Weaver offers encouragement and advice to married women in a discussion based on her best-selling book, Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage.
Original Air Date: May 16, 2016

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Teaser:

Mrs. Fawn Weaver: I believe that marriage is the greatest gift besides salvation. Marriage is the greatest gift that God gave us.

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John Fuller: That’s a great perspective and it’s from Fawn Weaver, who joins us today on “Focus on the

Jim Daly: John, marriage is important to us here at Focus on the Family. In fact, strengthening marriage is one of our five pillars. It’s the thing we wake up every day wanting to do. And I think our listeners are really gonna enjoy the program today with Fawn Weaver. She has an inspirational story and she’s written a resource called Happy Wives Club and of course, every wife is leaning in right now thinking, “Happy, I’d like that. How do I get to happy?”

And you know, it’s not that simple thing; it’s how do you wake up every day with an attitude of joy and happiness? And if you’re livin’ in that spot where it’s dry and you’re not feeling the joy of the Lord, maybe you’re not happy, I think you’re gonna be blessed today.

John: And Fawn is a popular author and blogger and she’s got a community of over 1 million women in 110 countries, which are part of the Happy Wives Club. And Jim, we just met her earlier today, but she is enthusiastic and bubbly and exudes happy, doesn’t she?

Body:

Jim: I love it, yeah. Fawn, welcome to “Focus on the Family.”

Fawn: Thank you so.

Jim: Listen, your mom, we used to do women’s retreats called Renewing the Heart.

Fawn: Yes.

Jim: And we would have 20, 25,000 women in a major arena in a major city. And your mom used to present at that–

Fawn: She did.

Jim: –Bunny Wilson.

Fawn: She did.

Jim: And I just can’t imagine, ’cause we didn’t make that connection, how things go to the next generation, right?

Fawn: Yeah, it absolutely does and it’s funny, because she spoke so much about marriage, but my marriage is so different than it was with her and my dad. And so, she wrote Liberated Through Submission.

Jim:Liberated Through Submi[ssion], there’s a title that’ll sell—

John: That’ll grab—

Jim: –a ton.

John: –you. (Laughing)

Fawn: And it sold quite a few, because she was the first one to start talking about submission.

Jim: Really?

Fawn: She was and I mean, we’re going back 25 years. And so, it was so taboo at that time and boy, did she get reamed about it. But that was really how she read the Scriptures. And now I’m coming up in a different generation and submission looks very different (Laughing)–

Jim: Oh, yeah; we don’t like—

Fawn: –for me.

Jim: –that word anymore—

Fawn: It is—

Jim: –as a culture.

Fawn: –we do not like that word anymore and also I think that word was abused—

Jim: Correct.

Fawn: –for some time.

Jim: Yeah. Let’s start with something that we weren’t prepared really and you didn’t go into great detail in the book, but you had even with loving parents, you had a pretty tough—

Fawn: Yeah.

Jim: –upbringing. It was a deeply Christian home—

Fawn: Yeah.

Jim: –but a lot of religious rules. Talk about growing up in that environment and what happened to you as a young girl.

Fawn: Well, I think that there are certain kids that can grow up in authoritarian households where it’s, “I told you to do it, so that you do it.” And they don’t ask any questions back. They don’t say anything. They just kinda go with it. God is real. Jesus Christ is real. He dies on the cross for your sins and you should live this way because of that.

Jim: And they do it.

Fawn: And they do it.

Jim: Parents love that, by the way.

Fawn: Parents love that.

Jim: Unfortunately, not all children are born that way.

Fawn: And I am the child that was not born that way. (Laughter) And so, I needed you to explain to me and just having faith didn’t work for me. I needed you to have data. (Laughing)

Jim: Really.

Fawn: And that was really hard, so I was that kid who, I had no desire to read any of the books that were given to me in school. I sat and would read the Encyclopedia Britannica. That was what I enjoyed. And so, you’ve got these parents that are telling me, “You need to do this because of this one book.” And I’m trying to point them to the encyclopedia and say, “Okay, so match it up for me.” They didn’t like that very much. (Laughing)

Jim: Well, and it led to that confrontation, but you actually ran away at 15.

Fawn: I did; I did. I ran away at 15 and it’s funny, because my mom talks about it. Actually, I think it’s maybe at the end of one of her books, where she says, “Watching me walk down the driveway,” so I’m this independent girl at 15, walking with a lunch pail on to my life. And it’s just kind of even now, just thinking about that scene, I was actually walking with (Chuckling) my lunch pail to go out into the world on my own.

Jim: And the irony is, you know, growing up in Southern California, you left Pasadena to move to Watts.

Fawn: To Watts–

Jim: I mean, I was like, what?

Fawn: –the projects, the kids in the projects don’t have rules and I was trying to get away from rules. And so, I would go to school with these kids and they would talk about their lives. I was like, “Oh, wow! That sounds exciting.”

Jim: Who did—

Fawn: So—

Jim: –you live with?

Fawn: –[with] some kids from school.

Jim: That was it.

Fawn: That was it.

Jim: Man, so no guidance at 15–

Fawn: No.

Jim: –in that way, no close parental guidance.

Fawn: No, none at all.

Jim: So, that’s a story in and of itself, but bring us forward. At that point, you didn’t graduate from high school.

Fawn: I didn’t.

Jim: But you’ve got this natural leadership ability.

Fawn: Yes.

Jim: How do you attribute that? Where do you get that resilience, that gumption to think you know things that other people don’t know? And you didn’t even graduate from high school.

Fawn: I didn’t. I think that God makes us a specific way and it doesn’t really matter your education coming up. Some people go one particular way. I went to the school of hard knocks and I went by reading. If you sit me next to a Ph.D., I’m probably reading more books than he or she every day.

Jim: And you started your first business at 18.

Fawn: I did and I had 10 employees before I was 19 and now I have 100. And so, everyone is just wired a certain way and I—

Jim: Huh.

Fawn: –think that we have to give God credit for being able to work through anyone and through any circumstance and …

Jim: Let me ask you this before we get into the Happy Wives Club.

Fawn: Yeah.

Jim: We’re gonna get there eventually. (Laughing)

Fawn: Eventually.

Jim: But how did you hang onto your faith coming out of a home that, you know, regarded rules very highly, that expected you to behave a certain way? And you loved your mom and dad and your relationship is good with them, so we’re not going in that direction.

Fawn: Yes.

Jim: But how did you hang onto your faith? So many young people, not usually at 15, maybe 18, 19, are walking away. We, as Christian parents, are devastated. What did we do wrong? How did you begin to come back to faith in that journey and how did you reconnect with your mom and dad in a deep way?

Fawn: Well, I think that the idea that I was reconnecting or coming back to a faith, I never really had it. I never believed my parents and what they were saying, because they couldn’t explain it to me.

Jim: Hm.

Fawn: They just wanted me to believe what it was that they believed and I wasn’t convinced. So, I didn’t actually find God for myself until I had moved out. I lived in Watts in the projects for a while. That got old with the cockroaches pretty quickly and so, then I moved into shelters. And I lived in one homeless shelter, Children of the Night in Van Nuys and it’s specifically for those who have pimps and have, you know, which I didn’t, but it’s specifically for the young prostitutes and those that have been trafficked and those who have been on drugs. And so, being in that environment, I somehow became a counselor to these kids, even though I was in the same boat.

Jim: Huh.

Fawn: And so, there’s kind of an inkling of, oh, I’m a little different, but not really putting the pieces together. And you can only stay there until you’re 18, so as soon as I turned 18, I had to move to another shelter, so I moved to Covenant House.

And again, this is in Los Angeles. So, I go through all of these things before I even turned 19 and then coming out of this, I started my own business. I had the employees. It didn’t work. Who at 18 knows what they’re doing in business, right?

Jim: Yeah (Laughing).

Fawn: But I started out really quickly. I had a bit of an idea, but then after it didn’t work, it was kind of, okay, so what am I here for? And skip forward a couple years, I tried to commit suicide twice. So, this is not a pretty upbringing at all.

Jim: Well, hang on.

Fawn: Yes.

Jim: I’ve got to get in here–

Fawn: Go for it.

Jim: –’cause what was that desperation? Why at a young age were—

Fawn: Yeah.

Jim: –looking to end your life?

Fawn: You know, it’s interesting, because to this day and I’ve thought about it a little bit, not a whole lot, because I just don’t believe that the past really has answers for you. But I have thought about it a little bit and I really can’t tell you other than I think that there is a certain period of time that most kids go through this process of not knowing who they are, why they’re here, that—

Jim: Hm.

Fawn: –feeling like failures, like it’s not going to get any better. And in that moment, most kids will power through it and get to the other side. And some kids just want to end it and I was in that boat of the kids that wanted to end it.

Jim: What do you think was at the core of that? Was it loneliness? Was it you felt failure?

Fawn: I think lack of hope.

Jim: Lack of hope.

Fawn: I think lack of hope, because if you had year after year after year of turmoil, then you don’t necessarily see that the other side of it is any better.

Jim: Oh.

Fawn: And so, that was an interesting time, so this I do remember is the tubes down my nose and them pumping in charcoal to pull out everything that I had taken in order to try to end my life. But when you get to the other side of it and you go, “All right, God, so I tried to take myself out twice and You’re not allowing it, so how about I figure out why I’m here?

Jim: And you are logical. You are a logical (Laughter) creature. Man, that’s amazing. How old were you at the moment when you’re sayin’, “Okay.”

Fawn: The second time I was 20. That was the second time around and after that I spent six months and it’s interesting and it always loops back to my family. So, my mother wrote a book called Knight in Shining Armor and at the beginning of that book, she has women to take a six-month commitment not to date anyone, not to be involved in any relationship and to put an “Under Construction” sign on themselves and to just figure out who they were. I have no idea why I read it, ’cause I never read my mother’s books. (Laughter)

Jim: Yeah. (Laughter)

Fawn: But I read at least that and I read it and for whatever reason, it really resonated with me. And so, I said, “You know what, I am going to be under construction for six months.” And for six months, I did nothing but go to work and come back and read, six months straight. I didn’t watch TV. I didn’t listen to the radio. I didn’t listen to music. I cut out everything, but I would come home and I would read Nancy DeMoss’s books. I would read Phil McGraw’s books. I would read the Bible every single day, quite a bit of it.

And it was during this period of time where I would probably say in that six month, I probably read 60 books, if I—

Jim: So, your soul—

Fawn: –were to guess.

Jim: –was thirsty.

Fawn: My soul was thirsty, but didn’t know for what.

Jim: Yeah.

Fawn: So, I wasn’t just reading Christian books. I was reading every book that seemed like it could be helpful. I’d walk over to the bookstore and I’d look through the self-help section and see what I could find. And then I would go to the Christian section and so, I was pulling books from both sides and they were all helpful, but it did bring me back to God and saying, “All right, so I didn’t believe my parents, so how about You showing me who You are face to face.”

Jim: Man, that is a good challenge that I’m sure the Lord stepped up to.

Fawn: He did; he absolutely did.

Jim: And how did that moment occur? What happened where you said, “Okay, I yield; I believe in you.”

Fawn: Tubes in my nose (Laughing) and charcoal in my stomach gives you perspective and coming out on the other side of it. I don’t know that there was any moment where I read anything. I didn’t have a Paul [experience]. There was no light, you know, coming down a road. It was just, I was at the bottom, but there was still this hope that somehow rose inside of me–

Jim: That you hadn’t had.

Fawn: –that I hadn’t had before.

Jim: Ah.

Fawn: And so, I knew it was something greater than myself.

Jim: Man, that is good. I think we have set the tone for how this woman, Fawn Weaver, has written a book called Happy Wives Club, ’cause with that background, I don’t think a woman who is suffering in her marriage can say, “Well, I had it worse than Fawn Weaver.”

Fawn: No.

Jim: I mean, so you’re starting from the bottom.

Fawn: Yes.

Jim: Talk about how you met Keith, your husband—

Fawn: Yeah.

Jim: –how you bring all of this, if I could say it respectfully, all this garbage—

Fawn: Yeah.

Jim: –into your relationship with Keith and make it work to where you guys are having a fantastic run.

Fawn: Well, I will say this. I can’t say that I brought a lot of garbage in and I’ll tell you why. That—

Jim: Okay.

Fawn: –six-month period of time that I’m talking about, where I literally did nothing but call on God to clean me up.

Jim: So, He was workin’ His own charcoal—

Fawn: Completely–

Jim: –in your spirit.

Fawn: –completely worked charcoal in my spirit and so, for that six months and coming out of that six months, I still didn’t meet my husband for five more years. So, that carried with me and I was living that every day for five years before I ever met my husband.

Jim: So, that under construction was far bigger than just your emotions.

Fawn: Absolutely.

Jim: It was your spirit.

Fawn: It was everything.

Jim: Wow.

Fawn: It was everything, so by the time I got to my husband and you asked how we met. It as his mother. (Laughter) And at the time, I was a co-owner of a restaurant.

Jim: And how old are you at this point?

Fawn: Twenty-five–

Jim: (Laughing)

Fawn: –25, so I was the co-owner of one of the top restaurants in Los Angeles in the Beverly Hills area and that’s a whole other story as to how that happened. But that’s what my life was at that point. And I’m that person who, when I go into black hair salons, I don’t know if you know about this, but you’re there for hours and hours and hours and it’s nothing but gossip—

Jim: So, it’s all social.

Fawn: –non-stop gossip. Oh, it’s social—

Jim: Yeah.

Fawn: –and every celebrity, what they did, the—

Jim: Black barbers—

Fawn: –“Matching Game.”

Jim: –are like that–

Fawn: Oh—

Jim: –right?

Fawn: –it’s uh–

Jim: That was—

Fawn: –yes.

Jim: –the movie.

Fawn: “Barbershop”—

Jim: Right.

Fawn: –that’s exactly right.

Jim: Yeah.

Fawn: But it’s not me and so, I’d go in with my own books every time and I wouldn’t talk. So, the hairdresser would just do my hair and she would talk to all the people around her and the only thing that she ever talked about was her only son, who was just a little lower than the angels. (Laughter)

Jim: That’s a good mom. (Laughter)

Fawn: It was a good mom and she would just talk about him non-stop and every time I would go, I would just have my books. I would never have a conversation with her. She’d do my hair. I’d pay and I’d leave.

And one day I went and I didn’t have anything with me, so I had to have a conversation. And she’s washing my hair and she said, “You know, it’s so interesting to see someone your age running a business like you do,” ’cause I would sit there, calling in payroll and talking to staff and anything to keep from talking to the people that were in there.

Jim: Interesting.

Fawn: And so, she listened to me for months. And so, we’re in the bowl. She’s washing my hair and she said, “It’s so interesting to see you running this company at this age. I can’t even imagine what you’ll be like when you’re 40.” I said, “You know, the interesting thing is, is this is a pastime to me. I enjoy what I’m doing, but what I really want is to be a great wife and a great mom.”

Now mind you, I’m in the bowl getting my hair washed. She’s standing over me and all of a sudden, she stops and she looks at me and says, “You have to meet my son.” (Laughter)

Jim: Oh, that’s the guy a little under the angels.

Fawn: A little lower than the angels and I had no desire whatsoever. So, I had come out of construction. I hadn’t been dating. I was really getting to know myself, but I knew that I wanted to be a great wife. I wanted to be a great mom, but I wanted to do it on my terms. Let’s just say she did not leave me alone for a couple months until I agreed to give her my telephone number. (Laughter) And then she—

Jim: I like this mom.

Fawn: –wouldn’t leave her son alone. And I found out later than when I left that day, she called her son and said, “I just met your wife.”

Jim: That’s a big phone call from a mom.

Fawn: It’s a big phone call and one that no son wants to hear or receive. (Laughter)

Jim: Sure, mom. (Laughter)

Fawn: No son wants to get that call.

Jim: But it worked.

Fawn: It worked after a while.

Jim: That’s beautiful. So, how long before you got married? How long did this mom magic—

Fawn: Ah!

Jim: –take?

Fawn: We knew pretty early on, because in our very first conversation, he called me. I was actually at a Christian conference when he called and we were on break. And I hear this voice, this super deep voice on the other end and he says, “Is Fawn; is Fawn.” At the time, Wilson; “Is Fawn Wilson there?” And I said, “This must be the Second Coming.” And we just laughed so hard. (Laughter) And he said, “You’ve been speaking to my mother.” “Indeed, I have.”

And so, we laughed and we talked for about three hours and if he were here, he would tell you, in the course of that conversation, I informed him that I would not be sleeping with him.

Jim: You’re settin’ a boundary.

Fawn: I set the boundaries very early and when we got to the end of this three-hour call, that was perfect, by the way, everything you could ever want, we got to the end of the call and I told him, “If you wake up tomorrow morning and you have no desire to call me, go with that emotion.” And he’s like, “I don’t understand.” I said, “Well, years ago I prayed and I continue to pray to this day that if the person is not my husband, I don’t want to waste my time. I don’t have time. I’m building businesses. I don’t want to waste my time. So, if you are not the one, the Lord will close this door. So, if tomorrow morning you have no desire to call me, go with it.”

Jim: Wow.

Fawn: And it took him three days and he called me back and—

Jim: Were you expecting—

Fawn: –we’ve been together—

Jim: –a call day one?

Fawn: –ever since. I wasn’t.

Jim: Or you didn’t care.

Fawn: I didn’t care.

Jim: Wow, that is incredible.

Fawn: Uh-hm.

Jim: But to him, Keith, your husband—

Fawn: Yeah.

Jim: –I’m sure that became the challenge.

Fawn: It became the challenge definitely and then he proposed. So that was in April. We had our first date in May. He proposed in September. We were married in December.

Jim: That’s awesome and he’s an exec with a—

Fawn: He is.

Jim: –movie company–

Fawn: He is.

Jim: –and is doing quite well, so that’s—

Fawn: Yeah.

Jim: –that’s awesome.

Fawn: Yeah.

Jim: Okay, Happy Wives Club. So, you travel the world—

Fawn: Yes.

Jim: –in your business capacity and you decided to start meeting with married couples to find out what’s the secret of their joy and their happiness. So, let’s get to it. What did you find and where did you go and who did you talk to? Give us some examples.

Fawn: Well, what I did is, is I traveled to 12 countries on six continents and what I was really looking for is that one secret. That’s what I set out to do, which is a little absurd. But I thought, gosh, from country to country, if there’s one thing that is a common denominator, that’s a big deal, right? Fawn Weaver has gone around the world and found the one thing that makes marriage successful.

And what I found actually were 12 things that every couple [did], no matter where I went. So, I started in Canada. I went from Canada to South Africa, from South Africa to Mauritius and then over into a few places in Europe, so Rome Croatia and a few other places.

Jim: Wow.

Fawn: And then I went to the Philippines and then to Australia and to New Zealand and then I did interviews in the U.S. And I would go on these interviews, in South America, as well, and the only thing I wanted to know is, is what makes your marriage work? And I’d sit there. I kept everything on the recorder. And when I got back home, I took out a yellow pad and I began transcribing what everyone said. And then I would highlight the words that were common.

Jim: So, you found a pattern.

Fawn: I found a pattern and every single relationship there were 12 things that they all stuck to.

Jim: Well, let’s hit a couple. I mean—

Fawn: Yeah.

Jim: –and in fact, why don’t we do it this way. The things that you learned in Canada I think the couple you met was Bonnie and Jerry.

Fawn: Yes.

Jim: Talk about them and what they showed you from Canada.

Fawn: You know what I loved about them is, is he was in a job that he didn’t like. He was a postman if I remember correctly. And he just didn’t enjoy the job. And meanwhile, he’s doing this job so that she can go to school to be a CPA. And so, that was the first time I saw this concept of teamwork, creating the life that you want, but using your marriage as the foundation to do that.

Jim: Interesting, so you work as a unit–

Fawn: You work as a unit.

Jim: –together as one.

Fawn: Yeah.

Jim: Okay, then you go off to South Africa, which I’ve been [there]. We have an office there in Durban.

Fawn: Oh, wow.

Jim: I love Cape Town. That’s where you went to.

Fawn: I did.

Jim: And you talked with a South African couple, Dot and Ken.

Fawn: Yes.

Jim: And they talked about laughing together.

Fawn: They did. Well, the thing about Dot and Ken that’s interesting is, it was her second marriage. Her first marriage she was married to an athlete, really attractive and other women thought so and he never rebuffed their approaches.

Jim: Okay.

Fawn: So, she had a major trust issue going into this second marriage. So, by the time I met them, they had been married for 26 years, but she began with a trust issue. And they were sharing what they do every single day and it’s helped to build their trust. And it’s [that] they have a daily ritual. So, every morning Ken would go downstairs, get a cup of coffee and she would open up the windows in their room, watch the city lights turn on. He’s come back up and they’d sit in the bed and have what they call their “board meeting.”

Jim: (Chuckling) Okay.

Fawn: They would talk about everything on their calendar, on their agenda, if they wouldn’t be home for dinner. And it’s just something that they had always done. What was interesting about that is, I realized, every couple I’ve talked to so far has a daily ritual. It was the first—

Jim: Of communication.

Fawn: –time I connected. A daily ritual that’s something that they do every day together.

Jim: Okay.

Fawn: So, something that was common among every single couple I interviewed across the board. They all had a daily ritual.

Jim: Boy, that’s fantastic. You also went off to the Philippines and you met with Ben and Gloria—

Fawn: Yes.

Jim: –in Manila, I think.

Fawn: Yes, I did.

Jim: What did you learn from them?

Fawn: They had been married for over 50 years and what was really beautiful about their marriage is, they had both had some pretty major health issues over the years. And watching them take care of each other, you’re kind of, for me, going through this process of, oh, wow! When I get to that age, do I want to be by myself? Do I want to look like this couple? Because when you get to that age, by the way, no one really wants to be bothered with you. (Laughter) Right? No one really wants to take care of you. It’s your spouse—

Jim: Hm.

Fawn: –that is there with you.

Jim: Wow.

Fawn: So, those who give up on their 10th year of marriage, their 20th year of marriage, whatever it is and they end up alone during those years; what a sad time. But even for those who are widowed, you still are holding onto something so special that the rest of your life it just kind of rolls along.

Jim: Ah, those are good. And we’ve covered several of them, but respect, trust, belief in God, laughter, create a daily routine, which you just mentioned. Friendship is essential. Talk about that friendship being essential, ’cause a lot of couples—

Fawn: Yeah.

Jim: –even within the church, it’s become more duty bound.

Fawn: Yeah.

Jim: We’ve lost our friendship. How does a couple maintain their friendship?

Fawn: Well, one of the things we have to do is stop making marriage seem to duty bound. I mean (Laughter), I personally have the hardest time going to marriage conferences, because I sit there and go, the way you’re describing this, I’d never want to sign up for this, by the way.

Jim: What does that description look like when you say that?

Fawn: Oh, when they’re just talking about all of this, all of the non-stop challenges and the struggles and the difficulty. Have you seen that GEICO commercial with Tarzan and Jane and—

Jim: (Laughing)

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As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

Cover image of the book "Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life"

Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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