It’s really hard to admit, but I think I’m addicted to pornography. Is there any hope for someone in my situation?
ANSWER:
There is hope — and we want you to know that you’re not alone. Sexual addictions of all kinds have become widespread. And it’s not just a male problem. It affects men and women, boys and girls, from every age group and all walks of life.
Understand the root of pornography addiction
Sexual addiction is relentless and escalates because it’s rooted in the basic human craving for relationship. In other words, porn is powerful because it offers a counterfeit form of intimacy and attachment.
That’s important to keep in mind as you commit to free yourself from the lie that depersonalized sex can ultimately satisfy the longings of the human heart.
Learn how to win the battle
The good news is that you can find effective help in your battle against pornography addiction.
Start by getting professional counseling. (If you’re married, we highly recommend that you do this with your spouse.) The most successful treatment takes a family systems approach that involves an initial program of intensive therapy followed by regular and ongoing counseling sessions. (Another key to recovery is to identify a trusted friend or group of people who will provide support and accountability.)
Our staff would be happy to give you referrals to programs like this or a list of qualified therapists in your area who specialize in treating sexual addictions. You can contact our Counseling department for a free over-the-phone consultation.
In the meantime, install accountability software. That’s not the ultimate answer to the complexity of what you face, of course. But it can play an important part in helping you keep tabs on the entire family’s online activities.
For further insight, we offer a series of articles on Pornography and Virtual Infidelity. And you’ll find other resources and referrals below to guide you in your efforts to find healing from porn addiction.
Resources
If a title is currently unavailable through Focus on the Family, we encourage you to use another retailer.
The Last Addiction: Why Self-Help Is Not Enough
False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction
Digital Pornography Addiction: What You Need to Know and Where to Find Help
Overcoming Sexual Brokenness (resource list)
