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Addictions and Marriage Counseling

Will marriage counseling be effective if my spouse has an active addiction and won’t get help?

My wife is addicted to pain meds. It’s taken over our family and ruined our relationship. Even if she won’t find treatment for substance abuse, should we at least start with couples therapy?

 


ANSWER:

Probably not — but we don’t say that to discourage you.

Here’s the reality (that you know only too well): Addiction of any kind is a serious problem. It greatly impacts a person’s thinking and processing abilities, and it creates negative behaviors that can cause extreme harm in marriage and family life.

So in most cases, when personal or marital issues need professional attention and there’s an active addiction, the addictive behavior and mindset need to be addressed first. Then other issues (like marriage and communication concerns) can be sorted out. In other words, until your wife’s mind clears up enough to think rationally, couples therapy would likely distract from her recovery.

To point you in the right direction, we’ll cover the following areas:

First steps to getting help

In most situations, a better use of time and money is to begin therapy on your own. This will give you the tools to resolve any potential codependent issues on your part. You can also develop an appropriate plan for dealing with your wife’s damaging behaviors and her reluctance to find care.

If she does open up to therapy for her addiction, continue your individual sessions and have a counselor assess her to identify the best treatment. Matching the right level of care to your wife’s specific situation is critical to her making the most progress in the weeks and months ahead. Options could include:

  • A residential program (local or out of state).
  • An intensive out-patient program (often called an IOP program).
  • Regular attendance to an addiction support group plus weekly out-patient therapy appointments with a licensed Christian counselor who specializes in addictions.

On the other hand, if your spouse continues to resist help, think seriously about staging a formal intervention.

Stage an intervention

The purpose of a formal intervention is to clearly and respectfully talk to your wife about her harmful behavior. And addressing concerns in a group setting has three advantages:

  • It affirms the seriousness and destructive nature of your wife’s behavior.
  • It shows that your complaints are well-founded, and that resolution has to come through actions on her part.
  • It unites the rest of the family behind a joint strategy. It encourages everyone to agree that there won’t be any more enabling, codependent behavior, or unintentional support of the addiction.
Use the checklist below as a guide to holding an intervention

You can also ask your personal therapist for input about your family’s unique circumstances — and how to handle the unexpected.

  1. Choose individuals who are concerned about your wife. These could be reliable family members, friends, and anyone else who’s important to her.
  1. Before the intervention, ask those involved to get their facts straight. Research resources, treatment programs, and counseling referrals.
  1. Pinpoint a specific program, talk to the administrators, discuss payment options, and have transportation in place (if needed) before confronting your wife.
  1. Gather everyone together at a time and place when your wife won’t expect it. The element of surprise is vital. If she knows the intervention is coming, she might not show up — or she’d have time to think of ways to justify herself.
  1. During the intervention, keep the focus on your wife and her addictive behavior. Don’t let her change the subject by pointing the finger at you or blaming anyone or anything else. Your goal is to persuade her to start treatment — the sooner the better.

If your wife agrees, immediately begin the admission process to the chosen program. If the intervention is unsuccessful, though, there might be only one option left: therapeutic separation.

When separation is necessary

A therapeutic separation is a formal separation with clear, specific guidelines and boundaries. The intent is to motivate your wife to acknowledge her problem and agree to treatment. Divorce is not the goal; you just want to break through her denial.

Your counselor can walk you through setting up the parameters for a therapeutic separation, but here’s the bottom line: This is the point where you enforce tough love. We recommend you create a crisis by giving your wife an ultimatum. Say something like, “Either you admit you have a problem and get the help you need, or you find another place to live until you’re ready to cooperate.”

If separation becomes necessary, find and follow the advice of wise legal and Christian counsel. If legally advisable, it’s best if your wife moves out; there’s no need to disrupt your routine or upset your children any more than absolutely necessary.

However, if she won’t go along with that, you might have to relocate with your children. In that case, make sure you have a support system and a place to stay. (Have a plan, line up your resources, and make your arrangements ahead of time instead of reactively packing and leaving in a hurry.)

Let your spouse know how you can be contacted, and make it clear you’ll restart negotiations as soon as she’s willing to cooperate. A therapeutic separation might be what it takes for her to admit the seriousness of the situation.

Finding ongoing support

Sharing life with a spouse who struggles with addiction can be painful and confusing. On top of the burden of carrying the responsibilities she can’t, you might feel surrounded by shame and secrecy.

Would you let us come alongside you? Our licensed or pastoral counselors would welcome the chance to hear your story and talk with you in more detail. Call us for a free over-the-phone consultation.

And if you’re not sure how to find an addiction treatment center, check with Lighthouse Network. They’re a clearinghouse for substance abuse referrals, and they can help you locate a facility where your wife can take positive steps toward recovery. They can also offer information about insurance companies who work with these facilities.

Above all, remember that God loves you and your wife, and He cares about your future and your marriage. May His peace and wisdom sustain you as you take steps toward healing.

 

Resources

If a title is currently unavailable through Focus on the Family, we encourage you to use another retailer.

The Last Addiction: Why Self-Help Is Not Enough

When Someone You Love Abuses Drugs or Alcohol

Praying God’s Word: Breaking Free From Spiritual Strongholds

Putting Your Past Behind You: Finding Hope for Life’s Deepest Hurts

Love Must Be Tough: New Hope for Marriages in Crisis

The Imperfect Marriage: Help for Those Who Think It’s Over

Breaking Free from Addictions

Celebrate Recovery Curriculum Kit

Substance Abuse (resource list)

Referrals

Celebrate Recovery

Adult and Teen Challenge

Lighthouse Network

The Salvation Army

Alcoholics Anonymous

Walter Hoving Home

His Mansion Ministries

Articles

Battling Drug and Alcohol Abuse

Helping the Spouse of an Addict: Do’s and Don’ts

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Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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