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Married Couple Can’t Agree on Charitable Giving

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How can my wife and I agree on how much money we should be donating to our church? She thinks tithing is just a "starting point" — that dedicated Christians should give more than ten percent. I have no problem with giving when we have enough to spare, but I don't see any reason to get legalistic about it, and I don't believe we should place our own family at financial risk.

We think that you and your spouse need to take steps to get on the same page. Giving and tithing are important, but it’s even more important that the two of you find some way to achieve a meeting of the minds on this important subject. We’d suggest that you begin by sitting down and talking about this area of your marriage relationship openly, honestly and methodically. But don’t do it when you’re hot under the collar. Instead, arrange a time to discuss your differences rationally – perhaps over coffee or after dinner at a nice restaurant. Approach the situation as equal partners and work out an arrangement that’s acceptable to both of you.

This won’t be easy, of course. Giving is a very personal thing, and many couples struggle to decide how much they should render back to God. It needs to be a mutual decision, and it should emerge out of shared convictions about the importance of your relationship with the Lord and the meaning of Christian discipleship. As Paul says in 2 Corinthians 9:7, “Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” Even when you and your spouse have discussed the matter at length, regular giving may not come easily for you, especially if it hasn’t been your habit up to this point.

As you work through this issue, we recommend that you keep the following principles in mind:

  • Everything we have belongs to the Lord. As Psalm 24:1 puts it, “The earth is the Lord’s and everything in it.”
  • We are simply stewards of what God has entrusted to us. If we refuse to acknowledge this, we run the risk of becoming mean, selfish and possessive with the blessings He has poured out on us.
  • The point of giving is not to feel better about yourself but to aid other believers, the poor, widows and orphans, and to promote evangelism around the world (see 1 Corinthians 16:1, 2; Galatians 2:10; James 1:27). If you think of your giving in these terms – not simply as a ritual or an obligation, but as something that will actually benefit those on the receiving end – you may begin to see it in a different light.
  • Beware of allowing your attitudes to be shaped by the society around you. We live in a materialistic consumer culture, and giving runs contrary to the idea that possessions will give you pleasure and security. Jesus, by way of contrast, had a great deal to say about the foolishness of storing up treasures on earth rather than in heaven (Matthew 6:19-21).
  • Finally, keep in mind that giving will help you grow spiritually. If the two of you can come to the point where you actually find joy in giving, where you – see God continue to provide for your needs even when you’ve given sacrificially and beyond your ability, you will also find yourselves drawing closer together in His love. When that happens, you’ll probably wonder why you ever held back.

If you and your spouse need help working through these issues, you may want to begin the process by conferring with an objective third party. Our staff would be more than happy to assist you in this way. Call our counselors here at Focus on the Family. They’d consider it a privilege to listen to your concerns and provide you with some useful suggestions.

 

Resources
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The Treasure Principle

Your Money Map: A Proven 7-Step Guide to True Financial Freedom

Telling Each Other the Truth

Surviving Financial Meltdown: Confident Decisions in an Uncertain World

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Dave Ramsey

Crown Financial Ministries

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Communicating About Money

Pursuing Financial Unity

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