It takes courage to reach out for help at a time like this. We know how devastating it can be to find yourself facing a pregnancy when your marriage appears to be coming apart at the seams. We can imagine that you’re experiencing a wide range of conflicting emotions at this point in your life.
We encourage you to look for a way to save your marriage before it’s too late. Is your husband open to marital counseling? If he isn’t willing to go, start the counseling process without him by meeting with a trained therapist in your area. That will show him you’re serious about avoiding the tragedy of divorce.
Studies indicate that marriages can be saved if couples in troubled relationships will simply slow down the process and get some outside help. Our staff would be happy to hear your story, pray with you, and offer practical help for next steps. Call our professional and pastoral counselors for a free consultation at 1-855-771-HELP (4357).
It’s crucial to add that this is the very best thing you can do for your child. Research has shown that children score higher on every measure of well-being if they grow up in a home with a married mother and father.
Even if your marriage is less than perfect, staying together is almost always better for your kids than getting a divorce. Statistics on adult children from divorced homes confirm this. The one exception would be when there is physical or emotional abuse occurring in the home.
If reconciliation is out of the question, we’d encourage you to stay in the area if your husband is willing to take an active, positive role in your child’s life. Fatherlessness has a profoundly negative impact on boys and girls, and your baby is going to need his or her dad.
If he doesn’t want to assume this responsibility, it might be a good idea to relocate so you can be closer to your extended family. A loving, involved grandfather or uncle can’t replace your baby’s father, but he can certainly provide a measure of male attention and affirmation that every child needs.
Resources
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I Don’t Want a Divorce: A 90 Day Guide to Saving Your Marriage
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Hope Restored
