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Preparing for Adolescence: Boys

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How can I help my son get ready for the physical, emotional and psychological changes that adolescence brings?

It’s important to understand the difference between the kind of conversation you’re considering and mere sex education. As your boy approaches puberty, you’re going to have to shift gears from talking about sex in general to more specific discussion on the subject of his own sexuality. Whether you make this a specific talk or include it as part of a more extensive explanation of what lies ahead during the adolescent years, you will want your son to be ready for the physical changes that are about to take place.

Along with hormonal and sexual developments, there will be rapid growth of bone and muscle, although the timing rates may vary greatly from individual to individual. As a result, an eighth-grade gym class may contain skinny boys with alto voices who are competing and taking showers with peers who are hairy, muscular and highly intimidating. Remind your son that, whatever the particular timing may be in his case, the transition to adulthood will eventually be complete.

In terms of specific changes, a boy should be aware that he can expect to experience deepening of the voice, enlargement of the genitals and new hair growth. You should also inform him about the likelihood that he will have an unexpected emission of seminal fluid during the night (the “wet dream”), and that this is not a sign of disease or moral failure. Unexpected erections, especially those that occur at inopportune times, may be another source of concern. Some boys also develop a small, button-size nodule of breast tissue directly under the nipple. This is a common response to changing hormones, although it may cause a minor panic when first discovered. If this breast tissue appears to be increasing in size (a phenomenon known as gynecomastia), have it checked out by your son’s doctor.

At some point (probably more than once) during these years, you will need to deal with the subject of masturbation. As children approach adolescence, you will have to make a judgment call on what to say about the significance of self-stimulation after puberty arrives. Your approach to this issue will need to be both tactful and realistic. Bottom line: masturbation should not play a major role in your son’s life, either as a source of relentless guilt or as a frequent and persistent habit that may displace healthy sexual relations in the future.

It’s also important to talk to your son about his increasing interest in the opposite sex. He’ll also need to be prepared to deal with attention from girls if and when it occurs. This is an important time to review specific guidelines, and perhaps a little street wisdom, about relationships, affectionate touching, the progressive nature of sexual contact and the importance of God’s design in saving sex for marriage.

Ideally, you should plan on having a series of conversations with your prepubescent boy, perhaps at age ten or eleven. Some parents plan a special weekend away from home in order to have some undistracted, one-on-one time during which these discussions can take place. If you are a single mother who feels uncomfortable discussing these matters with your son, consider seeking help from an adult man who not only shares your values, but has enough rapport to talk with him about these topics.

If you’d like to discuss any of these concepts at greater length with a member of our staff, feel free to contact our Counseling department.

 

Resources
If a title is currently unavailable through Focus on the Family, we encourage you to use another retailer.

Bringing Up Boys

The Focus on the Family Guide to Talking With Your Kids About Sex: Honest Answers for Every Age

Preparing for Adolescence: How to Survive the Coming Years of Change

Parenting Today’s Adolescent

Boom: A Guy’s Guide to Growing Up 


Referrals

John Rosemond: Parenting with Love and Leadership

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