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When someone we love is grieving the death of a friend of family member, it’s a challenge to know what to do. We want to say the right thing, show support and ultimately help in the healing process. Yet all too often, we end up awkwardly offering advice, sputtering a spiritual rationalization or avoiding the situation altogether. Sara Alcoran can relate. She remembers the early morning phone call, the immediate sense of dread, the sorrow in her husband’s voice when he said, “Dad is gone.” She remembers hastily packing up her infant daughter and speeding to the fire station where Linus worked. “When I saw him, all I could do was hug him and cry,” says Sara, a 30-year-old stay-at-home mom. “I had no idea what to say.” Like Sara, all of us try to be effective comforters but may find ourselves coming up short. Still, there are specific ways we can respond when those we love lose someone close to them.