Of course, just because you can’t give your baby everything that some adoptive families could, it doesn’t mean you couldn’t be a wonderful parent to your child.
But right now is the time to take an honest look at your situation and consider how all your pregnancy options will affect you and your child’s future.
Choose what fits you best
In the past, birth mothers did not choose who would raise their child. But adoption has changed dramatically! As you make these important decisions for yourself and your child, base them on current facts, not on old information.
Today, expectant mothers can be included in all aspects of creating their adoption plan. If you decide to pursue adoption for your baby, you will be allowed to customize the plan that fits you best.
When working with adoption professionals, you are in control of creating a plan that makes you most comfortable. You will receive support and information to help you each step of the way.
Three Types of Adoption to Consider
- Open Adoption: This choice allows you freedom to get to know the adoptive parents. You can meet them, exchange phone numbers and email addresses, and have ongoing dresses, and have ongoing direct contact with them. This communication can continue beyond the placement. You may receive phone calls, pictures and letters, and you can even schedule visits with your baby and his or her new family.
- Semi-open Adoption: This choice allows you to select the parents for your baby, but full, identifying information is not exchanged. While first names are often shared, each party in this type of adoption enjoys privacy. You will be able to receive letters and pictures from your baby’s family. They will be sent to you through the agency with which you choose to work.
- Confidential Adoption: This option is available to birth parents who would like to remain completely anonymous. The adoption agency you choose will support you throughout your pregnancy and will select a family that is a good fit for your wishes. Your identity will be protected before, during and after the adoption is complete.
If you need further guidance and encouragement, Focus on the Family has a staff of licensed, professional Christian counselors available to talk with you at no charge. Just call 800-A-FAMILY (232-6459).
