Getting Them to Sleep

Mother reading to her two children
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Are you looking for tips to help you get your kids to go to sleep and stay in bed? Try these ideas from parents who have been there. 

Bedtime Bonding

When our children were young, they became talkative at bedtime. To take advantage of this special time when they felt gabby and reflective, I set bedtime a half hour earlier. This ritual helped my husband and me connect with our kids as they processed their day. Since they grew accustomed to talking about important matters, it became natural for them to talk about faith issues with us, too.

—Becky Cerling Powers

Lulling Them to Sleep

My 7-year-old son, Dante, has fought sleep almost from the day he was born. One night Dante and I were snuggling in a big comfy chair, and it was clear he wasn't going to sleep on time. I picked up the book I had been enjoying and began reading to him as I would a picture book. After a page and a half, he fell asleep in my arms. Reading aloud is the most effective thing I've tried to get my son to sleep.

—Paige Pitcher

Kids' Bedtime Worries

For years, my daughter's nighttime anxieties made it difficult for her to fall asleep, and she would routinely get up by midnight to let me know she was still awake. When she was 7, I created a "bedtime tools" scrapbook to address her specific fears and concerns. I instructed her to turn on her light and read it before coming out of her room.

Inside were five reminders, including "Say your prayers and ask God to help you relax" and "Daddy and Mommy are nearby, and you are not alone." The book included pictures, such as us smiling, and simple Bible verses. The final instructive read, "Still awake? Stop worrying, pick a verse (such as Psalm 4:8), and meditate on it."

It worked! My daughter found comfort — and sleep — in reminding herself of truth when she was afraid.

—Christa Sterken

Transitioning to Big-Kid Bedtime

With six kids ages 1 to 9, we have two bedtimes in our home. The younger ones are in bed by 7 p.m. The older siblings get an extra hour of reading and talking until 8 p.m. Our 4-year-old has shown that he’s ready to transition to the later bedtime, and he’s not napping every day anymore.

To help with the transition, we’ve set a rule: On days he naps, he is allowed to stay up until 8 p.m. But no nap means the earlier bedtime. This rule heads off any arguments — and ensures that we don’t have a grumpy 4-year-old in the evenings.

It might not work for every kid, but it’s been a good system to help our son get the sleep he needs while moving up to big-kid bedtime.

—Christina Lang

Singing Bedtime Prayers

My husband and I prayed the Lord's Prayer over our two boys at bedtime, but they never responded to it. Then one evening I decided to sing it and made up a tune.

When I was done, our younger son exclaimed, "Again!" and our older son began to hum along.

Eventually, both sang it with us, so we continued doing this for years. The downside? When others asked our boys if they said their bedtime prayers, they said no. We had to explain that they singthem.

—Anne Skalitza

The compiled article "Getting Them to Sleep" first appeared on FocusOnTheFamily.com (2016). "Bedtime Bonding" first appeared in the February/March 2017 issue of Focus on the Family magazine. "Lulling Them to Sleep" first appeared in the December 2016/January 2017 issue of Focus on the Family magazine. "Singing Bedtime Prayers" first appeared in the April/May 2016 issue of Thriving Family magazine. "Kids' Bedtime Worries" first appeared in the Summer 2014 issue of Thriving Family magazine. "Transitioning to Big-Kid Bedtime" first appeared in the December 2012 issue of Thriving Family magazine. If you enjoyed this article, read more like it in Focus on the Family's marriage and parenting magazine. Get this publication delivered to your home by subscribing to it for a gift of any amount.

"Getting Them to Sleep," the compiled article © 2016 by Focus on the Family. "Bedtime Bonding" © 2017 by Becky Cerling Powers. "Lulling Them to Sleep" © 2016 by Paige Pitcher. "Kids' Bedtime Worries" © 2014 by Christa Sterken. "Transitioning to Big-Kid Bedtime" © 2014 by Christina Lang. "Singing Bedtime Prayers" © 2016 by Anne Skalitza. Used by permission.

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