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Debi Grebenik

Debi Grebenik’s work spans three decades of working in child welfare. She was a pastor’s wife for 37 years until her husband retired. She is mother to three grown children and grandmother to seven. She is passionate about guiding others to understand trauma and its impact.

Reactive Attachment Disorder

What Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) Is and What It Isn’t

One way that we create order out of our unknowns is by sorting things into categories. Humans seek to find the connections between seemingly unrelated items. While this may work for kitchen organization, it can fall very short when looking at children, …

Understanding Social Workers

Understanding Social Workers

Social workers are often misunderstood. Some people would say they take children; some might describe their role as do-gooders. As a licensed clinical social worker for over thirty years, I am delighted to be part of the social work profession and want …

young girl taking ACE test

What is the ACE Questionnaire?

The lifelong impact of ACEs is clearly significant, and I think it is something we should be talking about more.

child with psychologist treating effects of abuse

What Are the Effects of Child Abuse?

The impact of trauma on children is significant. The first three years of a child’s life create their blueprint for life. Children are vulnerable and unable to meet their own needs during their early years. When a child’s needs are met by a caring, con …

We Need to Talk About It: Child Abuse Prevention

If you are a parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, teacher, or your life intersects with children in any way, you must think and talk about child abuse.

Illustration of pensive boy looking through an open door

Understanding Your Adopted Child’s Behavior

Sure, your family experiences times of joy together, but you also encounter behavioral outbursts that leave you clueless. If only you had a secret decoder ring to help decipher your adopted child’s behavior.

A tween boy embraces his mother

Attachment and Bonding

If there is even one significant adult in a child’s life who will provide consistency and unconditional love and support, that child can attach.

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Characteristics of Successful Adoptive Families

With awareness and planning, the adoption journey can be one that promotes growth, blessings, and healing for all involved.

Family playing in sunset

Traits of Successful Adoptive Families

The adoption journey is resplendent with unforeseen detours, mountaintop experiences, formidable challenges — and magnificent views of God’s grace all along the way. Without preparation, this journey can be more than challenging. With awareness and pla …

Coping With Adoption Stress

It’s essential for families to develop the ability to cope with the stress that adoption can place on parents and kids.

A Network of Support

The most successful adoptive families are those who know they need support and know how to draw upon every resource available.

Promoting Healthy Attachment

Suggestions for an effective bonding experience

Adoption Success for the Long Haul

Don’t be afraid to ask for help when needed, and don’t be frozen in your fears of what others will think or say.

A New Definition of Attachment/Regulation

Attachment is the affectional tie between two people.

Dealing With Trust and Control Issues

The sensitive parent is attuned to his or her child’s natural rhythms and responds to those appropriately and timely.