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Addressing Skeptics, Sharing Christ (Part 1 of 2)

Addressing Skeptics, Sharing Christ (Part 1 of 2)

In a discussion centered on his book Making Sense of God, Dr. Timothy Keller explains why people walk away from God, why secularists want scientific rationale, and why this fails, as our search for meaning, happiness and identity goes unsatisfied without seeking God in the process. Dr. Keller also discusses how, as followers of Christ, we need to understand what we believe, why we believe it and why it's critical that we communicate that to nonbelievers in a winsome way. (Part 1 of 2)

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Teaser:

Dr. Timothy Keller:The reasons we believe and disbelieve are not strictly rational. A lot of them have to do with hurt in certain communities. So, when I find a skeptic who can hardly talk to me about the Christian faith, I realize they’ve been hurt or they have something going on there. And I just need to back away and not treat them as if they are little computers.

Jim Daly: Right, here’s the input.

Tim: Here’s the input; here’s the output, right. I gotta just stop that.

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John Fuller: Dr. Timothy Keller reminding us to listen to those who believe differently than we do. And he’s with us today on “Focus on the Family.” Your host is Focus president, Jim Daly and I’m John Fuller.

Jim: John, today we’re gonna have a great conversation about our faith, philosophies and our worldviews. It’s so important for us to understand what we believe and why we believe it and then how to knowledgeably and winsomely convey that to non-believers, maybe even your teenagers. I mean, I’m havin’ those conversations now about why we believe what we believe.

Dr. Keller, I gotta say, is one of the greatest theologians of our day and today he’s gonna challenge all of us to grow in our faith and what it means to be a Christ follower, how to find our identity in Christ and how we can better grapple with suffering when we’re faced with that moment.

And you know what? If you haven’t gotten there yet, that valley will hit you at some point. Today’s program highlights one of our big goals here at Focus on the Family and that is to equip you in your faith and we have so many great resources for you to help in that area. So, don’t hold back. Contact us.

John: And you can do so with a phone call or stop by www.focusonthefamily.com/radio where we have Dr. Keller’s book, Making Sense of God: An Invitation to the Skeptic and other helps. Dr. Keller is the founding pastor of Redeemer Presbyterian Church in Manhattan, New York. He’s a prolific author and a dedicated husband and father and grandfather.

And Jim, our listeners might note that we recorded this at a hotel room in New York City. There are some, we might call them “ambient noises.”

Jim: It’s always the New York sirens. I don’t know. The police are very busy in New York City.

John: Well, and this time we added an elevator that was (Laughter) right adjacent to the room, so you might hear some up and down elevator noises, as well. Regardless, this is a great conversation with Dr. Keller. Let’s go ahead and listen.

Body:

Jim: And with that, let me welcome our guest who lives in New York City, Dr. Tim Keller. Tim, welcome.

Dr. Tim Keller: Welcome to New York City.

Jim: Yeah. (Laughter) There’s a lot happening here, isn’t there?

Tim: Yes.

Jim: The city that never sleeps.

Tim: Yes, that’s because there’s so many people here.

Jim: How long have you lived here?

Tim: We moved here 28 years ago.

Jim: It’s almost 30 years.

Tim: Yeah.

Jim: You raised your kids here, right?

Tim: Yeah, I did.

Jim: A lot of people go, wow! Really? In New York City.

Tim: Uh-huh and I[‘ve] got, you know, three grandchildren, also being raised here.

Jim: And so, they’re here, too.

Tim: Yeah, oh, yeah. I mean, if they stay–I’m assuming they will—they’ll feel more even more like New Yorkers than my kids do. My kids do remember living elsewhere, but they won’t.

Jim: Well, and your church, Redeemer Presbyterian Church, has been such an influence here in Manhattan. So many young people are coming, lots of singles. Why do you think that is? What is the message that attracts the urbanite, the one that’s moving and you know, tryin’ to climb the ladder and everything that’s going on here in New York City? How come your church has been so successful in touching them?

Tim: Well, I don’t know, but I think probably if we get into what we’re going to talk about anyway, you’ll (Laughter) understand the answer. To me, a church is, you could say, fruitful, effective, reaches people not so much by the “superficials” like, you know, the smoke machine or the skinny jeans or things like that, which you can tell just by looking at me (Laughter) I couldn’t get into anyway.

Jim: No worries. I’m appreciative of that actually.

Tim: Yeah, I know. (Laughter) But if you use the gospel to answer questions people are asking, a certain percentage of people will say, “That’s interesting. That’s exactly what I needed to hear more about.” And a certain percentage of them will be changed and converted—not most. I mean, that’s just the way it is.

But if there’s no conversion, that there’s no one really coming, is because you’re taking the truth, but you’re actually using it to answer questions people aren’t asking.

Jim: Making Sense of God, would you say is really borne out of that experience, engaging people that are not so enthusiastic about God?

Tim: Sure, absolutely. (Laughter) Basically, it’s the conversation with people who are very skeptical.

Jim: Well, one of the things you’ve done at your church, which I thought was really interesting, you created a weekly discussion for people who are skeptical about God.

Tim: Yeah.

Jim: In fact, is there a God? That sounds contrary to what you’d want to be doing in a church, but on the other side, it’s very refreshing and that’s how you bring people in. Let’s sit down and talk. What are the ground rules for that meeting?

Tim: Oh, that’s great. Yeah, you’re talking about something we’ve called Questioning Christianity. Now it’s not the only way we do it, ‘cause there [are] a lot of other ways to do it, but that particular program, which is very interesting, it was not my brainchild. But anyway, what it is, is it’s a series of talks on subjects that you let people know. Then a Q&A for a fairly long time. And the questions are texted in and then chosen, put up. So, in other words, there’s a talk, a Q&A. Then you break and you go upstairs and eat nice free hors d’oeuvres and talk for probably another hour or so. And since most of the people present are not believers, then you really are talking personally.

Jim: Let me ask you about that, because one of the things I’m concerned about is the lost art of discipleship. I mean, that starts when someone in your area of influence is not a believer and you walk with them and you answer questions and you’re part of their life.

Tim: Right.

Jim: And you invite them over for dinner.

Tim: Right.

Jim: It sounds like to me it’s very much like that.

Tim: Yeah.

Jim: How do you engage people? And God it seems, orchestrated us for relationship.

Tim: Sure.

Jim: He invented that.

Tim: Well, one good thing is, these events are never massive, massive.

Jim: Right.

Tim: So, you might have anywhere from 50 to a 100, maybe non-believers and Christians, non-believing people who come to those things. So, when you go upstairs and you’re talking, you’re really talking to a lot of them.

The goal, by the way, of the Questioning Christianity, the goal is always to get people into other more ongoing groups where they can have relationships.

Jim: Yeah.

Tim: So, frankly, it’s not only always been about relationships, but even more important, ‘cause people are so fragile right now. A lot of people can hardly stand to be in a public place and hear somebody say something they don’t agree with. They can hardly stand there.

Jim: What’s happening? What’s happening in our culture that is causing that kind of angst?

Tim: So, my point on that is, you almost have to just have a lot of time relating to people. I mean, in other words, getting people into big events and calling them to come forward—no offense to Billy Graham -is just not probably the way things go now.

Jim: Right, yeah, it won’t be as effective.

Tim: Because people need relationships; they need to be processed over a period of time. Now your questions, what’s happening? (Laughing) You know, you’re talking to a pastor, not a social theorist or something like that. Here’s the best thing I’ve read, which is actually something that is in the book, the Making Sense book.

A philosopher named Charles Taylor some years ago–he’s a French Canadian–wrote a book, a massive book called Sources of Self, which is considered like the philosophy book on where the modern understanding of identity came from.

His basic thesis among others is that in the old days, you got your identity from outside. So, like your parents said, “Here’s who I want you to be. Here’s a job I want you to have. Here’s the kind of person.” And basically, you got your identity from pleasing your parents or pleasing your community or from your faith and you did what [was expected].

So, what other people’s said, here’s what you should be, in a sense, you did what they said. And if you lived up to their standards, then you felt like a good person.

Jim: Right.

Tim: Now of course, that is not very liberating. In other words, you have to do what other people say.

Jim: Right, there’s issues attached to that. (Laughing)

Tim: Yeah, issues attached to that, but it’s stable.

Jim: Right.

Tim: Which means, if you know, if my parents think I’m great, then I feel pretty good. But the modern identity is, you’re not supposed to look to anybody else to tell you who you are. You go into yourself and you figure out who that is, who you are. And you decide who you want to be.

But Charles Taylor says, then when you come out and you say, “Here’s what I want to be,” then you’re in a fragile state, because you have to get recognition from everybody.

Jim: Huh.

Tim: And anybody who just disagrees with you, you feel like it’s basically violating your identity. So, in the past, you could take disagreement. Today you can’t, because you’re sort of desperate for validation and you don’t have one voice who says, “You are my beloved child in whom I am well pleased” that can silence all the other accusations. Everybody else is out there, you know, criticizing you, but if you have this one voice that says, “No, no, you’re okay,” then it’s fine. Well, modern people don’t have that one voice. It’s not their parents. It’s not their society. It’s not their God.

Jim: Not their institutions.

Tim: Not any institution and so, they take disagreement as kind of undermining their very self, their very being.

John: Personal affront.

Tim: Yeah and by the way, college professors and presidents and all that do not know what to do right now about [it]. Even the most and secular ones have never seen the kind of fragility that they see in their students.

Jim: Isn’t that interesting and you know, I think it’s a good place. We’ll probably punctuate our discussion over the next day or two with this statement, but for the Christian, where do we find our identity?

Tim: Well, put it this way. We are supposed to find our identity in Christ–

Jim: Right.

Tim: –which is not just another authoritarian kind of identity. It’s not just like, you know, traditional societies. This is what my tribe told me. This is what my parents told me. Okay, so we’re a Christian. Now this is what your religion tells you. It’s not like that, because Christianity says, your identity is received, not achieved.

Jim: Huh.

Tim: In other words, you’re not achieving the love of God. You receive it as a gift, which means, your identity, your understanding of yourself as a good person doesn’t go up or down every week depending on your performance, whether it’s religious or pleasing your parents. It doesn’t go up and down. There’s a stability to it. So it’s a “receive,” not “achieve” and therefore, is really unique. It’s not like either a traditional identity where you do what your parents told you or what your culture tells you or modern identity.

You might say, traditional identity was stable, but not very liberating. Modern identity is liberating, but not very stable. And I could make the case that Christian identity is both liberating and profoundly stable.

Jim: Exactly right. What keeps people, the skeptic, from having a true discussion about faith? Why do they get so upset? They don’t believe and when you bring it up with somebody, why do they get so offended by having a discussion about God?

Tim: Well, by the way, I also see Christians who get real upset, harsh, defensive when they (Chuckling) are engaged on this, too. I think one of the reasons is because we’re not completely rational people. We’re not, as somebody once said, brains in vats, you know, just having, you know, thoughts.

We both believe and disbelieve, partly for rational reasons, but also for personal and social reasons, which is to say, for example, you’ve got this whole are called sociology of knowledge. Peter Berger and other people kinda pioneered it and it’s impossible to read. (Laughter) It’s impossible to read.

So, I have to talk to people who are smart, who’ve read it, who tell me this is basically what it’s about. Sociology of knowledge is about the idea that generally the people who you respect the most, their views tend to be most plausible to you, that you’re much more persuaded than you’d want to admit by the people that you like and respect and want to like you.

Jim: Hm.

Tim: And so, your community, in other words. does to a great degree, create your beliefs. I mean, we’re not relativists here when I say that. I just think it’s fair to say. And so, what’ll often happen is, if you were hurt by a community, then their beliefs are not plausible to you. And then you come to another community and they embrace you and those beliefs are plausible to you.

And I’m not saying that people leave religion and get skeptical only for social reasons. Or that I hope people don’t become Christians just because this is a loving group of people. I mean, I want them to think, too.

Jim: Right.

Tim: Nevertheless, the reasons we believe and disbelieve are not strictly rational. A lot of them have to do with hurt in certain communities. So, we’ve got our personal reasons, too. So, when I find a skeptic who can hardly talk to me about the Christian faith, I realize they’ve been hurt or they have something going on there. And I just need to back away and not treat them as if they are little computers.

Jim: Right, here’s the input.

Tim: Here’s the input; here’s the output, right. I gotta just stop that. And I’m not a Christian just simply because I sat and reasoned myself into it. But then you gotta be careful not to say that faith or lack of faith has not got a rational base to it. Of course, it does.

John: Dr. Timothy Keller is our guest today on “Focus on the Family” with Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller and you can find his book, Dr. Keller’s book, Making Sense of God at our website, www.focusonthefamily.com/radio or call. Now we also have a CD or a download available of our conversation. You can call 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Let me take us back to the discussion in the culture at large. There’s so much around the validity of science and that science is the religion of the day and that if it can’t be proven, it doesn’t exist.

Tim: Yeah, that’s exactly right.

Jim: What is this contrast between faith and science and how do we in the Christian community—people of faith—how do we not run from scientific data, but how do we find how God is found in it?

Tim: Right, well, I think you’re absolutely right. In fact, James Hunter at UVA, James Davison Hunter. James says that actually scientific language is the only public language allowed now.

Jim: Right.

Tim: In other words, in public you cannot make any case unless you’ve got empirical scientific findings. It’s the only language we have. But James, by the way, is writing a book which will come out I think sometime soon—it’s an academic book—on why science can’t be the basis for morality, basically.

I mean, I’ll just tell you, too. Let me give you two examples. What you want to do is, not to say there’s anything wrong with science. Just don’t make it carry water it can’t carry. That’s all you have to say. Two examples, one is, there’s a philosopher, Jurgen Habermas, who’s not a Christian [and is] in fact, a very secular, very respected German philosopher, very old, too right now, almost 90, I think.

And in the last 10, 20 years he’s been talking about the limits of science. Science is really not very helpful to help society decide social policy. And here’s what he would say and as soon as you say it, people right away say, “Okay, you’re right.”

‘Cause science can tell you whether you can do something and science can tell you how to do it well. But science cannot tell you whether you should do it or not.

Jim: Hm, that’s the morality of it.

Tim: Just because it tells you it can be done and it tells you how to do it, it can never tell you whether you should do it or not. And I remember Habermas was saying, as soon as you say, well, how do we decide whether we should do it or not? You don’t look to science; you have to look to kind of like religion. I mean, you have to start talking about morality, which is something based on your faith and science can’t possibly tell you.

For example, sometimes science will say, well, but we know what makes people happy because we asked them. And 80 percent of the people say, when this happens, that makes them happy. But that’s just self-reporting.

You know, what if 80 percent of the people say, “What makes me happy is to kill the 20 percent of people in mycountry that are minorities and I’m happier when I don’t see them.” Would we say that’s okay? We’d probably say no.

Jim: That’s immoral, but that’s the key.

Tim: Yeah, but you see, science can’t tell you.

Jim: Right.

Tim: So, if science tells me that 80 percent of the people in this country would be happier if we got rid of the other 20 percent, well, science can’t tell you whether you should do that or not, only that, that’s what will make people happy.

Here’s another thing I could say, I have said to people to try to show them that science is of no real help on social policy and morality, one is the fact that a guy named Michael Sandel, who at Harvard has teaches a course on justice there, an undergraduate course, very popular.

And he wrote a book some years ago called Justice: What’s the Right Thing to Do? And he explains that one of the reasons we have a lot of debate and well, polarization in our country is that there are several theories of justice, of what is just. And we can’t come to consensus.

So, one is called utilitarianism, which is, the just thing is the greatest good for the greatest number. Then there’s another approach to justice which is just based on Immanuel Kant and individual rights that say, you know, justice is whatever frees the individual to live any way he or she wants to live.

And then there’s also Aristotelian justice, which is, justice is giving people what they deserve. And he makes the case that the reason why you have the battles we have is, that people are operating on these different theories of justice and there’s no empirical way to decide which is the right one, because they’re based on intuitions and convictions about human nature and about human good that are basically matters of faith.

And so, what I would just, you know, what I just gave you is a three-minute way of saying, science is not gonna help us live our lives. Unless we can allow religious voices in the public square, there is almost no way we can ever make decisions about what’s right or wrong.

In fact, people are using the science as a ruse to push their moral agenda, which is not based on science. And we might as well be honest that science is not the basis for it. It’s a matter of faith and let’s take the gloves off and be honest about what’s happening in the public square.

Jim: Well, and when that person has that faith that is science, at least the veneer of it, how do you go about unmasking that for them?

Tim: Yeah.

Jim: Have you had that encounter with that person?

Tim: Well, kinda like what I just said. What I’m really trying to say is, the science can tell you, you know, what happens and what people say and all that, but it really can’t tell you whether you should do this or not. There’s no scientific basis for saying that. Usually when they say, but people say they’re happier, you know, that kind of thing.

Jim: Right.

Tim: But ultimately, that’s your definition of what a good human life is. For example, if somebody says, people should be free to have sex outside of marriage. There shouldn’t be any, you know, limitations on that. That’s because you don’t think that, that’s bad for human beings to have sex outside of marriage. And why not?

I mean, and Michael Sandel says, all justice is judgmental. Now this is a secular man talking about this. He says, as soon as you there’s nothing wrong with abortion—he actually says this in his book and he’s pro-choice and personally—but he says, as soon as you say abortion’s okay, you are making a decision about whether that’s a human life or not and there’s no scientific way to define human life, none at all. If you say, well, human life is when you can make a choice. Find, you said that. That’s not scientific.

Jim: Right.

Tim: That’s your definition.

Jim: That’s a moral choice.

Tim: Yeah, it’s your definition.

Jim: Yeah.

Tim: And so, he says there is no scientific way to decide whether what’s in the mother, the unborn child is a child or not.

Jim: Yeah.

Tim: So, he says as soon as you say, “I’m pro-choice” or “I’m pro-life,” and he actually is chiding pro-choice people in this book. He says, “Pro-choice people say religious people are trying to impose the morality on the country.” You say, “Well, you’re doing it, too in a sense.

Jim: Correct.

John: It’s dishonest.

Tim: Because you’re making a moral judgment which is not scientifically based.

Jim: Right. It’s expedient.

Tim: Yeah, you’re basically saying, this is not a human being. And he says, that’s like a judgment call. But on the other hand, admit it. And so, that’s what you have to do, is you have to go there and say, science just can’t give you those judgment calls.

Jim: Dr. Keller, we’re ending today. We’re gonna come back next time and pick up the discussion. But I think with your title, Making Sense of God, the right place to end today is to say, so many people who don’t have–I don’t want to besmirch anyone–but that deeper sense of God in their life, that can weather trials and suffering, a lot of the non-believers I talk to and I would say “Christian light” people that aren’t integrating their faith into their daily life, will often fall away or not even come to the Lord’s Table because of the suffering issues.

Tim: Yes.

Jim: That if God was a good God, why would there be suffering? Why would a 2-year-old die? Why would a 10-year-old die of leukemia? It’s the age-old question that people do trip over.

Tim: Yeah.

Jim: So, I’m gonna lay it out there. I mean, how do we reconcile that, that there is suffering in the world, sometimes terrible, brutal suffering that makes no sense if God is God?

Tim: Well, as a pastor of over 40 years, I have actually seen suffering draw people toward God or push people away from God.

Jim: Uh-hm.

Tim: And I have an idea about why it works differently on some. It does feel to me that there are some people who are willing to say, “I really don’t know enough to be mad at God.” Or in other words, I think ancient people were more like this. Ancient people suffered more than we do probably, but it’s hard to find ancient people saying, “There can’t ‘be a God because of suffering.”

Generally, ancient people said, “If there is a God, of course, I wouldn’t understand all this.” They were a little more humble before the mystery. Modern people are taught that we can figure everything out. And so, I do think the people who are most likely to be drawn to God by suffering are people who are willing to say, “I actually don’t know enough about this to be mad at God. I can’t see enough of the universe. Why should I? But I do know I need some help.” And they’re the ones that seem to come toward Him.

Other people, they are pushed away. I don’t want to say they’re proud necessarily, but I do think, ‘cause I do know that sometimes I’ve seen people die tragically. And I have sat there saying, “Why that person, of all the people?”

Jim: Right.

Tim: So, I get it, but in the end, you either decide, “I’m not God and if I can’t see the whole picture” or you decide, “I pretty much can and therefore, God is without excuse.” And I do think that, that’s probably the thing that draws you toward Him or pushes you away.

Jim: Tim, you have really got our wheels spinning about the Lord, your book, Making Sense of God. What a wonderful resource. If you, the listener, are suffering right now in some way, the way we just talked about, contact us here at Focus on the Family. We have counselors. We have people who the donor base has supported to put there so that you could call and hopefully, get an answer and hopefully, will provide you with the book by Tim Keller, Making Sense of God, which will help guide you through this journey. And John, I think it’s one of the best topics and the best resources we now have thanks to Tim.

John: Well, we do believe in the book and we trust you ‘ll stop by our website, www.focusonthefamily.com/radio to get copy. Or call us and make a generous gift when you do and we’ll send that book to you as our way of saying thank you for joining the support team here at Focus on the Family. Our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. Again, www.focusonthefamily.com/radio or 800-232-6459.

Jim: Tim, as we close, I’m thinking of research that we have that shows about 15 to 20 percent of the listenership to “Focus,” they’re not Christian.

Tim: Uh-hm.

Jim: And someone, many people are probably listening right now. So, as we close today, speak to that person particularly, why should I be compelled to pursue Christ?

Tim: Well, I think before you look at the case why Christianity’s true, you should at least see why you might want it to be true. And that’s actually what the Making Sense of God book is about. It’s not so much, you know, here’s how you can prove it.

But what the book says is, Christianity offers a meaning in life that suffering can’t take away from you, a satisfaction that’s not based on circumstances, that’s therefore kind of abiding. It’s strong regardless of what happens to you, a freedom that doesn’t undermine love, an identity that’s absolutely stable and gracious and empowering, a hope that can face anything.

And I actually think at least right now, maybe other religious try to offer some of those things. Certainly the secular approach doesn’t offer any of them. It does not give you meaning that suffering can’t take away. It does not give you satisfaction that’s not based on circumstances and not give you an identity that’s stable.

And you oughta at least look at what Christianity offers first. And if you really see, “My, that’s something that would be great,” then go look at the case why Christianity might be true. And that’s what the Making Sense book, this is what it offers. And I don’t think most people who aren’t Christians really understand all it offers.

 

Closing:

John: Well, food for thought from Dr. Timothy Keller. He’ll be back again with us next time. Hope you will, as well. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, I’m John Fuller and inviting you back next time, as we once more hear from Dr. Tim Keller and help you and your family thrive.

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Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

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Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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