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Being a Good Role Model for Your Daughter

Being a Good Role Model for Your Daughter

In a discussion centered around her latest book, What a Girl Needs From Her Mom, Cheri Fuller talks about the importance of a mother listening to and praying for her daughter, as well as helping her to develop confidence and a healthy body image.

Opening:

Teaser:

Jim Daly: Cheri, what is one way a mom today who has had a strained relationship with her daughter, what’s one thing she can do today to begin to repair that?

Cheri Fuller: if there’s a strain, I would ask God, what’s my part in this strain, in this lack of good relationship and peaceful.” And then be willing to humble yourself and go to your daughter. And if the Lord shows you something, then say, you know, go to her and ask her forgiveness. And you’d be amazed the power of forgiveness between a mother and a daughter, because the truth is, a mother-daughter relationship is a special gift from God, but it’s often fraught with conflict, with misunderstanding, with sometimes drama and emotions that your daughter’s going through. So, I love the whole idea of parenting on my knees and we need to.

End of Teaser

John Fuller: Well, you’re hear more from Cheri Fuller on today’s “Focus on the Family” with Jim Daly about connecting with your daughter and really positively influencing her life. We’re glad you’re listening. I’m John Fuller.

Body:

Jim: John, that bond between a mother and daughter, it’s a unique relationship. It’s something special, probably very much like a father and a son. I mean, there is something unique about that. And we want to talk to moms today and daughters, to do the best they can do, hopefully in a great way, to connect and have that relationship that makes it special. And here at Focus on the Family, we want to help you thrive in those relationships and today we’re gonna talk to Cheri Fuller, as you said. Now you guys aren’t related are you, John?

John: I don’t think so.

Cheri: No.

Jim: Maybe distantly?

John: We’ll have to—

Cheri: Maybe—

John: –I’ll have to do some (Laughter) ancestor research.

Cheri: –maybe distantly.

John: Yeah.

Jim: Well, Cheri, welcome back to “Focus.”

Jim: Thank you, Jim and John. I’m delighted to be here today to talk about mothers and daughters.

John: Well, we’re glad to have Cheri back. She’s been here a number of times. She’s written about 40 books and the one that we’ll be talking about today is called, What a Girl Needs from Her Mom, which really covers the span from birth, all the way up to high school and beyond. Cheri and her husband, Holmes, live in Oklahoma and they have three grown children—two boys and a girl and six grandchildren.

Jim: Cheri, let’s start there. You had two boys and then all of a sudden, boom, you had your girl. That must have been exciting.

Cheri: It was very exciting. I love and adore my boys, Chris and Justin, who were three years apart and Justin came first and then, Chris, but you see, Jim, I grew up in the middle of girls. I’m one of five girls.

Jim: Oh, really.

Cheri: And I grew up in a girlie world. (Laughter) We loved makeup. We loved doing our hair. I started–

Jim: Dolls, playing with dolls.

Cheri: –dolls. Now I’m a real outdoor person, so I mean, I loved to be out riding my bike, playing football with the neighborhood boys, but I grew up with girls and I was very excited to have a little girl named Allison.

Jim: Oh, that is sweet. And you say that most mom initially feel confident when they discover they’re going to have a girl and then, that is often replaced by frustration. Why does that special relationship sometimes end up with such great frustration?

Cheri: Well, Jim, I think sometimes we think our little daughter’s gonna be just like we are.

Jim: Ooh, that’s a lot.

Cheri: And—

Jim: You’re saying it straight there.

Cheri: –think she’s gonna like the things that I like and she’s gonna have a temperament like mine and in most cases, our daughter may be very different than we are. And if she’s just like us, you know, we can butt heads, because we’re so much alike. And if we’re different, we have a hard time understanding where she’s coming from. So, that’s why I have a chapter about understanding your daughter’s temperament. A mom who understands her daughter’s temperament that’s probably different from mom and dad and a daughter who has different gifts and a different way of processing information, which … which we call learning style.

Jim: Well, in fact, you have a story in the book, What a Girl Needs from Her Mom, of when your daughter, Allie, was going through puberty and it dealt with a poncho. (Chuckling) Talk about that.

Cheri: Yes, well, Allie was about to go to youth camp and she was about a 7th grader or 8th grader. And we had gone out and we had gotten, you know, her a poncho, because the camp was gonna be in Missouri and it rains a lot there. And we had gotten, you know, all her toiletries and everything and then she was packing and she just drug her heels and so, that day I went up to her room and I said, “Allison, you know, we’ve gotta be at the church. The bus is leaving in 45 minutes.”

Well, I mean, that really made her mad. And I said, “And don’t forget your poncho and don’t (Laughter) forget your tennis shoes.” And so, that started the conflict. And I mean, she said, “First of all, I’m not takin’ that poncho and I’ll take the shoes I want to.” And you know, she did actually make it and go to the camp, but things were strained in the car, ’cause she wanted to pack herself. She didn’t want mom interfering. And there is a time that our daughters want us to believe that they can solve their own problems and you know, if she gets to the camp and gets rained on, ’cause she didn’t take that poncho, she’ll learn a good lesson.

Jim: Well, let’s tease this out a bit, because it’s really important in a high-control parenting environment—

Cheri: Uh-hm.

Jim: –like we’re in today and that is, you know, a lot of us as parents, we fear—

Cheri: Yes.

Jim: –the environment. We’re very cautious with our kids, more so than—

Cheri: Yes.

Jim: –in past generations I think.

Cheri: Uh-hm.

Jim: And even in that context, yeah, you’re right. They get to a point where they need some control over their own life and usually it’s around 7th, 8th, 9th grade.

Cheri: Yeah or maybe—

Jim: They’re starting to say, “Let me make some decisions on my own.”

Cheri: Exactly.

Jim: So, I mean, over a poncho, it seems rather small.

Cheri: Yes.

Jim: So, did you finally come to the conclusion, “If you don’t take the poncho, you’ll just get wet” and walk out of the room.

Cheri: Well, yes. I mean, I didn’t want to fight all the way to the church about the poncho. I’ll tell you something that moms could really relate to though and that’s hair, how your daughter wears her hair and how she looks. And so, when Allison was about 15 or 16, she had this beautiful natural blonde long hair and she wanted to cut it off and dye it burgundy, which I thought was just gonna look awful.

And so, when she told me that, I said, “What? I’m gonna pay for burgundy hair? And you’d cut all your pretty hair off.” Well, that became a big issue and she boiled about that inside. She thought she should be able to make that decision, even though I was paying the bills to the—

Jim: Uh-hm.

Cheri: –haircutter. Well, I really prayed about that, because I mean, that became a strain in our relationship, just this undercurrent of tension and we had always gotten along great. So, I said to God finally after a few weeks, “Lord, what are You tryin’ to say to me? What do I need to do as a mom? Give me wisdom here.” And the Lord, you know, He can give you a really good message in about 30 words–

Jim: Right, exactly.

Cheri: –when you’re really listening and you want to know and He said, “Let go of her hair.”

Jim: Wow.

Cheri: Let go of her hair. So, that was hard. I wrestled with that one. Did I want to let go of her hair and let her do anything to it? Not really, but I purposed, I wanted to be obedient. So, the next day after some wrestling with God, she and I were in the kitchen and she came in and she said, “Hi, mom.” And I said, “Allie, I want to talk to you for a minute.” I said, “I just want you to know, I’m letting go of your hair and it’s your hair and you can do whatever you want to with it and I will pay for the haircut.” And she about dropped her teeth. I mean, she was just shocked and I said, “The Lord told me it’s time to let go of Allie’s hair.” And so, very funny, eventually she did cut it off and dye it burgundy a few years later, but …

Jim: But she didn’t in that moment.

Cheri: She didn’t in that moment. It helped our relationship, because I was letting go of something that really was her deal. And if I kept controlling her and telling her how to dress or how to wear her hair, more tension would grow within us. And one of the problems today we have is over-parenting, like you just said, Jim, being overly attentive, overly competitive, intervening inappropriately. And I’ll tell you the funny thing that came out of that is, that a few moms called me, friends of hers—

Jim: Right.

Cheri: –their moms called me and they said, “What did you do that for? (Laughter) Now my daughter says you let go of Allison’s hair and so she can decide what to do with it.” And I said, “Yes, I did. That’s what the Lord told me to do.” And I did.

John: And they were worried, because now they were getting pressure to do the same with their daughters?

Cheri: Exactly.

Jim: Yeah, I mean, that’s what happens. You talk about in the book the busyness of life and we can all relate—

Cheri: Uh-hm.

Jim: –to that and particularly moms, I think. I’m just thinking of Jean and she is working in the home.

Cheri: Yes.

Jim: And you know, it keeps her really busy, especially with two boys.

Cheri: Sure.

Jim: And well, really three boys, I guess. (Laughter)

Cheri: Including you.

Jim: Yeah, including me, but talk about that environment, especially the moms that are working and—

Cheri: Uh-hm.

Jim: –you know, trying to get everything done. And I’m sure dad’s pitchin’ in, but it’s a really busy environment. How can a mom stay connected with her daughter in that kind of a high-stress, high-volume activity-driven household?

Cheri: Well, first of all, I would say that purpose to spend focused time with your daughter, with each —

Jim: Does that mean scheduling it?

Cheri: –of your children. I’m not a real scheduled person. I’m kind of spontaneous, but I’m saying make it your aim to spend time at least once a week where it’s just you and your daughter and you sit down and either play a board game or have a tea party if she’s little or go outside and take a walk with her, if she likes that. Just do something with her that she enjoys at least once a week, because these little girls, they are gonna grow up so fast and their little handprints and your boys, their little handprints that sometimes kind of mar the lovely paint on your wall—

Jim: Yeah, right. (Chuckling)

Cheri:–are gonna go higher and higher and then you’re gonna disappear. And they’re gonna put their iPads, their flip flops, all their stuff in their car and drive away. And you’re not gonna be saying, moms, you’re not gonna be saying, “I wish I’d spent more time on my computer.” “I wish I’d spent more time at work or on Facebook.” No.

Jim: Or getting organized.

Cheri: Or making your house perfect. You’re going to savor the times you had with your daughter. And so, make time. I mean, and if your kids are really acting up, really acting up and they’re having a behavior problem, I just encourage you to once a day, either mom or dad, sit down and play; do something with them for 15 or 20 minutes—

Jim: Right.

Cheri: –where they are your focus. Cell phones are put away. Nothing is on that’s gonna distract you and you just have time with ’em. Do that for 30 days and I have a feeling they won’t have a behavior problem.

Jim and John: Hm.

Jim: You’ve listed many good things in your book and I want to touch on—

Cheri: Thank you.

Jim: a couple. You talk about the importance of a mom to be a good listener and you’ve touched on that, but speak specifically to that art, to be that good listener. Again, I think it ties in to the busyness of life, but I’m thinking of Jean again. I mean, she’s got lots of lists in her mind and that’s a lot of—

Cheri: Yeah.

Jim: –a lot of moms—

Cheri: We have a—

Jim: –are like that.

Cheri: –lot of to-do lists.

Jim: You got this to-do list and this to-do list and you’re keeping that all organized. How do you slow yourself down to be a good listener?

Cheri: One of the first ways is to be available and to know that when your daughter wants to talk with you, it may not be convenient for you. Now if you have an emergency conference call going on, because you work at home, you can say, “Okay, honey, I really want to talk to you about that and so, we’re gonna schedule a time in an hour” and then get back with her.

Jim: But that—

Cheri: It’s most—

Jim: –shows you’re prioritizing.

Cheri: –exactly, but most of the time we can stop what we’re doing and we can give her eye contact and we can listen to her. And as I share in What a Girl Needs from Her Mom, not finish her sentences. That’ll shut her down. That’ll shut down what she wants to say.

I was guilty of that. I share a lot of my mistakes in here and what I learned. I didn’t come out into the world as a good listener, because I was a talker (Laughing) and I had a lot of sisters and we all talked.

But so, first of all, is be available and give her access to you. It may be at 10 o’clock at night or 11 or 12, if she’s 16 or 17 or 18, that’s when she wants to talk to mom. A lot of kids, it’s bedtime, where they know they can stay up 15 minutes later if they’ll talk (Laughter) to you.

But it may be when she’s had a bad day at school. Let her speak to you and don’t try to change her emotions. If she says to you, “You know, Jamie was so mean to me today at school and she just called me names on the playground and I’m so mad at her.” Well, sometimes we moms take up the other child’s point. We take up their thing and we say, “Well, don’t be too mad at Jamie. She didn’t mean to do that.” Or “She’s having a rough time.” No, take your daughter’s part. Be her advocate. Say, “Oh, that is so hard. I just understand.” Just reflect back what she’s saying, saying that, “Relationships are hard and friendships can be hard.”

John: Yeah.

Cheri: And listen to her and if she asks you, especially if they’re teenagers, if she asks you for input and advice, give it, but don’t be too quick to give her advice. She really wants to be heard. That’s the first thing.

Jim: Right.

Cheri: She wants to be heard.

Jim: You also talked about letting go of expectations. This is a big one, ’cause I think moms particularly, all of us as parents struggle with this. But I think as I have observed it, moms can really build up some high expectations about grades, about many things. Talk to the moms about that. How do we keep our expectations reasonable so we don’t alienate our kids?

Cheri: As moms, like you just said, and dads, we want our children to be all they can be. But I share in the beginning of this book, this is not about being the perfect mother and we’re not raising perfect children. We’re all flawed and if our expectation is, she makes all A‘s, she’s top in gymnastics, she always looks perfect, you know, then ultimately, our daughters are gonna feel like they can’t ever please us and that they’re a disappointment.

And I think week need to really accept them where they are. I’m all for great expectations about, God has a purpose and a future and a hope for you that’s bright, but that doesn’t mean that you’re gonna be the first in everything, every year in school and everything else.

John: Uh-hm.

Cheri: The problem with too high of expectations is, that it puts so much pressure on kids, they underachieve. They really do, because they get all anxious about—

Jim: They pull back.

Cheri: –right, they pull back and they get anxious about, “Well, I’ve gotta make 100 on this test.”

Jim: Uh-hm.

Cheri: You know, but instead if we focus on their efforts, like, “You made 85 on that test. I know you studied for your math test; I see you made 85. That was really good effort. You really spent time on that. And that, that’s five points more than you made last week.” That’s what we call “effort praising.” And effort praising is motivating. She will work harder the next time.

But if she makes 98 and you say, “You are such a math genius.” Or she comes in first in soccer and you say, “You are fabulous. You could an Olympic soccer player.” Well, I’m telling you, that is too much pressure and they won’t try things that they’re not good at. So, it kinda backfires. I mean, we’re trying to be encouraging, but if we blow up, you know, like with your son. He plays a good football game. “You can be the next NFL star.” (Laughter) So, whatever it is, our expectations need to be reasonable–

Jim: Uh-hm.

Cheri: –and not pressuring. (Laughing) That’s the best way I can say it.

John: Well, it’s a good way to say it, Cheri and we’re grateful that you’re here. It’s Chery Fuller on “Focus on the Family” with Jim Daly and What a Girl Needs from Her Mom is the book that we’re talking about and it’s full of some really good perspectives. You can find out more about the book and a CD or a download of this program when you stop by www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.

Jim: Cheri, let me challenge you a little bit, because parents may get lost in what you’re saying. I want to make sure that we’re hearing you clearly, because standards are important. You want—

Cheri: Uh-hm.

Jim: –to be able to put the bar at an attainable height—

Cheri: Exactly.

Jim: –not unreasonable, but you want to have expectations. Some people might be hearing you say, just you know, don’t worry about it. It’ll be okay. Just love ’em for who they are, but I don’t know if that’s good enough. You want to have some expectations, right?

Cheri: Of course and I’m never saying lower your expectations so they don’t have to work hard to reach the goals and to make good grades. I mean, I was a teacher. We need to have great expectations for our children.

But if your daughter is not good in math, nagging her about making 100’s on her report card or A‘s in math may not be a very good idea, ’cause we need to focus on their strengths.

Jim: Hm.

Cheri: If she needs help achieving what’s the best she could make if she works hard and that might be a B, then get her the tutoring and let dad help her if he’s good in math. But it doesn’t mean pressuring them to be perfect in everything. And it means having realistic expectations and not trying to make them be perfect.

Jim: Yeah. Jim: Cheri, you recommend that moms focus on the donut and not the hole. I kinda like donut holes; what about you, John? (Laughter)

John: In moderation.

Jim: What are you getting to at that? What are you getting to when you say that, focus on the donut, not the donut hole?

Cheri: Well, the point is, think about a donut and then the hole that’s not there inside, that you can actually see through it, okay? Focus on what she’s doing well, which is like her efforts, like I just talked about. Focus on the fact that maybe she missed one day this week feeding the day, but four days or six days, she fed the dog. That’s the donut.

The hole is saying to her, “You’re so irresponsible. You forgot to feed the dog today.”

Jim: Uh-hm.

Cheri: So, if we focus on the donut, we’re focusing on what they are doing, on how they’re trying to do better. I mean, think about childhood. It’s this giant marathon of learning all these things. And they need buckets of encouragement. This is the kind of encouragement that’s very practical, like snapshots, for instance would be focusing on the donut, like “You were so kind to your sister and you helped her pick up her blocks and her dolls. That’s what I call having the servant’s heart.”

Jim: Right.

Cheri: And that’s what I call being helpful. And so, it’s just a perspective of not focusing on what she’s not doing—

John: Uh-hm.

Cheri: –like “You really make a messy bed, when you make your bed.” It’s instead saying, “You are really getting better at making your bed.” And really, we all need that, in the workplace, little boys need it, is to focus on the donut, what they are doing.

John: So, what’s the motivation when mom says, really drives home about the negative for the daughter, is it a fear that I really have a problem with this part of life and so, I just really need to kinda nag her about that, so she doesn’t go there? What’s behind the negative focused mom, particularly in the mom-daughter relationship?

Cheri: I think really you hit the nail on the head, it’s fear. It’s fear that she’s not gonna be good enough or smart enough. It’s fear that I see a flaw in her that really reminds me of myself and therefore, I’m afraid about this. And you know, I have interviewed women who, they still remember when they came down the stairs and they had dressed as cute as they cute to please their mom and they got a disapproving look. They don’t need that. They’re gonna have hundreds of negative things said about them, sometimes unfortunately by teachers, who don’t think they’re trying hard enough, often by classmates, boys and girls. And we need to be the person who’s pouring faith and spirit into our daughters.

Cheri: I love the definition of little girls, that what little girls are made of us courage and sacrifice and determination and commitment and toughness and heart and talent and guts. That’s what little girls are made of, not just sugar and spice and everything nice. Bethany Hamilton, the young woman whose arm—

Jim: Uh-hm.

Cheri: –was—

Jim: Bit by a shark.

Cheri: –bit by a shark, said that. What a young woman of courage and we need to raise our daughters as young women of courage and confidence and faith.

Jim: Uh-hm.

John: Cheri, I appreciate that so much. We’ve got three girls. My wife has been a, I think, a great mom to them. It’s been challenging at times. One of the things that really caught Dena as she was looking at your book before our time here together, I shared it with her and she said, “Oh, you know, the body image chapter is pretty important.” A mom plays a pretty significant role in shaping her daughter’s body image, doesn’t she?

Cheri: She does, a very significant role. And today, I mean, girls of every age have the media, Hollywood, the Internet, their friends, all worried about, am I too fat? Are my abs flat enough? I mean, all these things about body image and so, we have all these girls with distorted body images and therefore, they become bulimic, anorexic or they have some sort of disorder.

But what you don’t’ realize and yes, there’s all these influences out there in the media and other kids, but here’s the thing. She’s watching you. Your daughter’s listening to you and if you’re always saying, “You know, I just gotta get on another diet.” Or “I just hate the way my thighs look,” then your daughter is gonna look at herself that way.

If we can be accepting about our bodies the way God made us and do the best we can. I mean, be fit. I encourage moms, get out there and be active. Be fit. Let your daughter see a role model of a mom who’s taking care of her body, but not over-focused on her being skinny or putting her daughter on diets or things like that, that are really harmful, because she’s gonna go through all these different phases with her body and then finally, it’s gonna kinda stabilize hopefully when she a young woman, so your daughter can accept herself the way God made her and be thankful for the body He gave her.

Jim: Talk about prayer and how praying for your daughter is the most important thing you can do.

Cheri: Because we do not have control in this fallen world of everything that affects our daughter or our son, I have always believed that the best and the most important influence we can have in our daughter’s life besides loving her, raising her, taking care of her, is prayer, is covering her life with prayer, because the prayer of a mom connects our heart with our daughter and with God’s heart.

And when we pray for our daughter, He gives us the wisdom to be the mom that she needs us to be at all these different stages and all the changes she goes through. And besides that, E.M. Bounds once said, “Prayer shapes the world.” Our prayers are deathless. The lips that prayed the prayers may be closed in death, but the prayers live on. And my prayers as a mother and as a grandmother, they’re gonna outlive my life and they’re going to affect my child’s generation, the next generation and the next, until Christ comes. And God has used mother’s prayers to truly shape the world, so I encourage you, get together with some other moms and pray with them. Have a prayer partner that you know you can call and the more you pray, the less afraid you’ll be and the more you’ll enjoy being a mother.

Jim: Well, we covered a lot of territory today and Cheri Fuller has talked with us about What a Girl Needs from Her Mom and really, there’s so much application, just what parents can provide their children, regardless of gender. You can apply it to dads and sons, as well—

Cheri: That’s right.

Jim: –it’s so obvious. So, thank you, Cheri. Thank you for bringing that wisdom and for helping us better understand the relationship between a mom and a daughter.

Cheri: And thank you, Jim and thank you, John. It’s just a privilege all these years to get to work with Focus on the Family and get to just bless and encourage moms and dads and so, their kids can have the best childhood and they can really grow into the kids that God wants them to be and that He made ’em—

Jim: Amen to that.

Cheri: –to be. So, thank you.

Closing:

John: Well, we’re appreciative of your heart, Cheri and again, the book title is What a Girl Needs from Her Mom and it’ll really open your eyes to situations and issues that girls are facing today and you’ll find some really practical active and great wisdom to apply to your relationship with your daughter or perhaps your granddaughter. And it might be helpful to note, as well, that Cheri has questions at the end of each chapter for you to discuss or to journal about. So, look for that book, What a Girl Needs from Her Mom when you’re at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio or call us and we’ll tell you more. Our number is 800-A-FAMILY.

In fact, if you can make a generous contribution, a gift of any size to the ministry of Focus on the Family today, we’ll send that book to you as our way of saying thank you for your support and trusting that, that’ll be a resource in your hands or perhaps a neighbor or friend’s hands that’ll make a real impact. Find the book and ways to donate to the ministry, as well as the download or the audio CD of this program and our mobile app at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.

And our program was provided by Focus on the Family and made possible by generous listeners like you. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for listening. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back tomorrow. We’ll hear from a pastor and his wife about a marriage that went through 20 years of neglect, but they found healing. You’ll hear that encouraging conversation tomorrow, when we’re back to help your family thrive in Christ.

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Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!