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Connecting With Your Tech-Absorbed Kid

Connecting With Your Tech-Absorbed Kid

Youth ministry expert and author Jonathan McKee offers parents practical advice and encouragement in a discussion based on his book 52 Ways to Connect With Your Smartphone Obsessed Kid.
Original Air Date: November 23, 2016

Opening:

Excerpt:

Jonathan McKee: The relationship that is so important, because the relationship is going to be the element that transcends when they are out of the house, when you don’t have any boundaries. So don’t mess up bonding, with way too many boundaries.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: Jonathan McKee is our guest today on Focus on the Family, and we’re so glad you’ve joined us. I’m John Fuller; your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly.

Jim Daly: Hey John, it’s a new year– have you made those resolutions? (laughter)

John: I’m putting that off. I’m resolved to putting those things off!

Jim: Forget it!

John: I’m going to wait until about late January when I have already failed.

Jim: I think that’s a great idea, put it off. Hey, a resolution you might make is managing technology use and today we want to talk about how to better connect with those around you, especially young people. In this addicted world of phones and tablets and all the connectivity that we have, we want to help you get human interaction back into your relationships. How many people just leaned in on that one? (chuckle)

John: Yeah, this is a good one.

Jim: It is and as we’re talking about technology, let me mention a free resource we have on our website. It’s “A Parent’s Guide to Technology 2018.” It’s a great download to inform you about how kids are using devices to, you know, be active in social media– video games, internet use, texting and more. John, are you living in that world?

John: Oh, golly, I’ve got a 14-year old pushing on me every day, “Dad, I need a phone. I need a phone. I need a phone.”

Jim: Well, with 17 and 15-year olds in our house, it’s all about this– this is our pillow talk for Jean and I, every night, it’s ‘are we doing it correctly’ so I’m looking forward to the discussion.

Here at Focus on the Family, we want to help you to be able to talk with your young people about technology so they can reap the benefits and also minimize the land mine out there related to the use of technology.

John: Yeah and if you’d like that “Parent’s Guide to Technology”, stop by focusonthefamily.com/radio. And connecting beyond technology is something we’re gonna learn about today from our guest, Jonathan McKee. He’s got some great thoughts. He’s got 20 years of youth ministry experience. He talks to parents, leaders and teens worldwide and he and his wife Lori have three grown children. He’s got a lot of first-hand insights about this topic of developing a strong relationship with your kids.

Body:

Jim: Jonathan, welcome to Focus on the Family.

Jonathan: Oh, thanks for having me. It’s great to be here.

Jim: Hey, we’ll go right at it, because this is a topic that so many parents are interested in. And you used a phrase which I caught, and that was you’ve got to teach your children to be tech-enabled, not tech-dependent. I like that. I think I know what it means, but clarify it. What do you mean by it?

Jonathan: Well, I mean this is one of the things we even talk with young people about all the time. I get to do school assemblies, and I’ll tell kids, I’ll hold up my phone and say, “Hey, this thing isn’t bad. I mean this is a great tool for connecting with people outside the room. It’s a lousy tool when it begins to interfere with the people inside the room.” And you know, technology is a fun thing. Me, as a parent, my kids are now grown, my girls are out of college, man, this little device I carry in my pocket is like my main connector with my, you know, grown kids. So it’s great, it’s fun. What happens often, though, is that when we bring that device and set it right there on the dinner table next to us and you know it buzzes and we’re looking at it, and when it starts to interfere with those relationships we’re having with those people right in front of us—our friends, our spouse—that’s when it starts to get scary, and we need to learn how to, you know, use this tool. And honestly, we’re all figuring out.

It was 2012 when America really crossed the 50 percent mark of owning Smartphones. So before then, you know, we could text, we could talk, but now we’ve got all this information at our fingertips. We can google, we can stream Netflix, we can do everything with this device, and for a lot of us, we’re still figuring out how to use this thing.

Jim: You know, Jonathan, in the news we’ve seen a number of stories where particularly—I don’t mean to be gender-specific here—but often girls that are losing privileges, and you’ll see in the news where the parent took the phone away, and it devastated this person, this young person’s life. You know, they can’t believe it. And they are on average (I couldn’t believe the number) in some of these cases, 3,000 texts a day.

Jonathan: Yeah.

Jim: I’m trying to think, how do you even do that? I mean—I’m an older guy.

John: They’re one-letter texts, I’m sure. Just “K.”

Jonathan: Taking a kid’s phone away is like lopping their arm off.

Jim: Well, isn’t that a sign that there’s a problem if it’s that critical to you?

Jonathan: Well, and interesting enough, Common Sense Media just did a survey and asked parents and teenagers. They said, “How many of you guys think that this is becoming too much of an obsession, that we are too dependent on this kind of technology?” Of course a bunch of parents said—66 percent of parents—said, “Yes, this is too much.” Fifty-two percent of teenagers said, “Yeah, I think it’s too much.”

Jim: Well, does that point to an addiction?

Jonathan: Yeah. I think there’s an awareness out there, and a lot of young folks—when I talk to young people all the time and talk about this, if I say something like, “Hey, you know, how many times are you guys sitting around with your friends and you look and they’re on their stupid phones and they won’t even talk with you?” And they’ll always point at each other and go, “You totally do that!” Of course they never point at themselves. But you know it is—they are aware of that, and I think they’re still trying to figure it all out. But they don’t want to part from them.

As a matter of fact, more teenagers want an internet connection than they want to even drive, you know? So this new technology, they like it, they want it, and we as parents, we need to teach them how to navigate this landscape.

Jim: You know, to give that some scope, I think in your book you mentioned a survey that identified 13- to 18-year-olds and the amount of time they spend on entertainment and media, and it was something like 8 to 9 hours a day.

Jonathan: Yeah, for teenagers it was 8 hours and 56 minutes a day was the average, if you add up not just phone, but phone, TV, music, everything. Pretty much nine hours a day. That’s for teenagers. For tweens, which is the 8- through 12-year-old, you’re looking at almost 6 hours a day. But here’s the thing though. Before we all start saying “kids these days,” most studies that show what adults are spending, it’s actually over that. In fact, the most conservative studies (Nielsen just had one) showed 9 hours and 38 minutes a day for adults. Adults spend way more time in front of the big TV set, and sometimes two to four hours a day on a Smartphone.

Jim: You know, we’re going to come back to phones, but one of the things, especially for teenagers again, is the video game arena. So watching movies and things, that’s one thing, and then you have the phone usage, but video game playing—it’s something PluggedIn, we do here. We do reviews on those games, which is very helpful for parents. I use PluggedIn. My boys both say, “Dad, don’t go to PluggedIn!”

Jonathan: Because then you won’t let us play this game.

Jim: Right. Exactly. But talk about video gaming and the healthy appetite for that. Some parents have a really hard, you know, line on it, and others probably too loose of a line. What have you found in the research that is a healthy place to be.

Jonathan: Well, you know video games, teenage boys average 56 minutes a day, according to a Common Sense Media survey, on video games. And you know parenting, really, if you think about it, the two most important probably elements in parenting are bonding and boundaries, and bonding is hanging out with your kids, talking with your kids; boundaries is maybe setting those limits and saying only an hour of video games a day or whatever. We can use things like video games as a point of connection. Have you ever walked in and said, “Hey, cool sword. Where’d you get that? Can I try?” because—

Jim: That’s a mistake. I’ve done that.

Jonathan: Oh yeah, man, and you were terrible at it, because we’re used to a stick and a button-

Jim: Pong! (laughter)

Jonathan: -and an Xbox controller is like the cockpit of an airplane.

John: Pong!!! You’re dating yourself there! (Laughter)

Jonathan: Exactly! I at least had Pac Man, Jim.

Jim: Okay, good.

Jonathan: But no, I mean parents sitting down—when I used to sit down with my son with video games, I’d say about ten minutes into him making fun of me for my character running into walls and walking off cliffs and whatever– Jim: At least you can make him run. That’s good. Jonathan: Yeah, yeah. He would just start saying, “So Dad, where are you traveling this weekend?” And he would just start talking. And we had some amazing conversations because I used that hour of video games instead of just coming in and, my mistake many times was just checking, “Are you done with your video game time? Have you done your homework?”

And it doesn’t have to just be video games. It could be Netflix bingeing. I mean Netflix is the thing right now. If on a Saturday morning you don’t know where your kid is, go upstairs. She’s sitting on her bed, she’s been watching Netflix. She’s on season three of “Parks and Rec” because she started last night, you know? I mean Net- kids will—and the instinct as a mom or a dad is to say, “Put that stupid thing away.” And every once in a while—I’m not saying let your kids do whatever they want; don’t get me wrong here, but wouldn’t it be cool if instead of always saying, “Put that stupid thing away” if one time we were like, “Hey, what are you watching?” “Parks and Rec.” “Is it funny? Can I watch it with you?”

As a matter of fact, the Journal of Pediatrics, they recommend—and these are family pediatricians here—recommends that we co-view with our kids. And a lot of parents try to make these decisions without ever even just trying something with them.

Jim: Well, and talk about the benefits of doing that. Again, I believe in that. Sometimes you’re thinking, I don’t have time to sit down and watch something that you wouldn’t spend time doing as an adult, but it’s good to get into your children’s world. And one of the reasons I see is that you can train them about discernment.

Jonathan: Yeah.

Jim: If they’re watching something that’s inappropriate, talk about why it’s inappropriate, not that it just is.

Jonathan: I mean this is Deuteronomy 6, this is walking with our kids. This is having conversations as you walk along the road, as you get up, as you go to bed at night. And when we as parents, we’re tempted to say—I mean let’s be honest, I have three kids. I was so busy. I was traveling. And the temptation is to say, “I’m too busy.” But the numbers show otherwise. The numbers—those same numbers that show that we’re spending more time in front of the TV than even our kids are, you know, we do have the time.

And it is tough. I remember at the end of the day I’d be sitting down and I’d be in a comfortable chair with my feet up, and especially as my kids were older and they’re like going to bed and they’re like, “Good night!” It would be really simple to just kinda holler upstairs, “Yeah, good night. [blows kiss] I’m blowing a kiss. Did you feel that? I’m blowing that kiss up there to you,” and I’d stay with my feet up, you know, where it’s comfortable.

But to actually get my lazy butt up and walk upstairs—and not like our kids would be like, “Welcome! Thank you for coming!” They’d be like, “You don’t need to come up” (that’s what teenagers are going to mostly say) but if you walk in—and here’s the benefit. Our kid’s phone is on the charger at this point because they’ve used it, depleted, you know every ounce of the battery out of the thing, and you tuck your kid in, not every time but maybe the seventh time you do this, the twelfth time you do this, your kid’s going to look up from under the covers and go, “Hey mom, when you were my age, did kids ever talk about you and say something that wasn’t true?” And all of a sudden you’re going to have this maybe five minutes, ten minutes of conversation. You’re gonna walk out and you’re gonna go, “There it was!” And it’s because you got up and you went upstairs and you said goodnight. And we’ve got to look for these communication arenas. They’re there, these arenas where technology isn’t getting in the way, and a lot of it starts with us making time to do that.

Jim: Now one big assumption that your teenager goes to bed before you do.

Jonathan: Yeah, it’s tough.

John: Or goes to the bedroom before you do at least. Well, our guest is Jonathan McKee, and he’s written a book called52 Ways to Connect with Your Smartphone-Obsessed Kid, and there are a lot of practical suggestions in this book and we’ll invite you to get a copy of it when you stop by focusonthefamily.com/radio . Let’s see, how do we do that without being tech-obsessed, Jonathan? Getting people to the website?

Jonathan: That’s a tough one, I’ll let you guys figure that one out.

Jim: This is where technology is good.

John: All right, so use the old technology and call us. 800-A-FAMILY is the number. 800-232-6459. Request the book and in fact when you make a generous donation, we’ll send it to you as our way of saying “thank you” for supporting the mission of Focus on the Family.

Jim: Jonathan, again, something that caught my attention was a story that you had about your daughter. I think your dad called you because he saw something. Describe what happened there, because I think it’s very instructive for us as parents about being engaged and not looking the other way when you should be, you know, if I can say it, monitoring what your kids are into?

Jonathan: Yeah, you know this was fun. This was my middle child, and she was having a bad day and she kind of walked in and was kind of, “Eh,” and she did her typical throw the backpack down and go up to her room. And I was kind of like, “Hey, how’s it going?” “Fine. Good.” You know, one-word answers, typical teenage stuff.

Jim: I thought it was teen boys only.

Jonathan: Yeah, yeah, no,no.

Jim: Good to hear that girls do it too.

Jonathan: It’s across the board. (chuckle) And so I was kind of like—and I was busy, as most parents are—so I kind of told myself, fine, you know, whatever. You know, how do you figure out what a teenager is thinking, right? And then my dad calls me like an hour later, and my dad is one of those grandparents who’s really in his, you know, in his grandkids’ lives, and he spends time with them and just loves them so much. But he’s also one of those Facebook stalkers, you know. (laughter) He’s a Facebook stalker, and at this particular time—it was a few years ago, because now a lot of young people are actually fleeing Facebook for this very reason, because they know mom and dad are watching—but at this time, you know, young people were still on Facebook and posting stuff, and just some of her posts just caught his attention, and he’s all, “What’s wrong with Alyssa?” And I’m all, “I don’t know. What is wrong with Alyssa?” And he’s like, “It seems like she’s having a rough day. I mean she posted this and this,” and I was kind of like, “Oh really?” And so I walked up and sure enough, she was kind of having a rough day, and I’m sitting here going, okay, it takes my dad, Facebook stalker, calling me, and I didn’t even notice this.

And we as parents, you know, we need to be noticing it. And a lot of this noticing is just face to face. But as we’re walking with our kids through this journey, you know, as our kids are getting some of this technology, it’s a good idea for us as parents to be on the technology with them. And sometimes that’s the answer. Parents are always saying, “Can I allow them to have this? Can I allow them to have that?” There’s going to be apps out there that we need to say “no” to, but sometimes it’s like, “I don’t know. Let’s try it together.” I mean that’s a good answer.

John: You’ve really touched on something here, Jonathan, that I’m curious about, and that is I am sure my kids are doing things online that I don’t know. When they hit 16, 17, 18.

Jonathan: It’s good that you know that.

John: In fact, recently I found out that my four oldest, five oldest—they are all adults or almost adults—they’ve got a private Facebook page where they make snarky comments about our family that I don’t ever see because I can’t get there. So how do you manage the stuff that our kids are doing that we don’t know about? I mean—because they don’t want us to know everything.

Jonathan: Well, I’ll tell you one thing is if we as parents try to do—you know, if we think for one minute that we are going to know everything about our kids, we’re fooling ourselves. I mean we’re not. The best that we can do is be in their lives, be where we can, have good, fair, realistic boundaries. You know of course listeners are going to be, “Well what? Exactly what? What time do they need to go to bed?” You know that’s the tough thing. And having incredible times of bonding where we’re talking with them, we’re getting to know them. If we’re in their lives and we’re having these conversations, we’re going to, you know, be more aware of this stuff.

We’re not going to be aware of everything. There are so many things I found out later from my kids, especially now that my youngest is 19; she’s out of the house. She’ll be like, “Oh, I remember the first time I saw this.” I’m like, “You saw that?” And there’s going to be things that we’re unaware of. But if we as parents take the time to notice—and especially, I mean that’s what this book is all about, looking for these opportunities to connect with them—we can learn so much.

I’ll tell you, you know, parents could probably identify with this. The old carpool, the taking our kids back from soccer practice, from school, wherever. You’re driving. You’ve got a bunch of teenagers in your car. As a parent, this is a great time for us to just listen. I mean I’ve got my German shepherd ears up just totally paying attention, because you’ll hear—if you just be quiet and don’t say a word and listen, you can learn so much about your kids when they are in the back of the car.

They’ll be talking about who they like, who they—what apps they’re on, what’s their favorite food. And the funny thing is every once in a while one of your kids’ friends will say something and your kid will be like, “Shh!” And that’s when you really got to listen. That’s when your German shepherd ears are turning and you’re going, “Oh! What was that?”

Jim: As soon as you hear, “Shh!”

Jonathan: As soon as you hear that. But I mean, I’ll talk with parents, and sadly, when I talk about, “Hey, let’s connect with your kids over a meal or something,” and they are like, “I don’t even know where my kids will want to eat.” That’s why we’ve got to be noticing this stuff, because kids talk about the dumbest stuff. They’ll talk about where the best fries are. “Oh, the best is the onion rings at Buffalo Wild Wings.” Well, if your kid is saying that he loves onion rings at Buffalo Wild Wings and you’re having trouble connecting with your kid, think of what an in that is that some night when he’s sitting there doing homework, “Hey, you tired of homework? Let’s go grab some onion rings at Buffalo Wild Wings.”

Now you’ve named something that you heard him say he likes. You’ve got a better chance—not a 100 percent chance, but a better chance—of connecting with that kid, versus if we take a wild shot with our daughter, “Hey, do you want to go get some wings?” “Dad, I’m a vegetarian!” (laughter) It’s not going to work.

Jim: Jonathan, one of the things that you’re saying there which is so important is knowing your child well enough to demonstrate what you’re expecting of them. And what I mean by that is show relationship, show the need for relationship, be demonstrating relationship to them. That’s what you’re saying.

Jonathan:

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Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!