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Staying Connected to God: A 60-Day Challenge (Part 1 of 2)

Staying Connected to God: A 60-Day Challenge (Part 1 of 2)

John Burke reminds us that God is the source of life and of our contentment and joy. He gives us a clear picture of what it looks like to do life with God and how you can trust Him with your strongest and deepest desires. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: June 21, 2022

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John Burke: If you fall, if you do wrong, you know, just like in the Lord’s Prayer, you know, he said, “Forgive us our sins as we forgive others.” He already has paid for that sin 2,000 years ago, which means He already knows the ones you haven’t even done yet, and He paid for those too, so that we won’t stay disconnected from the very source of love and life and the meaning of our deepest longings and the leading us on this healing journey, this adventure of life. There’s nothing better, and all you have to do is stay connected to Him, the fruit happens naturally.

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John Fuller: That’s Pastor John Burke and he’s with us today on Focus on the Family. Thanks for joining us. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, these can be tough questions, but do you know someone who’s 100% in tune with God?

John: Now this is a tough question.

Jim: (laughs).

John: Uh, I’d have to say I know people, I’ve known people who are really close to and they hear God a lot. I’ve never known anybody that, that’s 100% in touch with God.

Jim: Yeah, it, it’s kind of like who got a perfect score on the SAT-

John: That’s kind of like, if you’re Jesus … yeah.

Jim: … but, you know, hey, 1 Thessalonians 5, 16 through 18, tells us, “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances, for this is the will of God and Christ Jesus for you.” And, uh, what a great reminder, and it does get difficult, I got to admit that. We get into squabbles maybe with our spouse, our kids, things chew at us to where did we really get an A-plus in how we reflect God’s character (laughs)? Maybe not always, but the good news is, uh, He makes a way for us to repent, to try again and do over those things that we don’t do so well the first time. Today, we’re going to give you a clear picture of what it looks like, uh, to do life with God, to challenge yourself, actually, to deepen that relationship with the Lord, so that, more often than not, you’re responding exactly the way you should.

John: I like the way you put that. And John Burke is the right man to help us unpack this. Uh, he’s the pastor and founder of Gateway Church in Austin, Texas. Uh, he’s married to Kathy. They have an adult son and an adult daughter, and he’s the author of a number of books, uh, one that we’re going to be talking about today is called Soul Revolution: How Imperfect People Become All God Intended. And we have that here at the ministry. Uh, stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or call 1-800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: John, welcome back to Focus.

John B.: Oh, thanks for having me back, Jim.

Jim: (laughs). It’s so good to have you. In from Austin.

John B.: In from Austin Texas.

Jim: I think Amy’s Ice Cream is pretty good.

John B.: You’re right (laughing).

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: There’s a couple down there though, right?

John B.: Oh.

Jim: Amy’s just one-

John B.: Oh, yeah.

Jim: … of those great ice creams.

John B.: There’s, there’s great food (laughing).

John: When it gets hot, you want ice cream.

John B.: Oh, yeah.

Jim: That’s it. Hey, listen, uh, obviously, uh, you’re a pastor, but there was a time, maybe even when you were a pastor, which is probably the core of my question, but there was that time when you really struggled with God over trusting Him. I think that’s every believer’s challenge, “I mean, Lord, seriously, if-”

John B.: There was a time (laughs)?

Jim: … yeah, if then, those kind of questions-

John B.: Yeah.

Jim: … “if you’re so good, then why is this happening to me?”

John B.: Yeah.

Jim: And, yeah, I, I love that refreshing idea that even pastors, uh, have that challenge sometimes, too, even though they know the word really well. So what was the battle for you in trusting God?

John B.: Well, there hasn’t been one (laughing). They-

Jim: I appreciate that.

John B.: No, I really, I really do think, you know, God is trying to peel us like an onion down to the core of who we are and who He is.

Jim: Why is that? What is His goal in that?

John B.: Well, I think it gets to what He really wants, but I think part of getting to that, He doesn’t force us, He leads us, gently, sometimes not so gently. And so my first disappointment, you know, I was not necessarily, I wasn’t a believer. Um, I was an engineer, uh, before I became a pastor, but my dad died of cancer and I remember standing at his grave site and looking at, you know, these two dates separated by a dash-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

John B.: … and I was just looking at them and I was thinking about how life gets summed up in two dates and a dash, you know, when we’re born, when we die, and, and yet there’s this dash in between-

Jim: Yeah (laughs).

John B.: … and what’s the dash for, right (laughs)?

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: What are we going to make of the dash? What’s it really about? And as I was standing there just thinking about that, you know, my dad had, um, kind of defined success the way everybody defines success in our culture, you know. You make a lot of money, you have a great family, you, you know, take great va- vacations, and, you know, you’re independent, financially well-off and all that. And yet, on his deathbed, he had said something to me, he said, “John, I’d give it all back if I could just have my health and my family.”

Jim: Wow.

John B.: And that marked me-

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: … and I stood there thinking about that, and it actually led me on a journey coming to faith in Jesus.

Jim: Yeah, I mean, that’s really good. Let, let me pull you back a bit ’cause, in the book, you also mentioned, uh, an experience with your dad about building a train, I think when you were a boy, and that had a good analogy for you. You learned something out of that. I don’t know why you took so long to come to Christ, John, but … (laughing) I mean, what was that analogy with the train set, building it?

John B.: Yeah. When I was, you know, I don’t know, maybe eight, 10, uh, my dad got one of those HO train sets.

John: Yep.

John B.: You remember those-

John: Mm-hmm.

John B.: … the, you know, electric trains and … but we decided to build a, a Colorado-like landscape, Pike’s Peak, you know, and, uh-

Jim: Beautiful.

John B.: … we did (laughing). And, you know, so we paper-mached, we sculpted it-

Jim: Wow.

John B.: … we laid out the track. It went through mountains and tunnels and there were, you know, towns and all this, and it was ama- … it took us, you know, I don’t know, five months probably to build it.

Jim: Wow. Yeah.

John B.: And it was awesome and, when it was done, we high-fived and, you know, we turned it on and it went around and it was, it was just, it was amazing. But, after about a month of watching the train go around and around, it started to lose its interest, and what I realized, looking back, is that it wasn’t just the train moving and going around that was so wonderful about that, it was me and my dad doing it together.

Jim: Uh-huh. Sure.

John B.: It was us making it together. The point, for us, is that there are a lot of dreams we have, there are a lot of hopes, there are a lot of ambitions. They’re not bad. They’re not necessarily bad. In fact, many of them are good, but many of them are like a finger pointing somewhere and I believe where it’s pointing is relationship. Without the relationship, first with God and then with others, all those other things, they lose their meaning. They’re just a train going around and around.

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: So that’s one of the things I talk about in Soul Revolution. We all have deep longings. They’re good, I think they’re from God, but sometimes we have shallow strategies.

Jim: Huh.

John B.: In other words, we don’t really understand how are these deepest longings going to be met? But what if you have all those, but you still don’t have contentment?

Jim: Right.

John B.: So our deepest longings, when we start to drill down-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

John B.: … they’re spiritual.

Jim: Right.

John B.: They’re what God promises by His spirit, love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, self-control, those kinds of things. And our deepest longings only get met when we understand what God’s deepest longing is, too, and God’s want, God’s dream, is for intimate relationship with you, with me.

Jim: Let, let me, yeah, let me get into that a little bit because, in the book, you talk about God’s longings. I don’t know that I’ve ever thought of that, other than God loves us and God built us for a relationship with Him and … but I didn’t carry it to the next conclusion, which is why did He do that-

John B.: Yeah.

Jim: … and that’s your point.

John B.: Well, and, if you think about it, you know, if His main desire was to get people to do right and quit doing wrong, if He’s God, couldn’t He make us? Couldn’t He force us to stop doing wrong and do, right?

Jim: Right, autocratic. Right.

John B.: He could, so why doesn’t He? Well, ’cause there must be something deeper He wants. He allows free will even against His will. Why? Well, because you can’t have love without free will, you can’t.

Jim: Exactly right.

John B.: I mean, let’s say, let’s say you fall in love with some person, right-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

John B.: … and you want them to love you back. You could shower them with gifts, right, with good things, but they might love the gifts, but not so much you still, right? So you can’t actually buy real love. You could try to force them. I guess you could put a gun to their head and say, “Marry me,” or “Love me,” or … and they might, out of fear, parrot it, but we would all know that’s not love. Love must be free. That’s true for God as well. And so that explains a lot of why God allows the things He allows in this world and even uses our disappointments to show us what it is deep down we really are longing for as well.

Jim: No, that is so good. You, you know, it’s interesting, though, because we typically, in the church, will lean toward living a life that’s more perfect, that is, you know, sinless because it’s pretty obvious in scripture that’s the goal, but the irony of ironies is the Lord is saying everything that you’ve just said, that, you know, “You’re going to learn more about me through those valleys that you go through,” sinful valleys, right?

John B.: Well-

Jim: And, and we don’t really, we don’t understand that, I think, as well as we should, that God … we’re not sh- … we tend to think of God as like a grandfather who’s shocked at our behavior, that would’ve never thought that you could do that-

John B.: Yeah. Yeah.

Jim: … but He knows everything. He knows how we behave as human beings, sinful human beings. Nothing is going to shock Him.

John B.: And the other incredibly freeing truth is that the life God wants with us is so simple, it’s so simple, (laughing) it really is, and we don’t have to work real hard, we don’t have to try real hard. You know, when, when my dad said that on his deathbed-

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: … the reason it struck me is because what someone says as their last words is what-

Jim: It’s poignant.

John B.: … you know, that’s the salient point of life to them, right?

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: Well, you know, Jesus did the same thing. He told us what matters most and it’s one thing. There’s only one thing you have to do as a Christian, listen up.

Jim: Yeah, lean in.

John B.: But but think about it, when Mary and Martha, uh, were preparing dinner for Jesus and the disciples, remember?

Jim: Mm-hmm.

John B.: You know, and Martha’s busy, busy and she’s frustrated with Mary sitting there listening to Jesus and Jesus says to her, “Martha, you’re working so hard. You’re so stressed out. There’s only one thing necessary, and Mary’s chosen it.” Okay, so just pause, like one, only thing is necessary. Well, we better figure out what that one thing is-

Jim: Right (laughs).

John B.: … and focus on that. And that is the same thing Jesus was saying His last night on Earth. So John, chapters 13 through 17, is actually what I based Soul Revolution, the book, on because Jesus said to us what was most important and it’s the same one thing. So the one thing He said to Mary and Martha was listening-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

John B.: … listening to the Lord is what’s most important, but He said it in a different way His last night on Earth. So he knows he’s going to leave. He’s trying to get it across to them. John, chapter 15, he says, “Look, I am the vine, you are the branches,” and, and I believe they’re actually going from the upper room down to the Garden of Gethsemane. He, I think He … they were going through the vineyard. He picks up a branch and he goes, “Let me just stick it in your head, guys, it’s this simple. A branch doesn’t have to work hard to produce fruit. All it has to do is stay connected to the trunk, the vine, and fruit happens naturally. I’m the vine, you’re the branches, stay connected to me, and you will bear much fruit. Apart from me, you can do some good things (laughing).” No. You can build big businesses, you can have great families, you can do this and that, but nothing that He intended, nothing that gets at the deepest longings, “Apart from me, you can do nothing,” so this would be the one thing. That’s the whole point that I’m trying to get across in Soul Revolution, that, actually, all we have to do is learn to stay connected, moment by moment, to God’s spirit and the rest of the things take care of themselves.

Jim: Right.

John: And John Burke is our guest today on Focus on the Family. He’s referenced the book Soul Revolution: How Imperfect People Become All God Intended. We’ll encourage you to get in touch with us for your copy. The details are at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, or call 1-800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Uh, John, that’s the core of the book, this idea of the 60-60 experiment. So describe what that is and let’s talk about it.

John B.: Well, let me tell you how I came to it-

Jim: Okay.

John B.: … because, just like, uh, anything else, many times, it only comes through disappointment, trying to get my deep longings met with a shallow strategy and God using that to show me how do I get what I really want with connection to Him? So when we planted Gateway Church, nothing went as planned.

(Laughter)

Jim: And here’s a disclaimer, normally, with the Lord, it doesn’t work out the way you think-

John B.: Yeah.

Jim: … it should (laughs). It’s rare.

John B.: Well, yeah, and, and we all know that, but when it actually hits, our response is different, right?

Jim: Right.

John B.: You know, so we were supposed to launch in the General Cinema movie theater. We had, you know, built this core group, raised money. We’re, you know, we sent out invitations and mailers and, two weeks before, General Cinema Los Angeles calls me and says, uh, “You can’t do church in our movie theater. It’s bad for business.” So I go back to the guy in Austin who signed the contract and, you know, well, he wasn’t supposed to sign the contract apparently. I’m talking to lawyer friends. I’m trying to figure out what-

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: … to do. We’re going to have a bunch of people show up in two weeks and no one … we can’t meet. And, um, nothing worked. And, finally, in desperation, finally, (laughs) we call a prayer meeting of our core group (laughs)-

John: Mm-hmm.

John B.: … and, and, on my way out the door to this prayer meeting, the phone rings. This is back when phones rang-

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: … you know, and you had to go back and get him (laughs).

Jim: Right. Yeah. You didn’t put them in your pocket (laughs).

John B.: It wasn’t my cellphone. And, uh, it was a pastor friend in Cincinnati who had this prompting to get someone he had led to the Lord connected to our church who was moving to Austin, and I told him, “Well, I don’t know where we’re going to have church,” and I told him why, and he said, “Well, I think there’s someone in my church who might know someone in the movie industry. Want me to talk to him?” And I said, “Sure,” and didn’t think about it.

Jim: Right (laughs).

John B.: We go, and we pray. The next week, I was like one desperate attempt, I go back to the movie house in Austin and, when I walked in, the guy goes, “Well, you guys have good connections,” and I go, “What do you mean?” He goes, “You haven’t heard?” He said, “The president of General Cinema in New York called the Los Angeles office and said, ‘Work it out with the church in Austin-‘”

John: Oh.

John B.: “… so you’re good to go.”

Jim: (laughs). That was a good friend (laughs).

John B.: Well, it was God’s prompting of my friend-

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: … to call me and he knew someone who knew some- … who knew the president. Now I thought everything was going to go great. Six months later … because, hey, God worked it out, right?

Jim: Yeah.

John: Yeah.

John B.: But then, six months later, we get kicked out, and then we had to move to six different locations during two years. Every time we moved, we lost people, we’re reach-

John: Yeah.

John B.: … it was so frustrating. I’m like, “Lord, what am I doing wrong?” And I got to the end of myself in disappointment and frustration and frustration with God-

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: … ’cause He’s not doing His will the way He’s supposed to.

Jim: And look what I’m trying to do for you (laughs).

John B.: And look what I’m doing for you. Look at all I’ve given for you. And, in that, He started whispering something into my mind, over and over, when I would start complaining, for about a year, but it was the same thing every time, “Am I enough? Am I enough?” And, at first, I was mad, I was like, “What? I left my engineering career to follow you into ministry. I left that ministry to come plant a church to help reach pe- … what do you mean am I enough? Haven’t I show …” And then I realized, “Oh, I guess not,” ’cause the truth is, if God, you know … loving God, loving my family, loving the people who are coming, and even with the difficulties that come, is not enough, God has to do things my way or I get mad and angry and frustrated with Him.

John B.: And so what I realize in this, and this is getting to the core of this whole 60-60 experiment in Soul Revolution, is Jesus’ prayer, what He taught us to pray is, “Your kingdom come, God, your will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven,” ’cause God’s will, mostly, is not done on Earth because we spend most of our time trying to get my will be done-

Jim: Sure.

John B.: … and that includes Christians and even pastors. And so I spent a whole year just practicing waking up every morning, surrendering my will, and trying to only do God’s will during that day as best I understood it-

Jim: Right.

John B.: … and it was amazing.

Jim: Well, and that’s the challenge you put in the book, so let’s talk about 60-60. What, what are you challenging your readers to do?

John B.: Yeah. So it came from that year of this experiment I did personally and the joy I started to feel, the peace I started to feel, uh, a deeper love for my children, I mean, these things that I really wanted. It was amazing. And I’m mowing the yard one day and I have, I’m talking to the Lord about it and I’m just saying, “I wish the people in my church could understand how great this life is with you,” and I had the thought, “Do an experiment for 60 days.” You know, it takes time to change a habit.

Jim: Right.

John B.: 60 days, every 60 minutes, set your, your watch beeper to go off, set an alarm to go off, or something to remind you, “Abide in me, remain in my love,” as Jesus said in John 15, you know, “and you will bear much fruit. Apart from me, you can do nothing,” so just get them to try it for 60 days and see what happens. And we did the … thousands of people have done this experiment and its life changing.

Jim: That’s amazing.

John B.: It’s life-changing-

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: … but it’s what Jesus said over and over, right? Paul said it in Galatians chapter 5, 5:16, “Walk by the spirit and you won’t carry out the desires of the flesh.” You don’t have to try to stop sinning or try to break that habit or this habit or that addiction, just walk by the spirit and you won’t do that. Instead, the fruit of the spirit, love, joy, peace, patience, ki- … all that will start to grow.

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: Only one thing is necessary, Martha.

Jim: Listen.

John B.: It’s the one thing, so we have to learn to stay connected. So that’s the experiment. Um, we created an app that’s out on the App Store called the Soul Revolution 60-60 Experiment. You can use the app or just set your alarm every 60 minutes or put little sticky notes in the mirror or on your computer-

John: Mm-hmm.

John B.: … and here’s the whole idea. We’re all in the habit … I mean, just think about it, when you wake up on a typical day, how much time do you spend making your plans and thinking about how to get them done versus, “Lord, what are you doing and what do you want me to do in each thought, in each moment, in each decision, with, with my coworkers, with my children?” And do we realize how much God loves us and is always with us and actually wants to guide us? That’s what Jesus said in John 16, “I’m going to send my spirit. He will always be with you, and He will lead you into truth.”

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: “He’ll lead you in the way of truth.”

Jim: You know, John, in that regard, uh, some people that might read the scripture says, you know, “Pray unceasingly,” and you go, “Seriously, how do you even do that?” How do you, you know, … you, you got to go do your banking, you got to work. How do you pray unceasingly, like you’re constantly in a state of prayer? It has that feel to it, like, man, it, it sounds impossible to do, every hour, every 60 minutes, but, yeah, people … really, John? I mean, really?

John B.: And that’s what I like to say is that’s not what we’re doing. We’re not trying to beat the Muslims in … instead of five times of prayer a day, we’re going to do 12.

Jim: Right (laughs).

John B.: That’s not it. That’s not it. It is learning to do life with this God who wants to do life with us, who truly loves us more than we can possibly imagine. And God is so good. I mean, this, this is the thing, is we’ve got to realize how much He loves us. In fact, one little experiment I’ve asked people to do sometimes is to realize that all love we experience is borrowed love. You know, the … this hit me one time when my children were little and, you know, when your children are little, they’re so cute, they’re so wonderful, but they’re cuter when they’re sleeping (laughing).

Jim: Not always, those little cutie-pies.

John B.: Well, and, you know, they’re just, they’re just there and there’s this little angelic face sleeping. And one night, I was just watching my, my daughter sleep and just praying over her and I just had this overwhelming sense of love for her, you know-

Jim: Right.

John B.: … just overwhelming. And in that moment, I heard the whisper of God say, “I love you more,” and it, it shocked me.

Jim: Right.

John B.: I mean, it wasn’t audible.

Jim: Right.

John B.: It was just a thought.

Jim: It came out of left field.

John B.: Came out of left field-

Jim: Yeah. I know the feeling.

John B.: … but then I, as I started to ponder it, you know, the Bible tells us God is love. There is no love apart from him, which means that all the love I’ve ever felt or given is just borrowed love and He loves me more and He loves you more. Whoever, whoever you are, whatever you’ve done, it doesn’t matter, He loves you more than you love your children, your spouse, more than you’ve experienced love from your grandparents, your parents. It’s all borrowed love.

Jim: That is so good.

John B.: And the point of that is, unless we realize who God is and that, because of what He’s done for us in Christ, He did that so we will walk with Him. He didn’t do that just to get us into Heaven one day and, believe me, I wrote about Heaven. I, I, I know about that, (laughing) right? That’s not why. He wants us to do life with Him in, in this loving relationship. That’s what Jesus was trying to get across in John 15-

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: … “As the father has loved me so have, I loved you,” right?

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: And no greater love than to lay down his life and, “Abide,” he said, “in that love, and you will abide in my love when you obey me, when you obey my commands, when you do what I, what I say.”

Jim: When you listen.

John B.: Listen and respond.

Jim: Yeah, exactly (laughs).

John: Mm-hmm.

John B.: So that’s the 60-60 experiment.

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: So what I say is it’s not stopping every 60 minutes to pray, it’s not that. If you do that, it’s good, it’s just totally missing it (laughs). What it actually is is it’s trying to reorient ourselves from a habit of ignoring God most of the day to realizing that God is with us all through the day and loves us and actually wants to guide and help us.

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: And I think what, what helps people is realizing it’s not changing your life, it’s reorienting your life. So, in other words, you don’t have to change necessarily anything you’re doing, but do it with the Lord. Think about it this way, you’re already going through life talking to yourself anyway, “Okay, what am I going to do now? Oh, why’d that person do that? Oh …” You, you’ve got this constant conversation in your head between you and yourself, just let God in. He already knows (laughs). There’s nothing we can hide from Him, so just let Him in. Understand that He is kind and merciful. He’s not condemning. There’s no condemnation for us in Christ Jesus, that’s grace, so that, what, uh, Romans 8:1, “So grace is so that we can fulfill the intent of the law,” that’s what it says. How? “By those who set their minds on the things of the spirit, not the things of the flesh.”

John B.: So it’s the 60-60 idea is where do we set our minds, moment by moment, throughout the day. That 60-minute interruption interrupts our old habit of forgetting about God and not listening and not necessarily being willing and it reorients us to be able to go, “Lord, how did I do last 60 minutes, listening and hearing and abiding, staying connected to you?” And, you know, attaboy yourself for the, the times you did. Don’t be harsh on yourself ’cause you’ll, you’ll miss it more than you get it right, but you’re learning.

Jim: And who doesn’t want that? I mean, that-

John B.: Yeah.

Jim: … that, ideally, is exactly the way we should live our lives and, as, as believers, you know, leaning into God. Uh, this is a great place to stop and, uh, I do want to come back next time and keep the discussion going, dig a little deeper. And what a wonderful resource-

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … uh, Soul Revolution, the 60-60 experiment, and you’ve heard kind of the tip of the iceberg, and I hope you’ll contact us to get a copy of John’s book and, man, we’ll make it easy for you. Just make a gift of any amount, we’ll send it as our way of saying thank you for getting involved and being part of the ministry to help others. If you can’t afford it, that’s okay, we’ll trust others will cover it. So, uh, just get in touch with us. If you’re saying, man, there’s a lot in here that I’m dealing with and you need to talk to somebody, we have caring Christian counselors who can help you, uh, digest some of what we have talked about today and, hopefully, uh, steer you either in a relationship with Jesus for the first time or to deepen it and, if we can do that, man, we have really hit our goal of helping you.

John: Yeah, we’re a phone call away. Our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY, 800-232-6459, or stop by FocusontheFamily.com/broadcast for all the details.

Jim: John, uh, let’s do that. Let’s continue next time and and go a little deeper with this great content from Soul Revolution. Can you, do it?

John B.: Oh, absolutely. Yeah.

Jim: Okay (laughs). Let’s do it.

John: Well, we’ll hope you’ll join us next time as we continue the conversation with John Burke. For now, on behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today. I’m John Fuller inviting you back as we, once again, help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder returns once more to Focus on the Family to discuss habits you can integrate into your marriage! Jim talks to Randy about pursuing the daily essentials of affection in your marriage, promoting emotional closeness, and leaving and cleaving properly. (Part 1 of 2)

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Trusting God When Times Are Hard (Part 2 of 2)

Crystal Evans Hurst shares fun stories about her family to make a serious point: only God has the right perspective on our life, especially when times are hard. We need to understand how being a child of God also makes us His responsibility, and what that really means in daily life. (Part 2 of 2)

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Accepting Your Imperfect Life

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

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Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

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Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

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With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

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With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

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Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

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Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

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How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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