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Finding God’s Goodness Even in Suffering (Part 2 of 2)

Finding God’s Goodness Even in Suffering (Part 2 of 2)

Pastor Peter Chin and his wife, Carol, talk about the struggles they experienced while planting an inner-city church, including a miscarriage, cancer diagnosis and home break-in. They discuss their fears, disappointment with God, and the miracles that happened along the way as they worked through their faith. (Part 2 of 2)

Opening:

Excerpt:

Carol Chin: And that’s when it clicked. And I said, “Is it something bad?” And he – he explained that there was – it was cancer. And that was the only thing ringing through my head after that point – cancer. I have cancer.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: No one wants to hear a doctor’s diagnosis of cancer or another serious illness, but that’s what Carol Chin was faced with a few years ago. It was just one aspect of difficulty and suffering that she and her husband Peter had to wrestle with. This is Focus on the Family with your host Focus president Jim Daly, I’m John Fuller and today: a look at God’s plan for suffering. How He can work through it and how He’s blessed the Chin family in the midst of sorrow.

Jim Daly: John, we heard quite a story last time from Peter and Carol Chin to build up our faith. And what a sweet couple they are. It’s unfortunate they’ve had to deal with so many hard circumstances but they are an inspiration to all of us and it’s not unique to them– I know many listening right now are going through difficult times as well. Peter and Carol shared about planting a church in the inner city, having a miscarriage, having their home burglarized, then Carol’s diagnosis with a serious and rare form of breast cancer and a very unnerving health insurance mix-up on top of all of it. Get the download or the CD of the broadcast last time, ‘cause it’s packed full of encouragement in the midst of pain and you can get the complete story in Peter’s book that we’re offering called,Blindsided by God. Peter is a pastor in Seattle, Washington and he and Carol have five children.

Body:

Jim: Peter and Carol, it is so good to have you back. Thanks for being with us again.

Peter Chin: Thanks for having us.

Carol: Thank you. Yeah, I’m glad to be back.

Jim: Carol, I want to keep the story moving forward, because in the midst of this diagnosis with breast cancer, you found out you’re pregnant.

Carol: Yeah.

Jim: I mean, OK, you have that history of the miscarriage. You have breast cancer, and now the doctor says you’re going to have a baby. How did you react to that? And what was the doctor saying about your ability to carry a child, to give birth to a child? And all the fears you must have had that being pregnant during cancer treatment – what that could do to your child – process that for us.

Carol: Yeah, it was – it was crazy. January 5th was the day that I was scheduled to go in for my surgery – mastectomy. And – um – we’re going through all the regular routine preparations for surgery. And I was waiting to meet with the surgeon to go over the procedure. And before then I had, you know, given different samples. And they run their tests because I’m a woman. They have to check if I’m pregnant or not. And she came in and looked at me and said, “Carol, you’re pregnant. I’m assuming you’re keeping the baby, and everything is going to be fine.” And I just sat there. I didn’t have words.

Jim: What a blast of news, I mean, when you think about the context of what you’re there for…

Carol: Yeah.

Jim: …And then to get that unexpected comment. Wow.

Carol: Right, new life in the face of something that’s potentially lethal. It was just – I didn’t know how to respond to it.

Jim: Did you – did you…

Carol: It was just amazing.

Jim: …Consider that a blessing or a curveball?

Carol: I didn’t – actually, I didn’t know what to think of it. It was…

Jim: Just numb.

Carol: …It was – I – I didn’t know.

Jim: Yeah.

Carol: It was – again, it’s just something so stunning and so shocking, so unexpected. Um, I just sat there. And she called Peter in. We talked about just going ahead with the surgery anyway, because it was so important to get the cancer out – um – to stop it from spreading further. And my surgeon reassured me that the anesthesiologist – because that was the main concern – me going – being under general anesthesia, while pregnant. She reassured me that the anesthesiologist felt confident thatthe baby would be OK during the surgery. And that was – we just had to take it one step at a time.

Jim: Yeah. Peter were you processing this? I mean, what are you thinking now?

Peter: In that moment, actually, it was interesting because when I heard the surgeon, I heard – I don’t think surgeons usually say that. They usually aren’t that direct about what you’re going to do. They ask questions. What would you like to do here? Instead, she was more forthright. She said, you know, I’m assuming you’re keeping this child. And it felt like God had placed those words on her lips. She could have said anything more neutral and more – you know, less leading. But it felt like – like God was saying something through her, that – that this child was – was from Him.

Jim: It caught your attention…

Peter: It did. It really…

Jim: …In a positive way.

Peter: I mean, it didn’t sound like a doctor. It sounded like…

Jim: Yeah.

Peter: …What, you know, a pastor, or someone, you know, a family friend might say. And it was in that moment that I – I felt for the first time, probably over the – you know, in that period, that God was truly present. And Carol had the faith to believe it. And I – I’m Thomas, even though my name is Peter. Like…

Jim: (Laughter).

Peter: …I had to see it. And it was the sense that – as if God was saying, I am here. But He was here in a moment, in a way that I did not imagine. My – my understanding of “God, You’re here” is, oh, she’s been cured. We don’t have to do surgery. But instead, He was saying, no, I’m giving you a child. And that felt very strange, as if God was doing something in a way that I never could have ever imagined. And it made me think immediately of the annunciation of God answering the prayers of Israel through the child born of a carpenter. And, you know, Him answering something in extraordinary way that no one actually asked for.

That was what – we had never asked for a child in that moment. We had never prayed, “God give us a child, while Carol goes through treatment.”

Jim: Peter, to – to make this even more real for the listeners – and I know a lot of men will connect with what I know about your basement story – but you did have that tearful encounter saying, God, what’s happening? Describe what occurred.

Peter: Yeah, it was – it goes back to Google, again. It goes back to the Internet and just kind of – I was researching as much as I could on Carol’s cancer, and there really wasn’t any good news. There wasn’t any new developments. There wasn’t any new treatments. There was simply that this is one of the most lethal form of cancer, especially for young women. That was – that was the bottom line. There was no real, you know, second kind of thing to be talked about. And the more I read that, the more I kind of absorbed that knowledge, the more it began to dawn on me that this could be the end of my wife’s life. You know, this may not just be a chapter. This could be the end of it.

And when that began to really dawn on me, it – it really affected me. And I couldn’t imagine what my life would look like after that, and so there was one night where I had a terrible dream and kind of wept – you know, woke up weeping. And in order not to disturb Carol, I went, you know, downstairs. But it kind of – I was overcome with emotion. I had to go down to the basement to kind of separate myself from my children and from my wife – not to disturb them. So it was kind of a three-story kind of moment, you know, of mourning. And in that moment, I, you know, I was crying and just kind of really crying out to the Lord, asking, you know, where was He, what He was doing. And my sense, in that moment, was – you know, I relate this in the book – but that He was saying stop crying, that He was saying, it’s not going to help, that this is the moment where you have to stand up, and you have to be strong for your family.

And it made me realize that there is – there is space for a lament. I mean, there’s the Book of Lamentations and Ecclesiastes. And Jesus, Himself, laments in the Garden of Gethsemane. But when it’s time for Jesus to get up, He – He gets up. And He faces what’s in front of Him. And I think that’s – that was the moment at which I realized that there was a space for me to lament, but it was time for me to actually face the situation that was in front of us, to stop lamenting what could have been and what I felt should have been and the cards I wish I had been dealt, and instead, to play the hand that was right in front of me.

Jim: Carol, we can’t end this part of the story without telling us what happened. I think you referred to this, when you described your kids, it must be Jonathan. You referred to him as your special one.

Carol: Yes, that’s right.

Jim: So, Jonathan was born. And how is he today?

Carol: He’s perfect. He’s a perfect little…

Jim: (Laughter).

Carol: …Typical little…

Jim: That’s a momma talkin right there, right? – he’s perfect. That’s good.

Carol: He’s difficult…

Jim: Yeah.

Carol: …Six years going on 7-year-old.

Jim: So he made it through and was born healthy.

Carol: Yes.

Jim: And…

Carol: We waited until I was way – well into my second trimester of pregnancy before we began chemo, in order to make sure that all his little organs had the best chance of developing normally. And so – um – into my second trimester, we started chemo. And, I had about a month to recover from that from – between the end of chemo and the time that he was born.And then…

Jim: About a month. Wow.

Carol: Yeah, about a month. And then…

Jim: Every woman just went, what?

Carol: (Laughter).

Jim: I mean, a month to recover from chemo and then give birth to your child.

Carol: Yes. Yeah.

Jim: OK.

Carol: And then about a month after he was born, we began radiation treatment, which was a daily thing for about six weeks. But I – he’s great, and I’m doing well. And I just – I marvel at God’s design of a woman’s body and the way thatHe’s designed the pregnancy and the placenta and everything. I believe that the placenta is just an amazing organ. He – Jonathan was not touched by these incredibly toxic chemo drugs – so toxic that my nurse had to handle them with these…Terribly thick rubber gloves, thisred chemo fluid that – um – would actually pass through my urine, make my urine red. And I was told that I needed to be very cautious about, you know, my – after I had had that treatment. Um…

Jim: But the…

Carol: …But it was so toxic that she, you know, she had to wear these thick rubber gloves. And it’s going through my whole body as a systemic treatment. But Jonathan was just untouched. And he’s…

Jim: That is amazing. I had never thought about it in that way.

Peter: Just to give some sense, before we even started chemo, we talked to very, very experienced doctors, who told us not to go through with the pregnancy, that they felt like this chemo treatment, because of its potency, because of what it does, which is kill dividing cells, which is cancer, that…

Jim: Which is also pregnancy.

Peter: Which is also what a child is.

Jim: Yeah.

Peter: That there was no way this child would come unscathed, because of that. And also that, you know, you can’t delay the treatment at all, because you don’t want the cancer to spread. So, you know, just do away with the pregnancy and go ahead with the treatment.

Jim: My goodness.

Peter: And that’s best. But we really felt that, again, that it was – this was God’s plan. We didn’t know why He had given us this child, but we did feel conflicted about that. And so even though this doctor had the best intentions and was actually a friend of ours, we went ahead with the pregnancy. Andlike Carol was describing, that – we were blessed to see Jonathan born bigger than either one of his sisters – so not low birth weight, born pretty much on time. So he wasn’t premature in any way.And yeah, no – you know, no – no effects that we could see at that time. So it was a real blessing.

Jim: And at this point, the doctor had said to you that having children in the future was probably not going to happen. Is that correct?

Carol: Right, just given the nature of going through cancer treatment.

Jim: So…

Carol: …And the systemic…

Jim: Yeah, you had a different answer, and the Lord had a different answer…

Carol: (Laughter).

Jim: …Because you had two more children.

Carol: Right.

Jim: I mean, that had to be incredible for you to get that kind of prognosis that your ability to bear children in the future will be zero. And yet, that wasn’t the case.

Carol: Mm-hmm.

Peter: And it felt – again, kind of what we’ve learned through this experience is you never tell God what He can’t do. It’s just not a wise thing to do – that when people – you know, when – when the doctors told us that we wouldn’t have children, we were somewhat OK with that. We had three children by that point. But then to find out we had a fourth was surprising. And then the doctors told us, well, that’s – that’s a fluke. It won’t happen again. And then we had a fifth.

Jim: (Laughter).

Peter: So we – we – just don’t tell God what to do. We don’t tell him what He’s not going to do or able to do anymore.

John: Peter and Carol Chin are our guests on Focus on the Family and if you’re connecting with their story, maybe you’re in a valley in your life, experiencing some hardship, be sure to get the book by Pastor Peter Chin called Blindsided by God. That details their story and is gonna help you overcome difficulties. You can also get a CD or download of this conversation. Our website is focusonthefamily.com/radio or our number is 800-A-FAMILY.

Jim: Peter and Carol, in this last few minutes, I think we need to help equip people. Your story’s unique. In many ways, your story has turned out in a very positive way, although there has been a recurrence, correct?

Peter: That’s right. A little over a year ago, Carol went into the doctor, and they actually didn’t want to do tests. They felt like, no, she’s past the mark where we’re concerned about this. But me being, again, the careful, cautious one, I advised her to go ahead and get the tests anyway. And they did discover a recurrence of her cancer, this time in a slightly different area. And so yeah, that was – that was shocking to us. And we were – you know, we were hoping that we were beyond that time period for it to recur. But at the same time, what I realized – that many of the things that we had experienced before came back in a positive way, that we were able to process this and mourn, but also to realize we’ve seen God before in a very similar situation. We’ve seen Him in doctor’ offices. We’ve seen Him in the midst of raising children.

And so what I – what I think is important is that there’s no happy ending as if, you know, God does one thing and you never suffer again. You will suffer again. And I think a lot of people who are listening, probably their stories may have not turned out the same. And maybe someone they loved did pass away. But to recognize that God is still there in the midst of – of even – no matter what our ending is, that He is present with us, even in the valley of the shadow of death. And so I think, you know, that’s – He still is with us right now, and He’s shaped how we’ve faced this, but also, you know, what will we look forward to in the future?

Jim: Carol, how about for you in hearing that news that you’ve had this recurrence – what – how do you process that? And what are you saying to the Lord in your quiet time today? What does that sound like?

Carol: Like Peter shared, it was unexpected. And we – we thought, since we had passed the five-year mark, which is, you know, a – a marker, by which typically recur – cancer recurrence is measured at nothing. We were beyond, you know, having to worry about that. But I cling to the promise inPhilippiansthat Christ is the source of thepeace that passes all understanding.And, you know, even when it doesn’t make sense, I trust that with Jesus in my life, I can have that peace that protects me and my thoughts and my heart. And so, I just really cling to the Word.

Jim: Well, and let me say, so often, when we’re suffering, and we’re looking for God, the simple things – that – that slight breeze, not thunder and lightning, as He works through our lives, we fail to recognize that slight breeze of the Spirit of God, because we’re looking for that strong, severe answer. And what I mean by that is that – that obvious answer. The doctor says, you’re clear. You’re good. Peter, you had the “angry woman” experience. Someone heard your story.And I think it’d be helpful if you could share that with us.

Peter: Yeah, that was – that was an interesting moment where I was sharing our testimony a little while after, you know, all this happened. And a woman came up to me, and you could see the – the anger in her eyes. And just – you could – I could – you could feel it kind of emanating from her. And as she came up, she said, you know, that’s a – that’s a nice story, but my story didn’t end that way, and my husband did pass away. And some – a family friend, I think, had stolen from them in that moment in that, as well.

Jim: Oh, my goodness.

Peter: Her – through tears, just such – with such sincerity, not with bitterness towards me, but just – from a really difficult place, she – she asked me, “Where’s my happy ending?” Where’s my happy ending?” And in that moment, I had a couple of things that I could have said, or a couple of options of how to respond, but my response immediately was, tell me about your husband. Tell me what he was like. Tell me about your story.

Jim: That didn’t feel like a natural response for you.

Peter: No, it wasn’t. And the reason it wasn’t, it’s because previously, I would have tried to give a theological answer. I would have given her, well, this is what you should know. You should have known this X, Y and Z. But I think what suffering and that – that story of suffering had done, it allowed me to come alongside people who were suffering to have real compassion and the root word of compassion is’ suffering with.’ It’s not just – you know, understanding suffering people, it’s suffering with them.

And so it allowed me to engage her in a different way, and then to help her to remind her that we were never told that we’d be bulletproof. But we were told that God would be with us, and to pray with her that God help her to see where you are. If she’s not seeing you in this place, help her to see those small moments, like you were saying. And, you know, I corresponded with her some time later, and – that – she is beginning to thrive, finally. And she attributes that moment, not as the answer, but as just a changing point…

Jim: A change point.

Peter: A stepping stone along the way that gave enough time for God to continue the story in her life. And so, I really love that – that sometimes we don’t give answers. We give people help to get through a tough period, so that God continue to weave our stories so…

Jim: Yeah.

Peter: …We can see what He’s really doing.

Jim: Well, and there’s so many directions in this. I mean, you think of your three additional children, starting with Jonathan, after you had your two in a healthier environment, without all the chaos, and then you’ve had three children since. And I would think, as a father myself, the Lord may have an incredible plan for all three of those kids, one of those kids in a very unique way, they’re to accomplish something for Him. And that’s a beautiful way to think about it, as well, that we don’t understand God’s plan for 10 years from now, 25 years from now, 50 years from now, other than He’s going to collect to Himself as many people as possible, so that the Kingdom of God is filled with His folks, right?

And, uh, I think in that context, what you’re sharing today does give people hope that if you’re in the pit of despair, if you do not feel God, um, I am hopeful – and I know you are, as well – that your testimony, your story will give, spiritual power to these folks to trust God no matter what, whether the answer comes – or it doesn’t – in the way that you want it to come.And, what your story does is encourage all of us to choose Him. That’s the better decision. So you put the cap on it. And then I want you to pray for folks. But, um, what are your feelings now at the very, um, kind of in the middle, still, of all this? Spiritually speaking, where are you today? Where are you headed?

Peter: Yeah, you know, I think the – that experience of that year has really shaped my theology and I think our theology, how we look at life, and how we interact with our family. It shapes so many aspects of our lives. And what I think it’s done, more than anything, is that it’s opened our eyes to the reality of suffering around us, that we are aware of suffering and its reality, both in our lives – so when Carol was re-diagnosed, it was shocking, but not nearly as shocking as before. We knew it. We knew this could happen this time. And even in other people’s lives, we’re more aware of – of how – how bad things can go. Um, but at the same time, we’re also equally aware of how present God can be. And those two things are not mutually exclusive. We can be aware of suffering and be fully present in it, while also being fully expectant of God moving. There’s a mystery in that, that it’s not that these two things cancel each other out, but that God is present in that pain.

And so that – that, I think, is the main thing I would kind of want a listener to go away with, is that, yes, suffering is real. And suffering is – is terrible. And it’s weightiness on us can be really, really horrific. But at the same time, God is equally real and greater still, that He can use – like you were saying, in the book of Romans – use all things for the good of those who love him. And so, uh, sometimes it’s just using our faith to give us enough time to see that actually happen – not giving up in the middle of the process, but allowing – a – God enough time in our story and our narrative to show, yes, I am present in the midst of the suffering. I’m doing something good and not giving up, before He’s able to really weave that into our story.

Jim: Well, you know, uh, in the U.S., at least – I think this is true for Canada – we often will say, “How you doing today?” And we give a polite response, because it’s the right cultural thing to do. “Oh, doing great, how are you doing?” “Oh, I’m doing great.” That’s not always the case, typically. But, uh, that comparison for me, in the Christian community, is that we’ve kind of absorbed that kind of casual reference, haven’t we? We don’t want to talk about pain and suffering within the Christian community, because it doesn’t fit what we want to believe about God, but God himself is saying you are going to suffer because of Me. And, uh, we need to be willing to embrace that, and to understand it and to still trust God, regardless of our circumstances.

Peter: It prepares us for the reality of life, and, you know, knowing those things. But it also allows us to see God more clearly. And the one illustration I love to use is the stars. You know, the stars are out even during the daytime. They’re out all the time.

Jim: We just can’t see ‘em.

Peter: You can’t see them because the sky is already so bright. And the time that you see the stars is when – when the sky becomes dark. And then you realize how plentiful they are, and how beautiful they are and – and, you know, how amazing they are. And it’s that contrast that allows us to see them. And so I think that’s what suffering is sometimes. Suffering allows the contrast for us to be able to identify what God is really doing.

When everything is blissful in our lives, sometimes we can’t see God, because it’s like looking into the day sky and not realizing how many brilliant things He has made – and sometimes, in the darkest moments, where you look up and you realize God is all around me. Because my life is so dark, I can see Him appropriate in that – appropriately now.

Jim: Let me turn to you and say if you’re suffering, we are here for you. We may not be able to make everything right. But we are willing to engage with you. We want you to call us. We want to help to the degree that we can help, provide, a resource, a tool, acopy of this broadcast,whatever we can do to be there for you. Um, do it. Don’t hold back. Life has difficulties – doesn’t mean you’re weak. And we are – um, we count it a privilege if you will make that phone call.

John: And our number is800-A-FAMILY. We’re online. We’re atfocusonthefamily.com/radio.

Jim: Peter And Carol, I can’t think of a better way to end this broadcast than for the both of you, if you’re willing, to pray for those that are still hurting. Um, as a pastor, as a pastor’s wife – everything, Carol, that you’re still going through – you and Peter both and your kids. Can you lift those up that are suffering?

Peter: Yeah, I’m happy to.

Jim: Let’s do it.

Peter:Father God, we do want to lift up those who are in, uh, the fight of their lives right now, God, and who have a hard time seeing you, Lord. And Lord, I pray that, through the Word, they be reminded that, we were never promised a blissful life, God. We were never promised a pain-free life. But instead, you have promised that you will be with us in the midst of our struggles, God. And so I pray that, uh, our understanding of who You are, our theological perspectives would be shaped by this moment, God.

I pray they would realize that, um, that their pain and their suffering is not evidence of your absence, God, but that you are present in this moment, Lord. And I pray that You would reveal that to each one of them, God – in your way, in your time, Lord – and that you would give them enough faith, enough perseverance, to allow You enough space to continue to weave their story together, continue to demonstrate that You are present in their moments, Lord. Um, so God, I pray for your spirit in their lives to give them that sense of strength and perseverance, to open your Word unto them, God – and for their – their spiritual eyes to be open – to be able to see the stars in the middle of the night, to see the brilliant things, the moments of love and care that You provide for all your people.

Peter: Amen.

Jim: Amen.

John: Amen.

Jim: Peter and Carol Chin, uh,Blindsided By God.Thanks for being with us.

Peter: You’re welcome.

Carol: Thank you.

Closing:

John: Well Jim, I have no doubt that God has been speaking to hearts right now.

Jim: Oh definitely! You can feel it! Maybe you’re like the woman that Peter described moments ago and you’re wondering why God has allowed you to go through such suffering and pain with no answers in sight. We want to encourage you to hang in there and keep trusting God. Call us for counseling. We can offer some initial input and provide you some biblical direction and discernment. Also be sure to ask for a copy of Peter Chin’s book Blindsided by God. We want to put that into your hands.

John: Yeah, we’ve got so many excellent resources here and we need your generous support to continue providing those and making radio programs like this. Make a donation today to Focus on the Family and we’ll send Peter’s great book to you as our way of saying thank you for your support.

Jim: In fact, John, I want to thank some generous donors who are helping us to double the impact of your gift today. When you contact us and donate, these dear friends will match your gift to double it and help others through the ministry here. So if you can give $50, they match it with $50 and your gift becomes $100. And we are excited and grateful to everybody to participate in that way at the end of the year.

Dora Lee from Texas recently sent us a personal note to thank, really you, for encouraging her family through many many hardships. Her husband left the faith for a while and suffered from depression, but he’s now back walking in faith with the Lord again. One of their children had a stroke as an infant and has some medical needs. She says, “Focus has helped me tore-framemy hardships and allowed me to be refined by the Lord through suffering. Thank you for all that you invest in sowing the good seed.”

Let me bend that to you that support us– she’s thankingyoubecauseyoumade it happen through Focus! So thank you for that testimony and that acknowledgement of the Lord’s work in their lives.

John: Be a part of the ministry that Focus on the Family has to so many people through radio programs and resources. Donate, get the book, CD or download when you visit focusonthefamily.com/radio or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

Well join us next time as we hear some inspiration and encouragement to teens from Sadie Robertson.

Teaser:

Sadie Robertson: So, instead of being scared and running from these times, like, embrace it, you know and run straight for it and find your purpose and your passion and be Spirit-led.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!