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Finding Hope and Healing After Losing a Child

Finding Hope and Healing After Losing a Child

Counselor and author Pam Vredevelt discusses the grief she and her husband experienced after losing two children, and she offers encouragement and advice for managing hurt, letting go of the past, and trusting God through tragedy. She also offers insight for talking appropriately to grieving people.

Opening:

Announcement:

Jim Daly: Hi, I’m Jim Daly with John Fuller, here to remind you that Tuesday, November 6th, is an important midterm election, and you’re encouraged to vote. The midterm may not receive the media attention that a presidential election does, but it’s vitally important that you cast your vote.

John Fuller: And if your state has early voting, you may be able to vote weeks before November 6th. The key though, is that you participate.

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End of Announcement

Excerpt:

Pam Vredevelt: And that hit me like a two-by-four between the eyes. It was like, “That’s exactly what I’m doing. I’m looking for something to blame. I’m looking for an answer. I’m trying to figure this thing out.” And God was saying, “Don’t try to figure it out. Don’t waste your energy on that anymore. Look instead for what I can do.”

End of Excerpt

John: That’s Pam Vredevelt, and she’s our guest today on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. Thanks for joining us. I’m John Fuller.

Jim: John, when a husband and a wife are expecting a baby, it’s life changing. You’re thinking of all the excitement and joy of bringing that bundle home and the future of that child. But sometimes things go wrong and the joy of new life is cut short by death, miscarriage, or stillbirth in that way. You’re left with worry and guilt and devastating loss instead of that beautiful baby that you pictured. Those feelings are difficult to deal with. And I know some in our audience have gone through that. You might be going through that right now or maybe a family member. Pam Vredevelt has experienced this. And she’s gonna share her story and offer some ways to navigate grief to once again find hope. And I think that’s her great privilege and desire, is to help you see it, maybe, from a different perspective. Here at Focus on the Family, we are there for you. We want you to call if you’re suffering in some way, perhaps in this very direct way – the loss of a child. But we want to talk with you. If you need our help, we’re there for you.

John: Yeah. We have caring Christian counselors on staff, and they’ll be happy to have a phone call conversation with you and help you understand kind of some next steps and maybe some connections in your local community. Our number is 800-A-FAMILY, 800-232-6459.

And Pam is a popular conference speaker. She’s an author. She’s a licensed professional counselor. And her bestselling book is Empty Arms, which recounts her story of miscarriage and provides hope to those who experienced loss.

Body:

Jim: Pam, welcome to Focus on the Family.

Pam: Thank you so much. It’s wonderful to be here.

Jim: You know, I want to start here because we’ve spent a little time before the program here talking, and you just have such a great spirit of joy, and yet, you’ve suffered a lot. And we’ll get into that in a moment. When you read Paul’s words in the New Testament about suffering leading to endurance, leading to character, leading to hope, does that equation make sense to you?

Pam: It absolutely makes sense to me.

Jim: And why?

Pam: It makes sense to me because I think he’s talking about an experience that we have in relationship with God. When we go through those dark valleys and those places of suffering, it is when we meet our Lord in those places in a very personal and deep way where fresh life and fresh breath is literally breathed into us by our God.

Jim: And perspective.

Pam: And perspective. So often in those dark hours where you just kind of feel lonely and you’re suffering in silence, and I cried out to God and asked Him, “What’s the perspective here? I’m missing something because I’m not seeing, obviously, what You need me to see to be able to be at peace here.”

Jim: Well, let’s paint that picture for the audience because they don’t know your story. Paint that picture of grief and loss, what you and your husband John went through. Describe it. Describe the emotion of it. But fill in the blanks for us.

Pam: So I remember the day so well. I was five months pregnant going into the doctor, so excited, wearing my first full-blown maternity dress and…

Jim: That you had to buy because you had to go out and shop…

Pam: Oh, I just had to do it.

Jim: …Because you didn’t have one. This was your first pregnancy.

Pam: Our first pregnancy. And course, you know, we were in ministry. My husband was a youth pastor for a huge church. And everybody was praying. They’d waited nine years for Pam and John to get pregnant, finally, you know. So I go into the doctor’s office and notice the amusement in the waiting room, which is always a bit entertaining. And then went in to hear the heartbeat. And I was so excited to hear it again. And the doctor began to probe with the little Doppler. And he was kind of stoic when he was watching the Doppler and not really saying much. And the nurse was stoic. And I began to get a little nervous because about a minute went by and there wasn’t anything that was happening.

Jim: So you’re having that sense?

Pam: I had a sense something’s up.

Jim: Right.

Pam: And I didn’t anticipate anything being wrong, so it was rather a shock. He said “Well, let’s go into the next room. I have some more sophisticated instruments and we want to get a picture of what’s going on in there.” And so the nurse began to probe with the ultrasound device. And on the screen – she was looking at it for the longest time and wasn’t saying a word. Finally, I blurted out and said, “What are you seeing? Can you tell me anything?” And she said, “I’m just not sure, just let me look a little bit more.” And then she left the room…

Jim: Right, without answering the question?

Pam: …Without answering the question. And I’m on the table thinking, “What on earth is going on?” It really did not cross my mind that this baby was dead. But the doctor came in. And he looked at the screen. And he said, “I’m not seeing any heartbeat. And I think the baby is dead.”

Jim: Just that blunt? Used that word even?

Pam: Yes. Just like that.

Jim: Wow.

Pam: And I said, “Wait, how – how can this be happening?” And he said, “The baby’s fully formed, right on schedule, and it looks as if the baby died about a day or two ago.”

Jim: Oh, my goodness.

Pam: I said, “Well, can you tell me anything? Can you explain why?” He said, “No, we’ll need to go through labor and delivery and then we’ll explain more if we have some answers.”

Jim: You know, as I think of this, even in that conversation, for a medical doctor to talk about life and death in the womb – “Your baby is dead” – that suggests the baby was alive. I mean, when you think of the bigger issue of abortion, even from a medical context. What a statement, you know, “Your baby is gone.” That means the baby was there. I mean, you think about that. But Pam, I mean, again, the grief of that, what happened next? What was happening emotionally for you? How did – where was John? Had you talked to John yet? Was he in the…

Pam: No. John was back at the church in meetings that morning. And I said, “Oh, not a problem. I’ll just go ahead and go alone.” Oh, how I wish, you know, after that that I hadn’t said that. But I said to the nurse, “How can this be? You know, so – so many people have been praying for this baby from the moment they found out that we were pregnant.” And she said, “I really don’t have any answers for you on that. We’ll find out more after delivery.” So I drove home. Left the doctor’s office that day, my world turned upside down. And to that point in time, I had not suffered any catastrophic loss. I hadn’t even lost grandparents at that point. So this was an unknown territory for me.

Jim: Right. How would you describe who you are? How you are wired? Were you a joyful person? A cup half full person?

Pam: No. They used to call me Pollyanna when I was, you know, growing up because I would typically see the happy side of life.

Jim: Okay.

Pam: I would just lean towards seeing the joy around me. And I think I picked that up from my mom. My mom was a lot like that. And uh…

Jim: So this blow, bam…

Pam: This blow shattered my worldview. All of a sudden, I realized I’m not invulnerable. I really don’t have control. There are things in life that are really big that I have no say in.

Jim: Did that turn toward an anger in God’s direction? I mean, did you question Him? Was there a – where was your faith at, I guess, is the bigger question?

Pam: Absolutely. Absolutely. I questioned God. Oh, we had a lot of long discussions. And He heard – boy, did He hear from me. I uh, I like to write because it’s one way to express pain and suffering. And I often wrote letters to God in my journal and just explained my thoughts and feelings. But yeah, of course, I just was in a place – “God, how could you let this happen when all these prayers have been going up for this little baby? And we’ve waited so long. We’re so thrilled. We’ll be good parents. How come we can’t take this baby home?” And so I drove straight to the church office to see John. And I walked into his office. And I said, “I have some really sad news. The baby didn’t make it. The baby’s gone.” And he just got up and hugged me and held me and said, “It’s okay, honey. It’s okay. We’ll get through this. We’ll get through it.”

Jim: And you’d been trying for years and years to have a child?

Pam: Been trying for a number of years. I was in graduate school, so we waited for a while. But we had been trying for a good piece of time and…

Jim: Pam, I want to introduce another side of your story, and then we’ll continue with the discussion. I really do want to know how John managed it as a man. I think it’s important for us as men to understand that, spiritually and practically, how to help our wives through that moment. But you eventually had another child, and that child had Down syndrome.

Pam: Well, I did have three children after that. Our first baby, Jessie, was born two years later. In fact, she was born on the same day Empty Arms came off the press, so it was quite a celebration delivering this little new baby and seeing the birth of a book that would hopefully meet the needs of other women that had suffered.

Jim: Where was your son in that three birth order?

Pam: So our daughter Jessie is the oldest, and then our son Benjamin is the middle, and then our son Nathan was born – surprise pregnancy through foolproof birth control…

Jim: Right.

Pam: …With Downs.

Jim: Just, again, I think to help the audience really understand: you know grief, you know sorrow and you can still praise the Lord. I mean, to me that’s the essence of your story, which is powerful. But he also went through a tragic situation. What happened?

Pam: Yeah. So Nathan was affectionately known as our little, unguided missile.

Jim: Okay.

(LAUGHTER)

Pam: We nicknamed him that because he loved to bolt. He had no sense of fear and a huge sense of adventure and loved people. And he’d get something in his mind and he would just want to go and make it happen. So when he was 16 years old, some friends of ours had offered us tickets to the Trail Blazers game. And they had a suite…

Jim: That’s basketball, for those that don’t know.

Pam: …Basketball. Portland Trail Blazers…

Jim: NBA.

Pam: …Yeah, NBA. And so they had a suite up above, looking down. And that particular night, John came down with the flu. And so we decided I better stay home with John. And we let Nathan go ahead and go. And we gave our tickets to a young couple that are really sweet friends of ours. And he knew Nathan well because he had been his aide at camp – at church camp. So they went together with Nathan that night. And then our daughter and son-in-law were also there amongst a big group of people. And during halftime, Nathan needed to use the restroom. So he went to the restroom, which was in the suite. And the aide and my daughter were just kind of waiting around the corner for him. And he was in there for quite a long time. So my daughter went and knocked on it – on the door. And it was locked, which was his thing. And he didn’t answer, which was also his thing.

Jim: Right.

Pam: And so she thought, “Okay, give him another couple of minutes.” Went back another couple minutes later, door was still locked. She started really knocking and saying “Nathan, you need to answer me.” Well, he was not answering. And he was not in there. And he had skipped out of the suite…

Jim: Somehow passed their supervision and slipped out?

Pam: Oh, it was – the door to the exit hallway was just right around the corner from the bathroom. And he had this sixth sense when somebody wasn’t watching. He slipped out that little doorway. And it was halftime, so hundreds of people were milling around, you know, outside the suite. And Nathan loved elevators. So we figured out later that he hopped on the elevator right outside the suite, got out on the ground floor, went out the front doors, ran outside on some adventure, and he ran onto the highway and he was hit that night by a car. And four days later he passed.

Jim: I mean, again, when you look at what’s happening in that regard, the loss of life – no death in your family, your grandparents are still alive, your parents alive, and then you have the loss – the miscarriage – of your first child and then the loss of Nathan this way in a tragic accident. People are going, “You had to shake your fist at God. You got to be saying ‘Lord, what are you doing to me? Why?’“

Pam: Oh, I clearly asked why.

Jim: Is it okay to ask why?

Pam: Oh, you better believe it’s okay to ask why. Yes, it’s okay to ask why because when we suffer catastrophic loss, we are wired – we are created by our Creator to try to make sense out of that loss. And so the natural question is going to be, “Why?” And the safest place to take those whys is to God, and to ask for perspective, and to wrestle those questions and those doubts and those fears and that anger through – with God.

Jim: When was the day that you could wake up with that joy again? Was it fairly immediate? Or did it take time for you to feel joy?

Pam: After Nathan passed, if I’m truly honest with you, I would say I did not feel joy for several years. I felt – maybe I should say I didn’t feel happiness. There was a sense of joy, but it wasn’t the happy feeling that I would typically be known for. But the peace and the contentment that came from knowing where Nathan is would carry me. But I remember driving down the – one of the main streets in Gresham, and there was a song on the radio that was talking about Heaven. And I was just crying, tears streaming down my face. And I was saying, “God, will I ever feel joy again? Will I ever feel joy?”

Jim: Yes. Good question.

Pam: And I wondered – I hoped I would. But I didn’t know, frankly, because it was so dark.

Jim: Yeah. Boy.

John: And if you can’t answer that question, then please call us here at Focus on the Family. We have caring Christian counselors. If you’d prefer not to call, we do have a lot on our website about loss and grief and how God can speak in those moments. Our number is 800-A-FAMILY. And online, we’re at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

And we’re talking with Pam Vredevelt. And she’s written a book called Empty Arms. And it’s directed specifically at men and women who have gone through miscarriage. But as you can tell, there’s so much more here to her story about loss and grief. I think the book will speak to you, regardless of the specifics of your circumstance.

Jim: Yeah. That’s well said, John. Pam, I do want to get back to the day in the room there with your husband, John, and you’re coming – bearing the horrible news that you’ve lost your baby, that the baby you’re carrying no longer has a heartbeat. He embraces you. The counseling that you’ve done now – how do men process differently from their wives about the loss of a pre-born child?

Pam: Thank you for asking that question because there – while there are many similarities, there are also many differences. And one of the things that I see in the counseling office that can kind of get in the way and drive a wedge between husbands and wives after a loss is where one partner will want and long for the other partner to grieve as they are grieving. Everybody’s grief journey is unique to them. And so if we can release one another from those expectations, we’re more likely to get through this together in sync and less alienated from one another. I think that while the woman has begun to bond with this baby from the moment she knows she’s conceived, every day that mom is thinking about that baby, probably praying for that baby, having, you know, pictures and visions and dreams of the baby’s future. So the greater the bond, the greater the pain. So moms have got that deep, deep bond. And I know that husbands do as well, but it’s a little different.

Jim: Right.

Pam: It’s a little different. And so men typically, you know, we don’t give men much permission in our society to grieve. Oftentimes, they feel very invalidated because guys don’t typically talk about feeling grief.

Jim: Right.

Pam: It’s not a common conversation piece.

Jim: Pam, in fact, in your book, you talk about the process of recovering from these really hard and tragic blows that will come in life. We’re all gonna hit a valley of some sort. What does that process look like? How do we recover and get back to that joy with the Lord, especially those of us that claim Christ?

Pam: I like to think in simple pictures. I’m a simple person at heart.

Jim: I like it already.

(LAUGHTER)

Pam: And I think in terms of railroad tracks, okay? We’re gonna take railroad tracks through the valley of shadows, which is very dark. On one side of the track is what I call grief release. On the other side is grief relief. So grief release are those times where we intentionally turn towards the pain, acknowledge what is, talk about or download – express our thoughts and our feelings…

Jim: Both good and bad.

Pam: Both good and bad. And it’s very important those things are connected – the thoughts and the feelings connected and expressed – because if we split off the feelings, we’re gonna get stuck in complicated, prolonged suffering. Brain science shows that over and again. So connecting the facts with the feelings, expressing it, externalizing it instead of stuffing it…

Jim: How does a person do that, just practically?

Pam: Practically, well, one thing the brain science shows, which is really wonderful news because it’s not hard and it’s free: 20 minutes a day of writing about your thoughts and feelings, whatever the trauma or tragedy is that you are going through, can actually increase the healing process and accelerate it.

Jim: Yeah. So just journaling…

Pam: Journaling.

Jim: …Would be another way of saying that, just writing down your thoughts. And then what about expressing to your spouse, for example?

Pam: Yeah. Talking with friends – safe friends – talking with your spouse, you know, carefully picking those people that you bury your heart with because not everybody can tolerate that, not everybody knows what to do with that.

Jim: Pam, I really want to touch on the guilt thing because we haven’t cracked that open all the way. And what I mean by that is a woman and her husband, when they go through something like this, they can feel guilt for lots of reasons. “Did I do something wrong, nutritionally? Did I not exercise appropriately?” All those things that go through your mind as to why this baby lost its life in the womb. Did you go through that? And what advice would you have for those couples who have gone through this, when they’re still in that grieving point and they have – they’re blaming themselves?

Pam: Yes, I went through that. There’s something about the way we’re created that I think wants to find a cause. We want to find a reason and pin the blame on something because then we can re-establish control, right? “If I can figure out what I did wrong, well, then it’ll be better next time.” And I went through everything I could think of: what I ate, did I exercise too much, did I exercise too little, did, you know, all the routines and whatnot, and pretty much beat myself up for quite a while.

Jim: Did anything help in that regard specifically? Did somebody say something to you that really got you over that aspect of it?

Pam: Yes. When I was talking with a nurse in the hospital, one of the things she said to me was, “You know this happens often. One out of five pregnancies are lost. And we think it’s probably much higher than that because there are many that go unreported. And I see it as a way where if babies aren’t healthy, sometimes the Lord just allows them to pass that way, rather than bringing them into this world. He will short circuit them to Heaven.” And I thought that was such a nice – nice way to look at it. But it relieved me from thinking it was all my fault, it was my responsibility, which is where we go when we want to re-establish control and life has thrown us a curveball.

Jim: Pam, you think about your story – and hopefully, if you’ve been listening for the full time, you’ll understand my comment here – but with Nathan, your 16-year-old who died on that highway when he wandered out, boy with Down Syndrome was struck by a vehicle and died, whether it’s in the womb or it’s 16 or at 30 or at 50, that ability to understand that God’s in control, even in that situation, is so difficult for us.

Pam: It is. We have to surrender.

Jim: I think the point is we don’t get over grief – back to the Scripture we talked about – suffering, endurance, character, hope – you grow through the grief.

Pam: Yes. We grow. And we learn more about ourselves. We learn more about God. We learn more about life. And we learn more about others.

Jim: Well, and that is so well said, Pam Vredevelt, author of Empty Arms. I just want to express my appreciation for sharing your story so openly – you and John. John’s not here with you. But give him a big hug.

Pam: I’m happy to do that.

Jim: I love him even though I haven’t met him. And I want you to come back and pray quickly for those couples who are struggling, specifically for the women who are hurting because of loss. Can we do that?

Pam: You bet.

Closing:

John: And I’ll just encourage you before Pam prays to jot down our website and our number: focusonthefamily.com/broadcast and 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY – 800-232-6459. Do get in touch with us. We have counselors who can talk to you if you’re struggling and lots of other great resources here at Focus on the Family like Pam’s book, Empty Arms. In fact, make a generous donation of any amount to the ministry work that we do here at Focus and we’ll send a complimentary copy as our way of saying thank you for your financial support.

Jim: Pam, let’s do that. If you can picture that woman in the doctor’s office right now – maybe she’s driving home, she’s on her way to do what you had to do with John, to let him know – speak to that woman right now.

Pam: Lord, I thank you so much that You promised to be close to the brokenhearted. And I ask You to wrap those women up – that woman up – in Your blanketing, comforting presence. I ask You to pour out Your Holy Spirit within her heart and show her Your peace. Show her Your love. Let her sense Your presence in a way that is tangible. Breathe fresh life into her heart. Give her the faith to believe that You are planting seeds of new life in the cracks of her broken heart. Give her faith to believe that You will carry her through this and restore her. Give her the ability to see and understand who she is and Your hand on her life. Thank you, God.

Jim: Amen. There’s hope ahead of your suffering. And Focus wants to be part of that. Contact us today if you need us. And we’ll get this book into your hands regardless of whether or not you can help cover the cost of that. But know that we’re here for you. Thank you, Pam, for being with us.

Pam: Thank you so much.

John: And once again, to get in touch, our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY – 800-232-6459. And I do hope you’ll join us tomorrow as we hear from Lee Strobel. He explains why we need to be willing to talk about our faith with our friends and neighbors, and how we can do that.

Teaser:

Lee Strobel: Because so many of our friends have a spiritual sticking point – a question, a doubt, an issue, an objection – that’s holding them up – a sticking point in their spiritual journey. And if we can help them get resolution of that, they can make great progress toward the Cross.

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Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

Cover image of Dr. Randall Schroeder's book "Simple Habits for Effective Parenting"

Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

Headshot of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!