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Giving God the Reins In Your Foster Parenting Journey

Giving God the Reins In Your Foster Parenting Journey

In this broadcast, Jamie Finn emphasizes the importance of Christian families becoming involved in foster care in some form and shared how the Christian community needs to be supportive of both the kids in foster care and their biological parents.
Original Air Date: May 11, 2022

Preview:

Jaime Finn: I remember one night I was rocking him to sleep, and I had done all the things, I had fed him and changed him, and he should have been happy in my arms, and he wasn’t. And the answer had to come from something deeper that couldn’t change. It had to come from God and understanding his character, his promises, and really fighting to believe the things that I said I believe.

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John Fuller: That’s Jamie Finn talking about the hope that Jesus Christ gives us in our parenting journey. And she joins us today on Focus on the Family to talk about foster parenting and all of the trials and blessings that come with that. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly. Thanks for joining us, I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, I love this topic. I know not everyone is, uh, capable or available to do foster parenting, but I’m telling you folks, uh, we’re gonna cover some territory today that needs to be covered. We have about, oh, just over 400,000 kids in foster care in the United States, about 110,000 of those are available for adoption. And I, you know, when you look at the Christian Church, I can’t think of a field more ripe unto harvest than this one.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And I, I, uh, again, I just don’t think we should have kids in foster care waiting, uh, with the Christian Church if it were active. And I’ll just call it out there and we’re gonna talk about this today. I remember Jean and I; I (laughs) remember we talked about our program Wait No More, which we started here at Focus, really because of my stint in foster care.

John: Yeah. You, you charged us to get something going.

Jim: Yeah, you know, so when we got that going, I got home, and we had aired a program about people getting engaged and trying to call people into that space. And I remember I got home, and Jean said, “Well, if you’re gonna ask others to do it, we should do it.” And I said, “Well, wait a minute, I was the foster kid. (laughs) I already did my time.” And she gave me that stink eye, like, “Nope, that’s not going to cut it.” You know? So we got certified. We probably over a eight-year period had 15, 16 kids through our home. And some of it was amazing and most of it was challenging, and that’s part of it. But I’ll tell you what, um, we know three of the kids who have accepted the Lord because of that engagement.

John: Yeah.

Jim: What is that worth? I’ll leave that out there, let it hang. And today we’re gonna talk about and challenge you to do what James 1:27 says, which is to care for orphans and widows in their distress. Doesn’t get any clearer than that, everybody. And I’m excited about the topic.

John: Yeah. There’s something that we can all do, each and every one of us can do something in this journey. And we’ve invited Jamie Finn here to talk about just what we can do. Uh, Jamie is a foster parent, a speaker, founder of, um, what I’m told is the largest online support group for foster parents, it’s called Foster the Family.

Jim: Yay.

John: And, uh, is the author of a book called Foster the Family: Encouragement, Hope, and Practical Help for the Christian Foster Parent. Stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, or give us a call for your copy, 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Jamie, welcome to Focus on the Family.

Jaime: Thank you so much. I’m so happy to be here.

Jim: It’s one of those first-time things, right?

Jaime: Yeah. It’s exciting.

Jim: Yeah, this is great.

Jaime: I’ve seen it, I’ve listened, and now I’m here. (laughs)

Jim: That’s sweet. Thanks for listening. You’re a young mom, right?

Jaime: I am, but I, (laughs) I love your heart for foster care and…

Jim: Well, and, and I love your heart for foster care too. Let’s start with the angelic music, roll the music, (singing), paint a picture for, uh, us about you and Alan’s relationship before foster care (laughs) when everything was simple?

Jaime: Yeah, simple and average. You know, and that’s what we were pursuing this average American life where we had one boy, one girl, we were working and, and doing sort of normal life. And I…

Jim: Which is good.

Jaime: Yeah. It is good. And (laughs), we felt a conviction that there was so much more than just the American dream. And…

Jim: How did you start fostering then? What was the spark? Which one of you, Alan, or you came home-

Jaime: It was me.

Jim: … And said, okay, Alan?

Jaime: It was me. And, and I’ve learned since that that is the common experience of 95% of foster parents.

Jim: Kind of like Jean, right?

Jaime: Exactly.

Jim: If we’re gonna tell people to do it, we better do it.

Jaime: Right.

Jim: Wait a minute. (laughs)

Jaime: Yeah. Well, and my husband had adopted sisters. It was something that we kind of always talked about in a, maybe one day sort of way.

Jim: Let’s camp there for a second-

Jaime: Sure.

Jim: … Because it’s such a normal reaction to say when this is in place when our kids are, I mean, that is kind of normal to think when is the best time?

Jaime: Yeah, sure. Yeah. There is, you know, the ducks in the row sort of way of looking at it. And I think it’s important that we’re prepared, but there’s also nothing that can prepare you. (laughs)

Jim: Right. Thanks for saying that.

Jaime: Yeah.

Jim: Yeah, it’s so true.

Jaime: So for us, it was a step of faith. And for me it was an act of passion. I wanted to follow God into this, for Alan, it was sacrificial obedience.

Jim: Right.

Jaime: It was being compelled by God’s word that God was calling us to do something for the widow and orphan, as you shared that verse.

Jim: Yeah, I’m thinking of that in a sporting event, kind of (laughs) context, uh, you have passion meeting sacrifice, that sounds like conflict.

Jaime: Well, and there wasn’t conflict, I’ll say there was pleading on my part. (laughs)

Jim: Yeah.

Jaime: There was a pleading of here’s the need, here are the stories, and then I realized, oh, my husband is a man of conviction. And if I ask him to go to God’s word, he’s gonna find there, this clear calling. And that clear calling isn’t that everyone become a foster and adoptive parent, but there’s a clear calling that we are stepping in to the vulnerable, and the broken, the lost. When we see the most vulnerable population, we go right to foster children, children who need to be adopted, but there’s also this community of struggling families who we may be able to keep children out of foster care.

Jim: Yes.

Jaime: And so it’s not as simple as become a foster parent. For some families it might be welcome a family into your home for dinner, or bring groceries to that single mom, or help in some way a family who’s struggling, not just jumping in after the state has already gotten involved.

Jim: Right. And that’s great. Those are good things to do. And we’re gonna wrap the program at the end here with some other things people can do. So remember those and we’ll bring them back once again. But let- let’s, uh, speak to the challenges that exist. And I think, you know, we have a program called Wait No More. And it’s pointed at, uh, church members, you know, um, the big “C” church, what do we do, uh, to engage people. And so we work with local churches to set a, a time that people can come and learn more and there’s agencies there. They can get fingerprinted; they could start to process all those good things. But one of the things I’m proud of the team for doing is they do talk about the challenges. These kids come with a lot of emotional, sometimes physical issues, and you have to be prepared. There’s no box that says normal.

Jaime: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And when you qualify your home for a foster situation, you do check boxes of what types of kids, um, emotionally, spiritually, physically you’re able to manage.

Jaime: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And it is a weird experience to go through that, head knocking, um, hoar- food hoarding. I mean, you’re sitting there going, wow, these kids, they have gone through so much trauma that they have issues.

Jaime: Yeah. And that has been what we’ve come to learn. I think we started off with let’s welcome one baby, one time. And part of the idea of a baby was we’ll get a child who’s good as new, a clean slate, and that was sort of the way we came into it. And what we’ve learned since is that trauma is a part of every single child who has entered the foster care system.

Jim: Even prenatal.

Jaime: Prenatal, absolutely. So we’ve had kids come to us from the hospital, who’ve been exposed to drugs, alcohol, chronic stress in utero, in a way that has affected them and will affect them for the rest of their lives.

Jim: I remember, uh, you know, of the 15 kids or so we had two sets of siblings-

Jaime: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … For extended period of times. And the second set was a brother and sister. And I remember the first morning I woke up, “What do you want for breakfast?” “Oh, I’ll have a bowl of cereal.” He was like two years old. And so I made him cereal. And then he said, “Could I have some toast?” “Oh yeah.” Made him toast. “Can I have some eggs?”

Jaime: Yeah.

Jim: Eggs. I mean, within about 10 minutes, there was this mound of food, that no way he was gonna eat that. But it was like his fear, he had food insecurity. And he every morning for about a month, it went this way, where he would just ask, can I have more, can I have more? And I just wanted to prove to him, it’s all available,

Jaime: Yeah.

Jim: you don’t have to worry. But it took about a month.

Jaime: Well, and you could have said that over and over.

Jim: Oh…

Jaime: There’s enough food for you ever.

Jim: It’s not logic.

Jaime: But his brain and body needed to learn that food would show up.

Jim: So that’s part of it. Um, you were challenged by commencement speech involving I think a dollar, (laughs) what happened there and how does it relate to foster care, a buck?

Jaime: Yeah. I went to my best friend’s graduation and the speech was, here’s a dollar, this is your life, you get to spend it once. And that has been a driving force for me, through my life.

Jim: How did it speak to you though specifically?

Jaime: Really believing that this life is something that we are going to spend up that will matter for eternity. And I just so want, even as, you know, a 13-year-old that was put in my heart, of I just want the way I spend my days to matter in eternity.

Jim: That really does get to that scripture in James, you know, this is pure religion.

Jaime: Yeah.

Jim: This is your pure dollar.

Jaime: Right, right.

Jim: Wow. You had an original plan for fostering that wasn’t necessarily what it should have been, I guess, is the way it was described. You know, Jean and I struggle with having that original plan.

Jaime: Yeah.

Jim: One of the things I was really impressed by the parent training that you receive in the foster programs, typically I can only speak to Colorado.

Jaime: Yeah. I’m glad that’s you’re experience.

Jim: No, it was really good.

Jaime: That’s awesome.

Jim: I mean, I thought every parent should get this kind of training about how to raise a child. And I’m not talking about the spiritual elements, it was just very practical about temperament, and anger, and how to embrace your child with love.

Jaime: Yeah.

Jim: I mean, those… These are common themes, right? I think every parent wants that and every foster parent, uh, desires to express that to these kids. But describe your process of wanting to protect those foster kids from their parents.

Jaime: Yeah. I came in with a very naive at best, and I would say arrogant, and sort of savior complex of these kids have been in these homes with these-

Jim: These horrible homes.

Jaime: Yeah. These horrible homes with these abusive addicts who hurt them. And, and that was the mindset I came in with. And I’m so grateful that God rescued me from that.

Jim: What does it sound like in a better way? ‘Cause I… Some of that is real. You’re sitting there going, “Why would you put this two-year-old through this?” I mean…

Jaime: The things our kids have gone through it… They’re heartbreaking.

Jim: A lot of drugs, drug addiction is big and foster.

Jaime: And it’s, yeah, it’s devastating to see the way it affects the kids that we love. But I think what God did in my heart was just the verse, “What do you have that you have not received?” And that went deep into my soul of who I am is only a gift of God, only the gifts that he’s given me in both my family and support system and healthy childhood, but also just in the resources and strength and grace that he’s given me. And I began to view my kids’ parents very differently through a lens of compassion and empathy.

Jim: Well, that’s so good. Um, you have a story where you became very fearful because a little boy, I think you may have changed their names like we all do-

Jaime: I did.

Jim: … But you named them Mikey, was placed in your home. What, what happened with Mikey?

Jaime: He was three months old when he came to us, and he had already been in five homes because he was struggling. (laughs) He was a hard baby who had been through a lot of hard things. And so he was having a hard time and was spending a lot of his time crying and a lot of his time in my arms. And I got to know his mom and I knew how deeply she was struggling. And I remember one night I was rocking him to sleep, and I had done all the things, I had fed him and changed him, and he should have been happy in my arms, and he wasn’t. And fear came into my heart of just, how is she gonna do this?  And I was consumed with this idea that she would not be able to keep him safe. And it, it… The answer couldn’t come in her ability because I knew her enough to know how it would be a struggle. The answer had to come from something deeper that couldn’t change. It had to come from God and understanding his character, his promises, and really fighting to believe the things that I said I believe.

Jim: Yeah. I mean, the truth is, and what we believe is Christians, there’s only one entity’s promises that are actually true and always kept and that’s God’s, right, through Jesus. And so that’s a good thing to remember.

Jaime: Right.

Jim: I know that as an orphan kid, you know, people, it’s hard to trust people. Um, you learn over time hopefully to trust people again. But these poor foster kids that trust has been broken in so many ways, that that’s one of the restorations that we in the Christian community need to provide.

Jaime: Yeah. And part of that is gonna be in their spirit and heart, and part of it is gonna be in their brains and bodies.

Jim: Yeah. Yeah. And recognizing that’s critical.

Jaime: Yeah.

Jim: Jamie, you mentioned something I want to hit, uh, for the listener and the viewer right now in the Wait No More program, we’re doing something that we kicked around for a while, but we are really launching it in a big way right now, that Mikey having five homes. Often what happens with these foster children is they get their things thrown into a hefty garbage bag and they drag that garbage bag to the next house, that’s all they have. So one of the things to bring dignity to these kids that we’re trying to do is do a suitcase with a Bible and a Teddy bear.

Jaime: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And we have more demand than we have ability to deliver that. And we just sent, I think we had 2000 distributed in the state of Florida. And we’d love to, again, equip, you know, 400,000 kids, uh, with those suitcases, Bible, and Teddy bears. So if you want to join in that with us, it’s $100 to do that. And, uh, you can do a onetime gift of $100 or do $25 a month, and that over a year, you’ll supply three suitcases to these kids. But it’s one of the small ways to us, but big ways to them that they have a sense of dignity. These kids will get that suitcase, that Teddy bear, and that Bible and, uh, what an amazing way to help buttress them spiritually, physically, emotionally?

John: Yeah. It’s such a great, tangible reminder of God’s love and the fact that somebody cares for them. Well, this is Focus on the Family, uh, with Jim Daly. We’re talking today to Jamie Finn and, uh, she’s got a great ministry called Foster the Family, and she’s come out with a book, uh, titled the same, Foster the Family: Encouragement, Hope, and Practical Help for the Christian Foster Parent. Uh, donate today and get a copy of that book, help us help, uh, those children in the foster system. Our numbers 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. And further details are at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Uh, Jamie, when you had your first biological daughter, uh, you had some health complications that kind of tested that idea that you’re in control of your environment. Oh my goodness, Jean, very similar. I mean just… And I think it’s a great mom attribute, I want to control safety-

Jaime: Sure.

Jim: … Everything, what they learn, what they eat.

Jaime: Sure.

Jim: And guess what? You can’t control that much.

Jaime: Yeah. Yeah. I had a perfect birth plan.

Jim: (laughs)

Jaime: We were going to go to a birth center, and everything was going to be perfect.

Jim: Yes.

Jaime: And a day before my due date, I started having stroke-like symptoms.

Jim: Oh my.

Jaime: I lost control of half my body, and my face was drooping, and I was airlifted to the local hospital. And in a moment my plans were gone. And it was my-

Jim: Oh, my.

Jaime: … Trial by fire, my welcoming to motherhood that I wasn’t going to be able to control anything.

Jim: Wow.

Jaime: And then we became foster parents- (laughs)

Jim: Right.

Jaime: … And really learned that we are not in control of anything.

Jim: It does, it can knock, let me say it this way, it’ll knock sense into you-

Jaime: Yeah.

Jim: … If that makes sense?

Jaime: Yeah.

Jim: You know, you think, all of us as parents think we can kind of control things.

Jaime: Right. No parent is in control.

Jim: No. And that, you know, the Lord chose to give us free will and it definitely comes out in those little children. (laughs)

Jaime: Sure.

Jim: At one point you, uh, came to a breaking point is what you wrote in the book because a little girl you wanted to adopt was pulled away right at the last minute. I would say, you know, again, in that context, when you’re looking to adopt out of foster care, you gotta buttress your heart ’cause there’s a lot of bumpy roads.

Jaime: Yeah. And the reality is that the foster care system has one goal, that the court system and the workers are aligned to, and that is reunification.

Jim: Right.

Jaime: Until reunification, can’t happen. And so I think it’s important that people understand when they’re entering that system, that their hearts and their goals need to stay aligned to what the goal of the system is. And that is not just what the state says, but I also believe it is in union with God’s heart for healing and restoration for something that he created to be made whole again.

Jim: Yeah. What happened in that situation with the daughter, what were the bumpy roads like for you and your husband, Alan?

Jaime: So we said goodbye to our daughter after two and a half years.

Jim: So you had her two and a half years, wow?

Jaime: So that’s part of the bumpiness (laughs), is that…

Jim: How old was she at that point?

Jaime: She came to us at three months old.

Jim: Wow, okay.

Jaime: And she had spent her whole little life with us.

Jim: Yeah.

Jaime: And to say that it was heartbreaking and traumatic is an understatement.

Jim: So you planned on adopting her and some paperwork went crazy? I mean, it’s… This is ridiculous, when I heard the story, I was like, what?

Jaime: Yeah. Well what happened was COVID. And so- (laughs)

Jim: Okay.

Jaime: … The… Everyone got extra time. And I will be honest, at first, I thought, well, this just stole our daughter from us and ruined our lives. And by God’s grace, he changed my perspective to this gave her mom enough time to finally get clean and healthy.

Jim: Okay, so she was… She went back with her bio mom.

Jaime: She did.

Jim: Wow. That’s a great thing.

Jaime: She went back to her biological mother.

Jim: Yeah.

Jaime: And it was 18 months of her mom struggling and they changed the goal to adoption. And then we were, we were happy to go there, but the goal changed when her mom’s health and ability changed. And it was a test of what should we really believe about the family? Not just about trusting God, but about his design for the family and his commitment to restoration and healing. And she’s with her mother and they’re great.

Jim: Yeah. And that’s a good outcome. Sometimes there’s chaos in that reunification too. We had that experience with two kids who went back with the parents and the mom overdosed. And the grandparents weren’t in a position to do anything. They called the dad who’s in rehab, who then calls us and says, “Can you take the kids?” And we’re like, “Definitely we’ll take ’em back, but what happened?” And you know, that happens too.

Jaime: It does.

Jim: Um, and she just could not beat the drug addiction and finally it took her life.

Jaime: Yeah.

Jim: And you know, that is just really sad.

Jaime: It is.

Jim: Um, describe the idea, I mean, this is really interesting and it’s a great metaphor where your, your husband, Alan was laying next to, uh, bed looking under the bed, you walked in the room, what was going on in there?

Jaime: Yeah. I walked into our foster child’s room, and I saw him reaching under the bed and I was like, “Do you need something, what’s going on?” I realized he was reaching under the bed, holding the hand of one of our foster children. And she had a tendency to, when she was afraid-

Jim: Go hide.

Jaime: … Hide.

Jim: Yeah.

Jaime: And we would find her in cabinets, and in corners, and under the bed. And it was a picture for me of my fix-it-ness, my let me come in and make this right, let’s talk about it. And my husband’s bent towards just being with her, just being present and empathetic, and letting her know that he was going to be there with her,

Jim: Yeah.

Jaime: and it just created a beautiful image for me of what it looks like to, you know, we say weep with those who weep, but lie under the bed with those who lie under the bed.

Jim: You know, one of the being in foster care when I was 9 and 10, I can, you know, those memories are scorched into my mind. It wasn’t a great experience. It wasn’t a real healthy, functional family that I was with. And I don’t want to go into all of that. But the point I wanted to make is a child’s heart, their emotional lips are so parched that just those little actions of your husband tears me up, just reaching in under the bed.

Jaime: Mm-hmm.

Jim: That’s something that girl will remember forever.

Jaime: Just the presence.

Jim: And I think, you know, we don’t even understand it’s a little action that in a healthy context, yeah, maybe the kids-

Jaime: Sure.

Jim: … Won’t remember that because there’s so many other good things-

Jaime: Sure.

Jim: … That they’re gonna know. But speaking to the child calmly, running your fingers through their hair, gently, assuring them that they’re loved, those are all things with parched souls that make such a difference.

Jaime: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And that’s what’s so beautiful.

Jaime: Yeah. It’s, it’s really also a picture for me of God’s heart for these kids. Watching my husband with his foster children just reminds me of God’s heart for them, and it’s beautiful to be able to watch that.

Jim: And probably it reinforces why you married him. (laughs)

Jaime: Well, yeah. And it’s-

Jim: Way to go Alan.

Jaime: … It’s especially, right. (laughs) It’s encouraging for me because he didn’t want to do this. You know, you ask him when he wanted to become a foster parent, he says never, but he did it out of obedience and God has, has shaped him into this compassionate man.

Jim: Yeah. Jamie, we said at the beginning, we wanted to come back to practical things people can do, let’s end there.

Jaime: Yeah.

Jim: Um, you know, obviously getting engaged in the foster program in your state, it’s a process. You gotta get your home qualified, they come and inspect it. And each state is slightly different. And it feels intrusive but keeping your eye on the big prize of being engaged at that level, uh, is what it’s all about, it’s for the kids. And even with all the state requirements and you know, policies and regulations, just plow through it, honor those in authority over you and get in there and start doing the work God’s called you to do. Now, there’s other things families can do, what have you learned that really benefits a foster family or a foster adoption family?

Jaime: Yeah. Well you shared Wait No More’s initiative. There are, there are ways like that where we can take the resources that we’ve been given and share them with others. And money is one of our resources. Another one of our resources is our time, our energy, our relationships. And as a foster parent, one of the most meaningful things to me has been people who are willing to be in the trenches with us, who are willing to listen to the, the stress and the heartache, and speak truth in God’s word to us when we’re struggling to trust him. So that has been meaningful, just friendships, but then also the ways that people come and serve us, the ways that people will bring meals, or take out one of our kids, or, you know, bring a, a child to the babysitter or something like that. Those practical ways of we are sort of on the front lines of this and the people in our lives have said, we wanna support you as you… As this is your mission, our mission is to stand with you and support you.

Jim: Yeah, and it’s so, so good. Some of the research that we’ve seen is if you have five families that come around a foster family, or it foster adoption family, that can just help them, do the grocery shopping once in a while, maybe do the laundry for them, come over do the yard work, maybe clean up the house, whatever you can do to support. If you’ve got five families in your corner, it actually becomes a very successful situation. So that’s another thing to do. I’d encourage churches. And don’t go to the pastor and say, “Pastor, can you do this?” Do it yourself within the church, don’t ask him to do it, but just volunteer to lead a foster adoption support group that your church can lean on. I’m so proud of the church here in Colorado Springs, A New Life Church, Brady Boyd, we had lunch, I said, “Here’s what I’m thinking.” He said, “Man, we’ll adopt, I bet we’ll adopt 100 kids out of foster care if we do this.” And we did, and they adopted more than 100.

Jaime: Wow.

Jim: Think of that. And then they put a program in where he talked about all of them becoming cousins, “These are our cousins. We need to take care of them.” And you know, he just did it in such a great way. Every church can do that.

Jaime: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And again, when you look at that, uh, opportunity for us to get engaged, um, man, it’s a field ripe under harvest. And I would just encourage people to do that. Jamie, thank you for this wonderful book, Foster the Family, what a great call. I’m in your corner.

Jaime: Thank you.

Jim: Let us know what we could do for you. (laughs)

Jaime: Thank you.

Jim: And I would really want to turn to the listener, the viewer to encourage you to look at this. Go to the website, fosterthefamilybook.com, and get more of the ideas. Even better, order the book through Focus on the Family and uh, all those proceeds we can put right back into ministry. And I hope you’ll do that as well. If you can support us on a monthly basis, that’s great, and we’ll send you a copy of the book as our way of saying thank you when you do. One time gift is good as well, so just be part of the ministry and let’s do this.

John: Yeah. In any gift you can make today will be greatly appreciated. And as Jim said, we’ll put that to work right away. Our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, and further details are at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Um, when you get in touch, ask about Wait No More and how you can support, uh, our effort to come alongside these families, activate them, uh, on behalf of foster care kids. Again, our number 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: And John, let’s again, remind folks they can support the suitcase program, where we provide a suitcase, a Teddy bear, and a Bible to these foster kids. So jump in and do that, Jean and I do that, I hope you’ll help us. And Jamie again, thank you for your heart, you and Alan, for what you are showing others to do, and what’s possible. I so appreciate it. Thank you.

Jaime: Thank you. Thanks for having me.

John: Mm-hmm. And thank you for joining us today. Plan to be with us next time, we’ll hear from Dave and Ashley Willis about having a stronger, healthier marriage.

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Ashley Willis: I kind of tried to just handle this by myself, which I do not recommend for a while because I, I believe the lie too, that it was just my problem, but in marriage, I wanna make it very clear, it’s never his problem or her problem, every problem and every struggle is our problem, our struggle.

Jim: That is good.

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Raised in Hollywood, California, Sheri Rose Shepherd grew up in the five blended families created by her oft-divorced parents. Despite finding success on the beauty pageant circuit, she struggled with bulimia and suicidal thoughts. An ex-drug dealer’s prayers helped Sheri Rose find a relationship with Jesus Christ, where she found healing for her emotional wounds, and a way to minister to other women with similar pain. (Part 1 of 2)

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A Legacy of Music and Trusting the Lord

Popular Christian vocalist Larnelle Harris reflects on his five-decade music career, sharing the valuable life lessons he’s learned about putting his family first, allowing God to redeem a troubled past, recognizing those who’ve sacrificed for his benefit, and faithfully adhering to biblical principles amidst all the opportunities that have come his way.

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Accepting Your Imperfect Life

Amy Carroll shares how her perfectionism led to her being discontent in her marriage for over a decade, how she learned to find value in who Christ is, not in what she does, and practical ways everyone can accept the messiness of marriage and of life.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

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Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

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Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

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With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

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Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

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Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

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How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

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Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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