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Leaving a Legacy of Love

Leaving a Legacy of Love

Bill Butterworth was a super-busy pastor and speaker until the day his youngest son looked at him and spoke his first word: “Bob.” Not Dad, not Bill, but “Bob.” That moment changed Bill’s life, and made him consider the legacy he was leaving his five children. Hear what he learned about the power of love in this lighthearted message.
Original Air Date: April 9, 2007

Preview:

Bill Butterworth: It’s as if God were answering my question by saying, “You want something important to teach your kids, I’ll give ya three things: faith, hope, and love. You want the gold medal winner out of the three, choose love.”

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John Fuller: Well, you’re gonna hear how to demonstrate love in your family with a fun presentation from our guest today on Focus on the Family. That’s Bill Butterworth. Welcome to the program. I’m John Fuller and your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly.

Jim Daly: John, Bill Butterworth has a lighthearted message to share with us that contains some important truths about showing love to those around us. Uh, he’s an author and much sought-after speaker, and most importantly, the father of five adult children with 11 grandchildren.

John: That is quite a crew and, uh, here now is Bill Butterworth on today’s episode of Focus on the Family.

Bill: I wanna tell you about a very important moment in my life. Uh, sociologists talk about significant emotional events when, you know, you’re just not the same after they happen, and there’s some that we’ve all experienced but then there are in- individual ones that mark us as people and we’re never the same. For me, it took place, very simply, it was the first words, uh, of my youngest child. There are five Butterworths in the Butterworth family: Joy, Jessie, Geoffrey, John, and Joseph. Uh, so now you know why we travel. But, um-

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: … when Joseph was getting ready to speak, it was a big event. Now, where are the parents out there? Any parents willing to raise their hands? Okay. Very popular here. All right. How many of you had parents? Would you raise your hand?

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: Okay. Huh, not as many, but anyway, um-

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: You know how this whole parenting thing works, right. When our first child came along, Joy, we were typical first-time parents. This kid’s gonna walk at six months. This kid’s gonna talk at eight months. This kid’s gonna talk another language at nine months. This kid’s gonna have a Stanford application already filled out at ten months. This kid, you know, just all the pressure, all the stress. Putting it on that first kid. Well, by the time you have five, you learn to lighten up. Y- you learn a lot about parenting. I can remember when Joseph came along, thinking to myself, “That kid can walk whenever he wants. That kid can talk whenever he wants.” I don’t care if he’s 12. If he can get in and out of that diaper on his own-

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: … I have no problem with that. There is no pressure on this guy. We’re not gonna have any problems. So, I remember, uh, that this was not the, um, so much a big deal to me when he was gonna start to talk. But i- it’s as if God grabbed it and grabbed ahold of me and said, “You better pay attention ’cause this kid’s got a message for you.” ‘Cause see, kids kinda learn how to talk two different ways, I’ve observed. The- the most common one is they kinda accidentally stumble into it, right. They’re sitting there one day, goo goo ga ga minga a gon nung no mo broccoli.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: The kid is speaking, listen to that. And there’s this other method, where it’s almost like they just have an on switch flipped and they just start speaking, perfectly. This is the way it was with Joseph. He spoke on a Monday night at dinner and the reason I remember it was Monday night at dinner is, when he was one year old, 1986, it was a very busy time for me. I thought I was more important than I probably shoulda thought. I was, uh, working Monday through Friday at Insight for Living with the Swindolls and I was counseling all week and Friday afternoon, I’d sneak out of my office in Southern California and I’d fly somewhere and I’d spend a weekend with a group like you. And oftentimes, my theme for the weekend would be, you need to spend more time with your family.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: I’d fly back, my kids would already be in bed. I’d get up early Monday morning before they woke up to get into the office to make up for the time I missed, sneaking out early Friday afternoon. So, if you’re following me, sometimes it would be Monday night before I’d see my kids having only seen them the previous Thursday night when I tucked them into bed, and I’ll go ahead and give you the interpretation, that’s all wrong. That’s way too much. So, it’s Monday night, we’re at dinner. I haven’t seen my family since Thursday night. Joseph hits the on switch; it’s time to speak. I mean, to this day, I look in his eyes and I can still revisit this. He’s in his highchair, sitting between his mum and me. He turns and look at his mum. His face lights up with unmistakable clarity. He goes, “He- he- hey, Ma.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: And then he turns and looks at me. Face lights up, same unmistakable clarity. “He- he- hey, Bob.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: And his mom doesn’t miss a beat. She says, “Whoa, you been on the road too much.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: And I said, “Nevermind that. Who’s Bob?”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: Well, I found out there wasn’t a Bob and I don’t know whether that was good news or bad news because then I realized, my son doesn’t even know who I am. He doesn’t call me Dad. He doesn’t even have the first name right.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: I’m Bob. And my, uh, rest of my family’s telling me, “Dad, it was an innocent mistake. You gotta get a grip.” And I- I couldn’t. I just, I just went into this funk. I’m thinking, “Well, what right do I have to expect him to call me Dad. He doesn’t know who I am. He never sees me. I’m this all-important guy who’s gotta go out and do all this other stuff. I’m not being a good dad.” What a rotten thing to be communicating. I can remember sitting there weeks afterward, still in this kinda haze, and of course, Joseph has moved into the next phase of language. One of my favorite times, when a kid has, like, three or four favorite words, right, and they just say ’em, over and over again. He had three. If he wanted more to eat, he’d say, “More,” and if he wanted something to drink, he’d say, “Dink.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: And he, believe it or not, started calling me Bill.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: And I thought this was good. I didn’t take it as disrespectful. After all, we started with Bob so I thought we were moving in the right way.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: We’d get to Dad. We’d get to Dad. So, I’m there at the dinner table, trying to figure out why my son doesn’t even know who I am and he’s over there barking in the highchair, “More dink, Bill.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: Well, that was a big moment for me. I mean, I, I made some radical changes. I- I- I left my position at Insight for Living and started what has been a wonderful 15 years of speaking full-time all over the country. But he caught my attention that day and if I can freeze that moment for you and tell you about one other one and bring ’em together, you’ll see where we’re going this morning in the minutes that we have. Was many years later, was only a few years ago, I was sitting in my home in California and the phone rang and it was, um, from Philadelphia, where I had been born and raised, and the message was, your father has suddenly passed away. Uh, would you come to Philadelphia and preach his funeral, which, of course, I was pleased and privileged to be able to do, although I was deeply crushed at the, uh, the death of my father. I didn’t expect it whatsoever. So, I flew to Philadelphia and it’s that, uh, situation where I’m behind a lectern and my father’s body is lying in a casket right next to me and I’m the family representative who was supposed to tell everybody what my father has passed on. What he has left behind, his legacy if you will. Not his stock portfolio, not what’s in the will, not the real estate, but the real inside stuff. What did my dad teach me that outlives him, that goes on? And fortunately for me, my dad was one of my heroes, so it was a very easy speech to give from that vantage point. But any parent in the room probably knows where I’m going with this. I couldn’t help but think, you know, one of these days, it’s gonna be all different. I’m gonna be over here and one of the five kids is gonna be elected as the representative. What are we gonna say about our dad? Now, that kinda sent a shiver up my spine ’cause I realize, you know, my kids can give you a, a grocery list of things I don’t do well. You know, don’t let Dad near a checkbook if you want it to be balanced. Dad is not healthy around power tools. You know, Dad is, uh, you know.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: I- just don’t put him in these kinds of situations. There’s a lot they can say that I don’t do well. And I couldn’t think of what they would say that I did do well. And I thought, “Well, I’d better figure out something that’s gonna be significant.” So, I thought, “What is it that is important to God?” I mean, what will outlive me? What will outlive you, that’s significant. And I was drawn to a, a chapter that I’d memorized as a child in Sunday school. You may even know it. It’s the thirteenth chapter of First Corinthians, where Paul ends with this beautiful summary, now abide faith, hope, and love, these three, but the greatest of these is… Somebody tell me.

Audience: Love. Love.

Bill: Love. You know it. It’s as if God were answering my question by saying, “You want something important to teach your kids, I’ll give you three things: faith, hope, and love. You want the gold medal winner out of the three, choose love. Love your kids, man. And that will outlive you.” So, I thought, “Man, that’s what it is.” And so, I’ve set this out, as this is- this is to be my legacy. If I have anything to do with it, that my kids can say, “You know, my dad did an awful lot wrong, but I’ll tell you one thing we knew about him, our dad always loved us. We always knew it. He always showed us. He was a good man.” What does love look like from God’s standard? If God is saying to you, make love your legacy and allow it to fuel your relationships, what does love look like? Well, there’s a wonderful little passage in First Thessalonians that I want to read to you and then give you some very simple points to follow as we look at this this morning. It’s First Thessalonians 4, verses 9, 10, and 11. “Now, as to the love of the brethren,” it says, “you have no need for anyone to write to you because you yourselves are taught by God to love one another. You practice love towards all the brethren who are in all Macedonia. We urge you to excel still more, making it your ambition to lead a quiet life.”

John: You’re listening to Bill Butterworth on Focus on the Family and we have a CD of this program for you. It has extra content. It’d be great to listen to again or pass on to a friend. Uh, we’re making that available when you contribute to the ministry, either a monthly pledge or one-time gift of any amount. You can do that when you call 800-A-FAMILY, 800-232-6459, or donate and request that CD at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Let’s go ahead and return now to more from Bill Butterworth.

Bill: So, if you’re a note-taker, let me give you three points on how people will know you’re a loving person. Point number one, loving people know that love is a top priority. One of my most favorite invitations, I often get invited to go on to Christian college campuses and speak to the college students, and they have this wonderful quaint, old custom on a lot of Christian college campuses. It’s a required meeting that they call chapel, and that’s where you speak. You speak to the whole student body. It’s required. You’re guaranteed a full house. They go in and wake these kids up. There’s guns, there’s handcuffs, there- you know. I mean, it’s, it’s a very religious experience.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: So, I know I can do all right in chapel ’cause everybody’s there. But they all, the person will often say, “Why don’t you stay over and do a little voluntary session that night.” Well, nobody comes to voluntary sessions when you’re in college. So, I decided I gotta come up with a really good topic. So, somewhere during chapel, I’ll say, “Hey, if you have any free time tonight, come on back out tonight. We’re gonna answer the question, how to know if you’re really in love.” Whoosh, you know. The place is packed ’cause, like, all the girls are saying, “Well, you know, I think Edgar’s the one, but I have questions. There are issues. There uns- I have doubts. I just don’t know.” And Edgar’s like, “Uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: So, everybody’s there. And what I tell these college students is, you know, what y- what we need to understand is, there are many aspects of love. There’s a physical aspect of love. That aspect that says, woo, I like this person. I wanna hold their hand. I wanna put my arm around her. I wanna hug him. I wanna kiss him. Et cetera, et cetera. And in God’s grand scheme, in the right context, even the et cetera, et cetera is all his design. It’s a beautiful thing. But that’s not all there is to love. There’s the emotional aspect of love. Women are way ahead of us guys. This is why a woman says, “Oh, my boyfriend walks through the door, hoo hoo hoo, you know, I get lightheaded and my knees get weak and I get butterflies in my stomach.” And guys, we try to respond in kind, “Yeah, yeah, yeah. I see you across the hall and I’m like, nauseous.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: Doesn’t have quite the effect that it does when your girlfriend or your wife says it to you, huh.

Audience: Yeah.

Bill: Okay. But that’s usually where it stops. God has a whole ‘nother level of love that’s the key to all this. And that’s what I call the volitional aspect of love. We choose to love. I can love you when you are just so cute and lovable and huggable, and I can also love you when you are unlovable. Anybody got an unlovable person in your life? Don’t raise your hand, they might be here.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: You know the strain, the drain. I gotta love that person again. Now, this is where you’d expect a father of five to go through a, a litany of stories about the kids. Four of my five are boys, let’s just talk about boys at that teenage stage. You know, the fumes alone are enough to kill ya-

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: … and you just wonder then, l… I would tell those stories, my kids would often be with me and I’d see ’em kinda sink in deeper, deeper in the seats, you know, in the way, “Oh, thanks, Dad, thanks for sharing that story. I’m glad that,” uh, you know, “thousands of people know I’m an idiot now.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: “You’re a good man, Dad.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: So, one day on a lark, I asked myself what I thought was a frivolous question. It was, I wonder if my kids ever have to choose to love me in an unlovable state. (laughs).

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: And I thought of, like, one thing, which led to six, which led to four pages, which led to several hours, I mean, I was getting depressed. It’s like, I gotta stop. I can’t believe this. My kids are constantly being put in a position where they gotta love me when I’m not all that lovable either. Pretty scary, huh. We lived in Southern California for years and then we moved up to Northern California. We left Orange County and moved up to a tiny little town just below Lake Tahoe. Very small, not a lot of stuff going on. I remember my oldest son was so excited about the first spring up there so he could play Little League. And he’d come from Orange Country, you know, Orange Country Little League. Man, it’s primo. I mean, you get uniform day, you get an exact replica of what the pros wear. I mean, if you’re in the Little League Dodgers, it’s like you got a professional Dodger uniform that was simply left in the dryer too long.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: I mean, it’s precise, you know. So, we’re up in Northern California, it’s uniform day and the coach says get in line to get your T-shirts. And my darling, little, naïve son turns around and looks at me, “Dad, they give out T-shirts to wear under the uniforms.” You know, he didn’t have a clue. The T-shirt is it. “Oh, Dad, talk to the coach.” I go over to the coach, “Is this it?” And he said, “Well, you gotta buy him a hat but yeah, this is it.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: Little League on a budget. Well, I had no idea what the budget was. Like, I go to the first game and that’s where I really got rocked, okay. You’re in the stands, the baseball field’s out there, right, home plate, you’re all right behind. Right before the game, the two adult coaches come out to home plate, shake hands, let’s have a good game. They turn and look at the stands and to my horror, they start going, “I’ll take you, sir. I’ll take you. I’ll take you, sir.” I start mumbling to the kids next to me, “What’s going on?” And one of my boys says, “Dad, they’re picking umps.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: I said, “They don’t even pay for umps around here?” “No, no, no, they just pull ’em outta the crowd.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: Well, I’m like, “Oh no. I know they’re gonna pick me.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: I can’t do this. This is too much stress. How can they put me out there when my son’s playing? Am I ever gonna call my son out? Is he ever gonna hit a foul ball? Is he ever not gonna be safe? I mean, you can’t do this to me. I can’t stand the stress. I can’t stand the pressure. Somebody help me here. So in good Victorious Living style, I was up for seven straight nights. Couldn’t sleep. I know they’re gonna pick me. I know they’re gonna pick me this weekend. I know they’re gonna pick me.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: Next Saturday, sure enough, the coaches come out, they shake hands, let’s have a good game. “I’ll take you, sir. I’ll take you, sir.” And boy, he looks at right at me. “I’ll take you, sir.” Well, fortunately, I had seen that finger point at me a thousand times in the seven sleepless nights and I was prepared. No sooner did he say, “I’ll take you, sir,” I stood up and confidently replied, “[German].”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: Which, of course, is German and if you speak German, you realize I just said, “I can’t understand you because I believe my mother is broken.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: Well, the poor coach, he’s like the deer in the headlights. He’s just kinda frozen there at me and he turns and looks at my kids and he says, “Your dad doesn’t speak English?”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: And I can see my kids looking up at me like this is the moment.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: And do we choose to love the unlovable or do we let the guy fry.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: Right? You’ve been there. And God bless ’em, my dear kids, they just look over at the coach and they go. And the coach is like, “Well, I’m sorry, we can’t have someone who doesn’t speak English. Nevermind.” And they didn’t pick me for the whole rest of the season. It was great.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: But my poor kids, they’re in school, their classmates are saying, “Your dad doesn’t speak English?”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: “What does he do?” And they’d say, “He’s a speaker.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: Love is an act of the will. So, point number one, loving people know that love is a top priority. Number two, loving people know love takes practice. Loving people know that love takes practice. Verse 10 says it, “You practice love towards all those in Macedonia. We urge you to excel still more.” Love takes practice. It’s not something that you master once and for all and then you don’t have to work on it again, ever again. This verse tells me, first of all, that love is in the context of a relationship. You practice it towards all those that are in Macedonia. May your love be practiced and excel still more. When’s the last time you did an unselfish demonstrative act of love to someone that you love? Maybe you need to do that. Now, if they’re here, you’ll do that and they’ll say, “You’re only doing that because the blond guy told you to do it in church.”

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: So, you might need to have a backup so that they know, whoa, you [inaudible] too. All right, this is good.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: But anything is better than nothing. Demonstrate love, practice love. Loving people know, number one, that love is a top priority, number two, that love takes practice. The third one I want you to consider as we wrap this up, is that loving people know love’s tremendous power. Loving people know love’s tremendous power. The verse 11 says, “Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life.” Now, that’s interesting, that doesn’t mean a life of silence, the life of a librarian. The word quiet means a settled life. The 21st century synonym would be make it your goal to lead a life that is stress-free. How do I live life above the stress level? You don’t. God lives it through you. You now have the power of God in you. Now, I mean, you still show up, you’re still breathing, you’re still making decisions. I don’t mean to take us completely off the hook. But do you understand what I’m saying? The Bible teaches that when you and I come into relationship with God, when we trust Jesus Christ as our Savior, we are born into God’s family and God literally comes and lives inside of us. What a beautiful thing. And because he lives inside of us, now as we yield to him inside of us, he loves through us. So, I can love that unlovable roommate, neighbor, boss, spouse, child, parent, grandparent, grandchild, uncle. I can love that person because God is loving through me. And I can live above stress because God’s love, not only works through me, but works through the people that are around me. No more do you see God’s love demonstrated in a higher form than when we go through difficult times, right. For me, my world hit bottom 10 years ago. After 17 years of marriage, it was over. All of a sudden, I’m divorced. It’s not what I wanted. I’m thinking, “I’ve got all these kids. What am I gonna do with these kids?” This isn’t supposed to happen to people like me. I’m a good guy. This happens to mean guys, people that beat up people and cheat on people. I’m a good guy. This shouldn’t happen to me. But it did. And I remember thinking, “How am I gonna get through this?” And, you know, consequently, after eight years of being single again, God brought Cathy into my life. And we began to see, you know, there was so much to be learned, not only about our love between one another, but during those single years, and she could tell you the same story, it’s all about God’s love being shown through the friends in our life. Friends that would circle around me and say, “We’re not gonna let you go through this by yourself.” That’s why God gives us friends that just kinda put their arms around you. And they don’t have all the answers and I’m sure for my friends, it was a very ugly assignment. Well, I gotta go over and talk to Bill. He’s a mess. All he does is cry and, you know, drip water everywhere, you know, it’s, it’s sad.

Audience: (laughs).

Bill: It’s, to see a person like him, it’s sad. It’s- it’s- it’s brutal. But, I’ll go do it because I love him. And we can bring him through it. And you know what that’s all about, some of you. ‘Cause you know the pain of being left, or- or- or being lost or being, just somehow given that feeling of unloveliness. And I don’t deserve to ever love again. God says, “Wrong. You do. I’m gonna love you even when it hurts.” That’s love’s tremendous power. That can only come from Him. See, love is a top priority. It is something that takes practice, but as we realize that God can love through us and give us that tremendous power. Then, even when life doesn’t turn out like we’ve planned, we can begin to see sense made of it again and we can learn to love again, the way God wants us to.

John: That’s Bill Butterworth on this edition of Focus on the Family, reminding us that when the people around us feel broken, we just need to be the hands and feet of Christ and minister love to them. And, of course, Bill experienced a caring community himself and he’s now committed to sharing that legacy with those around him.

Jim: Uh, John, sometimes we just make it too difficult, don’t we?

John: Mmhmm.

Jim: Uh, as Bill pointed out there in First Corinthians, the apostle Paul wrote that three things remain: faith, hope, and love, and what was the greatest?

John: Well, that was love.

Jim: (laughs) right.

John: Yeah.

Jim: And, of course, we have to balance that out with respect and discipline and all those things. Uh, sometimes, some firmness as parents is required but the bottom line is this: when you’re at a loss for how to reach that rebellious child or you don’t know what to say to the grieving widow next door or you’re not sure how to respond to that person going through a tragic divorce, like Bill was, uh, start by loving them. Make it a priority. Practice living that way and then just watch. You’ll begin to see God’s enormous emerge in that situation and that relationship.

John: Yeah, and we’ve seen, uh, personally, Jim, and certainly here at the ministry, we hear from so many people who experienced that very thing.

Jim: Uh, we sure do, John, and that’s why we wanted to air this program, to remind those of you who are listening right now, that the world would be a better place if we can fill it with God’s love. That’s our ultimate goal. You know, over the past 12 months, over 700,000 parents said that Focus on the Family helped them build a stronger family by providing resources that help them love their children well, while also providing advice on discipline and the other important parenting matters. So, let me gently remind you, we are a listener supported ministry. We rely on your gifts to make all of these resource available 24/7. Can I ask you to consider giving back to Focus on the Family if we’ve helped you. The best way to partner with us is through a monthly pledge. That really helps us even out the budget over the year, and if you can make a pledge of any amount today, I’d like to send you a CD of this complete message from Bill Butterworth as our way of saying thank you for being part of the ministry, and that CD will have extra content that we just couldn’t get to today. And if you can’t make a monthly commitment right now, we understand that. Uh, we can also send the CD if you can provide a one-time gift of any amount. Just get in touch with us today.

John: And you can reach us when you call 800-A-FAMILY, 800-232-6459, or donate online and request your CD at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And when you’re online with us, be sure to check out our free parenting assessment. Uh, those results should encourage you and they might surprise you as well. Takes just a few minutes and, uh, we’ll link over to it. I hope you can be back next time as Debra Fileta explores the healing process and what it means to be healthy in every aspect of your life.

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Debra Fileta: In this world, we will go through hard things, you know, and, and to be able to face those with confidence and, um, acknowledge those hurts, make space for them, is one of the ways that we heal.

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Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!