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Replacing Panic With God’s Peace

Replacing Panic With God’s Peace

Popular speaker and author Patsy Clairmont describes how her life was once shaped by severe panic attacks and agoraphobia, and how she was able to overcome those struggles with the help of God, her church community, and group therapy. She offers listeners, particularly women, practical advice for pursuing emotional well-being and living life with faith, confidence, and joy.
Original Air Date: June 25, 2012

Excerpt:

Mrs. Patsy Clairmont: And so, I was drinking about 10 pots of coffee a day – not cups, pots of coffee a day. I was popping pills and taking in a lot of caffeine and nicotine. And I couldn’t figure out why I was such a nervous wreck.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: We’re featuring a message from Patsy Clairmont today, on how to overcome fear and anxiety and let’s go ahead, Jim, and just say it up front here – 10 pots of coffee is not the way to do that!

(LAUGHTER)

Jim Daly: Settle down, John! We all have worries and troubles in life. The trick is to learn how to manage them. And today we’ll hear how Patsy Clairmont’s fears made her a prisoner of her own home and how the Lord set her free. Patsy is the author of over 35 books. Her latest is called You Are More Than You Know: Face Your Fears, Grow Stronger. Patsy and her husband Les have been married for over 50 years and live in Franklin, Tennessee. She’s been traveling and speaking for 40 years and was one of the founding speakers for the Women of Faith conferences.

John: And here is Patsy Clairmont speaking at a Women of Faith event, on today episode of Focus on the Family. And we’ll pick up after some opening remarks, as Patsy begins her story.

Patsy: I had my first panic attack after my husband and I had, had what you might call a disagreement. And as he turned to walk away from me, every abandonment issue I had rose up to the surface in the form of an anxiety attack. And because I had never had one, I didn’t know what was happening to me. And my pulse increased. My heart was throbbing wildly. My eyes were dilated. I – I – it was just awful. I couldn’t catch my breath. I didn’t know what was wrong with me. He didn’t know what was wrong with me. So, we made a rush to the area hospital. When I got there, they gave me a shot of Demerol and that pretty well knocked me right out.

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: My husband had a few moments of peace, as did I.

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: But when I woke up, nobody told me what had happened to me. I – they must’ve have knew it was an anxiety attack, that I wasn’t coping well. But I didn’t know that. And I thought, I must be the only person in the world ever going through such a thing.

And I developed a fear of fear. And I was afraid it might happen again and sure enough, it did. We ended up doing a regular cycle of visitations to the emergency room. And, uh, my life’s boundaries became smaller and smaller. I can’t even call ‘em boundaries – the restrictions that I was putting on myself because of my fear.
And here’s the thing about fears, girlfriends. Fear has friends. If you give in to a fear, he invites them over. And they come in – anger and guilt and shame. And they began to hem me in until not only was I hiding away in my home, feeling incapable of going out in public lest I have another one of those episodes. And since I didn’t know what else to call them and I thought I was the only person in the world going through it, um, it was very paralyzing.

And eventually, I not only hid in my home, but I hid in my bed. I didn’t want to leave my bed. I – this was the prayer I had. “O God, if You would only give me a disease that doesn’t hurt and wouldn’t kill me.”

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: But just gives me a reason to be in this bed. I would be happy never to leave here again. Aren’t you glad that God doesn’t answer all our prayers?! Hello!

(APPLAUSE)

Patsy: We don’t know what we’re talking about a lot of times. I was looking for a safe place. I was looking to be rescued from all of the things that were intimidating me, which now had become most of life. So, I was hiding away in my bed and I woke up one day and I thought, “Patsy, where’re you gonna go from here, honey?”

And I cried out to God and I said, “I – I can’t do this. I need You to help me. You’ve got to rescue me. I – I don’t know how to get from this place where I feel so stuck.” And there was a voice. Now voices are a little annoying when you’re not stable. But…

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: There was a voice and it wasn’t an out-loud voice out here. It was an inside voice in here. And – and what I understood that voice to say was, “Make your bed.” And I thought, “Make my bed? What does that have to do with my sanity and getting out of my fears and not being overwhelmed with my guilt and not being overcome by shame?” And everything was too big and too hard, and I was too little and blah, blah, blah. “What do you mean, make my bed?”

That didn’t seem reasonable to me, as if I knew anything about reason. And – and so, I argued with myself and with the voice. And I said, “That makes no sense. O God, I want to do great things for You.” “Make your bed.” So, I got out of bed and I thought, “Well, I could see why that was a good idea already. Now I’m not in it. So, I got out of it and I stood there, and I looked at it and I thought, “Do I have to make both sides?”

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: Because I only slept on this side and “you know who” slept on that side. Shouldn’t he make his own side?” Oh, I had no anger issues. And so, the Lord gently prompted me to make both sides and to do that every day. That just seemed so incidental, so unnecessary. Here I am suffering and struggling and He’s saying, “Make your bed.” But see I didn’t know that, that was built on a principle and it – and it is this: that when you are faithful in little things, then I will give you more. And when you are faithful in more, then I’ll give you much.
But I hadn’t even been faithful in the least of things and I wanted Him to give me everything. I wanted Him to be “Great Magician.” He said, “No, no, that’s ‘Physician’ and you, honey, need surgery.”

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: I wanted Him to fix me in the night while I was resting, so I could rise up righteous in the morning. But His way of doing it was so distant from mine. And His was to invite me into the fray of my own emotions, that we might begin to untangle some of the snarls that were there. I went back to my doctor and I said to him, “Do not give me one more pill.” You see, I was at that time, a fairly addictive person. And I was trying all the coping skills I could think up, all my bright ideas. And so, I was drinking about 10 pots of coffee a day, not cups, pots of coffee a day. I smoked two packs of cigarettes a day and I took four very strong tranquilizers every day. The doctor said, “I give you enough to knock out a horse.” And I thought, “Well, that’s where my horse went.”

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: He said, “And it barely fazes you.” So, I was popping pills and taking in a lot of caffeine and nicotine. And- and I couldn’t figure out why I was such a nervous wreck.

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: Yeah. So, I said to the doctor, “Do not give me one more pill. I want you to help me get well.” And he said, “Well, I’d like you to go to church.” I said, “If I could do that, I wouldn’t be here.” And he said, “Okay, all right.” He said, “There is a self-help group that you could go to.” And he said, uh, “They have one in your hometown and one in the town next to your town and you could go to two a week.” So, I started attending, uh, these self-help group meetings. But the first one was a huge step, and may I say to you, if you feel stuck, it’s necessary in your “stuckness” to take and a risk a step forward. It will always feel unnatural and threatening. But it is the way we find our liberty, is our willingness to take a step. And I hope it doesn’t take you as long as it did me, ‘cause I was really dragging my feet on going forward, because I was so self-protective and I don’t know what I thought I was protecting, because my life was a mess.

So, I went to the first meeting, but I made my husband go with me. He didn’t come inside to the meeting. He sat outside and waited for me. And so, he took me there and he dropped me off and I went in. And they began talking and they were talking my language of being broken and finding hope.

I listened to them and I thought, “Well, for heaven’s sakes, I am not the only banana cracker out there.”

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: There’s a whole box of us right here in this room. There is something that gives you such hope when someone understands where you’re coming from. I love that. That is why God has given us the body of Christ, that we might come together and that we might give hope one to another.

And so, I came out of that meeting, um, absolutely thrilled. In fact, after that meeting, I never again had to be taken back to a hospital with an anxiety attack. I had many anxiety attacks after that, but I finally found out I wasn’t the only one, that there was a way to handle this and to manage myself. I didn’t know that. So, every word they said was thrilling to me, until they told me the guidelines that you had to use to participate in the, um, meetings. And it was that you would tell a story of something that was really hard for you to deal with. And that in the dealing of it, you didn’t handle it well. And – and you tell this story and then they help give you principles that you can put into place, so that you can deal with that situation more rationally. So, I was all for that until they said, there are three things you cannot do when you tell your story. You cannot complain. You cannot whine. And you cannot exaggerate.

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: I thought, “What! You’ve taken my three best tools away from me.” I mean, how can I not complain? And I don’t whine. I’m not a whiner.

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: (Clears throat) But the exaggerating part of it, that was tough, because how am I certain that you have truly understood, uh, how bad it is for me if I don’t make it as big as possible? And when I found out about those three things, the complaining and the whining and the exaggerating, is those are three ways we keep anger going. It’s three ways we cement our feet into the stuck place we’re in and then blame others we’re like this. It is the three ways that will eat up the vitality of our faith and keep us believing the lie that we can’t be any more whole than we are right now.

And life is made to be an ongoing journey, for us to enter into fully and freely. And I didn’t have fully or freely, but I was sure wanting it pretty bad. But I didn’t desire it until I got to the bottom of myself. Sometimes we try to rescue people. And we go in too soon to do for them what they should’ve done for themselves. And they never get to the end of themselves and surrender to the plan of God. So, come alongside people, but don’t rescue them from the very things that God could use to draw them to Himself.

John: You’re listening to Patsy Clairmont on Focus on the Family. And this reminder that you can get a CD of this entire presentation and Patsy’s book about overcoming your fears when you call 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Or donate and request those at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Let’s return now to more from Patsy Clairmont.

Patsy: And so, I went into this meeting and I heard the words of hope, that I was not alone and I began to take the skills that they were teaching in – in the group and I realized that every skill they had lined up with a principle of God’s Word. And that’s why it worked.

And so, I’ve come with a word of encouragement to you, that your broken emotions, um, they leave you in a very vulnerable place, but as God picks up the brokenness of your life, it’s like putting the pieces and shards of glass into a kaleidoscope and holding it up and spinning the wheel. And suddenly, because light has touched it, there’s beautiful patterns that appear. And what looked like it could have no value, now becomes the most priceless thing that you have to offer another person. And that is the work that Christ has done in you.

I learned for me, that I needed to have boundaries on my emotions. Um, for me to say everything that was on my mind was in no one’s best interest and Proverbs says, “To tell it all is foolishness. It is a wise person who restrains his lips.” And so, that was really important for me to learn to have boundaries on my emotions and to harness my thoughts.

There is a little three-step thing that I have given out for years and will do it as long as there’s breath in my body if I think it will help one of you to collect your thoughts up in a way that really helps you. And that is, when you have impure, unkind, unlovely, ungracious thoughts, refuse those thoughts. That’s based on the “casting down of imaginations and every high thing that would exalt the – itself against the knowledge of God and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Jesus Christ.” And you refuse those things you know you shouldn’t be thinking on.

And then you replace it, because if you don’t replace it with something, you’re a vulnerable space cadet. You got all that empty space and the enemy would love to come and tap dance around in there. So, you have to replace it with something, and this is based on Philippians, chapter 4. “Think on those things that are good and true and pure and lovely and just and of good report.  And if they have any virtue and if they have any praise, to think on those things.”

So, you’ve refused it. You’ve replaced it. Now you have to repeat that process again and again, ‘cause the enemy will come back and say, “Are you available now to think about this?” And you’ll have to continue to do that as a discipline. And you will find that your mind becomes stronger. You are not as easily harassed with thoughts that you know are right from the enemy himself. So, that becomes really important.

Also, if I might add another R that has already been mentioned by my friend, Andy. It is “reading.” Ladies, that was one of the redemptive ways that God not only gave me boundaries for my thought life, um, but gave me the education I didn’t have.

Uh, and so, what I found is, that when He gave me such a voracious appetite for books, I read all my friends’ books that they owned. And – and then when I got through and they weren’t keeping up with things and replenishing their libraries, I then opened a small bookstore in my home to supply my habit. Because now my habit had become that I was hungry for hope. And I wanted to see how other people kept their lives together and their marriages together and how they nurtured their children and how they celebrated each other and how to do friendship and on and on and on.

And – and books were – were available. So, I would read all the books in my little bookstore before I sold them. It was a way that helped me to continue to grow and – and continuing to grow is important. I remember a young woman I was talking to. She was struggling in her marriage. And I said, “Honey, have I got some books for you.” She said, “No, no. I don’t read. Neither does my husband.” I said, “Well, can you read?” “Yes, yes, of course we can read. We’re well educated.” “Then why wouldn’t you read?” “Well,” she said, “we don’t like other people’s opinions interfering in our relationship.”

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: I said, “Something needs to interfere. You’re having a hard time here.” And she said, “Well, we – we don’t read books.” Um, now I’m not saying this is the reason they ended up getting a divorce, that they didn’t read a book, but I am saying that if your heart isn’t teachable enough to open up to truth, then you’ll stay stuck. And the next marriage for her failed, as well. And then the next one.

Uh, I – I just want to say to you, if you’re a non-reader, the way you can become one is to do books on tape. Um, join a book club with people you like, so you look forward to seeing them, even though you didn’t want to read the book.

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: And then you get into discussions and it helps you. I found it is very important to place myself around people who are ahead of me, so that I can learn from them. And I ask them, “What are you reading these days?” I’m always checking with my porch pals, “What’s up now? What’s on the reading list? How’s it benefitting you? Is it a book that will nurture and help us to grow or just entertain and delight us?” So, I encourage you to be readers.

But not only did I need boundaries on my emotions, and I needed to harness my thoughts, but I needed as I talked about earlier, I needed to minimize my word count. If you find that every time someone takes a breath you jump in, uh, it could be you have more words than are necessary for anybody to hear. And you might want to back off. You might want to go on – on a little word diet. Um…

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: And there’s a way you can do that. You can practice. Start by going one hour a day during the day while everyone’s a way, one hour a day without any words at all, not saying a word. It’ll do a couple of things for you. It will cause great mystery to break out in your home.

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: Uh, that will be one of the things. Uh, but it will begin to help you to get some control and some boundaries on your words. People often will say to me, um, “How did your husband ever put up with you during those years?” And I say, “Well, that is a good question.” So, I went to him and I said, “Les, when I was at my worst in my agoraphobia, how did you put up with that?” And he said, “Well, didn’t seem like that big a deal to me.” I said, “Really?” That really was a big deal, so I couldn’t imagine why it wasn’t a big deal for him until one day as I was thinking about it, it came to me that he grew up, uh, with an alcoholic, abusive father.

And I – I don’t mean he was crabby. I mean he was violent. He threw knives at the children. He shot guns at them. I mean, it was terrible, and he beat their mother, which for those children, was probably the most damaging thing that happened. You listen to me if any of you are in here and are being abused and think it’s only about you. I still watch my husband shudder and tear up and become emotional at the thought that as a child, he could do nothing. He could do nothing to rescue his mom. He wanted to. It was in his heart. And what happened was, he grew up and became a – a caretaker. He – he wanted to rescue every woman who was in trouble and then he met me.

(LAUGHTER)

Patsy: He thought, “This’ll last a lifetime.” And so, we married and that was, uh, 48 years ago in July. Shouldn’t a worked. Shouldn’t a worked.

We are all broken people. Hello!  We are all broken people. We have all had broken hearts and broken dreams. But what keeps me going and celebrating is the fact that when I offer all those fragments, all those shards up to the Lord and hold them up to His light, their beautiful patterns begin to develop.

God bless you, ladies. God bless you.

(APPLAUSE)

John: She is such a delightful person. Patsy Clairmont speaking at a Woman of Faith event on Focus on the Family.

Jim: She is delightful, John, and her story is just one more example of the fact that, as Patsy likes to say, “God uses cracked pots” which was the title of her first best-selling book, published by Focus on the Family. You know, only God can take a woman from being housebound, literally bedridden, and turn her into someone who can travel and speak to thousands of women in large arenas. Only God can do that. And let me remind you. God works through our staff here at Focus on the Family, to help people in need like Patsy was in those early days of her marriage. Here’s just one example from our counseling team: “A woman in crisis called for help. And her husband had been killed in a boating accident the previous day, and she was overwhelmed with the decisions that had to be made. The counselor offered ideas for how to respond to family members, who had conflicting opinions about the funeral arrangements. The woman also had many questions about eternal life, and the counselor provided words of comfort from the Bible and prayed with her.”

John: I am – I just can’t imagine the pain she was going through. What a hard situation. I am so glad she called us, though.

Jim: Well, you’re overwhelmed with everything, right? Um, and I have to thank the Lord and you, our donors, for making it possible for our highly-trained team of counselors to be here, to provide that kind of support to folks that need it. It’s because of donors like you that we’re able to offer our counseling services free of charge. If you have a heart for people with these kinds of needs, can I encourage you to become a monthly partner of Focus on the Family? That’s really the best way to help us even-out our budget and keep this outreach thriving. And when you make a monthly pledge of any amount, I’d like to send you a copy of Patsy Clairmont’s book called You Are More Than You Know: Face Your Fears, Grow Stronger. And if you can’t make a monthly commitment – we know times have been difficult for many families affected by the coronavirus pandemic – we can still send you that book for a one-time donation of any amount.

John: Yeah. And Patsy’s book will show how to go from a fear-based life to faith-based freedom. And so, get you copy when you call 800-A-FAMILY. Or donate online and request that book at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. By the way, when you’re online, be sure to look for a free PDF that we have. Patsy has provided this. It’s called “10 Steps to Soothe Your Soul When You’re Feeling Anxious.” Next time on this broadcast, a brave mom who chose to carry her terminally ill baby to term against her doctor’s advice. You’re hear her story and the lessons she learned about God’s love.

Teaser:

Mrs. Sarah Williams: She was the greatest gift God ever gave, because through loving her, God showed me His own heart. She was God’s gift to us because she taught us how to love somebody who needs our love.

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Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

Cover image of Dr. Randall Schroeder's book "Simple Habits for Effective Parenting"

Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

Headshot photo of author Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

Cover image of Dr. Lee Warren's book "I've Seen the End of You"

I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

Headshot of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!