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Navigating the Common Challenges of Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Navigating the Common Challenges of Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Best-selling author Gary Chapman addresses conflicts that arise when expectations meet reality in marriage, and provides steps to better communicate with and love your spouse. (Part 2 of 2)

Original Air Date: March 15, 2013

Opening: 

Excerpt:

Gary Chapman: Before we get married and while we’re dating, we’re in the “in love” stage. And when you’re in – in that stage of the relationship, the other person’s perfect. But when we get married, we come down off of that. Now, we’re back to being normal, and normal, in our culture, is self-centered.

End of Excerpt 

John Fuller: That insight comes from our last Focus on the Family broadcast. That’s Dr. Gary Chapman, and he’ll back with us again today, talking about marriage and setting expectations and dealing with conflict that typically results from our self-centered nature. I’m John Fuller. Our host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly. And Jim, marriage is a foundational aspect of what we do here.

Jim Daly: Oh John, it’s one of the key things. We look at five things here at Focus on the Family that we wanna walk in the door every day knowing what we’re about. And it’s evangelism – reaching people for the Lord. If we don’t keep that front and center, we’re failing. Next is marriage. We need to do all we can to strengthen marriages in this nation and around the world, especially as Christians because our marriages are now testimonies to the world. Because marriage is being redefined in just about every culture. Next is parenting. Can we help you raise wonderful, spirit-filled kids that are gonna follow Christ no matter what? And also advocacy for children and engaging the culture. That’s what we’re about and I’m so thankful that we’re gonna talk again about marriage today.

And you know John, when we have a guest that really hits it, I know it because I’m at home talking to Jean about it. Saying how, “You know here’s what we talked about today.” And she engages the conversation. We laugh. We may even say, “Okay, I gotta try better in that area.” That’s exactly what happens with Dr. Gary Chapman. Gary brings such wisdom and insight into this studio, and we talked last time about those quirks in our spouses that drive us crazy. We used to think they were cute, but now they’ve become an annoyance. And if you missed last time, download it, pick it up by CD because it was really good and it taught me a lot. And I think it did you too, right John?

John: It did. Yeah, I’m taking notes every time Dr. Chapman is here. I mean he’s written so many good things and he’s brought so many good conversations to our audience here over the years.

Body:

Jim: Yeah, Dr. Chapman it is so good to have you back at Focus on the Family.

Gary: Well, thank you, Jim. I always enjoy being here.

Jim: Hey, last time, it was both fun and painful.

(LAUGHTER)

Painful in that, okay, I gotta do better in that area. But we talked about those things that irritate us and we talked about the fact that in many marriages today, we’re not even able to communicate the strain. We don’t sit down. We don’t take the time to say, “Let me share something with you and you can share something with me,” which you encouraged us to do last time. Let’s role play that for a minute. Let’s say uh, well, use your own experience or if you want me, I – I’ll use mine with Jean, but how would I even approach that? Tonight when I go home, how do I sit with Jean and say, “Jean, I’d like to share something that irritates me about you?”

Gary: Yeah. Well, I think first of all, Jim, you need to have an open discussion – husband and wife – and say, “You know, we realize that there are things that we irritate – each of us irritate the other. Why don’t we get us a plan? And one plan would be this, this week, I’ll ask you, if there something you’d like to share with me that I’m doing or not doing that irritates you?”

Jim: So, start with yourself.

Gary: Start with yourself. And then next week, you know, we turn it around. And it’ll be every other week. And you can choose the night and you just ask. If you agree to do that, then you don’t have to get up the courage every week to bring it up. Because you’ve already agreed that this week I’m gonna ask you, and next week you’re gonna ask me. And this is gonna be a part of our life from now on. And so you’ve got you a plan where you can share these things. So if you’ve got the plan, then you can say, “Honey, I think this is my week. And so what I wanna do…”

John: She would remember that, I think.

(LAUGHTER)

Gary: “So what I wanna do is ask you is this a good night to ask you uh, to share with me one thing that uh, I could stop doing or start doing that would make life better for you?”

Jim: That’s a wonderful question. I mean, it just, at – at its very core, it fulfills so much of – of a Christian and scriptural mandate for us as husbands and wives, doesn’t it?

Gary: It does. And here’s what I suggest also, Jim, that once I’ve asked you that, you say, “Well, honey, before I tell you that, I want to tell you three things I really like about you.” And you say, “I really like the fact that you vacuum the floor on Thursday night.” This is what my wife would say. “And I really like the fact that you get the hairs out of the sink. And I really like the fact that you take the garbage out. Now if you want to know how you can be even better…” and she shares with me one thing that I could do that would make life easier for her.

Well, see, I feel affirmed by her. I feel like I’m already doing a pretty good job, but I can be better. And she’s telling me how I can be better. It’s easier to receive her suggestion because she’s told me three things she likes about me.

Jim: Well and you were very specific with that 3 to 1 ratio. Is that a magic formula?

Gary: You know I just take that out of the book of Revelation where God said to the church at Ephesus, “You know there’s three things I like about you and there’s one thing I wish you’d change.”

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: So even God is doing that in that context. Gary, it’s wonderful to be able to capture that. I can imagine there are many women hearing this though and they’re gasping, thinking, “My husband and I could never communicate like that because if I open that door to share something that you would like me to improve upon, he will pounce on that.” And they fear it. Um, how can they get over that to where they can even become vulnerable to hear it?

Gary: Well, you know, I think the natural thing is if we’re having struggles in a marriage, it’s because my spouse is not doing this or not doing that or because they’re doing the wrong things. And that’s the place where we go all the time. In our mind, we go there.

But the place Jesus said to start was by getting the beam out of your own eye. And this is just trying to apply that principle. So, if that wife, who’s fearful, would simply say to her husband, maybe they don’t have this discussion that I mentioned about, you know, I’ll do it this week; you do it next week. She’s afraid to do that.

She just says to him, “I’ve been thinking about how I’d like to be a better wife. I know I’m not perfect and I want to be a better wife. And I’m – I’m asking you to tell me one thing that I could do or stop doing that would make life better for you. Now please don’t give me five things, because I can – I – I just want to work on one. I’ll ask you again later on for another one, but just give me one.” Most husbands, even though he may brush it off at first and say, “Oh, you’re doin’ fine.” You know, if he didn’t want to get into it, “You’re doin’ fine.” But she says, “No, I’m serious. You know, I – I really want to be a better wife and I want you to give me an idea on how I could do that.” If he really feels she’s serious, he may not that night, but he may come back the next night, when she comes back and says, “You know, honey, you didn’t tell me last night, but I know you’ve thought about it today and I’m ready. Tell me one thing,” he will.

And if he sees her do that one thing, he’s beginning to think, “What is goin’ on here?” you know. And she does it two – let’s say two weeks later, she does it again. And well, it’s not long before he’s thinking, “Well, now wait a minute. This is kinda one-sided.” You know, “Why don’t you give me a suggestion on how I could be a better husband?” So, she brings him into it without ever discussing it, just by her model.

Jim: And again, that’s very scriptural, isn’t it.

Gary: It is.

Jim: It’s what the Lord said we should do. As I was reading your book, Happily Ever After, and parleying that into a conversation with Jean, there was an instance in there and it really caught Jean. And she laughed because in the book you talk about a man who said, “There’s three things that I struggle with with my wife. One: she’s very unorganized. Two: she spends more money than we budget. And three: I don’t get enough love-making in our marriage. And Jean howled. Saying, “Okay, that’s basically every man and woman’s struggle. All three of those.”

Gary: That happened in the counseling office, and those are the three things the guy started out with. You know, “This is the problem in my marriage.”

Jim: I mean that’s kind of – that’s probably hitting 70 percent of marriages.

Gary: I would say so, those are very common things that men struggle with in a marriage. It can sometimes be the other way around. You know a wife can have a husband who’s spending too much money in her – in her mind. Or he can be disorganized as well. But, you know I think when you get down to it, marriage has to do with an intimate relationship between a man and a woman. And we know that involves the sexual part because God made us sexual. And that’s God’s design, and that’s an important part of marriage. It’s not all of marriage, but it’s an important part of marriage. And then, the whole issue of processing life – money is a part of life. And money – we can have conflicts over money. There’s only three things you can do with money: you can give it away, you can spend it, or you can save it.

And then personality differences. You know organized and not organized. I mean there’s all kind of personality differences. But as we love each other and we feel loved by each other, we can process these things that irritate us in a much more positive manner. We can change a lot of those things, and the ones that don’t get changed, we can come to accept those things. And life really is what God intended it to be. You know, loving, supportive, caring relationships. That’s what marriage is designed to be.

Jim: Okay, so let’s say we’ve done that really well as a young couple and we’ve got this great open communication going and she’s limiting her quirks and I’m limiting mine and we’re gettin’ along just fine. And all of a sudden, guess what? We’ve got babies on the way. And those little ones come into our family and now it turns everything upside down, ‘cause there’s a whole new set of expectations. Talk about those times and when children are bringing some different dimensions to the marriage.

Gary: Well, let’s face it; babies radically change a marriage, because somebody’s gotta care for that baby. But here’s the danger, that we both focus on the baby and we totally ignore each other.

Jim: That’s very common, today.

Gary: Very common and it leads to the point where six years down the road, we’re wondering why we’re married. And that’s why I say to couples, you need to prepare for a child coming into the house. And then once a child gets there, you need to be discussing things on a regular basis, how we’re handling these things. Because it’s gonna take more time for the baby. It’s gonna be his time or her time. It’s gonna take more money, because a baby’s gonna cost. So, we’ve gotta think about these things.

And getting control of the schedule is a huge thing with children. And I say to parents, of course, you know, when they’re infants, they’re gonna be sleeping two-thirds of the time, we hope, you know.

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: That’s the goal.

Gary: But as they – as they begin to grow up, we need to establish definite bedtimes for that child. I’m amazed. I’m in Walmart at 10 o’clock on a Monday night and here’s a 3-year-old at Walmart.

Jim: Right.

Gary: And I’m thinkin’ this kid should’ve been in bed three hours ago, you know?

Jim: At least.

Gary: So, establish that bedtime and when you establish it early, you can follow right on through all of childhood. And that gives the two of you some time to have a marriage after the children are in bed. I mean, that’s the most logical time. So, we have to get control of our schedule. We have to have the children on a schedule. We have to assess our own schedules so that we make time for each other; it’s key.

Jim: Gary, so often, especially for young couples, uh, a wife that’s feeling perhaps isolated or not connected like she once was with her husband, they may think having a baby will draw them closer together, so they’re actually using the child as an opportunity to heal their marriage. That’s probably not a good thing to do.

Gary: A child never heals a marriage. If you think that having a child is gonna draw the two of you together when you were not together before you had the child, you’re mistaken. You need to work on your marriage before you have the child, because the child is gonna be stress on the marriage relationship. It’s not going to enhance it; it’s gonna make it more difficult.

Jim: And let’s be sure that people hear us. Children are a blessing.

Gary: Absolutely.

Jim: And we want to say that forthrightly and any child anytime is a gift from the Lord.

Gary: Yes.

Jim: But you’re cautioning couples to make sure that they’re healthy, so that there’s not greater havoc in that home, which so often unfortunately today ends in divorce.

Gary: Yeah. And let’s face it. God designed marriage – husband, wife and most marriages, children. So, there has to be time to have a good marriage after you have children. It’s God’s plan and there has to be time to do it. We have to make the time to have a marriage after we have the children. And to be good parents.

Jim: Well, when you tie that again, to the love languages – let’s say you a spouse that their love language is time, and you add those kids in. I mean this is chaos. John, you’ve got 6 kids.

John: This is my house. You’ve just described it right there.

Jim: So tell us. Give us that scenario. What happens in your home, I think Dena…

John: Dena is absolutely a – a quality time person.

Jim: So how do you do it? How do you find time or is that a struggle?

John: It really is a struggle. And um, I think I didn’t realize that that was a primary love language of hers until uh, I don’t know, 3 or 4 kids into this. And so we’ve – we’ve been much more intentional in these past years. And it gets easier when you have a teenager who has a cell phone, and now you have built-in babysitting. You know we’ve got co-workers, Jim, they’ve got 2 or 3 little kids – 5, 6 years old or younger – there isn’t a lot of free time there. That is a challenge. Um, you know for us, when we were able to have built-in babysitting that unlocked a regular date night. But Dr. Chapman, talk to those couples that – that hear what you’re saying, but it’s impossible. They’re both workin’, they’ve got kids, they’ve got a lot of stresses. And a regular time to talk is just not gonna happen.

Gary: Two things I would say: one is you have to make marriage a priority. In your mind, in your heart, you have to say to each other, “Our relationship is priority.” Secondly, you have to put your money where your priority is. And that means that we’re gonna spend some money to hire a babysitter if we have to. To come in so we can go out. Use your money to build a relationship. You say, “I find couples that are saving their money to build a house or buy a new car or whatever.” And by the time they get around to the house or the car, they’ve lost the marriage. And a house is meaningless without a marriage.

So, you make marriage your priority, and then you put your money where your priority is. And you organize your life around that. That means you may sacrifice in some other areas, but we’re gonna make time for each other. And uh, yes, when you have small children, you’re gonna have to get somebody from the outside to stay with those children a few hours. Now it can be a grandparent. If they’re close, that would be fine; that’d be wonderful. But sometimes you have to hire a babysitter to come in and stay with those children so you can get out.

Jim: You know Gary, even last night as I was looking at the book and prepping for the program today, I asked you in the question, “You know if there’s one thing I could do to improve our relationship, what would it be?” And she said, “Well, there’s two.”

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: I mean, she had these in a – in a instant file in her brain ‘cause obviously – she didn’t even hesitate. And uh, she said, “Well the one thing you do – I love your spontaneity. It – it brings zest to the family. But sometimes your spontaneity – it’s a little out of control ‘cause you come home and you say, ‘Hey, let’s go to Disneyworld tomorrow.’ And you say it in front of the kids, and the kids get all excited, and there’s no way we’re gonna pull that off.” And I had to stop, and I thought about that. And I said, “I do do that, don’t I?” I mean I didn’t realize, you know, that I was doin’ it.”

John: Well it’s a good thing you asked then.

Jim: Well it is a good thing. And you know, it’s so funny, the first one stung me so much, I don’t even know what she said for the second one. I can’t remember.

(LAUGHTER)

John: Well I’m sorry to hear that. But I’m getting some signals from the crew in the control room here that they’re gonna help you with that, Jim, because they’ve suggested getting Jean on the line…

Jim: No!

John: …telling me that they’re gonna – they’re gonna get her on the line right now.

Jim: What is this? A torture…

John: In fact, they have her on the line.

Jim: Is this a torture chamber?

John: No, they just anticipated that you might need a little prompting on this one. 

Jim: Oh. Hey, Jean, are you there?

Jean Daly: Yes.

Jim: All right. You can say hi to Dr. Chapman. He’s right here.

Jean: Hello, Dr. Chapman.

Gary: Hello. I’ve done all I can to help Jim today.

(LAUGHTER)

Jean: I appreciate that.

Jim: He has worked me over, let me tell ya.

Jean: I appreciate that.

Jim: You know, the uh, Jean, this is probably the best way I could be held accountable. These guys wanted me to be a little more forthright about my shortcomings. So, just this morning you shared two things with me that you felt I could improve on. One was not to surprise you with spontaneous plans to do something fun with the boys, like, “Hey, let’s go to Disneyland tomorrow,” when you got a whole list of things you want to do. I heard that. I just want you to know, I affirm that. I heard that and I will try harder not to do that.

And then you mentioned a second one, I think, but I’m struggling in remembering that one, so I need you to tell me.

Jean: Well, it’s um, as you of course, know, the garage is your domain.

Jim: Yes.

Jean: And you like it to be nice and tidy. And it rarely is. I mean, you know, you will go out and clean it and then it gets messy very quickly from the boys and I. But it does – does bother me that almost 100 percent of the time…

(LAUGHTER)

Jean: …we – if I’ve asked you to go out to the garage or if you need to go out to the garage, you do comment on the way it looks.

Jim: On how untidy it has become…

Jean: Yes.

Jim: …since I just cleaned it. 

Jean: And – and you’re not happy about it when you comment, make those comments.

Jim: All right, well, listen. I am going to try very hard to restrain myself from making that comment. That’s my commitment to you. And Dr. Chapman’s gonna hold me accountable.

Jean: May I make a follow-up comment?

Jim: Of course!

Jean: Well, no, I wanna say that there’s probably 25 percent of the people listening who are thinking, “Well, why doesn’t Jean just clean up the garage?”

Jim: Oh, I doubt that many people are thinking that.

(LAUGHTER)

Jean: Okay, good. But we’re in Colorado, so you can only do it in summer time and you know it’s too cold to go out there and keep it tidy.

Jim: Yeah. Well, I appreciate the thoughtfulness, but uh, anyway, hey, I love you. We’ll see you later.

Jean: Okay.

Jim: Bye-bye.

Jean: Very fun.

Jim: Bye.

Jean: Love you, too. Bye.

John: Oh, that was fun, Jim. Thanks for being a good sport and letting us get her on the line like that.

Jim: I don’t think I had much of a choice.

John: I really appreciate Jean’s candor there.

Jim: She’s got a great sense of humor.

John: You two obviously get along well.

Jim: We do. We do.

John: A garage notwithstanding.

Jim: Even garages, they can split marriages right in half. So can not remembering the second thing your wife told you to improve on. That can split your relationship too. You know what? I’m so thankful for an understanding and patient wife. You know, patience, I think, is one of the most important things that you can show to your spouse as they’re trying to, you know, improve things.

Uh, Gary, as we come in for a landing in this very embarrassing program, we’ve spent a lot of time encouraging, hopefully, couples to think about how they recognize their differences and their needs and to communicate them openly. Set up a time even once a week, as you’ve talked about, to encourage honest dialogue. “What can I do to help you? What can I do? What can I change in myself that actually would benefit you? And I’m willing to do that.” That is so Christ-like. It screams Ephesians, your ability to lay down your life for your spouse. It’s a wonderful thing.

When you look at marriages today, is it simply that we’re not training young married people, even you know, middle-aged married people, to think in this way? Why have we lost the art of marriage?

Gary: I think you’re right, Jim. I think it’s the fact that we have not, as Christians, really personalized the concept that I am here to serve others. That’s my calling. I don’t care who you are. If you’re a Christian, you’re here to serve others. You’re not here to satisfy your own desires and your own dreams and visions. You’re here to serve others. That – whatever vocation you have, you’re here to serve others. Why should that not start in the marriage?

And if we have a heart to serve others, I think it does overflow within the marriage. And then our children pick up on it. And our children grow up not expecting everybody to do everything for them, but they grow up wanting to reach out and help others. It’s the central theme of the Christian life. Jesus said, “I did not come to be served, I came to serve and to give My life a ransom for others.” And we’re His followers and we’re not here to be served; we’re here to serve others.

Jim: Gary that’s so beautifully said and so scripturally accurate. Um, I’m reminded of a good friend to this ministry, Don Hodel, who worked here as interim president. He served in the cabinet for President Reagan. He was the secretary of Interior and Energy during Reagan’s eight year, um, a delightful person, a good friend of Dr. Dobson, a board member at one time. But he, to help Dr. Dobson in the – in the transition process, agreed to come and be interim president. That was before I was appointed. 

And uh, you know, I watched Don and Barbara come to every meeting. Barbara was part of his life. Uh, and she wanted to be engaged and they would actually work together and she was…

John: She had a desk in his office as I recall.

Jim: She was always there next to Don. And Don shared an amazing story with me where, just weeks before Barbara had a terrible accident, fell down a flight of stairs and became a quadriplegic, just weeks before that happened, they talked about what a wonderful life they had shared together and how beautiful it was and how blessed they were by the Lord. And they agreed that when something happens, when it was likely at some point in the years ahead, something could happen that would diminish their ability to enjoy this life that they agreed that they would, one, take care of each other and two, remember the good days, so they could get through these more difficult days.

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: Well, lo and behold, the accident happened and for years, Don took care of Barbara. She passed away not long ago and to me, that was a model of love, the absolute biblical application of what you’re talking about. And so often today, that can break a marriage up.

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: Um, where the one spouse is unable to cope and because I can’t cope, I’m leaving.

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: Um, and we can do that emotionally. We can do it because of physical difficulty. But what a beautiful picture of the way it should be done.

Gary: Yeah and – and that’s – that’s the results of a lifelong relationship where you’ve been loving and supporting each other. You know, sometimes we talk so much about the problems in marriage, but marriage is an absolutely incredible experience. It’s a relationship that God ordained and it brings tremendous satisfaction.

You know, I’m – I take great pleasure and joy in seeing my wife blossom and do things for God. And she does the same through me. Uh, you know, you rejoice in each other. It’s more blessed to give than receive, the Bible says. And that’s certainly true in a marriage.

Jim: But we need to cultivate that attitude, don’t we? Today we’re so quickly to give ourselves over to what I would say are more worldly uh, characteristics. We want to fight. We want to divide. We don’t want to do the things that God says will bless your life.

Gary: Yeah. 

Jim: To have a healthy marriage, to have loving children. We choose to go with our flesh, rather than with the Word of God. 

Gary: And we talk about being happy, you know. 

Jim: Yeah. 

Gary: You know, so many couples say to me, “I’m getting out of this marriage, because I just – I think I deserve to be happy.” You know failing to realize that if you do marriage God’s way, happiness is just a by-product of that. I mean you do have happiness. You’ve got joy, which is much deeper than happiness, it’s that deep, settled contentment, you know. But you do have happy feelings, too, if you cultivate the marriage. 

Closing: 

John: Always great insights from Dr. Gary Chapman. And regardless of your age and stage and season of marriage, there’s something to grab onto here. 

Jim: It’s been wonderful, these last couple of days to talk about how to have a strong marriage, being rooted in God and sacrificing yourself to each other. You’ll be amazed at how God will bless that. And it’s not gonna be perfect – I’ll tell ya. Some days you do it well, other days you won’t. What we want to say as we end today’s program is we are for you. Maybe on those bad days where it doesn’t go so well. We are for your marriage and more than that, God is for your marriage. He wants you not to have a marriage that just survives, but He wants it to thrive, to be a witness for Him that this is His plan for the family and for one another. It needs to be like I said, that shalom, that peace of God that comes into a home. And we want to help you here at Focus to achieve that. So, if you’re struggling, call us. That’s an open invitation. 

We have many many resources available to you, including counseling and our Hope Restored marriage intensives. We also have the book we mentioned today, Happily Ever After by Dr. Chapman. And you know what? These resources and this broadcast are all listener-supported. So let me say thank you to those of you who have supported us in the past. Your prayers and financial contributions are what fuels the ministry here at Focus on the Family and allows us to minister to couples and families. 

In fact, right now, we have some generous friends of Focus who will match your donation dollar-for-dollar. So everything’s doubled. If you give $50, it’ll be $100, which means your donation’s gonna help twice as many families today. So join us in standing for marriage and for the family! 

John: And when you do, we’ll say thank you by sending a complimentary copy of Dr. Chapman’s book, Happily Ever After. So donate and get your copy of that book and learn more about the kind of help we have for marriages at focusonthefamily.com/radio. Or call 1-800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. 

Be sure to join us next time as you hear about your personality and the personality of your child and how those intersect and what God wants for you.

Teaser:

Mrs. Hettie Britz: That God is shaping both you and your child through the dissonance that you experience because your temperament is not the same as your child. And when you rub them up the wrong way, they still are growing through that and so are you.

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As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

Cover image of the book "Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life"

Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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