Gary Chapman

Gary Chapman

Dr. Gary Chapman is the senior associate pastor at Calvary Baptist Church in Winston-Salem, N.C. He’s also an international public speaker and the best-selling author of numerous books including The Five Love Languages which has sold more than five million copies and has been translated into nearly 40 languages. Dr. Chapman holds several academic degrees including a Ph.D. in adult education from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary.

Staying True to Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Best-selling author Dr. Gary Chapman describes how extramarital affairs often begin, and encourages couples to take active steps to invest in and protect their marriage. He also discusses the importance of knowing and using your spouse’s love language. (Part 2 of 2)

Staying True to Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Best-selling author Dr. Gary Chapman describes how extramarital affairs often begin, and encourages couples to take active steps to invest in and protect their marriage. He also discusses the importance of knowing and using your spouse’s love language. (Part 1 of 2)

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Navigating the Common Challenges of Marriage, Part 4

No matter what kind of marriage you have, bringing kids into the picture will always change things. Greg and John give you an idea of how to prepare. Featuring Dr. Gary Chapman. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Speaking Your Teen’s Love Language, Part 4

Do you have a kid who takes negative words to heart? John and Danny give tips on how to constructively criticize without hurting your child. Featuring Dr. Gary Chapman. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/parentingpodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Navigating the Common Challenges of Marriage, Part 3

Criticizing your spouse may seem like a dangerous place to go but there is a respectful way to approach touchy topics. Featuring Dr. Gary Chapman. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Speaking Your Teen’s Love Language, Part 3

Do you have a kid who takes negative words to heart? John and Danny give tips on how to constructively criticize without hurting your child. Featuring Dr. Gary Chapman. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/parentingpodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Speaking Your Teen’s Love Language, Part 2

Do you have a kid who takes negative words to heart? John and Danny give tips on how to constructively criticize without hurting your child. Featuring Dr. Gary Chapman. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/parentingpodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Speaking Your Teen’s Love Language, Part 1

Do you have a kid who takes negative words to heart? John and Danny give tips on how to constructively criticize without hurting your child. Featuring Dr. Gary Chapman. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/parentingpodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Navigating the Common Challenges of Marriage, Part 2

Criticizing your spouse may seem like a dangerous place to go but there is a respectful way to approach touchy topics. Featuring Dr. Gary Chapman. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Navigating the Common Challenges of Marriage, Part 1

Criticizing your spouse may seem like a dangerous place to go but there is a respectful way to approach touchy topics. Featuring Dr. Gary Chapman. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

Finding Hope for Your Desperate Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Best-selling author Dr. Gary Chapman offers practical advice and encouragement to struggling couples in a discussion based on his book Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away: Real Help for Desperate Hearts in Difficult Marriages. (Part 2 of 2)

Finding Hope for Your Desperate Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Best-selling author Dr. Gary Chapman offers practical advice and encouragement to struggling couples in a discussion based on his book Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away: Real Help for Desperate Hearts in Difficult Marriages. (Part 1 of 2)

What You Can Do to Help Your Child Feel Loved

Most parents love their children. However, many children don’t feel loved. Perhaps parents aren’t “speaking” their child’s primary love language.

Keeping Love Alive During Deployment (Part 2 of 2)

Authors Gary Chapman and Jocelyn Green offer advice and encouragement to couples whose marriage faces the strains of long-term separation due to military deployment. (Part 2 of 2)

Keeping Love Alive During Deployment (Part 1 of 2)

Authors Gary Chapman and Jocelyn Green offer advice and encouragement to couples whose marriage faces the strains of long-term separation due to military deployment. (Part 1 of 2)

Speaking Your Teen’s Love Language (Part 2 of 2)

Dr. Gary Chapman offers parents helpful insight and practical guidelines found in his bestselling book The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively. (Part 2 of 2)  

Speaking Your Teen’s Love Language (Part 1 of 2)

Dr. Gary Chapman offers parents helpful insight and practical guidelines found in his bestselling book The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively. (Part 1 of 2)

Navigating the Common Challenges of Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Best-selling author Gary Chapman addresses conflicts that arise when expectations meet reality in marriage, and provides steps to better communicate with and love your spouse. (Part 2 of 2)

Navigating the Common Challenges of Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Best-selling author Gary Chapman addresses conflicts that arise when expectations meet reality in marriage, and provides steps to better communicate with and love your spouse. (Part 1 of 2)

I’m so Mad!

Helping children develop healthy ways to think through and talk about their anger.

When Your Apology Falls Flat

People have different apology languages just like they have different love languages. A person may apologize, but the apology is not perceived as sincere because it’s spoken in a different language.

The Laws of In-Laws

Create boundaries while still showing respect.

Owning Your Faults and Loving Your Spouse

Best-selling author Gary Chapman explains how seeking personal humility can improve the marriage relationship.

Why You Should Apologize for Careless Words

Many husbands refuse to accept responsibility for careless words. When their behavior puts an emotional barrier between them and their wife, it’s the husband’s responsibility to remove the barrier.

Loving Someone With Alzheimer’s (Part 2 of 2)

Dr. Gary Chapman and Lisa Anderson discuss the challenges families face when a loved one is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease or dementia. Our guests offer encouragement to caregivers and practical suggestions for showing love and support to someone with diminishing mental capabilities. (Part 2 of 2)

Loving Someone With Alzheimer’s (Part 1 of 2)

Dr. Gary Chapman and Lisa Anderson discuss the challenges families face when a loved one is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease or dementia. Our guests offer encouragement to caregivers and practical suggestions for showing love and support to someone with diminishing mental capabilities. (Part 1 of 2)

Holding on to Hope During Separation (Part 2 of 2)

Best-selling author Gary Chapman offers advice and hope from his book One More Try: What to Do When Your Marriage is Falling Apart. (Part 2 of 2)  

Holding on to Hope During Separation (Part 1 of 2)

Best-selling author Gary Chapman offers advice and hope from his book One More Try: What to Do When Your Marriage is Falling Apart. (Part 1 of 2)

Building the Bridge to Forgiveness (Part 2 of 2)

Best-selling author Gary Chapman explains how listeners can work to heal broken relationships by taking personal responsibility and seeking forgiveness. (Part 2 of 2)

Building the Bridge to Forgiveness (Part 1 of 2)

Best-selling author Gary Chapman explains how listeners can work to heal broken relationships by taking personal responsibility and seeking forgiveness. (Part 1 of 2)

Practical Advice for New Parents (Part 2 of 2)

Best-selling author Dr. Gary Chapman offers practical advice to new parents in a discussion based on his book Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Became Parents. (Part 2 of 2)

Practical Advice for New Parents (Part 1 of 2)

Best-selling author Dr. Gary Chapman offers practical advice to new parents in a discussion based on his book Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Became Parents. (Part 1 of 2)

Maintaining Your Marriage When You Become Parents

God ordained marriage and encouraged couples to multiply. So there must be a way to have a healthy marriage and be good parents. Dr. Gary Chapman offers advice to strengthen your marriage after you have children.

Raising Socially Competent Kids

Want to give your kids a step up in the world? Help them improve their social skills.

Embracing the Various Seasons of Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Best-selling author Gary Chapman explains how couples go through four seasons of marriage – spring, summer, fall and winter – and how couples can thrive through each of those seasons. (Part 2 of 2)

Embracing the Various Seasons of Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Best-selling author Gary Chapman explains how couples go through four seasons of marriage – spring, summer, fall and winter – and how couples can thrive through each of those seasons. (Part 1 of 2)

Discover the Joy of Helping Your Spouse Succeed

When you discover the joy of helping your spouse succeed, you begin to establish or restore emotional health, respect, support and encouragement in your marriage.

Give Your Spouse Emotional Support

Giving emotional support to your spouse begins by allowing positive and negative emotions. It means celebrating the positive emotions and affirming the negative emotions.

Encourage and Support Your Spouse

All of us have areas in which we feel insecure, and that often hinders us from accomplishing positive things that we would like to do. The latent potential within your spouse may await your encouraging words.

Communicating Respect

An attitude of respect paves the way for you to show respect for your mate. Respect does not indicate that you agree on everything, but it does mean that you give your spouse the freedom to be an individual.

Mastering Your Spouse’s Love Language

Can struggling relationships be reborn? The answer is yes if couples become aware of the nature of love and learn how to express it in a language their mate can understand.

It’s Not About the Money

Frequently, financial conflicts focus on how each spouse handles money. But most arguments about money really grow out of a failure to understand each other’s needs and to respect each other’s personalities.

Thriving in the Second Half of Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Dr. Gary Chapman offers helpful insights and practical suggestions from his book Married and Still Loving It: The Joys and Challenges of the Second Half. (Part 2 of 2)

Thriving in the Second Half of Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Dr. Gary Chapman offers helpful insights and practical suggestions from his book Married and Still Loving It: The Joys and Challenges of the Second Half. (Part 1 of 2)

Discovering Your Spouse’s Love Language

The number of ways to express love within a love language is limited only by one’s imagination. The important thing is to speak the love language of your spouse.

Learn to Speak Your Spouse’s Love Language

We discover the primary love language of our spouse, and we choose to speak it whether or not it is natural for us. Love is a choice.

Meeting Your Spouse’s Need for Love

Couples need to recognize the “in-love” experience for what it was — a temporary emotional high — and now pursue real love with their spouse.

How to Truly Love Your Spouse

True love, the kind of love that keeps a couple together for a lifetime, is not a feeling but an attitude. It says, “With the help of God, I’m going to do everything I can to enhance the life of my spouse.”

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Sex and Love

The initial euphoria of love usually wears off after about two years, but that doesn’t mean love needs to wane or the relationship needs to grow cold. At this stage, love is a choice, not just an emotion.

Love Is More Than a Feeling

The Bible affirms the beauty of sex within marriage. Sex is an act of love that binds the souls of a husband and a wife to each other in a lifelong, intimate relationship.

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Being the Best Spouse You Can Be

When you choose to be affirming, encouraging and giving, you stimulate positive emotions in your spouse. Couples who understand this learn how to make love, not just have sex.

Helping Kids Relate in a Screen-Driven World (Part 2 of 2)

Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane explain the dangers of overusing digital gadgets and media, and offer parents practical advice on establishing healthy boundaries and teaching their kids the importance of face-to-face relational skills. (Part 2 of 2)

Helping Kids Relate in a Screen-Driven World (Part 1 of 2)

Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane explain the dangers of overusing digital gadgets and media, and offer parents practical advice on establishing healthy boundaries and teaching their kids the importance of face-to-face relational skills. (Part 1 of 2)

The 5 Love Languages and Your Teen

Do you ever wonder how you can help your teens feel loved? Consider how they might tend to feel more appreciated through one specific love language.

Understanding the Five Love Languages

There are five basic love languages – five ways to express love emotionally. Each person has a primary love language that we must learn to speak if we want that person to feel loved.

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