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Overcoming the Obstacles of Cerebral Palsy (Part 1 of 2)

Overcoming the Obstacles of Cerebral Palsy (Part 1 of 2)

Lisa Sexton discusses her experiences with raising her special needs son, Tyler. Lisa and Tyler also share their amazing story of how, with God's help, Tyler has overcome the limitations of his disability to become a physician. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: January 14, 2014

Excerpt:

Mrs. Lisa Sexton: God has called mothers, especially mothers with kids who have a special need, He has called them to do an incredible, incredible task. And it’s our time to say, I will do that. I want to serve the Lord and He has called me to do this.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: That’s a passionate comment from Lisa Sexton, one of our guests today on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller and this is going to be an inspirational conversation about overcoming challenges and the determination it takes when you have a child with special needs.

Jim Daly: John, it’s a special moment for any couple as they prepare for a baby, but it can also be a time of concern when there’s a diagnosis that indicates special needs. But we’re going to share a story full of hope today. And if you’re a parent with a heavy burden about your child, stick with us because I think this will really encourage you.

John: In the studio, we had Lisa Sexton and we’re going to hear her dramatic story of her son, Tyler. He’s with us as well and had a journey of living with cerebral palsy and, uh, all the surgeries and the challenges and the joys along the way. They’ve co-authored a book about that journey. It’s called No Such Thing as Can’t. We do have that hear at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Let’s go ahead and listen in to today’s episode of Focus on the Family.

Jim: Lisa, I want to go back. I’ve got a big smile on my face, ’cause I know what people are about to hear and I’m smiling and it’s coming right from the heart. But take us back 27 years, when you were newly married. I believe you weren’t married very long. You weren’t working on the family yet.

Lisa: No.

Jim: God does throw us surprises. And tell us what happened 27 years ago.

Lisa: We had, um – we had not planned to start a family, so it wasn’t one of those things where I came home from the doctor and my husband picked me up and twirled me around and said, “We’re gonna have a baby,” you know. We were devastated. We were too young. We didn’t have a savings account. We didn’t have things set for children, so we just weren’t ready. But of course, we needed to get ready, because there was a little boy on the way. And at 28 weeks, Tyler was born. And at that time, when he was born, they wheeled him into our room in an incubator and they said, “We are going to take him to a hospital four hours away and his lungs will collapse when we go up into the helicopter. And if he dies in flight, we’ll let you know right away.”

Jim: Oh.

Lisa: I could not hold him. They let me put my hand right through a little hole in the side of the incubator and I was allowed to touch his hand for about 30 seconds.

Jim: And that was it…

Lisa: And that was it.

Jim: …At that moment.

Lisa: They whisked him away and he was gone.

Jim: Lisa, talk about that moment. One of our boys struggled when he was born, as well. And there’s a lot of fear and there’s a lot of apprehension, a lot of tears at that time. Did you have any idea what Tyler was dealing with as a newborn baby boy? And what were you feeling in your heart as a mother?

Lisa: Well, you feel – one thing you feel is hopeless and the other thing you feel is guilty, because you just think, what did I do? I didn’t want this baby. We weren’t prepared for this baby. Maybe I’m not gonna be a good mother. Maybe I – your mind begins to wander, and the devil attacks you right there. I mean, you – your faith is kind of crumbled. You don’t know how to pray. We got a call from the neonatal unit a few hours later and they said – the doctor told me, quote unquote, he said, “He probably will not make it through the night and I will leave the respirator on, so his body does not get stiff and you can hold him…”

Jim: Oh, my goodness.

Lisa: “…For the first and last time before you bury him.”

John: Wow.

Jim: I mean, that is so blunt and so coarse. That’s hard to hear.

Lisa: And you wonder – you’re always told as a child, don’t ask why to God. And I disagree with that. I’ve learned to say “Why?” Now I don’t always get my answers, but it has allowed me to have a relationship with Him. I don’t necessarily – when I’m asking “Why?”, I’m saying, “I need You.” I – you know, it’s a tough thing for mother to watch their children go through something, that this little tiny, little boy laid up there. And I would watch men and women drop to their knees in the neonatal unit, as they would lose a child and just sob. And you just think, when are we next?

Jim: Just anticipating…

Lisa: You’re exhausted.

Jim: …That it could happen. You and your husband, Kevin, you were only married a short period of time at this point. You didn’t have years of wisdom as a couple. So often, when this happens to a young couple, they have a child who is born with some difficulty, it can rip the marriage apart. How did you and Kevin manage that? How did you – how did you move forward as a married couple with the weight of caring for this child and all of the facets of that? How did you keep it together?

Lisa: I think, first of all, we were both believers when we got married. And I think that’s really important, because we didn’t make a commitment through the good and the rich and all of those things. We made a commitment through the bad, the poor and the sick. And Kevin is a man of honor. And I often say, I get a lot of credit. I got to be the mom who was sitting by the hospital bed and looking like mother of the year through all 16 surgeries and oh, you know, how wonderful. What you didn’t see is my husband going to work every day and making sure that those hospital bills were paid, and that the insurance was covered. Every night would walk in tired and spend the night at the hospital. So, I think one way that we really kept out marriage strong, and it’s not that it hasn’t had its ups and downs, is we needed each other.

Jim: Oh.

Lisa: We held onto each other.

Jim: So, you leaned into each other.

Lisa: We had to. We had – we were desperate. Nobody knew how I felt except for him and nobody could understand him except for me. And it was our burden.

Jim: Oh. You moved along over those very difficult months and then at 18 months, when Tyler hit that mark, you learned some difficult news from the diagnosis. What happened?

Lisa: They took a scan of his brain and they called us in and said, “Your son has cerebral palsy.” And we said, “What is it?” We had no idea what it was.

Jim: Right.

Lisa: And they explained that Tyler would be in a wheelchair the rest of his life, that he would be mentally and physically disabled and that he’s was going – he was going to be very, very tight, spastic and that he would wear braces. He would go through many surgeries and just not to expect a lot from our child.

John: Hmm.

Jim: When you heard that news for you and Kevin, what was that night like when you got home? What did you talk about as a couple and I would think that environment, you think of your first child. You have all these dreams of what could be and what does that dialogue sound like between a husband and wife?

Lisa: I’ll never forget it. Kevin was working second shift at the time, so I took Tyler home by myself. And I closed every blind in my house. I closed every curtain and I mourned…

Jim: Hmm.

Lisa: …For about two days.

Jim: Just cried.

Lisa: And what I cried about was, I needed to mourn that I lost the normal baby. That my life was not gonna be a white picket fence with a pretty house and going to the baseball diamond like we had dreamed. In Tyler’s room, we had basketball and baseball and all those things, ’cause my husband’s very athletic. And my husband wouldn’t have this little boy to go and put on a baseball team and to coach, like all dads dream of. And, um, so, I mourned. And after those two days, I opened every curtain and I opened my heart. And I went out and got Tyler out of his crib and he sat on my lap and I said, you know, “You are going to be the cutest, sweetest, smartest, most darling little boy with cerebral palsy and I’m gonna be proud of you.”

Jim: Oh.

Lisa: And I chose to get up and praise God that day.

Jim: That that – boy, I’m sorry, I’m choked up. But that tone that you set as mom and I’m sure your husband, Kevin, as well, what a great environment. Tyler, let’s bring you in. We’ve been talking about you. It’s probably a little uncomfortable to sit here and hear all that, but man, from your earliest memories, take us back. What do you recall about your mom and dad and your home?

Dr. Tyler Sexton: Oh, man, it’s just been incredible and when we retell these stories, every time I still can’t believe how good God has been and just how people say no and God says yes. And that’s really what it’s been. And as a child, I just remember from the beginning, at first, I remember my parents were there at every surgery. I knew my mom was always there, ’cause her tears would fall on my face before and after each surgery.

Jim: Wow.

Tyler: They’d wheel me out and I would be waking up and there she would be in some of these difficult times. But then as I got older, one of the things I always applaud my parents for and thank God every day is, that they dared me to dream. There were things that if I wanted to be a basketball player, they said “Sure. You know, you’re gonna do it. You’re gonna have the nicest shoes you can do, and you may not be able to run back and forth, but we’re gonna play half court.” Or you know, “Hey, if he wants to try certain things, we’re gonna try to make that happen and make it as good as we possibly can and enjoy what we can.” And so, they – they dared me to dream and reach for the moon. And that’s really what’s been impacted on me my entire life, because it’s allowed me to say, “You know what? I can do this.”

Jim: Oh. And I want to – I’m not gonna spoil that. In a minute, we’re gonna talk about the rest of your life and where you’re at today…

Tyler: Right.

Jim: …Because I think it is an amazing God-story…

John: Mm hmm.

Jim: …Of what’s happened. But I don’t want to…

Tyler: Right.

Jim: …Kind of tip my hand to that yet. Lisa, let’s talk about that moment. The title of your book, God Bless These Little Legs and what Tyler’s expressing there, talk about how you would pray over your boy.

Lisa: A lot of times we would pray as a family and then Tyler and I had a lot of time in the hospital together alone. And when you’re in the hospital for 30 days, everybody comes running to see you the first couple and then it’s like, oh, no. It’s a long stay. So, we had to learn to kind of do things on our own. And so, we would have prayer times where Tyler really learned at a young age, just to talk to the Lord.

Jim: Oh.

Lisa: Just to – it didn’t need to be this beautiful elaborate prayer. It didn’t need to be this thing where some people are so intimidated to pray, and I used to be. And I’m not anymore, because I’m talking to my Father.

Jim: Yeah.

Lisa: And Tyler – the one thing that I love about prayer is that’s the one thing that Tyler learned. When we would sit around a table or we would sit down at a family meeting or we would have devotional time every morning and have a prayer time, our kids, our daughter Emily and – and Tyler, they both learned how to pray and to have a Father in heaven that cared. And they were able to begin that relationship with them at a young age.

Jim: What a great gift. And Tyler, I’m sure even as a boy, you remember that. That perhaps is the most important thing we can teach our children is…

Tyler: Oh, absolutely.

Jim: …To have a relationship with God and to pray to Him.

Tyler: Absolutely. And to learn quickly that He does care and that I’m perfect in His sight. And to say that He listens to even the simplest of desires, you know. From caring about – sometimes we wonder, does God really care about what’s going on today? And I tell you guys, He really does, from the simplest of how’s a meeting gonna go, to a conversation you have to have, or whatever it is. He really does and I learned that you can ask Him for the simplest of things and He’s gonna answer those prayers. And in some ways, you know, for me, it was about, “Lord, can I learn how to clean myself up after I use the bathroom without falling off the toilet?”

Jim: Hmm.

Tyler: That was a small miracle and that was an answer to prayer. And so, I learned how to – to look at these small miracles and ask God for the small things that would end up eventually, leading to bigger things.

Jim: We need to paint that picture, because people are hearing your voice and they’re not able to think about or see what you have to live with every day because of your situation. Describe for us, especially as a child, what was occurring physically.

Lisa: Tyler, when he, um, was a little guy, his legs were very, very skinny. And Tyler, every morning of his life, he had this little tiny body with no muscle mass. We would sit him on a chair, and he would wear these things called DAFO’s and they were plastic braces on these tiny little legs. We’d pull up the socks all the way to the knees.
Jim: Ah.
Lisa: And we’d put the braces on from the tip of his toes underneath his feet, all the way up to the calves. I would Velcro him in and we had to buy shoes that were a couple sizes too big so that they’d fit over the braces. And I would put the shoes on and I would tie them up and every morning of his life, I would squeeze his knees together and I would kiss and I would say, “God bless those little legs today.”
Jim: How much pain was there in that regard? Describe for us again just physically what you were encountering.
Tyler: Well, I think it’s hard to express. I mean there are days, constantly you live in pain. As a child, I would wake up spastic. My legs would quiver. Um, sometimes my knees would give out. Some days I couldn’t get out of bed. I would try, as I learned how to walk and become more independent and having to use a walker and then graduating it up. I would always want try to keep up with the other kids, so I would say, “I can do this. I can keep up.” And I wanted to try to portray that I am normal. And you know, everybody’s handicapped. Mine the world can see, but we’re all struggling with something. And so, that’s something that I want people to realize, that though mine is physical, I can do this and be with you as a child. So, I would try to push myself in these ways. And some days, couldn’t get out of bed the next day.

Jim: Oh.

Tyler: I used to fall four to six times a day. I broke a lot of my bones from falling, from the knees to the wrist, to the fingers, from falling and having to get back up and a lot of bruises, a lot of broken bones and a lot of tears. You know, I walk with a – with a gait that throws the hips out. The knees touch together. They used to call me a penguin. They used to call me a variety of different names as a child. I was never picked first for any sport. I had to show people that being different didn’t mean you didn’t need to approach me, as a kid. And so, it was an interesting component of that. And then of course, you still live in pain, you know, to this day and, of course, things have other avenues and things like Gunner, my service dog have learned to help. But there’s always days with pain.

Lisa: Tyler would have physical therapy, you gotta remember, five days a week, because his muscles are so tight that if you notice – if you sit down on the floor and you stretch your legs out, your toes point to the ceiling. Tyler’s toes lay on the floor…
Jim: Oh.
Lisa: …Because he’s so tight that the muscles just pull his – his toes straight to the floor.
Jim: It’s like a ballerina laying on her back.
Lisa: Like a ballerina all the time.
Jim: Just flat.
Lisa: But you could imagine the lower half of your body being that tight pulling on you…
Jim: OH.
Lisa: …100 percent of the time and then you have a therapist doing it the opposite way. So, the pain.

John: You’re listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller and today our guests are Lisa and Tyler Sexton. And they’ve written a book that captures this incredible journey that they’re sharing with us and the new title is No Such Thing as Can’t. Of course, we have that hear at Focus. And I’ll also encourage you to get a CD or download of this entire conversation to share with maybe with a parent who needs a little hope, a life-line of sorts. You’re going to find the resources at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Tyler, let me take you back to something you said, because we all grow up with, I think, a degree of a lack of self-confidence, um…

Tyler: Sure.

Jim: …Particularly boys. You talked about sports when you’re not picked. Help us feel what that was like. I mean, being called names and being ridiculed at times, how did you get through that as a 6, 7, 10-year-old boy, to take those kind of darts and manage it?

Tyler: You know, it’s funny, because I remember one time I came home from school and I told Momma one day, I was in art class and was talking to a boy. He was asking me about my legs and these kind of things. And I said, “You know, God made me this way. I have a disability,” these kind of things. And I got to tell him about Jesus, and I learned at an early age, it’s not about me. It’s about Jesus.

Jim: Oh.

Tyler: And I remember telling mom, I said, “I know why God had me have CP. It’s so I could tell other people about Christ.”

John: Huh.

Tyler: I specifically remember in fourth grade, I was out in a – in the yard with all the kids doing physical education, right. And so, they make us all do jumping jacks. And I was doing my jumping jacks and there was a substitute PE teacher there. And all of a sudden, I was doing my jumping jacks, clumsy attempts as they were, uh, he shouted out. He said, “Kid, you’re in fourth grade. That’s the best you can do? Quit clowning around.” Well, that was the best…

John: Hmm.

Jim: Ah.

Tyler: …That I could do.

Jim: And this was your teacher, the substitute.

Tyler: Substitute…

John: Oh, wow.

Tyler: …Teacher. You know, and so, early on I learned how to – you know, I didn’t eloquently know it as best as I do now, but I learned how to – that I couldn’t let my circumstances define my attitude.

Jim: Oh.

Tyler: And so, and that really was what it was. I was going to have a great day and I learned to count my blessings early. If I couldn’t fall, then I couldn’t walk. If I didn’t get made fun of the way that I’m walking, I wouldn’t be walking. So, I’ve learned to count my blessings. And there are way too many to count. And that’s really what it has been for me and it’s just been incredible.

John: You’re speaking right there to something I’m living presently as a parent, Tyler. I have a special-needs son and you know, around third, fourth grade, he’s becoming acutely aware that he’s different. And he desperately wants to blend in. And he’s asked questions like, “Well, can God heal me?” Did you have those moments? What you’re talking about is many of us don’t ever get.

Tyler: I’m actually very glad you asked. There was a time after actually that moment happened in the park, when they had me do jumping jacks, where I came home, and I told my mom I didn’t want to be me anymore.

John: Hmm.

Jim: Oh.

Tyler: I said, “I don’t want to do this anymore. I don’t want cerebral palsy. I don’t want to live in pain. I don’t want to be made fun of.” And all of a sudden, she takes me into my room, sits me on my bed and she starts throwing everything out of my room, from my clothes to my Nintendo. You know, everybody likes an Nintendo, even now, let’s be honest. And so, threw everything out and I just started to cry. The one person that I, you know, trusted more in this world than anything else, she threw it all. And she kept saying, “What can I take away from you?” I said, “I don’t know.” She kept throwing everything.

I said, “What can’t I take away from you?” “I don’t know. You’ve taken everything.” She says, “No, I haven’t.” My room was bare. There was nothing on the walls, just my sheets on the bed literally. And she said, “What can’t I take away from you.” I said, “You’ve taken everything.” She said, “No, I haven’t.” She said, “I can’t take who God made you and the spirit He gave you,” that I was alive, and I was me and I was a blessing.

Jim: Hmm.

Tyler: And ever since that moment, it’s just really been an incredible adventure. And I’ve learned early, you know, there’s a lot of things. I’d rather walk with a limp in Christ than a strut in the world.

Jim: Oh.

Tyler: I’ve learned that.

John: Hmm.

Tyler: And it’s kept me humble and I’ve learned when 80 percent of your back’s on a gurney as a child, you learn to trust something greater and it’s Jesus Christ is that Something greater for me. And as we talked further, only because of Christ do I sit in front of you for so many reasons.

Jim: Oh, Tyler, I mean, you are bringing it. I mean, you’re…

Tyler: It’s just the truth.

Jim: …Saying exactly what we should all be doing, whether we can walk normally or not.

Tyler: Right.

Jim: Lisa, where did you find the wisdom to come up with something like that as a mother, to say, “Okay, I’ve got to draw a spiritual truth here?” I mean, what a brilliant way to tell your little boy what he means in God’s eyes. I mean, where did you find that wisdom?

Lisa: You know, I, um – when you were talking about your son, you know, I’m no different than anyone else. I am not smarter. I am not wiser. I’m really not. But the one thing that I believe with all of my heart and when you say, “Can God heal him?” You know, “Daddy, can God heal me?”

John: Mm hmm.

Lisa: I believe that in a snap of a finger, God could’ve healed Tyler…

Tyler: Yes.

Lisa: …In His power. But I believe in His wisdom He chose not to, because I wouldn’t be who I am today. And Tyler wouldn’t be who he is. We wouldn’t be the family that we are. We wouldn’t be close. We wouldn’t be as connected to the Lord.

John: Hmm.

Lisa: Sometimes I think we get into legalism instead of relationship.

Jim: Oh.

Lisa: And so, for me, the wisdom was that God didn’t heal Tyler and that we chose to be able to walk this journey with Him.

John: As he was sharing that story, you were back there. I mean, your memory was vivid. I was watching your reaction as he talked about that. Was that just God saying, “Here’s what I want you to do?” Did that just happen? I mean, how did you figure out…

Lisa: Well, you…

John: …That it would be good to empty the room right here?

Lisa: You feel awful doing these things. But, um, you know, when Tyler was 5-years-old, his physical therapist, who had earned the right to give me advice and to tell me when I was wrong – she was with us for years. She made a deal with me. And she said, “This little boy, who walks with a little walker…” And the walker would kinda go behind him and it was on wheels. And Tyler began to walk, and he had his braces on. And she said, “Lisa, if I can get him to where he can lean down and pick up an Easter egg, we’ll tie a basket to his walker and it is time for you to take him out of a bubble and take him to the park and let him be with normal kids.”

Jim: Ah.

Lisa: And when you talk about wisdom, it wasn’t always my wisdom. It was other people praying for us, giving me advice, telling me, encouraging me. And so, Michele began to explain to me that he needed to be with kids his own age. You gotta get him out of the bubble. So, sure enough, Tyler worked really hard. He wanted to go to the Easter egg hunt. So, she got great therapy out of him. And you have to remember, it took months to be able to do this. It wasn’t just one day teaching him. It was therapy after therapy. So, one afternoon we went to North City Park and I lined my child up with all the others. And our daughter, Emily was all dressed for Easter and they had matching outfits and the gun went off. And all the kids began to run and there was my little boy, hobbling down a beautiful grassy field all by himself way back. And I was mad. I had sunglasses on, and I was angry, and I thought, this is exactly – you people have so much advice for me. You tell me all these things to do, but I’m the one that’s gonna take this little boy home with no eggs and explain to him why he’s different. And I began to journey down that little path. And I caught up with Tyler and my eyes were filled with tears. And I looked down and I went to tell him how sorry I am. And he looked up at me and Tyler would talk real “dutchy” when he was little. And he said, “Look at all the eggs in my Easter basket.” And I said, “Oh, my word. How did you get all of those?” He said, “Oh, the kids are running so fast that the eggs are popping out of their baskets and I’m picking ’em up.”

(LAUGHTER)

Lisa: That day in the park I knelt down and this is what the Holy Spirit told me without a doubt in my mind, He said, “You give this little boy to Me and his basket will be full of blessings. So many they won’t fit. You have to turn him over to Me. It’s not about taking him out of a bubble for – to be with other kids. It’s taking him out of a bubble so that I can use this little boy in the way I need to use him.”

John: Hmm.

Jim: My goodness.

Lisa: And I got up from that day in the park and I thought, I will do my best to not take this little boy and put him in a bubble ever again, that God had a special plan and purpose for him. And I think that’s where the wisdom came from, where I knew that He had something different.

John: Well, what Lisa Sexton expressed there is so common for all of us as parents. We want to be, uh, really over-protective of our kids, but she and her son, Dr. Tyler Sexton, will have much more to share next time.

Jim: This is such a powerful discussion that is helping people. And every day here at Focus on the Family, our goal is to put an arm around you if you’re struggling in marriage or parenting. And we have caring, Christian counselors who are available to walk through that difficult situation, whatever it may be, and also provide you with resources and Biblical guidance. Thank you for your financial support and your prayer cover as we do ministry here. If you believe in what we’re doing at Focus on the Family, can you help support us? It doesn’t get done without your prayers, obviously, and your financial support. And if you can make a donation today, your gift will be doubled thanks to some friends of the ministry and it’s a fun way to simply spur each other on to give.

John: Mm hmm. And this is a limited time opportunity for your gift to be doubled, so please, make a generous contribution today and we’ll say thank you for joining the support team by sending a copy of Lisa and Tyler’s book, No Such Thing as Can’t. And, uh, our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. Or you can donate and get the book at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team here at Focus on the Family, thanks for joining us today and plan to be with us next time as we help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!