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Practical Help for When You’re Overwhelmed (Part 2 of 2)

Practical Help for When You’re Overwhelmed (Part 2 of 2)

In a discussion based on their new book, Overwhelmed, Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory offer advice for reducing stress, organizing your schedule, learning to say "no" to unnecessary commitments and increasing your capacity for joy. (Part 2 of 2)

 

Opening:

John Fuller: Here’s Cheri Gregory describing what it feels like to be overwhelmed by life.

Teaser:

Mrs. Cheri Gregory: I t feels like this force that is absolutely about to come over you and take over you and make it so that, I mean, if you’ve ever been tumbled in a wave in the ocean, you can’t breathe. You’re so disoriented, you don’t even know which way is up.

End of Teaser

John: Well, Cheri Gregory was our guest on the last “Focus on the Family” radio program, along with Kathi Lipp and they’re back today to help you understand what to do when those feelings come. I’m John Fuller and your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly.

Jim Daly: John, last time we had a very productive discussion with Kathi and Cheri just about where women are living, the sense of being overwhelmed. In fact, they wrote a book called Overwhelmed, and that was the basis for our discussion. But I think 95 percent of the women listening leaned right in to say, “This is me. I do feel overwhelmed.” It’s like we hit a very sensitive nerve, and we’re gonna come back and continue that discussion today.

I love what Kathi and Cheri shared about in terms of personality types, the expressive—and these are self-evident, the analytic, the driver, the amiable, and then the additional one is that highly sensitive person. And if you missed the discussion last time, get the download, get a copy of the CD, whatever you have to do. Or just call us and ask us, “How do you get ahold of it?” and we’ll do that for you. There was some good meat in the discussion last time.

John: And we also have a quiz you can take online at http://focusonthefamily.com/radio, where you’ll see some of these resources that we’ve mentioned. And Kathi and Cheri are both speakers and writers and they’re friends; opposites in many respects, as we’ve discovered, but both have experienced the … the senses, Jim, of being overwhelmed.

Body:

Jim: Oh, I know, and I could, having the discussion last time, I’m thinking of Jean, I know you’re thinking of Dena, and that’s, for all the guys that are listening, that’s what we should be doing is, “Where is my wife in this and how can I help and help her not feel that burden or feel that sense of being overwhelmed?” because I don’t think that’s where the Lord wants us to live day to day. He wants us to feel what He calls His shalom, His peace, not His “overwhelmed-ness,” and you know, this life should not overwhelm us.

In fact, let me read the Scripture that I think applies, and then we’ll say hello formally to you two. But in God’s Word right there in Psalm 61 it says, “The earth I call to you when my heart is faint. Lead me to the rock that is higher than I, for you have been my refuge, a strong tower against the enemy.” First of all, welcome back to Focus and your response to that Scripture?

Kathi Lipp: It’s where my heart lives. Thanks for having us back. Yes, this is not where God designs us to live in overwhelmed, that God has a plan for protection and peace, and so much of what we have to do is just we’re leaning into that, to … to recognize that it’s available to us as believers and getting to lean into it.

Jim: Ah and if you missed it, get it, because there are so many good things; the description of the personality types. Today we’re gonna move beyond that and you talk about the power of micro steps. And it sounds self-evident. Okay, if I’m feeling overwhelmed, if I just do these one or two things, it will get me to a better place. Is that what you’re driving at?

Kathi: Well, okay, so I was reading all these blogs and all these books that say, “Hey, we’re gonna break it down into three simple steps,” and you know their simple steps were things like empty out your inbox for e-mail. I’m like, oh my goodness.

Jim: How many do you have in there, like 3,000?

Kathi: No, no, I’m one of those people who gets freaked out if it gets above 50. But those 50, to me they are 50 obligations I have to get back to. Roger has about 3,000 in his box, my husband, and I can’t even look. I mean, it sends me into a panic attack.

Jim: But in his mind all those are probably categorized. I share Roger’s sense of that. I’ve got a lot of unmet e-mails.

Kathi: Hey, as long as you can sleep at night, that’s fine. I just can’t think about you.

Jim: Right.

Kathi: But I remember gonna my inbox and seeing these emails that I knew that there was some kind of discussion that was happening or a problem, and it felt overwhelming to say, “Okay, I’m gonna do that e-mail right now,” so I had to break it down into micro steps. And this is gonna sound cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs (Laughter), to some people listening, but I had to give myself a checkmark just for opening the e-mail.

Jim: Okay, so that counts as a step.

Kathi: Right, not even reading the e-mail, but I just needed to open it up, because there’s something about opening it up. Okay, we’ve started the process; okay, we’re doing this; and then another step of reading the e-mail. Not responding, just reading to find out, okay, are they upset with me? What’s going on? And so, I call those “micro steps,” and for some reason, putting those down and giving myself a little bit of credit for each of those steps helped me be less overwhelmed.

And I think there are so many things in our day, when you say, okay, I have to get dinner tonight, well, we have to think about the hundreds of micro steps that go into that, which sounds overwhelming but if you just say, okay, one of your steps is you have to decide what’s for dinner. And that decision fatigue can get to a place where you’re saying, okay, I have to decide and then I have to shop and then I have to cook.

And so, that’s why we really believe that pre-deciding, which we talked about before, making decisions in advance, but then just saying, okay, micro steps. If something if really overwhelming you, you don’t have to take your dog to the vet. The only thing you have to do right now is find a time on your calendar where you can take your dog to the vet. And then the next step is finding the phone number for the vet. Break it down so you’re not so overwhelmed and you give yourself credit for what you are doing.

Jim: Let me ask you a practical question. And this is for Jean and I. You know Jean is managing the home because, you know, she’s there, she’s with the kids, and keeping that all on track. Sometimes I’ll have maintenance issues that we’ve got to take care of that, you know, she’s not necessarily grabbing the what or the how or the why. It might be the air conditioner or the heater’s broken down. I’m saying, “You’re the one that’s gonna be here.” I can’t call and schedule it because I don’t know if she’s gonna be there from noon to 3:00 on Wednesday because she’s got her own [schedule].

Kathi: Right, yeah.

Jim: So at first I was stepping on her schedule because I would do that and she’d be, “I’m not gonna be here Wednesday from noon to 3:00.”

Kathi: Right.

Jim: So she’d have to call back. How do you get into that and she’s already feeling overwhelmed, like, “Calling to get that fixed, Jim, it’s just man, that’s like the 100th thing.”

Kathi: Did you hear both of us?

Jim: Are you both smiling? I can see your faces. But there’s a real practical one. How do I help her help me get it done?

Kathi: So I think asking her what she needs, “What part of this is overwhelming for you? Is it knowing which guy to call? Is it they’re gonna ask you questions that you’re not gonna have the answer to?” So maybe the solution is Jean calls for the time, but if they have any other questions than that, besides the time, then you’re on speed dial (Laughter) because it’s overwhelming.

John: Does it work for you to call and have the company make the appointment with Jean, call her and just say, “Jim called and said that we need to do this.”

Jim: I think it’s still a sense of being overwhelmed. I think for her just having to put that into an already busy schedule overwhelms her to where it’s like, wow. So inevitably, what can happen is it just takes [time] and it can frustrate me because it will take just too long to get it fixed, and now we’ve got a little spark going between us and I’m goin’, “Uh, come on.”

Kathi: But okay, I’m coming to Jean’s defense.

Jim: Come on.

Kathi: I’m here for you, Jean. Let me tell you all the things that are going on in this. One, it’s decision fatigue. Like she’s having to make more decisions and overwhelm is the unknown.

Jim: Right, I get it.

Kathi: You know, is she gonna have to answer the repair guy’s question? “Well, ma’am, this is gonna cost, you know, $1,500. Do you want to spend that?” And you’re in a meeting and she’s having to make the decision. There’s all sorts of stuff going on there. And so, what I need when I’m overwhelmed in a situation like that, I just need to know that Roger is on my team, that I can say, “You’ll talk to the guy, right?” “Yes, I will talk to the guy.”

Jim: Another good way may be to just say, “Give me four blocks of time and I can take care of it, but I need your blocks of time.

Kathi: Right.

Jim: And that can be hard, too, though. “I don’t have any of those blocks of time.”

Kathi: But here’s the thing. But you know what? Asking the question you feel like you’re on the same team.

Jim: Yeah, that’s right.

Kathi: It doesn’t feel like, “Well, you’re at home, Honey, so you have to take care of all this.” It says, “No, we’re a team, and I can come in on these hard parts for you and we’re gonna make this work.”

Jim: Let’s move to a different example where you guys give advice in your book, Overwhelmed, about saying “no,” (Chuckling) which I think for some personality types, which we covered last time–and maybe you can connect this with a certain personality type struggles saying “no.” I doubt a driver, for example struggles with “no,” but maybe. But certainly the people-pleaser would. And everything they’re asking is, “Okay, let me check,” which means “yes” to the listener.

Kathi: Yes.

Jim: And means “maybe” to you, and now you’re stuck doing it, and you’re already overbooked.

Kathi: So an amiable is going to have a hard time saying “no” because they want to be the people-pleaser. That’s what you’re saying. So they may leave things open-ended; whereas, we feel like that’s a yes, they haven’t committed to it, and so there’s a misunderstanding there. The expressive says “yes” because “yes” is fun. “Yes” is so much fun to say. “Yes, I will do that. Yes, this will be great.” The driver has a hard time saying no to themselves. When change comes up, oh, they’re not okay with change. We said we were going to do this on January 7th, so that is when it’s going to happen.

Jim: (Chuckling) Right.

Kathi: And so, we all have these problems. And okay, so we’ve done the analytic, well, just because that’s what we’ve said we’re gonna do, we’re gonna do it. It’s also a little driver-ish, but because there was a plan, we’re all sticking with the plan. So the drivers can’t say “no” because they want to get it done. The analytic can’t say “no” because we said we were going to do it; that’s how we’re doing it. So it’s very hard. Every personality has a problem saying “no.”

Jim: And Cheri, let me ask you, because I think you probably have struggled with this. How do you get ahold of that calendar, that schedule, and say, “I just can’t do it,” and be very emphatic so you’re not communicating a “maybe yes,” you’re actually communicating a definite “no”?

Cheri: You know the important thing is to realize that when you say “yes,” you’re saying yes to everything, not just a “yes” to, “Oh, you made me feel good.” I used to say “yes” because I wanted to communicate that the relationship was important to me.

Jim: That measured your relationship.

Cheri: Yes.

Jim: Well, that’s interesting. I hadn’t thought of that.

Cheri: And I’m realizing that I can say “no” to somebody without saying “no” to the relationship. I can say, “I value our relationship. This thing you’ve asked me I cannot do, but I still value you.

Jim: Is that how you would say it? Role-play a little as girlfriends. How would you do that between each other?

Kathi: Well, if I was going to ask Cheri, “Oh, I have the most exciting opportunity for you. We get to write a book together, and I can’t wait. I’ve already got it all planned out and I know you’re really busy, but I think this is gonna be a great opportunity for us.”

Jim: And Cheri responds.

Cheri: Okay, so which Cheri is gonna respond? Oh my goodness. Because if Kathi were to ask to write another book, I’d be like, “Whoo-hoo! I’m on board! No, wait, no. I need to, you know.” One of the things that I’ve learned, okay, so Kathi, say that last line again. I know what I’d say.

Kathi: I would really like for you to join on with I’ve got it all planned out, this is gonna be great. Will you do it?

Cheri: Kathi, it sounds like so much fun. Oh my goodness, you have the best ideas and you know I adore working with you. If you need an answer right now, my automatic answer is “no.” But if you can give me 24 or 48 hours to talk to Daniel and to pray about it, I’d love to get back to you after having a chance to think about it. But if you need to have an answer right now, I’m gonna have to say “no,” because I’m in a season right now where everything is an automatic “no” if it’s not already on my calendar.

Jim: That’s good. Now fast-forward 48 hours and you still have to say “no” to Kathi, your dear friend, who’s gonna measure your relationship and how much you love and respect her based on this answer. What are you gonna say?

Cheri: Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, if she’s my dear friend, she’s not gonna measure my relationship.

Kathi: That’s right.

Cheri: And if it’s somebody who’s measuring my relationship based on guilt, then actually our relationship is probably very close to over at this stage.

John: Well, some great wisdom from our guests today, Cheri Gregory and Kathi Lipp, on “Focus on the Family,” and they’ve written the book Overwhelmed, which helps you identify some of the sources of the stress in your life, and then your personality type and how that plays into that sense of being overwhelmed. And we’ve got the book and a CD or a download of our conversation today, and some additional resources for you online so you can find out a little bit more at http://focusonthefamily.com/radio.

John: And Cheri, I’m still thinking about your comment about having a season of everything is default “no.” We went through a season like that where my wife just the automatic was “no, no, no.” It takes a while to kind of dig out of that, but how do you start?

Cheri: One of the things Kathi’s always been good at is giving me enough time. When she invites me to participate in something, it’s rarely rescue. It’s usually help. It’s usually being invited to join her team, and that’s been huge for me as I’m coming out of the “no’s” and starting to say “yes’s” again, I’ve tended to be a rescuer, but I don’t want to drive the ambulance anymore; I want to be a part of a team. I want to be part of a plan. I’m learning to be more spontaneous, but I’d like to be part of something that there’s enough time to really enjoy it and do it well.

So I’m continuing to say “no” to the things that are last-minute. A lot of last-minute things don’t even need to be done, and especially if it doesn’t involve my particular strengths. And you know we talked in the last episode of being an HSP, I’m looking more for those highly sensitive person strengths. Can they use me? Or will this particular thing I’m being asked to do actually deplete me and leave less for my family? And so, I’m trying to say “yes” a lot more, but very intentionally, and make sure that those are the yeses for who God created me to be, rather than me constantly stepping in, “Yes, you want me. Yes, you want me,” but then I’m taking roles that maybe somebody else would be so much better to fill.

Jim: Well, and Cheri, what you’re describing there is really important, because the rescuer emotionally, you derive a certain benefit from being needed.

Cheri: Being a hero.

Jim: And being the person that is needed, that I can help bring some peace to the situation, and that ability then to say “no” is usually left behind. I know in some marital conflict this is huge, because, and let’s just put it in the context of how we’re talking, where the wife is that rescuer, and so the friendships take precedent even over the marriage or sometimes the family.

And the shoe can be on the other foot, but just keeping it in the context of a woman, how would you coach, life coach, that couple, maybe in different meetings, and you’re talking to the wife and you’re also talking to the husband who now has become very frustrated because it looks like she cares more about those people outside of our immediate family rather than us. And then you get bitterness built up and all this. You’re now in that counseling mode; what are you saying to her and to the husband?

Cheri: You want my honest response? I’m gonna tell her she’s an adrenaline addict and she needs to cut loose, because she’s getting her sense of satisfaction, her sense of identity from running around, whether it’s the bake sale or the committee chair or all of the friends who call and they need her right now. And they need her in a way her husband doesn’t. They need her for that emotional, and they’re processing with her.

Jim: And she’s awesome.

Cheri: And she’s awesome at that, and her husband comes home and only needs what, 20 to 30 words, and he’s good for the evening, and the rest of the evening is silent, and it doesn’t feel as important to her. It doesn’t feel as connected. Okay, I’m not as good as Kathi at telling other people what to do, so I’m just gonna say what I needed to do with my husband.

You know what he loves more than anything else? He loves being in the same room with me. I don’t know why, but after almost 30 years, he just wants to be in the same room with me. And I have learned to exhale from this man, because he’ll just hang out on the couch and the cats will show up and I’ll grab a book, and somewhere in there I feel my anxiety level dialing down, and I get to this point that feels so unfamiliar and I go, “Oh, that’s what peace feels like. Oh, this is what freedom feels like.” And I realize a lot of this, not all of it, but a lot of this overwhelm I have done to myself, I have brought on myself.

Kathi: And let’s go into the man’s counseling session. Okay, let’s go into that other room.

Jim: Okay. You’re chomping at the bit there.

Kathi: Right, because here’s where I think the woman, when she’s with her friends, her friends are saying, “Thank you so much. I so desperately needed somebody to talk to,” and she’s feeling that appreciation. And when a husband can say, “You know what, Honey, when you sit next to me on the couch, that’s home for me.” And when a husband can say that and it clicks in a woman’s mind, “I’m not doing anything. I’m not rescuing him, but he just needs me with him.”

So really articulating to your wife, “This is what the best part of our relationship for me is,” then she can understand that’s important to him. It brings the weight that all those other relationships outside the house brings, and that’s where she can start to say, “You know, I need to be home a couple of evenings, because that’s what makes my husband happy and I want to be able to do that. And I know that there is no greater joy in my marriage than when I know I’m meeting my husband’s emotional needs.”

Jim: This is such good stuff. I mean I think we’re hitting some real raw nerves, and I hope again we’ve got some other questions for you here, but Overwhelmed, your book, I think is gonna be a great asset to so many women particularly, but us husbands as well.

Let me talk about the Sabbath. You mention in your book the importance of the Sabbath. You know what’s so interesting for us, even as Christians, we don’t talk a lot about that. I was in Israel recently with Ray Vander Laan, who does the series with us, That the World May Know, and he was reiterating the importance to God’s heart that we take that time, ’cause He knows how He’s crafted us and engineered us, and He’s very specific that we take that rest. He knows us better than we know ourselves, but we’re so busy, and we pride ourselves on our busyness, that we don’t even take a day

Kathi: Yeah, and I had to learn this the hard way from almost having a breakdown, not having intentional rest in my life. And one thing I was understanding was, that I was looking at Sabbath as God was taking things away from me. I really did. I thought I was getting robbed.

John: Interesting.

Kathi: And what I’ve come to understand, and by the way, when we talked about we can’t do this because we don’t work on the Sabbath, family mocked us; people thought we were insane. They said, “We’re gonna check up with you on Facebook to make sure.” But what we’ve come to understand and we do it, what works for our family, is dinnertime on Saturday to dinnertime on Sunday. And it was weird at first. Can I just say that? It was so weird.

Jim: And what does it look like, Sabbath in your home?

Kathi: Oh, so now what it looks like is, it is time that it was reserved for God, for our family and for rest. And we didn’t know what to do with ourselves. We’re so used to accomplishing and we’re so used to having Sunday to catch up on everything.

So what we did, when Roger and I first did this, we’re like, “Well, what do we do?” you know we’re so used to doing, and so we had days where we didn’t have anything to do. We didn’t have any deadlines, and what we did was we started to invite our neighbors over for dinner. We started to make sure that our adult kids knew, hey, this is the night that we’re here and we can hang out. We started to go to Monterey because there was nothing we had to do. What a concept. There was nothing we had to do, so we got to do things that brought us joy.

And I would fight somebody to the death for my Sabbath. I am so protective of it. And my Sabbath has to move around because I’m a speaker on the road. Sometimes I’m speaking on Sunday mornings, so Monday is my day. You know, I have to play fast and loose with the Sabbath, but I take a day, and that is my day for God and for rest and for family, and I am so protective of it now.

Jim: So then you’ve been able to hold to that, even though there’s an endless list of things you need to do. And do you just push those things off then? There’s always gonna be tomorrow?

Kathi: You know what? We are designed to work for six days. That’s God’s design for us. And so … and when I say “work,” I also mean the Costco run. I mean it’s work.

Jim: Oh, that’s work. (Laughter)

Kathi: And we don’t count it. We try to fit that in on all the edges, and it doesn’t work.

John: So what does that look like for a mom with young kids? Because those kids are work seven days a week and then some.

Kathi: Amen. I get that. And I’m not saying you get to go have a Bahama holiday and I know that. But what I’m saying is from Saturday night to Sunday evening, for us, that is not our time to accomplish [anything]. I can do laundry six days a week.

Jim: Probably seven.

Kathi: Well, I could do it nine, and there are only two of us. How is that even possible? But what I’ve come to understand is when I say there are six days to get things done, I get things done in six days. Do I get it done perfectly? No, but it gets done.

Jim: I’m gonna ask you that question about children in a broader context, because so many people—we’ve got a 3- and 5-year-old, you know, the foster kids that were with us, and it’s busy. I mean I was feeling really bad because Jean was running so fast all of a sudden.

Kathi: Right.

Jim: You know, being the mom of a couple of teenagers is one thing. That has its busyness, but it’s kind of orderly busyness. Now it’s chaos busyness, and you know there’s just so much to do. How does a mom of younger children cope with getting it all done? They’re feeling overwhelmed all the time. Is that just a season, sometimes you have to live in a season and accept it and know that there’s gonna be sunshine coming or what?

Kathi: So I think one, yes, it is a season. They are not gonna be toddlers for the rest of your life.

Jim: How do you avoid making that an excuse for the season being 15 years, 20 years?

Kathi: Yeah, so I think one, is to find out what healthy people do in the circumstances, how they are running their lives, what choices are they making? And I think that there is such a stigma for people who ask for help. We need to ask for help if you are being overwhelmed by your kids, because there’s overwhelmed, and then there is the overwhelmed that is damaging on a daily basis, where you are feeling so under water every single day. And for some reason we think we need to do this all on our own. We think “good moms,” oh, just the good mom persona can make us all crazy. We think that everybody else is doing it. We’re doing it without help.

One of the things we talk about in the book is that, you know the expression, “How much do you have on your plate?” Well, we have to realize everybody has different-size plates. Some of us are walking around with turkey platters and some of us are walking around with teacup saucers. And if all you can do is keep those little kids alive, know that about yourself and be okay with that.

Don’t compare yourself to other people who are raising children. You know, they’ve got eight kids and they’re homeschooling and they are running a home business and they’re serving the community. That person has a turkey platter and may be borrowing other people’s plates, let’s just be honest.

If you have a smaller plate, you have a smaller capacity, you get overwhelmed easy; maybe you’re an HSP, maybe it’s the time in your life, whatever. Recognize the size of your plate and live off of that. Don’t try to do more than God has designed for this time in your life.

Jim: Well, you’ve described it so well, and that’s the place, unfortunately, that we have to wrap up the conversation. This has been so good, Kathi and Cheri. Thanks for being so vulnerable and open about these things in your lives and how you have begun, Cheri, to your point, to overcome these things and know them and to begin to make the adjustments.

Closing:

Jim: Let me turn to you, I think many women who are listening saying, “This is me. I’m desperate. I’m overwhelmed. I’m feeling like I’m in a tidal wave,” as you described, Cheri. “And every morning I wake up, that tsunami is hitting me and I can’t seem to get on top of this.” Let’s start by getting the book, Overwhelmed. I think there [are] so many great things there. The self-assessment is in there to identify what type of personality you tend to be. And I know there [are] always exceptions, but these are the general rules of thumb to ensure that you know who you are as best you can do that. And then begin to apply these things.

Here at Focus on the Family we have caring Christian counselors who can help you in that process as well, but I’d say start there. Do the self-assessment. We’ll have it at the website, John. Get a copy of the book. Let’s turn your life around together. Let’s get to the point where you don’t have to wake up every morning feeling overwhelmed, because of the great work and the insights that both Kathi and Cheri have put in their book, Overwhelmed.

And I’d say when you make a gift of any amount, and I’m saying any amount; if you can’t afford $15 or $20, if you can afford the postage, let’s get it to you and get it done. And of those who can help us to offset the expense of that, thanks for supporting the ministry.

John: Right, so the micro step, to use the phrase that we’ve talked about today, the first step is just go to http://focusonthefamily.com/radio or if it’s easier call 800-A-FAMILY and we’ll help you connect with the book and CD or download and other resources to help you get out of that sense of being overwhelmed.

All right, on behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for listening today. I’m John Fuller, hoping you have a great weekend and inviting your back on Monday. We’ll hear from Jonathan Evans about the impact that family devotions had on him as a child.

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Mr. Jonathan Evans: And now that I look back, I think about my formation as a Christian, as a man came from that time over the table, even though I was rolling my eyes because I was mad because I was missing “The Cosby Show.” (Laughter)

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John: Well, the importance of family devotions, perhaps around the dinner table, is the subject that we’ll address on our next “Focus on the Family” radio program with Jonathan Evans. His dad is Dr. Tony Evans. Join us then as we once again help you and your family thrive.

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Joshua Becker discusses the benefits a family can experience if they reduce the amount of “stuff” they have and simplify their lives. He addresses parents in particular, explaining how they can set healthy boundaries on how much stuff their kids have, and establish new habits regarding the possession of toys, clothes, artwork, gifts and more.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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