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Simple Ways to Help Your Husband Feel Loved

Simple Ways to Help Your Husband Feel Loved

Author Kathi Lipp offers suggestions for simple, practical ways for how a wife can build up her husband through words of affirmation, acts of service and love.

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Mrs. Kathi Lipp: I think that having hope in a marriage is a beautiful thing. And I think that if we believe the Bible, then we believe that hope is possible in any of our relationships.

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John Fuller: That’s Kathi Lipp and she joins us today on “Focus on the Family.” I’m John Fuller and your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly

Jim Daly: Okay, John, so what are some of those simple ways that Dena says, “I love you?”

John: Oh, well, she says I love you in many, many ways. I think one is, she speaks it. She … she says, you know, “Hey, Hon, I love you.” Then she often smiles at my jokes. I think that’s a good way for her to say I love you, even though they’re corny. My kids laugh about this. They’re like—

Jim: Really?

John: –“Dad you could say, ‘It’s raining outside’ and mom would laugh.” So, I know she loves—

Jim: That’s sweet.

John: –me when she laughs at my jokes.

Jim: She doesn’t score them, huh–

John: She doesn’t. (Laughter) Never.

Jim: –with her face?

John: That would be really bad if she said, you know, “That’s a 9, John.”

Jim: That’s a 1; that’s a 10.

John: And then I think she serves me um … in lots of different ways, just offering to take things off my plate, offering to just even let me have the … the last chocolate chip cookie. She … she (Laughter) gives in so … so many little ways like that.

Jim: Those are very similar things that Jean will do. In fact, she’ll uh … the other thing is coffee in the morning, so uh …

John: She makes it for you?

Jim: Usually, but if I’m—

John: Brings it to you.

Jim: –up first, I’ll [do it]. She’ll always do that. She pr …

John: Seriously?

Jim: ‘Cause I’m usually reading the broadcast prep and things like that, gettin’ ready for the day and she’ll bring me a cup that’s nice and hot. Yeah, it’s a nice way to say I love you. But those are the things that uh … do mean a lot in a marriage. They’re little things, but they’re important things. And uh … here at Focus on the Family, we want to provide you, not just when you are desperate and your marriage is in difficulty and if that’s your situation, call us, because we’re here for you. But also just the tune-ups, how to do it better, how to just acknowledge each other even in the stress of life, which let’s face it, there’s always gonna be stress in our lives, whether it’s the children or the job or the bank account. Something is gonna be stressing you out and being together in that is far better than being separate and kind of at odds with each other.

John: Well, I like the word “tune-up” and we have a master mechanic is you will with us (Laughter) on doing this. Kathi Lipp has been with us so many times and she talks about a variety of things—home organization and decluttering and improving your marriage and relationship. And she’s a popular conference speaker, an author and she’s married to Roger and we always seem to have a lot of fun when she’s here. (Laughter)

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Jim: Yeah (Laughing). Kathi, welcome back to Focus.

Kathi: It’s so great being with you guys, Jim and John. This is one of my favorite places to be.

Jim: Well, we love it. You always brighten up the place, you know.

Kathi: Ah—

Jim: You come in—

Kathi: –thank you.

Jim: –with your smile and today you brought bagels. That’s …

Kathi: I … well yeah. (Laughter) you know, it didn’t serve my husband, but it served somebody’s husband (Laughter), so that’s a good thing.

Jim: Yeah, that is so much fun. So, you’re speaking around the country—

Kathi: Yes.

Jim: –uh … to women, um … probably every week.

Kathi: Yep.

Jim: Um … what are they saying to you when it comes to pleasing a husband? Now what I must say, there … there are wives listening saying, “Oh, right, Jim and John, all the things that we can do.”

John: You tell us how to love our husbands.

Jim: It’s like code for Jean and Dena. (Laughter) But I don’t know if you’re ever gonna write the book or maybe Roger, your husband will write that book, The 101 Ways That We Can Say We Love You to wives, but that should be the next one.

Kathi: Well, and you know, we … I’ve written several marriage books. The very first one was The Husband Project. And it was 21 Days (Laughter) of Lovin’ Your Man–On Purpose and With a Plan. And people are like, well, where’s The Wife Project? So, I’m like, you know, that … that would be a very poor-selling book. Let’s just put it out there.

But we did Happy Habits for Every Couple and the reason we did that was because we know that there are guys who want to invest in their marriage. But if we’re gonna be gut honest, if there is going to be a change happening in a marriage, oftentimes it’s starting with the wife.

Jim: Now why is that? Why does change usually start there? I would agree—

Kathi: Yeah.

Jim: –but it’s almost like they’re more intuitive about it. They know what needs to be done and they want change–

Kathi: I … I think—

Jim: –where guys settle in, huh?

Kathi: –I think that’s exactly right and let’s just say, I … I may have a few more emotions rattling around in my head than Roger does.

Jim: Let’s just say that.

John: Maybe. (Laughter)

Kathi: Perhaps, just perhaps. He’s also an engineer, so you know (Laughter)—

Jim: Oh, yeah.

Kathi: –it’s a diff … it’s a different standard there. But I … I speak to a lot of women, but I know that women speak to each other and you know, most of the time, it’s … it’s not in a gossipy way. It’s just, “Hey, we want to have everything that God has available for our marriages.” And I don’t know that guys are really afforded the opportunity to have those discussions.

Jim: Or go there.

John: Oh, Jim and I talk—

Kathi: Or go there.

John: –that way all the time. (Laughter)

Kathi: Well, okay. You are two very special guys—

Jim: Yeah.

Kathi: –then. (Laughter)

Jim: You shouldn’t lie. That’s not a good Christian trait (Laughter), John.

John: I was smiling.

Kathi: We have Bible studies and we have moms groups and this is a place where we are able to pull back and focus a little bit and also on Facebook, social media, this is often a topic of discussion. And so, I can only speak to women about what I know about improving our marriage. I can … I can speak a little bit to guys, but I do know that as a wife, I have more power to speak into my marriage than I originally thought. I kinda …

Jim: Huh.

Kathi: Sometimes I think we think we’re stuck with the marriage we’re in and I don’t believe that that’s true. I think we have a great ability to change the dynamics of our marriage.

Jim: Well, that fork in the road that you’re describing, how does a wife who has felt like there’s no hope. I’ll just hunker down and—

Kathi: Right.

Jim: –get through this, how does she begin to turn her own internal thinking around so she can begin to do the things that would change their marriage?

Kathi: Abs … and I understand. I talk to women all the time who have said, “I’ve tried this and this and I’m just done.” I … you know …

Jim: He’s not responsive.

Kathi: Right.

Jim: He doesn’t care.

Kathi: Yeah and so, someday the sweet release of death will come and we’ll be able to go on. And I … you know, and I think that having hope in a marriage is a beautiful thing. And I think that if we believe the Bible, then we believe that hope is possible in any of our relationships. And so, I think that when we have given up on our marriage, in some ways we’ve said, “I’m giving up on believing what God says about my marriage.

Jim: Hm.

Kathi: And so, I also think this, that sometimes we try to love in the way that we want to feel loved and that is usually diametrically opposed to how our spouse wants to be loved. I am … if … if we’re talking uh … this … the five love languages, I always say, I have the shallow love languages. You know, buy me pretty things and do things for me. (Laughter) And I love Roger, so I would buy him things. I would do things for him. That’s not how he feels love.

Jim: It didn’t communicate.

Kathi: It didn’t communicate, so for him, it’s words of affirmation and quality time together and surprise, surprise, physical touch. And so, when I understood that, we … it changed the way Iloved Roger. And it changed the way he received healing love from me.

Jim: Well, that’s a good encouragement for all of us, husbands and wives, to know our mates, right?

Kathi: Right.

Jim: Now in your book, 101 Simple Ways to Show Your Husband You Love Him, you identified these natural tendencies, these bents, these gifts that we have, very similar to something like the DISC test—

Kathi: Right.

Jim: –or what John Trent and Gary Smalley did with otters and beavers—

Kathi: Yes.

Jim: –and lions.

Kathi: Yes.

Jim: I mean, it’s similar in that context. Describe these. Let’s go through all four and then we’ll dig into some of them.

Kathi: Yeah and I’m very fortunate because uh … one of my favorite co-authors, Sherry Gregory and also my husband, are kind of experts on these personalities and really helped me develop some of this material.

Jim: Let me say this.

Kathi: Yeah.

Jim: Isn’t it interesting that we … God has put us in boxes.

Kathi: Yes.

Jim: I mean, it’s interesting to me that there’s really four types of ge … generally four types of personality expression.

Kathi: Right.

Jim: You would think in, you know, 7, 8 billion people, we’d have a lot more than four types (Chuckling). But I think God does that with intentionality.

Kathi: I think so, too because I really believe that when we can understand these key personalities, it opens up so much freedom in a relationship. It says, okay, I don’t have to go through a … 100 different ideations of what this person may be like. It … it really comes down to four.

And we’re kind of fortunately in our family. We have four kids. We have one [of] each of these personalities.

Jim: Oh, that’s nice.

Kathi: So, we have this little lab rat experiment going on (Laughter) all the time. And you know, when we apply this to our kids, it works every single time. And as soon as I walk into a room and I’m spending time with somebody, I can kind of identify which box they’re probably gonna fit in. Now I want to be very clear. This doesn’t mean that we are controlled or that we’re stifled. There’s so much freedom in expression in each of these different personalities.

Jim: And everybody’s unique.

Kathi: Everybody’s—

Jim: Don’t hear us—

Kathi: –unique.

Jim: –wrong. It’d be …

Kathi: But this gives us keys and insights we—

Jim: Yeah.

Kathi: –wouldn’t have otherwise.

Jim: Exactly. Let me … let me mention and then we’ll just dig—

Kathi: Yeah.

Jim: –through ’em. One is expressive, next, analytical—

Kathi: Uh-hm.

Jim: –driving and amiable.

Kathi: Right.

Jim: Of course, as Christians, we all want to be “amiable.”

Kathi: Well–

Jim: But—

Kathi: –yeah.

Jim: –let’s start with expressive.

Kathi: Okay, an expressive is … this is somebody who, their … their key goal in life is just … is to have a good time. You know, they could be in some pretty (Laughter) dark circumstances and they’re still going to find a way—

Jim: Yeah.

Kathi: –to make it fun. And they … they are talkative. They’re storytellers. You might be surprised. I’m an expressive.

Jim: Yeah.

Kathi: Um … I am … we call it NTR, No Test Required. Uh … I am an expressive and so, I know that uh … but I also have a lot of weaknesses. Uh … I can over-talk and like when I said I’m married to an engineer, that can be a challenge.

Jim: How does dinner go when the two of you sit down?

Kathi: Uh … sometimes it’s a one-sided conversations. (Laughter) And I–

Jim: And he nods.

Kathi: –and I have to be very careful—

Jim: Yeah.

Kathi: –to pull out good conversation in him. Uh … we can be … we’re storytellers, but we can also tend to exaggerate or elaborate, which is not something that is … it’s not a great quality. And so, we have to know that. We can be a little gullible. There … there are lot of … there’re give and takes in any of these things, but we … an expressive and if you have an expressive husband, he loves affection. He loves attention. He wants approval from you. He wants to know that out of the box, that you love him and he doesn’t have to change in order to be loved.

Jim: In fact, you use some phraseology that really connects with the heart of the expressive. Um … one of them was, “I’m so happy I married you—

Kathi: Oh.

Jim: –because …” and then fill in the blank. “because you work so hard,” whatever it might be. That’s what you mean by words of affirmation.

Kathi: Yeah, so if you’re married to an expressive, the best thing you can say to them, “Tell me what happened to you today?” I mean, that’s … that’s the easy [one]. “Tell me a story about …” or “I’m so happy I married you because you keep life so … it … you … you make life so much fun.” “Um … you’re the most wonderful man in the world because everybody feels comfortable around you.” When you can say things like that, it really …

Jim: This is all speakin’ to me, John. I don’t know about you. (Laughter)

John: That’s because you’re an expressive.

Jim: I think I’m an–

John: Yeah.

Kathi: Yes.

Jim: –expressive.

Kathi: Right and so, we’re all combinations of these things, but when those kind of … if I told Roger, “Oh, I just love you because you’re the life of the party,” he’d be like, “What party are your … you at?” You know?

Jim: I haven’t been to a party in 3.6 years.

Kathi: Exactly! (Laughter) Exactly, but I know the gifts he brings and so, I need to highlight those.

Jim: In addition in your book, Kathi, you talk about gifts you can give—

Kathi: Oh, yes.

Jim: –the expressive. I … I don’t know that I resonated with all these as an expressive, but–

Kathi: Now, that’s a …

Jim: –give it a go.

Kathi: That’s okay. So, if there’s a movie that your expressive really likes, especially a comedy or maybe a favorite comedian, something like that, but here’s what … what is a good gift, something that will connect with the other person. So, it’s movie tickets, maybe going on an adventure together; something along those lines would really work for an expressive.

Jim: I think that’s fair. Jean just despises movies.

Kathi: Okay.

Jim: She just doesn’t like movies, but I’m always saying, “Hey, boys, let’s go see a movie.”

Kathi: Right.

Jim: And uh … so, that does connect with me, too.

Kathi: Okay, good. I got you then.

Jim: You did; got me; you got me nailed down there. Now that analytical personality, the next one, so you have expressive.

Kathi: Right, an analy …

Jim: Let’s talk about the analytical. It’s pretty self-evident—

Kathi: Yeah—

Jim: –but what does it look like.

Kathi: –so I live in Silicon Valley, so we are teeming with analytics. Lots of them are accountants or engineers and you don’t necessarily have to have that kind of job to be an analytic, but it’s that kind of brain.

And so, uh … they love to achieve and maintain perfection. You know, they like … these are the people who can get that checkbook down to the zero.

Jim: Kathi, let me … let me … my observation of the analytic would be, especially the husband, you probably assume you don’t have to say “I love you” that much, ’cause he got married and that said I love you enough.

Kathi: And yeah, -if it changes, -I’ll let you know.

Jim: ‘Cause they need the affirmation and that love.

Kathi: They need the affirmation. They need to know that you appreciate the details.

Jim: But how do you express it to someone who’s analytical?

Kathi: So, what I’ll say to Roger is something along the lines of, “Thank you so much. I knew that when we decided you were gonna do that task, I knew it would be done well. And so, I didn’t have to worry about it anymore.” And so, that speaks to Roger and his idea of making sure that things are done well. And I appreciate that.

You know, an analytic is very deep and thoughtful. So, saying, “I appreciate how much you thought about that before we talked about it,” because as somebody who is not deep and not necessarily thoughtful, I verbally process and that about kills an analytic–

Jim: Right. (Laughing)

Kathi: –because they want to have time to really think and consider and do the right thing.

Jim: So, you wouldn’t press Roger for an answer on something immediately.

Kathi: Well, I’m learning. And let’s just say—

Jim: I mean, ideally that—

Kathi: –we’re all learning.

Jim: Am I—

Kathi: Yes.

Jim: –seeing that correctly?

Kathi: Yeah, yes so, if there’s a big decision to be made, I have learned now that I say, “Here are the facts as I know them. I want to know the facts as you know them. But I’m not expecting an answer on this right now.” Now if we’re in a medical emergency or something—

Jim: Right, right.

Kathi: –we can do that. But if it’s something about the house or something about the kids or a decision that we need to make together, a good 48 hours makes him feel less pressured–

Jim: Right and he thought it through.

Kathi: –and he thought it through.

Jim: What are some of those words, those phrases that we talked about the expressive with the analytic that work to express love to him?

Kathi: “I can always count on you.” That is about—

Jim: That’s a big one.

Kathi: –that’s a big one.

Jim: And you’re saying, you know, I think most guys would say, “I’d like that, too, but I don’t see myself as analytical.” You’re all gonna love affection and affirmation, but this really connects.

Kathi: This really connects and to say, “I loved how much you thought about this.” And “I can see how much time and effort you put into this decision,” really speaks to an analytic.

John: Well, we’re talking with Kathi Lipp today about ways that you can understand and express love to your husband better and her book is 101 Simple Ways to Show Your Husband You Love Him. You can find out more about that and a CD or a download of this conversation with Kathi at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.

Jim: Kathi, we’ve talked expressive, analytic; the next one’s driving, the driving personality. And of course, there’s combos. We’re gonna get to that at the end—

Kathi: Right.

Jim: –but describe the driving personality in a husband.

Kathi: One of the …

Jim: Everybody’s goin’, “Oh, I know that one. He’s—

Kathi: Yeah, I—

Jim: –it’s mine.”

Kathi: –“No Test Needed,” (Laughter) yeah. Uh … a driver loves to make sure that either they are in control or the situation is in control. And–

Jim: And it’s in their control.

Kathi: –it’s in their control is really what their deepest desire it. These are the born leaders. Uh … they can be pretty unemotional sometimes when … especially when they’re focused on a task. Uh … but they’re dynamic and ar … active and they’re just confident. They exude confidence. They may not always be confident of themselves, but they exude confidence.

But I … as I like to say about my driver daughter, her spiritual gift is bossiness. (Laughter) And so, she—

Jim: That’s a nice way to say it.

Kathi: –she–

John: So …

Kathi: –she has … people will naturally look to her to lead. It’s very interesting that these are born leaders. And they won’t give up when they’re losing. If they have a wide spread of points, they … you know, even if it’s mini-golf, they’re not going to give up. They’re gonna play till the end.

Jim: Play another round.

Kathi: They … and they love achievement and appreciation and they love loyalty. Loyalty is very important to them.

Jim: What are some of those words that you might express to the driver?

Kathi: “I admire you.” Or “I admire the way you act.” That means the world. Admiration is very, very important to the driver. “I’m so proud of the way you …” Proud and admiration. Uh … “You have such a sense of justice for …” And so, when … a driver is fighting for a cause, it’s great to recognize that.

Jim: Huh … Paul in the Bible would’ve been a driver.

Kathi: Absolu[tely], 100 percent. (Laughter) Yes.

John: Now you mentioned bossiness.

Kathi: Yes.

John: And for a husband who is bossy, that doesn’t always go so well.

Kathi: Yeah … no, I’m … when I—

John: Well, that’d—

Kathi: –say—

John: –be a real weakness, right?

Kathi: –I … I would say that would be in the weakness category for sure. Yes, we tease my daughter about her spiritual gift of bossiness and we say, “You know what? How … being a leader is such a gift, but it’s also such a responsibility.

John: Okay, so—

Kathi: And …

John: –if Roger were the driver—

Kathi: Yes.

John: –how … how would you show love to him?

Kathi: So, some of the ways I … one of the things is, especially for me, not to die on every hill, to say, “Here are the things that I know he’s really, really good at and we’re gonna do it that way.” And to only really pick the battles and things that I’m really passionate about, because 90 percent of the time, as long as the job gets done, I don’t care how the sausage is made.

But for a driver, they need to know every ingredient. They need to know that everything’s going in. So, uh … to really only say, “Hey, I’ve done the research. This is what I need and this is … I need you to listen to what I’m saying, as well.” So, coming to a driver with facts and saying, “This is … I’ve researched the best way to do this” and that’s hard for an expressive, because we don’t research. We just go with our gut. But to come to them and say, I … to support your argument, not that you’re arguing, but to support your reasoning–

Jim: Your position.

Kathi: –yes, exactly, your position is a … a … the best way to come to them.

Jim: Okay, let’s … let’s cover amiable.

Kathi: Yeah.

Jim: It just sounds like that’s the Christian place to be. All men should be amiable and of course, you said it and I need to say it again, you can demonstrate any of these attributes. So—

Kathi: Right.

Jim: –a driver, an expressive—

Kathi: I …

Jim: –can be amiable.

Kathi: Yes, but here’s what I would say. Each of the best of these personalities is reflected in Jesus. So, Jesus was a driver. He was an expressive. He was an amiable and He was an analytic. And so, when we are at our best, we are exactly who God has created us to be. And so, an amiable is somebody who loves to have peace at any cost.

Jim: Huh.

Kathi: But also, you know, it can also … it’s a double-edged sword. All of these personalities are, because maybe we don’t br … if you’re an amiable, you don’t bring up issues that need to be brought up.

Jim: You just suffer in silence.

Kathi: Right, because peace at any cost. And that’s not how we’re supposed to live either. And so, these … sometimes these are more low-key personalities, quiet, but usually with a very dry witty sense of humor. Um … they’re easygoing, relaxed and they make friends easily. So, this is a great person to be around, but sometimes they can be unmotivated, uh … worry a lot, or sometimes very, very shy and not able to really—

Jim: Express.

Kathi: –express what they … they are not able to stand up for what they need sometimes.

Jim: Huh … the … that amiable person, the words or phrases that you would use, I think this is really helpful. It can—

Kathi: Hm.

Jim: –I don’t know, I’m connecting with the phrases.

Kathi: It helps. It helps to have a little bit of a script, because—

Jim: Yeah.

Kathi: –what … when somebody says, “Kathi, you’re so much fun; I love being around you,” that speaks to me. But when I tell my husband, “You did that so well,” that’s what speaks to him and it doesn’t interchange usually. So, this is good.

Jim: And this is really … I mean, something out of Proverbs or um … the Song of Solomon. These are the—

Kathi: Uh-hm.

Jim: –knowing your spouse, knowing your mate–

Kathi: Absolutely.

Jim: –so well that you can speak to his or her heart.

Kathi: Right.

Jim: Today we’re talking about his heart (Laughter).

Kathi: Yes.

Jim: And hopefully, in the future, we’ll talk about her heart.

Kathi: Yes.

Jim: … You mentioned gift ideas again for that amiable person. What are some of the things that express love in that gift category?

Kathi: Okay, so anything that has to do with comfort (Laughter); comfort is key. Uh … an amiable will be the person who cuts the tags out of their clothes, ’cause …

Jim: Don’t most people do that?

Kathi: Uh …

Jim: Have I missed it? (Laughter)

Kathi: I …

John: Under penalty of law (Laughter), I do not. (Laughter)

Kathi: I’ve (Laughter) never done that. I’ve never done that. I believe that the … the Snuggie mar … you know, those blankets with arm holes was created for amiables.

Jim: Oh, okay.

Kathi: So, they’re the people who want to cuddle up on the couch. You know, they want to be close. Uh … CDs of favorite music would be good. But anything that has to do with comfort, uh … a—

Jim: That’s interesting.

Kathi: –favorite mug, yeah. It just … they are prone to making sure their environment is as comfortable as possible. And so, a good gift will wo … speak to them.

Jim: We’ve talked about that idea of combinations, as well—

Kathi: Uh-hm.

Jim: –because it’s rare, I’m sure that a person is 100 percent one thing.

Kathi: Right.

Jim: We operate in different ways, but there are general tendencies to operate maybe in two of the four.

Kathi: Right.

Jim: Talk about the combos as we near the end of the program here.

Kathi: Yeah, so you’re probably not gonna be an amiable driver. You’re probably—

Jim: Yeah (Laughing).

Kathi: –not going to be—

Jim: Yeah.

Kathi: –yeah, ’cause those are two very different things. Or an analytic expressive, those are probably not what you’re gonna be. I am a driving expressive. So, I’m really an expressive, but I’ve got some driver in me. Whereas, my husband is an amiable analytic. And it makes sense. You know, you’re not diametrically opposed, but to understand that people have a combination of two uh … will help you, especially with the words to say to them, the gifts to buy, the acts of love. It really unlocks some keys there or unlocks some locks to their personality.

Jim: Those are great ideas in understanding those combinations. Uh … let’s end with the 10 things you might want to say to your husband as he walks through the door at the end of t

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As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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