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Trusting God When We Don’t Understand His Ways (Part 2 of 2)

Trusting God When We Don’t Understand His Ways (Part 2 of 2)

In a discussion based on his book When God's Ways Make No Sense, psychologist Dr. Larry Crabb explores the topic of suffering in both the Bible and through personal stories, and offers encouragement through the re-assurance that God cares for us and is trustworthy, even when circumstances seem to dictate otherwise. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: July 31, 2018

Excerpt:

Dr. Larry Crabb: And that verse that “all things work together for good”, the question is – how does God define good? It may be a little different than how I define good.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: What an insightful question from author and speaker, Dr. Larry Crabb, as he helps us to make sense of some of the painful things that we endure in life. Dr. Crabb was our guest last time on Focus on the Family, and we’ll continue that conversation with him. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, what a powerful conversation we had with Dr. Crabb as he helped us to think about some critical questions about God and suffering – perhaps one of the most difficult areas of the Christian faith. Is God good when He allows pain in our lives? The answer is, of course, yes. Maybe the question is why does He allow those who love Him to go through such difficult things in life? All valid questions, and God’s heart is open to helping you understand them. Larry has thought about these things for a very long time and he has battled with cancer, the loss of his brother through a plane crash. He’s seen friends and family members go through various trials. So, he has lived it as a Christian leader. But through it all, he continues to learn that God is a loving God, and He is present in all these times of trouble for us. And he brings tremendous wisdom to this discussion.

John: Mm hmm. He does, and he’s written a great book about this topic. It’s called When God’s Ways Make No Sense. Stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast to get your copy. And as we pick up the conversation, Dr. Crabb is talking about some of the inspiration behind that book, including the Bible story of Jonah, and then he’ll turn to another prophet in the Old Testament, Habakkuk, who trusted God in spite of some really tough times.

Larry: You know, the whole theme of the book that got me writing it was – was Jonah. God comes to Jonah. And after He had come to Jonah earlier and saying, “I want – as My prophet, I want you to tell Israel that they’re in for good times.” And that made Jonah a very popular prophet.

Jim: Sure.

Larry: And then when Israel now is doing very well, they only have one problem left, and that’s that Assyria, the capital of which is Nineveh, a murderous nation. And God comes to Jonah and says give them a chance to repent. I don’t want to destroy them. That made no sense to Jonah. Aren’t You committed to Your people, to making life go well for Your people? I want You to destroy Nineveh. So, God, I’m gonna resist You. I’m gonna run away from You. I’m gonna resign my role as prophet. The dickens with this ministry of following You. Resist and run was Jonah. And that got me thinking about, when God’s ways make no sense, do I tend to resist and run? And then you have Saul, before he became Paul – not King Saul – but Paul before he met Jesus. And as Saul, he was trained by Gamaliel, leading Pharisee of the day – brilliant man obviously – as a younger man, very brilliant – studied the Old Testament. And what did he come up with? He didn’t come up with the Gospel. He didn’t read Isaiah 53 correctly. He didn’t see that the offerings of Leviticus are all about the Jesus person who had already been around, and he distorted the message of the Bible and the Old Testament to fit his predilections, to fit his own culture, to fit his own prejudices. And he denied the parts of the Scripture that contradicted his worldview. When God made no sense to him, by saying that there’s gonna be a Messiah Who’s going to suffer, and it’s gonna be extended to the gentiles, and Paul said, “You got to be kidding me. Messiahs don’t suffer, and the Jews are Your people. What’s Your problem God?” So, he distorted the truth of God and denied it. But then Habakkuk, he, um, he was prophet in a very difficult time in Judah, and he saw all this sin. And he came to God. And he said, “God, You’re confusing me. Why aren’t You doing more about this mess?” I mean, I feel that way when I watch the news. God, why aren’t You doing more about this mess? You’re this almighty God. And one of my favorite verses – Colossians 1:11 where “I want you to know,” Paul says, “I want you to be strengthened by the almighty power of God, which will strengthen you to endure and be patient.” And my thought is no, I want the almighty power of God to change my life so I can be happy all the time.

Jim: Right.

Larry: He said, “No – to endure and be patient.” Well, he comes to Habakkuk. And Habakkuk was saying, “God, You’re making no sense. Why aren’t You straightening out Your sinful people?” And, uh, God says, “Well, here’s My plan – I’m gonna use Babylon to destroy Judah.” And Habakkuk said, “No, You’re more – making me more confused than ever. This is not a good idea, God.” But what did Habakkuk do when God’s ways made no sense? And this is the theme of the whole book really. What does Habakkuk do when God’s ways made no sense? He didn’t resist and run. He didn’t say, “I’m done with You, God,” which some Christians do. Recently, I’ve met a number of people who’ve become atheists, who formerly were declaring themselves to be believers. And they’re – because God has been so disappointing: “I can’t believe there’s a good God if He allows all this stuff.” Um, but Habakkuk didn’t resist and run. He didn’t distort the Gospel and find some way to make it more comfortable. He closed his mouth after reminding himself of what he knew about the character of God. “I know You don’t put up with sin, and I know You’re faithful to Your promises. And because I believe in the core message of what I know about You, God, I’m gonna sit in Your presence and wait to learn from You.” And when Habakkuk heard God make it very clear, a more sinful nation than Judah, Babylon, is gonna destroy Judah, Habakkuk’s response in chapter – the last chapter – it’s the best part of the entire book. Without this last part, I wouldn’t like the book at all. “I trembled in the presence of what God is doing that didn’t fit my agenda for my smaller story, but I trusted that even if everything goes wrong – there’s no more cattle, there’s no more crops, all the – everything is taken from my life – I will trust that You know what You’re doing and a larger story is being told that is coming from Your good heart. And I can trust Your good heart, even as I tremble.” And that, to me, is the – what got me to write this book. When God’s ways make no sense, can I tremble when a doctor says, “You have cancer”? Can I tremble when, years ago, my son said, “My wife is leaving me”? Can I tremble, when my brother was killed in an airplane crash? Can I tremble when God has, from my smaller story perspective, let me down so often? Can I tremble but trust that, no, there’s a larger story, and it’s unfolding right now? I – it’s so hard to get your mind around this, because I want my smaller story to work. And I…

Jim: I want my smaller story to be the bigger story.

Larry: Exactly.

Jim: That’s really it.

Larry: God, why don’t you cooperate with my agenda?

Jim: In fact, Dr. Crabb, in Christian culture today, how do we most often twist theology to meet our needs? Give us some practical handles here. How do we – what are the greatest mistakes that we make in the Christian community when we twist theology to bend toward our comfort and leisure?

Larry: I think our culture has mastered that art, um, that we really have twisted theology. Um, and I suppose the – one of the major twists is that what God sees as our worst problem is very different than what I see as my worst problem. What I see as my worst problem is the struggle of life, the suffering of life, the pain in life. God sees my worst problem to be my self-centered spirit of entitlement – that everything is supposed to revolve around me. And, um, in a marriage for example that – I’ve been married now for 51 years and, um, there are times my wife misses cue as to what she’s supposed to do for me.

Jim: (Laughter) That is frustrating.

Larry: It is frustrating. And I pray for my wife along that line.

(Laughter)

Jim: Oh, man.

Larry: That she might begin to understand that this marriage is all about me for goodness sake. Why don’t you…

Jim: (Laughter) Guilty.

Larry: Yes, exactly. But what I – what I understand that – that our theology can easily be twisted into, um – into the attitude that God’s glory is secondary to my pleasure. God’s glory is secondary to my fulfillment as opposed to realizing when I live for God’s glory, that becomes my joy, that becomes my fulfillment. Now that is a very, very hard sell, and it’s a twisting that we have done on a rather routine basis. And I think we, you know, we can find the Bible to support whatever twist we want to support. I’ve often thought about Deuteronomy 29:9 where – where um, God says through Moses, “If you carefully keep the terms of the covenant, everything you do will prosper.” I read that and I go, “I’m gonna keep the terms of this covenant. I’ll have devotions every morning. I’ll never miss church. I’ll witness to my neighbor. I’ll tithe. I’ll do all these good things. Now God, are we clear? I’ve done my part, Your turn.”

Jim: Right.

Larry: Now that’s twisted theology. And the reason that verse is true, but we’ve twisted it, nobody carefully keeps the terms of this covenant. The whole point of the covenant was to expose the fact that we need a Savior. Not a helper, to get it right so life works.

Jim: Right.

Larry: That’s the twisted theology in its major form. But the other twist that I think that has come into our – our culture, which has gotten a little more mystical, with the movement of spiritual direction – which I’m very supportive of – I think we’ve come to believe that the Christian life is supposed to be nothing more than a deep experience of God’s presence 24/7. And if that’s the case, I’m missing out. Do I experience His presence? Yes. 24/7? No. So, what sustains me more in my journey to follow Christ is not my experience of God, it’s my thirst for God.

Jim: Hmm.

Larry: “As the deer pants after the water brook, so my heart pants after You, oh, Lord.” And do I realize that God really is my greatest good? The Trinity is a very happy community. And they’ve invited me into the dance of Their relationship. And when I understand that God is my greatest good, then perhaps, I’ll be able to, um, realize that demanding that God cooperate with my agenda for my – for my life that I feel, what I want to feel out of every moment, that really isn’t the point. It’s a thirst for God, until I get to heaven, where it will be 24/7 if in a timeless eternity, if there’s such a thing as 24/7. I’m not sure.

Jim: Larry, I’ve got to ask you right at the end here, maybe tens of thousands of people who are listening, they’re living in that bad place, in that place of despair.

Larry: Yes.

Jim: They’ve had horrible things happen to them, and they’ve got their fist waving in the face of God. And my first point would be God can take that.

Larry: Yes.

Jim: Come at Him.

Larry: No, He still loves you.

Jim: He doesn’t mind that.

Larry: No, He loves them.

Jim: But what advice, beyond that, do you have for that wounded person, who doesn’t see God’s bigger story? They’re living in their smaller story of misery right now – maybe understandably. What can they do to say, “Okay, Lord, I’m gonna trust You, I’m gonna tremble”? How do they get moving in that direction emotionally, spiritually?

Larry: Here’s where my mind very quickly goes to the word, church. And when I use the word church, I’m not thinking centrally of the Sunday morning sermon, as vital as that is and as legitimate and as powerful as God ordained that sermon – Sunday sermon is, but I’m suggesting that the person who’s living in profound darkness and living in despair, until they’re able to, number one, I said earlier, embrace all of that, pretend about nothing – and somebody might say, “That’s what I’m doing. How do I get beyond embracing all the darkness in my soul and the despair that I feel?” I don’t know that there’s anything more powerful for a person in that situation than being able to find someone whose soul is quiet, whose soul knows what it means to trust God in the middle of agony and to share their story with that person. My favorite existential psychiatrist – not a believer – a man named Irvin Yalom, says the greatest tragedy he’s experienced in all his years of psychiatry, he calls it the “tragedy of an unobserved life.” And when I’m in my darkest moments, um, I have a couple of people: one is my wife. But I think it’s important to go beyond. And I have a guy that knows me at my worst, knows me at my deepest struggles. And here’s what can initiate the change, here’s where the momentum can develop into a right direction to tremble and trust – am I willing to look as bad as I really might be in despair, maybe in anger, maybe seeing my fist, maybe feeling my darkness, maybe wondering if this Christianity thing is even worth looking at? Can I be who I am with a profound authenticity in the presence of somebody who still delights in me?

Jim: Mm.

Larry: Because that’s a picture of the Gospel. I call it looking bad in the presence of love. When you have a relationship with someone who can provide that, you’re on your way to finding the narrow road that leads to the abundant life of becoming like Jesus for the glory of God and for your own joy.

Jim: Well, and here’s the tough question – I appreciate that. And I think that’s absolutely it, and it fills the two greatest commandments you talked about earlier.

Larry: Mm hmm.

Jim: But are we training within the body of Christ? Are we training one another to have that kind of attitude? Are we falling short there? Back to Paul’s example where you mentioned he pursued the wrong things, because he truly didn’t know the Word of God. Are we missing that in some ways today when we don’t have a sense of peace that God’s in control no matter what the election outcome is, no matter what is happening? My point is obvious. I think we’re missing it at times, that we’re feeding our flesh, rather than our spirit, with some of the attitudes that we foster within each other, that we don’t feel the freedom to be vulnerable with a friend, because we feel we could be judged. And therefore, we don’t have authenticity within the church.

Larry: Do we have another hour?

Jim: Yeah.

Larry: Because I think that one of the – one of the greatest sadnesses and the – one of the burdens of my own ministry is to see community develop in a way that is very rare in the Christian world and Christian community in the church. I fear that we put on our personas. And even last Sunday, as I preached at a very fine church with the leadership of the church, I’m very taken with, a good friend of mine is the pastor – and I don’t want to sound this as negative as it might. But so often, in churches, we say at the beginning of it, now, greet one another, and say hello – hello to each other. And that’s – nothing’s wrong with doing that. But we don’t meet each other. Um, you know, “How you doing?” “Fine. Just had a fight with my wife. I don’t want to tell you about that.”

Jim: (Laughter) Right.

Larry: Um, and can we acknowledge that nothing’s wrong with some congeniality – nice to meet you, how are you today? I’m not opposed to that, of course. But can the person behind the pulpit acknowledge – not – not acknowledging every sordid miserable thing in his soul – but can he be authentic from the pulpit? And can he let people know that I struggle in a way that Jesus has met me there, and I would like each of you in the church that I pastor to be aware that, at your deepest struggle, there’s a way that the Lord can meet you, but it’s gonna happen most powerfully in community? I preached on this last Sunday, and a lot of people were responding very favorably. One man came to me, and he said, rather angrily, he said, “I never tell people about the struggles I have.” And, I said, “You’re making a very big mistake, sir.” He said, “I am not!” and walked off. It wasn’t one of my happier moments after a sermon.

Jim: He sounds like a – a, you know, pleasure to be with.

Larry: No, that wasn’t exactly the case.

Jim: (Laughter)

Larry: Um, I think…

Jim: But what was he struggling with?

Larry: I think we’re missing…

Jim: What’s that attitude? I mean, where’s that coming from?

Larry: Sheer pride. It’s sheer pride. It’s a question of I want to look good, as opposed to be who I am. And is the church missing it to some degree? I don’t want to be a church-basher ’cause I’m not. But I sure do believe that it’d be a very, very good if we recognized, in our church structure, how easy it is to nourish and reinforce an entitlement attitude that says, “t’s God’s job to keep my soul blessed.” And when – you know, if my next book sells a whole lot, and I make a lot of money, and then I say to somebody, “Isn’t God good?” I hope they slap me in the face.

Jim: Right.

Larry: I hope they say, “If your book sold two copies, would He still be good? And if you went broke and had to declare bankruptcy, would He still be good?” Well, no, that isn’t my theology. Then, I have a bad theology.

Jim: Correct.

Larry: And so, I want, uh, I want people to understand that the church is not there to make everything go well in life. The church is there to help me become the husband, the dad, the wife, the mother, the friend, the whatever – the grandparent in my case. I want to be the kind of grandparent that knows the Lord in a way that arouses my children’s thirst for God.

Jim: Larry, that is so good and so right. You know, I’m thinking of the encounter with Jesus and Pontius Pilate…

Larry: Mmm.

Jim: …Where there was a bit of discussion about the mission of Jesus. You know, Jesus said, “I came to testify to the truth.”

Larry: Yes.

Jim: And we started at this place where you mentioned the healthy person is a person who knows the truth…

Larry: Yes.

Jim: …That is living in the moment…

Larry: Yes.

Jim: …Of that truth. And isn’t that a great challenge for all of us to be honest with God? Don’t be what you want to be. Don’t be who you wish to be. Just be who you are, and let Jesus start there.

Larry: And that’s how the book of Job ends. After everything he went through – and it wasn’t just suffering, it was unexplained suffering. All he knew was life doesn’t make sense at all. But at the end of it, look at Chapter 42, and God said a sentence that my father pointed out to me that I wouldn’t have seen otherwise. He’s talking to the – his bad spiritual directors. And he says, “My servant Job has spoken truthfully.” Well, Job was, you know, saying a lot of hard things.

Jim: Right.

Larry: But he was being authentic about where he was in the middle of it. And God said, “You’re my man. I’m doing good work in you, pal.” And that’s what God wants to do with me.

Jim: God honors that. Dr. Crabb, this has been fantastic – great things to think about profound things to think about, and trusting God no matter what the circumstances…

Larry: Yes.

Jim: …Are. I’ve tried to do that my life – in my life, you know, as an orphan kid trying to say my circumstances don’t dictate my joy. It’s my relationship…

Larry: Beautiful.

Jim: …In Christ…

Larry: Yeah.

Jim: …That makes all the difference.

Larry: And the mistake we made – we say we trust God. And I always say, “For what”?

Jim: Yeah.

Larry: Am I trusting God for all the second things, which He may or may not give me? When He does, rejoice. Praise the Lord for them. I got all kinds of blessings in my life. I like them.

Jim: Yeah.

Larry: And I’m grateful for them.

Jim: Always…

Larry: Yes.

Jim: …say rejoice.

Larry: Yes, always rejoice.

Jim: I love that.

Larry: But I want to trust the Lord for what He’s up to in my soul.

John: Dr. Larry Crabb on Focus on the Family, and at the close of the recording, Dr. Crabb took a moment for some questions from our audience and we’ll share one of those right now.

Dave Osterhus: Hi, I’m Dave Osterhus. And Dr. Crabb, I’m curious, do you think a lot of what we struggle with, as it relates to God’s plan versus ours, relates back to the conditioning we’ve had in school and in the workplace? And what I mean by that is we spend so much of our lives identifying problems, coming up with a solution and then working, either individually, or as a team, towards a result. And so, whether that’s happened in school or in the workplace, there’s usually a reward that’s attached to that. So, do you think part of our issue with challenging God, I guess, is the way to put it, is just because of how we’ve been conditioned in that way?

Larry: I think how we’ve been conditioned has shaped what we came into the world with. And let me explain what I mean by that. I was sitting in South Africa with a man named David Broughton Knox, who was considered, at that time, to be the finest theological mind alive. He was a brilliant man, principal of a major theological school in Sydney. And he and I had a chance for a long conversation and – or to sit together for a time. And I said to him, “Dr. Knox, let me just ask you a very simple question to ask, but I don’t know the answer. I’m a psychologist. I’ve talked to people with all the struggles. I look in a mirror, I see struggles. What’s wrong with people? What’s our problem? What’s wrong?” And I was waiting for a two-hour lecture from a brilliant theologian. He paused about two seconds, and he said, “Self-centeredness” and stopped. And I thought, what are you talking about? And that – that shifted my entire perspective. I mean, David said that “in sin that my mother conceived me.” He’s not talking about the sin of intercourse, between husband and wife. He’s talking about the sin nature that is in each of us. So, I think we come into the world with this entitlement spirit, with this “it’s all about me and God owes me whatever I want.” And then I think your point is very well-taken that the work environment, the school environment basically nourishes that self-centered attitude that basically says, “My greatest good has nothing to do with God’s person. It has everything to do with I’m a Christian, with God’s provision – not provision for my sin problem but provision for my struggles with life.” And so, prayer then becomes negotiation as opposed to surrender. And we live as entitled selves, not surrendered souls. So, I think your point is well-taken – that we really are nourishing without intending to and sometimes in church as well, not just school and work. And that’s very sad to say. We’re encouraging the mood we come into the world with – that, basically, it’s all about me, and what defines my value is some form of success. And that cannot define my value.

Jim: There’s an example I’ll give quickly. The, uh – the 21 men that were beheaded in Libya. Do you remember that, by ISIS? That night, I was driving home from the office in Colorado Springs, and I remember this, in the news clip, they said the men had gone to raise money to send home so the families could be in proper housing. So, we have an office in Cairo. I don’t know if you know that. For those of us that support the ministry, you help support an office in Cairo. And Sami Yacoub is our man there, doing wonderful work in the Middle East. We’re doing abstinence education in Muslim schools with Christian trainers. Think of that. And, uh, anyway, I called Sami the next morning said, “Find out how much it would cost to finish the homes.” And, uh, we did it. And it took about a year to complete the homes. And I was talking to Sami, and I was kind of in my western MBA mode – accounting for the dollars. Tell me what has been spent. Has it all been accounted for? And Sami says, “Well, Jim, the – you know, the families are weeping.” I said, “Sami, of course, they’re weeping.” He said, “No, Jim, they’re weeping with joy that they were found worthy to suffer for the name of Christ, through the loss of their loved one.” And I thought how contrary that is to – at least for me – kind of the Western thought of winning, victory, zero-sum game, we win, you lose. And there they were in tears weeping with joy that they were counted worthy to suffer for the name of Christ. Those are our brothers and sisters in the Middle East. And it just – for me, it’s a challenge to live in this pleasant culture with all its rewards and try to hold on to a faith like that.

Larry: And to maintain the balance that it’s a wonderful thing to raise a couple hundred thousand dollars to get some homes going.

Jim: Oh yeah.

Larry: And we want to do the good things. Social justice has a place. But it can’t be first.

Jim: Right.

Larry: And, um – and that is the difficulty. And I certainly don’t want to argue with anybody that – how wrong of you to be successful in your business, I’m not saying that at all.

Jim: Oh, yeah.

Larry: But I certainly…

Jim: It’s the balance of everything.

Larry: But the balance of everything – that that cannot be your identity; it cannot be your purpose. And, the Lord, in His kindness, sometimes shatters our dreams, in order for us to discover what our deepest dream really is.

John: Dr. Larry Crabb was our guest today on Focus on the Family. And Jim and I had traveled to Charlotte, North Carolina where we met Dr. Crabb, and he now lives there. It was certainly a rich time of learning for us and for the audience that was assembled there for that morning recording.

Jim: It was, John, and let me just give a shout out to the folks in Charlotte. I love that city. And we have a lot of supporters and friends in Charlotte. Thank you for being there for Focus.

John: Yeah. They’re very brave, too. I think it was like a 7 A.M. recording time.

Jim: (Laughter) 7 A.M. recording and they showed up and we are grateful. Um, but, as you said, John, what a great visit we had with Dr. Crabb. And I love his reminder about the two things that are most important in life. Let me repeat them so we capture them, that is love God and to love others – the very thing Jesus said, and that sums up His teachings. As I’ve said before, this is a hard subject, suffering, but Larry has really helped us better understand it today. And I hope you will get a copy of his book so that you can go deeper not only for yourself, which is important to be healthy in this area, but also to counsel others around you when they’re going through difficulty.

John: Yeah, and as you said earlier, Jim, the valleys will come, I mean that came out in these broadcasts, and when they do, this is the kind of book you’re gonna want to have read and referred to again. This is not a one-and-done kind of book. You’re gonna go back to it time and again.

Jim: It’s not and let me just give you a scriptural reference. I believe it’s there in the Psalms where it says, “He is close to the broken-hearted and saves those crushed in spirit.” And I would simply ask if that’s the case, let’s run to it. Lord, break me of my flesh and help me in my spirit.

John: Well certainly, Dr. Crabb’s book, When God’s Ways Make No Sense, will help you in those tough times. We’ve got it here at Focus on the Family. Make a donation, and we’ll send a copy to you. Our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Or you can donate and get the book at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. As I said, make a generous contribution to the work here of Focus on the Family, a gift of any amount, and our way of saying thank you for joining the support team here is by sending a copy of Dr. Crabb’s book. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for listening to Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller inviting you back as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!