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Understanding Same-Sex Attractions

By Jeff Johnston
February 1, 2014

We live in a fallen world and this affects every area of human life, including sexuality and relationships. One of the results is that people struggle with all kinds of sexual and relational brokenness, and some will struggle with unwanted same-sex attractions.

Sexuality is one of God’s good gifts to us, bringing a man and woman together in marriage and producing children. But we live in a fallen world, subject to sin and death, and this affects every area of human life, including sexuality and relationships. One of the results is that people struggle with all kinds of sexual and relational brokenness, and some will struggle with unwanted same-sex attractions.

If you are struggling with homosexuality, we trust these articles and resources will give you a deeper understanding and help move you toward healing and transformation. If you are a pastor, family member or friend of someone with same-sex attractions, we pray that these resources will give you deeper compassion and wisdom.

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Jeff Johnston

Jeff Johnston works as an Issues Analyst for Focus on the Family, writing and teaching about marriage, homosexuality and gender, as well as encouraging and equipping Christians to engage the culture on these issues. He regularly shares his story of struggling as a Christian with same-sex attractions and how God brought healing and change to his life. Before working at Focus on the Family, Jeff served as the Director of Regeneration, a ministry dedicated to providing resources and support for men and women who experience same-sex attraction, as well as for their loved ones and for churches and ministries. He graduated Phi Beta Kappa from San Diego State University with a Bachelor’s in English and a Teaching Credential. Jeff and his wife, Judy, have been married 20 years and have three teenage sons.

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