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MARRIAGE DEVOTIONAL: UNITED WE GROW

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Indterdependence is important trait in a healthy marriage.
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In a healthy marriage, spouses must care for themselves (independence) while depending on each other to keep the relationship strong (interdependence).

TODAY’S SCRIPTURE

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2;24, ESV).

TODAY’S DEVOTION

On July 4, we celebrate the signing of the Declaration of Independence (“When in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another.”) and the birth of the United States of America.

Independence is a major part of our history and national identity but it’s not the whole story. While the Founding Fathers declared independence from Britain, they also realized the American people must be dependent on each other (interdependent) to keep this great experiment in democracy working.

When you think about it, it’s not all that different from a marriage relationship. You and your spouse chose independence when you reached adulthood by caring for yourself physically, mentally, and spiritually. Then, when you married, you maintained your independence (“I’m still responsible for taking care of myself.”) but accepted your dependence on each other (interdependence) to make the relationship work and grow. Keep in mind that interdependence isn’t “codependence.” Codependency is an unhealthy focus and reliance on your spouse. Marriage requires a healthy, balanced relationship.

Genesis 2:24 explains the importance of this balanced perspective: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (ESV). The marriage consists of two individuals who choose physical and spiritual unity.

This Independence Day, as you watch fireworks and enjoy the holiday, take a moment to recommit to interdependence – the healthy give and take – needed to keep your marriage growing strong.

TODAY’S PRAYER

Heavenly Father, thank you for my spouse and the wonderful gift of marriage. We need your help and your strength to serve each other, build a healthy balance of give and take, and grow closer together as a couple. Amen.

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