What should we say to our children about the suicide of my father-in-law (their grandfather)? It happened about four years ago. At the time our kids were very young and my wife and I simply told them that Grandpa died because he was sick and elderly without providing any further details. Our two oldest are …
Family Q&A
How useful are rules as guidelines for adolescents? As our children move into the teen years it’s becoming more difficult and confusing to govern their behavior by this method. It certainly doesn’t work the way it did when they were younger. For example, I can’t get my middle son to keep his room clean no …
As parents of a 2- to 3-year-old, how do we begin placing healthy limits on our child’s exposure to television, video games, and the Internet? We’ve heard a lot about the negative impact of electronic media on adolescents and pre-teens, and we want to start encouraging good habits in this area as early as we …
How can I make the transition from breast to bottle as smooth as possible for my baby and me? What’s the best way to wean a child, and when should I begin the process?
Should I be worried when my preschooler talks about having a boyfriend? I wasn’t too concerned until recently when she and a boy of the same age kept going off into a corner of the yard “to be alone” as they played with other neighborhood kids. What do you think about this?
In an adoption situation, what are the pros and cons of preserving and maintaining the child’s relationship with his or her birth mother? My spouse and I are seriously considering adopting a child, but we haven’t yet decided whether to make it an “open” or a “closed” arrangement. What would you recommend?
How can I become more actively involved in promoting a broader awareness of the sanctity of human life? I have a strong desire to take a stand in defense of innocent preborn children. Any suggestions or recommendations?
How do we decide what people should call one another in our newly blended family? It’s a second marriage for my husband and me, and each of us had a three-year-old child when we married. Those kids are now six and seven years old. Recently, my step-daughter started calling me “Mom.” When my husband’s ex-wife …
How can we be intimate and maintain a healthy sex life when our children are around all the time? My wife is always afraid of being “heard” or “interrupted” in the act. Again and again she rejects my advances by asking, “What if the kids walked in?”
How can I encourage my parents to stop spoiling our children? Grandma and Grandpa give my kids whatever they ask for, sometimes in complete disregard of my wishes. I don’t want to alienate my parents, but I’ve got to do something. Any ideas?
Can you help me deal with the pain of being abandoned by my father? He left the family when I was young. Now that I’m getting older and really need his input, he’s not here for me. What should I do?
Now that I’m in my mid-20s, how can I help my mom understand I’m not a child anymore? I’m the youngest of three. Because of my position in the family birth-order, my mom seems unwilling or unable to recognize that I’m now an adult. Is there anything I can do?
How can I get beyond my spouse’s critical attitude and forget about the many cruel things she’s said to me in the past? After several years of marriage, I’ve come to point where I just can’t take it anymore. I don’t believe in divorce, so we’re sleeping in separate rooms and living separate lives under …
Would it be okay for me to ask my bride-to-be to get tested for infertility before we’re married? I can’t understand the current trend toward “intentional childlessness” or the apparent devaluation of children in our culture – in fact, I’ve wanted kids for as long as I can remember! I also believe that marriage, sex, …
What marriage assessment tools are available from Focus on the Family?
Is it normal for me to wish I wasn’t married to my spouse? I guess we still love each other, but married life doesn’t look anything like the hopes and dreams we had while we were dating. We’re getting worn down from the hardships and disappointments that seem to keep coming our way. How can …
Do you have any thoughts on the moral and spiritual implications of vasectomy and tubal ligation? For a number of reasons my spouse and I would like to eliminate the possibility of any future pregnancies. What are the pros and cons of these procedures?
Is the recovery and reconciliation process as difficult for an emotional affair as compared to infidelity involving sexual activity? What are the differences? My husband has twice become emotionally involved with a woman at our church. At the moment he’s still struggling and has asked for forgiveness, but I’m not sure what to do or …
Do you think it’s okay for me to talk about problems in my marriage with a Facebook friend of the opposite sex? The spark has gone out of my relationship with my spouse, and we always seem to be facing some kind of challenge. Sometimes I discuss this with my online friend, and he’s always …
How can I help my husband see that he is placing the needs and feelings of his parents ahead of mine? After several years of marriage, his attachment to his mom and dad is still so strong that it’s causing serious damage to our relationship. I’ve confronted him about this, but he doesn’t see it …