Communication and Conflict

Wife and husband jogging together on wooded path

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The Husband Whisperer

Erin Smalley

Create a heart-to-heart connection, even when your man is reluctant.

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Illustration of a couple walking away arm-in-arm from their objects of warfare: a pile of household items, each with an arrow shot into it

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Marriage Is a Battle . . . But Not Against Each Other

Greg Smalley

Every marriage has a mortal enemy, a mighty nemesis named selfishness. Dr. Greg Smalley offers insights on how to win the battle in your marriage without fighting each other.

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frustrated married couple

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Humility Makes a Difference in Marital Conflict

Greg Smalley

Pride leads to conflict in marriage, so what are you doing to nurture humility in your own heart?

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Series

Giving Thanks Together

The holiday season is a perfect time to count your blessings and to offer thanksgiving to God. See if your heart change doesn't impact your mood, your relationships and your perspective.

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married couple separated by a wall

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Fight for Your Marriage When Your Spouse Is Emotionally Distant

Greg Smalley

When we feel threatened, we build emotional walls that don't allow our spouse into the deepest parts of our hearts and minds. The emotional distance can cause marital problems.

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When Your Apology Falls Flat

Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas

People have different apology languages just like they have different love languages. A person may apologize, but the apology is not perceived as sincere because it's spoken in a different language.

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Get Through This Year’s Football Season With Your Spouse

Greg Smalley

It's that time of year again — changing leaves and cooler temperatures. Football season is here. Does your spouse feel like a football widow?

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wife and husband actively listening

Series

L.U.V.E. — A Five-step Communication Process for Conflict Resolution

A big step in your journey to healthy conflict is to communicate using the L.U.V.E. talk method. This is a five-step communication process that stands for Listen, Understand, Validate, Empathize (and Apologize).

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Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast

Episode

Arguing Well in Your Marriage

Dr. Scott Stanley offers couples practical advice on establishing patterns of healthy conflict in their marriage.

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wife and husband looking frustrated about communication

Article

How Birth Order Affects Your Marriage

Kevin Leman

Because of birth order, the place in their families of origin, spouses have different experiences growing up, and that shapes behavior, personalities and relationships with each other.

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How Fighting Can Help Your Marriage

Greg Smalley

Healthy conflict can facilitate communication, understanding, trust and respect if we choose to manage our differences and disagreements in nourishing ways.

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Series

Dealing With Your Differences

Dr. Scott Stanley offers basic insights to help couples lay a solid foundation in their marriage so differences and conflict don't drive them apart.

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Positive Communication in Marriage

H. Norman Wright

Couples can build a healthy marriage when they offer encouragement to bring about change, growth and the fulfillment of potential.

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What Your Communication Says About Marriage

Carey Casey

How a wife and husband communicate with each other tells other people a lot about their relationship. Your marriage can be a witness of Christ's love.

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Article

To Know and Be Known

Henry Cloud

Dr. Henry Cloud describes how vulnerability makes a difference in marriage as it builds trust and empathy between a husband and a wife.




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Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast

Episode

Learning to Effectively Communicate With Your Husband

Authors Greg and Erin Smalley offer couples practical tips on improving communication in their marriage.

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Focus on the Family Weekend

Episode

Learning to Effectively Communicate With Your Husband

Authors Greg and Erin Smalley offer couples practical tips on improving communication in their marriage.

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Article

God Can Use Your Past to Shape Your Future

Greg Smalley

In John 5, Jesus heals a crippled man and then tells him to pick up his mat and walk. Can our "mats" help us be grateful to and dependent on God—even in marriage?

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Article

Effectively Communicating With Your Husband

Erin Smalley

Erin Smalley challenges wives to avoid criticizing their husbands. She's found that effective communication in marriage includes encouragement and positive feedback.

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Article

The Laws of In-Laws

Gary Chapman

Create boundaries while still showing respect.

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Focus on the Family Minute

Episode

Two Ears, One Mouth

You know the old saying God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason. Dr. Gary Chapman explains how to balance listening and talking in your marriage. Listen to the full program here.

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Focus on the Family Minute

Episode

Hearing the Heart in Marriage

In marital communication, we need to hear more than words. James Robison shares about listening to his wife through his heart. Listen to the full program here.

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Focus on the Family Commentary

Episode

Women are Women, Men are Men

What would you say is one of the biggest challenges to create a successful marriage?  Men communicate like men, and women communicate like women.

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Focus on the Family Commentary

Episode

Fire of Conflict

Have you ever seen a home gutted by fire?  The destruction is hard to describe.  What about a marriage consumed by a fire of conflict?  That kind of destruction can be even worse.

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