ron deal president of smart stepfamilies

Ron Deal

Ron L. Deal is the president of Smart Stepfamilies and director of FamilyLife Blended, a division of FamilyLife, and is one of the most widely read authors on blended families in the country. He is a family therapist and conference speaker specializing in marriage and stepfamily enrichment. Ron’s one-minute radio feature FamilyLife Blended can be heard daily on stations nationwide and online, and his podcast FamilyLife Blended with Ron Deal is available for download.

Ron is author of the Amazon bestselling books The Smart Stepfamily (plus DVD series and Participant Guide), The Smart Stepdad, Dating and the Single Parent, The Smart Stepmom (with Laura Petherbridge), The Smart Stepfamily Marriage (with Dr. David Olson), a one-year devotional for couples Daily Encouragement for the Smart Stepfamilyand The Smart Stepfamily Guide to Financial Planning (with Greg Pettys and David Edwards). In 2020 he will release with New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman their much-anticipated book Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages and Becoming Stepfamily Smart. He is a featured contributor to FamilyLife’s Art of Parenting video curriculum, a member of the Stepfamily Expert Council for the National Stepfamily Resource Center, and a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor.

Ron and his wife, Nan, have been married since 1986 and have three boys. Find resources and conference information at RonDeal.org and FamilyLife.com/blended.

Blended Family Holidays

Stepparenting during the holidays can be stressful. Do what you can to make them a sweet time of connection for all families involved with advanced planning. Set what you can’t change at God’s feet.

Extinguishing Marital Conflict

Marriage conflict often involves more than simply an issue over which the couple disagrees. How the couple interacts and the negative feelings experienced by each person also affect communication.

The Ex Factor in Your Blended Family

Parents who are in a second marriage often have to make difficult choices. But they can’t afford to let their fear of what an ex might do overrun their commitment to their current marriage.

The Smart Blended Marriage

Most remarried couples can beat the odds of divorce and build a successful blended family if they know how to overcome the unique barriers to marital intimacy in a blended family.

How to Merge Right

Tips for blending stepfamilies.

Don’t Lose Your Child’s Heart

We have a great relationship, but ever since his father remarried, his stepmom has started putting these thoughts in his head about me.

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When Values Collide

Parents can and should try to safeguard their children from the influence of the world, but when the “world” is the other household, parents face a difficult challenge.

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Ghost Whispers

Ghosts from the past can create intimacy wedges in remarriage. Learning to recognize your ghosts and manage them is one path to increase your marital confidence and intimacy.

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Maximize Your Fun-Factor

In the business of life, couples in blended families often stop connecting through shared leisure time. They simply spend their time on other things. But, wise remarried couples recognize the importance of leisure, and they maximize their fun-factor.

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Remarriage Sex: Tips for Not Getting Caught in the Past

God intended sexuality to be a wonderful gift for married couples. Remarriage presents some unique barriers to sexual intimacy, but each of them can be overcome.

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So, Where’s the Honeymoon?

Unrealistic expectations create disillusionment when your hopes are not realized. Realistic expectations for your blended family give much need perspective and guidance for a fulfilling family experience.

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The Smart Stepparent

How to discover your place in your stepchild’s life.

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Living in a Stepfamily

Teens with a stepmom or stepdad will learn how to manage the emotions surrounding a new stepfamily and how to adjust to having a stepparent and stepsiblings.

Smart Stepparenting

Many people assume that stepparenting is the sole responsibility of the stepparent. On the contrary, it is a two-person task.

Stepparenting: It Takes Two

Contrary to what you may think, stepparenting is a two-person task.

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