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Beware, Little Minds: Raising Mentally Healthy Kids

Beware, Little Minds: Raising Mentally Healthy Kids

Katharine Hill wants to give moms and dads hope — and encourage them to be a powerful influence of emotional stability and resilience in their lives of their kids. She describes how nurturing, faith-filled families are more likely to have children who grow up to be healthy, happy and faith-filled adults.
Original Air Date: April 28, 2023


Woman #1: When my son was small, we really went through a season where he was very fearful of the dark, and we had to hold his hand till he fell asleep every night.

Man #1: When my oldest son was about two years old, he suddenly became terrified of the bathtub. It was a fight to get him in to take a bath every night. And that was a big stressor for him for a long time.

Woman #2: My son is nine, and in the past he struggled with self-confidence. If he made a mistake, he was really tough on himself.

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John Fuller: Well, it can be very difficult for moms and dads when our children have negative thoughts or they, they just get stuck in feelings of insignificance and sadness, maybe rejection. What do you do? How do you help them? Uh, this is Focus on the Family. Today, we’re gonna examine some common challenges our children face, uh, that our teens face, and the important role you have as a parent to navigate those challenges and equip your kids with emotional and mental resilience. Your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John there’s something that rises up in a parent’s heart when their child is discouraged or hurt in some way, both physically and emotionally. You wanna protect them. And, uh, you know, it’s a natural thing to do, but the Lord has plans in those values as well. And we need to realize how we go about that kinda parenting style to encourage our kids but not over encourage them, right? Yeah, we’re gonna talk today about how to… kinda coming outta the post-pandemic world, how do we address some of the anxiety? Uh, which is sky-high right now.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And we experience that in our own household. Um, and that’s, that’s really close to heart for me, and so I am looking forward to our discussion. Just to give the folks some perspective here, uh, we’re still dealing with the fallout of the pandemic. Uh, research shows that seven out of 10 parents believe the pandemic has taken a toll on their children’s mental health. Seven outta 10. That’s big. And 69%, almost that same percentage, believe COVID was the worst thing that happened to their child in their lives. Uh, there was an alarming rise of mental health problems in children as a result of the pandemic. I remember one stat, it was the CDC had done research from I think it was 15 to 24 year olds and noted that depression and anxiety, uh, had affected seven million children in that age group. It was big.

John: Yeah. These are scary numbers. And I think we’ve all felt that, we’ve observed it. It would be easy to j- just get fearful about it, but God says, “No, trust me, trust me with your family, with your kids.” Um, that’s a big call.

Jim: Well, and for Christians, you know, it’s so amazing because the scripture deals with this, with anxiety. In John 16, Jesus said, “I have said these things to you that in me you may have peace.”

John: Hmm.

Jim: And sometimes, it’s hard to get from the head to the heart. And then he continued and said, “In this world, you will have tribulation, but take heart; I’ve overcome the world.” Sometimes it’s easy to hear and hard to do, but today we’re gonna give you some tools to do it.

John: Yeah, Katharine Hill is the UK Director for Care for the Family, a sister ministry, uh, so to speak, uh, to Focus on the Family. They’re located in Wales. And Katharine is a speaker, author of a number of books about family and is also mom to four grown children and five grandchildren. And we’re gonna hear about one of her books today. Uh, it’s called A Mind of Their Own: Building Your Child’s Emotional Wellbeing in a Post-pandemic World. You can, uh, find out more about Katharine and her book at And Jim, here’s how you began the conversation with Katharine Hill on today’s episode of Focus on the Family.

Jim: Let’s, uh, let’s get into it. There’s, you know, a bit of debate in our culture, especially here in the US. It’s probably similar in England. We tend to run together. Canada. Um, but this idea of toughening up the kids, that we’re just being too soft. They’re a buncha snowflakes. That’s kinda how some of this debate will go. What they need is a good valley experience so they can come right and kinda learn the things they need to learn. What’s your perspective about that debate, snowflake versus toughen up?

Katharine: Well, I actually begin the book with a story about about a child psychologist who was talking to a group of parents about the kind of issues that she was seeing in the young people that she was counseling. And a woman interrupted. And, uh, she’d already been a bit vocal, I think, in the, in the question and answer session. And, uh, she said, “These kids, they just need to toughen up a bit. When I was their age-”

Jim: (laughs).

Katharine: But she never did get to finish her sentence because at that moment, the psychologist put up her hand for her to stop, and she said this. She said, “Madam, you were never their age.” And I think that psychologist was right.

Jim: Wow.

Katharine: Um, we were never their age. They are growing up in a world that’s light years away from the world that many of us are growing up in, and so just telling them to toughen up I don’t think really cuts it. Sometimes they do have to step up-

Jim: Sure.

Katharine: … but I don’t think it’s as black and white as that.

Jim: You know, that’s really interesting to think about because we, you know, we come from our experience and we know what it was like. You know, I’m 61 so I was born in ’61. It’s kind of an odd, uh, similarity.

John: Once in a lifetime occurrence.

Jim: Yeah, there we go.

John: (laughs).

Jim: 61, born in ’61. But it was different then. Things were different. Culture was still pretty cohesive around certain moral values, and we didn’t lock our doors and we went and played at the park. It’s a very different environment than today. And I think even in that regard, so many of us as parents that, that fear. You know, mothers thinking about letting their kids go play at the park alone, you know? Ride their bicycle to the park. “Well, we can’t do that.” And the kids imbibe that emotion, right? They… Why are, why are they fearful? I didn’t grow up with that. My mom… I mean, I was up at 5:00 AM going out in the alley playing Batman and running around and then coming home for dinner. And she didn’t even send anybody to try to find me (laughs).

Katharine: (laughs).

Jim: But it’s very different.

Katharine: It is different. Um, some of the dangers are just more real because of the digital age. I think that’s been a massive thing. So being… Coming into our homes 24/7 are details of things that we wouldn’t have known about, um, many, many years ago.

Jim: Speak to those moms, though, about those fears. And, you know, I’m thinking right live Jean and what… And I, I had fears too. I don’t wanna say it’s only women that have fears. I mean, we dads have fears as well for our children. I mean, ha- how do we balance trusting the Lord with all these fears, and saying, “Okay, I’m not going to fear. Fear not,” yet you have these anxieties for your children?

Katharine: And I think it’s holding those intention, isn’t it? Um, not having… Even if we are fearful ourselves, giving those fears over to the Lord, not passing them onto our children, not making their world smaller. Um, I think often when we have four children and when they were growing up I was fearful of some of the things that might happen to them, and so instead of teaching them to manage those situations, I actually made their world a bit smaller. Um, and I think actually, we need to, as you say, use our common sense. And part of them growing up as resilient, emotionally well adults… ‘Cause that’s our goal. We’re not bringing up children or teenagers. Our goal is to bring up adults. And, um, part of that is allowing them to step out and to, to take some risk, but appropriate risk. So one day, we’re not gonna be there at their shoulder.

Jim: Right.

Katharine: Um, and so it’s about teaching them how to manage those risks well. And we’re role models in the way that we manage our anxiety, um, for our children.

Jim: Boy, that’s a powerful point ’cause we sometimes don’t model that well and they learn how to be fearful because they’re watching us be fearful.

Katharine: Exactly.

Jim: It’s a great point. Um, I was fascinated by the brain science related to positive and negative thinking. And I, I know, again, in the Christian circles positivity has been a big buzzword in the US. I’m not sure if the UK over the last couple of decades… And the Christian community, understandably, were saying, “It’s not about positivity, it’s about a relationship with Christ.” And I think I just wanna get that out on the table. We get that, but there is brain chemistry with positive and negative thinking. And, uh, in the book, you describe that, this negativity bias. So what is a negativity bias?

Katharine: Yeah, so experts say that our brains are wired to often think the worst, to dwell on the negative than on the positive. And that’s particularly the case for children. And so as parents, we’ve just got a great opportunity to, to help them to see the better things, the better way. The Bible talks a lot about that, about focusing on the things that are true and lovely and, you know, all those, all those good things. And so as parents, we can help them think, think well, and that actually changes the neural pathways in their brains. The Bible talks about the renewal of our minds, and I think scientists call it the plasticity of the brain. It’s the same kinda thing. Um, but the way we teach our children to think and to look at issues, um, can actually change their brains. And, and we can wire them to be more hopeful-

Jim: Yeah.

Katharine: … um, to be more positive.

Jim: You know, I had never thought about it that way, but you think God created us, right? He created the brain and how it functions with all the biochemical things that occur in our brain to store memory, to have emotion, to have feeling. But that idea that so much of the scripture… I’m thinking of Romans 12 where it says, uh, “Be transformed by the renewal of our minds,” et cetera.

Katharine: Yeah.

Jim: It’s like the Lord set it up that way so he could remind us of the better direction, right?

Katharine: Absolutely, absolutely.

Jim: It’s kind of interesting.

Katharine: Yeah, and there’s, um… I mean, one way it might work out… They… There’s a story in the book about these two young girls who, who go shopping on a Saturday afternoon, and they’re spending their time in the changing room, taking photos, taking selfies. And then they go home in the evening, and, um, uh, one of them… Well, they both actually post these pictures on social media. Um, they’re called Leah and Maria. And, uh, Leah posts them on and she gets loads of likes and it makes her feel great, and then someone posts a comment, um, about the fact that she’s got scrawny arms. And she’s really sad about that. And she allows those negative thoughts just to take hold. And she thinks, oh, yeah, I do have scrawny arms. I should work out more. I’m so ugly. And, and that, that negative way of thinking has taken away the joy of, of the day. But then on the other hand, the other girl, Maria, she, she posts her photos, she gets some likes, but again, she gets a negative comment which is that she’s got a fat tummy. And again, she’s really sad about that but she’s able to choose to think differently. She remembers how her mom had helped her when someone had made a mean comment on the bus, and she remembers how she’d been able to rise above that and think differently. And she thinks, well, hey, actually, I, maybe I do have a bit of a fat tummy, but that’s not the point.

Jim: (laughs) Right.

Katharine: Um, I love this top. It’s a great bargain. I think I look really good in it. And she’s able-

Jim: Yeah.

Katharine: … just to change the direction of-

Jim: Yeah.

Katharine: … of how she’s thinking. And that was just a little example of how it can work.

Jim: You know, and going right back to the top of the program where we talked about being raised in different environments, different eras, I mean, you think about that, the amount of social pressure through social media that girls particularly, but guys too-

Katharine: Yeah.

Jim: … but girls particularly, teen girls are under to look a certain way and to be able to, you know, match somebody’s expectations. Uh, that’s powerful to be able to equip your children to say, “So what?”

Katharine: Exactly.

Jim: I like that.

Katharine: Exactly.

Jim: I mean, that’s resilience. You have, in the book, something I want to, uh, flesh out here, catch, challenge, change. Kinda fits with this story. And so many of our children need to be able to do this. It’s kinda what Maria did, but describe it.

Katharine: So, uh, yeah, so at the end of every chapter, I put some really practical things that parents can do to embed this in the everyday things of family life, and this is one of them. And it… Yeah, catch, challenge, change. So we help our children catch and recognize those negative thoughts.

Jim: Kind of taking captive those thoughts.

Katharine: Exactly, taking captive every thought. Exactly. And then, um, we challenge it, we, we tell them the truth, um, not what the negative thinking is but what the truth is. And, and then we help them to change it. And there’s a, a little way that they can do it. It’s called blue to true thinking. And so we… Say they have these negative blue thoughts, um, so we get them to write them down. They might have a little notebook, they might put them on their phone, and then we remind them of the truth.

Jim: Hmm.

Katharine: They put that down. And then when those negative thoughts come back, um, they’ve got that to go back to to remind them, um, of what is truth, ’cause that’s what we want them to build their lives on.

Jim: That is so good. And I, I think if a parent can just accomplish that, John, I mean, that, that’s a great achievement, really.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: I’m gonna do that with my boys. And that’s probably the other thing as we talk, I mean, my boys are in their 20s now, but it’s never too late.

Katharine: Never too late.

Jim: You’re still their mom and dad, right?

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And still you can, you can kind of provide these perspectives to strengthen them along the way. It’s nice to start when they’re four and five, but if you haven’t, start today.

John: Yeah, when life’s storms come, are you ready? And have you prepared your child to be ready? Uh, this is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller, and our guest today is Katharine Hill. And, uh, what great content in, uh, this book of hers, A Mind of Their Own: Building Your Child’s Emotional Wellbeing in a Post-pandemic World. Look for that book at or give us a call, 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Katharine, lemme ask you, before we move away from that negativity, positivity contrast, um, because we’re wired to lean more negative, how do we readdress that in our homes so we don’t have a negative home? I mean, how do we create a home of encouragement?

Katharine: Yeah, such an important thing. The family is God’s place for, uh, nurture. It’s where we learn how to relate and it’s where we learn how to think, um, where we learn how to do life, isn’t it? All the important things. And I always like to say that, as parents, we’re the keepers of the atmosphere in the home. So there’s a difference between a thermostat and a thermometer. So the thermometer just measures the temperature, but the thermostat is the thing that sets it. And that’s what we can do. And by how we are and our emotional health, we can actually set that atmosphere in the home. And that means even if we struggle… ‘Cause many of us, particularly over the, the last years with COVID have struggled with our own wellbeing. And so that’s not to say we have to pretend it’s all fine because, actually, it’s, it’s important to address negative, um, thoughts and, and issues when we’re not feeling great just as much. It’s not about pretending everything’s fine when it’s not.

Jim: Right.

Katharine: We need both. But actually, setting the lead in the home as to how, how we manage emotions, talking about emotions, having fun together, laughing together, having traditions, doing all those things that build family identity-

Jim: Yeah.

Katharine: … that can be at the heart of it.

Jim: They’re so good. Lemme, lemme ask you, um, temperament, it has to play into this. Because I know some people that just, their temperament seems to be kind of, I’ll say it, engineering-minded. Now, please don’t, don’t be offended if you’re an engineer.

John: (laughs).

Jim: But you’re just, you’re very practical, you’re very logical. It’s linear for you. And I think those people, temperament wise, will struggle a little to not just state what’s obvious and to lean towards something positive, right? Do you find that in the research where temperament plays a role?

Katharine: Temperament plays a big role. And some people just wake up in the morning and think great, a new day. What amazing opportunities are there gonna be ahead of me? And others wake up just feeling really sad and anxious. And, and both those things are okay. And I think it’s about being real about how we are, accepting ourselves and accepting our children, not trying to make them be somebody that they’re not, accepting their personality, their age, their stage-

Jim: Hmm.

Katharine: … their maturity and, and working with that.

Jim: I’m just seeing a grumpy old man. I don’t wanna ever be that.

John: (laughs).

Jim: I wanna be the happy guy.

Katharine: Exactly.

Jim: You know, the, the grandkids wanna be around, not the curmudgeon.

Katharine: Um-

Jim: Let, let, lemme ask you about this because this is pretty common. Uh, y- you have a couple of children, maybe four, maybe six, John and Dena, but, um, you know, some of them will be high achievers. And, you know, they come outta the womb already knowing the alphabet somehow (laughs), and then others are a little slower. They smell the roses, they walk in the garden. And you’re going, “It’s time to get a job.” Um, ha- how do you go about parenting those different children’s temperaments? And how do you recognize to let your own anxieties down? You know, if, if one of your children is under performing, how that reflects on you-

Katharine: Yeah.

Jim: … the Christian parent. How could that child not be in college? How could that child not be a doctor? How can that… Y- you get the, the drum beat of that.

Katharine: Absolutely. Yeah.

Jim: How do we fight that in our own heart as the parent? And then how do we help the child that’s maybe that late bloomer do what they need to do in that moment? Whatever that might be.

Katharine: Yep, that’s exactly right. We… And I’ve written about both those, parenting high achievers and parenting what I called is under performers, but that’s probably a bit, a bit harsh, but they’ll, they, they-

Jim: But it’s accurate.

Katharine: Yeah.

Jim: I mean, it’s, it… They’re not hitting a point that we think they should be.

Katharine: Exactly.

Jim: Yeah.

Katharine: Uh, so the high achievers very often, I think we can take our eye off the, off the mark with them. We, we think they’re doing fine, particularly girls.

Jim: Hmm.

Katharine: Um, but actually, if we’re not careful, they become very preoccupied with perfectionism. Um, they, they’re always trying to succeed, trying to, uh, trying to get it, get better and better. And they can get very anxious. They, they miss the grade A by one mark and they think, you know, that is the end of the world. Um, so sometimes with that kind of child, we need to just take a bit of a step back and just give them some space sometimes, find some, um… If we’re talking about the academic area, find things they can do that are not just-

Jim: Yeah.

Katharine: … the study. One idea in the book is color coding the diary and making sure that… Um, so the red stuff is the stuff that’s really stressful and that is the, the harbor, the-

Jim: Those are the mountains, not the mole hills.

Katharine: Yeah, those are the… Exactly. And-

Jim: That’s good. I like that.

Katharine: And then making sure that we don’t have a whole day of that-

Jim: Yeah.

Katharine: … but we have some rest and some fun, making sure they eat well. I mean, it’s easier said than done.

Jim: Yeah.

Katharine: It’s very easy to be here and chat about that, but, um, but it is so important because wellbeing is the, is the cornerstone of-

Jim: Hmm.

Katharine: … success. Um-

Jim: You… Yeah, you mentioned the book… And this is a good one too. And I had this experience with Trent and Troy. Uh, pick the right time to look at their report cards. I mean, now it comes in a, a digital form, but you’re looking at their semester performance and taking a look at that. You do have to be wise about when you do that. And you say don’t do it at halftime. What did you mean by that?

Katharine: Don’t read their school report as a prophesy of their future lives.

Jim: Oh, wow.

Katharine: Um, I mean, yeah, as well as do it at the right time.

Jim: Yeah.

Katharine: Um, so one of our boys, the third one, Ed, he, he really struggled at school. He just, he just sort of bobbed along, didn’t really get it. And then something happened later on. Um, he’s now a teacher.

Jim: (laughs).

Katharine: I… If I had thought… I think-

Jim: He’s not an ax murderer?

Katharine: No, he-

Jim: (laughs).

Katharine: I’m not sure he read a book at school and now he’s an English teacher.

Jim: Yeah, wonderful.

Katharine: So they mature at different rates.

Jim: Yeah.

Katharine: Um, so recognizing that. And for the under performers as well, I think it’s, it’s… We obviously want them to do some schoolwork, so we’re not saying don’t do the schoolwork, but also recognizing the other gifts that they have. Um, they may be incredibly creative, uh, they may be really good with people, all kinds of different things. And so I think encouraging character and encouraging effort. So I had a lovely thing happen just the other week. Our little grandson, Ezra, is just three and he went to nursery school. And he came back on the first week with a report, with a little bright pink star attached to it. And my daughter was very excited to see what incredible thing he’d done. Had he done a jigsaw puzzle or a painting? What was it? And she read it, and it said, “Ezra is kind. He shared his tissues with the other children.”

Jim: Oh.

Katharine: And we laughed in these COVID times that sharing snotty tissues-

Jim: (laughs).

Katharine: … was something in his report. But, you know, I think that teacher was wise because she has spotted that he was kind-

Jim: Right.

Katharine: … and called it out. And I think, I hope my daughter will continue to do that-

Jim: Hmm.

Katharine: … and he’ll grow up to be known as a man who is, who is kind. Um-

Jim: Hmm.

John: Well, that’s a great point for all of us as parents-

Katharine: Yes.

John: … to find those moments-

Katharine: The character.

John: … and make sure you recognize them.

Katharine: Yeah.

John: And verbalize it to your child.

Jim: Hmm.

Katharine: Exactly. And the effort as well. And wish ours, we used to… They’d do their exams, and then we’d have a celebration, a pizza or something after exams but before results.

Jim: Hmm.

Katharine: They… Just to make the point that it was the effort that we wanted to celebrate.

Jim: Yeah. It’s, it’s… So people… Kids around the world love pizza. Is that true? I know mine do.

Katharine: Ours do.

Jim: I didn’t know everybody did.

John: (laughs) Katharine, I’m thinking of a, of a young family that we know. They have four kids, um, about 10 and under. So here’s a mom, and she undoubtedly has this mix of some overachieving, under achieving. How can she set the tone for the… the, the emotional tone for the home and, and still hear and speak to both of those extremes?

Katharine: It’s so hard trying to do that in a family. We have four children, and again, they’re very different. And so you’re… They don’t think you’re being unfair just ’cause you’re nagging one more than the other. Incidentally, nagging, um, apparently doesn’t do well.

John: Hmm.

Jim: (laughs).

Katharine: Um, it’s so easy to just get on their backs as nagging them about anything.

Jim: Dog gone it (laughs).

John: It feels good to me, but it’s wrong.

Katharine: Oh.

John: Yeah.

Katharine: But I think if we can recognize them as individuals and make our goal to call out their God-given gifts, taking it higher than just what it is that they’re doing, um, if we set that in our sights then I think the other things then, um, fall into place. Of course there’ll be ups and downs, and family life is never smooth. But I think keeping that in our sights, that how has God created this child? What are the things that He wants us to encourage and to draw out of them? Then I think that will be the beginnings, anyway.

Jim: Yeah. Katharine, uh, eh, we’ve barely scratched the surface of the material. I hope… I know it’s such a big journey, and we’re gonna do some other things, but I, I hope that we can come back to this book next time you’re here or I’m over there ’cause there’s so much more. And I hope, I hope the listeners get this. I want to re-punch, if I could use that term, that idea of resilience in children. ‘Cause so much of the science shows that that really is one of the key parenting goals is to make sure your kids have resilience. That’s one of the lifelong gifts you can give your children. Ha- ha- how can we, as parents, kinda double our efforts there? What are some of the things we can do that are in the book that you suggest to build resilience into our children?

Katharine: Well, resilience is so important. I think it’s at the heart of emotional wellbeing. And scientists used to think that it was… Well, they first used to think it was something you were born with, but it’s not, it’s something you can learn. And it used to be described as bouncing back after something had gone wrong, after a substance is out of shape, bouncing back to the original shape. But now people are talking about bouncing forward, so actually learning from the experience. And it’s about learning in the hard knocks of life, which is hard. So as parents, I think… I know on your other podcast, we… and broadcast, we’ve heard of helicopter parents, um, parents that zoom in with the rotor blades whirring just to make sure that our children don’t experience anything difficult in life. And as parents, we’re hardwired to want life to be easy for them. But actually, if we can stand back when they’re facing a challenge and allow them just to find it a little bit difficult and find their own solutions, that’s the seedbed for the beginnings of resilience. There’s a, um, a story about a, a psychiatrist that I interviewed, and he said his little boy came back from school and said, “Dad, dad, we learned about resilience today.” And he was really pleased. He said, “Oh, that’s great. What did you learn?” And he said, “That resilience means bouncing back.” He said, “Oh, that’s great. What’s bouncing back?” And he said, “Ooh, I don’t know. We haven’t learned that bit yet.”

Jim: (laughs).

Katharine: (laughs).

Jim: Just, just bounce back.

Katharine: Yeah, exactly. And, uh, he said, The thing is of course it’s important that schools teach resilience, but we learn it in the hard knocks of life.”

Jim: Right.

Katharine: And there’s a wonderful thing that psychiatrists and psychologists talk about called the hope circuit. And it’s in the book of Romans. And it’s when, um, Paul says, you know, “Suffering produces perseverance. Perseverance produces character. Character produces hope.” And if when our children are facing a difficulty we can allow them just to stand back. They’re, they’re two to fold. One would be to internalize and externalize. So say they’ve got a difficult maths problem and they don’t know how to, how to do it. First of all, they’ll probably internalize it. They’ll say, “Oh, I’m so rubbish at maths. I’m terrible. I’m never gonna be any good.” And that’s not a good way.

Jim: Mm-mm.

Katharine: The other way is externalize it, which is, “You’re so rubbish. You haven’t tested me properly. They didn’t teach me properly.” Sort of externalize it, blame others. But what we need, and this is really hard as parents, we need to allow them to go through those things and then just to stand back and to be sad. I would… I’d hate my children being sad. I’d always come in much too quickly-

Jim: Right.

Katharine: … to make life okay. Let them be sad, and then let them begin to accept the situation and work out some things for themselves. And it’s a, it’s a loop. It goes round and round and round. Like an oil painting, you sort of build on it bit by bit.

Jim: Yeah.

Katharine: And that’s how we build resilience.

Jim: Well, it’s so good. And, uh, boy, parents need these tools. And, uh, Katharine, it’s been wonderful to talk to you. I, again, I just wish we could continue. Um, but thank you so much for your research and effort to put into this excellent research. A Mind of Their Own: Building Your Child’s Emotional Wellbeing in a Post-pandemic World. I mean, we need this right now. And this book is so full of wonderful insights and encouragement for parents. And as we always say, uh, we wanna get this resourced into your hands. Be part of the ministry for a gift of any amount, or hopefully maybe a monthly gift. Uh, we’ll send you a copy of Katharine’s book as our way of saying thank you, and putting a great resource into your hands in your parenting journey.

John: Yeah, please join our support team here at Focus on the Family with a monthly gift or a one-time contribution of any amount. Uh, our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Or visit And at our website, we have a free parenting assessment for you. It’s gonna help you better understand what’s working well in your family. I think you’ll find some encouragement there. It might give you an improvement point or two. And, uh, the assessment takes maybe five or 10 minutes. Uh, I urge you to check that out and, uh, grow in your journey as a mom or a dad.

Jim: Katharine, it’s been so good to see you. Thanks for being here, and we’ll look forward to next time.

Katharine: Thanks so much.

John: And thank you for listening today to Focus on the Family. Hope you have a great weekend with your family and your church family as well. And plan to be with us on Monday as we hear about some common mistakes moms and dads make with their kids.

Dr. Timothy Johanson: Threats are things that are vague, uh, they tend not to, uh, have a lotta meat behind them. You have to do this or else. What does or else mean?

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