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Breaking Down Racial Barriers With God’s Love (Part 1 of 2)

Breaking Down Racial Barriers With God’s Love (Part 1 of 2)

Jim Daly has a candid conversation with a panel of guests who challenge listeners to bridge the racial divide in our culture by proclaiming God's grace and love, which is available to all people, no matter their color, race and nationality. (Part 1 of 2)

 

Opening: 

John Fuller: Fifty years ago, the civil rights leader and Baptist minister Martin Luther King Jr., on the day before he died, gave an impassioned speech in Memphis, Tennessee, and shared about his dream of a day when all human beings would be treated equally as God’s children. This is “Focus on the Family.” And today we’re in Memphis, fifty years after Dr. King’s death. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly. And I’m John Fuller. 

Jim Daly: John, we want to thank God for the positive strides that have been made in the past half-century to bring about more racial unity, from voting rights to educational opportunities and, of course, the Civil Rights Movement itself. But there’s a lot more work that needs to be done. We’re gonna have a panel discussion about some of the obstacles to racial harmony and offer up suggestions of how the Christian community can lead the way to further racial reconciliation in our country. You know, the Apostle Paul wrote in First Corinthians, the 13th chapter – we all call it the love chapter – but he said, “Love is patient and kind. Love does not envy or boast. It’s not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way.” That’s so hard for us as human beings. “It is not irritable or resentful. It does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” That passage captures the heart of what God’s love is all about. And in part, that’s what Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. spoke of, wrote about, positioned with the issue of racism. And we’re gonna discuss that today. 

Body: 

John: And I mentioned we’re in Memphis, Tennessee. We’re in a small restaurant above the… 

Jim: B.B. King (laughter). 

John: …B.B. King Club. And, we have some friends of the ministry here with us. And our – our radio guests are Dr. Harold Davis, Benjamin Watson and Pastor Derwin Gray. Dr. Davis is the senior pastor of Grace Fellowship Church in Champaign, Illinois, and is the founder of a ministry called TALKS, and is working to train mentors and help them help fatherless children. Benjamin Watson is the author of a couple of books. One is The New Dad’s Playbook, and the other we’re making available to you today – Under Our Skin: Getting Real About Race. Ben just signed an NFL contract with the New Orleans Saints, and he’s a 14-year veteran tight end. Pastor Derwin Gray is a founding and lead pastor of Transformation Church, a multiethnic community near Charlotte, North Carolina, and is a speaker and author. And he himself is a former NFL player with the Indianapolis Colts and the Carolina Panthers. 

Jim: Hey, gentlemen. I want to welcome you to “Focus on the Family” as we commemorate 50 years since Dr. Martin Luther King’s death, his assassination in this city. And, thank you for carving out time in the midst of this to be with us at “Focus on the Family.” 

Benjamin Watson: Glad to be here. 

Derwin Gray: Thanks for having us. 

Harold Davis: Thank you. 

Jim: Dr. Davis, let me start with you. You were a young boy. I think sixth grade, if I remember correctly… 

Harold: Yes. 

Jim: …when you heard the news. What did that feel like? What did you know about Dr. King? 

Harold: Well, at that time I was very young. I – I didn’t know much about what he did. I didn’t know much about who he was. And so, it wasn’t a big deal to me at the time. It was just later that I learned what – who he was and what he did. 

Jim: I’m sure your parents caught things in the news about Dr. King at the time. 

Harold: Yeah, we had, I remember seeing it on black-and-white television… 

Jim: (Laughter). 

Harold: …What was, you know, the news? But I didn’t understand it. I didn’t understand how that affected me, you know, as a – just a child. 

Jim: When you look at the legacy of Dr. King – for all three of you, just jump in – what does it mean that this man stood for what he stood for? Some people say, well, you know, he – he wasn’t a pure person. I think the idea is, none of us are pure people, and everybody has their issues that they deal with. And that’s not the focus of what we’re trying to talk about. For those that might jump to that conclusion, you’re missing – you’re missing the bigger point here of what Dr. King brought to civil rights, to the discussion of race in America, his peaceful protest. What does that mean to each of you? 

Derwin: Well, I would – I would say, whenever that charge is levied against Dr. King – that he was not pure – I would say the Jim Crow laws are not pure. I would say that when prayer was in school, segregation was rampant. That’s not pure. I would say that slavery is not pure. I would say that, particularly for a lot of Evangelical Christians, we have to redefine what our categories of sin are, and not just individualistic sins, but systemic sin – sins which keep people oppressed. So, when I commemorate Dr. King, the first thing that I do is I think about the boldness and the gospel centrality that moved him to fight a fight that was worth fighting, when many, whether black and white, did not want to participate in, that the injustice of people for 400 years – and even though freedom was something that was proclaimed, many blacks didn’t experience freedom. My grandmother would tell me all types of stories growing up under Jim Crow. So, when I think of Dr. King, I think of gospel boldness and courage. And – and so I’m about to be 47 years – years old. He was in his 30s. And I couldn’t imagine – I mean, sometimes I’m afraid of emails that I get from parishioners. 

Jim: (Laughter) Right. 

Derwin: And, this man was leading a charge of epic proportions, that was of God’s heart, that – that the blood of Jesus died for everyone to not just send them to Heaven, but to bring Heaven to Earth through a beloved community. 

Benjamin: Right. 

Jim: Yeah. That is well said. Well said. 

Benjamin: Yeah. Yeah. For me, it’s, you know, someone who challenged the status quo. I had the opportunity to bring my daughters – we have five children, and the oldest, two girls that are 9 and 7 – and had the opportunity to bring them down to Montgomery and Selma about a month ago and to witness and see many of those – those historic sites, to be in Dr. King’s office at Dexter Avenue Church, to walk across the Edmund Pettus Bridge, where the Voting Rights Act March, to Montgomery happened, and for them, showing them what it means to stand for what’s right. For me, when I think about him, I think about someone who – you’re right – was not perfect, because none of us are, but somebody who answered a call and somebody who was willing to be ostracized and eventually murdered, for what he knew was right. In every generation, I believe there are people who, have to stand out and stand above. And Derwin, you talked about him being only in his 30s. That’s incredible – just the weight that he had on himself and on his family. But he continued to fight, knowing that when he crossed a line that it would cost him his life. But, we sit here today because of what he did, as well as, you know, many other people. But, I also think that it’s really important, as we look – think and look back on him, understanding that he wasn’t this beloved figure that we think about today. He was – he was hated by a lot of people, including people inside the church. 

Jim: Seen as a divider. 

Benjamin: Exactly. Seen – seen as someone who was stirring up things, seen as somebody who was trying to make us get out of our comfort zones. He was hated by some black pastors, as well as many white pastors. And, you look at his Letter from Birmingham Jail, when he talks about it, when he talks about the silence. And so, I think it’s also important that through this time of reflection on his life and appreciation for him, that we continue to learn from those who knew him. Obviously I didn’t (laughter) know him. I wasn’t alive in that era. But reading and understanding how people really looked at him during his time, as opposed to now just simply looking back, and we have a holiday and all those things. 

Harold: I think that what we need to do moving forward is to look at the foundation. Dr. King was motivated by love, the love that comes from Jesus Christ. And as Christians, we have the ability, the wherewithal, to impact the world. We should be impacting the world, saints of God. That’s my goal. My goal, moving forward, is to take white brothers and black brothers and put ’em together – put ’em together, whether it’s in a mentoring situation, or whether it’s in a church. 

Jim: Dr. Davis, let – let me paint a picture – or have you paint the picture. You’re the elder statesman here. I think you’re just a little older than I am. I was born in ’61, so I was even younger than you. 

Harold: We’re – we are on radio. People can’t see. 

(LAUGHTER) 

Jim: As they say – yeah, we have a face for radio, right? 

Harold: I’m sitting next to two NFL former players. 

(LAUGHTER) 

Derwin: No, he’s still playin’. I’m former. 

Harold: OK. 

(LAUGHTER) 

Benjamin: Barely. 

(LAUGHTER) 

Jim: But you’re doin’ great. You’re holdin’ your own, Dr. Davis. 

Harold: All right. All right. All right. 

Jim: But – but you have a couple of stories, again, that helps us, particularly John and I, sitting here from, you know, white backgrounds – although I grew up poor. I lived in Compton. People know that part of my story – third and fourth grade. But you experienced things as a young boy that takes my breath away. 

Harold: Well… 

Jim: What happened? 

Harold: I – you know, let’s be very pragmatic. “I think love is what we need. It’s the only thing that there’s just a little – too little of.” The Frank Peoples principle – the Frank Peoples… 

Jim: Frank Peoples. 

Harold: Frank Peoples. 

Jim: Is that a person’s name? Frank Peoples? 

Harold: That’s a person’s name. 

Jim: OK. 

Harold: My daddy cleaned up a church, when I was a kid. It was a white people’s church. It was huge. It was huge, because I had to buff the floors. I had to cut the grass. I went by it the other day. It’s a – itty-bitty (laughter). 

Jim: (Laughter). 

Harold: But back then, it was huge. And the people were kind to us. Everybody there was white. OK? They were kind to us. But there was one man that was head – head and shoulders above everybody else. And I look back on it now. He was spirit-filled.  

Jim: Sure. 

Harold: He was a spirit-filled Christian. He did things that the other people didn’t do, just because he was spirit-filled. And I – let me say this. I love me a white spirit-filled brother. Ain’t nothin’ like a white spirit-filled brother. 

Jim: (Laughter). 

Harold: Because, he meets you. He treats you like an equal. And I have a few white friends that are spirit-filled. We get together. We have a good time. It’s – I remember when I got saved in the ’80s. The big thing with my white brothers was are you reconciled? When Jesus saved me, He reconciled me. Everything was fixed. He fixed it. Jesus fixed all of the things I went through as a child in West Virginia. 

Jim: Well, right. West Virginia. But, I mean, your cousin, I think – one of the stories that I’m reminded of, your cousin was… 

Harold: Yes, my cousin. 

Jim: …He had to make choice. 

Harold: Back in the day – they talk about the good ol’ days. They weren’t good. Back in the day, if you were walkin’ down the street, it was two or three white dudes and it was just one of you, you either had to run or fight. 

Jim: See, I think people today have a hard time understanding that. 

Harold: That’s the way it was. 

Jim: It doesn’t sound right. It doesn’t sound normal. But describe that picture. Your cousin… 

Harold: Well, my cousin was walkin’ down the street, and three guys got out of a truck to jump on him. He happened to have a .38. And he pulled his .38, and he shot two of ’em and killed ’em. And, that’s the type of foolishness that we had to put up with back in the day. But, you know… 

Jim: And he went to jail, of course. 

Harold: He went to jail. He did time, behind it – even though he was – self-defense. It was self-defense, 100 percent… 

Derwin: He was standing his ground, but it didn’t work for him? 

Harold: It didn’t work for him. Didn’t work for him, not at all. 

Benjamin: He don’t qualify for that –standing your ground (laughter). 

Derwin: Yeah. You – you know, and – and – and – and I think one of the difficulties for, – so our church is probably 55 percent Caucasian. We are – we are in the South. God has done a miracle. It’s awesome. But one of the difficult things for Evangelicals who lean conservatively, they view sins very individualistically. And so, they’ll say, “Well, I’m not a racist.” Yet, the schools in Charlotte, where we live, based on your zip code, will get more financing for schools. So, you wonder why grades are better, where the income is higher than schools that are not. Is it that the schools in the poor area, the – their kids are dumb? Or are they under-resourced? And so, oftentimes, conservatives will see, “well, it’s individualistic that you need to do it.” But, they don’t see abortion as individualistic. They see it as systemic. And so, my goal is to help Evangelicals become more pro-life from the womb to the tomb. That, why is it that for crack, for example, the penalty to go to jail is much higher for cocaine? Why is it that there was a war on drugs in the ’80s, but now it’s an opiate crisis? Who was affected in the ’80s, versus who’s affected now? And so, you know, when I share stories of encounters with policemen, it’s like, did that really happen? I’m like, “Yeah, it really – it really took place.” And so what we need is to learn how to listen. But when the church is ethnically segregated, it creates echo chambers of ignorance, and you reinforce stereotypes. When you’re in a multiethnic church, those stereotypes are broken down, because you’re in community. That was the genius of Jesus sayin’ to his Jewish disciples, “Go make disciples of other ethnos.” He was telling Jews, “Go to the Romans who oppressed you. Go to the Romans who put you on crosses. Teach them about My love, and now do community together.” We don’t do discipleship that way. 

Jim: No, we don’t. 

Derwin: Republicans sit with Republicans. Democrat sits with the Democrat. So let me say this: Political parties have discipled the church of Jesus Christ much better than pastors. 

Harold: (Laughter). 

Derwin: We are sold our souls for a bowl of political soup, and the young people under the age of 35 don’t want nothin’ to do with it, because we are not preaching a holistic gospel. A holistic gospel, not only deals with your soul, but impacts the tangibility of your real life. Evangelicals do not do a good job of that. Why? Because the very systems uphold a power structure. And Jesus said, “Disciples, you don’t lord over, like the Goyim, the Gentiles, do.” 

John: So you’re sayin’ it comes down to power. 

Derwin: Well, yeah. Yeah, it’s idolatry. It’s losing a privileged position. How do you tell a fish that it is swimming in water? You have to catch it and pull it out, which is traumatic. And that’s what’s happening right now. 

John: Wow. 

Jim: That’s a story. Hey, Ben, let me ask you. I mean, that – powerfully said, obviously. Ben, I wanna work you in here. You’ve written this book, Under Our Skin: Getting Real About Race. I think we’re doin’ that today here on “Focus on the Family” (laughter). It’s good for the listeners. 

John: We’re gettin’ real, yeah. 

Jim: And, you believe that we all have some biases. I think Pastor Gray’s referring to that, taking the fish out of the water so it knows what water is. Some of it’s our upbringing. Some of it’s environmental. Some of it just might be the way Babel occurred, right? We all got separated, and we have some of those instincts, I guess you would call them, about being with your kind. Describe for me after doing your book, Under Our Skin, what did you find as the cause, the root, of racism? 

Benjamin: Well, obviously, I would say, you know, definitely as a believer, you identified the root cause of everything as sin, number one. And so, as believers, we address sin. We address pride. We address prejudice, jealousy, hatred, all those things. And we identify the root as sin, and we understand that Christ is a solution for that sin, that his blood forgives us of the sin, it cleanses us and renews our mind and allows us to act in a way that is proper and right, as we pursue righteousness and follow him. So the root cause is sin. It manifests itself in many different ways. One of those ways is race prejudice or racism. There is a difference between the two. Racism is having race prejudice and hating another group of people, simply because of their skin color or their facial features but also having the power to exclude those people from certain opportunities. And so, when we talk about race and racism, we have to be careful with, I think, our terms. 

And in these conversations that I’ve had with people across the country about the book – and even in the book, I talk, you know, I have some great friends that are white, and who were able to have these conversations. You know, we look at the same thing very, very differently. We see a video that comes on like we’ve seen the last couple of weeks of men being shot. And I see one thing. And I say, “What do you see?” And he sees something else. But because of our personal relationship, and because we care about each other, we’re able to put ourselves in each other’s shoes. We’re able to have empathy. We’re able to have some understanding. But that doesn’t happen if, as Pastor Derwin said, there’s no real relationships across cultural lines. We’re in our silos, and we will only see what our version of the news tells us, through the television set or what our group of people, our sphere of people, tell us, that’s how we are informed or we’re never challenged, because that’s what’s comfortable to us. 

And so, throughout the book, you know – the root cause is always going to be sin. And as a believer, as we celebrate Dr. King, we have to address that, first of all. That’s what Dr. King says. That’s what he talked about. He talked about the social ramifications. But, if you read through, and you listen to what he said, it always was scripturally based. Many of his speeches were – was quoting Scripture because that is the root cause of all the ills that we experience. But as believers, we have to be a catalyst for change. We have to care about the poor and the oppressed, because we know Christ would. 

Jim: Yeah. 

Benjamin: We have to care about what’s going on. We have to care about the things that we don’t even know and understand because of our earthly experience. But we care about – I was never sex-trafficked, right? But I care tremendously and have advocated for those that have been, because I see an injustice there. In the book of Jeremiah, it’s one of my favorite verses, and God says, basically, “Let not the strong boast about their strength. Let not the wise boast about their wisdom. Let not the rich man boast about his riches. But let him who boasts, boast in this, that he understands and knows me, that I’m the lord who exercises loving kindness, justice and righteousness on the earth, for I delight in these things.” Kindness, justice and righteousness are things that I want to delight in because that’s what God delights in. And so, as a believer, things that fall into those categories, whether it affects me directly or not, the sign of maturity is when you’re able to care about something, or somebody that doesn’t directly affect you. 

Derwin: Well, and Ben, just to add to those eloquent words – and by the way, I’ve known him since he’s in middle school… 

(LAUGHTER) 

Jim: Are you pulling that card out? 

Derwin: …Yeah, I mean, the goal is to get over – that is – that is so, so beautifully said. If you are stuck in an echo chamber, you reinforce the stereotypes. And when the church of Jesus Christ is the most segregated institution in America, what are believers going to do? You can be born-again, but have a warped un-transformed mind, because you’re not in context to pull these other narratives and stories out. And so, I’m advocating that the epicenter of transformation has to begin in the church. But it can’t do so if it’s a segregated church. 

Jim: Right. 

Derwin: You know, you hear all the time, you know, there’s no black section in New Heavens and New Earth, there’s no white section. Well, in the words of Allen Iverson, a great philosopher, “Jesus wants us” – he’s a basketball player, by the way… 

(LAUGHTER) 

Jim: Yeah, right. 

Benjamin: He was a philosopher, though. 

Derwin: …”Jesus wants us to practice now what we’re going to be doing for eternity.” And so, when we develop those relationships, my brothers and sisters who are different than me pull out of me sin, and I pull sin out of them. And we sanctify each other. Then, that moves us forward, because right now, Ben, as you talked about love and kindness, we have a very unkind church right now.  

Benjamin: I think this idea of brokenness that, as believers, as the church we really have to be broken, because of our sin. I think there’s an idea of the American dream and patriotism, whereas Americans, we are taught from a very early age that we can all achieve a certain dream if we work hard enough. We look at our accomplishments as something that we earned, whether our parents gave us the job, or whether we didn’t have parents. We think that whatever we’ve done, we earned. And we translate and transfer that over to our spiritual lives. And, if we’re honest with ourselves, many of us in the church feel like we’re pretty good people, and we somehow earn part of our salvation. We don’t do this. We don’t do that. We don’t do that. We do do this. We give money here. And so, we get kind of puffed up in the church, and that creates this idea of the individualism, where we feel like we all need to do things on our own. What’s wrong with you, the fact that you don’t have a job, or that you went to jail? Well, you should do this better. What’s wrong with you, the fact that you don’t own a home, or you got poor grades or you did whatever? You need to do better, because I did better over here. I accomplished this over here. And we put that on to our spiritual life, and we’re not really understanding grace. 

And so, we don’t have any ability to have sympathy and empathy for other people, because we don’t even look at ourselves as broken individuals in need of God. We think that we’ve earned some of that. And so, when you look at the church – when you look at just America in general, we’re very individualistic, like you talked about. We really feel like, you know, everything we earn is by us. And we feel the same way in the church. And I think that’s part of the reason why the church has had a very hard time dealing with race and racism, because we feel like, hey, if I’m not prejudiced, or I’m not racist individually, it doesn’t exist… 

Derwin: That’s right. 

Benjamin: …If I have black folks over, or white folks over to my home, and I have friends that don’t look like me, everything’s all good. And if you’re talking about this whole systemic institution thing, that’s not really – that’s on you, the individual. What’s really racist is the fact that if – how I feel about you in general, that’s what it is. And if I feel OK about you and love you as a person, then I don’t need to listen to or address, or even acknowledge any of the other larger issues that you seem to be talking about.  

Jim: Yeah. Dr. Davis, you’ve seen the wide span of time… 

Harold: I’ve seen a wide span of time, and what I’ve come to believe is that at the end of the day, it’s what I can influence. 

Jim: Right. 

Harold: The individual racism is – everybody’s got to deal with their own attitudes and everything – but I’m going – God is going to hold me responsible for what I can influence. And what I’ve really liked is taking a white guy and putting him with three shorties – middle school, or elementary school kids… 

Jim: That’s intimidating (laughter). 

Harold: …Yeah. And I take him, and I put him with the three kids. And his learning curve goes straight up, you know. I had one white brother come to me and he said – he went to his mentoring session and that one little boy was dressed up. And he said, “Why are you dressed up?” He says, “Well, going to a party.” He said, “What kind of party you going to?” He said, “My brother’s getting out of prison. We’re going to a party. We’re going to party.” And he said – he’d never heard of – of having a “Getting out of prison party.” 

Jim: Right. 

Harold: But after years of mentoring that boy, they’re best friends. That was the goal. See, after years of mentoring that boy, this man has learned a whole lot – this white brother’s learned a whole lot – and he’s best friends with the youngster, now a young adult.  

Closing: 

John: Dr. Harold Davis, along with Benjamin Watson and Pastor Derwin Gray as our guests on Focus on the Family. This was a recorded conversation in Memphis on the 50th anniversary of Martin Luther King Jr.’s death. 

Jim: You know, John, I really enjoyed the conversation and the energy in the room with these men, whom I do respect. They’ve shared some great perspectives, and to tell you the truth, I learned something new. And I appreciate Dr. Harold Davis, reminding us that it’s about loving Jesus and investing in people. And that’s where the healing begins. And that’s where we’ll leave off today, but we’ll pick up the conversation next time and let the folks hear even more. 

John: Yeah and if you can’t listen, do get a CD or download of this 2-part conversation. And remember that you can listen online as well. And get a copy of Benjamin’s book, Under Our Skin, that is a terrific resource. We’ve talked about it here on Focus on the Family before, but it’s a great reminder on how to show the love of Christ to those around us, even those from different ethnic backgrounds. 

Jim: Well, we want to be a part of the solution in building racial unity, reconciliation – not to hinder it. So I want to ask listeners to pray for us in that respect, that we can move the ball forward on this issue. I don’t know that we’re ever gonna get it to a point of perfection, but we can move people’s hearts to a place of openness and understanding. 

Every day we want to share engaging topics with you that help you to grow closer to the Lord and to help strengthen families. That’s our goal. And I know that after a previous broadcast about race relations, someone told us this: “Being intentional about handling the race issue in a Christ-like way is what can make a difference in an angry and conflicted society one person at a time. Spreading God’s love, while listening more than talking, is something we can all do.” And that is a great quote from someone who’s been a listener. 

Help us here at Focus on the Family to continue the conversation on relevant issues like this one that relate to faith and family. If I could ask you to make a monthly pledge of any amount to this ministry, I want to send you a copy of Benjamin Watson’s book Under Our Skin as our way of saying thank you. And if you can’t do that, if you can send a gift of any amount, we’ll send Benjamin’s book to you, again as our way of saying thank you. Those monthly pledges really do help us balance the budget for the entire year. So if you can do it, help us. 

John: Yeah, regardless of whether it’s a one-time gift or a monthly gift, you can contact us here and get a copy of Benjamin Watson’s book and this broadcast at focusonthefamily.com/radio or when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. 

On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for listening to Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller inviting you back tomorrow for more of this important conversation as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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