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Connecting Spiritually With Your Spouse Through the Psalms (Part 1 of 2)

Connecting Spiritually With Your Spouse Through the Psalms (Part 1 of 2)

Dr. Timothy and Mrs. Kathy Keller discuss the benefits of studying the biblical psalms as a couple, offering practical suggestions on how a husband and wife can strengthen their relationship through their approach to devotions, prayer and God. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: July 11, 2016

Opening:

Teaser:

Pastor Tim Keller: I’m gonna immerse myself in the Psalms, because the Psalms give you every condition, every human condition—betrayal, disappointment, happiness, sadness, anger, every possible human si[tuation].

Mrs. Kathy Keller: Bitterness with God.

Tim: Every human situation is in the Psalms and it shows you how to pray through it, how to get through it, how to process it in prayer. And there’s no other book in the Bible like that. So, if you immerse yourself in it, it becomes second nature.

End of Teaser

John Fuller: Pastor Tim Keller, reflecting on the comfort that you can find in the book of Psalms. And he and his wife, Kathy are our guests today on “Focus on the Family” with Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, we’re in New York City today at the home of Tim and Kathy Keller and I am so glad that we could spend some time with them today, talking about an important topic, the Psalms.

John: Yeah, it’s interesting, the perspectives that they have on this book of the Old Testament. And I think there’s gonna be a lot of personal connection that our listeners have with the Kellers and lot of takeaway for all of life.

Jim: Well, and you know, so often when we’re at a point of need in our lives, we turn to the Psalms. And it brings us comfort and that’s an important aspect of the Christian walk.

John: Well, the Kellers have written a new book about this. It’s called The Songs of Jesus and it’s a devotional and Tim is a best-selling author. He’s pastored Redeemer Presbyterian Church in New York City since 1989. And he’s got his doctorate in ministry. Kathy has a Master’s in theological studies and we talked with them about a marriage book that they co-wrote some time ago.

Body:

Jim: Let me just say it, Tim and Kathy, welcome to your own home. (Laughter)

Tim: Uh—

Kathy: Yeah.

Tim: –thank you for having us in. (Laughter)

Kathy: Thank you.

Jim: It’s very nice to be here in New York City. It’s a great place to visit, but you have to live here. (Laughter)

Kathy: No, actually, it’s a hard place to visit. You don’t know how to do the subway or—

Jim: Yeah, that’s for sure.

Kathy: –the restaurants. And when you live here, it’s much easier.

Tim: We’d say it’s a great place to live and not as easy a place to visit, as well.

Jim: Being a little late getting here from the train station, I can attest to that.

Tim: Yes, we noticed. (Laughter)

Jim: I’ll bet you did. Hey, let’s start right there. You called this book, The Songs of Jesus and a lot of people won’t understand that connection to the Psalms. Why The Songs of Jesus?

Tim: First of all, the Psalms were sung, not just read the way we might do them today. The first century Jews would’ve have sung the Psalms. They would have been Jesus’ hymn book. And He would’ve been raised on it and He would’ve known it every bit as well as you would know your hymn book if you were raised, you know, from the time you were little on the same 150 hymns. So, they were definitely the songs of Jesus in that sense.

Jim: That is really, I’ve not heard that before, but it makes perfect sense that it would’ve been culturally appropriate to be singing to the Lord, in His case—

Kathy: And so many of the—

Jim: –to His Father.

Kathy: –the Psalms are about Jesus. They are really only true in the mouth of Jesus and sometimes you get to Psalms about judgment and you think, gosh, I can’t really pray that. But then you say, well, this was actually today’s Psalm. It was what, Psalm 21? (Laughter) You know, I have to go look. I might be wrong about that, but about the king taking vengeance on his enemies and yet, that would never be something I would feel comfortable praying, but yet, if I know that Jesus is the One Who’s going to make all the accounts balance, then I can let go of my grudges. I can let go of my revenge and I can say, “Jesus will square it all.” And—

Tim: So, and then …

Kathy: –therefore, it’s a Psalm that you can hear in Jesus’ mouth—

Jim: Right.

Kathy: –if you can’t put it in your own.

Jim: Right, that is good. Hey, you believe that if people just dedicate one year to reading the Psalms, it would, I think, in many ways transform them and help them change perhaps core behaviors. Is that fair?

Tim: Yes, at least—

Kathy: And no.

Tim: –at least go through the Psalms in a year. But when you consider, for example, Jesus is the moment of greatest pain and agony in His life, which is, He’s dying on the cross. And when He cries out, “My God, My God, why hast Thou forsaken Me?” He’s quoting a Psalm. That’s Psalm 22, verse 1, which shows that Jesus was so immersed and saturated with the Psalms that He actually processed every part of His life, the worst times, disappointments, betrayals.

Kathy: He quoted the Psalms more than any other—

Tim: Yes.

Kathy: –Old Testament book.

Tim: He, yes and so, what you see is, He actually used the Psalms to help Him know how to handle every situation. And therefore, you shouldn’t just go through the Psalms once in a year to do that. You have to be going through them constantly if they’re going to play the same role in your life they played in His.

John: What started that journey, Tim? Why did you start reading the Psalms with such regularity?

Tim: Desperation.

Kathy: (Laughing)

Jim: Well, that’s the point, isn’t it?

Tim: Yeah, at a certain point you realize I think as you get older, you really lose your confidence that without God you’re gonna be able to survive. And as time goes on, you say, “Well, how do I get God here? I mean, how do I take hold of God?

And I came to see that Jesus used the Psalms that way and it’s the only part of the Bible that actually gives you inspired examples of prayer. I shouldn’t say that. I mean, obviously, you’ve got prayers everywhere else. Paul gives you prayers. But to have a single book that basically says, this is God’s divinely inspired practical manual on how to pray, that’s what made me turn to it.

John: So, is it desperation because the church was growing at the time and you felt a burden, what exactly was goin’ on?

Tim: Well, all of the above. In other words, it was, you know, Kathy had health challenges. She’s had that. It’s a whole lot of things, I mean, as the years go by.

Kathy: Life makes you desperate. I mean, if you haven’t run into something that forces you to your knees in desperation, you’re very young. (Laughing)

Tim: Yes or you’re leading a charmed life and at some point you will realize that you can’t do it without God. I mean, I think most Christians say that, but they don’t know what to do. I guess, to me, that was a way forward, was to say, I’m gonna immerse myself in the Psalms, because the Psalms give you every condition, every human condition—betrayal, disappointment, happiness, sadness, anger, every possible human si[tuation].

Kathy: Bitterness with God.

Tim: Every human situation is in the Psalms and it shows you how to pray through it, how to get through it, how to process it in prayer. And there’s no other book in the Bible like that. So, if you immerse yourself in it, it becomes second nature.

Jim: Let me ask you, in terms of the origins of the Psalms, about half written by David—

Tim: About half.

Jim: –talk about that human pain. I hear what you’re saying, Kathy, this idea that sometimes we don’t feel we can argue with God, but David I often say—

Tim: Yeah.

Jim: –he’s the archetype of humanity. He went through so much, committed the big sins and there he was at high highs and low lows right there in the Psalms.

Tim: Yeah, the Psalms are great at this. Not only do you see the psalmist—David is one of them–but the psalmists are willing to complain. They’re able to complain. So, on the one hand they’re actually more candid I think than our modern piety allows us to be. They’re more willing to say, “I’m mad. This is what I’m suffering.” And I think modern piety says, “Oh, no, you don’t talk to God like that.” So, you either hold it back or actually, you don’t even admit how upset and angry you are, which is very spiritually and psychologically unhealthy.

But on the other hand in the end, they trust, So nobody’s ever in the Psalms saying, “You know, I’m suffering so much, I don’t know if there is a God.”

I mean, so on the one hand, they’re not as skeptical as modern people are and they’re not as pious as modern Christians are. They’re both more realistic about their own suffering and their own confusion, but at the same time, in the end they say, “You are God. Why would I think I know better than you?”

I mean, modern people tend to say, “Well, I can’t think of a good reason why God would let this happen, so there can’t be one.” There’s a hubris there. Ancient people were more likely to say, “Well, if there’s a God, well, how would I know?” So, there’s both a greater candor and greater trust and we need both.

Jim: Huh, we do. We do and especially in our culture today. Talk about the marriage factor. I mean, marriage can hit a spot where it seems dry in all kinds of ways—emotionally, spiritually, physically. But you, I think, indicate in the book that doing the Psalms together really brings you together and it creates more of a spirit of unity. Is that fair?

Kathy: Well, writing the book certainly did. (Laughter)

Jim: Good. (Laughter)

Tim: So, that’s another thing.

Jim: Which part? The argument part or the unity part? (Laughter)

Tim: We really do recommend [that] everyone, every married couple write a book on Psalms. (Laughter)

Jim: It’s kind of like—

Tim: It would really help.

Jim: –renovating your home, right?

Tim: That’s right, it would really help. (Laughter)

Kathy: Working on the Psalms, on the book together was really a very intense experience and it came at a really good time for both of us spiritually, 15 hours a day under a deadline that went past two months ago. We really did spend that time talking to each other about the Psalms and reading them and comparing insights, challenging one another. That’s sort of a more intense experience–

Tim: Right.

Kathy: –than most people will have.

Tim: Right, right.

Kathy: But if you’re reading a Psalm or a part of a Psalm every day and discussing it with one another, you’ll still get the benefit of saying, “This is a piece of Scripture that I can actually talk about, that I can have an opinion about and I can share it with my spouse. Otherwise, I think what stops a lot of people, I know it stopped us, is you have this grandiose vision of what your spiritual life together as a married couple should be and it’s so vast, you just feel like I can never get started on that. It’s like someone says, “Well, you have to climb Mount Everest.” And you think, oh, my goodness, you know, I can’t even begin to think of all the training and the equipment and everything that I would need to do that.

And somebody says, “No, no, no, you just need to take a walk down the street, holding hands and then come back. And you know, oh, we could do that. We could do that. So, reading a Psalm together, reading through this devotional book together, unfortunately it means, you both have to buy a book (Laughing) unfortunately. It’s not easy to share it when you’re both trying to do your devotions in it. I think it’s something that will get people started on studying Scripture together, if they haven’t done it yet.

John: Well, maybe you can stagger your devotional times, as we do in our home. My wife tends to wake up earlier and she has her time and I really am looking forward to being able to have this book just kinda sitting out there in our sun room, so that we can share it and work through it.

If you’d like to do that, Timothy Keller and Kathy Keller have written this book, The Songs of Jesus and we’ve got that and a CD or download of this conversation and our mobile app, as well, at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio. And we’ll be happy to send that book to you when you make a contribution of any amount to Focus on the Family today. It’s our way of saying thank you for joining our support team.

Jim: Tim and Kathy, let me ask you if I may, when you had kids in the home—

Kathy: (Chuckling) We still—

Jim: –this is the honest factor.

Kathy: –have kids in the home. (Laughter)

Jim: You do. You have.

Kathy: We have our adult son and a daughter-in-law and our grandson in the home.

Jim: Which is a blessing, but back then when things were busy, the church was getting off the ground, the kids were here, were you able to commit that time, even though it doesn’t seem like it would take a lot of time, maybe I’m trying to relieve my own guilt here with my (Laughter) boys, but I mean, did you find it more difficult in that environment?

Tim: I’ll grant half of your relief. I actually do talk like this with people all the time. After talking about prayer and devotional life, I always say that when you have little children at home, it is much harder. And you cannot either give up and just say, “Well, you know, five, six years from now, I’ll get back to praying.” You just can’t do that. You can’t give up. You can’t.

Kathy: And I had a sister who said she took maternity leave from God.

Tim: Yeah. (Laughter) You can’t do that. On the other hand, at the same time, I do try to relieve some guilt and say, it’s not gonna be much better later and you can’t beat yourself up. Actually I think sometimes if you feel a little guilty about things, sometimes the guilt keeps you from even getting into it at all. So, I would just say, it’s not gonna be as good as it could be. And it’s not gonna be as good as it will be, but you just can’t give up. Even if it’s sporadic, get something. So, I’m halfway with you on (Laughter) helping you, but not too much.

Jim: It’s sounding a little like losing weight unfortunately, (Laughter) that guilt of don’t eat the donut.

Tim: Yeah, it’s true. Well, actually it’s a lot like that to say, “Well, if I’m not actually eating the way I should eat, then what the heck, just eat this. And that’s not a good idea. The same thing with prayer. Even if you’re not getting to it every day, get to it once a week and that way you’ll survive, I think.

Jim: Do something.

Kathy: But I will say this about having children in the home is, it should be the most motivating factor for prayer of anything that you run into. I mean, people say that sickness or tragedy or something led them to look for God. Well, children are all of that rolled into one. I mean, you should be praying for your children because look at the world and you know, what they are having to face that we never had to face. So, praying for your children is something that you can do even if you can’t think of anything else to pray for.

Tim: One additional thought and that is, when you do feel time starved for yourself, ’cause you’re always with your children, you always do get some time. I mean, you know, they’re in bed, that kind of thing. That’s the place where you can get pretty indulgent. You can say, “Instead of praying or instead of taking some time to read the Scripture and praying, I want my ‘me time.’ I want to surf the Web. I want to do this or that. I want to veg.” But you do need to make sure some of that me time turns into God time and not all me time.

Jim: Let me ask you this when it comes to the Psalms, ’cause I hadn’t thought of this, spending time with your kids reading the Psalms and talking about the. It does talk about a lot of dark human behavior. Would you do that? Or age-appropriately–

Tim: Yeah, I would—

Jim: –engage your kids?

Tim: –I would say I think you’d have to be somewhat selective honestly. But on the other hand, I think there’s plenty of passages in the Psalms, especially if you get ’em into a real easy-to-understand translation. You’d have to get an accessible translation.

Jim: Tim, like weight loss, I mean, we start in January. I go to the gym. Maybe mid-February I’m not going as often. By March, I don’t have any time at all. I’ve just been consumed with all the to-do’s. Having that discipline to read the Word, to pray together, it kinda feels like that, where you start with great intentions and then over a short period of time, it breaks down.

Tim: I don’t have a formula, but I have a story to tell you and the story’s actually in the front.

Kathy: Now I know what it is.

Tim: It’s in the beginning of our book on prayer, the book on prayer, but here’s what it is. Kathy and I were constantly finding that even though I’m a minister, you know, and we’re Christian leaders, we didn’t pray together very often. Every time we said we’re gonna pray at night together, we never would get to it, we got busy; we got tired, you know, that sort of thing.

One day Kathy came up with a, we might call it a sermon illustration. She said, “If your doctor told you, have a situation, a fatal actually condition, but that there’s a drug for it and if you took that drug every night at 11 p.m., you will live a normal lifespan. But if you ever fail to take the pill at 11 p.m., you will be dead by morning.” And she said, “Would you ever not get to it? Would you forget about it? Would you say, ‘Oh, I was too tired last night to get out of bed and go to the medicine ca[binet?’ No, you’d never, ever forget.”

If you know you have to do it, you do it. You don’t say, “Oh, I don’t know why I don’t have it.” You do it. And she said, “Well, we gotta do this. We have to pray together. We’re just not gonna make it.” And the penny dropped for me. It’s exactly what a sermon illustration’s supposed to do, something I knew in my head, had never really penetrated my heart. And I said, “If I really believe there’s a God and if I really believe I’m dependent on God, then I will do it.”

And actually, weirdly enough, we think that, that was back in 2001. We don’t think we’ve missed since then any night, even when I’m somewhere else. You know, you get on the phone. And the fact that we were able to make that kind of sea change in our praying together, made us both actually find that our own individual prayer lives, our excuses started to look stupid. And we actually got, not perfect, but we actually got a lot better at our individual lives. So, it’s kind of a heart resolution that is necessary. There’s no just technique that is gonna somehow get you through it.

Jim: Positive conviction.

Tim: Yeah.

Jim: The other aspect of this is the Scripture generally will speak to you differently at a different time and place. At least that’s been my experience.

Kathy: Every time you go—

Jim: I think that’s–

Kathy: –through, you see something different.

Jim: –right, something will grab your attention. From a theological standpoint and specifically with what you’ve learned reading the Psalms over the last 15, 20 years, how does the Lord use that? And what have you seen in your own journaling and pattern there that the Lord illuminates different thing? A lot of non-believers don’t grab this very easily. They don’t understand that it’ll hit you differently, almost each time you read it.

Jim: Yeah. Well, because we think it’s a divinely inspired book, that explains it. In fact, it reminds me of an account I read some years ago of a philosophy professor who became a Christian. He was an atheist for many years. He was French, I think, French-Swiss man.

And he had at one point, decided to, every time he read something, not in the Bible, but in some part of literature that really hit him, really spoke to him, he would write it down. And so, he created himself a, what he would actually, he thought was going to be the book that would understand him. That’s what he called it. It was a book that would really hit me, so anytime I could sit under a tree and open it up and it would just inspire me and convict me.

And he accumulated the stuff over the years, over about a year. One day he sat down to read it, thinking it would really mean as much to him as all the passages meant the first time and he found out he’d changed, but the passages didn’t speak to him the same way. And in fact, they didn’t seem interesting anymore.

And after, not too long after that, he became a Christian and he discovered, unlike any other book, even when you change, the Bible’s always got you in its sights, that there’s no passage that starts getting boring as the years go by. In a sense it’s an arrow and aimed at your heart to really help you, to move you and to convict you. And the bow and arrow moves. If you move over here, the Bible still always has you in its sights.

And he found other books weren’t like that. Other books kind of came and went. Sometimes they helped and sometimes they didn’t. The Psalms, of course, are like that, in that it doesn’t matter how many times you go through them you’ll see things you never saw before, usually because you’re new. You’re different. You’ve never hurt like this or you’ve never had been betrayed like this. You go to the same Psalm and you see a verse that before, you’d seen it before, but it never grabbed you.

Jim: You know, let me ask you about that, because it intrigues me. It’s almost as if the Psalms capture the Achilles Heel of humanity, as we’ve described it—bitterness, anger. And then those good things like joy and happiness are also in there.

Tim: They’re all there.

Jim: But it’s almost like the Lord only gave us a handful of these things and that’s why in our limited humanity, this is what we have to work with and these are the emotions that God has given us and we can go to a document that’s thousands of years old and see ourselves in it.

Kathy: And that’s one of the things that I think is a real, well, we don’t talk about the “proofs of God” anymore, but someone ought to sit down and say, a thinking agnostic or an atheist oughta sit down and say, “You know, when I read the Psalms,” or really when you read something by Augustine or if you read something by the old, old saints, “these people are going through the same things I’m going through.”

Now you try reading medicine from first century or you try reading politics from the first century, it’s like what? I have no clue what any of this is.

Jim: That’s a—

Kathy: It’s a whole different—

Jim: –great analogy.

Kathy: –world. But when you read the Scripture or you read a great saint who has been steeped in the Scripture, you find that they are actually experiencing the same emotions, going through the same experience of God that you are yourself. So, God is immutable. He doesn’t change and He is the same yesterday, for all of the people you’re reading, today for you and He will be the same forever. And I think that is a wonderful proof for the existence of God, that you can read something written thousands of years ago and say, “Yep, that’s exactly me. That’s my situation exactly.”

Jim: Kathy, this became personal for you, because you went through some struggles physically and—

Kathy: Oh, that’s—

Jim: –many, many—

Kathy: –nothing new.

Jim: –people, many people listening are probably in somewhat of a—

Tim: Yeah, they’re right there.

Jim: –similar circumstance. How did the Psalms speak to your heart, maybe in the quiet of the night when you were saying, “Lord, why me?”

Kathy: Oh, absolutely. Tim’s been reading them for many years, as you know and in 2014 I had surgery and almost died and had a very large ‘unhealing’ wound that took a whole year to heal and so, I was bedridden and “house ridden” for a very long time.

And I would, I would wait until the lights were out at night and then I would cry out to God, not loudly so I didn’t wake up Tim (Laughing), but I was reading the Psalms as the only thing that I could actually manage to read. I mean, anything else took too much brain power and I didn’t have the band width. I was just stretched as far as I could just handling what I was trying to deal with.

But with the Psalms, I was able to say, “God, You promised!” I mean, the Psalm tells us to actually hold. God to His promises. You promised. You promised You would give me Your face. That’s all I want. Just look at me. Just give me Your face and tell me that You see what I’m going through and it’s what you want me to go through and I’ll be all right. That was the language that my heart wanted to speak and the Psalms really gave me in a sense, permission to do that.

Jim: Tim, that expression that Kathy has there, is that the essence of faith, when you can trust, when you cry out to God, that God is looking at you? And it is an expression of faith, I think, that you believe He is looking when you’re calling our His name and crying out to Him.

Tim: Yeah, it’s one of most, oh, I don’t know, fundamental, almost childlike and simple expressions of faith. There’s both an expression of weakness and yet, the cry of weakness to Him is essentially an act of faith and trust that You’re hearing me.

Closing:

John: God does want us to cry out to Him in prayer and that concludes the first portion of our conversation we had with Dr. Tim and Kathy Keller. We recorded that in New York City and we have more with him next time.

Jim: I loved what the Kellers have shared, that God wants an intimate relationship with us and you know what? We can grow in that relationship by reading and praying through the Psalms and that is a good thing to do as often as you can do it. Kathy shared transparently how she struggled through a health crisis and cried out to God. I mean, some of you may be in that very same place, that tough spot in your life or maybe it’s your marriage and it feels like God is far away and you don’t know where to turn. If that’s the case, we want to be here for you. We have caring Christian counselors available on staff to talk with you about this moment of your journey.

John: And they can have an initial consultation with you and then they’ll refer you to someone in your local area for ongoing counseling. And the number to call is 800-A-FAMILY.

Jim: And today’s program highlights one of the core reasons we’re here at Focus on the Family, John and that is to provide you with biblical advice to help strengthen your marriage. In the last 12 months, 790,000 couples credit Focus on the Family with helping them build stronger marriages–790,000 couples! One listener named Leslie recently shared this with us. She says, “I’ve bought, read and loaned countless Focus on the Family resources for over two decades. My husband and I both came from chronic divorce families and we’re passionate about being the couple who changes the tide of our heritage. There’s not enough time and space to express how Focus is my go-to ministry. Thanks for everything you do.”

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Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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