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Connecting With Your Spouse for a Lifetime (Part 1 of 2)

Connecting With Your Spouse for a Lifetime (Part 1 of 2)

In a discussion based on his book From This Day Forward: Five Commitments to Fail-Proof Your Marriage, Pastor Craig Groeschel offers practical advice to couples on how they can develop a strong, healthy marriage that will last a lifetime. (Part 1 of 2)
This broadcast is scheduled to air on Feb. 13, 2019.

Original Air Date: May 14, 2015

Opening:

Excerpt:

Craig Groeschel: Praying together is probably the most important thing that we can do. In fact, um – because when you think about it, when you pray together every single day, it’s really hard to fight if you know you’re gonna pray. It’s really hard to get off into the weeds and do things that are hurtful and sinful, if you’re praying together. It’s – really helps to build intimacy when you’re praying together and yet, the reality is, most couples, most Christian couples still don’t do it. And if I can just be really transparent, I’m a pastor and if there’s anybody who should’ve been doing it the whole time, it should’ve been me and my wife, Amy. And the reality is, in the early years of our marriage, we simply didn’t do it.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: That’s Craig Groeschel. He’s our guest today on Focus on the Family and he’ll talk about how you can really connect with your spouse. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: This conversation with Craig is such a good one and we thought it would be great to bring it back just in time for Valentine’s Day. Uh, we met Craig in Denver to talk about one of our favorite subjects: marriage. And here at Focus on the Family, we want to equip you to build a strong marriage with your spouse. Of course, we have a variety of articles, resources, downloads, to help you in that journey because we know marriage can be hard at times. That’s the nature of it. But God has a plan and purpose for your marriage, and He wants you to persevere when times are tough. So today, we wanna come alongside you and give you hope and encouragement through this conversation with Craig Groeschel.

John: And Craig has been married to his wife, Amy, for over 25 years. Together, they have 6 children. They live in Edmond, Oklahoma. And he’s the founder and senior pastor for LifeChurch.tv and is the author of several books, including the one you’ll hear about today, From This Day Forward: 5 Commitments to Fail-Proof Your Marriage. Of course, we have copies of that at our website. Let’s pick it up now as Jim and Craig get into what could be a real trouble spot for a lot of marriages: pancake-making.

(LAUGHTER)

Body:

Jim: Hey, let me ask you, in the book, which I really enjoyed, you talk about this pancake experience. I often talk about making pancakes and how Jean and I do it so differently.

Craig: Uh-huh.

Jim: She’s a biochemist, so I mean, it’s one cup of flour. For me, you throw it all together…

Craig: Uh-huh.

Jim: …and make it happen. But you had your own pancake experience, huh?

Craig: You know, this thing is famous in – in Groeschel history. But uh, really at the – probably one of the biggest and ugliest fights we had was over pancakes and – and…

Jim: That makes me feel better.

Craig: I’m – well, I’m glad, but it was – it was actually was not real funny…

(LAUGHTER)

…when it came down. It’s a – you know, I grew up in a home where we made pancakes flat and round and they were the same size and – and they came off the griddle hot and you ate ‘em immediately. And Amy came from kind – what I call a dysfunctional pancake family, you know.

(LAUGHTER)

They’re – they were – she – they – anyway, and it – so, when we got married, we recognized we have this real tension. And I was tryin’ to make pancakes and she said, “You know, I’m gonna do this. I -” and she wanted to bless me with pancakes. And she made them and in my mind they were totally unacceptable, like a pathetic excuse for pancakes. They were more like grilled dough balls. They were fat and…

(LAUGHTER)

…and they – they weren’t proportioned, you know. They were different sizes.

Jim: Squares?

Craig: Yeah, I mean…

Jim: And rectangles?

Craig: …there’s just – you know…

John: You’ve got a…

Craig: …one was big and a lot of small…

John: …you’ve got a lot of hackles up on women right now, thinking “Really?”

Craig: No – I – I know. I know. I mean, that’s you know, one of my many flaws. But you know, and then they were cold and so, I tried to tell her that’s not the way you make them. And she didn’t like my advice. And so, it – I’m not gonna say it got violent in the kitchen, but she did pull the spatula back and put a shoulder into it to move me out of the way. And here’s this pastor and his wife in the kitchen, about to throw down over pancakes. And so, it’s uh, you know, it – literally to this day, she makes her pancakes and I make mine and – and that’s how we decided to get along.

Jim: Craig, let me ask you this, because many couples could fill in that blank. It sounds absurd. Okay, it’s pancakes.

Craig: It is absurd.

Jim: It’s…

Craig: We all have somethin’ like that.

Jim: It’s toothpaste containers.

Craig: Right, right.

Jim: It’s whatever, the dishes aren’t put away.

Craig: Right.

Jim: What’s really happening when we look back on it a few years later and we laugh, hopefully, but at the moment, why such insignificant things are trigger points? What’s happening…

Craig: Yeah, that’s…

Jim: …underneath it?

Craig: …a good question. Well, so often, you know, we – we have you know, we have sinfulness in our own lives that manifests itself in the relationship and our self-centeredness. You know, oftentimes it’s really the small things that start the big problems in marriage. And you know, that’s one of the things Amy and I really try to work with couples on, and recognize that all couples are gonna fight. And every couple’s gonna fight, but the way you fight will determine whether you’re successful in moving forward or not. And the reality is, most of us are not equipped to fight well and fight fair. And so, we really try to work with people to help recognize, “Why is it that this is such a big deal to me? And how can I put myself in the other person’s shoes, feel empathy, see their side of the story?” And then work not toward victory, because if one person wins and one person loses, if one person loses, then we both lose. So, we’re not working toward victory, but we’re working toward resolution so we can find harmony again in the relationship.

Jim: Why in a marriage relationship, when you go down the aisle, you’re thinking, “We’re gonna live happily ever after” – why do we turn that into a zero-sum game?

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: I win; you lose?

Craig: Yeah, it’s sad that we do that, but so often, the – the very things that attract us to the person when we’re dating, become the things that annoy us later on when we’re married. You know, if – if he’s laid back and she likes that, then they get married and he’s not laid back, he’s lazy and a bum, you know. Or – or if she’s organized when they’re dating, you know, they get married and then she – then she becomes a control freak. And so, you know, I think, the root of it is our sin nature that’s so destructive. And that’s why, you know, marriage isn’t – someone wrote a great book on it. I wish I could think of the title, but the purpose of marriage isn’t to make us happy, but re – in so many ways the purpose of marriage is to make us holy. And that we learn to die to ourselves and to – to serve someone else as Christ served the Church is a – is a high calling and – and difficult for a lot of people, but so completely worth it.

Jim: I have said, that, because I – I’m coming to the conclusion, sitting with, you know, good thinkers like yourself and Gary Chapman and Gary Thomas, the one thing that I’m picking up is, God uses marriage, the construct of marriage, His design for marriage. And I know that offends some people, but when you look at it, what it does is it makes you, if it’s healthy, it makes you less selfish.

Craig: Mmhmm.

Jim: That’s really what it is.

Craig: It really does.

Jim: You die to self, like you just said.

Craig: Right and without that, you know, we’re never gonna have a good marriage. And – and so, at the heart of it, that’s really what we’re called to do, not just in marriage, but as followers of Jesus, is to die to ourselves.

Jim: Why in the – why do you think in this culture, this may be rhetorical, but you look at a culture that’s increasingly self-focused, narcissistic some people might say, when we raise kids today, we raise them with maybe an unhealthy amount of attention on them.

Craig: Mmhmm.

Jim: We’re the chauffeurs. We take ‘em to sporting events here and there and cook ‘em pancakes every day…

Craig: Right.

Jim: …you know, whatever it might be. But they learn that the world is really about me and then they grow up and now, I think we’re suffering the consequences of that, because marriages are breaking apart, because I think of the self-centeredness.

Craig: Oh, I think so, too. I think entitlement is a massive problem and any time we try to enter into any relationship with an entitled spirit, then we’re gonna suffer all day long and…

Jim: Do you think it’s higher today than it was 30, 40 years ago?

Craig: Oh, absolutely, I think there’s no question about it. And you talk about narcissism, I think, you know, in our “selfie” centered generation, it’s – you know, it’s really scary how we’re trained to make all the attention about us. And in a marriage, it cannot be about us or it’s gonna be toxic to the relationship. And so, you, I – when you look at society today, I see several things I think that are hurting. One is, you know, if there’s an entitled spirit. To the temptations to get into sinfulness, are everywhere, everywhere, everywhere. And then, then people just don’t value marriage. They’re getting married later or not at all. And so, there’s a real lack of understanding of the meaning and the purpose behind it. If you put all those together, we are basically, as a culture, equipping people to divorce, rather than equipping people to serve God together in marriage.

Jim: Craig, you really, you have a great ability to reach into young people’s lives, 20-somethings, 30-somethings. You’re here in Denver doing a Catalyst event. For those that don’t know about that, that’s the – the market for that conference. It’s younger people. MTV did a study, I think it was 2007 and they surveyed their viewership. Now I was surprised to learn it starts at 12-years-old. Um, but they went from 12 to 24 and 90 percent of their viewership, 12 to 24 in the survey said that they – they wanted to find their lifelong mate and be married to that person forever.

Craig: Mmhmm.

Jim: It’s in their heart. You think that’s like a God-stamp?

Craig: I would think so. I – I think that. I – I really do. I think there’s a longing in almost everybody I know to find someone to share life with. And – and um, what’s interesting is that even though all the cultural messages really are opposed to that, that still people who are feeding on that, like you said, watching MTV, still say that’s at the top of their desires. And so, I would think it would have to a God-given desire that He puts within people.

Jim: I thought it was interesting, too. They said 60 percent in essence, 60 percent felt they could do it, that it would be attainable.

Craig: Mmhmm.

Jim: Um, it – there’s a little disconnect there, others thinking, in this culture, I probably won’t stay married…

Craig: Right.

Jim: …to the same person. It’s interesting that they would even have that formed in their 12- to 24-year-old perspective already, that it may not work.

Craig: You know, I’ll be real honest, but I – I became a Christian in college. And before that, I didn’t know if I would be able to have what it took to be faithful in marriage, as I looked ahead, but just I was so programmed to lie and to cheat. And that’s just kinda what I knew. And so, I remember thinking, I don’t know if I could be faithful in marriage. And so, it really took coming to Christ, renewing my mind to where, you know, I knew it would be possible with Him guiding us.

Jim: You started there and it – I think it’s good for us to explore that a little bit, because um, it is a – a reprogramming of your behavior, not in a psychobabble way…

Craig: Mmhmm.

Jim: …but in a spiritual way.

Craig: Absolutely.

Jim: To say, okay, I’m gonna give this up, like what Paul’s writing about, you know. Forget that and reach for the prize.

Craig: Right.

Jim: It is kinda that uh – ap – it is that approach. How – how do you counsel a young person who maybe is – maybe an engaged couple…

Craig: Mmhmm.

Jim: …and um – you’re tellin’ them, okay. You’ve come out of promiscuity perhaps. You know their background. Give us an example of what that counseling session looks like today.

Craig: Well, we’re actually trying to even start before that. You know, I want to catch them when they are 12. And we really want to teach the concept of purity, not just in actions, but in a mind-set. And so, I feel like if you catch them at 20-, 21-, 25-year-old, whatever, that’s really late in the game.

But let’s – to answer your question, if we do get them there, you know, what we try to do is I – I’ll sit down and show ‘em, let’s look at that culture is doing or – or showing you. Basically, you know, sex with multiple people before you’re married. You might live with somebody or at least, you know, your toothbrush is at her house or vice versa. And you – you might as well be living together.

And so, essentially you’re doing married things before you’re married and so, therefore, you ‘re kind of faking marriage and then, when you break up, it’s almost like divorce. And so, literally you’re practicing for divorce. And that’s one reason why I believe when people get married, they just – they do what they’ve been trained to do. They’ve basically have been doing what they’ve been doing for years.

And so, marriage to them is just a piece of paper. And what we’re trying to help them see is that you know, the gift of lovemaking is a gift that is reserved for marriage. And so, by holding back, we’re – basically, we’re saying, “I’m not gonna be a compromiser before marriage. So, when we get married, I’m not gonna look and go, ‘Oh, I married a compromiser. I’m a compromiser, so I’m gonna be worrying my whole time, are we gonna compromise again?’”

So, we’re – we’re try – we – you can’t build a foundation of impurity. So, what we want to do is try to live a life of purity and help them be different. If you want something different than what everyone else has, you have to do something different than what everyone else does.

And you know, the standards we’re talking about do appear old-fashioned, but they’re not old-fashioned. We believe they’re biblical. They’re designed by God and they lead to a higher result. And so, if we can help them to um, to see there’s a different road that leads to a better result. People will actually get excited about it and say, “I’m willing to give that up for something much better.”

John: Craig Groeschel is giving us an aspirational look at marriage, this is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. Craig’s book is From This Day Forward. And you can find your copy at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And if you can make a generous contribution to support Focus on the Family today, please do so and we’ll send a complimentary copy of that book to you as our way of saying thanks for joining the support team.

Craig, I really like what you’re saying, boundaries is something you explore in the book and that’s – that’s what you’re challenging young people to step up and to recognize and adhere to. Boundaries are important for all of us…

Craig: Absolutely.

John: …particularly married couples.

Craig: Absolutely.

John: You address that quite a bit in the book. Why don’t you share some of that?

Craig: Yeah, you know, in fact, to be real honest, when – before I was a Christian, I crossed a lot of the boundaries I shouldn’t have crossed. And so, um, for me, I believe in putting safeguards in place all the time. And I feel like I need more safeguards than some people might need.

John: Because you’re a pastor?

Craig: Uh…

John: Or because of your…

Craig: Because I’m a…

John: …your past?

Craig: …man; because I’m a person. Yeah. And I – yes, I have more reasons to stay between the lines, you know, as a pastor to be a good example. But you know, for the sake of my marriage and my wife, I want to do that period. And you know, I recognize my temptations. I – I always say, you’re only as strong as you are honest and we have to be honest about where we’re vulnerable. And so, you know, we could talk for hours about putting boundaries in place. But basically, I’m gonna recommend to couples, that you be really transparent about where you’re vulnerable and decide ahead of time to put boundaries in place.

I’ll give you an example, like in – in my life. On my iPad, my phone and my computer, I don’t have access to anything inappropriate on anything. Every time I type on a computer, every place I go is actually monitored by – by people who have the ability to fire me from the church.

On my phone and my iPads, I’ve got filtered browsers. I don’t use apps that many people use. I don’t even have the ability to download apps. And so, I’ve decided ahead of time, I’m gonna eliminate temptation before I’m ever tempted.

And I feel like, you know, in marriages today, with all the, like, filthy books that are available, all this stuff that’s on television, all the – what you can find on social media, um, and you know, online all day long, that it – if we don’t raise some standards ahead of time, then we’re gonna be desensitized and literally start be entertained by things that are sinful and rationalize this out.

And this waters down what, you know, suddenly we’re not calling – when you look at even words that describe sin, we’ve invented words that are much softer. You know, like we don’t commit “adultery;” we have an “affair.” It sounds so much better. It’s not “pornography;” it’s “adult entertainment.” It just sounds so much better.

But the reality is, these are marriage killers. They kill intimacy with God. You know, you cannot walk into this kind of stuff and have healthy marriages. And the reality is, according to studies, more men are involved in porn than not. An increasing number of women are getting caught up in porn. And literally, just the stuff we watch on TV, the stuff that we consume, it’s poison to us and so, I don’t want a little bit of poison. And we need to work with couples and say, “It’s not a sign of weakness to put up barriers. It’s actually wisdom and strength to say, ‘I’m gonna keep some barriers up to keep us out of trouble.’“

Jim: Craig, when you look at the culture, I’m curious, because so often there isn’t a distinction between the church and the world. Or at least it’s really narrow, the distinction. And I’m wondering why. I mean, you’re a pastor of tens of thousands in your church. You see and counsel many, many people. When you look at it that close, why is there such a little distinction between the world’s activities and the church?

Craig: You know, that’s a great question and I wish I had a good answer for it, because it haunts me all the time. To – you know, to look and say, people outside the church are getting divorced almost to the same numbers of people inside the church. The people outside of the church are looking at pornography, almost the same as the people inside the church.

So, you know, that’s really haunting to me. And I feel like, as the church, we need to do a better job of being different from the world. We need to raise the standards. We need to not be afraid to dive into controversial issues. And sometimes I think maybe – maybe we as the church are too soft on some things.

And so, on the other hand, I think there needs to be – the responsibility’s not only on the church, because the church isn’t just the pastors. The church is the people. That we need to have, you know, really be sensitive to what the Holy Spirit shows us and recognize, if we’re not different from the world, then we’re probably not following Christ.

And so, I think there’s a lot of cultural Christianity in churches today, where there’s some form of belief in God, but not a real life transformation by the Spirit of God. And so, I think maybe we have to recognize that and call it what it is and say I’m not one of those guys that’s out – like the church is failing, the church is failing. I actually think that God is using the church to do a lot of great things. And I celebrate all those things. But at the same time, we have to recognize that if our marriages are failing at an almost an equal rate of those who are non-Christians, something’s wrong. And you know, that’s why we wrote the book. That’s why we, basically, I – you know, to tell you a real long story, what I noticed is on my staff we had a lot of marriages struggling and failing.

And that’s just unacceptable to us all day long. And so, we just really adopted a philosophy that we’re – you know, on our staff families, there’s – no marriage is gonna fail. That’s our standard. No marriage fails. And so, that means, we had to change a lot of things. We had to change how we prepare people for marriage. We need change how we interview and hire staff. We need to change our work schedules so the church doesn’t end up really inadvertently becoming an enemy to marriages. We need to change how we disciple families. And so, I cannot be the pastor and have my staff having the same number of marital problems out there.

Jim: Well, and you’re really outlining those things that could be – they can be applied in any environment.

Craig: Right.

Jim: Um, you talk in your book about fighting fair. Some people will write when we talk about Christian couples engaging in strong disagreement. And they’ll say something like, “Well, Christian couples should never fight.” That’s not the goal, is it?

Craig: Not at all.

Jim: Yeah, I mean, two people are gonna disagree.

Craig: No, we’ve – we’ve gotta fight. I mean, it’s just – we’re going to.

Jim: It’s healthy.

Craig: It is healthy; it is healthy. If not, then someone’s a doormat and not expressing needs or – and so – yes, all couples will fight.

Jim: Do you have an example where you and your wife, I mean, you’re being vulnerable, so I’m gonna keep pressin’ on that. But where – where did that uh, become glaringly obvious for you and your wife, that you gotta – you gotta find different rules of engagement here? Was there…

Craig: You know, I – we – we’re kinda odd. We really are blessed with a good marriage. And so, um, it was three years before we had our first fight. Three – we were married for three full years, yes. And um…

John: I think we went three days. How about you, Jim?

Craig: Then…

Jim: I don’t – I – you know, probably a while. I don’t remember how long.

Craig: We – we made up for lost time though.

(LAUGHTER)

You see, Amy gave birth to our first daughter, Katie and I thought – I was stupid enough to think, “Okay, she’s a woman. She knows how to do this.” And so, I was trying to finish seminary at the time. So, I went to a class and left her at the hospital for someone else to drive her home. I know. And then I went and preached one night, then went back to an all-day Saturday class. And then came home and you know, after just really neglecting her, thinking, “She’s a woman; she knows how to take care of babies.” And that was so stupid.

And she let me have it and I deserved it. There’s no doubt about it. And so, we had five more kids and I’ll have you know, I never did anything like that again.

(LAUGHTER)

Never. I’d take days off of work and was there to serve her. But yeah, I mean, it’s just – eventually, you know, a guy’s gonna do stupid guy stuff like that or – or a woman’s not gonna understand a man’s needs and there’s gonna be tension, you know.

Jim: Yeah. So often, I mean, and again, those are great practical applications there. And you talk in your book about those practical applications. One of the things I love, and I believe it, is having fun together.

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: Um, you know, we tend to get into a rut and there’s probably folks listening to us now that are sayin’, “I’ve been married eight years,” 10 years, 20 years.

Craig: Right.

Jim: “And it’s just gotten into such a routine that, you know, I don’t even know if we like each other anymore.”

Craig: Right, right.

Jim: What has happened in that marriage?

Craig: Well, you know, they liked each other at one point; there’s no doubt about it. And so, somewhere along the way, we neglected having fun. And – and we like to say, “Fun is not a luxury in marriage; it’s a necessity.” You have to. And you literally, you know, life will overwhelm you with trying to pay the bills, cut the yard, you know, get groceries on the table, get their kids to soccer and dance. And so, if you don’t schedule fun at some point, you’re probably not bein’ real wise.

Jim: What does that look like for you to schedule fun?

Craig: Well, for us now, I mean, honestly, it’s two date nights a week. And we – we – yeah, two, not one. And so, for years and years, we had a date night every single week. And our marriage was really good. And then so, one day we woke up with six kids, several teenagers and we thought, “We’ve got a great marriage. We don’t need to have a date night; we’re too busy for it.” I don’t know, a year later or so, I was finding out stuff about her that was important at our small group meeting.

(LAUGHTER)

And “Why – why didn’t you tell me this?” And she was finding out stuff about me and we realized that we didn’t have time to talk and we weren’t laughing together. And suddenly, we realized, we don’t have a great marriage because it was an accident. We have a great marriage because we were prioritizing time together and then we neglected it.

So, we started it again. We’re at a point now where we’re working so hard to disciple and raise our kids, we need two nights without them, because we need to be on the same page. We need to be enjoying each other. And we need to be really working together to invest in our kids. And so, um, I’m – we’re double-dipping now.

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: That’s – that’s a good challenge. I’ve never heard that one. We’re always striving, John and I are always challenging each other to get one date night in.

Craig: And I don’t…

Jim: Which I’m not doin’ that well at, John.

John: Ah, let’s talk about that some other time.

Jim: Okay, so how are we gonna do two?

John: I don’t know.

Jim: Oh, man.

Craig: You do…

John: But I appreciate that.

Craig: You do one and that’s a good thing.

(LAUGHTER)

It really is.

Jim: I’d like doing two.

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: That’d be fun.

Craig: It’s a big – it’s a big difference maker for sure.

Jim: Well, Craig, I’ve got some other questions that I want to keep goin’, if you can stick with us.

Craig: Absolutely.

Jim: Can we do it?

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: Craig is the author of a book and it’s called, From This Day Forward, also the pastor of I think one of the country’s largest churches. How many people are in attendance at the satellite churches, the whole…

Craig: You know…

Jim: …the whole thing?

Craig: …in all of our – we have 22 churches as of today and there’ll be between 65 and 80,000 people at those campuses on a weekend.

Jim: That gives you a large sample size. You know what you’re talkin’ about.

Craig: Re – it – there’s a lot of people and – and you know, fortunately when you deal with a lot of people, you – you do see a lot of patterns. And you see a lot of great stories and – and sadly, sometimes you see some that aren’t so great.

Jim: Well, let’s come back and keep the conversation going and talk a little bit more about how you can make your marriage better today.

Closing:

John: We’ve been talking with Craig Groeschel today on Focus on the Family, and we’ll have the second part of the conversation next time.

Jim: And I’ve gotta tell you, you’re not gonna want to miss it. Uh, Craig is a great communicator. Tomorrow, he’ll share how to make prayer a priority in your marriage and how women can encourage their husbands in the spiritual leadership of the home. Here at Focus on the Family, we love to come alongside you and give you hope for your marriage. That’s one reason we created the Focus on Marriage Assessment. It’s a quick, online survey – takes maybe 4 or 5 minutes – and you’ll receive instant results that will show you areas in your marriage where you’re doing great and areas that might need a little extra work.

And you know what, it’s so important to keep your marriage vibrant and alive. According to recent research, in the past 12 months, 610,000 couples have told us here at Focus on the Family that we, together, you and us, we have helped them to build stronger marriages. That’s a big number.

John: Yeah, 610,000 different couples who have been helped through all the things we’re doing here at Focus on the Family. That’s really amazing.

Jim: And I realize, it’s hard to put a face and a name to each one of those couples, but let’s do it. This is Britney, who called in

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Karen Ehman’s journey as a recovering people-pleaser began when she realized she was seeking others’ approval more than God’s. In this conversation, Karen shares practical guidance on healthy boundaries and encourages you to serve God intentionally in the areas he’s called you to serve.

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Affair-Proof Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Pastor Dave Carder offers couples practical advice for protecting their marriages from adultery in a discussion based on his book Anatomy of an Affair: How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your Marriage Against Them. (Part 1 of 2)

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Affair-Proof Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Pastor Dave Carder offers couples practical advice for protecting their marriages from adultery in a discussion based on his book Anatomy of an Affair: How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your Marriage Against Them. (Part 2 of 2)

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Balancing Gender Differences in Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Robert and Pamela Crosby help married couples understand and celebrate their gender differences so that they can enjoy a stronger bond and deeper intimacy. Our guests offer practical tips for improved communication, successful conflict resolution and offering affirmation to your spouse. (Part 1 of 2)

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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