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Cultivating a Kingdom Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Cultivating a Kingdom Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Dr. Tony Evans explains how couples can fulfill God's design and purpose for their marriage. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: September 1, 2016

Preview:

Dr. Tony Evans: The umbrella is a covering for you. So when you’re operating under the covenant, you’re under the covering of God. What we have today, are one or both parties in the marriage leaving the umbrella and wondering why the relationship is getting wet.

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John Fuller: Dr. Tony Evans talking about the joys and the difficulties that many couples have in maintaining a strong, healthy marriage. He’s our guest today on Focus on the Family. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly. Thanks for joining us. I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, I know that there are listeners who are struggling in some area of their marriage, we all do at times, it’s okay. It’s part of the journey. Some of it can be the result of the fast pace of life. Other times, it’s because of some area where we disobeyed God. And you know what? It’s good to be reminded of God’s design for marriage and what it means to have a kingdom marriage. And I’m happy to come back to a tremendous broadcast with our guest and friend, Dr. Tony Evans, who was married for 49 wonderful years to his wife, Lois, who passed away almost two years ago. They modeled an incredible Christian marriage for those many decades. And what an impact for the kingdom for all of us, uh, to learn from.

John: Yeah, we love this family. We’re so grateful for, uh, their example and the wisdom that, uh, they’ve shared for many years, especially through this broadcast, and Dr. Tony Evans being here so often. Uh, he is the senior pastor of Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in Dallas, Texas. He’s written books that have reached millions of people. And he’s the host of the Urban Alternative radio show and podcast. Now we’re gonna revisit a great conversation from a few years ago, as Tony shared thoughts from one of his books published with Focus on the Family, uh, it’s the Kingdom series of books, and this one is called Kingdom Marriage.

Jim: Tony, it’s great to welcome you back to Focus on the Family.

Dr. Evans: Well, always good to be and great to be with Focus on the long history and the great investment, the support that you’ve been to me and, uh, my family and our ministry. So, thank you.

Jim: Well, it’s a great combination. Tony let’s talk about marriage. I mean, we hear in the news and even Christian research organizations will talk about the downside, what the trouble is where we’re at, the struggles we’re having in marriage, generally in this country, and particularly in Christian marriages that our divorce rate isn’t much different from the world. Talk about the bigger theme of why marriages are struggling generally, and why Christian marriages are equally struggling.

Dr. Evans: Well, there are a lot of forces that work against marriages, against, uh, it being the institution that the creator established it to be. But unfortunately, most marriages start in the wrong place, even Christian marriages, because they start with happiness as the goal.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: And God did not create that as the goal, that was supposed to be the benefit. And when the benefit replaces the goal, when that, uh, benefit is no longer being realized and I’m not particularly happy, then I don’t want necessarily to stay there.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: But if we can get the goal back in its proper place, which is why we call it Kingdom marriage, and then happiness becomes the result. Well, now you get the benefit, because you’re adhering to the goal.

Jim: Well, state clearly what is that goal in a Christian marriage? What are we trying to be about as Christians?

Dr. Evans: When God established the institution of marriage, he established it to reflect his image and expand his kingdom. And out of that, he said, “I will bless them.” So, unless we are mirroring God’s purposes, and advancing his cause, we are not fulfilling the reason why he instituted the institution in the first place.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: So that opens up the door for the enemy, like he did with the first marriage, to come in, create division, uh, separate us from God and create civilizational chaos, conflict and disintegration, because as goes the family and the marriage is the foundation of the family, so goes the culture, and we are watching that happen before our eyes.

Jim: I mean, it’s shocking the rate at which marriage has disintegrated and, uh, is up against the ropes as we often say here, yet, that’s what we walk in the door every day trying to do. It’s why we’re doing this broadcast, is to talk about, uh, making your marriage as powerful, as strong as it can be. And I often say this, Tony, people outside of the community of faith are looking at us seeing if we’re acting differently. You know, it’s kind of like prove you believe in God by showing me your life. Um, that can be hard to do when we’re looking for that happiness ourselves as Christians, being me focused rather than you focused.

Dr. Evans: The great beauty of what marriage was designed to be, was that I could invest in another for their enhancement and development and see the expansion of that reflected in the offspring, and then reflecting that in their new relationships and their offspring. So, there is this proliferation of the image of God in history through the selflessness that marriage gives us the opportunity to demonstrate.

Jim: I, I know there’s doctrinal differences, and you know, Focus, we don’t concentrate on the theological differences here. But I was talking to a priest from the Catholic Church, and he was saying, “You know, we thought about marriage for a long time, for the last 2000 years.” And he said, “You know, one of the things that we have in the Catholic Church, uh, is the belief that Lucifer is an enemy to us and to Jesus.” Um, he despises marriage because God himself put the divine nature in man and woman. He created us in his image as male and female, and it was a stench to Lucifer, because why would God do that to humans and not to the angels? Is that interesting?

Dr. Evans: Well, you will note that, uh, Satan never bothered Adam until he got married.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Evans: Uh, Satan didn’t show up until Eve was brought on the scene. Because Satan was well aware of Jesus’s dominion statement and chapter one of Genesis, male and female, since he knew that was coming down the pike, he knew he had to destroy that institution. So, he timed his move to destroy the institution, because he was after owning civilization.

Jim: I mean, that is powerful to me, what a way to look at it! What a reason for us to be more diligent and to understand the spiritual battles that are occurring for our marriages. Because if he can obliterate marriage, he’s got us, right?

Dr. Evans: Well, absolutely. The saga of a nation is the saga of his family’s written large, and the saga of a family is the stability or instability of that marriage relationship, and if we can get back, and we must get back, if we’re going to salvage our children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, and our society, to God’s definition purpose for marriage, which is Kingdom oriented, with happiness being the result.

Jim: You know, when you look at the illustration of Kingdom, uh, you have a great story in the book talking about Queen Victoria, that really caught me. Explain it.

Dr. Evans: Well, Queen Victoria became queen at about 18 years of age, and she fell in love with, uh, Prince Albert. And they teamed up as the, uh, kingdom couple of England to work together in order to promote and to produce well-being in that society.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: When they teamed up as a unit, not only did England advance, but through their 9 children and 42 grandchildren, who then, uh, went out and impacted Germany, uh, Prussia, they went out and impacted, uh, Canada through their marriages. So, we had a kingdom couple, raising Kingdom kids, having Kingdom impact from a societal standpoint through their children and grandchildren, which is exactly the replica that God had in mind when he established, uh, his kingdom marriage first and declared that, “I want you to be fruitful and multiply.” And by the way, fruitful and multiply doesn’t just mean creating look-alikes. Fruitful and multiply meant to replicate my image so that when those kids grew up and expand it, I would be multiplied and replicated in all the new locations that their family lineages went to. So, it was powerful to read that story. In fact, when Albert died, she remained unmarried and would regularly dress in black every day mourning the loss of that partnership, and the impact that it had. That shows what a solid Kingdom marriage can do in a society, what do you think it could do for the kingdom of God? And when we know that the destruction of our marriages is a spiritual issue, and not merely a relational issue, then we will seek to address it spiritually and not just relationally.

Jim: Well, and that is, um, an observation I’ve made, and I don’t know who started this, but we talk about the marriage covenant rather than the marriage contract. The state, uh, demands a contract and so we sign a marriage license that virtually means nothing today. For me, it’s no different unfortunately, than registering your car, because of the way the state has so redefined marriage that it doesn’t mean marriage anymore. But covenant marriage, what it means to be a believer and make a commitment to your spouse. Describe that contrast and what we need to be about in the faith community.

Dr. Evans: Well, unfortunately, the word covenant has got lost. It is the key word in scripture to discuss how God administers his kingdom program, and marriage is a kingdom program. A covenant very simply is a divinely created bond. Covenants have five ingredients to them. First of all, God sets the standard for what the covenant is, which is why God says, “Let no man put asunder what I have joined together. Don’t let a judge overrule me, because this is my institution, so you don’t get to define it.” Secondly, covenants have a chain of command. 1Corinthians 11:3 says, “Christ is over every man, a man is over a woman.” And then it goes on to say, “Parents are over children.” When you break the chain, you lose the blessing, which is why Satan went to Eve and skipped Adam. He went to Eve and skipped Adam to reverse the roles so that all hell could break loose-

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: … in the home. Then there are rules by which the covenant operates. A husband is given a set of rules that he has to follow the wife the same, when they obey the rules, they get the involvement of God, when they disobeyed at least for the sanctions, the blessings and cursing’s were tied to the obedience. And then finally, the fifth point of every covenant is inheritance, where there would-be long-term implications. That’s why the Bible talks about to the third and fourth generation. Look at the covenant as an umbrella. When it’s raining, you have an umbrella, the job of the umbrella is not to stop it from raining because the umbrella won’t do that. It’ll just stop it from raining on you. The umbrella is a covering for you. So, when you’re operating under the covenant, you’re under the covering of God. What we have today, are one or both parties in the marriage, leaving the umbrella and wondering why the relationship is getting wet.

Jim: Huh.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Those are great (laughs) word pictures to think about. Uh, when you look at that piece, um, you also talk in the book Kingdom Marriage about unity, and the need for unity in the bond of marriage. And I would think, um, you listening right now, if you’re struggling in your marriage, this is probably one of the core issues. And we all face a moment I think, um, where that unity doesn’t feel solid, where you’re not in sync. You’re, uh, maybe nipping at each other’s heels because something’s a miss. Talk about unity, what destroys unity and how to keep unity?

Dr. Evans: Well, let’s define unity. Unity is oneness of purpose, not sameness of persons. When I do a marriage, a lot of times, uh, the couples have the unity candle. And so, the man will take his candle, the woman will take her candle, they will light the big unity candle in the middle, then they’ll blow up their candles. I explained it and that’s not correct. You light the unity candle, but you keep your candle lit because you don’t lose your uniqueness-

Jim: Huh.

Dr. Evans: … in order to have unity. So many couples are spending time trying to blow out the other person’s candle, that it causes discord in the relationship when that uniqueness is intentional. If both of you are the same, one of you would be unnecessary.

Jim: Talk about, uh, what that looks like practically to blow out your spouse’s candle.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: What does that look like?

Dr. Evans: To blow out your spouse’s candle is trying to make them into your image to fulfill your desire and preferences, even though that is not how God made them. So, you wind up contradicting God by changing your mate unless it’s something that God says is wrong.

Jim: Huh.

Jim: Huh.

Dr. Evans: But their differences of personalities of likes of interests, they like the house cold, you like the house warm. Uh, she likes chick flicks, you like war flicks.

Jim: (Laughs).

Dr. Evans: That’s, that’s okay because none of that is sinful. So, people are free to be themselves. In a football game, the lineman is not the wide receiver, the wide receiver is not the quarterback, but there’s only one goal line, everybody’s going to the same goal with their uniqueness’s. This is really a reflection of the image of God, one God composed the three co equal persons, the father is not the son, the spirit is not the father, but they work in unity toward a common purpose.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Evans: So, if you establish the purpose, and keep the freedom of the uniqueness, you accomplish the purpose and you have unity, even though you maintain strategic differences.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: So, that key… Would you say the key threat to unity is trying to make your spouse more like you?

Dr. Evans: Or more like somebody you wish they were like.

Jim: Rather than accepting-

Dr. Evans: Even if it’s you. Rather than accepting their uniqueness apart from sin.

Jim: Yeah. You know, sometimes, Tony, here at Focus on the family, we’ll hear from married couples, one of the married spouses and they’ll talk about, um, typically the wife is calling saying, “My husband doesn’t do this, doesn’t do that.” Um, isn’t good at spiritual training of the children, um, can be very fault finding and maybe for good reason. So, when that wife is justified calling these things out, what is a better way to handle it to maintain that unity?

Dr. Evans: Well, first of all, she should let him read Kingdom Man.

Jim: (Laughs). And we have copies here at Focus on the Family.

Dr. Evans: Because we, what we try to do is outline the biblical role. Because what most men, Christian men don’t understand is that they’re asking for submission that they’re unwilling to give themselves.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: God calls men to be submitted to him, and therefore, to say to him, “I want to submit to you with all of my heart, it would help me to submit better to you, if you would fulfill this role, so that I can submit at the highest possible level.” You just caught it there, because that’s what he wants. Give him what he wants but do it in such a way that you get what you need.

Jim: (Laughs).

Dr. Evans: And when those two can connect-

John: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: The second thing is, is there a person who he respects enough who is willing to hold him responsible? That’s where the local church comes in, as the body of Christ. We’re supposed to be holding men accountable because the men are supposed to be pastors in their home. If you’re calling your pastor’s name, what are you calling his name, the wrong person is entering your household.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: So, accountability and encouraging that accountability is also critical.

John: Dr. Tony Evans encouraging us today on Focus on the Family and he just mentioned the book Kingdom Man, we do have that resource here. And, uh, of course, we’re talking specifically today about marriage. And Tony’s great book on that topic is called Kingdom Marriage. Uh, ask for one or both of those books when you call 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And earlier, Jim mentioned about our counseling team here. Uh, we do have caring Christian counselors, consider them please as your first point of reference, for an initial consultation if you need some assistance in your marriage. As we continue now with our presentation from Dr. Tony Evans, let me note that since this was recorded a few years ago, Tony’s wife Lois passed away. They were married for 49 years, and they certainly modeled a wonderful Christian marriage, uh, devotion to each other, devotion to God. And with that, let’s go ahead and continue with the conversation featuring Dr. Tony Evans. Here again is Jim Daly.

Jim: All right, Tony, I’m gonna putting you in the hot seat.

Dr. Evans: Uh oh!

Jim: Because so often-

Dr. Evans: Uh oh!

Jim: … you know, especially those of us in leadership, we can say the right things, we know the word, but I wanna dig in with you and Lois your wife and just-

Dr. Evans: Okay.

Jim: … ask you, how has this worked out in your own marriage? Are there times when you and Lois are kind of struggling in this area? Or have you really dialed it in?

Dr. Evans: Well, first of all, when I am inconsistent in my role, then I have set the stage for her to be inconsistent in hers. So, when I do not ask the question, have I created an environment in which she is responding to me this way, then I’m better able to address it. When I simply push it off on her and don’t take responsibility, because the definition of a kingdom man is a man who accepts responsibility under God. Adam where are you? Not Adam and Eve where y’all?

Jim: (Laughs).

Dr. Evans: You are responsible. When I fail to ask that question, then I am exacerbating the situation.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: When she fails to ask that question, am I responding to Tony Evans like God is asking me to respond, I’m exacerbating it. So, we fail when that question goes unasked and unanswered. We succeed when that question is asked and answered.

John: And as you’re describing this process, Tony, I was, I was thinking, we’ve been very fortunate. We’ve been married for over 30 years. And I’ve gotta say, I’ve never seen the differences between us thinking about your unity candle illustration. I don’t think those differences have been more pronounced than ever before. I mean, is that the case for you and Lois?

Dr. Evans: Absolutely. Because you are forever learning a person, which is why it takes a lifetime to be married cause it takes a lifetime to fix it. (Laughs). You know? Because you’re forever learning things that… to discover and, and different scenarios come up that can provoke all things that you thought were addressed a long time ago.

John: Thought we covered that.

Dr. Evans: Yeah.

John: Yeah.

Dr. Evans: So, it is a… That’s why Paul calls marriage a sanctification environment, because the goal of marriage spiritually, is to transform us more into the image of Christ. That’s why we talk in the book Kingdom Marriage about the thorn.

Jim: (Laughs).

Dr. Evans: Uh, Paul wanted to get rid of the thorn in 2Corinthians chapter 12, cause it was needling him to death. And a lot of times, we feel that way about our mates, they’re needling us to death. And we want… You either wanna change mates or change circumstance, we wanna change something. And God said, “No, I don’t want you to change it, I want you to see me working in it to transform you because you’re going to see more of me in the needling until you get to where I want you to be.”

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: So, look at even the thorns as an opportunity for growth.

Jim: Tony, I’m gonna dig in here because I think those emotions that, that a person feels in the marriage, especially the marriage that has grown cool and distant. We need to talk about what that feels like and what they’re experiencing and how they can get back to a place where they’re honoring the Lord. So, describe, uh, that marriage where the communication is not happening, the unity is not happening, husband’s withdrawn emotionally cause he’s tired of being needled. And maybe she’s pulling back because she’s tired of giving of herself in certain ways and never getting the love that she’s expecting.

Um, just describe that environment a bit. And then talk about how you can begin to sanctify your marriage, as you said, where you can begin to get it back on course with God, cause there’s a lot of lonely Christian marriages, and we hear from you every day, and we want to be here for you. So, speak to me in that way, just role play with me.

Dr. Evans: Well, God has a phrase to address this because he experiences it with us. He calls it returning to your first love. It’s in revelation chapter two. Love and first love, there is a little difference between them. To love is to compassionately and righteously seek the well-being of another. To first love is to passionately and righteously seek the well being of another. It’s the difference between compassion love, and first passion. So what God says is, when you’ve fallen out of love with me, your Christian life has gotten cool, like maybe your marriage has gotten cool. He gives three things to do to, uh, set the place on fire again.

Jim: (Laughs).

Dr. Evans: Number one, he says, “Remember from where you have fallen.” Go back to your dating days in your mind, think of how it was because that’s how it can be, because you have seen it be that way.

Jim: And that’s a house on fire.

Dr. Evans: Tha, tha, tha-

Jim: (Laughs).

Dr. Evans: … that’s a house on fire. Sometime too much fire, right?

Jim: Right.

Dr. Evans: Okay. He says, “I want you to think back.” This is positive recall, because you often forget that.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: Then he says the second thing, “I want you to repent.” Now in the Bible, you only repent of one thing, sin. So to leave your first love is not only negative and bad, it’s also sinful, because he wants you to repent of it. So you have to say, for whatever your role has been in contributing to the coolness, I have sinned against God, I’ve sinned against my mate and I want to be restored. That’s a conversation between the husband and the wife, we have a cool relationship. I know it, you know it, we know it. But let’s discuss what we remember when we first met. Let’s just talk about that a little bit. And let’s both express our sorrow and our sin before God that we’ve let that fire die out. And he gives the third thing. He says, “Repeat and do your first works over again.” You’ve remembered it, you’ve repented of wandering from it, now do it all over again. So you actually have to go back in time to advance in time, but when the memory is there, sparking it, when the repentance is there, recovering from it. And when the renewing and redoing is there, you have now lit a match. And when you light a match and attach it to the right substance, it’ll blow up pretty quick.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Evans: It’ll, it’ll become a fire pretty quickly.

Jim: And that’s… You know, a practical example for me in that, is when Jean and I when we were dating, I lived down in San Diego at the time, and she was up in Orange County. So, it’s about a 90 minute drive. And I remember on a few occasions, um, she worked at a veterinary, 24 hour veterinary clinic. So she would work the evening shift, and I always thought, “Man, I wonder if she’s getting dinner.” And there would be times when I would get her dinner drive at 90 miles, I’d buy only the hot end of that, (laughs) so it wasn’t cold.

Dr. Evans: Yeah.

Jim: I wasn’t that dumb.

Dr. Evans: (Laughs). Yeah.

Jim: But I’d drive those 90 miles, pick her something out nice and hot, and then take it to the clinic for her to eat. And, uh, you know, I, I’ve got to say I don’t think outside the box like that anymore. You know?

Dr. Evans: You know, that’s true with me-

Jim: But that’s an example-

Dr. Evans: That’s true with me too. Yeah. Lois responds to surprises. Uh, she likes but not that what she can anticipate.

John: Right.

Dr. Evans: But what were you thinking about that I mattered in that I didn’t expect?

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Evans: And you can see the light-

John: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: … come on when the unexpected. That’s what happens with us with God, when he comes from left field and does something we didn’t expect and didn’t anticipate. And we go, “Whoa!” We go, “Wow, that’s what the Bible calls suddenly.”

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Evans: Out of nowhere God moves. While when a man is suddenly or woman is suddenly to speak into the surprise element, which means you are thinking about me in a non normal way, then what that does is, see that lighting a match, that’s getting a flint going.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: And when we do those kinds of things that say that other person matters. The other thing is a big biblical word edification, build up, because a lot of couples spend a lot of time arguing. But suppose every day you found a phrase that was an investment phrase. I am investing in you, I’m going to say something or do something that builds you up because a lot of people have been toe up from the floor up by the marriage conflict. But why don’t you create a new habit? Cause that’ll be a surprise right there, that you’re not criticizing me, but you’re actually building me up, you’re affirming me, you’re validating me, you’re accepting me. You’re complimenting me, you’re calling at an unexpected time, you’re writing a note when that’s not your normal thing, and you are building me up.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: That’s what God says we ought to do for one another.

Jim: Now, with the pleasure that comes with that, why do we as couples negate or ignore doing that? I mean, it is a good thing. And it actually brings the giver a little pleasure too, it’s not a lot to make their mate feel better. Why are we so negligent about doing it?

Dr. Evans: Because we take the other person for granted.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Evans: Like we take God for granted, even though his mercies are new every day.

Jim: Ouch!

Dr. Evans: So not to take the institution or the person for granted. And I’m getting convicted just talking about it. (Laughs). Uh, is I think the key to keep it from becoming dull and secondary.

Jim: Yeah. And that takes a lot of discipline. Uh, Tony, this is your book, and that we’re doing this together, uh, with Focus on the Family, Kingdom Marriage, and I’ve got a couple of other key areas I wanna dig into, like humility and the need for humility in marriage, the me-ism and that thing that traps us. I wanna go a little deeper in that regard. Can you stick with us and we’ll talk about that next time?

Dr. Evans: To be with you, I’ll do anything.

Jim: (Laughs). I’m holding you to that.

Dr. Evans: Okay.

John: Always some great insights from Dr. Tony Evans. And you can get your copy of Kingdom Marriage, which really addresses God’s plan for a man and a woman in marriage, as well as the CD or download of our two part conversation at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, or call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: And John, we appreciate the support of so many friends of this ministry who help Focus on the Family to strengthen marriages. That’s a large part of what we do here at Focus. You can further our efforts by requesting Tony’s book from us here and at the same time putting resources right back into building God’s kingdom. We know it will be an encouragement for you or maybe give it to an engaged couple or young married couple. With a generous financial gift of any amount today, we’ll send you, uh, this book as our way of saying thank you.

John: Join the support team. Uh, again, our number is 800 the letter A, and the word FAMILY, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And while you’re there, be sure to take our free marriage assessment as well. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. Plan to be with us again tomorrow, as we’ll hear part two of the conversation with Dr. Tony Evans, and once again, help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!