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Cultivating a Kingdom Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Cultivating a Kingdom Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Dr. Tony Evans explains how couples can fulfill God's design and purpose for their marriage. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: September 2, 2016

Preview:

John Fuller: Today on Focus on the Family, Dr. Tony Evans talks about the servant attitude that’s necessary to have a strong marriage.

Tony Evans: And here’s the key thing to do that we don’t want to do. How can I serve you today? That question, that question, even if there’s nothing, the fact you thought enough to ask the question made you servant of all.

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John: Dr. Evans is our guest again today on Focus on the Family and has more to say about humility, and service, and doing marriage God’s way. Your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, Tony Evans has been a great friend to this ministry for many years, and we also love having him on the broadcast as often as we can. Our listeners love it, uh, because he is very gifted at explaining God’s word, and applying it to our lives. And today, he’ll share about God’s plan for marriage. We mentioned last time that his wife, Lois, went to be with the Lord almost two years ago after 49 years of marriage. She was really a special lady, and you’ll hear Tony talking about their relationship in the broadcast.

John: Yeah, and Tony Evans is the senior pastor of Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in the Dallas, Texas area. His books have been read by millions and Focus on the Family partnered with him to publish the book Kingdom Marriage, so this recorded conversation is built around that.

Jim: Tony, it’s great to have you back at Focus on the Family.

Dr. Evans: It’s always a joy to be back with you and the Focus team.

Jim: Uh, Tony, last time we left off with a couple things that were nagging at me. One is, in marriage, in Christian marriage, particularly, it’s that idea of selflessness, but it’s not what we think about. And we’re so saturated with me-ism. The whole culture is about me, me, me, me, and frankly, our kids are growing up even more saturated in that environment, and they’re feeling like the whole world revolves around me. Then, they get into marriage and find out, no, it doesn’t. (laughs) And it creates great conflict. And, people, especially younger people, but those in their 50s and 60s, too, are divorcing because they’re no longer getting their needs met. And I’m looking at you with puppy dog eyes, Tony, because it really is about me feeling better about my life, isn’t it? And we in the Christian community, man, we could talk ourselves into this. I’m not feeling joy. I’m feeling nothing but pressure. Why do I cook for that guy? Why do I work for that guy? Why do I work for that woman? I mean, it’s all these things that the enemy feeds us, and we don’t just stop and say, “Lord, forgive me, because I am not becoming more like you. I’m becoming more like the enemy.”

Dr. Evans: Well, in the question is the answer, because the way you postured it was excellent. I am not becoming more like him. The whole point of creating marriage was to take us out of ourselves. When Jesus was on earth, he said, “I have come to do my father’s will,” and then he translated that to his disciples when he took a basin and a towel and served them. So, to be so prideful that you lose a servant’s heart is to say you’re better than Jesus, and most Christians wouldn’t want to say that, but we function that way. True humility is being small in your own eyes. It doesn’t mean that you’re insignificant, but it does mean that I am not so self-absorbed that I am unwilling and unable to make the life of somebody else better. You have many parents who are abusing their children because they don’t want that child interfering with their lives, and that abuse comes at different levels. Mates abuse one another because they don’t want that interference in their lives, which means, you have to understand, when you take that posture, you have repelled God-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Evans: … from his involvement with you, because you’re being so unlike what he is. God so loved the world that he gave. Didn’t have to. Didn’t need to, but love prompted him to. So, the question is, do I want to be more like him, or do I want to be more like the devil, because that is the choice before you in lack of humility or a willingness to be a servant under God with your family.

Jim: Man, I mean, that is, that’s such a path. What you’re talking about, this time and last time, is such a pathway. If we could actually get ahold of it and apply it in our lives, which, you know, again, for me, I’m an ex-football player. One of the toughest things in my life is losing weight, and, uh, but it’s that thing. My doctor said it really simply. “Hey, you got to eat less calories (laughs) and, and your weight will go down. It’s a statistical and scientific proof, you know? If you eat fewer calories, you lose weight.” Why do we struggle, not just with that, but in our marriages like this that it, it is so self-evident what needs to be done, especially for those of us in the Christian faith, yet we still don’t do it? Why?

Dr. Evans: Because our ears are tuned into the world. And, because the world has become so dominant, with media, with social media, with the people we hang out with, if you hang out with selfishness, selfish is what you become.

Jim: (laughs) That’s so right.

Dr. Evans: You become like what you hang out with, so you’ve got to hang out with influences. That’s why God calls us to serve in ministry, to force us into benefiting others, and not just seeking for others to benefit us. So, we’re called to do that with our families. We’re called to do that with fellow believers. We’re called to even do that out in the world, so, we’re listening to the wrong voices. And what we have to understand is, when we adopt the worldly way of thinking and acting, the Bible says we lose the love of the Father in 1John:2. So, now, we’re asking God to serve us, because everybody wants to be blessed. Everybody wants God to serve them, while we are rebellious with our servanthood attitude toward others, and then wonder why we’re not hearing from Heaven. That’s why.

Jim: That is so straight and true. It’s amazing. Talk about the benefit of humility. You touched on it, but I want to expand on that a bit. What does it look like to be humble in marriage? Because a lot of people, a lot of men, let’s speak from the man’s perspective, we see that as weak.

Dr. Evans: Sure, sure. Linemen are the biggest guys on the field, forever serving a smaller guy called the quarterback, okay.

Jim: (laughs) Wait a minute, I was the quarterback.

Dr. Evans: (laughs) Okay? I mean, they’re getting hit, and beat, and bumped. They’re serving for three hours to protect this guy, because of the bigger goal down the field. You would have to conclude, since Jesus was the servant of all, that he was the weakest of all, or the Bible calls him the greatest of all, to which every knee will bow. Since the greatest of you, Jesus said, will be your servant, the man is more manly and more mannish when he out-serves his wife. So, if you make a list with what she does for you on one side, and what you do for her on the other side, and your list is shorter than her list, she’s the greater in the family, even though you call yourself the king of the house, because-

Jim: Ouch. Now, you’re hurting me. (laughs)

Dr. Evans: … you are not the servant of all.

Jim: Hm, wow.

Dr. Evans: The greatest of you should be your servant.

Jim: Does that hurt a little, John? (laughs)

John: Well, I’m just making a mental list, thinking-

Dr. Evans: It hurts me to say it, so-

John: Yeah, what, all right, so, what does the list look like for you and Lois?

Dr. Evans: Well, there’s certain things that I know she wants me to do. She has a place where she, the regular things, like I’m the trash guy, you know? I’m the guy who cleans out the d- So, there’s regular-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Evans: … but then there’s things that come up that she makes this list, and the list is put in a certain place, a- and it’s every day. And she wants me to fulfill that list. It, when I do that list, I have met her needs, because she needs me to do that. Some of those things on the list I look at and say, “Now, you could do that,” you know. You could get one of the kids, when the kids were home, well, they could do that, but she wants me to do it. Pride says, “I don’t have to do that. I got a national, international ministry. You shouldn’t be asking me to do that,” you know? (laughs)

Jim: Um, come on, yeah, now, you’re speaking my language.

Dr. Evans: Yeah, yeah. (laughs) Yeah, no-

John: (laughs)

Dr. Evans: Uh, you know-

Jim: Now, you’re hurting me.

Dr. Evans: You know? Uh, can’t you pay somebody to do that?

Jim: (laughs)

Dr. Evans: So, I could take that position, or I could say, “This ministers to you, so I will do that.” And here’s the key thing to do that we don’t want to do. How can I serve you today? That question, that question, even if there’s nothing, the fact you thought enough to ask the question made you servant of all.

Jim: Yeah. Well, that, I’m, yeah, that’s so good and so important. From the wife’s perspective, I know Lois isn’t sitting here with us, but if she were, what would she be saying that a wife’s responsibility is toward her husband?

Dr. Evans: She would say to please him so that he wants to be servant of all, to find out what matters to him, what encourages him, what strengthens him, to say to him, “What can I pray for you for today, as you go out and deal with your world? How can I pray for you? What can I do for you?” It’s easier for her to do that when she is being served-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Evans: … because women have been made to respond. Now, they can respond in two directions, but they’ve been made to respond, and so, um, if she’s given something to respond to, it’s easier for her to ask that. So, when Lois is filled, full with my love, and attention, and care, and, and, uh, inspiration, then anything she can do, she will do. There becomes a resistance when the tank is on empty, and you’re still demanding to drive somewhere.

Jim: Yeah, yeah.

Dr. Evans: That happens in a, in the emotional relationships, the physical relationships in marriage. All of that has to do with where the tank is. You keep passing gas stations, and start running on fumes, and then you wonder why people’s get up and go has gotten up and gone.

John: Hm. Well, you’re describing so many marriages, uh, that I know of, and it seems that a lot of those, uh, those situations don’t have fuel because of circumstances.

Dr. Evans: Sure.

John: There’s, uh, a relative, a, a mom or a dad in a different state, and they’re sick.

Jim: Troubled child.

John: Yeah, there are children who are really causing the problem. There are financial strains or other medical issues in the home. What are some things that they can do to get back to serving each other when there’s just not a whole lot there?

Dr. Evans: There is a verse in the Bible that is probably, with regard to marriage, one of the most skipped verses, when it comes to trouble in a marriage relationship. That’s 1 Corinthians 7:5. It’s a call to sexual fasting. Uh, you hear about fasting, but you don’t hear about sexual fasting. He says, “I want the husband and wife to not be intimate, but to come together for prayer,” so they fast the physical. Fasting is giving up the physical to gain the spiritual, and they give up the time they would have spent being intimate to go to God together about the issue, strain, pain, or problem they are facing. When they come together, giving up the physical, the most intimate physical thing they can do for a greater intimate spiritual thing that they need, they get God’s undivided attention at another level to address the additional weight that is bearing down on them. Most couples don’t do that. Most couples don’t even know about it. Yet, it is placed there by Paul as a critical element of getting Heaven to get involved with the pain, problems, and circumstances of history.

Jim: Uh, Tony, you mentioned prayer a moment ago, and I want to, uh, um, talk about that. The importance of prayer together as a couple. What have you found?

Dr. Evans: This unity issue is critical. God only functions in unity, which is why it’s important for Satan to create disunity, because that keeps God at a distance. When Jesus gave his high priestly prayer in John 17, he says, “I pray that they might be one, so that they might see your glory,” because God is comfortable in oneness. 1 Peter 3:7 says that when a husband is disconnected from his wife, tell the husband not to pray. God is not listening, because there’s disunity in the home. So, you have to look at your disunity not only has problems in the relationship, but to keep you from accessing Heaven for your marriage or for the things that your marriage is facing. So, we are to come together in prayer, signifying unity, in order to get God’s undivided attention. Satan wants to keep us too busy, too distracted, too, uh, uh, and too much conflict that we won’t pray, so that that unity won’t be manifested, so Heaven has no obligation to intervene into our circumstance. So, every couple should make a commitment to regularly, goal is daily, but I’ll say regularly go before God for the pain in your marriage. Don’t just generally bless our day. Be specific about the problems you’re facing with that wandering child, with that pornography problem, with that, whatever that thing is that is burdening you down, when you come together, God perks up, because you’re being consistent with who he is, and you’re doing, you’re doing what Matthew 18 says. You are bringing him in the midst of your gathering. And, when you bring him in the midst of your coming together, that’s bigger than singular prayer, when that is possible.

Jim: And what, again, what you’re talking about there is that humility.

Dr. Evans: Absolutely.

Jim: Put ourselves aside, and do the right thing, and then the Lord honors that, and he’s present in that, and then clarity comes, typically, and-

Dr. Evans: That’s right. God brings up, he brings thoughts, ideas, people, circumstances-

Jim: Fruit of his spirit-

Dr. Evans: It’s, it’s amazing.

Jim: … and love, and joy, and piece.

Dr. Evans: Yeah, yeah. The God is free to express himself in the people and in the relationship.

John: You’re listening to a recorded conversation featuring Dr. Tony Evans designed to encourage you in your marriage. Uh, this is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, and we have Tony’s book, Kingdom Marriage, here at the ministry. I do hope you’ll give us a call to request yours. Our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459, or you can donate and get your copy of that book at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And let’s go ahead and return to the conversation now with Dr. Tony Evans on today’s episode of Focus on the Family.

Jim: Tony, people have heard us talk about this last time and this time, and, and they’re saying, “Yeah, this sounds exactly like what we need in the marriage. What do I do? What’s the roadmap for me? What can I do today to get us moving in a better direction?” Whether you’re the husband or the wife, what can we do?

Dr. Evans: Well, my daughter, Priscilla Shirer, started a movie called War Room-

Jim: (laughs)

Dr. Evans: … and we saw where there was a breach in the marriage, and she created this place to cry out to God for God to intervene. Ideally, if both of you could come together, that’s the ideal, but let’s say one is pursuing God, the other is not, which is often the case, and far too often, it’s the woman who’s pursuing God, and not the man. Well, then, you create that space with you and God, and you fast. Give up some food, or something, a meal, a, a day, or a week, or whatever, and you go with God, and you cry out to him. You may have other ladies in your circle, your small group, whatever. You cry out together for God to create something, to create a situation to wake up this mate. Now, let’s suppose the worst possible scenario, h- that mate continues to rebel, that mate continues. Then, you, you precipitate a crisis. You bring somebody into his life, should be leadership from the church, to confront him, if he’s rebelling. Now, I know that that’s a risky business, but sometimes, that is the way God wakes people up that’s often not used. You don’t have to suffer in silence or suffer in secret if there’s rebellion taking place in your mate.

Jim: Y- let me ask you why that is the case, uh, we don’t administer church discipline, really, and we’re so quick to find fault with the world that doesn’t embrace what we believe. Uh, that may be, let me be bold enough to say it, the same-sex-attracted community. Um, we’re very quick to point out where they are scripturally wrong, but we’re not so quick to point out where a couple in the church may have divorced, and they each remarried for unbiblical reasons, and the Bible says they’re living in adultery. Um, why the double standard? One for the world, which seems very harsh, and one for within the church that seems very easy.

Dr. Evans: Well, we become a worldly church. That’s why. This is a leadership problem in the church. Every Wednesday night in our church, we hold court. We have a court. That court has a lawyer on it. It has an elder on it, and it has a couple of spiritual laypeople on it to determine whether a person has a legitimate ground for divorce based on scripture.

Jim: So, they can come to this group.

Dr. Evans: They can come. They come to this group-

Jim: Wow.

Dr. Evans: … and this group meets with them. If a person has legitimate grounds, and the mate is unwilling to come or to repent, we write a bill of divorcement, which gives them church permission to get a civil divorce. But we tell them to come to the church first. 1 Corinthians chapter six says, “You litigate matters in the church. You come to the church first.” So, churches aren’t set up to do that. They’re afraid to lose their members. They’re afraid of how they’re going to be, but you do it in love. You do it with care, but you do it scripturally. The failure of the church, and its desire to be accepted by the world, has kept it from being the place where God renders judgment so that the church is pure for God’s purposes, so we can work through it to save and deliver people in troubled marriages.

Jim: That’s amazing. I don’t know that I, I know another church that does that, which is actually sad.

Dr. Evans: Well, it is sad.

Jim: Because we should all be doing it.

Dr. Evans: It is, but yes, in the Bi- I mean, it’s not like even said in just one place. The Bible, over and over again, Matthew 18, tell it to the church. 1 Corinthians 6, the church deals it. “Judgment should start in the household of God,” Peter says. It’s over and over again.

Jim: You know, in your book, you provided an example there about Jesus turning, uh, the water into wine, and how that applies in the marriage context. Uh, describe that for us.

Dr. Evans: Well, in Jesus’ first public miracle, it was, uh, at a wedding.

Jim: (laughs)

Dr. Evans: So, we’re talking about marriage, and so, it was at the Wedding of Cana, uh, and they ran out of wine, and wine was a big deal, uh, uh, as it is today in many places, but it was a big deal for weddings, and weddings would go an extended period of time in those days, and so [crosstalk]-

Jim: And the water wasn’t so good back then, either. (laughs)

Dr. Evans: Yeah, that’s right, the water wasn’t so good back then, so you would have wine. And so, they ran out of wine. Jesus’ mother tells her son, “Well, why don’t you put on, find a telephone booth, take off your Clark Kent uniform, and become super savior, and do your thing, but turn this w- give, give them the wine they need.” Jesus said, “Well, it’s not time for me to go public, but I’m going to help them out.” He calls the servants and tells them to fill these jars, these containers with water. They go fill the containers with water, and as they come back, the water is changed into wine. Here’s the lesson. At a wedding, Jesus performs a miracle, but the miracle was not performed until they gave Jesus something work with. They gave him water, because water is a part of the wine process. So, they gave Jesus something consistent with what they were asking for. When they gave him something to work with, that’s when the miracle came. This is a principle all through scripture. When God wanted to do something special, the people had to do something first. The priest had to put their foot in the Jordan River before he would block it up. M- Mary had to move the stone before Jesus did a resurrection, because that demonstrates faith, and faith is acting like God is telling the truth. It’s not just an emotion. It’s an action. So, when you demonstrate faith by doing something consistent with the need that you have, then you have now opened up the door, because God sees that faith, and Hebrews 11:6 says, “He is a rewarder of them who diligently seek him.” He is now responding to the faith. So, give God something to work with, and let him perform a miracle at your wedding.

Jim: Uh, that’s so interesting, the way you describe that. It’s like we’re taking the tools out of God’s hands, if I could say it that way, with respect, that we’re not doing those things in our marriages that allows God to work fully, because we’re running from him.

Dr. Evans: That’s right, and God says that, uh, uh, you know, a lot of times we’ll say we’re waiting on God, but a lot of time, God is waiting on us.

Jim: Yeah, patiently, patiently. Uh, Tony, let’s end here with this, where you have, um, that idea that my needs aren’t being met. It seems to be the common theme, um, when we counsel, uh, a difficult marriage here at Focus on the Family. Something’s not going right. It usually centers on my needs are not being met. My husband is this, this, or this. My wife is this, that, or the other thing. What’s a practical way that we can get our line of sight off of ourselves-?

Dr. Evans: Okay.

Jim: … and onto our mate, and onto scripture? What can we do?

Dr. Evans: When I meet with couples, I tell them four things. I say, “I want you to do four things,” and these four things are designed to affect the atmosphere, because a lot of times, the problems exist because it’s bad air, so even good becomes bad. You walk into a restaurant, it smells bad, it doesn’t matter how good the food is, because the atmosphere is bad. So, if we can change the atmosphere, it’s a lot easier to deal with the problem, so here are the four things. One, every day, say something or do something small that lets your mate know you are on their mind.

Jim: Every day?

Dr. Evans: Every day. Now, it won’t happen every day, but if you think every day, it’ll happen regularly, so, every day, it’s an unexpected phone call, it’s a note, it’s a, it’s a nonsexual hug. It’s something that says, “You are on my mind.” Number two, I want you to begin praying with your mate every day. You take them by the hand. If you’re a businessman, out of town, you pick up the phone, and you take the relationship before God every day, which means regularly. Thirdly, once a week, you allot one hour to listen to your mate share their needs. That makes you a listener. You cannot interrupt except for clarity. They have the freedom. They can’t go over an hour, but the more you do it regularly, the less hour will be needed. They can also tell you how successful you were or how unsuccessful you were in the week, but it can’t build up because you didn’t let it go more than a week before you had the conversation. So, that way, you don’t get nagged, because they know they got a week, within a week, they’re going to get to talk about it, but she doesn’t let it, or he doesn’t let it build up, because it’s going to be discussed in a week. So, you have that weekly meeting to have a barometer on how this thing is going. Then, fourthly, you go back to dating. In the Bible, you didn’t date to marry. In the Bible, you married to date. People got married in the Bible who hardly even knew the person they were marrying.

Jim: Right. It was arranged marriage.

Dr. Evans: They were arranged marriages. How can you do that? Because the relationship was to be built by the marriage. We do it just the opposite, and it still doesn’t work, so, go back to having fun. You can discuss no problems on the date. All you can do is that which makes you happy. Those four things, when consistently done, I have seen change the atmosphere, which makes it a lot easier to deal with the problems.

Jim: Tony Evans, author of the book, Kingdom Marriage. I think a good place to end, Tony, would be for you to pray for those marriages, uh, that are struggling, and, uh, help them to see a better way.

Dr. Evans: Father, right now I pray for all the marriages that are hurting, all the husbands and wives who are on the edge, on the brink, who don’t know if it’s worth it or whether they can make it, for those who are contemplating separation, or divorce, or just settling to live unhappily. I pray that they will kingdom-ize their relationship, kingdom-ize their marriage, that they will make happiness the benefit, and they will live for your image, under your rule, for the advancement of your kingdom as the purpose, and that you will exponentially multiply their joy, and that their joy might be full, as they begin to apply the principles of being a kingdom couple investing in a kingdom marriage. And, for your involvement with them in answering that prayer as they pray to you personally, we give thanks. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Jim: Amen. You want a better marriage? Get a copy of Kingdom Marriage. Tony, thanks for being with us.

Dr. Evans: God bless.

John: Dr. Tony Evans has been our guest on Focus on the Family, and you can get your copy of his book Kingdom Marriage when you get in touch. And we also have a CD or download of this two-day broadcast.

Jim: John, it’s incredible to see God working in so many marriages, and we get to see that firsthand here at Focus. I read a comment from a listener who said this radio broadcast has been helpful to her for over 30 years in their marriage, and they remembered back when they were newlyweds away from the family, lonely, and how much Focus on the Family helped them. We’re so grateful that the Lord uses our conversations here to touch lives in profound ways. And maybe we’ve helped in your marriage as well. If so, I want to invite you to join our support team and make a donation to Focus on the Family so we can continue to pass it forward, reaching other couples. When you make a generous financial gift of any amount today will send Tony’s book to you as our way of saying thank you.

John: Call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459, or visit focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And while you’re there, be sure to take our free marriage assessment as well. Well, next time you’ll hear a powerful testimony from former missionaries Andrew and Norine Brunson about Andrew’s two-year captivity in Turkish prisons.

Andrew Brunson: And so, I felt abandoned and I… Everything was going wrong. It kept getting worse and worse, and I thought, where is my kind, gentle father?

John: On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller inviting you back as we once more helped you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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