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Loving and Leading Your Strong Woman (Part 1 of 2)

Loving and Leading Your Strong Woman (Part 1 of 2)

LeRoy and Kimberly Wagner describe how their marriage was once headed for ruin because of his passivity and her strong-willed nature, and how God transformed their relationship through His healing power. The Wagners offer hope and encouragement to struggling couples in a discussion based on their book, Men Who Love Fierce Women. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: March 16, 2017

Preview:

LeRoy Wagner: What I thought was gonna be the death of me, or a miserable marriage, was the death of me. But it was the proper death, the biblical death that we need to die in Christ in order that he might resurrect us and bring us, uh, the life that he desires for us to have, not what we think we can work out on our own.

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John Fuller: Let’s LeRoy Wagner, and you’ll hear more from him and his wife, Kimberly, today on Focus on the Family. Thanks for joining us. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: Uh, LeRoy and Kim’s heart for marriage is evident. Uh, they walk through such desolation, but God restored their relationship to one that is full of beauty and intimacy. And that’s what marriage should be. That’s one reason we here at Focus on the Family believe so strongly in honoring marriage and why we want to help you make your marriage as strong and as thriving as it can be. When two unique personalities come together, especially when one is strong and the other perhaps a little more, uh, timid, things can get off track. Uh, relationships can become strained and marriages can wither into desperate misery. But there’s always hope and today, LeRoy and Kim’s story, I know is going to encourage you.

John: Yeah, uh, the Wagner’s have been married for about 40 years and they have two adult children, Rachel and Caleb, and a growing tribe, as they put it, of grandchildren. Uh, they co-authored the book Men Who Love Fierce Women: The Power of Servant Leadership in Your Marriage, and here now is the conversation we had with LeRoy and Kim Wagner.

Jim: Well, um, this is a new work, this, Men Who Love Fierce Women, and it was kinda born outta the last program, uh, or at least you guys may have been thinking about it, that put some heat under the kettle to get cooking.

Kimberly Wagner: Yeah.

Jim: Um, talk about that motivation, Men Who Love Fierce Women. What was going on in your marriage that, uh, now has created this work?

LeRoy: Well, uh, our marriage was in a complete state of miserable disfunction, uh, for a long period in our marriage. Even though we were both committed to Christ, committed to serving the Lord. Theologically, I would say that we were biblically sound, but, um, uh, we had some, uh, difficulty in relating to one another that kept, uh, uh, reoccurring and, and we didn’t really understand. We couldn’t get a handle on what was going on, why we could not have the harmony and the peace in our relationship. And, uh, it was about 15 years of marital misery, uh, that, uh, we just thought, there’s no way that, uh, we can work this out on our own, and we just were consigned to living in misery, uh, which is not what God intended, uh, because we didn’t believe in divorce and, uh, I think there’re probably a lot of couples out there that are, uh, Christian couples, uh, but, uh, are not experiencing what God desires for them to experience.

Jim: Well, and I think it’s a lot more prevalent than what we display.

LeRoy: Mm-hmm.

Kimberly: Yes.

Jim: And I think that’s why I’m so excited to have you guys back, because you spoke so vulnerably about what was happening in your marriage and it helped literally thousands of people-

Kimberly: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … uh, reconsider God’s way for marriage.

LeRoy: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Let me ask you that right there. Let’s start with that question of, why is marriage important to God who created us?

Kimberly: Well, marriage does parallel the gospel and the work of God.

Jim: In what way?

Kimberly: In Ephesians 5, describes it, but just to put it in layman’s terms, it is the picture of Jesus Christ laying down his life, pursuing a bride, the church, his people, people he calls to himself, laying down his life at the cross to purchase or redeem or love this bride well. And in Ephesians 5, it gives the man the mandate, you’re to love your wife as Christ loved the church. Which is pretty impossible to do, it’s impossible on your own. And then the wife has to be responsive to that love, the church, as the church responds to Christ. So we as a couple, when we claim to know Christ, we claim to have been changed and transformed by the power of the gospel. When we’re not living that and people know us, especially like our children in our own home, we claim that the power of God has taken over our lives and yet we can’t even get along.

Jim: What is causing that not getting along?

LeRoy: Hmm.

Jim: When you counsel couples and you talk with the folks, what are you hearing? What is that obstacle that the enemy of our soul is using to defeat us in this area of marriage?

LeRoy: Well, I think that the enemy does Jim, attack, uh, very strongly and specifically, uh, marriage because of how it is meant by our creator to display his glory, to display his character, his goodness, what he desires for us. And so if the enemy in any way can diminish or detract from what God intended, originally, uh, for marriage couples to live out, and to show a watching world, then the enemy, uh, believes that he gains an advantage in that. So I believe it is an attack, it is a spiritual attack. And so I don’t believe that any believers are immune. In fact, I think that believers may actually have more, uh, uh, difficulty sometimes in their marriage than unbelievers.

Jim: Wait, it’s so true. And people that don’t understand this, I know I was working on a marriage book, uh, a while back and I thought, Jean and I probably had more disagreement during that time in our marriage. I was thinking, what is going on here?

Kimberly: (laughs)

Jim: We haven’t changed that much. (laughing)

John: Just like illustrations, I guess.

Jim: Well just, well now it wasn’t even, it was the fact, I think, spiritually that I was working on a book that reinforced exactly what you’re saying LeRoy, that this is God’s, uh, will for us to display his image in humanity. And, uh, Satan just is not like that. And you try to defend marriage God’s way, you come under severe attack from the culture, from people who disagree with us, as well as spiritual attack. So that’s where that’s at. Let’s get back into your story, ’cause that’s where we’re gonna learn so much. This idea of a fierce woman and a fearful man cycle. We talked about that a couple of years ago in that program, but refresh our memory about the, uh, fierce woman and the fearful man, which is where you were in your marriage.

LeRoy: Exactly.

Kimberly: And we found that so many couples are there. Now-

Jim: Describe it though. I know, there’s elements that you, the listener-

Kimberly: Yeah.

Jim: … you’re gonna say, this is me as the wife and-

Kimberly: Yeah.

Jim: … that’s me as a husband.

Kimberly: Yeah.

Jim: Describe what it looks like.

Kimberly: Okay. A fierce woman does not necessarily have to be an obnoxious loud, rude woman. That may be what you think of when you first hear the word fierce. But she’s strong, and she has maybe strong opinions. Now, some fierce women are quiet and they go about it in a different way of expressing their fierceness. But it’s usually a woman who, um, like all women, we desire to be loved by our husbands. We desire to have our husbands lead us spiritually. And yet we have certain ideas about how things should be done. And we want to get that across.

Jim: I’ve never noticed that in Jean.

Kimberly: (laughing)

Jim: I haven’t noticed [crosstalk].

LeRoy: Does not describe [crosstalk].

Jim: Yeah, I know, not in the least. (laughing)

Kimberly: And so we may push our husbands without even realizing we’re doing it.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Kimberly: We put pressure on them. Now, some women, they don’t even have to utter a word to exert their fierceness, they may just raise an eyebrow, or it may be the tone of voice. But a fierce woman can be one of two things. She can be beautiful and encouraging and inspiring to a man to be all that he can be, all that God created him to be, or she can be destructive. She can emasculate him. And that’s what I was doing to LeRoy for so many years. And I didn’t even realize it.

Jim: Can you, to help us better understand that, there is the humorous side of it. And you guys have gone through this now. And, uh, you’re on the other side where you understand each other, you understand the pits and the bumps that we have in this life as a fallen world. Um, describe that early part of your marriage. You touched on LeRoy, but give us more context. How did that work out kind of on a day-to-day basis? In fact, you have a story about trying to teach your good wife here, how to shoot a firearm.

LeRoy: (laughs)

Jim: And, uh, that didn’t go so well. I wouldn’t pick that environment, (laughing) to context [crosstalk], is existing don’t use this firearm.

LeRoy: Do not try this at home.

Jim: Let’s go for it, and describe that story for us.

LeRoy: Well, I knew that I’d married way over my head as most men probably, you know, at some point feel like they have, because Kim was just so, uh, brilliant and so driven and had such an intensity for life, had such a passion. And I was drawn to that, but consequently, it worked out in our daily life is, I mean, she just excelled in everything, and it seemed like almost a competition that I could never measure up. Uh, she wasn’t consciously trying to do that, but she was always, uh, seemed to me like, uh, you can do this better. Here’s, here’s how I would do this. And even in, uh, you know, I thought, well, there’s one area, you know, I was raised in the country, so she’s never raised around firearms. So I’ll show her how to-

Jim: The secure environment.

Kimberly: Yeah.

LeRoy: This my, this is my, you know, my wheelhouse, I can handle this-

John: Yeah.

LeRoy: … so I can, I can show her that I’m a man and, uh, she’s not better than me at something. And so, uh, we were, uh, at our home there in Northwest Arkansas, rural Arkansas. And so I showed her all of the details, uh, of how to operate a firearm and, and then, uh, I loaded it after I’d given her my instruction, very manly instruction. And she really didn’t want to do it. She didn’t have anything to do with firearms, but I said, we’re gonna have them in our home, so you need to know. And so finally she, she agreed and she pulled it up, uh, to shoot and I’d put a little, uh, evaporated milk can, just a small can-

John: That a small target. Right?

LeRoy: Just a small, [crosstalk].

John: Just to prove your point.

LeRoy: Yeah, yeah.

John: I know where this is going.

LeRoy: I couldn’t have hit it, I knew she couldn’t hit it with a small pistol. And it was about 25 feet away at the base of a tree. And she pulled the gun up and, uh, she squeezed off around and I looked and the dirt flew and I thought, well, she came pretty close. And so, uh, I made sure the firearm was secured. And I said, “I’m gonna go look at it.” And I went over to the can picked it up and Elsie, the cow had a hole right through her nose.

Jim: I mean, it’s like a dead eye shot.

LeRoy: Oh yeah. I mean, it’s unbelievable. And I said, okay. She said, “Did I hit it?” I said, “Yeah, you hit it”. I said, that’s it, we are through for the day. I gave up. (laughing)

Jim: So how did that make you feel Mr. Man?

LeRoy: Well, I mean, I, I was, I was always feeling like that, uh, that, uh, I, I just couldn’t measure up. I couldn’t measure up to her expectations. I couldn’t measure up to what she wanted me to be. And in every era she was more spiritual than I was, she was smarter than I was. She knew better where to park than I did, if we would pull into a place and I would park, she said, how come you didn’t park over there? (laughing) And, uh, so-

Jim: I think that’s, uh, that’s like a DNA thing with women.

Kimberly: Yeah.

John: (laughs)

LeRoy: It’s a spiritual DNA that really, I believe Jim goes back to the fall-

Jim: Yeah.

LeRoy: … where the woman has that desire because of our rebellion and our diving into sin, headlong against our gracious creator. That, that is one of the spiritual DNA strands that a woman has that desire to rule over husband. But God says, no, the rub is gonna be that my will, how it’s supposed to work is he is supposed to give you guidance and direction.

Jim: Yeah.

Kimberly: But Jim, I will say that I did not realize I was doing that. And I think a lot of women, fierce women have good intentions. They think they’re just helping their husbands.

Jim: Yeah.

Kimberly: That’s really what they think they are doing.

Jim: Help them in what way? Help them to be better, help them to be stronger.

Kimberly: To improve, yeah, to improve, to do things better. And of course our way is the best way, or we wouldn’t do it that way. Right? (laughs)

Jim: Yeah. And I want to cut you some slack because I think a lot of this sounds like expectations as well.

Kimberly: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And that’s wrapped up in it.

Kimberly: Right, right.

Jim: And I think Kimberly, I want to give you that chance to describe that time in your marriage, where it was tough. And you’re trying to get LeRoy up to spec-

Kimberly: Right.

Jim: … (laughs) [crosstalk] to put his game up. But there’s ways to do that. That are more edifying-

Kimberly: Yes.

Jim: … rather than destructive.

Kimberly: Yes.

Jim: So what were you learning in that process as a woman, as a very efficient, effective woman, all the things that LeRoy just said smart, and you could do everything so well, you can even shoot a gun the first time through a target, he couldn’t hit, which I don’t know if that’s true. But, um, the point of it is a lot of women are in that spot right now, even hearing, uh, we’re here as men to help guide you. Russell’s the feathers of many women and even some men are going now that can’t be my role, leading and all of that.

Kimberly: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Describe for us where you were at, and what you’re trying to achieve and how God was teaching you. Okay this isn’t the way to go.

Kimberly: Well, and it took a long time for me to learn.

Jim: How many years?

Kimberly: I wasn’t learning well, we were miserable for at least 15 years. Before God started breaking me first and really doing a, a humbling work in my life that was very needed. But in those years leading up to that, I would struggle because I had, in my mind, this invented picture of what I thought LeRoy should be. And then daily life was much different than that. And part of that, Jim, as we, as young women, we bring into our lives, the men we’ve known before that we have been our heroes in our lives. Whether it was a dad, or whether it was an older brother, whatever. And we measure that husband against that. Maybe it’s just an imaginary man. And we measure that husband against that. And these young guys, they aren’t yet experienced with life. They don’t have that same maturity level.

LeRoy: And then, and then if I could interject, then you add into that. So many women have suffered at the hands-

Kimberly: Yes.

LeRoy: … of an authority male figure.

Kimberly: Yes.

LeRoy: And so they’re gonna raise up defenses and they’re gonna say, I’m gonna be the one that is gonna make sure that, uh, uh-

Kimberly: I’m not harmed.

LeRoy: …I’m gonna take care of myself-

Kimberly: Yeah.

LeRoy: … and I’m not gonna let any man, uh, harm me in any way.

Jim: Right.

LeRoy: And so that factors in often too.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Kimberly: And what I didn’t realize was every time that I would say something like, you know, why did you do it that way? Whereas I wasn’t meaning that as I put down or to question him in a way that would be destructive, but for him, it translated into, oh, I didn’t do it right again, I can never do anything right. I can never measure up to your expectations. And so what he began to do was to go further and further into a cave, to just shut down.

Jim: Withdraw.

Kimberly: Withdraw and become passive, and just say, you don’t like the way I’m doing it, you take care of everything, you lead, you take over.

LeRoy: And I thought that was noble because I’m a Christian. So I’m not gonna fight, I’m not gonna escalate a situation, I’m not gonna attack her, I’m not gonna try to bring her down. So there was a certain kind of a victim, uh, mentality that had an attachment of nobility to it.

Jim: Yeah.

LeRoy: And I think a lot of Christian men do that same thing as far as retreating into a cave and withdrawing from leadership that God would have them to understand and to live out and they think they’re doing the right thing.

Kimberly: And while he’s in his cave, I’m over here dying because I want a man that will communicate with me, that will, that will step up to be the leader, that will be involved in my life and listen to me. Yet he has just shut down. And the further I would pull, the more pressure I would give, the worse it would become.

Jim: Well. And that’s the irony of ironies. The thing you were desiring the most-

Kimberly: Yes.

Jim: … you were actually creating an environment that was the opposite of what you wanted.

Kimberly: Yes.

Jim: And that’s in part that cycle that you’ve talked about in your book, Men Who Love Fierce Women, how to break that cycle.

Kimberly: Yeah.

Jim: And, uh, I think that’s why this is such a vital conversation. Let me push into this a little bit, because I think in the Christian marriage, there’s confusion about passivity and grace. And I can understand where you were at LeRoy. And I’m sure just about every man gets this funny story at church. Jean likes to sit in a particular place at church, but it’s a crowded place, it’s a big church. And I remember, I mean, we’d be arguing quietly coming into church and there’s no spot there and she’d be trying to find a way to make room, and it’s really tough to do it. I’m saying, can’t we just sit over here where there’s four seats, you know, two for us to, for the boys. And no, I want to sit over here.

And it became a distraction to finally, I just said, you know, don’t ask me where I wanna sit, you just pick where you wanna sit. And we’ll just sit there. Now, that’s a little example, but it is this idea of passivity versus how to handle, uh, leadership in God’s grace. Speak to that distinction where a man is being passive. And it actually is destroying the relationship rather than helping it.

Kimberly: Yeah. LeRoy did not, I don’t think he consciously thought that’s what he was doing. He was being noble, he thought, and not arguing with me. But what couples need, and if you’re listening right now, and you’re a man and you’re thinking my wife she’s that fierce woman, I just wanted to say, talk to her, approach her, approach her in humility. But that’s what has got to happen to break down the walls of resistance between the two of you is honest conversations in humility. Let her know how you’re struggling, how you feel that you would like to care for her. You would like to be there for her. You don’t want to retreat, but you don’t feel you’ve really got a safe place to stand, and let’s work together on how to find that, how to work that out.

Jim: LeRoy hit that head on that, for us men that retreat and guys putting a disguise on it, calling it spiritual when it’s really passivity. And I don’t really wanna argue anymore. It’s just easier, she just makes the decision, I’m done with it.

LeRoy: Yeah, I don’t care what-

Jim: And I’ll even smile to make it look really Christian.

LeRoy: Mm-hmm.

Jim: ‘Cause I’m really kind of nice, but underneath you’re boiling, and you’re just seething and you’re, but you’re not willing to fight anymore, you’re done. So you just get quiet. How do you distinguish where you’re at in that continuum?

LeRoy: Well, I think that’s a great point, Jim. And not only you’re boiling because of, of the condition that your marriage is in, but I think there’s this tension, especially within Christian men that, you know, intuitively you may not have a good theological grasp on it, but you know, as a Christian man, what God has called you to, and you are failing at that most important calling. And you feel like that you’re in quicksand and you cannot, the more that you fight or the more you try or sometimes even with me, the more I prayed, it seemed like the farther that we were sinking. And when I tried to talk with Kim, it would become emotional or she was so intense and I was not good at dealing with conflict or at debate. I just never, you know, conflict avoidance was a major part of my life, and my personality.

Jim: And, and you probably learned that she was, she’ll get the better of it.

LeRoy: Absolutely. So once you have wrestled with a Bobcat a time or two, you don’t approach them anymore. I mean, and so that’s really kinda the way it was with me. I was no match for her intensity. I could not deal with her emotion, uh, that she brought. And she was emotional because it was breaking her heart, it was ruining our marriage and I did not have a handle on it, and I knew that.

Jim: Uh, Kim, what was it you were looking for from LeRoy that later you would make the difference? What was it you were demanding of him that he didn’t know you were demanding of him?

Kimberly: I wanted attention, security. I wanted, you know, we talk about the love languages, well, quality time and physical touch, those things were important to me. They weren’t so much important to LeRoy. And so when I’m crying out for what will meet my needs or what I think will meet my needs and he’s not there, he’s off in his own realm, you know? And yet he doesn’t, like he said, he wouldn’t want to hug a porcupine.

John: Hmm. So was it LeRoy? Was it that you had learned that you can’t give her what she’s really looking for? So you’re not even going to try?

LeRoy: And what happens and that’s right, John, and what happened to me, and I think it happens to so many because I think it’s just a part of the, the nature of sin, any sin, it, uh, it convinces us that this is the right way to go, why it drags us further in to misery and further away from God and from his grace. And so, as I began to withdraw thinking that that was the right thing to do is the only thing to do, there’s no way that I could deal with this fierce woman that God had given me.

LeRoy: And we knew that the Lord had placed us together, that was a part of what we were struggling with and what I was wrestling with. Then bitterness begin to develop. And the Bible says, husbands love your wives and be not bitter against them.

John: Mm-hmm.

LeRoy: And I think a lot of men, I know it happened with me, I began to, uh, in this inability to rise to the level that Kim needed to rise to the level that intuitively I knew that I needed to be instead of, uh, responding and just crying out for God’s grace and seeking for God to deal with me and what was wrong with me, I thought it was all her. I began to develop a bitterness. Bitterness toward her, it’s hard to love someone that you’re bitter against and, and hard to be thankful for the treasure that God has given you when you are, she’s ruining your life.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Le- LeRoy let me, let me interject here because some people might be saying, wow, what a horrible marriage you must have had. But the way that you could describe it as, uh, if you say to your, to your spouse, we’re like roommates, that would be experiencing this distance, right? So if you’re married and you have expressed that to your spouse, you know, we feel more like we’re roommates, then intimate partners, lovers, uh, one flesh, according to the scripture, that’s probably an indication that you have a problem. Right?

LeRoy: Absolutely. I think a lot of marriages, a lot of couples have called a truce. They’re still at war. [crosstalk].

Jim: They’re functionally married.

LeRoy: They’re functionally married, but they’re not displaying the glory of God by enjoying God’s blessings that talks about in Peter, the blessing of life, seeing good days, loving life, inheriting the grace of life. We didn’t have any idea that that was possible.

Jim: In fact, LeRoy, you described in your book that you came to a crisis of faith and you resigned or contemplated resigning from being a pastor.

LeRoy: I did resign.

Jim: Uh, you contemplated suicide.

LeRoy: Mm-hmm.

Kimberly: Yeah.

Jim: I mean, there’s-

LeRoy: I’m ashamed of that Jim.

Jim: … there’s a dark place.

LeRoy: Absolutely.

Jim: But, but it’s real. And I so appreciate the fact that you’re willing to pop that part of your heart open so that the Lord could use it for others right now, who may be right in that spot. They’re so desperate. They don’t even know if they wanna live. Describe that moment and how dark that must’ve felt for you?

LeRoy: Well, I don’t know that I can describe it adequately. The darkness was so dark and the pain was so deep. And I think when anybody comes and there’s probably some listening today, sadly, that when you lose hope and especially as a believer, when hope is what our walk with God or our faith in Christ is all about, uh, when you lose that hope because of a crisis of faith, because of something that is happening in your life, like a marriage situation that you can’t get a handle on, and you don’t see any hope for ever getting out of it, then I began to have a, a doubt of God caring for me and loving me. And so theologically, I was saying like, what’s the use of going on? I mean, if this is what life is all about, if this is what it’s come to, and God has brought us to this place, he’s brought us together, I wasn’t blaming God in a sense I was, and that’s where that bitterness came from. But I began to abandon a confidence in God. And that is the real issue. Is there anything too hard for the Lord? And I would say to that person that thinks that it’s just never gonna get any better. It’s just gonna get worse. And I might as well check out, I might as well leave, or you might be contemplating suicide. Really what you’re doing is you’re expressing an utter lack of confidence in God.

John: And that’ll bring us to the end of today’s Focus on the Family conversation with Kim and LeRoy Wagner. And I hope that what they’ve had to share has really spoken to your heart.

Jim: Uh, John, Kim and LeRoy are so good at expressing the pain they went through, and offering hope to couples in similar situations, many couples. And you may be one of them are trying to do their best when it comes to their marriage, but sometimes you need a little help. And that’s why Focus on the Family is here. We have a team of caring Christian counselors on staff to help you with your particular situation. You can give us a call or go online to set up a specific time to talk with them. We also have our Hope Restored marriage intensives for couples on the brink of divorce. If it’s gotten to that point, why not invest one last effort to save your marriage? We’d count it a privilege to be able to help you in that effort. We also have Kim and LeRoy’s book, Men Who Love Fierce Women. And we’d love to send you a copy as our way of saying thank you, when you pledge to partner with the ministry of Focus on the Family on a monthly basis, that helps us so much. And again, everything goes right back into helping marriages and many other areas of ministry. If you can’t commit to a monthly pledge, we get that, but perhaps a one-time donation will work and we’ll send the book as a gift in that case as well.

John: Yeah, you can donate, uh, set up a time to speak with a counselor, find out more about Hope Restored. All the details are at our website, focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or call 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. And on behalf of Jim Daly, thanks so much for listening today to Focus on the Family, I’m John Fuller, inviting you back as we, once again, hear from LeRoy and Kim and help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

Cover image of the book "Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life"

Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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