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Dealing With Loss and Grief in an Adverse Pregnancy

Dealing With Loss and Grief in an Adverse Pregnancy

Josh and Laura Huene share the heart-breaking story of the death of their baby daughter, Pearl, shortly after she was born, and offer hope and encouragement to other parents suffering a similar loss.
Original Air Date: August 19, 2016

Opening:

Excerpt:

Mrs. Laura Huene: And I said, “What’s wrong? What’s wrong?” And she said, “I’ll go get your doctor.”

Jim Daly: Oh.

Laura: And I jumped off that table, pulled … wiped all that stuff up. Josh meanwhile is standing next to me going, “What? Honey, Laura, what’s wrong? What’s wrong?” And I said, “Josh (Emotion), we’re not gonna have a baby; we’re gonna have a funeral instead.”

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: There are few events in a family’s life that bring more excitement and joy than the anticipation of a new baby. But for some, that joy is suddenly shattered by heartache and despair because of a terminal diagnosis. Today on Focus on the Family, you’ll hear about one family’s courageous decision to celebrate life, no matter how small or feeble or short-lived. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim: John, for several months now we’ve been emphasizing the sanctity of life. That’s always you know, one of the pillars here at Focus on the Family is the sanctity of human life, that’s always been one of the pillars of our ministry here. Because the Bible clearly says we are created in the image of God. That means each and every person is sacred, from the embryo in the whom to the elderly person who perhaps is taking their last breath. Each one of us has value. That’s why we’re hosting a major event called ALIVE FROM NEW YORK on Saturday May 4th in Times Square to remind everyone that preborn babies are alive and worthy of our protection. We really hope you can join us in this effort. Come to Times Square, sign our declaration for life petition and let your government leaders know that you’re standing firm about advocating for and protecting life. And we’ll talk more about everything that’s involved in that event later in this program.

John: For now you can find the details about getting involved at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: And here at Focus on the Family, we value life when it’s difficult to understand God’s plan and purposes for circumstances that we find ourselves in. Especially, when it’s painful or there’s suffering involved. For example, Christian families will wrestle with how to move forward with the unplanned pregnancy of a teen daughter, or how to best care for someone with severe disabilities. Or in the case of our guest today, they knew their baby was going to die, yet they chose to celebrate those few moments of her life. I think their story is a powerful example of how to embrace a very difficult circumstance in a Biblical context.

John: And I’d have to agree Jim, we met with Josh and Laura Huene in the studio here, and they live in Littleton, Colorado and they’re the parents of five children.

Body:

Jim: Welcome to the program.

Laura: Thank you so much for having us here today.

Jim: Let me start with the day that you found out what was going on. Paint a picture for us. Where were you at in your pregnancy? How many kids were in the home already? Just tell us a bit about your family.

Laura: Our family, we had three kids at that time. We had three kids under 5 actually (Laughter) and was pregnant with our fourth.

Jim: Okay.

Laura: An adventure always at our house. And we were about 22 weeks into my fourth pregnancy and I had kind of felt like, almost the entire time, I was more sick with this baby than I was with the other three. I was like, oh, what is going on? I must just be more tired, I’m sure, chasing three other kids around, pregnant again.

Jim: Were you worried or just—

Laura: I was worried.

Jim: –observing a difference?

Laura: In the back of my head, my background is labor and delivery nurse, so I always had a few of those tapes in the back of my head of, oh, is there something going on? Like I could … couldn’t really shake this nagging feeling that something was wrong. Every appointment I would say, “Are you sure?” I would say to Josh, “Look it, are you sure there’s nothing wrong with this ultrasound picture? Compare this to Zoe’s ultrasound. Are you sure there’s nothing wrong?”

Josh Huene: Yeah, I think this was the first pregnancy that she actually had concern, you know, being a …

Jim: So, you felt it as … as husband and dad.

Josh: I did and I certainly dismissed it as, you know, three kids under 5. Like, oh, we’re gonna be okay, you know, kinda steady the ship, you know, everything’s gonna be normal and you know, stay as positive as you can. But in looking back at that situation, we had lots of ultrasounds early on, you know. Typically when you’re first diagnosed with, you know, being pregnant and we got the early pictures. I call ‘em “monkey pictures.” They look like little babies, you know. (Laughter) And so, we’d put ‘em on the frig and you know, Laura would just wonder, you know, did that look right? And I’d always [say], “Oh, we’re fine; we’re fine, honey. It’s okay.” And I think it was just the normal husband, you know, reassuring.

And going into … even going into that major ultrasound, we’re gettin’ ready to leave town the week later, so we have to hurry up and get this done and we had a sitter for the kids. We had to hurry up and go to this doctor’s appointment and hurry up and get it over with and just make sure everything was okay. But in hindsight, we … we did. There was … I don’t know if its mother’s intuition, call it what you will, but we just … Laura felt like there’s somethin’, wasn’t … there’s something wasn’t right about it and …

Jim: Huh.

Laura: Well, and I think that speaks to that beautiful bond between a mother and her baby, like whether or not it was something that I was really ready to admit, that there could be something wrong, it’s that bond that is there from the very, very beginning.

Jim: So you go to the doctor’s appointment and–

Laura: Lay down on the table.

Jim: –and … and talk about that. So, what happened and what did the doctor say to you?

Laura: Yeah, it was a beautiful, gorgeous Colorado bluebird sky, spring day in March and I walked in and got ready for the ultrasound and Josh even said to the sonographer, he said, “Hey, would you just tell her everything’s gonna be fine with this baby?”

Jim: Hm.

Laura: And she went, “Why would you say that?” as she’s looking and as she had the probe on my belly and I knew then cause her face kind of dropped. And she said, “You guys, I need to go get your doctor.” And I said, “What’s wrong? What’s wrong?” And she said, “I’ll go get your doctor.”

Jim: Oh.

Laura: And I jumped off that table, pulled … wiped all that stuff up. Josh meanwhile is standing next to me going, “What? Honey, Laura, what’s wrong? What’s wrong?” And I said, “Josh (Emotion), we’re not gonna have a baby, we’re gonna have a funeral instead.” Because I knew in that moment, I saw on that ultrasound picture, a space that was black where her head was that should’ve been white full of brain. And I knew that there was something terribly wrong with this baby, by the fact that the sonographer did and my we’re … biggest fear was now confirmed in that moment.

Jim: Oh, man. I mean, I can’t imagine. The doctor walked in and how did he say..?

Laura: And I was … he said that, “Something’s wrong, Laura, look,” He said, “Look, you guys, let’s go upstairs to the perinatologist and go confirm this diagnosis.” It was something he’d never even seen before. Her official diagnosis was alobar holoprosencephaly. It’s a big long word that I didn’t even know how to spell–

Jim: Yeah.

Laura: –or say for so long.

Jim: And what did it mean?

Laura: It meant that she only had a brain stem and the rest of her brain had failed to divide and develop, so it was just a big empty space in her head. She had some problems with her eyes. She just had (Emotion) some problems with her eyes. I’m convinced that her nose is probably what everybody’s nose in heaven looks like because it doesn’t look like any of ours. But from lips down, she was absolutely perfect, beautiful perfect baby.

Jim: Man, how do you manage that as a couple? Again, you’re talking to people who have gone through difficulties, perhaps miscarriages or other things, other you know, development issues in the womb. Josh, as a husband and you hear the doctor say what he’s saying and of course, your wife is medically trained and knows a bit more what’s happening there as a nurse, quite a bit more, how did you respond in that moment? What did you do?

Josh: It’s tough. I mean, we just kinda hit a brick wall. You know, I think a lot of people, you know, we’d been blessed up to that point and we had met in college and you know, we had good jobs and we had some beautiful children and so, this was the first major brick wall that we had hit in our life. I didn’t know that day what to do, so I think in hindsight, Laura and I just kinda went back to our foundation, you know. We just … you just kinda hold each other and … and you just work through it. And I realized I just needed to let her grieve the way she needed to grieve. And I think in hindsight, going through this, you realize that men and women grieve in completely different ways and I think, you know, for a man is, you just want to work through it as quickly as possible and move on. And I think sometimes women need time, you know, different amounts of time for different people.

But I … I think the Holy Spirit just gave me a peace and I think I was able just to hold Laura and just let her process this the way she processed and not only the hours, you know, to follow, but the days and the weeks and the months and even the years to follow, just to process through this, so …

Jim: Let me ask you this because you’re expressing it in a very good way. I would think a lot of men, because we’re fixers, we want to mend and correct, but you’re helpless. And did you have any of that feeling inside, you know holding – your wife was right. Letting her weep into your chest was right, but did you feel inadequate that there was no way for you as the man of the home to fix this?

Josh: Absolutely. I think that’s the, that was a challenge for me is I had to get a hold of something, a skill I didn’t know I ha, and that skill was just realizing I didn’t have the answers in me, but I did what I thought would be best was just to love and just to be present, and I think through the process as much as I didn’t wanna talk about it some nights, and sometimes I just wanted to avoid the conversation or avoid the thing that happened she wanted to talk, and I think I learned to listen, and I was able to learn that skill through this process.

Jim: Wow that’s a big thing, to be able to learn to listen. Talk though about what the doctors began to suggest because of the diagnosis and how you worked through what your next steps would be.

Laura: So, as we were there up in the perinatologist’s office and I knew him because I had worked at this same hospital, so it was a … it was a privilege that I did not take lightly, that we were able to be seen within the same hour of receiving a devastating news, to go up to the specialist. And he said, “Well Laura, we can go upstairs and just … we’ll take care of this today and we’ll just take care of this today for you.” And Josh didn’t really know what that meant and he said to me, “What are they talking about?” It’s, well, to go upstairs and have an induction today right now. And I said, “We’re not doing that.”

And he left the room and said, “I’ll give you guys some time to think about your decision” and brought in some textbook, copied of what her diagnosis was, pages of teeny, tiny print. And he said, “Are you guys sure that … ‘cause we can just take care of this today. Are you sure?” And I said, “We’re sure. We’re gonna go home.”

Jim: Talk, maybe in a little deeper way of why it was important to you as a couple to go through all the pain of delivering, the process of delivering, and to see your baby for maybe moments. And talk about all of that.

Josh: You know, I think quickly after that diagnosis, you know, hours, days to follow, is we wanted to keep her as long as we could, right? I mean, God had blessed her to us and whether she lived for minutes or whether she died in the womb or whether she lived for days, ‘cause there was, you know, multiple options, you know, we chose to celebrate her as our daughter.

And so, you know, we wanted to carry her as long as we could and Laura certain had some medical complications and we had to manage the care of Laura, you know, make sure it didn’t cause her, you know, physical harm.

And it’s interesting. You know, days to follow we actually had a scheduled trip out of the country and … and we just chose to take Pearl with us, so the kind of running fun in our house is, you know, she got to go to a different country. She got to go to Ireland and you know, the other children have not. So, you know, we chose to embrace the situation and just teach our … our other three small children how to deal with this in a positive way.

I think we all encounter situations in our life. You know, it may … may not be this exact situation, but you can choose how to work through grief and work through this process. So, we just chose to carry her like a normal child, celebrate each day, each hour we had with her and then also bring our … our three little children along in journeying with us, to, you know, celebrate her life in the short time we had.

Jim: Well and some would call that “courage.” Some may not even understand why you would’ve done that. Talk about how you saw it. Was it courageous of you? Or was it simply the right thing to do?

Laura: I don’t … I will … I wouldn’t say I was … I would feel like I was being courageous or brave. Part of it was more, why not? This was my baby. And why not give her a chance? It’s the … it’s the “what ifs?” What if they were wrong? But I also knew that I had to have redirected hope, too, was hope for just moments with her.

And if I had ended my pregnancy early, what if I wouldn’t have had any of those little moments with her? And I think as a parent, I think anybody would say their biggest thing is, we want to protect our children. And I wanted to keep her as safe as I could for a long time. And there were people that asked us, “Well, why … why would you do this? Why were you guys putting your family through this?”

But we wanted to be able to have a story. You know, that’s the line of having a story instead of a secret that we … she’s part of just who we are. This was the gift that had been given to us, a hard gift for sure. But even her name, a pearl is something that’s crafted in adversity. It’s hard; it’s ugly on the outside, but then there’s a treasure that’s found in there, too.

Jim: When that doctor walked back into the room after leaving you to discuss your options and you told him, “We’re gonna move ahead,” how did he respond?

Laura: He said, “I’m sorry.”

Jim: “I’m sorry.”

Laura: And “We’ll … we’ll …” I don’t even know if he needed to … I don’t even think he said we needed to see him again. We could just see our regular OB if I wanted to and “I’m sorry” and left the room.

John: We’re hearing the hearts of Laura and Josh Huene, and this is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller and I so appreciate the strong statement that has been made through your decisions and though your life about the value of Pearl even though the medical community couldn’t see it up close like you could. And we’ve got resources if you’re struggling in this realm. And our phone number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Yeah. Let me ask you this and it can apply to a lot of different circumstances. Today we’re talking about the loss of a baby. But in this tragedy, giving birth to a child who shortly thereafter passed away, did you feel close to God or far from God? And did you feel like He was teaching you something in the process? Or were you just feeling pain?

Josh: Both, I think you know, grief takes on both. I think that experience, you know, she lived for about an hour and in the delivery room and I speak for Laura; that was probably the closest we felt to Heaven. Our pastor was there and some close family and … and just the peace in the room was something, you know, we can’t articulate today. But hours after that, a lot of anger, a lot of anger, frustration. You know, as a man, I want to fix it. I couldn’t—

Jim: Right.

Josh: –fix this. There’s nothin’ to fix here. And honestly, we struggled, I mean, on and off for months and years, even with our faith and why would this happen to us? And you know, we’ve … haven’t done anything but try to follow God and do the best and how could this happen to us? And how could He give this to us?

Jim: Let me ask you this because a lot of people think of their relationship with the Lord as a quid pro quo. If I read the Word and do devotions with the family and live a good life, Lord, You’ll reward me and bless me. But that’s not the equation, is it?

Laura: No, it is not. It’s not. I’s not at all because I think that a part of it just go back to, “God, You’re good, no matter what happens to us and painful.” Yeah, so I went back, as we were just talking about this and read through some old journal entries of when we first found out and thinking, oh, my gosh, it’s so raw. And I think we were stripped down to just nothing, just on our faces of, I don’t even know if I can get out of bed today. Or can … I need some help. Please help us.

And I think like Josh said, too, it did ebb and flow, that sadness, the anger, drawing so close to Him. There’s you know, certain songs that came out that … the only song we could ever, ever even listen to sometimes is, okay, God, we’re gonna choose to still stand and I know You’re gonna carry us. I know you’re gonna put hope in our hearts, but the questions, yes, were there, for sure of, why? Why are we having to walk through this?

And I think as it evolves, you start to find out the answer why, why we’re … why we’re going through this, why we were the ones that went through this. And I don’t know if I would say that God was teaching us something, ‘cause He’s not punitive. He’s not up there telling us, oh, “I’m gonna … I’m gonna show those Huenes. [Let’s] take this way, let’s take something away from them,” ‘cause that’s not how He is. He loves us. He loves us.

Jim: Well, and I would say that, that idea of the broken world is real.

Laura: It’s real.

Jim: This isn’t want God intended when He created us but we live in a fallen world, where it’s gnarled and it’s not as He intended. And we’ve got to realize that. Josh, you said something I want to come back to which was that anger, that sense of anger. That reality and that realness is important for people to hear when they are wounded, that God is big enough to take that blow. He hears your heart. He knows the pain. He experienced it as He walked this earth, whether that was His friend, Lazarus, and how people were responding to His death. And it talks about how the Lord wept in that moment. Talk about that process and how long did it take for you and for you to come to grips with that, where it moved from anger to understanding, to re-embrace of love for Him?

Josh: Yeah, it’s been quite a journey to be honest. Honestly, we’re 10 years out and we’re still working through that, ‘cause you know, you feel violated with your trust, just like you trust a person. You know, we trusted God and … and for me, I just felt violated, like someone just took away that trust. And … and trust is earned and trust takes time.

And I think for us, it was months and years to be honest. I mean, you know, it’s hard as a husband to watch your mother of your children, your wife go through that anguish, just the raw emotion and just the raw grief. It’s … it’s challenging and so, you know, you want to fix it or you want to blame someone for it and I blamed God at times. I’m like, “God, this … you know, why’d You choose us to do this? You know, this isn’t right.” And so, I felt like He betrayed my trust and that was just my selfishness of trying to make sense of the situation.

But ultimately, it’s just time and I think it was time of just Laura and I healing our relationship. It’s with our children, trying to teach our children through it and our 5- and 6-year-old. He struggled. He didn’t understand and it’s hard to articulate to a 5-year-old how to work through grief like that. And so, I think, you know, and it’s … it was our intentionality of staying plugged into church as best we could, ‘cause there’s a lot of Sundays we didn’t want to go to church.

Jim: I’m sure.

Josh: And we didn’t go to church a lot of Sundays. We just chose to stay at home with our small family and just be together and spend time together. So I … you know, as we slowly trusted to allow our hearts to be healed through church or through family members or … or just with our own time with God, we spent a lot of time listening to songs on the radio and that’s all I could do for months.

Jim: Oh, my goodness.

Josh: You know, I … we had one or two songs and I didn’t want to hear, you know, any … anything else. I just wanted to hear those songs, ‘cause that’s all I could process. That’s all I could allow God to sneak back into my heart, because I dealt with that anger and that frustration.

Jim: Well, and I appreciate the honesty about how to deal with it with your other kids, some of whom were a little older, but still trying to figure out what’s up with mom and dad? Why is mom bursting into tears, I’m sure. And how … what’s goin’ on, you guys? I mean, you gotta communicate with them and … and understand where they’re at emotionally.

Jim: Two words that really trouble me as I look at them and that is the perinatal hospice. Those are two words that shouldn’t go together when we think of a good place—

Laura: Yes.

Jim: –a peaceful place, a God-ordained place. Perinatal hospice just … you know, the fact that a child is gonna die, but you have a ministry, String of Pearls, which is a great play on Pearl’s name. Talk about what you’re trying to accomplish and what your goal is for the ministry.

Laura: Well, I think for us, there was nothing available for us when we were going through this of trying to figure out what it looked like to make a plan and what it looked like to make funeral arrangements while you were still pregnant and walking into a mortuary and picking things out while you have a baby that’s alive and kicking in your belly. It just doesn’t make any sense. But we … we did it. We worked through that and as we were … after Pearl was born and walking through that and I realized what we had done actually had a name.

John: Hm.

Laura: Two words that do not go together, like Jim just said, but it’s a beautiful concept. It’s not a place. I think that’s a … a different way to look at it. Perinatal hospice is not a place. It’s really a way of thinking, because the mom is that beautiful hospice that’s carrying that baby. It’s a walking hospice for that baby. The mom is giving everything that baby needs and parenting through that process.

I had four months to parent Pearl after we got her diagnosis and I was her mom and did everything. We went to the park. We had ice cream, all those things and that’s what perinatal hospice empowers these families to do, to give them another alternative besides going to take care of the pregnancy, ending it early, but to give … empower them to make decisions to parent their baby while they’re still here.

Jim: Yeah. You know, you talked about that hour with Pearl and the peace that you felt and the presence of the Holy Spirit. Describe it a little more. What … what was that hour like, to be a mom of this little girl?

Laura: It was … you could hear the brush of angel wings in that room because that verse that talks about, we are surrounded by a great cloud of witnesses, I’m certain that that’s what was in our room in that moment. It was quiet, the quietest we’ve ever had, of course, for a delivery. We got to be all by ourselves and everybody had left and it was just the three of us as we were able to hand her back to Jesus. We knew, but we had the gift of time with her in those moments, too. We thanked her for coming. We told her we loved her and memorized every little detail. She was our only baby with hair. She had her daddy’s black, thick curly hair. We gave her a terrible haircut to bring some little black locks of hair home with us.

Jim: Oh.

Josh: Yeah, I think it was time stood still, but the most interesting hour of my life. I just truly felt like God’s presence was there and … and again, it’s hard to articulate it, except it just felt like a timeout and just life had been paused for a few moments. And I think it was God’s gift for us to be with us for a few moments.

Closing:

John: What a tender, sacred time that must have been for Josh and Laura Hunen saying goodbye to their infant daughter Pearl.

Jim: John, we’re talking to people right now who are hurting, and maybe grieving just like the Huenes, and it could be for any number of reasons. Maybe you feel like God is far away from your pain and sorrow. If that describes you, please contact us here at Focus on the Family. We have counselors who can talk with you, pray with you, and provide a Biblical perspective as you work through that pain that you’re going through. Let us help. We have many, many resources for your family for whatever situation you’re facing.

John: And our phone number is 800-232-6459. 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. If you wanna speak with one of our counselors, we’ll ask you for some contact information so they can get in touch with you.

Jim: The Huenes have provided all of us with a powerful example of what being pro-life is all about. And I so appreciate their courage in living out their convictions, even through their pain and loss of their baby girl. We wanna invite you to become pro-life advocates like they are, to help us challenge and ultimately transform the culture of death that is so prevalent today. I mentioned earlier that Focus on the Family is hosting a major event, ALIVE FROM NEW YORK, on Saturday, May 4th, just a month from, in Times Square. The key note is going to be live 4D ultrasounds right there on the big screen of 3rd trimester babies, to show everyone that a baby is a baby, whether inside or outside the womb. And those pictures will be all that people need of 4D, 3rd trimester ultrasounds, and you know what? They deserve our protection. We want to see you there, and please, sign our declaration for life petition, which we’re planning to deliver to the White House and congress to let our leaders know how committed we are to the sanctity of human life. And we’ll post all of these details at our website and on our social media pages. Or, you can call us to learn more, but whatever you do, be a voice for life today.

John: Yeah we really wanna invite you to join us in this effort, and you’ll find the petition and everything you need to know about the ALIVE FROM NEW YORK event in our program notes. Or, call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. When you get in touch, we’ll invite you to support this family organization. Your donations will help us get the word out about protecting and valuing all life. We hope you’ll stand with us both financially and in your prayers. Now coming up next time, teen girls and dating/ Is your family ready for this?

Teaser:

Mrs. Julie Lyles Carr: Something would happen, and I would realize, “Oh he’s not so great,” or he wasn’t interested in me, and I’d be like, “Okay, I’m good.” And then two weeks later I would see someone else who caught my attention, and my heart would fixate on that person, and by the time I got to high school, I’m more talkin’ double digit crushes. It was not pretty.

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John: On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for listening today to Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller inviting you back as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

Cover image of the book "Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life"

Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

Bundle of Why Your Kids Misbehave

Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

Headshot of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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