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Enjoying Physical Intimacy as a Woman (Part 1 of 2)

Enjoying Physical Intimacy as a Woman (Part 1 of 2)

In a discussion based on their book Enjoy: The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women, sex therapists Dr. Cliff and Mrs. Joyce Penner discuss God’s design for sex, how women can increase their enjoyment and how couples can plan and prepare for times of intimacy. Our guests also address common obstacles to sexual intimacy and how couples can overcome them. (Part 1 of 2)

Original Air Date: September 28, 2017

Opening:

John Fuller: Today on Focus on the Family we’re talking about marital intimacy which is a topic not appropriate for younger listeners. Here’s Dr. Cliff Penner.

Excerpt:

Dr. Cliff Penner: The message we’re trying to get across here is that the greatest gift a woman can give her husband is to enjoy herself sexually, because there’s nothing that makes a man feel better than the woman who is experiencing full joy and pleasure in the experience, rather than just doing her duty for him.

End of Excerpt

John: And as we help you in your marriage today, your host for Focus on the Family is Focus president and author, Jim Daly and Jim, it’s hard to believe, but Valentine’s Day!

Jim Daly: It is, John! So if you’re listening and haven’t done anything for your spouse yet, here’s your warning, it’s not too late! (chuckle) But you’d better get on it! At least consider picking up some flowers or writing a heart-felt note– is that something you’re gonna do, John? Don’t spill the beans. (chuckle)

John: Um, if there’s time after work

Jim: You know, John, one important aspect of a healthy marriage is physical intimacy and I know so often this makes everybody uncomfortable but it’s important for us to wrestle this back from the enemy. And this is God’s gift for us and it needs to be stated in the right context. Here at Focus, we believe it is important to talk about intimacy in this way because it’s something God has designed for us in the context of marriage– one man, one woman.

AndHe has a plan within the context of marriage for you to experience that. And He wants you to both enjoy sex within that context of marriage. Sadly, we do live in a broken world that tries to undermine the very design God has put in place. And it certainly is sweeping our kids out of God’s design and it’s taking many Christian marriages out of His design. And that’s why it’s important to talk about today. I know it’s uneasy.

We talk about spiritual intimacy. We talk about emotional intimacy, but we fidget; we get nervous when we, the church, talk about physical intimacy. Yet, God has designed it that way. We’re not surprising Him with what we do sexually in the context of marriage. He made it that way. It’s our wedding present and that is why it’s healthy for us to discuss it.

John: And if you have any questions, you’ll find resources, articles and a variety of helps at focusonthefamily.com/radio. Our guests, as I said, include Joyce Penner and her husband, Dr. Cliff Penner. They’ve devoted their lives to helping couples in this area of marriage and they’re always popular here. They’ve written a book with Focus on the Family. It’s calledEnjoy: The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women.

Body:

Jim: Cliff and Joyce, welcome back to Focus on the Family.

Joyce Penner: Thank you, it’s great here.

Cliff: We’re delighted to be back!

Jim: Okay, as sexual therapists, the proof is really in the pudding, so you’ve been married about 54 years, I think–

Joyce: That’s right.

Jim: So tell us, is it working? (laughter)

Cliff: So far, it’s working! (laughter) We’re just eager for the next 10-15 years.

Jim: Yeah, that’s fantastic! And what do you think is that one key ingredient that you’ve experienced, not as sex therapists, but as believers bound in marriage for 54 years– happily–I see the smiles on your faces! It’s genuine! What is that one thing that you guys have done well?

Joyce: Well, I think it’s gonna have to be two.

Jim: Okay, what’s the two things?

Joyce: I think the idea that we did connect our spirituality with our sexuality. That we believed right from the beginning– in fact, because we were raised in Mennonite homes where it wasn’t talked about, we spent the first year of our marriage for our joint devotional time just studying every passage in Scripture from- that talked about sex–

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Joyce: –to try to figure out whether this was okay to be enjoying it. And realized that Scripture holds sex very highly as God’s design, as the way to understand how God wants to relate to us–

Cliff: So what’s the second thing?

Joyce: And the second thing is that I’m married to a wonderful husband, who is–

Jim: (laughter) You were prompting that one!

Joyce: Yeah, yeah!

Cliff: There we go! (laughter)

Joyce: Who’s very affirming in that women, for them to really enjoy sex, they have to feel good about themselves.

Jim: Ah… that’s so true…

Joyce: Whereas a man tends to respond to the woman. The woman, in a sense, responds to herself, and then shares herself with him. And when that works, it keeps itself going in a positive direction.

Jim:Let me start with the first question. Today’s discussion and next time’s discussion will be really aimed at women and we want to help women better understand what God has created with physical intimacy and I so appreciate that, because as I said in the setup, that’s one of the challenges that many womenface. In fact, some women will even describe it as they feel in their marriage it’s their duty, their responsibility. Describe why that’s not healthy to think in that term and why many women do think that way.

Joyce: That is a common thought, particularly for women who have been raised in the church, because we don’t know exactly how that interpretation of Scripture happened, but it did, to indicate that. It sort of comes across that sex is for the husband and the woman is just there to keep him happy and at home.

And long term that doesn’t work for either, because when she’s just focused on doing her duty rather than enjoying it for herself, it’s not great for him either. We’ve had men say, “Well, I guess duty is better than nothing,” but it’s not a wonderful experience when we are both to be in it to delight in each other, to enjoy each other.

And 1 Corinthians, chapter 7 is the best passage for that, but every passage in the New Testament starts with or incorporates a command for mutuality. But when we look at 1 Corinthians, chapter 7 … reading from The Message, the paraphrase, Paul has got … answering the question from the church at Corinth, is it good to have sex …?

Cliff: Yeah, but the church at Corinth had written, “Is it a good thing to have sexual relations?” And he says, of course, it is, but only in a certain context. Marriage is the place for that to happen and sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain those drives in a world of sexual disorder.

Jim: Yeah.

Joyce: But then it goes on to say, “Marriage must be a place of mutuality.” The husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not the place to stand up for your rights. Marriage is the place to serve the other, whether in bed or out.

Jim: Interesting. You know, I’ve often said that it seems to me that the Lord with a very simple approach, is trying to teach us something straightforward in marriage and that is, to lay your life down for your spouse–

Joyce: Absolutely.

Jim: –to become more Christ-like and—

Joyce: Yes.

Jim: –be selfless in that relationship, which draws you to … to a closer relationship with God, right?

Joyce: Uh-hm.

Jim: I think that’s kinda fundamental, but in this area there’s so much strife, Cliff and Joyce, when it comes to physical intimacy. In fact, the way we’ve already kind of approached this, I’m sure some women are feeling guilty that they haven’t seen it as a spiritual uh … anointed thing, that you know, it’s the thing in the back yard that we don’t talk about.

Joyce: Uh-hm.

Cliff: Well, and …

Jim: How do we get to a healthier place?

Cliff: Well, so often, that has grown out of the fact that as we were growing up, we got the warnings about not misusing sex, but we didn’t get the flip side, the positive side that says, this is a wonderful gift from God that was there before there was any talk of sin in the Bible. Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore, a man leaves his father and mother; clings to his wife and the two become one flesh.” This is about the physical, sexual union and yet, we somehow have made it that it’s not a positive part of this … of the life.

Joyce: And it’s gift, it’s a wonderful gift that God has waiting for you, rather than, “Don’t do it; it’s bad.” And we get that feeling that it’s … we never get the teaching that it’s wonderful. We just get the “Don’t do it” so …

Jim: Well, yeah and here’s the thing that we communicate and I’m just using the “we,” the larger church—

Joyce: Uh-hm.

Jim: –is that when it comes to this area of sexual intimacy, that it is something wrong.

Joyce: Yes.

Jim: And I don’t even know if we ever flipped the switch. I remember, you know, talking to some couples where they have saved themself for marriage and they said the most difficult thing, particularly for women, was trying to flip that switch emotionally—

Joyce: Absolutely.

Jim: –which of course, women, it’s all about that emotion.

Joyce: We hear that all the time, yes.

Jim: So, the physical is secondary typically, but um … you know, that overnight, literally on their wedding night, they had to go from this chasteness, this attitude of—

Cliff: From no to yes.

Jim: –no to yes! And they say it’s not a dimmer switch. It’s like—

Joyce: No.

Jim: –wham! Now the switch is supposed to be on and it’s hard to do. How does a woman who’s feeling that kind of contrast and maybe she’s been married a few years and she still struggles with this, how does she begin to relax and say, “Okay, this is God given?”

Joyce: Well, hopefully the bookEnjoywill really help her (Laughing) and that’s what we’re hoping that it will open women to realize that when they understand how their bodies work, that God designed us as women to enjoy sex, that that’s how we’re made. And when we do, it’ll be so much better for our husbands. So, to open up and give ourselves the permission and then kinda learn to listen to our bodies and go after those feelings.

Jim: What does that mean to listen to your body?

Joyce: That’s a great question and that’s … we have a whole chapter on that.

Jim: My body says, I’m hungry. (Laughter) What does your body say?

Joyce: Yes– and we listen to being hungry, but often we haven’t been … because we thought it was bad, we didn’t listen to those sexual urges. And even in kids dating, we try to teach them, your drives are strong as 1 Corinthians, chapter 7 teaches us. That’s God … how God made us. It doesn’t say they’re strong when we get married. They are strong and that’s how we’re wired.

And that’s okay. That’s good. We can listen to those feelings, but we can make choices and be in charge of those drives and make decisions not to act on those till we’re married.

Jim: Yeah.

Joyce: But we try to help young couples as they’re preparing for marriage, to keep the feelings alive, while they’re controlling their actions. To separate those is very helpful.

Jim: Now, the proof is in the pudding,so the test question is, how have you done it? That’s basically what you’ve said here inEnjoy, right?

Joyce: Yes.

Jim: So …

Cliff: Well, let me jump in with that (Laughter) for a moment.The message we’re trying to get across here is that the greatest gift a woman can give her husband is to enjoy herself sexually, because there’s nothing that makes a man feel better than the woman who is experiencing full joy and pleasure in the experience, rather than just doing her duty for him.

So, what we try to do, both in our writing, but also in our own life, is that this is a place of fulfillment for the woman and when the woman feels fulfilled, then the man does. There’s a great passage in Ephesians 5 where Paul is talking about marriage and he talks about the husband loving his wife like Christ loved the church. And then he talks about how you lavish the woman with all this affirmation and all that. And then he ends it by saying, “But you’re really just doing yourself a favor.”

Joyce: The man.

Cliff: Why is that?

Joyce: The husband.

Cliff: A man—

Jim: Yeah.

Cliff: –is just doing himself a favor, because when she’s feeling good and enjoying it, he’s gonna enjoy it himself even more.

Jim: Right.

Joyce: And if we help husbands realize that she’s more likely to be able to enjoy herself and share that with him when she feels good about herself. And that’s different than men. Men respond to the woman, but the woman responds to herself in a sense and then can open up sexually. So … and he’s a great affirmer to say how we’ve done it. He’s a great affirmer. He tells me how good I look and … and he comes by and then I’m working on the book or working on a talk or whatever, how great I did it. I mean, there’s just that constant feeling that I …

Jim: Affirmation.

Joyce: –aff … of affirmation from him.

Jim: Yeah, that is so good. And in so many marriages today, that’s lacking because it … it becomes competitive or something.

Cliff: Well, you see what so often happens is, that the man gets into the role of trying to correct her, to … to evaluate her–

Joyce: Fix her in a sense.

Cliff: –and … and … and fix what’s wrong, which only makes her feel worse about herself—

Jim: Right.

Cliff: –which makes her feel less likely to be responsive than more likely to be interested and responsive.

Jim: Well, give us a practical example. So, for the men listening that are in that spot where they sometimes belittle their wives, you know, this isn’t the way I would expect it or how come you didn’t do this? How does he trigger himself not to do that and be more affirming, rather than denigrating?

Joyce: Uh-hm and that is a common pattern, particularly when the woman isn’t interested in sex because she doesn’t feel good about herself. Then it’s a downward spiral.

Jim: Uh-hm.

Joyce: And what we do in sexual therapy is, really try to switch that downward spiral and start fresh and say, okay, every time you’re tempted to tell her how she could do it better or buy her the next book, rather say … find something about how she was or is that you really appreciate, that you can affirm, that you can come alongside and say, “I just love how you do that with the kids.” “I just love …”

Cliff: It doesn’t even need to be of a sexual nature.

Joyce: No.

Jim: Correct.

Cliff: It could be anything. The best model we have of that is in the Song of Solomon. All he does throughout the whole book is affirm and enjoy. Hetells her how gorgeous she is and how he likes this part of her body and how he likes this response that’s going on and then she gets all turned on and is inviting him. See, she’s saying, “Come on; let’s get going.”

Jim: Yeah.

Cliff: And … and he affirms and she invites. And …

Joyce: And that’s the model that works that we’ve really discovered as … what’s been fun for us is becoming experts in the field of sexuality is to see that Scripture fits with what works.

Jim: Right.

Joyce: Even in the secular world, what’s being taught is what Scripture affirms.

Jim: But this is the challenge and again, for couples, I think of all ages, but so good for young couples particularly to get this right—

Joyce: Yes.

Jim: –so that their marriages have the greatest chance of success, not just in physical intimacy, but borne out of that, too—

Joyce: Everything.

Jim: –is emotional intimacy, the thing that a wife typically craves so much and we’ll get to that. But it’s this linkage that you talk about in the book,Enjoyabout a person’s spirituality and their sexuality being aligned.

Joyce: Yes.

Jim: And again, it kinda cuts at the core of the way the church in general thinks, which is mostly negative, that you would even put those on the same plane—my spirituality and my sexuality—because that’s the closet thing we don’t talk about. Get us out of that routine and do connect it for us. Give us the best argument why you gotta connect these two.

Cliff: Okay, the best argument we feel is, that in both the Old and the New Testaments, when the writers are trying to communicate how we should understand our relationship with God, they use the marriage and—

Joyce: Sexual relationship.

Cliff: –and the sexual relationship in marriage as the picture of that.

Jim: The metaphor.

Cliff: The metaphor. There’s lots of examples of that in the Old Testament, in the New Testament, that passage in Ephesians 5 that I was talking about again, does that exactly. It’s saying …

Joyce: Where Paul quotes the Genesis, leave your father and mother, cleave to your wife and become one flesh and then says, “This is a great mystery, but I take it to mean Christ and the church.”

Cliff: And they go back and forth between the sexual relationship and the relationship with Christ. So, if there’s ever an example of how the Bible is teaching us about how to be sexually, enjoying our sexuality with our spirituality, it’s this picture of our relationship with God.

Joyce: And you asked about, how can we teach a woman to listen? And one thing we recommend is that she starts when she wakes up in the morning and thanks God for the new day and asks Him to be with her, that she thank Him for creating her as a sexual person and asks himto get with her body and feel those feelings and as she feels them, she pictures being with her husband. And it’s an all-day thing of anticipating the next time they’re together.

Jim: So often we talk in this way and I want to recognize that maybe it’s the 80-20 rule, that this is true of 80 percent of the popula[tion]. I don’t know what the number is, but a large percentage, a majority function in this way, where the husband, it’s ingrained in him. He’s, you know, he’s wired with testosterone and other things to pursue. He needs that. And the wife is less interested.

Joyce: Uh-hm.

Jim: And yet, sometimes the other 20 percent, it may be the wife who is actually more interested and she’s not getting that responsiveness from her husband.

Cliff: We have almost as many men come to the office reporting lack of sexual desire as we do women.

Jim: So, almost 50-50.

Cliff: Yeah.

Jim: Huh.

Cliff: And what we know is, that … that while the stereotype out there is that it’s the man who wants it all the time and the woman who doesn’t want it, there are lots—

Joyce: And we do hear—

Cliff: –women.

Joyce: –that more—

Cliff: Oh, sure.

Joyce: –in the public realm.

Cliff: But there are lots of women out there who are frustrated because their husband isn’t interested. And … and this usually goes back to something that happened in their past–

Joyce: His past.

Cliff: –his past in particular that set him up in that way. It could be a medical thing. Sometimes it’s hormonal. There are a variety of reasons and … and we always try to work with that. But yes, you’re absolutely right. For those women who … out there who are saying, “Wait a sec. You’re talking about it as if I don’t want it all the time and he wants it all the time. In our family, it’s just the opposite of that.”

Joyce: And …

Jim: What can she do? Give us some practical examples of—

Joyce: Right.

Jim: –what that wife can do—

Joyce: Right, well—

Jim: –who has that appetite?

Joyce: –and let’s say it’s a lot more difficult in that situation, because our finding is, that when the man lacks sexual desire, the couple isn’t having sex or having it very infrequently.

Jim: Oh, interesting.

Joyce: When the woman lacks desire, it may not affect the frequency. And so, they really do probably need to figure out what’s going on and sometimes it can help to set aside time to be together, to make the connection, for her to pursue it physically. Rather than nagging him about it, to be more physical with him … if this works. It doesn’t always work, to kiss passionately every day without demand, so, if she can do it without being demanding or nagging.

Jim: Are you describing a way to, and I mean this in a most positive sense—

Joyce: Yeah, yeah.

Jim: –kind of the enticement–

Joyce: Yeah.

Jim: –to use other means to kind of entice your husband into having relationships with him.

Joyce: And that depends somewhat on the reason for his lack of desire.

Cliff: Yeah, sometimes—

Jim: Right.

Cliff: –sometimes he lacks desire because he feels so inadequate as a lover.

Jim: Right.

Cliff: He either feels like he’s not doing what she needs or he’s not responding in the way that he needs to. And so then, he will … will back off, ‘cause what we know about men is, that we would rather not do something than feel inadequate at something.

Jim: Let me ask you about this, ages and stages. I know (Chuckling) just in my own experience and I’m sure everyone else’s experience, when you are a younger couple, maybe with kids that are 1-, 2-, 3-years-old, that’s a very hectic time for mom particularly.

Joyce: Yes.

Jim: And there’s a lot of strife that can occur in that moment of your … of your family’s life cycle, because men, their appetite hasn’t gone away.

Joyce: Right.

Jim: Yet mom is feeling overwhelmed. She’s feeling really tired. What are some things that could be done in that moment for her to think that through and to understand how to manage all of that.

Joyce: Yes, the statistics show that the sexual frequency about drops in half after the first child.

Jim: Well, let me say this, too. With … with the men, we need to do our part to understand the environment—

Joyce: Absolutely.

Jim: –and not have an unthinkable expectation there.

Joyce: And not to come out having … being needy, ‘cause she’s got three little kids that are needy. And if he’s needy, too, it’s just one more child tugging at me.

Jim: Yeah.

Joyce: And it can’t feel that way. It really can’t feel that way.

Jim: Yeah, she doesn’t want another set of hands pawing at her.

Joyce: That’s right.

Jim: I mean, that’s how … you know, Jean—

Cliff: Literally.

Jim: –expressed that to me one time.

Joyce: Yep.

Jim: It’s like, you know, “Ah! Help me.”

Joyce: Yes, give me a break.

Jim: “I just need, you know, I need sleep.”

Joyce: Yes, yes and when my … when my head hits the pillow, sex is the last thing on my mind. It’s sleep. So, there are different practical solutions. One is that if the kids nap, that she tries to get a nap. And that’s hard for moms to do.

Jim: ‘Cause that’s when you’re doin’ the other stuff.

Joyce: That’s right.

Cliff: That’s when you’re gonna catch up with all that you didn’t do while the kids were awake.

Jim: Right. It’s almost an impossible task really, when you think about it.

Joyce: Yes and …

Cliff: The other things that we know is absolutely necessary is, for couples to begin to plan their sexual experiences into their life, rather than hoping that they’ll happen spontaneously. Because once you have kids or are building your business or career or whatever you’re doing, and then the second child comes along and then pretty soon, they’re adolescents who are staying up later than you and all of that stuff.

Joyce: The preschool stage and the adolescent stage are probably the most difficult—

Jim: Right.

Joyce: –for parents’ sex lives. (Laughter)

Cliff: But you have to design it into your life. Now a lot of people resist that idea and we say, “Well, how’s spontaneousness working out for you?” And they’ll usually say, “Not very well.” So, then we say, “Design it into your life so that you agree on it.” Yeah, we’re gonna … you know, if … if it’s the wife who’s with the children, then he’ll put the kids to bed that night while she takes a bubble bath or whatever does it for her, so that she can get with herself on that night when they’re planning to be together. And you don’t have to feel in the mood ahead of time.

Jim: Yeah, now how does that … that “want to” mom and wife not just think of that as another thing on the to-do list?

Joyce: And it may have to be that. (Laughter) And that means …

Jim: So, it may have to be just that.

Joyce: Yeah and—

Jim: And she needs to understand.

Joyce: –as long as she does it on her to-do list by decision and not by duty. And let’s explain the difference to that. And I teach a lot of mothers’ classes, MOPS, you know, Mothers of Preschoolers and what I say is, at this stage of your life, if you’re the mom at home, you probably don’t, when he comes home from work, don’t feel like meeting him at the door and just ripping his clothes off.

Jim: (Laughing) Yeah, right.

Joyce: You know, you’re not gonna feel like that. But “duty” is, “Oh, my gosh. It’s been three days. I know he needs it. Now I’ve gotta do it.”

Cliff: And he’s gonna be in a bad mood if—

Joyce: If I don’t.

Cliff: –it doesn’t happen soon.

Joyce: And “decision” is, the same content, but a different approach. “You know, it’s been three days. I know it’s good for me. I know we need it. Let me plan a way that I can make it good and the best it can be given our reality.”

Jim: Yeah. Well, I think today we’ve shared at least some great stories and examples on where women can begin to get into a healthier better place in their sexual relationship with their husband. There’s more to talk about though. (Laughing)

Joyce: Yes, there is.

Jim: And I want to do that. This is a wonderful resource,Enjoy: The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women. And we definitely want to put this book into your hands. John, how can somebody do that so they get it?

John: Well, they … they can call us. Our number is 800-232-6459 or online, we’re at focusonthefamily.com/radio. And when you get in touch, please donate to the work here at Focus on the Family. We’re a not for profit organization and we need your help to continue to provide messages like this to help strengthen marriages worldwide. And today as you donate a gift of any amount, we’ll send a copy ofEnjoy— it’s our way of saying thank you for partnering with us.

Jim: And you can also contact us for counselors, as I said before. We’re here for you and I thank those that have donated to allow us to provide that kind of support. It’s what we’re here to do. We want your marriage to be as healthy in Christ as it can be. And don’t look the other way when it comes to sexual intimacy. I think the Penners have made a great case for why sexual intimacy and spiritual intimacy are very closely aligned and I think that is exactly the point we have tried to get across today.

Cliff and Joyce, as we sign off today, we want to come back next time and highlight your formula for intimacy, but give us a taste of that. What are you talkin’ about?

Joyce: Right, we have found that for most couples that we need to be intentional about our sexual relationship. And it’s another way that marriage sex life is like our relationship with God. When it’s new, we’re just driven to it. But over time, we have to have some disciplines that keep us growing in our relationship with God and in our sexual relationship with each other.

Cliff: So, we have a little formula that we call a formula for intimacy that is designed to help couples keep connected, not a formula for sex, a formula for intimacy that is that closeness that can then lead to sex.

Jim: Okay, I’m gonna … we gotta stop there and that’s for everybody tomorrow. Next time—

Joyce: Okay.

Jim: –tune back in and you’ll get the formula for intimacy. Let’s leave it there. I know we’re leavin’ you hangin’, but we hope you’ll join us next time, so we can talk through that formula for intimacy.

 

Closing:

John: And for today, on behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for listening to Focus on the Family. Do be back with us tomorrow. The Penners will return and we’ll once again, help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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