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Exposing the Lure of Romance and Erotica (Part 1 of 2)

Exposing the Lure of Romance and Erotica (Part 1 of 2)

Dr. Juli Slattery and author Dannah Gresh talk about the cultural fascination with erotica that's been largely spawned by the popular novel and now movie Fifty Shades of Grey and other sexually explicit media. Our guests explain why such material especially appeals to women, and the danger it poses to marriage and families. (Part 1 of 2)


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Original Air Date: August 25, 2014

Opening:

Teaser:

Jim Daly: Juli, in 2012, one of our nation’s leading Christian publishers conducted a survey, asking what is the most influential book you read this year? What was the result?

Juli Slattery: The result will startle you. Christian women responded back by saying, Fifty Shades of Grey was their favorite book of the year.

Jim: That is unbelievable.

Juli: Yeah.

Jim: How can that be?

Juli: Well, I think on one level, it does shock us, but when you look at our culture and you look at the Christian culture, as a matter of fact, it probably doesn’t shock us, because we see all these compromises of men and women that are dabbling in things like pornography and going to see movies they shouldn’t be seeing. And it’s just become such that we don’t have discernment anymore. Uh … and it should shock us at some level, just wake us up.

End of Teaser

John Fuller: Well, we do have some things today to hopefully, wake you up. They may be a little shocking and as a result, the content of our program is not going to be suitable for younger listeners. That was Juli Slattery. She was a guest with Dannah Gresh on a program that we aired on “Focus on the Family” last year. They wrote a book called Pulling Back the Shades and those ladies each have a ministry designed to promote and help women have sexual purity. Juli’s is called Authentic Intimacy and Dannah’s is Pure Freedom. Your host, by the way, is Focus president, Jim Daly and I’m John Fuller.

Jim: John, we’re gonna talk today about something that is really important, but very sensitive. And I know sometimes people are uneasy with it, but you know what? When we talk about human sexuality, there’s a reason we do and that’s because the Bible talks about it. God has a design for it. And so often the culture and particularly, the Christian culture, we’re being duped. We’re being blinded by the culture and not living lives that are worthy of the label “Christian.

And this can be hard-hitting and I apply this to my own life. We’re all sinners saved by grace and I get that, so we don’t mean to simply heap guilt on you if you’re in this place and you’re struggling. But let’s talk about it and let’s get it out on the table, so to speak.

What I’m talking about is a very successful book trilogy that is one of the fastest-selling series of all time. And according to one report, the series has sold over 100 million copies worldwide–100 million copies. In fact, they’ve made it into a movie that’s going to release for Valentine’s Day and it is the Fifty Shades of Grey.

And it’s erotica, is what it is and a lot of women, a lot of married women are buying that series and reading it and many Christians are, too, as Juli just alluded to. To set the stage for us, I want to open with a Scripture, because in reality, the Scripture is what’s most important, not our feelings, not what Jim Daly or John Fuller or Juli or Dannah have to say about it. It’s what does the Scripture say?

Let me read for you what the Apostle Paul said in 1 Corinthians 5:9. It says, “I wrote to you in my letter, not to associate with sexually immoral people, not all meaning the sexually immoral of this world or the greedy and swindlers and idolaters, since then you’d need to get out of this world. But with anyone who bears the name of brother,” may I just say “Christian.” “If he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed or is an idolater or reveler or drunkard or swindler, not even to eat with such a one. For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Is it not those inside the church whom we are to judge? God judges those on the outside.”

I’ll tell you, John, there’s a lot of meat in that statement and our attitude toward the world, versus how our attitude should be toward each other. So often, we’re hypercritical about the world and how it behaves and very lax on one another. And today, we want to talk to each other. We want to talk to the body of Christ about what’s goin’ on.

John: Yeah, we have to have a higher standard about all of our behaviors and thoughts and that applies right to this book and movie now, Fifty Shades of Grey. And so, as we unpack this, there’s a biblical filter we’re asking you to kind of see the whole series through. And if you miss any of today or tomorrow’s program, it is from our Best of collection from last year and you can get that as a CD or download at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio or when you call 800-A-FAMILY. Let’s go ahead and listen now to this best of program with Dr. Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh on today’s “Focus on the Family.”

Body:

Jim: Ladies, welcome to “Focus on the Family.”

Dannah Gresh: Thank you.

Juli: Yes.

Dannah: It’s awesome to be here.

Juli: Thanks for havin’ us back.

Jim: Juli, you used to be here full time with us.

Juli: I know. I just feel like I’m right back at home.

Jim: Good (Laughing), right back in the chair.

Juli: That’s right.

Jim: Well, it’s good to have you. Let me ask you this. I can’t imagine that many in our audience haven’t heard about Fifty Shades of Grey. I was in the dark with it, but I am shocked by the impact that, that book has had and books like it. Help us understand what is it; what is it? And why are Christian women drawn to reading it?

Dannah: Well, I think one of the first things you need to understand is it’s pornography. It’s a written form of pornography. Just because it’s called “erotica” doesn’t mean it’s less. And many women are excusing it and saying, “Well, there aren’t pictures.” Well, you’re still having very sexual images in your head. In this case, Fifty Shades of Grey is very transgressive, so bondage, dominance, masochism, sadism, very dark sex.

And what kind of impact it’s having is what’s startling, because at the release of our book, we were up to 100 million copies of Fifty Shades of Grey that have sold. It literally has cannibalized much of the publishing industry, ’cause now we see all these other erotic copy-cat series popping up. And really it’s on a pace where you can’t compare it to anything else out there, not even things like Harry Potter. The only thing you could compare it to and it’s still trailing behind would be the Bible. So, the only person …

Jim: That’s a shocker right there.

Dannah: Yeah, the only person outselling E.L. James right now is God. (Laughing)

Jim: Well, let’s put it into some perspective, ’cause I want to sit in the seat of those listening. And I would think there’s probably three camps—a woman who is going, what in the world are they talking about? And they’re probably getting ready to write us a letter to say, how could you do that? And we get it, folks. Certainly write us if you’re concerned, but we understand it. But we believe the other two camps are the folks we really need to get to—those that may not know much about it, maybe a girlfriend has talked about it. And they’re maybe thinking this is something I should look at if 100 million people are reading it. And then those that are already reading it’ they’re into it, yet they’re going to church.

In fact, that survey that we talked about at the top of the program, these were Christian women. These are women that are doing Christian Bible studies–

Dannah: Yeah.

Jim: –reading Christian–

Dannah: They were not nominal Christians.

Jim: –devotionals.

Dannah: Yeah, they were customers for some of the best Bible studies out there and at the same time, reading this dark erotic book.

Jim: And I’m painting the picture of the appetite, because we men, we understand this. What’s a shock is that women are now starting to develop this appetite. Why do you think that is?

Juli: Well, one of the things that Dannah I did as we were researching for Pulling Back the Shades is look at, what is drawing women into the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon? It’s not just a random thing and we think that there’s a real spiritual element to that.

But when you break it down in terms of, what are women looking for? What are they going after? Dannah and I found five needs that we think are representative of what women are really longing for that Fifty Shades of Grey and books like it seem to promising to address. And frankly, Jim, they’re needs that some of them, the church has not addressed well.

Jim: What are they?

Juli: Well, one of them you probably wouldn’t even thought of, but it’s a real longing in a woman’s heart and that’s to escape reality.

Jim: Okay, that may connect with a lot of people, but I’m not sure I get it. I see Jean busy and engaged. I don’t see her wanting to escape reality. What’s happening in the secret heart of a woman?

Juli: Well, I think to some extent, maybe a guy can relate to this and it might be what pulls him into things like pornography, as well. You might be busy, but life feels boring. It’s mundane. Every day you get up, you go to the same job. Or a woman gets up and she’s doing housework and taking care of kids.

Jim: Or going to a job and doing all of that, too.

Juli: Right, absolutely. And her marriage, maybe she’s been married 10 or 15 years and it’s kind of blah. They’re not a lot of excitement. There’s not a lot of romance. She wants a heartbeat. She wants to wake up and feel like life is exciting and adventurous. And all of fiction kind of pulls us out of our mundane lives and gives us an infusion of excitement. And there’s nothing wrong with that, but this take it to a whole ‘nother level.

Jim: Hm.

Juli: And when we’ve interacted with women, a lot of them will say, I just needed an escape from my boring and in some places, very painful lives and this seemed to promise it.

Jim: Wow, that’s powerful.

Dannah: The one that really, I guess, put the fire in my belly is the one that women are longing to be rescued by a strong man. And in a society that emasculates men constantly, we have created this world of strong women and weak men. Even in the church we have been guilty of that.

And Barbara Walters was on “The View” discussing the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon and why women were reading it. And she actually said something to the effect of, “Well, women at the end of the day, just want the man to be in charge. They’re tired of being in charge and they want the man to be in charge.” And she went on a few months later to be recorded saying that, what this book really is about is a book about submission.

But here’s the problem. It’s a twisted, distorted view of submission. When a man is tying you up in chains and beating you because it gives him sexual pleasure, that is not a healthy submission. But it’s being honored and we’re living in this culture, this feminist culture. And yet, the sexiest words right now are “obedience,” “master,” and “submission.” How does this make sense? We’re starving for something and so, we reach out for this twisted counterfeit.

Jim: Dannah, I want to park here for a minute, because as I’ve thought about the program today, there’s a paradox that I sense. You see the feminist movement in one direction, wanting independence, wanting to be like men. What’s fascinating and we tied this together in Irreplaceable, a movie we released earlier this year and then also in The Family Project. It’s almost a bait and switch that’s occurred. Women traditionally have been the stabilizers in the culture. They’re the ones who domesticate men. It’s been known that this is the way men behave, because of testosterone and all that. But when they get married, they get committed and it controls their appetite.

Now we’re seeing that unleashed within women, which is, I think reasonably new for any culture. This hasn’t been the way that human beings have behaved. Women, for the most part, have been chaste and have been the ones to calm the human sexual appetite and put it in the right place, in a godly place, which is in marriage.

Dannah: Uh-hm.

Jim: What’s goin’ on?

Dannah: Well, I think one of the things that’s happening is, our society just really wants to erase gender. And so, we’re telling women they have to be a certain way or act a certain way and they certainly can’t fall into the typical stereotype.

The problem with that is, that when I look back in the book of Genesis, God loves gender. And when He says, “I have created you in My image,” he lists two things—male and female—that make us most like Him. Gender matters to God.

And when we defy gender and say that a woman can be strong and override … now a woman can be strong. I think Juli and I are both strong women, but I think it has to be at the expense of my husband and his manhood.

Jim: Well, but that has been the way that has been going on–

Dannah: Absolutely.

Jim: –between the genders.

Dannah: And it’s one reason why women are turning to erotica, where there’s a twisted distortion of a strong male figure.

Juli: And you know, you can look at this from a sociological perspective and say, it’s the war, the battle of the genders. But the way I’ve really begun to see it, is it’s a battle to destroy God’s design. And a lot of this is a spiritual battle. And if you look at the fact that Satan has won the hearts of many men and pulled them into pornography and lured them with extramarital affairs, he’s after the women now. And he’s very audaciously going for the heart of women.

And we see many of them being entrapped by this. And again, not just the world. We see Christian young women who love the Lord, get confused about their role in marriage or whether marriage is even worth it to start with. And you take that into sexuality, they’re very confused about sexuality and how to express that in a way that honors the Lord. And they don’t have any discernment to see what’s really happening.

John: Well, we’re talking about the longings of a woman’s heart with Dannah Gresh and Dr. Juli Slattery on today’s “Focus on the Family.” And as we address these five key longings that our guests have identified, we’ll post those online for you, so if you can’t continue on with the program, you can always find them there at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.

And not to get into the graphic details of the book, but there are some listening who do not understand what you’re talking about right now in terms of how can my desire to escape reality or to find a strong man be fulfilled in this book? What’s in the book that’s appealing to a woman who has those longings?

Juli: Well, let me say, John, that as Dannah and I were preparing to write Pulling Back the Shades, we prayerfully asked the Lord, should we read Fifty Shades of Grey? It’s a trilogy, so you’re talking about, about 1,500 pages of written pornography. And as we prayed, I felt that the Lord was asking me to read the books and Dannah felt that the Lord was asking her not to read them.

So, when we wrote this book, she’s coming from the perspective of looking in on the phenomenon and having a voice in it without having read the books, which is really great, because a lot of women want to be able to dialogue, but they don’t want to have to go into the literature itself.

I read the books and read it very much with, what’s going on in these books? What’s drawing women to it? And so, I don’t want to get too graphic, but I will tell you with broad brushes, that there’s no question in my mind that these books are very explicitly pornographic. We’re not just talking about allusions to romance scenes or sexual scenes. We’re talking about very graphic frequent scenes that are highly sexual. And as Dannah mentioned earlier, violent sex and it’s all couched within a love story. And some would tell you, a healing story, so there’s a lot of deception about what’s really happening. But I also want …

Dannah: It’s so deceptive that there are women listening right now who are angry–

Juli: Yeah.

Dannah: –because they would defend the book and they would say, but at the end, it all works out.

Juli: It’s not just the sexual stuff that is–

Dannah: Yeah.

Juli: –offensive. The language is terrible in each of the three books. The F word is used at least 100 times. But I think what was most alarming to me is, that there are very clear spiritual references throughout the books, Christian references, even the name of the main character, Christian Grey. And his mom’s name is Grace. All the way through there’s Bible verses quoted in certain contexts. There’s plays on words when it comes to good and evil.

In the book, Christian Grey, the main character, has a room he calls “The Red Room of Pain,” where he takes his submissives–his women and sexually flogs them. And this is supposed to be romantic and erotic. In the red room of pain, there is a wooden cross and the wooden cross is used in sexual ways in the books.

Now you tell me that you’re a believer in Jesus Christ and that doesn’t offend you. Even if you took the sex out of it, how are you not offended by that? And that’s what’s most alarming, is that Christians are reading this stuff and alarm bells aren’t going off.

Jim: How do we wake up to these realities? How do we shake the smoke from our eyes spiritually speaking and say, okay, how do we take a first step to get out of this?

Juli: Well, I think already you’ve heard two main messages as we’ve been talking. One of them is, we understand why you’re drawn to this. And the longings that are drawing women to erotica are legitimate longings. And to the shame of the church, we haven’t validated some of the sexual longings that women have, the desires for intimacy. We haven’t helped them with those.

And so, they’re running to worldly sources. And we understand that. We don’t want this just to be condemnation. We want to validate the fact that you have needs that aren’t being met.

But the second message you’re hearing is, that the ways Fifty Shades of Grey and things like it are meeting these needs are dangerous and they’re evil. And you’re giving an aspect of your heart and your life over to evil. And we hope that even this conversation and this book is a wake-up call.

Dannah: If I could, I’d like to maybe give you some examples of how Satan brings death through books like Fifty Shades of Grey, ’cause we interviewed women who read it. That was my job, rather than reading the book and analyzing the book, I was gonna look at what was happening to the women that were reading it.

And there were women, Christian women. I remember one woman that we wrote about in the first chapter, who her husband was in leadership at the church. He was a very prominent member of the Chamber of Commerce, a local businessman and so, he was always busy.

And suddenly, she was a stay-at-home mom, which is what she wanted very badly. But his world was so busy and hers was so small in her mind. And so, she just started reading them because her girlfriend told her that it would help her to rev up her sex life, help her to experience some passion in her normal mundane life.

Jim: In the context of her marriage.

Dannah: In the context of her marriage. And that’s the defense many Christian women use is, it’s gonna rev up your sex life. And it might temporarily, but what it ultimately does, because this is also what pornography does, is it draws you away from your partner, away from your spouse. Even secular sources will admit this. There are articles in The New Yorker for example and Self magazine that suggest, if you want to have a great sex life with a real person, you better push pause on porn, because you’re gonna become more and more withdrawn into your own fantasy and your own way of pleasuring, that you’re not gonna be able to do that cooperative communication of blessing each other.

And this particular woman found that before long her day revolved around how she could get to a new book, a new erotica book. And she was planning her day so she had hours and hours. It cannibalized her life. And the wake-up call for her was the day that she was deciding to pack her bags and leave her family.

Jim: So, it had gotten to that point.

Dannah: Because she wanted that life in the book and she was tired of the life that she had. And when the Holy Spirit really rescued her when she saw what a terrible travesty it would’ve been. But we’ve seen women move from a healthy wholesome marriage into a not just an interest in lesbian, but an interest in lesbian bondage dominance, masochism and sadism through erotica.

We’ve seen the youngest victim of erotica that we talked with while we were writing Pulling Back the Shades, started looking at erotica when she was just 9-years-old and just encapsulated in this bondage. And so, women need to know it might temporarily awaken your interest in sex, but it’s gonna lead you away from a real person and that’s not God’s intention.

Jim: Juli, something you said and Dannah, that is powerful. I mean there’s so many directions my mind is going right now. Juli, something you said I want to emphasize though. And that is, you know this allure, what is drawing Christian women into this kind of activity, in part I would say it’s because we don’t talk about these things. The thing that I see in the New Testament, what I read at the top of the program about Paul talking to the Corinthian church, he didn’t shrink back. He didn’t have people coming and saying, “Don’t talk about sex.”

Dannah: Yeah.

Jim: Paul did it. He said, “Listen, here’s how you behave.” And it … I think we’re getting to that moment where we as Christians, we’ve gotta talk about it, because it’s hidden. And when things are hidden, Satan works his mischief. If we can speak about it maturely as adults and as believers, I think we’ll be in a much better place to sort out the enemy of our soul.

Juli: Absolutely and the Scripture—both the Old Testament and New Testament—have a lot to say about sexuality. But over the last 100 years or so, the church has just ignored that and we’ve been quiet. And when we’re quiet, there are other voices that come in. We need to talk about what God has created and what’s right and what’s right to celebrate within marriage. As a single man or woman, what do you do with your sexuality? And we need to be open to entertain the questions that people have.

Jim: Hm.

Juli: You know, Jim, women are walking around with great shame and pain in the area of sexuality.

Jim: In what way specifically? I don’t know that I connect with that.

Juli: Sure, yeah, well, really the last two years the focus of the ministry that Linda Dillow and I started has been addressing women’s issues related to intimacy, largely sexuality. And I can’t tell you, in a room of maybe 600 Christian women, when we teach and open it up for questions and have women turn in index cards of what’s going on and what questions they have, out of 600 women, we might get 300 of them that write a question, maybe 250. And the pain that will be represented in that room would blow you away. But you have everything from, my husband’s addicted to pornography, to my husband’s betrayed me, to I’m in an affair; I don’t know how to get out of it, to I have homosexual thoughts. What do I do with them?

And then you’ve got probably about a quarter of women at least, who have experienced sexual trauma. They’ve been abused in childhood. They’ve been raped. And they have nowhere to go with that pain. The church is silent on it.

Dannah: Even if you’re just a woman not struggling with deep pain, but you’re struggling with how does this work? I’ve been married for two years and I think I’m supposed to be doing things I’m not doin’. And my husband and I are just having a hard time communicating. What’s okay in the bedroom? What’s not okay in the bedroom? Even if you’re that woman, the church isn’t really providing answers.

So, in this book, we went there. You know, I met a woman from my church in the airport just last week. She’s very pregnant to give birth and she said, “Oh, my goodness. I can’t believe I ran into you. I just read Pulling Back the Shades on my flight. You went there! You went there. You answered the questions that nobody’s been willing to talk about before.” And if we talked about ’em right here, the women listening would probably blush, but you guys would surely blush.

So … because we … but here’s the thing. Juli and I had a deep conviction. We have on one hand the church, as you read at the beginning of the hour. We’re not supposed to really be concerned about the lost and their behavior. They’re just acting like the unsaved. They’re acting like the lost. But why is the church acting like the lost?

Jim: Uh-hm.

Dannah: Maybe it’s because the culture has gone there and talked about these things that we’ve been afraid of. And so, we looked at the Scriptures together, Juli and I. Could we find an example? We did. We found Jesus talking to the woman at the well, a woman mired in sexual pain, a woman mired in the thought that her answer lied in sexual conquest. If she was alive today, I think she would’ve read Fifty Shades of Grey and she would’ve loved it.

But she was so full of shame that she comes to the well alone in the heat of the day. And who shows up but Jesus, who’d taken a detour. He came the long way. He wasn’t headed to Samaria. He was headed somewhere else and I think the Father told Him there’s a woman who needs Your love. And He finds her there in her shame.

He talks to a woman. That’s the first religious rule he breaks. He talks about her sex life. That’s the next religious rule that He breaks. And all these traditions that are held up by man, He busts through them to rescue her heart. And that’s what July and I want to do. That’s why the book talks about things that the church previously has been terrified to talk about. We go there, because the example is that Jesus went there. Why? So that she could have the living water that really did quench the thirst of her soul.

Closing:

John: We’ve been listening to part one of a conversation with Dr. Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh on this edition of “Focus on the Family” with Jim Daly. And we’re so appreciative for their openness and this discussion has been addressing the very real allure of erotica in all of its various forms–books and video and so on. So, be sure to tune in next time for the conclusion.

And we understand that today’s program might’ve stirred up some concerns for you, some struggles that you’re experiencing. And you need to know we have caring Christian counselors here to speak with you about this if this is troublesome for you. Our number to talk to a counselor or to ask for resources is 800-232-6450; 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

And let me ask you to please help us continue offering broadcasts and resources that make a difference in the lives of our listeners. As our way of saying thanks for your gift today of any amount, we’ll send a copy of the book we’ve discussed, Pulling Back the Shades by Dr. Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh. There is so much in the book. It is so timely in light of the movie coming out and Dr. Juli and Dannah explore the dangers of this kind of material. They also offer some hope about God’s design for sexuality and helping you determine what that can look like in your life. Also available is our Best of CD set. It includes this one and all of our very best programs from the past year. Donate or find the book or CDs at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio or you can call us, 800-232-6459.

Our program was provided by Focus on the Family and on behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for listening in. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back tomorrow for the continuation of this important conversation, as we once again, help your family thrive.

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Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!