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Finding Unexpected Blessings in Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Finding Unexpected Blessings in Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Contemporary Christian music artist Laura Story and her husband, Martin, offer hope and encouragement as they discuss how God has strengthened their faith and relationship after Martin was diagnosed with a brain tumor early in their marriage. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: April 11, 2017

Teaser:

Mrs. Laura Story Elvington: You truly learn to find your hope in the person of Jesus. A lot of times we look for hope in Jesus changing our circumstances. And sometimes He does that, but other times He says, “No, I just want you to trust in Me.”

End of Teaser

John Fuller: That’s Laura Elvington and you might know her better through her Christian music name, Laura Story. She and her husband, Martin are with us today on “Focus on the Family” and your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly.

Jim Daly: John, it is so true that so many marriages go through various trials and difficulties. Marriage is also very good and we want to make sure that point gets across. That’s what we’re talkin’ about each and every day, but we do hit bumps in the road, sometimes big bumps in that regard.

Those trials can be overwhelming, but God is always with us through those storms. That’s what’s important. That’s what you’re gonna hear today in a beautiful story. And within just the first few years of their marriage, Martin and Laura dealt with some life-altering circumstances and I think they will teach all of us today about how to embrace God, even when things aren’t perfect. And Laura’s written this book, When God Doesn’t Fix It. And that title should cause you to lean in.

John: Yeah, I think all of us have to deal with expectations and that title really is appropriate for the conversation we’re about to have. The Elvington’s live in Atlanta, Georgia. They have three young children.

Jim: Okay, we’ve gotta post this picture (Laughter), ’cause it’s one of the cutest family pictures I’ve seen.

John: It’s a great shot.

Jim: So, that’s goin’ on the website.

John: And a couple of these are twins; is that right?

Laura: Yes, twin boys–

Jim: Two boys.

John: Oh, man.

Laura: –and a 4-year-old girl. (Laughter)

John: Well, Martin is a baseball coach. Laura is the senior worship leader at Perimeter Church and you might recognize some of the songs that she’s known for, because so many churches around the world sing some of these, including “Mighty to Save” and “Indescribable” and “Blessings.”

Jim: Yeah. Hey, welcome to both of you to “Focus on the Family.”

Laura: Hey, thanks so much for havin’ us.

Martin Elvington: Thanks for havin’ us.

Jim: You know, those songs are you writin’ those for me?

Laura: Right.

Jim: I love those songs. How’d you know I would love those?

Laura: Yes, exactly. (Laughter) I wrote them personally for you.

John: She’s got your picture on the bulletin board. (Laughter)

Jim: How in the world? I mean, you’re obviously a creative person. I mean, how do you hit that pitch, that right [touch] where millions of people are gonna resonate with a song? How do you know it?

Laura: Yeah and that’s a great question. I think that’s the prayer always when you write, you know. It’s not just to … to write a pretty song, but you know, as a believer or even as a worship leader, my goal is something that can be very relatable to for believers and even used in the context of worship in churches.

Jim: I mean, it’s an amazing skill-set—

Laura: Thank you.

Jim: –and to really touch the heart of God. I mean, some of your songs bring you to tears, bring me to tears when I’m listening. It’s just really an amazing gift that you do have.

Laura: Hopefully not my singing (Laughter) bring[s] you to tears.

Jim: Not at all.

Laura: Okay, good.

Jim: Okay, Martin, now you’re the baseball guy. You and I connected there. I played a little bit of baseball. Football was my sport though, but you were a catcher.

Martin: Yeah, that’s right.

Jim: And you played some college baseball, as well, right?

Martin: Very small amount in college. (Laughter) Actually, [I] got injured the summer after my freshman year. I was playing with an organization called Athletes in Action.

Jim: Yeah.

Martin: I was in Nicaragua playing baseball [with] this team and ministry. And I fractured my catching[wrist]. I was a catcher and I fractured my catching wrist.

Jim: Ooh!

Martin: And it ended my career. And I had the opportunity to actually cut the trip short and go on home. My coach at the time said, “You know, you could do that and you could actually,” we were on the trip for a few weeks at this point in time. And he said, “You could save your money and come back next year.” He said, “Or you could continue to go on with us.”

And I’ll never forget this. He said, “I think the trip could change your life.” And it did. That was the summer of my freshman year and that’s when I became a Christian.

Jim: Oh, that’s amazing. And now Laura, your sweetheart here, she was kinda scopin’ out Fellowship of Christian Athletes, right? (Laughter) I mean, that was where you were at least looking at where a potential husband could come from.

Laura: So I was in high school and you know, Martin played baseball. I played bass, string bass, which is, you know, his athlete friends affectionately called the “Dorcas dress.” That’s what they (Laughter) tend to label me as.

But I had heard about Fellowship of Christian Athletes and had some friends that went and went to one of their cookouts and that’s where Martin and I met and so often I joke that I really wanted to fellowship with the good-looking Christian athletes (Laughter)

Jim: Okay, well, that’s fair. (Laughter)

Laura: And t ended up really working out for me then. (Laughter)

Jim: So you met and what happened? How long before you said, “Man, this could be it?”

Martin: Well, we began dating in high school. We had kinda hung out. Actually she sat at a table in the cafeteria adjacent to mine and we kinda continued our conversation over the next few weeks. And we got to know each other in that context. Eventually I asked her out on a date and we started dating. She was a year older than me, but we dated in high school. She graduated and went off to college and met some real Christian men and at that point in time, she realized that there was somethin’ different about these guys than this boyfriend of hers still back in high school. They had somethin’ that he did not and that was Jesus.

And so, that was me. And so, I did not have Christ. I thought I was a Christian and I’d grown up in a family that had gone to church our whole lives, but I personally did not have that relationship with Christ, even though I’d gone to church my whole life. I had the kind of the outward trappings of a Christian and the outward behavior even perhaps, but didn’t know Jesus personally.

Jim: Boy, that is something, Martin, because I think a lot of young men and women that grow up in Christian homes, they’re not sure, ’cause they didn’t come perhaps from a dramatic salvation. There wasn’t that big moment that they could point to. You ended up splitting up, right?

Laura: Uh-hm.

Jim: And you took off. Now this was really funny in your book, When God Doesn’t Fix It, you have this breakup and then you go to Outer Mongolia? (Laughter) I mean, that’s a little dramatic.

Laura: Well, so my freshman year of college, I [did] lots of soul-searching, you know, all of that and broke up with the boyfriend and really had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. And some friends of mine, we all went to this campus meeting put on by a local church and heard, I would say I heard the gospel again, kind of in a new and fresh way.

And just a really impactful evening and at the end of the night (Laughing), the college minister passed around this clipboard to sign up for this mission trip and all of us were like, That is it. We’re givin’ our lives to Jesus. We’re goin’, you know, wherever He wants us to go.

Not one of them followed through on this (Laughter). They all ended up like spending the summer at the beach and I had somehow gotten locked into spending my summer in Mongolia, on this month-long mission trip. But it was the same thing that Martin was saying about the trip he went on. It was truly life-changing.

We would ride around in these Jeeps and using a generator, we would project “The Jesus Film,” you know, a reel-to-reel kind of situation (Laughing)–

Jim: Oh, yeah.

Laura: –on the sides of their tents. I mean, it was like nothing I’d ever seen before. It’s really even hard to describe it now. But as I watched these Mongolian nomads watching this story of Jesus, really hearing the gospel for the first time and just the tears rolling down their faces and then saying, “Now why would Jesus die for someone like me?”

Jim: Hm.

Laura: It reminded me of the fact that, that was a question I needed to grapple with, as well.

Jim: Well, this is really good. So, both of you are kind of on the same faith journey.

Laura: Isn’t that neat?

Jim: Yeah, which is wonderful, because you were gonna need that encouragement.

Laura: Uh-hm.

Jim: So, you get married and you’re both committed to the Lord in a profound way, in a fresh way, in a real commitment kind of way. And I’m sure your dreams and aspirations at that point are like every young couple. So, how old were you and what were you thinking after the honeymoon? What were your plans? What were your big dreams?

Martin: Well, yeah, we often said we went from the honeymoon to the E.R. (Laughing) quite quick. We really thought the world is available to us. We could do anything we wanted to do and I was just excited about what God has in store for us. I was doing college ministry at the time. And then she was offered a[n] opportunity to lead Music at Perimeter Church–

Jim: That’s in Atlanta. Yeah.

Martin: — in Atlanta, Georgia where we are now. And I was wrestling with kinda what God was calling me to. I also had a background in graphic design and was tryin’ to figure out what if God called me into the marketplace for that? And should I get more education there? And so, I was lookin’ actually to go back to school and to get more training in that area.

So, we took the leap there and went to Atlanta. I began grad school and she began working for Perimeter Church. Within just a few months of bein’ there in school, I began having some symptoms that went undiagnosed for about a year, I guess.

Laura: Uh-hm.

Martin: I was kinda fallin’ asleep in class. My symptoms were very vague. I was a little bit forgetful and I’d kind of fall asleep.

Jim: Tired.

Martin: Yeah, just kind of randomly.

Jim: And Laura, you were noticing these things, but didn’t know [what was wrong]?

Laura: I was. At first I think both of us thought we were kind of losing our minds, because it was just small changes and I remember, you know, sharing with some friends [saying], “Have you seen a counselor?” Or maybe you need to get more sleep. And he was in grad school and really studyin’ hard and so, for a while, we just thought it was nothing.

And so, when we finally got the diagnosis about a year after all of it started, there was a sense of relief in finally having an answer, but hearing the words “brain tumor” was a lot heavier and weightier answer than what we expected.

Jim: So, you’re about a year, year and a half into your marriage and you, you know, find out that Martin has a brain tumor. What happens next?

Laura: Well, one of the things [was], we met with a neurosurgeon and so, we had gone from just, you know, picking out our china (Chuckling) as newlyweds, to sitting with this neurosurgeon and hearing about the surgery Martin needed.

And the surgeon was very honest with us saying, you know, there are risks for these surgeries and it’s possible that Martin might even wake up from the surgery and not remember anything about his life before, you know, whether it’s not remembering parents, not remember who I am, not remember any of it.

And so, I’ll never forget getting this, even that first time after that initial surgery and as soon as our eyes met, he said, “You’re Laura Story.” (Laughing) And I thought, oh, good; he remembers me. And then I could tell he was a little confused and he said, “What are you doing here?” (Laughing) And that was my first kind of indication.

Jim: So, you kind of got both barrels and maybe what’s happening.

Laura: Well, I realized he knew exactly who I was, but he had no idea that we were married.

Jim: Right.

Laura: And so, I’m thinking, how do I break this news to him and finally I said, “You know, I’m here because I’m your wife and we’re married. We walked the aisle, you know, that whole thing with our family, the white dress, all of that.” And he looked at me just so stunned and finally said, “We’re married, yes!” (Laughter) It was like–

Jim: It was like walkin’ down the aisle a second time, right?

Laura:–it was like the best way something like that can go down. (Laughter)

Jim: I made a good decision. (Laughter) And at the same time, I mean, your music career’s beginning to take off, right?

Laura: Well, it was interesting. So, I had written this song “Indescribable” about a year earlier and I had begun to talk with some record labels in Nashville. And I didn’t grow up thinking that I would be anything like a singer. I was a string bass player. I was in “dorchestra,” like I … like I mentioned earlier.

I loved music, but didn’t see myself really being a lead singer of anything. But I began to talk with these labels about my songs, you know, getting out there. And actually the offer came from the label I’m currently with. The offer came within about 48 hours of these doctors diagnosing Martin with a tumor.

Jim: Oh.

Laura: And so, it was interesting, ’cause I had kind of waited for this opportunity and then found out this is happening with my husband. So, I’m sitting with these record label executives and saying, you know, “I can’t believe I’m saying this, but I’m gonna need to turn this down because we have such a long road ahead of us.”

And sure enough, they came back. You know, they continued to stay in touch, but probably six to nine months later, they came back and they said, “We really want you to reconsider, because we believe that the story that God is writing in y’all’s life needs to be what you’re writing your song about.” Because you know, you think about worship or Christian music. It doesn’t necessarily need to come from a place where everything has a happy ending, ’cause most people’s lives aren’t like that.

Jim: Yeah, you’re listening to “Focus on the Family.” I’m Jim Daly. Today our guests are Laura and Martin Elvington, Laura Story, her stage name. You probably know her songs very well, like “Indescribable” and other things. If you’re just tuning in, we’re talking about an early diagnosis that Martin had with a brain tumor only a year and half after being married.

Martin, you woke up from surgery, too. I want to hear your perspective with knowing what could happen and doctors explaining that to you. You go into surgery. You come back out. Things are different, right?

Martin: Yeah, very much, very much so. And I do recall is having difficulty with my short-term memory. We would have this kind of situation she just recounted there where I’d say, “Laura Story, who are you?” And we had this sweet moment. Ten minutes would pass, you know. Maybe she would leave to go get a cup of coffee or somethin’. She’d come back and I would do it again.

Jim: Right.

Martin: Like she walked back in the door and my short-term memory is what was severely affected. I forgot again that she was my wife and that would continue to happen. And so, Laura’s beginning to kind [realize]. She never said it out loud, but she’s kinda wondering, if this the new normal? And I’m tryin’ to put my life back together, at least from a memory standpoint and try to recall kind of how I got to this place.

Jim: Sure, did you get frustrated? I mean, here you are. You know there are missing pieces and you’re trying desperately to put them back together for all the right reasons. I mean, did you get frustrated in your faith? Did you say, “God, where are You?”

Martin: Never, never once.

Jim: Really.

Martin: I’m kidding. (Laughter)

Jim: I’m like impressed. (Laughter) Wow! You’re a much better man than I am.

Martin: It was frequent as just a couple days ago.

Jim: Yeah.

Martin: I still get frustrated absolutely. And it has been a difficult journey. There are still things I struggle to remember. There’s still short-term memory issues that I have difficulty with. It would not be abnormal if I were in a conversation with a friend next week and they said, “Martin, what did you do last week?” And I would have difficulty recounting this very event we’re having right now.”

Jim: Yeah.

Martin: Now do have short-term memory [problem], so I could look back on my Day-Timer or whatever and see that we were at Focus and then I would begin to—

Jim: Fill in the blanks.

Martin: —to, yeah, begin to kind of fill in the blanks. And then I would remember some of the conversations, some of the faces and that kind of thing.

Jim: I was gonna say, “Laura, that had to change the dynamic of your relationship in some ways. What were you feeling? I mean, were you saying, “God, where are You? This isn’t the dream that I had?”

Laura: Well, part of it, now I remember meeting initially with that surgeon and him giving us this pamphlet about, you know, what those five days of surgery and recovery would look like at Emery University Hospital. And day one would be the surgery. Day two and three in the ICU. Day four in a regular room and day five we would be discharged. Well, we ended up spending that first, I think a week, week and a half in the ICU. We finally moved to a regular room and discharged from the hospital, only to come back 10 days later with some complications.

Jim: Hm.

Laura: And while we were in the hospital then trying to take care of the complications, Martin developed a brain infection called meningitis and that’s when he actually coded and had to head back to the ICU and spent a few days not knowing whether he would make it or not. And that was yet, you know, another long road of about two more months spent in the hospital.

And finally, when he was discharged, the joy that we had felt the first time when he was discharged of, “Oh, we finally get to go home,” it was a little bit heavier because we could tell that some of the complications from the tumor or the surgery, that they may be a little bit longer lasting than what we expected.

And the doctors couldn’t tell us with all certainty that everything would go back to normal. And as a wife who just really had a pretty clear picture of what our perfect marriage and family was gonna look like, or what felt like the Lord kind of ripping that plan from my hands and reminding me that He isn’t so much a God that is gonna jump in line with my plans, as much as He’s concerned about bringing me to a place of trust and surrender, where I’m willing to say, “Not my plan, but Yours be done, Lord.”

Jim: Yeah, I mean, that is well-said. In fact, your title, When God Doesn’t Fix It, really grabs it because I think in the Christian context, those of us who follow Christ, we expect that remedy to come around. And that’s a good thing. That’s called “hope.”

Laura: Absolutely.

Jim: And we pray for that. We pray for healing. We pray for a better path forward. But it’s not always gonna be there immediately. It may not be there until we’re with Him in heaven, right?

Laura: Absolutely.

Jim: And some people may, you know, take exception with that, but it must be true because it doesn’t always end in the way we think it should. How do you manage that? It’s been how long now since you looked back on that operation and the complication? How many years?

Laura: It’s been 10 years now.

Jim: Ten years and things are better, but they’re not perfect.

Laura: Correct.

Jim: So, how do you absorb that, both of you? And how do you continue to trust God?

Laura: You know, When God Doesn’t Fix It, it really [is] about our story and how God has shown up as faithful in the midst of our story. But whether someone’s been through a health issues like we have, it really is for anyone who’s ever had God not answer your prayers the way that they thought He would or maybe not in the time frame that they thought that He should.

So, it’s for anyone who’s ever struggled with disappointment in their walk of faith and even when I call it “a walk of faith,” a lot of times as believers, we aren’t anticipating that it actually will be that. Like we want our walk with the Lord, but we don’t actually want to have faith (Laughing), you know, ’cause faith is believing in God’s goodness and in His faithfulness, even when we can’t see it.

Jim: Right and with things that are unseen.

Laura: Yeah, that was one of the things that we had to come to terms with is, you know, God, even in our lives, it looked like such a tragedy, but it was also an opportunity for us to take a step forward in our faith, believing His goodness even though we might not have been experiencing it in that season.

Jim: Yeah and at the top of the program we talked about that beautiful family picture we’re gonna post on www.focusonthefamily.com. That’s the poster picture for Focus on the Family. I just love it, because you did have children. But at this point when you’re trying to figure out, “Lord, what’s in the future?” that was not necessarily gonna happen, right? I mean, you weren’t sure.

Laura: I know. It really is amazing that (Laughing a lot of people will say, you know, so what [were] you guys thinking? You know, for a while we wondered. Like we thought maybe we should get someone to adopt us. (Laughter)

Jim: Well, I’m sure people were in different ways, right?

Laura: I know, absolutely. And we thought, who are we to be parents? But we prayed through it a lot, realized that the Lord even in the midst of the disability, the Lord had not taken away the desire that He’s given us to be parents. And we had some friends that we just asked to pray for us as we made the decision. And it was pretty amazing that the Lord allowed us to have these kids.

But it’s been the same thing as, you know, with his disability, as a couple, just a new way for us to lean on the Lord every day.

Jim: Hm, that is so good. And for you, Martin, I mean, were you at that stage, I mean, you’re coming out of all the complications, did you ever feel a burden for Laura that, look where I’m at; look at what I am? Am I a drag to her? Did that ever cross your mind?

Martin: Yes, absolutely, absolutely it did. I, you know, I grew up in a family where my dad worked. My mom stayed at home and took care of the kids and that was sort of the model that I saw among my friends and that kind of thing.

And so, I sort of had this presupposition that dads work and moms stay at home. And all of a sudden, I’m in a situation where my wife is having to work because I cannot. And so, there [were] two thoughts going through my mind. A, I had a longing to work, but could not or a longing for a certain career that I was now unable to do.

And both that along with that disappointment, then there’s the disappointment that I know my wife is experiencing that she would like to raise kids, you know, and potentially stay at home and she’s unable to do that. And so, we’re both sort of disappointed with kind of the path that God had given us. And you know, I think we’ve both come to embrace the calling that we have, but it was certainly kind of readjustment of expectations.

Jim: Yeah.

Laura: And one thing we’ve learned, it would be easy for us to identify Martin’s disability as the biggest problem in our marriage. But what we’ve learned (Laughing) that really our sin is the biggest problem in our marriage. And we so often see that and displayed in the context of disability in the same way that, you know, I talk to other couples that would say, if my husband only had a better job, if I had a different mother-in-law. (Laughing) Or if we could only get pregnant, or I mean, just heavy things that they would say, “Man, this is the biggest problem in our marriage.”

But for us, the more we began to own our sin and how it’s displayed through Martin’s disability, the more we were able to see, you know, this disability, it’s certainly something we never asked for, but it’s something we believe that God truly can redeem and use for good, because we believe that God can use all things for that.

Jim: Well, and that’s such a healthy perspective. I mean, but it’s hard to get there.

Laura: Oh, I’m not saying (Laughter) that we live that way every day.

Jim: Oh, no. I mean, you’re on the way. I mean, I can see that in your relationship and the way you’re talking with each other and where you’re at today compared to where you were 10 years ago, right?

Laura: But with his short-term memory deficit, it can either be a constant irritant in our relationship or a means of grace. You know, when he asks me for the fourth time, you know, where his backpack is, you know, I can either see that as “Aah!” you know, if he asks me that one more time! I can either be frustrated or I can see it as more opportunities to answer him in kindness. And I wish I could tell you that I always chose to answer n in kindness, but that’s just another area that the Lord’s working on both of us.

Jim: Okay, this is what we need to do, because we’re getting to some real practical spiritual help and I think we need to come back next time and continue to explore how you apply this day to day. I mean, I appreciate that vulnerability, Laura, because I think for all of us, even if we aren’t living in the same situation you’re living in, we don’t have a medical issue in our marriage, there are other surgeries that have occurred that have left a deficit, emotional, whatever it might be, spiritual.

Laura: Yes.

Jim: And I think there are some wonderful lessons that we can learn from you. So, let’s come back next time if you’re willing and talk more about your wonderful book, When God Doesn’t Fix It. It’s such an unchristian title. I love it.

Laura: I know. (Laughter)

Jim: No, I love it, because that’s the real world. That’s where we live and there are many people that are gonna be helped by that conversation and hopefully, today’s conversation.

John: Yeah and you can get the CD or a download of our discussion today and find out more about When God Doesn’t Fix It over at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio or call us. Our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

And it may be that we’ve touched on some things that are hard for you to deal with. We have caring Christian counselors here. They would count it a privilege to talk through some of these things with you and help you get onto a journey, a path of wholeness and wellness. We have other resources, as well. Again, our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

And when you make a generous gift of any amount to the ministry of Focus on the Family, we’ll send a copy of Laura Story’s book, When God Doesn’t Fix It, as our way of saying thank you.

Jim: Laura, as we close, because we’ve gotta give that lifeline to that person that might be in trouble. When God hasn’t fixed it and you’re not sure if you’re gonna get the fix, how do you go to bed tonight trusting in Him?

Laura: Well, I don’t want it to sound too cliché, but you truly learn to find your hope in the person of Jesus. A lot of times we look for hope in Jesus changing our circumstances. And sometimes He does that, but other times He says, “No, I just want you to trust in Me.”

You know, you think about a guy like Paul who wrote about freedom from a jail cell. You think about him talking about joy, even in the midst of what was the hardest time in his life. And so, we see example after example in the Scriptures of God being that joy, being that peace even in the midst of Him not changing our circumstances the way that we think He should.

Jim: That is good.

John: And on behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team here, thanks for listening. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back next time, as we once again, hear from Martin and Laura Elvington and help you and your family thrive.

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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