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Helping Hurting Kids Through Foster Care (Part 2 of 2)

Helping Hurting Kids Through Foster Care (Part 2 of 2)

Foster parents Major T.J. Menn and his wife, Jenn, discuss the joys and challenges of caring for 24 different children over a 10-year period, and encourage listeners to consider how they can share God's love with orphans and foster kids. (Part 2 of 2)

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Mrs. Jenn Menn: And so, when we got involved in foster parenting, we kind of expected to help the children, but we didn’t realize how much it would affect the people that we worked with and our neighbors and the birth parents. And there’s been so much opportunity to really share the gospel. I think that’s one of the reason[s] that Scripture says that taking care of orphans is a pure and undefiled religion, because it just shines light very purely when people see people loving children.

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John Fuller: Reflections from Jenn Menn and she and her husband, TJ have been very involved in the foster-care movement and have experienced 24 kids to date coming into their home and spending time with them. They’re with us in the studio here today on “Focus on the Family.” Your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, I want to be really up front. We do have a purpose in the program we aired last time and now this time and that is to kind of spark the idea in your heart, those of you listening, to say, do we have the capacity? Is this something we could consider doing? And that is to get engaged with the foster system.

We have too few good families involved in foster care. We have some excellent families that are doing it, but there’s not enough and we need more. And that includes respite care. You could come alongside a foster-care family to help them just, you know, do laundry for them for a weekend and maybe if you can be certified, you can be respite givers, as well. Jean and I are doing that right now and that’s just taking the foster kids for a long weekend and it’s almost like “grandparenting.” It’s kinda fun. At the end [on] Sunday night, you hand ’em back and say, “This is great. We’ll do this for you again sometime.”

But there [are] so many ways that families can get involved and I want to be really up front to say, we are tryin’ to encourage you to consider this and pray about it, because these little darlings need people who truly can love them in a way that is supernatural, that comes from God’s heart, because they’re gonna push you to the test. And we’re gonna talk about that today.

John: Yeah and the Menn’s, as I said, have been involved in foster care ministry for more than 10 years and TJ is an aviation office in the U.S. Army and teaches economics at West Point. And Jenn, in addition to being a full-time mom for six foster-care kids right now, has a small counseling practice, as well. And together they’ve written a book called Faith to Foster and that’s the basis of our conversation today.

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Jim: Welcome to “Focus on the Family” again.

Mr. TJ Menn: Thank you.

Mrs. Jenn Menn: Yeah, thanks for havin’ us back.

TJ: So good to be here.

Jim: Okay, Jenn, I’m gonna connect you right now to all the moms listening. You have six kids under 9, right?

Jenn: Yes. (Laughter)

Jim: Okay, everyone just went, “What?! Wow!” How in the world do you manage that on the regular daily routine?

Jenn: Well, three of our girls are within 28 months of each other.

Jim: Oh, my goodness.

Jenn: They’re our little three amigos and you know, we treat ’em like one in a lot of ways.

Jim: Do they plot against you? (Laughter) Like you know, everyday biological kids will, you know?

Jenn: We can streamline. All three of them can be in the tub while I can be bathing the baby in his little baby bath, you know, multiple things.

Jim: Well, it comes down to efficiency, doesn’t it?

Jenn: There you go.

Jim: But that is one of the things. I mean, a lot of people will be fearful because you can’t manage this environment as much as you think you can or would like to. Isn’t that one of the bottom themes? You’re not gonna control this environment the way you want to.

TJ: That’s exactly right and from a military officer’s perspective, oftentimes (Laughter), you know, oftentimes I want immediate obedience. And you know, I just want the kids [to obey]; I should say something one time and it should just happen. And it doesn’t work out that way.

Jenn: Well, and not just with the kids, but also the circumstances they’re in, you know. We want the judges to make decisions. We want the caseworkers to stand by their word. And we want certainty and there’s a whole lot of uncertainty in there.

We sometimes use the analogy that waiting for the perfect time to foster parent is like waiting for the ocean to stand still. And that’s both true for our lives, but also for the kids’ lives and for, you know, we’re entering into some weighty waters and sometimes we feel like our house is a rocking boat.

Jim: TJ, let me ask you, watching Jenn, I mean, you’re going in and out of the home, teaching at West Point, graduating West Point, active in the military, when you were deploying was that hard for you to walk away from this, knowing the load that Jenn was gonna be under?

TJ: It was. It was extremely difficult and I think there were times just to be very real and honest, there were times when I looked at Jenn and say her sobbing and just uncontrollable, you know, sorrow and things that I was like, “Hey, we’re done. We’re not doin’ this anymore. Like it’s too much.” And I would call her. Sometimes I would be deployed, you know, where 10-, 12-hours difference. And so, we would work nights and at the end of my missions, I would call and it’d be, you know, right before Jenn was going to bed.

And so, she’s had a long day and maybe she’s not as hopeful or as cheerful, you know, as maybe she would be in the morning. “But just tell me about all the things that happened through the day.” And I mean, there’d be crying on the phone. There’d be difficult circumstances and it would, you know, it was not good for me to hear that because it was difficult. And especially being separated from her and the family was really tough.

One thing that I learned also with deployments is, we had one placement that was with us for 23 months, so just short of two years. And those kids and us really bonded. And I saw, we don’t have biological children of our own and I’ve deployed multiple times, but I saw the hurt, I think, that it did to the kids every time we had to say goodbye. And it got to the point where it was almost just easier, I don’t know if it’s the best, but what we did is, I’d just leave in the middle of the night. And that way, we didn’t have to go through the trauma and it would always be, “Daddy’s at work.”

Jim: Yeah.

TJ: And it might be a while till daddy gets home.

Jim: Yeah and I know that we’re talking about the heart-wrenching things. But one of the funny things listening to you as a military guy talk like that, it’s almost like the shoe’s on the other foot. I would expect you to be saying, “Come on, soldier,” speaking to Jenn. “Pick yourself up by your bootstraps. Let’s go in there and take the camp,” or you know (Laughing), whatever it might be. But you were the one saying, “Okay, we’re done.” And it sounds like Jenn was saying, “We’ll get through it,” even through your tears, which I so appreciate that honesty. That is this environment. You are gonna cry. You are gonna feel, but that’s okay. It’s not a bad thing. I think in the Western culture, particularly here in the U.S., Canada, we try to get comfortable. We want comfort above all.

And that’s why I think we struggle to get more families engaged here. This is gonna be messy. This is gonna put you in touch with things that you don’t even know are in your heart—abandonment, the loss of a child that you’ve connected with over a two-year period or whatever period of time it might be. These are real emotions. And I think the Lord’s sayin’, “Feel ’em. I’ve given you these emotions. Use them for those around you. Don’t guard yourself. Don’t you know, put yourself behind some cloistered perfect environment. That’s not what I’m calling you to. I’m calling you to messy.”

TJ: And how many times does Jesus tell us, “Do not fear. (Laughter) I am with you. Do not fear.” And that’s what, honestly we think fear is at the root of what stops or prevents a lot of people from participating in these ministries. And as a husband and wife, because we’ve experienced those emotions together, because we’ve experienced tremendous joys and tremendous sorrows together, I really feel like it’s acted as a cord to bind our marriage together in a way that we wouldn’t have otherwise.

Jim: Through those experiences.

TJ: Absolutely.

Jenn: Well, and sometimes I’m crying because I’m finally seeing someone break through fear, you know? When Jasmine came to us, she was by far, the most traumatized little girl at 4-years-old. She’d fallen out of a two-story window and that was the least of her traumas. And she had scars over her body. She could hardly speak except for her little gibberish language. She would choose to play with tissues. She wouldn’t even let you wet her hair, let along take her out somewhere.

And that was hard and we felt like she was missing out on so much that life had for her. And so, when within a year I see her twirling around at the beach in a little ballerina tutu, you better believe I’m crying. She deserves for someone to cry over that experience and to rejoice with her that she has finally exchanged that slavery of fear for a spirit of sonship. You know, she knows who she is.

Jim: I’m hearin’ that emotion like a mama’s heart.

Jenn: (Laughing)

Jim: That’s good. I mean, you’re connected. You have a heart for her and who does? It’s you and that’s a beautiful thing. The tears are in your eyes right now. It is awesome. But it does come with a price, doesn’t it?

Jenn: Well, in different times when she did (Laughing) would start to—he’s teary, too– when he’d to threaten, you know, like I don’t know if we’re gonna do this anymore. I shouldn’t say threaten, but just exclaimed, I’d say through my tears, “I’ll be fine in the morning.” (Laughing) “It’s okay.”

Jim: What was driving you? Boy, you got tears in your eyes, too, TJ and I have ’em in mine.

TJ: Thanks. (Laughter)

Jim: I mean, because we’ve experienced this, where you are wrestling with those things that are out of your control. And the easiest thing for us to do is say, “Lord, I got 25,000 reasons why I can’t do this right now.” And you could buy into that, but you guys have chosen not to. You go to the pain area and I think it’s beautiful.

Jenn: Well, and I think, well, you ask what drives it? I mean, honestly it’s faith hope and love. Like that’s all that remains sometimes in these kids’ lives. faith that if we invest in them, that God is gonna work through them. It is love, knowing that, that is what’s gonna soften their heart. And then there’s hope, hope that yes, there is going to be a future for these kids, even if we don’t get to see it.

Jim: Where have you seen that blossom in these children? Give us a story or two where you have seen that transformation.

Jenn: You know, on the first day we mentioned Jack and Ariel, the two teenagers that came to us. And they were with us for about a year. They had already been in foster care for a year where that foster mom just gave up on ’em and kicked them out.

Jenn: And we got to see their family reunite. We saw their parents going from incarcerated and homeless, to both working steady jobs, both sober and move into a home. And you know, we were there at the court with them and saw that family just embrace in tears and hugs. We were there celebrating their report cards that finally weren’t failing. We were there for a lot of that and yeah, I’d say that’s one of the examples that we would share.

TJ: Well, and we’ve been privileged; we’ve baptized one of the children, another baptism that’s upcoming soon with one of the children that’s in our home. And so, to see and to get to experience the harvest of, you know, sowing these seeds into these children’s live has been remarkable.

Jim: And that’s the reward. When you talk about the pain and the tears on the phone at night and you wouldn’t believe the rough day I had. Okay, so we have scared some people to death. (Laughter) And they’ve actually said to the radio–we can hear you actually (Laughter)–where they’ve said, “Okay, that’s why I haven’t done it.”

Beyond that spiritual fruit, you know, being able to see the transformation of these children, what are some of the other positive benefits or positive stories that you could share with us, that you lay down at night and you say, “Hon, this is exactly why we’re in this.”

Jenn: Keeping siblings together. Sometimes we’ve said yes to a placement because we knew we were the only one that could keep them together. And when I see the siblings, I mean, right now we have a sibling group of four in our mix and sometimes I just sit there and watch them play with each other and tickle and giggle. And I wonder if we would’ve had to separate them into groups of two, like who would you split up? Who would you do that to?

Jim: And that happens a lot unfortunately, because there [are] not a lot of foster parents that are willing to take large sibling groups like that. So, they have to split you up. That almost happened to me when I was 9. I mean, three of us were in this foster home and they said, “We can split you guys up or you can kinda hunker down here.” And I remember thinking, “No, we can get through it here,” even though it was a disaster placement with that foster family, the desire, the anchor in your life at that point is to stay together, ’cause that’s the only together you have.

TJ: And when we share at churches or things and we ask people to think of the three most important things in your life. And oftentimes that tends to be, you know, your siblings or your family, maybe some material possession and you know, maybe a pet or something is oftentimes what does happen. And if you think about a removal of a foster child and how quickly it happens, their possessions get thrown into a garbage bag oftentimes.

Oftentimes. They don’t get to say goodbye to their mom or dad usually. And then if their siblings are split up, by the end of this process, they’re usually left with one, maybe none of those three most important things in their life. In a period of maybe five or six hours their world is just turned upside down. And so, to be able to preserve the sibling groups is great and I’d say another benefit that we’ve really experienced with foster care, outside of the kids themselves, is the community.

And just being able to, you know, Jesus says, “Let your light shine before men that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.” And when you walk into a grocery store or when you walk into a public place, Jenn walks into a store with four little ones that are obviously a different race, you know, than she is and that is a bright light that shines to people. And when they know that we’re doing it because Jesus tells us to or because we’re loving the kids because of our faith, I think that brings glory to God. And I really think that, that’s a huge thing; the interaction with the community has been phenomenal.

John: TJ Menn and his wife, Jenn are sharing their story on today’s “Focus on the Family” with Jim Daly. We’ll encourage you to learn more about foster care and how you can get involved when you stop by www.focusonthefmaily.com/radio. And TJ, let me ask you about that, how the children are touching lives in your community and in your church?

TJ: I think without the churches that we’ve been a part of and support we’ve received, sir, you mentioned earlier just about the importance of respite care. Right now the two youngest ones we have are in respite care. And we wouldn’t be able to be here without that. And the importance of community and just the church helping has been phenomenal. And I agree, not everyone can foster or is called to foster, but I think a lot of people can support fostering. And this has really allowed, I think given the church a rallying cry to unify behind. Because there’s no false agenda here. There [are] no ulterior motives. You’re loving the kids and the community sees that.

Jim: Well, let me add this, because I’ve thought about this, being foster parents ourselves and you know, Jean and I from time to time have to travel. And that became a real constraint for us, because we couldn’t find qualified respite foster parents who could just take the kids for a week if we had to go somewhere.

And unfortunately, the kids that we were fostering in one instance, we had to break them into two different respite situations. Respite again is just families that are able to provide short-term care for a foster family. So, we needed two weeks for this particular trip and we had to have one family for one week and another family for the other week, both families we did not know. One family worked out tremendously well and we’re actually friends with them now.

The other family, it was disastrous. They were feeding them Cheetos for dinner and we weren’t gonna tolerate that. When we found out about it, we spoke very forcefully to the system about this particular family. And you just have to have more people. And that’s why I would plead with the churches, with pastors. Get engaged. Have a foster community within your church and let them form a group that they can become active in the church. And they may not all want to foster, but for those who do foster, they can provide respite care like we’ve talked about. Do laundry for ’em on a weekend. Do shopping. Let them give you a shopping list and go do shopping for them. Then it’ll probably be, you know, Costco or Sam’s (Chuckling), ’cause it’s big shopping.

But those are the things you could do that really help a family out. And I think through the research we’ve seen that, if five of so families can get around a foster family, they will survive and do really well. But they need that kind of support.

You’re in the military. You know the meaning of logistics. (Laughter) That’s what we’re really talkin’ about, right?

TJ: Yes, sir.

Jim: What does it take to put a soldier in the field to fight a battle? It’s more than one person.

TJ: Oh, absolutely.

Jim: You have a whole troop of people that help bring food and water and supplies to that group.

TJ: And James 1:22 says, “Do not merely listen to the Word and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.” And that’s right before James 1:27 says, “Religion that God our Father accepts is pure and faultless.”

Jenn: Well, and I think it’s taken us asking for help, too. Like it would be hard for people to help us in specific ways if we were like, “No, no, no, no, no. We got. We got it.” And I think in America that’s tempting to say, that we have it under control. But again, asking for help is how we’ve been able to experience that blessing. And people are so willing to help when we give them something specific and ask them.

Jim: TJ and Jenn, you described spiritual warfare in your book and how that plays out in this environment when you have these little kids coming into your home that are coming from a variety of backgrounds—some abusive, some they just feel deserted, ’cause their parents walked out, whatever the reason. Describe for us what that spiritual batter looks like. What did you say in your book about it?

Jenn: I think sometimes it can look like animosity between the different adults that are involved and kind of co-parenting these kids—the caseworker, the advocate for them, as well as us—just there not being unity there.

And sometimes it can look like terror in the kids, as far as just waking up in the middle of the night, having night terrors or acting in ways that are regressing from what they know and where it come[s] from. And I think the ways that we’ve learned to respond once we identify it is really praying, especially sometimes these are generational issues. We’ve had plenty of kids whose parents were involved with child protective services. So, this is nothing new to them.

Jim: Yeah.

Jenn: And so, you know, even in some babies that will never see the end of their story, just in praying that God would free them from the sins of their parents and let them know redemption and lettin’ Him know.

Jim: And I want to emphasize that really it can be a complex world for the children to understand. I mean, I know for Jean and I, when we’ve done reunification meetings, which is where all the state workers come together. Your guardian ad litem, that’s the person designated to represent the child to court, in a court setting, you can have 13, 14, 15 different state workers engaged with these children. And the children don’t know who to turn to. They try to minimize that.

But it’s a revolving door of adults. Who’s actually my mommy and daddy here, is what you hear in so many ways with these little ones, don’t you?

TJ: Yeah and you mentioned spiritual warfare earlier. In addition to, I think, the marriages of the foster parents are under attack. And I was deploying so frequently, I think, because I was in a special operations unit, but our marriage started really to feel the strain of the deployments, of the foster kids, of just the work tempo and all kinds of stuff. And I really feel like we were attacked spiritually in our marriage.

Jim: How did you address that? How did you guys get back on the right page?

TJ: We do pray, so on those phone calls we’d pray together before we go to sleep every night. We pray before meals and things and I think prayer is huge between a couple. And I think if you’re not a couple that’s married and praying together, like you oughta be every day, at least once a day. And so, I think prayer is big. I think, so you have time for devotionals and then honestly, I left the unit I was with, largely because another opportunity presented itself and just because I don’t know if we could’ve maintained the pace that we were at in our marriage. You know, there needed to be some changes.

Jim: So, you’re makin’ choices that supported the family, as opposed to your career perhaps.

TJ: Yes, sir.

Jim: I mean, that’s a big statement to a lot of people, both men and women. That’s an underlining.

John: Uh-hm.

Jim: That’s something we need to add an exclamation point to hear. That is a great choice.

TJ: Yes, sir and I mean, there’s phenomenal opportunities. Teaching at West Point is a great opportunity and that was one of the things. And so, God provides and God, you know, knows. But I think there is also another lie that Jenn was kinda touching on before, that God may not give you more than you can handle.

Jim: Yeah.

TJ: Well, I think oftentimes God gives us a lot more than we can handle and the only way we can handle it is through and with Him.

Jim: Jenn, you talked about Harmony, who is a newborn, that really tested you in some ways. What happened?

Jenn: There was just somethin’. I think TJ was actually the one who had more of the experience, but there was just somethin’ in her eyes sometimes that it would almost glaze over. She was a drug exposed infant that came to us, the first newborn we had. And as she as going through the withdrawals of the drugs in her system, you know, there were just moments where her whole body would tense in a way that just drew us to prayer.

And so, at different times during the night, she often wouldn’t sleep well. And one night TJ was out doing some night missions and I remember just having an uneasiness when he left that night, just thinkin’ somethin’ was gonna go wrong. You know how you get those gut feelings. And then I was up feeding Harmony at the time and I just prayed, “Lord, if somethin’s goin’ on, you know, just protect TJ.” And Harmony was up every hour of the night and as I kept just kinda waking up in my half sleep, I would just begin to pray for TJ who was just so on my heart.

And the next morning when TJ came home from work, he ended up being there for breakfast. I’m like, “What are you doin’ home? You’re home early.” He was, “Oh, it was the worst mission. We couldn’t even complete our mission. It’s the first one we’ve ever had to fail, ’cause there just kept being things wrong with the helicopter. We couldn’t even get up in the air.”

And then later on in the day, they found out that there was a major maintenance issue in one of the helicopters that they weren’t able to see. But if they would’ve gone up in the air, they would’ve crashed. And you know, there’s a Psalm, Psalm 8 where it says, “From the lips of infants and children, God has ordained praise.” And I just so thank God for Harmony, that we had her during that time, because all night she just kept me up. She was just praising the Lord—

Jim: Kept crying.

Jenn: –to keep me prayin’ and protecting that.

Jim: Isn’t that somethin’?

John: And TJ, did you get any chills up your spine as you heard the story of her prayers and the helicopter?

TJ: Oh, certainly, yeah and I mean, we bumped helicopters and there were things that went wrong with the second and third helicopters that we went to. And so, it was quite unusual and just really frustrating on one hand, but you know, you hear the story and like, well, maybe that was good. (Laughing)

Jenn: Better that than dead.

Jim: You know, TJ and Jenn, again, people are listening. I’m thinking of the mom that’s hearing your heart, Jenn and even your tears earlier and they’re saying, “Man, she’s a supermom. That guy’s a military dad. He’s got training to take on these kind of things.” They are feeling like you two are doing it and gettin’ through it because you’re really exceptional people.

As we end today, I just want to give you a moment to make the case. I’ve tried, but you’re in it. You’re livin’ it. You’ve had, you know, over 20 kids go through your home. You make the case.

Jenn: Sure. So, TJ likes to say the Holy Spirit’s an equal-opportunity employer. He likes to involve all sorts of people.

And you know, we look through Scripture and see how God uses such ordinary and sinful people and I am definitely one of them. There’s nothing super human about us at all. It’s just sharing the stories of how God’s worked through our lives by just being willing to just open our home.

And most people who have interacted with kids and seen how forgiving they are, have seen how genuine they are, have seen how prone they are to just want affection and attachment. And I’d say that the standards of what a kid wants is usually pretty low. And we think that we need to offer them so much more, but it’s really our love that’ll speak volumes to that.

Jim: TJ, anything you want to add for the dads that are saying, “You know, honey, I love your heart, but we’re just in a spot that we can do this,” the more practical guy.

TJ: From the practical aspects, I’d say some people don’t let maybe financial issues stop you. One of the things is, the state will help reimburse you for some of the expenses. And I’d also say that you can do this when both parents are still working.

And just like Jenn mentioned earlier, kids just want a home. We’ve had several kids ask us, “Can we call you ‘mom’ and ‘dad?’” And they just want a mom and dad and when especially school-age kids, they want to have somebody that they can go home and they can tell their friends, “That’s my mom” or “That’s my dad.” And your listeners and Christians make wonderful moms and dads.

Jim: Hm. I mean, first of all, thank you both for the service to our country and what you’ve done and what you’re continuing to do, teaching at West Point. Thank you for that. And then to go beyond that and to serve in such a wonderful capacity to be foster parents in the midst of all that other stuff, the other demands that are on your lives. Few of us have any kind of excuse to say, “Yeah, them, but not me.”

So, thank you for being that example and I am hopeful that more people will get involved in foster [care] and do the job the Lord needs us to do, to proclaim His gospel in this area. So, thank you for being with us.

TJ: Thank you so much and we’re praying for the same thing.

Jenn: Yeah.

Closing:

John: Well, TJ and Jenn Menn have been our guests for this “Focus on the Family” broadcast and we’re gonna recommend that you contact us about getting their book, Faith to Foster. And while you’re at it, request a download or a CD of our two-day program and the many other resources that we have about how you and your family can help needy children.

As one example, we have a whole website devoted to connecting families with the more than 100,000 legal orphans who are currently living in the foster-care system. We’re gonna link over to www.icareaboutorphans.org, where you can learn more about foster care and adoption and how you can help foster families in your community, www.focusonthefamily.com/radio or call 1-800, the letter A and the word FAMILY; 800-232-6459.

And please, when you get in touch, support our efforts to encourage and educate others about ministry opportunities like this. Your financial support of Focus on the Family today will make a difference in how we, as a church body, fulfill the Scripture in James about helping widows and orphans in their time of need. Make a generous donation today and we’ll send a complimentary copy of the book, Faith to Foster. You can donate at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio or when you call 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

Now coming up next time, we’re going to be celebrating the National Day of Prayer with an inspiring message from U.S. Senate Chaplain, Barry Black.

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U.S. Senate Chaplain Barry Black: My friends, God wants us to pray when we need Him, even as a parent wants to be with a child who needs him or her.

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As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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