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Helping Your Young Adult Thrive in College

Helping Your Young Adult Thrive in College

Dr. Barry Corey, President of Biola University, offers college students practical advice for getting the most out of their higher education experience amidst the challenges of the Coronavirus pandemic. Topics include embracing online classes and distancing restrictions, making friends and avoiding isolation, and finding ways to serve others.
Original Air Date: August 10, 2020

John Fuller: So, the new normal – is this it or is there something else? And how long is all this going to last? It affects all of us, especially those who are planning on returning to college. Um, I’m John Fuller, along with Jim Daly. This is Focus on the Family and here are some comments that we had from some interns that spent some summertime here with us. They offered these thoughts about going back to school.

Intern 1: All my classes are online and it’s very stressful. I just don’t know how I’m going to do it.

Intern 2: The only anxiety I have about not returning to school is potentially losing out on a good semester of making friends and building relationships through college.

Intern 3: I was supposed to graduate summa cum laude. But my graduation ceremony got canceled.

Intern 4: I was super excited to go back to school and participate in theater this semester, but now we don’t even know if we’re gonna be allowed to perform.

Intern 5: You know, this will be my last semester and this will be my senior year. And it’s kind of sad.

John: Well, today we’re going to be offering some hope and encouragement for college students and their parents on this Focus on the Family broadcast.

Jim Daly: John, college can be a really exciting time. I remember those days. There are fun times, great classes, meeting great friends – friends that I still have today. And then there’s the stress. The normal stress of going to university and not knowing if I’m in the perfect will of God. Is this what I’m supposed to do? And I’m not really doing well in this class. Should I drop it or take it again? Whatever it might be. Those are the normal things. And now we add this pandemic to the whole equation and young people are thinking, wow, is it time to just take a step back, maybe not go to college right now? Or if I go, am I going to get some value out of this that goes, you know, back to normal? So, we’re hitting this topic today with a wonderful friend. And in fact, I’ve got two boys right now, a senior in high school, and I’ve got Trent, who’s a sophomore in college. So, this really is right where I’m living today.

John: Yeah. A lot of parents have felt this in the past. It’s just so much more complex as you’re indicating. And we have Dr. Barry Corey with us to discuss this. He’s the president of Biola University, has been since 2007. He’s a former pastor and the dad of three college educated kids and has written a great book called Make the Most of It: A Guide to Loving Your College Years. And, of course, we have that here at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Dr. Corey – Barry, my good friend. Welcome back to Focus on the Family.

Dr. Barry Corey: Thank you, Jim, it’s always a pleasure to be with you even if it’s virtual.

Jim: Okay. I’m always saying you to me are the funnest college president I’ve ever met (laughter).

Barry: Oh!

Jim: Where do you – where do you find that spring of joy as you’re managing – I mean, Biola in Southern California. How many students do you have?

Barry: Uh, we have 6,000 students. And that’s…

Jim: It’s a big school.

Barry: …That’s where my joy comes from, I think.

Jim: Yeah. And you do such a remarkable job. And so, you know, I’ve never really said that so publicly, but I love who you are and what you do. I’ve witnessed it. I’ve been on the campus as you’ve interacted with those students. And it’s awesome the way the kids come to you and trust you and talk with you and the way you turn your full attention on them. I mean, I saw it and I just think it’s a good model for all college presidents to be more like Barry Corey.

Barry: Mm. Well…

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: Hey, let me – let me start with the condition of young people today, emotionally and spiritually. Where do you think things are at? You are interacting with a lot of young people. What’s your assessment of how they’re doing?

Barry: Yeah, well, if you’re talking about today being, um, covid today or today being just this kind of rising generation of students. Um, this is this is a season that they didn’t prepare for and this is the – probably the greatest global crisis that they’ve ever experienced and maybe ever will. So, I see this as a time for – for students to, like, both deal with their anxieties and try to figure out where their hope is. There’s a profound uncertainty right now in this generation. And, um, you know what – will I got a job? Um, you know, will I make it through college? And I heard your interns like – like what’s college going to be like? That one study students that studying theater. I mean, it’s hard to do theater when you have to keep a six foot distance and wear a face covering – right?

Jim: Yeah.

Barry: So, there’s just a lot of profound disappointment, um, that this generation is facing. But there’s never been a better moment to rise above that and take this crisis and turn it into this generation’s like moment to – to rise up.

Jim: No, it’s so true. You know, often as parents, we talk about walking uphill to school, both directions, that kind of thing (laughter).

Barry: Mm hmm.

Jim: You know, that there’s nothing new under the sun. But this does feel like a very unique environment. I mean, it’s been about 100 years since a pandemic had gripped the – the world. It is different, isn’t it?

Barry: Yeah, it’s different and obviously it’s hard not to be in physical community. That’s what, you know, the traditional college experience is like. Granted, there’s lots of new technological developments where we’re doing things in more hybrid fashion and, you know, digital connectivity. But – but actually being there and – and eating together on a table and going on retreats together and sitting in the office of the faculty member to be mentored by that person and just hanging out late in the residence halls and just kind of pondering the bigger issues of life that happens in this higher education culture that we’re so used to. And, granted, there are a lot of things that are changing. But what’s being missed right now – and I hear from our students is like – like we want to – we want to be together. We want to be in community with each other. And then that’s what is their greatest disappointment right now.

Jim: Yeah. I want to get to that in a minute about how we’re built for relationship. But before we do, when we – when we, um, look at the situation, the pandemic, everything that we’re encountering with it, you are challenging students to see this as a moment to apply virtue versus considering it a curse. Now, I think you’re going to split the audience here right down the middle. But how do we as Christians see this as a moment to put virtue on display?

Barry: Yeah. So, I mean, granted, this is the first one we’ve had like this in a century, um, but it’s not the first one that Christians have ever gone through.

Jim: That’s true.

Barry: And – and I know if you, um – if you read the history of calamities and plagues and catastrophes that our world has faced, it’s – it was often the rising generation of Christians that, like – that – that kind of rose up to the occasion and began to show, um, compassion, not just on their brothers and sisters in the faith, but on pagans, on those folks that, like, didn’t believe and were maybe antagonistic to – to, um, what they what they believe. So, it’s certainly – Jim, it’s a hard season for college students right now. It’s foggy. No one knows when it’s going to end. Students are facing, like, financial issues and health issues and uncertainties about college. But this is – when we talk about virtue – this is an opportunity for students to see these constraints as a virtue and not as a curse. And so, you know, here in my role at Biola, I want this moment, um, that life has given this rising generation of Christians. That one, that they focus not on what they’ve lost, but really how much they’ve gained through this. And I think that is a perspectival issue that – that students need to begin to think about. So, you know, when Paul talks about, like, you know, suffering brings about perseverance, perseverance brings about character, character brings about hope – to get from suffering to hope there are those way stations along the way and what is it like for this generation to understand? What is it mean to persevere? And how is character development happening? And we shouldn’t ask students to take a Disney fastpass – right? – from suffering to hope without dwelling in perseverance and character building. And this is a moment for them. I mean, I think this is the best time to be in college. And obviously, from my perspective, the best time to be at a college that has, like, a deep faith foundation because, you know, here we are. What are you gonna do to restore the sick and help those who are poor and homeless and times of oppression, educating the illiterate? All of those things have happened over the years with the rising generation. And it can happen again right now in community with students, even if it’s a virtual community. So, I see this as a great opportunity, the best time to be in college, and maybe even especially in a Christian college right now is today.

Jim: No, I appreciate that very much, because I think – I think as Americans, we struggle with understanding that Biblical formula – how we get to hope through adversity. And what a great reminder and it’s just like the Lord to put us through something, to get us back to our – as Christians, as our core values. Right?

Barry: Right. Exactly.

Jim: And it’s – it’s – it’s a great discipline and one that usually modernity and materialism kind of masks for us. We go after the stuff, the shiny stuff, and we forget the character building that you’re referring to. And I – that’s why I have great hope for this younger generation. Let me address something that we’re seeing in the news quite a bit. And it’s related to covid, but I’m sure you’re seeing it on the college campuses, too. This rise in depression and anxiety in young people. This is something you experienced personally. You address it in the book. Speak to the environment there. I mean, college causes you a bit of anxiety anyway. I’m not performing at the level I want to. I’ve got, you know, whatever problem I’m having. So, there tends to be a lot of anxiety in that environment. But how is it even worse now? And how do you use a college president – how do you address your students to be mindful of their mental health?

Barry: Yeah, that, I mean, already there are, you know, in this generation of students, significant, you know, mental health challenges that they’re facing and then obviously exacerbated – right? – by covid. So, I mean, I in – this book is just like a lot of practical advice to students on how to manage the, um – the weight of college. And when I went to college, I – I was telling you a little bit earlier I was an introvert, um, still am to a certain degree, and it was very hard for me to kind of feel like I was fitting in. I traveled halfway across the country. My parents put me on a plane, you know, somebody picked me up and there it was. You know, plunked right into the middle of a college with people I didn’t know.

Jim: Right.

Barry: And I would, you know, go to the cafeteria and sit there, like, by myself. And I didn’t have a phone look at (laughter), right? So, I’m just like – I’m looking at people wondering, you know, what they’re thinking of me by – you know, all alone there. But I – it took me a while and – but I realized there were a lot more students like me than, um, maybe were willing to admit it. I think there’s an imposter system – syndrome that some students feel like they want to project the fact that they fit in. But it just takes a while and it’s jarring and take the long road and – and allow yourself to settle in. It takes time. It took me three semesters, Jim, before I felt like, okay, I’m really kind of getting the groove of college and – but it’s got to be patient with yourself and look at things in – I think in increments.

Jim: Well, and, you know, somebody who knows you now like I do – I didn’t know you when you were a college student – and I don’t see that person, that isolated person, eating lunch by themselves in the college cafeteria.

Barry: (Chuckles)

Jim: I mean, I’m baffled by that because I just don’t see that. But let me just get practical for that minute. How did you come out of that? What did you do to say, okay, I’m going to go meet friends? What…? And then were you accepted in that context and did it start rolling in a positive direction for you?

Barry: Yeah. I remember being at a basketball game on a Saturday night sitting next to Brian. Brian was very popular, outgoing, played football and was student body or class president, whatever he was.

Jim: (Laughter)

Barry: And – and at this game, Brian turns to me and said, “Hey, Barry, I’m going to a birthday party after – after the game tonight, do you want to come with me?” And, like, my hands, Jim, they started to sweat.

Jim: (Laughter)

Barry: And I thought, like, what if I go and no one talks to me? And what if I get stuck there and I can’t come back…

Jim: Oh, man.

Barry: …Because I don’t have my car? And I said “Now, you know, Brian, I’m not going to go.” I’m I lied about something. “I’ve got a paper due.” And I remember I walked back that long, lonely sidewalk to the residence hall that Saturday night and about halfway down I just had like this metamorphic moment and I said like, “No, I’m going to go.” So, I – I turned around and, like, headed right towards the parking lot where hopefully I’d find him in his car. And there he was in his Volkswagen Sirocco, if you remember what that is.

Jim: (Laughter)

John: Yeah.

Barry: (Laughter)

Jim: A cool car.

Barry: And it…

John: They were sporty.

Barry: Yeah. Yeah. That’s right. And I banged on his window and I said, “Hey, Brian, I think I’ll go to the party.” And he looked in the backseat and there were three people in his backseat, and he said, “You know, hey, sorry, but the car’s full.” And I – my heart sunk, and I thought, you know what? Even when I try, I still fail. And then someone in the backseat said, “No, no, come on. We’ll make room for you.”

Jim: Oh, wow.

John: Ah.

Barry: And, uh, they made room and I went. And that night, things changed for me. Again, it was my third semester in college. And, you know, I had to step out of my comfort zone. I had to risk failure. I had to do something that for me was, like, really hard to do. But somebody also had to say, you know, “Get in the car. We’re going to make room for you.”

Jim: Right.

Barry: It took both of those dimensions in college – my willingness to – to push myself beyond what I was comfortable doing and somebody else to say, “You know what? Come on. We need you. We want you.” You know, so for those of you who are extroverts, look for the people like me…

Jim: (Laughter)

Barry: …In college who are like walking lonely down the sidewalk, sitting by themselves in lunch and welcome them in. And for those of you who are sitting by yourself at lunch and walking lonely down the sidewalk like take a chance. Try something. Try out for a play or, you know, run for office or play intramurals or do something that maybe is a little bit hard for you to do. And it might not work out and you might fail, but fail well.

John: Hmm.

Barry: College is a great place to fail, by the way. Fail well…

John: Hmm.

Jim: Yeah. We’ll talk about that a little more for now (laughter).

Barry: Okay. All right.

(LAUGHTER)

Barry: I’ve got lots of stories about that. So, anyway that’s a – that’s a little bit of my own odyssey on how I navigated it, but that’s – it’s timeless. I see that happening to students today.

Jim: Yeah.

Barry: And it just takes time for some students to really feel like they’re part of this community. But when they take the long road, they tend to be like the strongest leaders I’ve seen on campus.

Jim: Well, and I so appreciate that. That’s very, very good to hear your story.

John: Hmm. This is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. And our guest today is Barry Corey. He’s the president of Biola University and he’s written a book called Make the Most of It: A Guide to Loving Your College Years. And, uh, we have copies of that. It’s a great resource for parents and students. Stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Or give us a call. Our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Hey, Barry, uh, I want to kind of go a little further now in this pandemic situation. One of the interns told us that – and this is a paraphrase – she worried about sinking into depression since she’ll be home alone, doing her coursework online, everything from an isolated perspective. I don’t know at Biola or if in the Association of Christian Colleges, you’ve had a discussion about this, but speak to that issue, that very issue you’re talking about, and how the environment now is actually isolating students to the point where depression can set in because they’re not getting relational feeding, if I could say it that way.

Barry: Right. Well, I think the way the spring semester ended on virtually all college campuses is like this abrupt pivot. Students went home. It was, like, stunningly disruptive. And then…

Jim: Yeah. Even some dorm rooms weren’t even cleaned out. I know a couple of my friends, they had to go back to get their stuff couple of months later.

Barry: It was – yeah. It was – yeah. That happens across campuses big and small, public, private. It was just this sudden change. But I think colleges are much more prepared now than they were in the fall for the flexibility. Um, I think you’ll find that with your faculty. So, I would encourage parents to encourage their students or students that are listening to this, is that that the co-curricular part of your education is going to be there. Um, there going to be ways to be involved in clubs and organizations on your campus this semester, even if you’re not physically there. There are spiritual formation and – and chapel programing that you’re going to have access to that maybe you didn’t in the spring. Um, there’s, um, student development and an intern networking and career placement and learning center -all of those are going to be at your disposal. And places like Biola, we have student coaches for new students coming on board. If they don’t start right away, we’re actually starting remotely until we get the green light from the state of California to begin to phase students back. In the meantime, our faculty and our students are reaching out to new students and we’re forming small communities. So, it’s not going to be as bad as it was in the spring, um, but it’s not going to be completely what it would be if students were here. But I think that students should see this as more of I’m just going to sit on a Zoom class and then not be participating in anything else. There are lots of other dimensions of college life co-curricularly that you can participate in and – and you should look for those opportunities and you should initiate those opportunities as well.

Jim: Well, it’s similar to what you just said before that break that, you know, you can’t sit at the table alone. You’ve got to find a way to meet people and – and go. And, you know, this could be a really downward spiral if you do sit at home and you’re on the virtual class and you don’t get out. Find ways to connect really is what you’re saying. Hey, let me go back to the fail well, because I’m – you know, I did pretty good in school and high school was pretty easy. So, when I got into a foreign language class, I really didn’t think I needed to go to the lab at college…

Barry: (Laughter)

Jim: …Because, you know, high school Spanish was so easy (laughter). But I had to take that class again. It didn’t feel like failing well. It felt expensive to me.

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: So, what do you mean by failing well? Please teach me.

Barry: Well, yeah. Well, I’m teaching myself. I’d – so, I failed plenty of times in college. And I felt like I just – you know, I wasn’t assertive enough going on. I – I tried running for office my freshman year and, like, I got clobbered it wasn’t even, like, close. And I think I’ve learned since then – I wish I knew it now – when that failure happens to ask the question, um, not why did this happen to me, but maybe why did this happen for me?

Jim: Huh.

Barry: Um, and that’s been helpful for me that, again, college is a great place to try things that you’ve never tried before, but don’t overdramatize your failure. There’s a phrase that I use in the book that I’ve picked up from, um, this NYU social scientists named Jonathan Haidt. You might have read some of this stuff. He’s amazing writer. Um, and it’s called “catastrophizing.”

Jim: Yes.

Barry: That means like making something worse than what it really is. So, you’re a student at – you know, in your college and you – and you fail a quiz. And you say, “Oh, I failed the quiz. I’m probably going to fail the midterm in this class. I’m probably going to fail the class and because I failed the class, I’m probably going to drop out of college. I’m probably going to live with my parents rest of my life.” Because you failed the quiz, right?

Jim: Right?

Barry: So, that’s the catastrophizing that we just reject. Like how this one thing that didn’t work out so well, it’s like – it’s a metaphor for the rest of my life. And I think that’s what we need to kind of like move beyond and – and just take that failure and realize I’m going to do some fine tune adjusting, get some practical advice, some help from, you know, services on your campus, a mentor, some students that kind of encourage you. Just – so take these small failures with a grain of salt and don’t think that a small failure is going to end up, like, crescendoing to just, like, this epic failure of you as a human being.

Jim: Yeah.

Barry: You are not a failure. Maybe something that you did didn’t work out, but that doesn’t mean you are a failure. And so, keep on giving yourself permission to try something new. You are incredibly gifted students. You have these talents that are maybe like below the surface that that come out when you try things. And “Ah! Finally I found something – like I actually can paint.”

Jim: Yeah.

Barry: “I never paint before. I’m a business major.” So, I just think those are the things that you’ve got to keep pushing into.

Jim: Um, you also speak about “irri-tainments” in your book. And I think I get that. But it’s that distraction and that’s why this is a good place to mention it. You know, I’m the dad of two boys. And certainly one of the things that they find very entertaining is gaming. And I know you have a lot of college students coming into the college experience who are spending too much time with gaming and other things. So, what – what are you getting at with irri-tainments?

Barry: Yeah. You know, irri-tainments are, like, things that you do entertain yourself that are ultimately irritating to your soul. Um, okay, we have students that play video games that – you know, we have students that, you know, binge watch Netflix. And, like, I’m not saying, you shouldn’t do that. But what I think you need to do is just, like, look at your own self-control in college and make healthy choices, know your limits, set your boundaries. It’s not just watching countless hours of Hulu. Um, and it’s not just like playing video games until 3:00 in the morning. Those are, like – like, bad choices to make, but doesn’t mean you can’t play video games or watch something on – on your streaming videos. But I think it in college is also the real danger in many colleges of this culture of binge drinking and hookup culture. And unless you really set your boundaries ahead of time and have some kind of accountability on the decisions that you’re making, it’s going to be really hard. And I think that it’s easy to get swept in that, but you don’t need to go to a party to succeed. Chances are the next morning most people aren’t going to remember what happened at the party anyway, right?

Jim: Yeah.

Barry: So, if you have a second, I – there’s a – there’s a little quote of a book – this book I’d like to read. It’s, um, from my friend  Myron. Myron, um – I was on the phone with them this morning. For 18 years, we’ve been, like, prayer partners, like once a week we – he’s back in Boston and he graduated from Harvard. And here’s how he talks about his first day at Harvard. So, he had just begun as a freshman. He was committed to deepening his faith in college. He said in order to do this, he’d need to put his mind and heart into it. And he told me the very key moment for him came his very first night in the residence hall there in Cambridge, Massachusetts, at – at his first night as a freshman at Harvard. And here’s what wrote, and he told me to put this – you know, I could use this in the book. He said, “That’s when I really began to sweat. These guys, partying freshmen, came into my room and I had a bookshelf and I had shelved my library. Prominent titles included Josh McDowell’s Evidence That Demands a VerdictMy Utmost for His Highest by Oswald Chambers. And the real mother lode. John White’s Eros Defiled, an exploration on sexual purity. What if these drunken freshmen in my room found these books? And they did. ‘Whose books are these?’ My roommate disavowed any ownership. ‘Hey, look, a Bible.’ One of these guys pulled it off the shelf and with a mock preacher voice began reading a random text. Quote, ‘I’ve learned the secret of being content in every situation.’ There was some laughter. He continued. ‘Whether well-fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in one.’ Gradually, as he read, his tone changed back to his own voice. He slowed his reading and with all the sarcasm gone, quietly finished with ‘I can do everything through Him Who gives me strength.’ He stopped reading and there was a silence in the room. An eternity of silence. Finally, one of the others said softly, ‘Well, I guess we should get going.’ And they all walked out, shutting the door behind them.” And then Myron says this, “At that moment, the Holy Spirit brought one verse to my mind in the language of the King James version, no less. “Choose you this day Whom you shall serve.” Bang. Joshua 24:15. Right out of the gate, God was putting the challenge down. That first night, lying wide awake in a Harvard bed, having just witnessed the power of Scripture to render a bunch of my alcohol lubricated classmates silent, I replied that by His grace I was gonna serve Him.”

John: Hmm.

Barry: It’s making those decisions at the beginning of your time. This book is written for. Jesus following college students. You might be at a public college or private or Christian or not or suburban or rural, big or small. But college is a time where students – as you know, between 18 and 22, they develop more relationally and psychologically and spiritually and intellectually. And this is such a precious time in the life of a student that I covet the opportunity for all students to be able to say, like – like, “I’m going to make some good choices in college and, sure, I’ll make mistakes along the way, but I’m going to, like, really prepare myself to make the most of my time in college.” And part of that is saying, you know, “I’m going to choose this day Who I’m going to serve.”

Jim: Man, Dr. Barry Corey, President of Biola. We couldn’t end this any better.

John: Yeah.

Jim: I mean, you just put the exclamation point on it all with that story. And I so appreciate you taking time. If possible, um, I know we’re going to end here for the broadcast and the podcast, but maybe we can go a little longer online and folks can join us? I have got a couple of more questions and then we have some interns that will ask a couple of questions. Can you hang with us and we’ll go online for a little extended time?

Barry: Yeah.

Jim: All right.

Barry: For Jim Daly I would do about anything.

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: All right, great. Let’s do that. Thanks for being with us, Barry.

Barry: Oh, yeah. Great to be on Focus on the Family, Jim, and I, you know, wish God’s best on all of the work that you’re doing as well.

Jim: Thanks so much.

John: And once again, Dr. Corey’s book is called Make the Most of It: A Guide to Loving Your College Years. We do have copies of that here. Give us a call. 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. Or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: John, let me just reiterate, as a father of a college student and a soon to be college student, I want to encourage people to get a copy of this. This is a great resource for your young person to have and for you as a parent to have some dialog with. So, if you can make a gift of any amount – and if you can’t afford it, we’ll get it in your hands. I’m sure others will cover the cost of that. That’s part of doing ministry together. But we believe in this. And I think Barry’s done an outstanding job addressing the issues of the day for college students. And again, a gift of any amount and if you can’t afford it, just get in touch with us. We’ll get it to you. And in that way, we can do ministry together.

John: Yeah. We really want you to have this book so call today. Our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And be sure to join us next time as Greg and Erin Smalley are here to talk about why marriages drift and what you can do about it.

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Forgiving Others, Freeing the Soul (Part 1 of 2)

Dr. Tim Keller unpacks powerful stories of forgiveness and shares Scripture to help you forgive those who’ve wronged you, as you gain a better understanding of all that Christ has forgiven. Dr. Keller takes you through the steps to forgiveness, including the need to forgive yourself, and how to lovingly confront others. (Part 1 of 2)

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Celebrating Advent as a Family

When the Christmas season rolls around, we often place expectations that it will be “the best Christmas ever,” but we end up disappointed, stressed out and exhausted. Josh and Christi Straub urge us all to remember the true meaning of the Advent season, offering ways to sidestep the stress by being fully present with family and reflecting on the joy of the season.

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Caring for the Forgotten Generation

Chaplain Bill Goodrich of God Cares Ministry describes the vibrant opportunity to befriend and share Christ with the elderly in your community. He shares his heart for this forgotten generation of precious people who deserve our love and attention.

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A Legacy of Music and Trusting the Lord

Popular Christian vocalist Larnelle Harris reflects on his five-decade music career, sharing the valuable life lessons he’s learned about putting his family first, allowing God to redeem a troubled past, recognizing those who’ve sacrificed for his benefit, and faithfully adhering to biblical principles amidst all the opportunities that have come his way.

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Accepting Your Imperfect Life

Amy Carroll shares how her perfectionism led to her being discontent in her marriage for over a decade, how she learned to find value in who Christ is, not in what she does, and practical ways everyone can accept the messiness of marriage and of life.

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Avoiding Shame-Based Parenting

Psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan discusses the origins of shame, the search for self-worth in all the wrong places, and the importance of extending grace to ourselves. He also explains how parents can help their kids find their own sense of self-worth, belonging and purpose.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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