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Holding on to the Hope of Heaven

Holding on to the Hope of Heaven

Pastor John Burke offers hope and encouragement found in his best-selling book Imagine Heaven: Near-Death Experiences, God's Promises, and the Exhilarating Future That Awaits You. Jim Daly's wife, Jean, joins the conversation.
Original Air Date: April 24, 2020

Excerpt:

John Burke: Through the eyes of these people God’s given us the gift of, uh, truly being able to imagine what the Bible’s told us all along in a way that, I mean, doesn’t it just make your heart fall in love with God so much more, and wanna do everything you can do to please him?

Jim Daly: Yeah.

John: Because you’re just in awe of the-

Jim: Yeah.

John: … the love, and the goodness, and the kindness of God.

Jim: Yeah.

John: And that’s what I hope people focus on most.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: That’s John Burke. He’s our guest today on this Best of 2020 episode of Focus on the Family. And your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly. Thanks for joining us. I’m John Fuller.

Jim: John, I’m so excited once again, to share this episode featuring John Burke. When the COVID shut down first started, uh, here at Focus on the Family, we adjusted our programming plans to bring in guests discussing topics that were affecting you and your family in the moment. And more than anything, we all needed hope. And Jean and I had just finished listening to the audio version of John Burke’s book, Imagine Heaven, which is full of stories of near-death experiences that share the, uh, ultimate hope we have in Christ – eternal life with Him once this life is over.

And the response to this program with John was out of the ballpark. It touched many hearts just as we anticipated. And I don’t know about you, but COVID certainly makes you think about, uh, this life not lasting forever. And to realize that God has a plan for us from that initial transition moment, and I think it’s a beautiful thing. The apostle Paul wrote in Romans 8:18, “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.” And it’s in that spirit that I wanted to have John Burke share the information, and near-death experiences that he’s researched and recorded.

John F.: And, your wife, Jean, was part of the conversation, because the stories in the book-

Jim: (laughs).

John F.: … really touched her so deeply as well.

Jim: Yeah.

John F.: Let’s, uh, just quickly say John Burke is a pastor, and the founder of Gateway Church in Austin, Texas. Uh, his book is called Imagine Heaven. It debuted on the New York Times bestseller list, and here now is that Best of 2020 conversation with John Burke.

Jim: Uh, it’s great that, y- uh, you know, in so many ways you have spent 35 years compiling near-death experiences. Maybe a good place to start for the listeners, what defines a near-death experience? What is it?

John B.: Yeah, well, what I tried to focus on were the ones that, uh, where someone clinically died, you know, they had a heart attack, their heart stopped beating maybe, in a car accident. There’re different things that causes it, but heart stops beating, brainwave cease, and yet they are resuscitated. Sometimes a few minutes after, sometimes 30 minutes, sometimes an hour and 45 minutes even. Uh, and they come back talking about the experience of the life to come, that they say consistently was more real than this life.

Jim: That’s amazing. Um, I wanna make sure too, uh, your background, I mean, you were a skeptic of Christianity. But in doing this work over the last 35 years, it played a significant role in you coming to accept Christ, right?

John B.: Yeah, absolutely. So, I was an agnostic. Um, I didn’t know if I believed in God. I thought Jesus was just probably a good teacher, you know, blown up into something he wasn’t. Uh, I didn’t know if there was an afterlife. I didn’t really care. And then, my dad got cancer, and someone gave him the first book, uh, that was the original research that coined the term “near-death experience.” And I read it in one night. I saw it on his nightstand. And so many of them talked about seeing God, this God of light and love. And Jesus, that I said, “Oh my gosh, this God, Jesus stuff may be real. And if it is, there’s nothing more important.”

And, um, I have since gone from a career in engineering, uh, so I’m analytically science minded. That’s the way my mind’s wired. But I went from that into, um, ministry. I was a missionary for a number of years, went to seminary. Uh, and then, my wife, Kathy and I started Gateway Church 22 years ago here in Austin.

But for the last 30 years, I have been curious, what are those experiences people have? And more importantly, how do they align with what the scripture says? Eventually, I’ve studied over a thousand of them, and started to see commonalities, and started to see the alignment. And found, which, uh, I hope we’ll talk about, some interpretive keys, and I wrote Imagine Heaven, really, for two reasons. One to show, uh, skeptics like I was-

Jim: (laughs).

John B.: … there is v- verifiable evidence for this. But secondly, to show how much it aligns with what the Old Testament prophets, and Jesus, have said in the Bible all along.

Jim: Well, and it’s so good, a- and this is the, uh, you know, it’s kind of tricky, and some people are very skeptical, uh, even in the church, and maybe especially in the church, because they want to be careful that things are textually accurate, you know? That this is not some kind of moment that the enemy can play on us, and that kind of thing. And I think in that regard, how do you approach these things that, you know, maybe we need to be a little flexible with the idea that we are going to go to heaven. That is the hope. That it is gonna be a place of tremendous love, that we’re gonna feel the presence of God. I mean, it’s almost a weird thing, and as Christians we want this, and then, when somebody says, “I was there for 10 minutes. It’s gonna be awesome.” They, “Uh, you, were you really there? I don’t know if you were really there.” Talk about that-

John B.: Yeah.

Jim: … dichotomy.

John B.: Yeah. Well, I, I think it’s very important that we address it, because, you know, the Gallup Poll found that one out of 25 Americans has had one of these (laughs) experiences. That’s-

Jean Daly: I-

John B.: That’s 13…

Jean: I’d found that-

John B.: Yeah.

Jean: … extraordinary.

Jim: Say that again so listeners grab it.

John B.: Yeah. Over 13 million Americans have had one of these experiences. And by the way, surveys done in Europe have found the same-

Jim: Huh?

John B.: … about the same percentage.

Jim: That seems so high.

John B.: But, you know, for, for the Christian, I think this is really, really important.

Jim: Hmm.

John B.: Sometimes we reject and push away things we don’t understand without asking the hard questions and trying to wrestle through the mystery of it. I think at the same time, uh, I am skeptical of any one of these experiences. Uh, and I think it’s very important to realize that all of them are interpreting an experience that is truly out of this world. The way I like to describe it is, uh, imagine if this entire experience, we, we live in three dimensions of space, one dimension of time, so four dimensions. Imagine if our entire experience is being lived on a flat black and white painting on the wall.

Jim: Right.

John B.: Death means separation, right? Our, our soul is separated from our physical body. So, imagine you’re ripped off that flat two dimensional black and white photo, and you come out into a three-dimensional reality of this room that was all around you all the time. You just couldn’t even fathom it, ’cause you didn’t have a third dimension. And there’s color. And then, imagine being pressed back into the flat black and white photo, and you have to describe color, and three dimensions in two dimensional black and white terms.

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: That, I’m convinced, is what people are trying to do.

John F.: Hmm.

Jim: Well, let’s get to it, and talk about these common features of the stories that you collected. And they’re generally common amongst all near-death experiences. What are those common denominators that you found in your research?

John B.: Yeah, so maybe just taking you through it, when people die they say that they leave their body, but they have a spiritual body, and they talk about how it’s, they don’t even realize they’re not themselves. In fact, they feel more themselves, more alive than they’ve ever felt before. And not with just five senses, they say more like 50 senses.

Jean: Right.

John B.: And they have arms, legs, you know. They can, mm, I mean, we’re, we’re ourselves. It’s life abundant (laughs).

Jim: (laughs) right.

John B.: But here’s the thing is that initially, they say they, many of them are in the room still where they’re being resuscitated. Uh, then they say they travel. And it’s a little bit different for different people. Some say they go through, it’s kind of like a, a tunnel. Some, it was like a pathway of light. Some it was like through space. And they come to a place of incredible beauty, not unlike earth. You know, grass, trees, flowers, mountains, rivers, streams. But they’re experiencing it in new dimensions, like I said. New-

Jim: Heightened, yeah.

John B.: … dimensions of time, new dimension of space. Heightened everything. What they commonly come back and say is that this world is really the shadow of that world.

Jim: Yeah.

Jean: And I found that really interesting in the book that, that common theme, that heaven is more real than earth, that, that was-

John B.: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Jim: Hmm.

Jean: … repeated over and over.

Jim: Yeah, let me ask you, John. Uh, one of the stories, and there’s many, obviously, your book is packed with people who went through this experience. One of the early stories in the book talked about, I think a child who, you know, flat line died on the table, et cetera, at this hospital. They had the experience of being out of their body. But they mentioned to the doctor and the nurse when they brought this person back, this child back, that they saw a shoe either in the, on the roof of the hospital, or in a window. I can’t remember exactly. But the doctor said to the nurse, “Go check that out.” And, sure enough, there was a shoe, a tennis shoe, if I remember correctly, that the child saw in that experience, and they found it, correct?

John B.: Yeah. And so, there are many experiences like that. And this is what convinced many skeptical, like I said, doctors and, uh, all kinds of people. So yes, that was actually, it wasn’t a child, that was in a hospital in Seattle. The person left their body, but as they were going up out of the hospital, saw the tennis shoe on like the second, or third ledge outside the window, and they checked it out. Now, here’s the thing. You could say, well, man, these are urban myth, right? One of the doctors, cardiologists, that I interviewed Dr. Michael Sabum, he set out to prove these were myth. So, he set out to prove that this can’t be true. But after five years of studying it, and as a cardiologist, he said what convinced him was so many of them recounting to him what he did during resuscitation.

He said, “I could have taped it, and used it to teach physicians.” And this is what’s, quite honestly, such a shame, is that Christians have not spoken into it. See every good gift from God, the Evil One’s gonna take, and try to twist, and use it against God. We know that.

Jim: Right.

John B.: Right? I mean, sex is a great gift from God, but if you just looked at the way people use it, you know, without seeing God’s perspective on it (laughs) I mean-

Jim: Right.

John B.: There’s a lot of damage.

Jean: Right.

John B.: Right?

Jean: Yes.

John B.: So, it’s the same with these experiences. And unfortunately, Christians early on as this research was coming out didn’t understand it, and said, “It’s satanic, it’s, uh, I don’t know what it is, but leave it alone.” And, as a result, many of these people turned away from the church, and tried to make sense of it. And the new age kind of said, “Hey, welcome, come on over here.”

Jim: Right.

John B.: And so, many of them got interpreted that way early on. But that is not what they say.

Jim: Huh?

John B.: I mean, this is what the Bible has been telling us-

Jean: Yes.

John B.: … all along. It’s incredible.

Jim: Well, that’s that revelation. I think when you look at, the book of Revelation, in fact, I looked at that scripture this morning, that “they overcame the evil one,” him, uh, “by the blood of the lamb, and the power of their testimony.” And, in this context, that’s kind of what you’ve compiled, are people’s testimonies of what they saw, what they experienced in that five-minute, 10-minute, hour, even an hour and a half-

John B.: Yeah.

Jim: … situation where they have passed away. And I, I think we have to have an ear for that, and that’s why I wanted to have you on is to let people, you know, think about this. Hopefully, they’ll read your book and, uh, you know, be challenged a little bit.

Jean: Well, John and I would say I was a skeptic. And I have a science background. So, what I’ve really appreciated about your book is the research, and that you have tried to compile only near-death experiences from people that you’ve felt had nothing to gain, and only something to lose by retelling their experiences. And, I mean, there are really compelling stories in here, I’m convinced.

John B.: Yeah. I mean, uh, uh, you know, I’ve interviewed, uh, surgeons, commercial airline pilots, pastors, multiple pastors, bank presidents, I mean, college professors. These are people who have nothing to gain making up these crazy wild stories. They’re gonna, it’s gonna hurt their career, and yet they say it was the most real thing that ever happened.

Jim: Hey, John, I’d, we want to get to some of the stories, so that people can kind of, “Wow, okay, that’s interesting.” I, I think I’d rather, y- uh, lean on you. I mean, of course, Jean, and have read the book. You got George Richie, a war veteran. But what stories stick out to you that really exemplify what you’re trying to capture? Let’s go through two or three of them, and just elaborate on them.

John B.: Well, I’ll tell you the ones that are the most evidential to me, and quite honestly just kind of blow me away are the ones of people who are blind.

Jean: Yes.

John B.: So, I, I write about three people who were blind from birth in Imagine Heaven. And when blind people… and doctors who have studied this, researchers who have studied this, uh, have found blind people have the exact same experience. They can see. And yet when they come back, they’re still blind. But for instance, Vicky, who was blind from birth, she died in a car accident. She’s up above her body, and she’s watching them work on her frantically, and it takes her a while to adjust to sight. And then, she realizes, “That’s me.” Because, she had long hair, and she could see that, and she had a ring, a wedding ring with orange blossoms on it.

And, she said she just felt awesome. And she was like, “Why are they so worried? This is, I’m not worried.” (laughs). And she was a Christian, and she said, “I know where I’m going.” And, she was like, “I’m out of here.”

Jim: (laughs).

John B.: And, she says, she takes off through the roof of the ceiling, and goes up, and enters what she kind of described as, as a tunnel. She comes out and finds herself on grass. And again, this is life. It’s everything of this life plus. And so, she looks around, and there’re trees, there’re flowers, uh, there’s this vast number of people in this place of tremendous light. Uh, now listen to how these blind people describe light. So, Vicky said the light was something you could feel as well as see. And she said, “Everybody there was made of light. I was made of light. And, what the light conveyed was love. And love was everywhere. And it was like love and light came out of the grass. Love came out of the birds; love came out of the trees. It was incredible, really beautiful, and I was overwhelmed by that experience, because I couldn’t really imagine what light was like.”

Okay. Now, all that may sound very bizarre to you, again, until you really look at what the Bible’s (laughs) been telling us all along. In Isaiah 60, and in Revelation 21, you know, John says, and they basically say the same thing, but John sees the city of God, and says, “The city has no need of sun or moon for the glory of God illuminates the city, and the Lamb, Jesus, is its light. And the nations will walk in that light.”

Jim: Hmm.

John B.: Now, think about that. How do people around the globe, and even people who are blind from birth say the same thing about the light of heaven coming out of everything. And it’s not light like we see. It’s palpable, it’s love, and it’s life. And yet, they are saying exactly what the Bible says. The light is the Light, and Life, and Love of God. It’s the glory of God. Which think about that when Paul says the suffering we experience now is nothing compared to the-

Jean: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

John B.: … glory we’ll experience then.

Jean: Right.

Jim: That’s a great, I- I mean, these are the observations. You know, at one point the early world thought the world was flat, and you could look at scripture, and realize that it was not. But people failed to see it in scripture. Um, again, just evidence of reading the scripture carefully, and then, adding it to what people experience.

Hey, John, I do wanna ask the question that some have to be thinking about, and that is, a- and I know doctors wrote about this, or at least, uh, added to it. Those that come back with traumatic effect. In other words, they’re not experiencing love. They’re experiencing what we in the Christian community would consider, uh, at least hellish interpretations. Speak to the dark side of all this, and what some people experience.

John B.: Yeah. So, you know, you asked me kind of the stories that stand out to me. Um, some of the people who were blind. The others are like, um, Howard Storm. He was an atheist college professor. Uh, he was taking students on a tour, and his lower duodenum ruptures. He’s taken to the hospital. It’s a Saturday. They can’t find a doctor to operate on him, and he felt the worst he had ever felt in his life. He thought death is, you know, unplug the computer, it’s dead, there’s nothing. And he passes. And he’s standing there in the room confused because he feels great, and he’s looking around the room, and he notices this body in the bed that vaguely resembles him, but it’s, it’s not computing to him. And then, people are calling to him from the hallway of the hospital, “Howard, you know, we’re here for you, come with us.”

And they seem nice. And they end up in this place of utter darkness just like Jesus talks about. “The outer darkness, where there’ll be weeping and gnashing of teeth,” he said. And he start… Howard starts to realize, “They’re tricking me.”

Jim: Huh.

John B.: “I can’t trust them.” Well, they turn on him, and they maul him. It’s like the worst prison scene ever. And as this is going on, something inside him says pray to God. And he’s fighting with his pride, saying, “I don’t believe in God, I’m not gonna pray to God.” But as he started to just piece together anything he could say about God, these people back off, and a song comes into his mind, “Jesus Loves Me,” w- from when a neighbor took him to church as a kid. And he, he wants that to be true so much. He cries out, “Jesus save me.”

Jim: Hmm.

John B.: And, into this outer darkness comes this brilliant light, brighter than the sun, just like other NDEs say, hands reach out, pick him up, and as he is sobbing like a baby, Jesus rubs his back.

Jean: Hmm.

John B.: And, he says, “I don’t know how I knew, but I knew he loved me very much just the way I was.” And Howard comes back after this, and two years later leaves his tenured professorship to become a Christian pastor.

Jim: Hmm.

John B.: His wife is still an atheist. She divorces him ’cause she thinks he’s gone crazy. Um, but he’s been proclaiming the gospel of Jesus ever since.

Jim: That’s amazing. And John, I think that’s the point. People listening, and I get it, everybody. I mean, is this really Focus on the Family?

John B.: (laughs)

Jean: (laughs) yeah, uh.

Jim: But, the thing that struck me here is, again, your diligence, and the doctors, and others who have studied this, and the conclusions that you’ve referenced, that there is something, what is it? And we as Christians should be running to the mountaintop saying, “This is it. This is how it lines up with scripture.” This is why people are having these, uh, you know, experiences, and the way that they describe it, this is what God is saying through them. And again, going back to Revelation, you know, that they overcame by the blood of the lamb, and the power of their testimony. These are powerful testimonies-

Jean: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Jim: … from people who have experienced something. But John, I know someone, if not a thousand, or more people are going, “Right, Jim. I have really thought so highly of you for so long, but what are-

John B.: (laughs).

Jim: … you talking about, and who is this John guy? I mean-

John B.: What do you-

Jim: I mean-

John B.: What do you-

Jim: … but, you’re a pastor.

John B.: Yeah. Well, why do you think it took me 30 years to write it?

Jim: (laughs).

Jean: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

John B.: I know tha.t I know what people think. And hey, I feel the same way. It’s kind of like you open this door, and all kinds of wacky things can come through. Yes, that’s true. But God allows that in this world.

Jim: Huh.

John B.: Why?

Jean: That’s right.

John B.: I- I- I- I mean, do we really think he couldn’t change it? No! So we have to be willing to enter into the mess of how people take God’s good gifts and, you know, skew them, or interpret them wrongly, but that’s why I put so much scripture in Imagine Heaven.

Jean: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

John B.: You know, is I wanted people to see “This aligns.” It, in fact, there’s nothing that makes sense of it more than seeing how the scriptures align, and then, help interpret, even how some people might misinterpret, these experiences.

Jim: Yeah.

Jean: Well, I just, I would encourage the skeptic to read this book. I was skeptical. You were skeptical.

Jim: Oh yeah. Yeah.

Jean: But it is so compelling.

Jim: Well, and I think that’s where we wanna be. I mean, part of what we do here at Focus on the Family, is we want to introduce people to Jesus Christ. And you know, in this situation where we have a pandemic going around the world, as I started the program, death is, you know, being thought about in different ways right now. In more ways right now. And I really wanted, uh, people to hear from you, John, to hear what your research has revealed in the context of scripture, not blindly. And I know there are those skeptics in the church, and outside the church. And I think those within the church, they wanna be true to the scripture, they want to make sure that they’re, uh, not pursuing something that is outside of God’s will, and I get that.

But, I would say, as you lined up so many of the scriptures that reference things that we kind of read and blow right by, you know, we don’t quite understand when Paul says, “I was lifted up into the third heaven.”

Jean: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Jim: We don’t have context for that. Wow, you’re giving us-

Jean: Hmm.

Jim: … context for that. What might’ve happened 14 years ago when Paul was stoned, and he made comment of both of those things. That’s a very intriguing thing to think about. And I think, uh, John, for me today, it was to put in front of people the idea that, yeah, as Christians, we believe there is an afterlife. These people are tasting it and experiencing it in some way. And you’ve just done the job of compiling it, and saying, “I think here is the biblical context for what they’re experiencing.” And I so appreciate it. Anything you wanna add to your defense? (laughs).

John B.: (laughs) Well, yeah, Jim, I mean, I’ve thought hard about this for decades.

Jim: Right.

John B.: I mean, I think you guys felt this too, and it was what I was trying to put into the book. Through the eyes of these people God’s given us the gift of truly being able to imagine what the Bible’s told us all along in a way that, I mean, doesn’t it just make your heart fall in love with God so much more, and wanna do everything you can do to please him?

Jim: Yes.

John B.: Because you’re just in awe of the, the love, and the goodness, and the kindness of God.

Jim: Yeah.

John B.: And that’s what I hope people focus on most.

John F.: What a beautiful glimpse of heaven from John Burke on today’s Best of 2020 Focus on the Family. And the true message behind these near-death experiences of what awaits us when that final moment here on earth comes is so encouraging Jim, and so heartening.

Jim: Oh, that’s one reason Jean and I were so taken with the book, uh, the vision these stories paint is one of hope. And definitely a hope worth holding onto. Uh, the first step is having a solid relationship with the Lord.

If you’ve never given your life to Jesus Christ, we’d love to talk with you about this important, most important, decision. There’s no better time than now, especially, as we are approaching the celebration of His birth here at Christmas time.

John F.: And, here at Focus, we have a lot of resources to help you get started in your faith walk like our free booklet, Coming Home. Uh, you can, uh, get that, and learn more about God’s love, and grace, and the steps you can take to become part of His family.

Jim: We also have the outstanding book we talked about today with John Burke, Imagine Heaven. And you can get it directly through us. That money, those proceeds, then go right back into ministry

providing hope and help to families just like yours, and you know, after a challenging year like 2020, the Christmas season is more welcomed now than ever. Uh, from the pandemic, to violent rioting, to a contentious election, we all need the hope, and peace Jesus came to give us, and that’s our mission here at Focus on the Family. We wanna provide you with the tools, and insights to help you be a better spouse, a better mom or dad.

Uh, one woman wrote to tell us this, “I’ve been listening since our first child was born in 1980 and I couldn’t have done parenting and marriage without all the godly advice and encouragement from Focus on the Family. I’m now grandma of eight, soon to be nine grand babies-

John F.: Hmm.

Jim: … and my kids now listen to Focus on the Family. Thank you, thank you,” she wrote.

Man, we are so grateful to have this kind of impact. And this Christmas with a special holiday gift, you can come alongside families who are still struggling. Your support of Focus on the Family will give families hope. And when you give a gift of any amount today to the ministry, we’ll send you a copy of John’s book as our way of saying thank you. Your support is critical so that we can finish the year strong, and plan to reach even more families in the coming year. And I’m looking forward to what God is gonna do through you and Focus on the Family in 2021.

John F.: And, when you donate today, uh, because of a special matching opportunity your year-end gift is going to be doubled dollar for dollar. And God’s gonna use your gift to bring healing and redemption to twice the families. So, please donate today, and request your copy of John Burke’s book, Imagine Heaven. You can do that at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, or when you call 800-A-FAMILY (800) 232-6459.

Well, next time we’ll have another of our Best of 2020 broadcasts featuring Milan and Kay Yerkovich. They’re gonna explain why you might be having problems with intimacy in your marriage.

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Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!