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How God Saved a Military Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

How God Saved a Military Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Military veteran Chad Robichaux and his wife, Kathy, discuss his former struggles with PTSD, which led to the couple's separation, and how God helped Chad overcome PTSD and restored their marriage. (Part 1 of 2)

Opening:

Teaser:

Mr. Chad Robichaux: I always say that the loneliest place I’ve ever been in my life is not Afghanistan but in my own bed with my wife’s back turned to me. And we were just in this dead marriage. I just didn’t care. I was so cold towards her.

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John Fuller: Oh, some hard reflections from Chad Robichaux and he’s with us today looking back at a very troubling time in his marriage. This is “Focus on the Family” and your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller.

Body:

Jim Daly: There are so many marriage relationships that are challenged, that are hurting, and they’re needing God’s touch. We have an incredible story of how God worked in a marriage involving a military couple. Chad Robichaux served in Special Forces in the Marines for eight tours in Afghanistan.

He came home for good and realized that he was suffering from PTSD. His marriage was caught in the crosshairs of that and today we’re going to talk to Chad and his wife, Kathy, about how God took them from the bottom back to the top again.

And if your marriage is struggling, you want to lean in today, because I think you’re going to learn some golden nuggets of how to fight for your marriage and how to survive and, I think in the end, give God the glory for what is accomplished.

Chad and his wife, Kathy, help other military families now, and they have formed the Mighty Oaks Foundation for soldiers returning from combat with trauma. Chad and Kathy, welcome to “Focus on the Family.”

Mrs. Kathy Robichaux and Mr. Chad Robichaux: Thank you for having us.

Jim: Hey Chad, let me start right here. Man, I so appreciate your service. And Kathy. you in that role of support and spouse. Thank you for what you’ve done for our country–eight tours in Afghanistan. That had to be hard.

Chad: Yeah, it took a major toll on me, on many of my friends. You know, I wasn’t the only one who came home and suffered. I know, many of my friends who came home and really struggled. And yeah, it was hard, but I am thankful that I got to serve. I’m thankful for my service and thankful for what I get to do now.

Jim: We’re gonna get to more of that story and how that set up the difficulties in your marriage, but Kathy, you talk in your book, Marriage Advance—which I love that. I think that should be our slogan here at Focus, Marriage Advancement (Laughing), ’cause that’s what we’re trying to do; advance the cause of family in the culture, because when family is healthy in culture, culture is healthier. And I so appreciate that title.

You talked about being raised in a broken home, not only for you, Kathy, also for you, Chad; you both were raised in broken homes. Kathy, talk about your home and growing up and what was the picture like for you?

Kathy: My father, first of all, was a single father for many years. My mother and him, when they divorced, somehow my father got most of the custody of us and my mother had visitation rights. And many times my dad was just trying to find a place, you know, for us to stay while he would work. He was a firefighter.

Jim: So you kind of felt in the way?

Kathy: Yeah. Most of the time, I think especially he remarried, and they made their family.

Jim: Right.

Kathy: I definitely felt like I was in the way.

Jim: How old were you when your parents divorced?

Kathy: Oh, I was still a baby. I was probably 2 when they completely divorced. And then when he got remarried I was 6. So by the time I was 10, actually I ended up moving in with my real mom, thinking maybe this’ll be better, but my real mother was just a very busy woman. I don’t think she was ever into anything, you know, it wasn’t drugs or alcohol; I don’t believe that she lost custody. In fact, I truly don’t know what the answer is to that. But I do know she was a hard-working woman, so when she’d come home at night, she didn’t have time really to spend with me. I was the last thing on her plate.

Jim: That had to be horrible as a child not to feel connected to either your father or your mother.

Kathy: Yeah, it was. It really was, and unfortunately, I think that led into a lot of my own insecurities growing up. And even to this day, I mean of course I have Christ; I can go turn to Him when I’m feeling that, because, you know, I definitely will sink back into that feeling every now and then, and I’ve got to find where the truth really lies. But yeah, it was hard. I was a cheerleader in high school, and there were even friends that had their parents there quite often, and I would always feel like, man, I wish I had my parents here to support me. And never once did any of my parents show up to any of my activities, and I was always admiring that with the other [families].

Jim: But it left a hole in your heart. I know exactly what you’re talking about.

Kathy: It really did. It really did, and because of that, I think I bombard on my kids too much. (Laughter) (I) make sure I’m there at everything way too often. They’re like, “No, Mom, stay.”

Jim: The loving mom.

Kathy: Yes.

Jim: Chad, how about you? What was your home life like growin’ up?

Chad: Kathy and I have a very similar path of coming out of broken homes. I kind of step off to say my son, Hunter, joined the Marine Corps, so he’s a third-generation Marine, because my father was a Marine. When he came home from Vietnam I think he struggled with a lot of the things that I struggle with, but he just didn’t ever get the help he needed. So I grew up in a very dysfunctional home, with a very angry father who was probably suffering from PTSD and so I never really understood that as a kid. I just knew I had this angry man who drank a lot and physically abused my mother, then my stepmother, then myself and my siblings, and you know, he was [into] bars and women and—

Jim: So just hard.

Chad: –just a really hard life. And if anybody is, you know, I think people could relate to me who’s lived in that kind of home that siblings get really close. So me and my brother—

Jim: Survival.

Chad: –yeah, you just kind of bond together, and I had a brother who was a year older than me, and we would talk about joining the military and escaping that lifestyle. And when I was 14 and he was 15, he was shot and killed, and so that was just extremely devastating.

Jim: So you lost him and how old were you?

Chad: I was 14.

Jim: Wow. That is a big loss.

Chad: He was the closest person to me in my life at that time.

Jim: So 14, that happens. You met as teenagers, though, correct? You guys were young.

Kathy: We did.

Chad: I was in my first year in the Marine Corps; Kathy was in her senior year in high school. And yeah, we met and I don’t think we separated from each other since.

Jim: Yeah, right (Laughing). So how did that happen? I mean you’re coming together. How did you propose? Let’s go there. That’s always a nice story.

Kathy: (Laughing) Maybe if we start like how it all happened, because it was just kind of a, you know, we’re getting married type thing with us.

Jim: After two dates? After one date?

Kathy: Pretty soon, I’d say. I will go back. So, when we got together, we actually met through a friend of mine that went into the Marine Corps, and so Chad had needed a ride home one day, and we kind of met up on accident that day.

Chad: He needed a ride home. I gave him [a ride].

Kathy: Oh, that’s right, right. Not you. Chad gave the guy a ride home that one evening.

Jim: Right?

Kathy: And then the second time I saw him, this time, I had showed up at my friend’s house that my friend Scott was dating, and another girl was there, and they’re all getting ready to leave, and it didn’t even dawn on me; I was just kinda hanging out there, and I had sweats on, my hair was up in a bun. This was 1994 and he showed up again. And I’d already been like, “No, I don’t want to meet him. I’m not really interested.” Well, as soon as he pulled up, I looked at that girl and I was like, “I thought he wanted to get to know me!” And that was it. That was all it took.

Jim: A little spark of jealousy.

Kathy: Yes.

Jim: So you knew you had a feeling for him.

Kathy: Yes.

Jim: That’s interesting.

Chad: It was a blind date they were setting me up on, because she wouldn’t go out with me. And so, I had never seen that girl before, but when I saw Kathy there, this girl was getting real pretty and stuff like that. And Kathy was in sweats with her hair in a bun, and I invited her on our blind date.

Kathy: Yeah, yeah.

Jim: How’d that other girl feel?

Kathy: Yeah, she was the fifth wheel.

Chad: She hung around, but I don’t remember even speaking to her.

Kathy: She was the fifth wheel. So, one, you know, one little thing that he did that melted my heart was, we were all sittin’ in the back of his truck. It was a brand-new open-bed truck, and he had cami paint in the back of his truck.

Chad: Like camouflage.

Kathy: They were playing with cami paint. Well, he started painting my face with his, you know, fingers or whatever, and as soon as his thumb kind of passed over just the cheek bone and put it on me, I was like, “Oh.” I felt it. And just kind of put that there.

Jim: He could put my makeup on every day. (Laughter)

Kathy: I always say, “You had me at making that little stroke across my cheekbone.”

Jim: All the ladies listening are going, “Wow!” They’re feeling that.

Kathy: Yeah.

Jim: And then, so there you are [a] military young couple. You’re in the Marines. What was that commitment like for you, Kathy, being the spouse, the wife of a Marine?

Kathy: Well, you know back then, this was 19—we got married in ’95. I had just graduated high school.

Chad: Lots of training, lots of field, lots of school.

Kathy: I had him like pretty much almost every time we were off, we were together, and now all of a sudden I get married and my Prince Charming is like, has to work for a living? I’m like, he was always gone. He was in the field, and just, you know, so that took some getting used to. It wasn’t what I thought marriage was gonna be like, you know.

Jim: And then, of course, things ramp up in the Middle East, you get deployed, all that activity going on. You talk about your PTSD. We’ve had shows about PTSD, but describe it for those of us who never served in the military who don’t understand it. What does it look like? What does it feel like?

Chad: Yeah, I mean, for me, it wasn’t like a, you know, one incident that it had happened and all of a sudden I have PTSD. I think it started with this like really intense drive to do my job and do my job at an intense level and just real strong passion. And eventually I turned into being one person in Afghanistan, and I’d come home and being someone, I couldn’t be someone totally different at home. And so that intensity started turning into anger and it trickled over into my home.

I remember being in Afghanistan just raging like a kind of lunatic, just fueled on anger, and now I come home to my family and I’m starting to see I’m behaving the same way. And you know, I always say our home became not a very happy place for my wife and kids. They became very scared of me, and I was aware of that. I felt like everyone was walking on eggshells, and being aware of that and Kathy being what I believe to be this really godly Christian lady, I felt very out of place. And so I felt very uncomfortable being home.

Jim: And you had two kids at that point, or three?

Chad: Three.

Jim: Three kids.

Chad: And that anger eventually started turning to anxiety, and so I was in this very small Special Operations group of guys, very tough– kind of bravado.

Jim: It was a Special Ops group.

Chad: Yeah, so there was a lot of bravado, and people didn’t talk about things like that, so I started having these anxiety feelings, but I didn’t want to say anything. And I think that keeping it to myself and trying to push it down and drive through led to a natural progression of things going sideways for me. It started off with, like my arms would go numb.

Jim: Your arms would go numb.

Chad: And my face would—my cheeks would go numb, and all the physiological symptoms of panic attacks, but I wasn’t aware that’s what it was. And then my throat would feel like it would swell shut, and that eventually led into what I know now to be full-blown panic attacks. I felt like I was dying, maybe even having a heart attack, and it was very scary.

And I just kept trying to deal with it myself. I didn’t tell anyone at work. In fact, one time I came home from a deployment and I told Kathy, and she took me to a civilian doctor and he gave me anti-anxiety pills, and I refused to take them. And I tried to go back again, and the very last deployment, it was a period of about two weeks that now I can recall parts of it, but I couldn’t even recall that two weeks.

Jim: Kathy, let me ask you, as a spouse, what were you responding like? Did you feel like there was a solution? You didn’t understand?

Kathy: Yeah, at that point we had no clue what was going on. We didn’t even know about post-traumatic stress. So what he was, how he was acting looked scary to me.

Jim: You were fearful.

Kathy: I was.

Chad: Because I went from very angry to very broken, like overnight.

Kathy: Yeah, and so he was very quiet. You see, he looked like, all I can say is like a sick person, maybe, you know, just very down and weak. So it was easy at that point, at the beginning of his last deployment and finding out something’s wrong, it was easy as a woman, as a mother, I wanted to nurture him and care for him. That was the easiest part of the whole thing.

Jim: And he would let you? I mean that was okay?

Kathy: Oh yeah. He would let me. He would wake up in the middle of the night and just ask me to hold him, and I would just hold him. I’d pray for him. I knew something was wrong, and it scared me, because always looked at Chad like Superman, you know? If someone even dare[d] walked into this house, they better run out quick. You know it was always like that, and so to see my husband in this position of weakness, it was different to see. So I was totally fine comforting him and loving him through this. That was the easiest (part).

Jim: Kind of standing in the gap, really.

Kathy: Uh-hm, yeah.

Jim: That’s admirable. I don’t know that everybody could do that, but you saw that as your responsibility in that moment and you did it.

Kathy: Yeah, right.

Jim: You’re listening to “Focus on the Family.” Today our guests are Chad and Kathy Robichaux. They’ve written a book, Marriage Advance. We’re right in the beginning of the story. And their marriage took a real dive, and the Lord intervened and their commitment to each other became the dominant feature. We’re gonna hear more about that today and next time. If you need us, call us here at Focus on the Family. The number is 1-800 the letter A and the word FAMILY. We’re here for your marriages.

Jim: Chad, let me ask you this question. How long from the time you were seeing action, the eight tours, Special Ops in the Marines Corps, how long was it before you started feeling these panic attacks and the PTSD symptoms? Were you still in the military, or was it after?

Chad: Well, I went in in 1993, so it was a long span of active duty, reserves, other life things, and then in 2007 is when I came home from my last deployment, April ’07, and that’s when I was actually diagnosed with PTSD.

Jim: So you were in a long time.

Chad: Yes, sir.

Jim: Ah and Kathy, I mean in that context, how are you managing all these curves and swerves in your life?

Kathy: Yeah, it was difficult, you know, getting out of active duty and him going into law enforcement. That was an exciting, but scary move. But the thing was is, we were starting our family and [all that].

Jim: You were all into the kids, I’m sure.

Kathy: Yeah, yeah. That’s all I knew. That’s all I did. And so, best thing I could ever ask for, but I really felt alone most of the time.

Jim: Like a single parent.

Kathy: Yeah, I did. I did feel like a single parent. And so, everything that I thought marriage was supposed to feel like, and you know, having Prince Charming came to rescue me, and I thought that we were gonna live happily ever after and have this awesome family, I really felt like, well, I do have to say, it took me from living in Southern California to the bayou of Louisiana. (Laughing)

Jim: Careful now. Some people think that’s a good thing. (Laughter)

Kathy: So I was very—

Jim: But being a Southern California boy myself, the weather can’t be beat.

Kathy: –yes, exactly. The mosquitoes and the bugs were huge. But you know, so it was just, definitely [I] found myself feeling very alone, and I felt really just, you know, there, not really in a good, healthy marriage.

Jim: Can I ask you about that? Because we’ve alluded to that, but you’re a believer,

Kathy: Yes.

Jim: You’re goin’ to church.

Kathy: Yes.

Jim: I’m not sure, Chad, where you were at in your faith with everything going on, and war, and I’d like to talk about that a little, because you know, a lot of times as Christians we are in a world full of sin, and our hearts are sinful. What was happening spiritually at this time for you guys? What was going on?

Chad: Well, I think we always went to church, right, even when we first got married. If I can be a little transparent and honest about my [journey], looking back I believe I went to church really to drag my wife there because I knew if my wife went to church, she’d be a great, godly Christian woman, be faithful, and my kids would go to Sunday school and learn about you know, right and wrong. And so, I believe I was really manipulating my family and just checking the box for myself. I was never gonna go beyond the surface of that, and I think a lot of men do that.

Jim: Right.

Chad: And really, I think I had this kind of masculine persona of myself, and I looked at a lot of men in the church and thought, you know, these guys are not like me; these guys are weak. And sadly, in some cases it’s true, right? There [are] a lot of Christian men that don’t stand up and be the men that God called them to be. And that was my perspective, and so I didn’t really feel like—

Jim: So, you didn’t respect it.

Chad: –I didn’t respect it, and so, I just did it to control and manipulate my family.

Jim: Yeah. Kathy, let me ask you this. The picture you’re painting there of being almost like a single parent and our heart goes out to single parents, ’cause they are livin’ it every day, and there is no solution right around the corner for them, but did you feel bitter? Did you start to become bitter toward Chad that, hey, you know, I’m doing it all?

Kathy: For sure, yeah, I did. I really did. I think a lot the way I would react to him would even be out of anger, bitterness towards him because, I mean I’m grateful. He always provided. We never went hungry. Whatever he did, whatever job he did, he did at 100 percent. He was a hard worker. But in our home, he wasn’t putting that time and effort into our home, and that was, you know, in the early, mid-90s he was really focusing on his martial arts career, as well, and so, for me, I was even bitter towards even just him being in the gym. It just made me so upset with him, because I needed him a lot of times.

Jim: Would you try to communicate? The reason I’m digging on this is that I think in many cases marriages are in trouble in this way—

Kathy: Yes.

Jim: –because particularly wives are saying, “I had a different picture of what this would be like,” and you can fill in the noun of what it is–whatever you’re struggling with as a listener. How did you communicate? Were you guys just fighting at this point? Could you have a discussion about it, your feelings, your desires, and for Chad, his feelings, his desires? How did you communicate? Or was it already so much tension you couldn’t talk it through?

Kathy: Yeah, it was really hard for us to communicate.

Chad: We were too busy.

Kathy: Yeah. I mean unfortunately, I hate this, and I see it so often is, women, we try to discuss this with our husband; we try to share it with them.

Jim: We’re not always good listeners. (Laughing)

Kathy: No, not good listeners and then we get accused of being naggers. And so, it’s trying to find a point, how do you discuss this with your husband and share something that’s bothering you and not be accused of nagging about it? How do you get there? And because we were so young at that time, in our early 20s, and not really being connected in a church, we did not know how to communicate. And so, it was always just strife in our marriage.

Jim: How many years did this go on, this strife, this loneliness?

Kathy: Gosh, well, 15 years?

Chad: Yeah.

Kathy: Fifteen years of trying to figure this whole thing out, and you’ll hear the victory and how we finally came to that.

Chad: There was no model for us, either. We had no model. I mean, both coming from broken homes, not connecting to a church to have that mentorship and discipleship in our marriage, we had no model. We didn’t even have anything to aim at.

Kathy: My mother was the kind of woman, by the way, who was divorced, and married and divorced three times.

Jim: Right.

Kathy: I learned in the first two years, don’t go to her about problems in our marriage because she’d always say, “Pack up your bags and leave him.”

Jim: That would be her solution.

Kathy: Yep. Then I had Hunter, my oldest son. “Pack up your bags, get Hunter and leave.” And that was it.

Jim: Well, how did you resist that temptation? I mean having that kind of modeling and then saying, “You know what, I’m not gonna do that. I’m gonna stick with it.”

Kathy: You know, sometimes it was probably my faith that gave me the strength, but a lot of times it was fear. And also, and I can say this probably for [the] majority of women out there, if I can just make it till the kids graduate high school, then I’m out of here.

Jim: That was your feeling.

Kathy: Um-hm.

Jim: Stick together for the kids.

Kathy: Yeah, stick together for the kids, because I was scared to death of my husband. He was very good at manipulating the story, and I was scared that he would actually somehow turn or twist something around on me, and to hurt me he would somehow take my kids from me. And so, I just figured if I can just hold in there until my kids graduate high school, then I’m out of here.

Jim: And there was some tough stuff. We’ve been a little “surfacey” here. I want to, in the last few minutes of today, I want to get down to the nitty-gritty. Chad, you did pursue martial arts training; you had your own studio, I believe. And in that environment you got into mixed martial arts–MMA–competitions, things like that. Very heady, very macho. These are like fighting full-bore, right?

Chad: Right.

Jim: And you were good at it and you were winning. And that set you on a trajectory of pulling you away from your family. Describe that environment and what happened.

Chad: Well, when I, you know, when I came home from Afghanistan. I was diagnosed with PTSD, I didn’t feel like I could do anything. I felt like if I did anything physical, my body would just stop working. And Kathy and my counselor at the time recommended that I do jujitsu, because jujitsu was a martial art that I’d done since I was 5-years-old. I’d already fought professionally. I was a professional mixed martial arts fighter. And so, when they convinced me to go try it and I get back on the mats and wrestle with some of my friends, I literally felt like I had found a cure because–

Jim: You felt comfortable.

Chad: –I felt comfortable. I felt like I couldn’t think about Afghanistan and do that, because if I was focused on something else, my buddies would choke me. So I had to be focused, and so, I took something that could be good for me, and I abused it like a medicine or anything else.

Jim: What happened?

Chad: Well, I would spend 10 or 12 hours a day on those wrestling mats. And obviously I’d find success there, spending that much time. So I amassed a record of 18 and 2. I fought in some of the biggest televised fights and Strike Force and Bellatore and all these big shows. And so what happened was, I surrounded myself with all these people who told me everything I wanted to hear, and no one that told me what I needed to hear, and that was that I was still living in a broken home. I was still angry. I was still having panic attacks, but I just hid those things really well.

And so, I had this kind of fake façade of success that everyone saw, but at home, many nights Kathy and I slept in separate bedrooms. I always say that the loneliest place I’ve ever been in my life is not in Afghanistan but in my own bed with my wife’s back turned to me. And we were just in this dead marriage. And so, it didn’t take long with all that attention that I got from MMA for me to step outside of our marriage into an affair. And I didn’t even care if I got caught. I just didn’t care. I was so cold towards her.

Jim: So you’re doing a lot to cover up the pain you’re feeling. I mean, that’s what it sounds like to me, just burying it with the dirt of life.

Chad: Staying busy.

Jim: Stay busy. But Kathy, with an affair in the mix of this whole thing, that had to be devastating. And it wasn’t just one.

Kathy: Right, exactly. Because it went back even before he left to Afghanistan, and so I was already dealing with the past, and then you bring this and post-traumatic stress on top of, you know, everything else, and I always say you were super mean before you left to Afghanistan. Now you’re coming back now and I’m supposed to deal with our past and deal with this now and, you know, there was just so much unforgiveness inside of me. And so, you know, yeah, it was easy for me to turn my back at night, because I just was so hurt from him and so empty.

Jim: Well, and people, women hearing you, Kathy, are going, “Right on. I could feel that for you.”

Kathy: Yeah.

Jim: And some of them are actually living it right now.

Kathy: Exactly.

Jim: And they’re identifying with that pain that you lived in. We’re at the end of the program today. (Laughing) Talk about a bad place to end, but the hope coming is that God was in your corner–

Kathy: Yes.

Jim: –pun intended there, Chad. But He was there for you, and next time we want to come back and talk about how God began to repair your brokenness, and we’ll, you know, get into more of those details and even perhaps go to even more of the despair before we turn that corner. But are you willing to stick with us and continue to talk about kind of the dark side of your life at this point? Because God did intervene, and He glorified Himself in your relationship. That’s why you’re sitting at the table today.

And you know what? I know there are some of you who are listening who are in a dead marriage, as Chad described, and you don’t know what to do. You’re listening going, “That’s us.” Circumstances may be different, but you’re living in it. And I want you to know Focus on the Family is here. We want to be in your corner, and we believe the Lord is right there. And even though it feels like despair, we know that God can deliver you.

And we have a program called Hope Restored, which is an intensive marriage counseling effort out of Branson, Missouri , and it has an almost 85 percent success rate two years after the intensive program. And if you’re in that spot, call us. We have some scholarships. Although limited, we have some scholarship(s) available. We want to help you.

Because I believe, and I believe Chad and Kathy agree, marriage is on the ropes today, and Christian marriages particularly, and this is the thing that we need to get right in the Christian community, and we want you to fight for your marriage and we want to be there for you. So call us. John, you’ll have more of those details in a moment. We want to help you.

Closing:

John: And you probably are on the edge of your seat right now wondering how the rest of the story goes. Be sure to join us again next time, as Chad and Kathy share what God did in their lives and right now you can get the CD or this two-part series when you call us or the CD or download online.

Now the book is called Marriage Advance and it’s really a devotional book, as you read their story and then work through some marriage questions and answers at the end of each chapter. Ask for it when you call 800-A-FAMILY; 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY or visit us online at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio. And when you make a generous donation of any amount to our work of saving marriages and offering life-changing resources like this radio conversation, we’ll send you Chad and Kathi’s book as our thank-you gift, either for your own use or to pass on to a couple that you thin

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Robert and Pamela Crosby help married couples understand and celebrate their gender differences so that they can enjoy a stronger bond and deeper intimacy. Our guests offer practical tips for improved communication, successful conflict resolution and offering affirmation to your spouse. (Part 1 of 2)

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

Cover image of Dr. Randall Schroeder's book "Simple Habits for Effective Parenting"

Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

Bundle of Why Your Kids Misbehave

Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!