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How God Saved a Military Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

How God Saved a Military Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Military veteran Chad Robichaux and his wife, Kathy, discuss his former struggles with PTSD, which led to the couple's separation, and how God helped Chad overcome PTSD and restored their marriage. (Part 2 of 2)

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Mrs. Kathy Robichaux: For me to ask all these things, to see Chad and love Chad and forgive Chad, it was truly just out of obedience to the Lord.

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John Fuller: Today on “Focus on the Family,” you’ll hear how God was working in a shattered marriage and you’ll find renewed hope and encouragement. Our host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly and on this Veteran’s Day broadcast, this is an especially appropriate program.

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Jim Daly: John, we heard from Chad and Kathy Robichaux last time, and man, some really heartbreaking, difficult things they went through in their childhood, both coming from broken homes, broken marriages with their parents. Chad suffered from PTSD after eight tours of duty in Afghanistan in Special Forces. It was not a smooth transition back home. Chad continued to deal with PTSD. Kathy, I think in many ways, felt like his protector, his nurturer; at the same time she’s trying to raise three kids pretty much on her own.

If you didn’t hear last time, you gotta to get the download or get the Smartphone app. Do what you need to do, because that program really set up what we’re gonna talk about today. It was painful, and you could hear it in their expression of it.

Kathy and Chad separated for a while–we’re gonna talk more about that today– after having affairs and things like that. It was an inspiring story. We’re gonna talk about the God part of it today. Chad and Kathy, welcome back to “Focus on the Family.”

Kathy Robichaux: Thank you.

Chad Robichaux: Thank you.

Jim: Again, I love the title of your book, Marriage Advance. It’s just, it’s beautiful ’cause that’s how we as Christians need to think of the cause of marriage, the institution of marriage in the culture today, and I just want to say thank you from the get-go for sticking with it and now being a witness for the Lord rather than a tragedy in terms of that witness. And I know divorce happens, but you guys stuck it through. You were spiraling down, almost like that death spiral in a marriage, 15 years of struggle.

Kathy, you were feeling all alone. You talked about that last time. We had to drop off at a very touching point, when you were struggling with Chad’s affairs and things like that. Let’s pick up the story there. You were trying to figure out what was goin’ on. You’re not even sleeping in the same bed at night. You’ve got this career in mixed martial arts, people giving you accolades, Chad, about what a good fighter you are and how fearless I’m sure you are and how you were 18 and 2 and finding all the, I don’t know, the strokes and the accolades in that environment. Where is God beginning to show up in this picture?

Chad: Well, sadly, that wasn’t even–

Jim: That wasn’t the bottom yet.

Chad: –the low point yet, the bottom yet.

Jim: What was?

Chad: The bottom was, for me, was we separate. We move and we sell our home and move into separate apartments, sign 12-month leases and start the paperwork for divorce. And me and Kathy had two separate reactions. Kathy went into a church, and I was just at church last week, and I remember people telling me that she would lay against this wall and just be crying against this wall and she started just really getting people around her to encourage her and pray for me.

And I was at this apartment, thought I was gonna live the single life, which lasted about a week, and then I had that time to reflect and realize that of all the people I blamed my whole life, my father, the military, really Kathy for not understanding what I had been through, like I always blamed everyone else around me as an idiot, and the realization that it was me and that I had caused this; I had destroyed my family. And so, that kind of clarity in my life at that time led me to make a decision that I was gonna remove myself from the situation, and I decided I was gonna take my life.

And I would sit in my closet. You know, I was a policeman before, so I knew what would happen; somebody would find me, and I didn’t want my kids to find me, and I’d heard the statistic that 1 in 3 children from a parent that commits suicide will take their life as well. I still don’t remember where I heard that, but I remember thinking it and thinking, man, my kids, they follow me in everything I do. They’ve been wrestling since they could walk, and I didn’t want to leave that legacy for my kids, so I was trying to plan how I was gonna make it look like an accident. But I remember just sitting in my closet for a period of about two weeks with my pistol and just trying to, you know, talk myself into doing this.

And then I got a knock on my door from Kathy, and Kathy had the divorce papers, the final divorce papers, and I just needed to sign. We had been through that three-month cool-off period, or whatever it was in Texas at the time, and she wouldn’t give me the paper. We were very kind of edgy. Any kind of conversation between us was very, very hostile. But she asked me this question that changed [everything]. It’s the reason that we’re sitting here today.

She asked me how I could be as successful as I was in the military, as an MMA fighter, doing all the schools and deployments and the crazy deployments that we did, the training for that and training for these fights. She’d seen me do all these things her whole life. She like, “How could you do all that, and when it comes to your family you’ll quit?”

Jim: So, how can you fight for everything else, but you don’t fight for our marriage?

Chad: That’s right. And that question, it just radically impacted me. I don’t like being called a quitter. But she was right.

Jim: So she pushed the right button.

Chad: Yeah.

Jim: Were you hoping to do that, or was that just a God thing?

Kathy: No, that was totally a God thing, ’cause I know I had said that I some ways before, because I didn’t understand it. I mean watching him, if you Google Chad’s name, you see these amazing pictures, MMA pictures of him, total façade, right? And in our home, it’s falling apart. Our kids are hurting; our kids don’t understand like, you know, what’s happening.

And everybody believed, like Chad was just this, I don’t know, almost a god. I think they were looking at him like they just like loved him, you know. And my husband is willing to give up his family for all of the people that are just loving on him, you know.

Jim: Crazy thing.

Kathy: What’s hard is, I didn’t understand how he could feel everyone else’s attention and the feelings of praise (Emotional) they would give him, I guess, but he couldn’t feel anything from me. You know nothin’ I said. I know we had really bad times at that time, but there was no way to love him and show him love or care anymore.

Jim: He wasn’t accepting it.

Kathy: He wasn’t accepting it, and so it hurt, you know, that he would accept this from men and women, you know. And so for us to, you know, put our house up for sale and move out and move into different places and you know, what was crazy is, I remember him actually crying when we moved out. I’m like, “You’re the one making these choices to be with other women, and you’re crying as we’re packing up our U-Hauls and leaving? Why can’t you just stop doing what you’re doing and let’s say no on doin’ this?” But he didn’t. He wanted to continue doing what he was doing, so when I moved into my own place, this is the first time now; I’m in my early 30s and had my children very young.

Jim: How old were the kids at this point?

Kathy: They young. They’re like elementary, junior high school age, maybe 11-, 12-, 13-years-old—

Jim: Right.

Kathy: –thereabout. And so, so this is the first time–

Jim: So they’re aware. They’re fully aware.

Kathy: –oh yeah, they’ve see some–

Chad: They’re devastated.

Kathy: –bad stuff. They’ve seen that mom’s very jealous of women. They see that, and so, when I got into my own place and the kids had to go visit with dad for the first time, that’s the first time I’m having to give up my kids and leave my kids and I would be home alone. So I just got on my knees and I just started praying that, you know, asking God like, “Why?” And I don’t know if I was asking Him why so much like, “Why are you doing this to me?” But like, “Why? Why is this happening? I don’t understand. It hurts so bad.”

Jim: Did you ever feel like you had an answer to why?

Kathy: Not at that point. In fact, now I see, with what we’re doing, it’s so clear.

Jim: Wow.

Kathy: But I didn’t see at that time.

Jim: It was only pain.

Kathy: It was just pain. But it was the most intimate time I’ve ever spent with the Lord, which was the most precious time of my life. So—

Jim: That’s a powerful statement.

Kathy: –it was. It really was. In fact, sometimes I’m thinkin’ I’d love to have that time again, one-on-one with Him, but I don’t want to be in that much pain again. (Laughing)

Jim: Isn’t that interesting how that circumstance or the circumstances that hurt us drive us toward God?

Kathy: Exactly.

Jim: And they are precious times, but we Christians tend to want to have comfortable times.

Kathy: Yes.

Jim: We don’t want to have painful times that draw us close to Him.

Kathy: Yes, that’s so true.

Jim: Can I ask you, Chad, as a man—just man to man—when you walked into church on a Sunday and you knew all this stuff was going on, what did that feel like deep in your heart? Not the part you were expressing to everybody at church, but when you’d walk in the front door and guys particularly would come over to you, “Hey Chad, how are you doing, man?” and pat you on the back? And, “I saw your fight. You’re awesome,” all the things that Kathy is saying, what really was going on deep in your heart?

Chad: Well, I felt like a fraud, one. And two, it made me question if I even believed at all. I mean I had to really struggle with my faith. One, I would have said I was struggling with my faith, but I believe that I was just really angry at God, because, you know, things weren’t going my way, and I couldn’t understand, you know, the things that I was struggling with. And so, it was kind of a mix of those emotions.

Jim: What in you–because I’m trying, just trying to think of people that I know–what in you kept that Holy Spirit hook in your heart? Because I think a lot of guys, particularly, will snap the hook off and walk away, and they go into years of denial, years of frustration. They go through with the divorce, because they don’t want the hassle. It takes them longer to come to the conclusion that you came to in a relatively short period of time. The U-Hauls go out, and you’re thinking, wow, what am I doing? Kathy pops the question, “Why will you fight for your country, but you won’t fight for our marriage?” That penetrates you. What’s that difference between a guy that’s still got that hook from God, and even though it may not feel strong, it’s there, versus the guy who just cuts that off and walks away?

Chad: I think I’ve always felt God’s call, I don’t mean a call to ministry, but I always felt God’s calling in my life, and I always kind of knew it was there and–

Jim: To do the right thing.

Chad: –to do the right thing. I just didn’t know how to do it. I never had, even at a young age, I would say I gave my life to Christ at 14-years-old, but there was no mentorship or discipleship beyond that, and so I was left to do it on my own. And so, when Kathy asked me this question, I knew I had to make a decision. I knew I had to do something different. We always say, you know, if what you do in your life isn’t working, why not do something different? That was that moment for me. But I knew I couldn’t do it by myself, and I had never had anyone around me. I had to go to Kathy.

And look, at this time in my life I had 1,000 students, I had all these fans, everyone told me everything I wanted to hear. I had no one in my life to hold me accountable to make these changes in my life, and that was a really sad moment for me, because I did that. As I inventoried my life and realized that, I had pushed accountability out of my life. I had to go to Kathy and say, “In this church you’re going to, is there someone that could help me with this, hold me accountable to this?” And she introduced me to this man, Steve Toth. He never served in the military, and I think God made him ADD and wired him specifically to deal with me, because he didn’t give me time to manipulate him or—

Jim: Really?

Chad: –yeah, I had literally [written] a plan out on paper how I was gonna fix my life, and he looked at this plan. We met for coffee at Starbucks and he looked at my plan and I don’t even think he looked at it; he just slid it back to me and said, “You’re gonna fail. You’re gonna end up right back where you are.” And I was like, “It’s a good plan.” And he was like, “No, it had nothing to do with your relationship with Christ, and if you don’t build your life off of that, you’re gonna end up right back in that right now.”

Jim: Well, speak to that guy that’s in that denial right now. You’re the military guy. Talk to me. If I’m living there, what are you sayin’ to me?

Chad: I mean, you know, I know I believe that, for me, God was always there. I continued to push Him away and cover it up with busyness and accolades and one achievement to the next. And I don’t say that boastfully at all. As a matter of fact, I was recently interviewed and somebody read my kind of résumé and they said, “How does that make you feel?” And I said, “It makes me feel terrible. It sounds like you’re describing someone who lived his whole life discontented.”

And I was just really searching for to be the person I feel I was created to be, and that’s what was longing inside of me, and to be the person God created me to be. And instead of just doing that, I covered it up with all of these different accolades. And some of those things I did in my life were good, right? The military service and I love martial arts and I love competing, but those weren’t the things I was created for.

Jim: You’re listening to “Focus on the Family.” Today our guest is Chad and Kathy Robichaux. Their book, Marriage Advance. You’ve heard much of it, I hope. If you haven’t, get the download. It’s the bottom, the pit of a marital relationship where it was coming unwound, and God stepped in and they saw Him in their marriage and let Him do the miracle of bringing it back together.

Kathy, I need to pick up. We are on the last portion of today’s program. The U-Hauls have gone out; you guys are living in separate apartments. Chad, you’ve contemplated suicide. You mentioned a while ago that you sat for a couple of weeks in and out of this closet, thinking, how do I do this without my kids knowing I did this? Where does God begin now to heal it? She’s mentioned this question about fighting for the marriage. What happened next?

Kathy: Well, for me in the lowest of my lows, being stuck in my bed and stuck inside my house because I was so depressed, I knew I needed to pray for my husband, but I really didn’t know what to pray for him, and I really probably didn’t even want to pray for him, because he was making that choice, you know, making the choices to not be married anymore.

So I picked up the book, Power of a Praying Wife, I thought I would go through the first, you know, the chapters and see which ones he needs to be prayed for. So I started picking out like his temptations, his integrity, but the very first prayer in there was praying for his wife. And I’m thinking he should be praying this prayer over me. You know, he needs to be praying for me.

And so, I began to pray for me, and the Lord really started opening up my eyes to see a lot of my sin in the marriage and what I was not doing to honor God as the wife God had called me to be.

Jim: Okay, everybody just went, “What?” I mean talk about this, because it’s a matter of the heart. Restate that, because it’s so important, and people who are in bitterness and denial, this is the hardest thing to get, that God really wants your attitude to move in a better spot.

Kathy: It’s so true. I mean, I’d lived in such bitterness for so long, and unforgiveness, that I knew it was time to, well, I guess I should say I didn’t know it was time. It was really just God opening my eyes to see that it was time to start recognizing my faults in the marriage and how I wasn’t being the godly wife He had called me to be.

Jim: How did that help you attitudinally? I mean when you caught that, when you [thought], “Okay, Lord, it’s me. I’ve got to get my heart. I can’t control Chad”—

Kathy: Right.

Jim: –what did it do for you in terms of your attitude toward Chad?

Kathy: Right, well, I guess because in there I started praying that, “God, help me to see Chad the way you see Chad.” So I didn’t want to see Chad the way He saw Chad. Maybe I didn’t know that, but I mean that’s not what Chad was doing, the way God sees Chad, you know. Like help me to see Chad the way you see Chad, and help me to love Chad like you love Chad. And the most, the biggest thing was, “Help me to forgive Chad the way You forgave Chad.” So I’m praying all this stuff, not even expecting to even be back with my husband.

Jim: Right, really in faith, you’re praying.

Kathy: Yes, it was and it was really just being, just honoring God, is really [what it was]. And it grew in my heart. It really was true growth for me to ask all these things, to see Chad and love Chad and forgive Chad, it was truly just out of obedience to the Lord. And I don’t know how it got there; it just did. As I began to pray and get closer to Christ and that intimacy between me and Christ, that’s what came out; that’s what I started living.

So, how does a woman that has been hurt, and her heart’s been torn out over and over again say, “Yes,” to the man that wants to come back home again, when he’s already [done] this to me several times? How does she say “Yes”? All I could say is that God had given me this peace one more time.

Jim: So it softened your heart toward Chad.

Kathy: One more time it softened my heart, and it really did. It allowed me to see him just with enough grace that I could say “Yes” one more time.

Jim: Wow.

Kathy: But the following year to come, I don’t know if it was harder or just a different hard. It was just so hard, the following year to come, to obey the Lord to love Chad and to forgive Chad the way He did, and to work on that. Not be the woman I was before, who threw the past in his face, so therefore we didn’t get anywhere, but now to put my hope and trust, even my anger I felt towards Chad, put this in God’s hand, put this at the cross every single morning. Now, was I successful? Not every day. But I was going somewhere for the first time.

Jim: Yeah, and your heart was improving.

Kathy: Yes.

Jim: I think it’s important for people, particularly women, to catch that, though, that you left it to the Lord.

Kathy: Yes.

Jim: That is significant. Don’t undervalue [it]. That’s the thing, and that is the thing in every marriage, when you can put Christ first. That’s what it means to put Christ first. Chad, where are you at in this? You’re like, you’re the bad guy.

Chad: Well, it was really crazy, because I made a decision to make these changes. I had this mentor in my life who was willing to disciple me–

Jim: And hold you accountable.

Chad: –and hold me accountable. And he led me into surrendering my life to Christ in the most authentic level I ever could imagine doing that, and then beyond that he started mentoring me in actually a year-long process of biblical manhood. And what I discovered at the end of that was, well, not just the end of it, but through the process, is that my marriage was finding restoration, my relationship with my kids was finding restoration, but this PTSD thing that I never thought would go away—as a matter of fact, the doctors had told me it would be something I’d deal with the rest of my life—that started going away.

And what I discovered was it wasn’t an incident or a series of incidents that really led me to where I was; it was the choices I was making every day, and I never lost control of that, and that God actually had a blueprint for manhood which I had sought all along. And when I started aligning my life to that, that’s when I found healing.

You see, like I think it’s important to know that all the pills, all the counselors, all the programs, everything I tried before didn’t work. MMA, jujitsu, as cool as those things are, while those things didn’t work, when I simply made a decision, a decision to align my life with the life I was created to live through this blueprint, that’s when I found healing. And you know, nothing replaced just stepping into that relationship thing with Christ that God had always had along for me all along.

And in this process, talk about Kathy, like, when I came home and we started restoring our marriage, Kathy went from this woman that was praying for me every day and wanting this man of God, and now I’m trying to be that, and I mean, she was, she was really fearful and I could see it right away. And she would have moments of where she was thankful, but then she’d have moments to where she’d almost rebel against it.

Jim: Right.

Chad: And I think it’s really important for couples that are in restoration to understand that, because I didn’t understand it at first. I’m like, “She prayed for this, and now she has it, and she wants to take it right back to where she came from.” And I’m so thankful for Steve and that mentorship he gave me, because he asked me some tough questions. “Does she have a right to be hurt? Is she scared you’re gonna let her down again?”

Jim: Right, well, it’s really rebuilding the trust.

Chad: Yeah, yeah.

Jim: How long would you say that process has taken, or is it still, you know, building? Where are you at, especially for couples who, you know, need that word?

Chad: I would say it was a full year for us. Now I had to make a decision. When Steve told me this, I decided that she was entitled to that, so instead of her getting angry about something, or throwing something in my face and me saying, “Hey, you already forgave me for that,” I’d say, “I’m sorry I did that to you. I can’t believe I did that to you.” And I would try to love her, and sometimes she’d let me hold her and love her and pray with her, and sometimes she’d push me away and I’d walk out of the room and go outside the room and pray for my wife.

Kathy: And that’s what made the difference. That was what was different from the times he had hurt me before.

Jim: You saw more of God in him.

Kathy: I did. I saw him willing to allow me to show my fear without any repercussions. I needed to be able to show him that and him accept that I needed that without shutting me out, without showing me he was gonna leave me. I wanted to see him that he was going to stick by me while I expressed this fear instead of running out the door. I mean, there were times that I would hear his keys and the door open and right away it would put me back in the moment of him leaving me. And for a while he knew he even had to be careful with that.

Jim: Did you talk openly with him about that? “Here’s the feeling I have when I hear the keys”?

Kathy: Yes, yes, exactly.

Jim: Well, that’s good.

Kathy: I hear him say it every now and then that Kathy even had, you know, her times of stuff, things that would actually bring her back to the moment.

Jim: So about a year, how long ago was that? So that was about a year of your marriage. And how many years ago has this been now?

Chad: So, that was in 2010 that we were, you know, reconciled.

Jim: So five, six years.

Kathy: And then yeah—

Chad: We started—

Kathy: –about 2011.

Chad: –right away. And people thought it was insane that we would start a ministry right away, but when this happened in my life, I felt like I truly did find the cure. I always say the best way to describe it was like I had stage IV terminal cancer and was dying, and Steve gave me the cure. And I knew how many other veterans were struggling with suicide, 22 a day, the divorce rates, and I felt like, you know, I found the cure and I wanted to share it with someone else. And so, we started passing it forward to others right away.

Jim: And that’s been your passion is to reach other couples, military couples particularly, who are suffering in a similar way.

Chad: Right, suicides, divorces, divorce rates are just staggering. And we felt like we found, again, we found a cure, and you know, everyone talks about the problem in most things like this, and the truth is there is a problem, but there is also a solution. We feel like we have it, and we’ve committed our lives to paying that forward. And we did it pretty quickly, and we admittedly said we weren’t out of the woods when we started this, but we were just on a path, and then we want to take others along that path with us.

Jim: Wow, that’s good. Let’s link at our website, we’ll link to the Mighty Oaks Foundation, and people that are motivated, I’d encourage them to help you do what you’re doing with the military as well.

Can I end with this? Because in my heart, I was that little boy. I came from that broken home, just like you two both came from broken homes. How are your kids doing now? In terms of their faith, are they going, “Wow, God is real. Look what happened to our mom and dad”? Where are they at?

Kathy: Uh-hm, yeah.

Chad: I remember probably one of the most shameful memories of all this was sitting our kids down and saying it was gonna be better, right? “You’re not gonna have to hear us fight anymore,” and these things, and the truth was, it wasn’t gonna be better.

Jim: It was breaking their heart to hear that.

Chad: It was breaking their heart to hear that, yeah. So they responded so quickly to just grab hold of this change and the shift in our hearts, and I’m so proud to say all three of our kids are just on fire for God. Two of them are in Bible college, and well, one’s second semester of Bible college and he’s a Marine Corps reservist, and my daughter is leaving for Bible college here soon. And our youngest son, he’s just on fire for the Lord, too, so it’s amazing.

Jim: Isn’t that something? It wouldn’t surprise me that they were praying into their pillow at night–

Kathy: Oh yeah. My youngest one–

Jim: –“God, will You bring mommy and daddy back together?”

Kathy: –my youngest one would be the one that, while I was struggling and he would hold my hands and pray with me. It was amazing.

Jim: That’s so sweet. That is so sweet. And all I can say is, “Well done.” The nuggets I’m taking away and I hope the listeners are as well, you hit it really strong, Kathy, turn toward God. Put your burden on Him; trust in Him. And you hit it, Chad; then find the truth of who you are. And it may not be pretty, but God loves you; He cares for you, and He will pull you in a better path, a righteous path. And that’s what I pull out of this.

It’s not our circumstances that dictate who we are; it’s what we do to deal with them. And in your case, you did so many of the right things, even though you were doing wrong things as well, but you turned toward God. You put the yoke on Him and invited Him in, and you began to act more like Him—praying for each other, loving each other–and that was it.

Thanks for being with us.

Kathy: Thank you.

Chad: Yeah, thank you so much.

Closing:

John: Well, it’s great to see God workingin people’s lives like He did for Chad and Kathy. And really, that’s one reason we’re here, is to encourage and inspire you in your marriage and family relationships and in your walk with Christ. And their story illustrates one of hope and our trained counselors can have an initial conversation with you, a consultation in which they can make a referral to you to someone in your nearby area.

And we have a program called Hope Restored. You might have heard us talk about it. It offers intensive marriage counseling and has an almost 85 percent success rate two years after that program in couples staying together and being stronger. Now if, like Chad and Kathy, you sense like things are near the end, please ask us about Hope Restored.

The Robichaux’s book is called Marriage Advance and it can strengthen your marriage when you go through it. It’s kind of a devotional format and you can ask for that and the CD or download of this broadcast at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio or when you call 800-232-6459; 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

Now we rely on yourgenerosity to continue producing programs like this and offering resources like Hope Restored. And so, let me invite you to give to Focus on the Family today. Your financial partnership is crucial and when you do, we’ll send a copy of Chad and Kathy’s book to you. It’s our thank-you gift for joining our support team.

Well, thanks for listening today. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, I’m John Fuller, inviting you back on Monday, as we once again, help your family thrive.

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Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

Cover image of Dr. Randall Schroeder's book "Simple Habits for Effective Parenting"

Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

Bundle of Why Your Kids Misbehave

Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!