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How to Find a Good and Godly Spouse

How to Find a Good and Godly Spouse

Author Gary Thomas outlines some important, biblically-based character attributes which singles should look for in a future spouse.
Original Air Date: October 17, 2016

Excerpt:

Gary Thomas: Just image what it would be like to marry somebody who is motivated and filled with love. They love God. They love you. They love on others. That’s just their motivation. How that would inspire you, how that would bless you, how it would … would encourage you to grow in love yourself.

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John Fuller: Today we’re sharing encouragement for both singles and married couples from Gary Thomas. And your host on Focus on the Family is Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, we don’t have to tell single people that dating is tough…. they know it is! And many Christian young adults today are not dating at all because they’re afraid of making a bad decision. They’re stuck in fear. And that’s why I’m so glad we have this wonderful message to share from Gary Thomas today. As a pastor, Gary has counseled dozens of married couples, giving him a window into their inner lives. And he’s using that insight to encourage singles to use the BEST criteria – from the Scripture — as they’re dating. As we all know, people tend to put their ‘best foot forward,’ so when a relationship gets serious, it’s very important to take a step back and be a bit more analytical about the potential spouse.

And if you’re married, don’t tune out!! You can share this information with your children as they begin dating, too! And definitely use this criteria for anyone that they’ve considered marrying.

Also, Gary says that if you work to improve in some of the attributes he’s gonna explore, you can improve the quality of your marriage.

John: It really is applicable for pretty much everybody in our listening audience. Here now is Gary Thomas speaking at a Focus on the Family staff chapel. And we’re gonna pick up right after his opening remarks.

Gary: For those of you who are single, you have no idea what the future holds. I’ve seen couples torn apart through success, through failure, through poverty, through abundance, through not being able to have children, having rebellious children, having children die. You really don’t know what you’re gonna face. But here’s what’s so key. You do get to choose who you face that future with. God does let you make that choice. And I can’t overstress how important that decision is.

A wise marital choice is like a gift that keeps on giving. I am blessed literally every day of my life because of one decision I made 31 years ago to ask Lisa to be my wife. And a foolish marital choice is like a bad investment that you never get to pay off. And the consequences couldn’t be greater. In fact, I believe the consequences of a poor marital choice can be so long-lasting. I don’t want a single person here or anybody listening on the radio to ever have to bear ‘em.

And … and that’s why I wrote The Sacred Search, because what was bothering me as a pastor was seeing that Christians were getting married for virtually the same reasons as non-Christians. And none of them predict future marital happiness or even fulfillment.

When you look at why most people get married today, you can look at three things. And if these three things are present, most people think it’s gonna be a fantastic marriage.

The first one is infatuation. They feel something they’ve never felt before, almost this transcendent connection.

The second one is sexual chemistry. There’s just electricity when they touch. They … they can’t wait to get together that way. And then they have such a good time on dates, they seem so compatible and … and they’re so happy together and if those three things are present, most people think, “we’ve found our match. We’re gonna get married…” and they rush forward, but none of those three or even all of them in aggregate predict future marital happiness.

Let me just run through those to explain that, ‘cause I know it’s gonna seem surprising to some. We could look at infatuation. We know from neurologists, those that study our brains, that infatuation lasts about 12 to 18 months. That’s it. Literally, unless you’re neurologically brain damaged, it can’t last longer than that.

And when something doesn’t even last long enough for you to potty-train your first child, I don’t know how relevant it is to make a life-long decision. In fact, it can even lead you astray. Neurologists talk about a stage of idealization. When we become infatuated with someone, we idealize who they are. We give ‘em strengths they don’t really have. We miss the weaknesses that everybody else sees.

Imagine an infatuated couple at a college campus. The girlfriend’s walking behind the boyfriend. He’s carrying his tray. A napkin falls off the tray. He bends down and he picks it up and his girlfriend is so overcome at this amazing act of character and piety. She runs to her friends and tries to get him nominated for a Nobel Peace Prize. Did you see what he did? He picked up the napkin! He cares about the wait staff. Obviously he’s concerned about the environment. “I picked up the napkin,” but … and she misses the weaknesses. “He … he seems kinda angry to us.” “No … he’s just passionate. That’s what I love about him so much. He’s so passionate.”

I don’t know, it seemed to me like he was cussing that guy out. Actually, I think he was speaking in tongues, you know. He’s got a (Laughter) a very spiritual side. And so, she goes ahead and marries him and here’s what every pastor, every counselor and a lot of you parents have heard after they go forward with that. “He’s not who I thought he was.” And that’s a true statement.

And sexual chemistry’s the same thing. That electricity won’t sustain life-long satisfaction, even in the sexual relationship. I’m telling you, where sexual relationships start to break down in marriage, it’s always having to do with character, not initial sexual chemistry. It comes and goes. But what sustains it is when you have two people of character who know how to forgive, who can live by the Gospel and live by grace, so they still care about each other and can still feel affectionate toward each other, even with the hurts that are involved in marriage. It’s character that sustains sexual satisfaction in marriage.

Now I’m not saying sexual attraction doesn’t matter at all. It’s an important part of marriage. In fact, I’ll make it a little stronger. If the thought of seeing this person naked makes you want to vomit, please don’t marry them, all right? That’s (Laughter) gonna have issues later on in your marriage. But it won’t be sustained by that initial sexual chemistry.

And compatibility on dates, it … it’s … you know, two people get alone, and they think, “Man, who would’ve believed it? We both like Star Wars! I mean, how odd is…? And we both like pepperoni pizza! Have you ever seen two more perfectly matched people in the world? (Laughter)

The only thing date compatibility tells you is how well you’ll get along when you’re on vacation. (Laughter) All right? Ask married people how many weeks of vacation they get a year and that tells you what you’re making that choice for.

And so, if we want to have marriages that honor God and that are more successful, we have to realize that there are things that are more important than what the culture looks at. And there are many things the Bible urges us to consider that are far more appropriate and applicable for how we can make a wise marital choice.

So, let me just try to quickly run through a quick six, if I can get that far in discussing. These are better things to base this all-important choice on. And if you’re married, you can still listen, because as you improve in each one of these areas, you can improve the quality of your marriage.

The first one is something that I don’t see singles thinking about very much, but it is essential that you marry somebody who knows how to handle conflict. Do you know what marriage makes you? It makes you angry. (Laughter) It … it is impossible to share close living quarters without stepping on each other’s toes.

It … it shocked me as a new husband when I would wake up and my wife would be furious with me for how I treated her in her dream the night before. (Laughter) I was like, but honey, you were just … it doesn’t matter. You were such a jerk! I’m like, I’m sorry. I mean, I …

But here’s the thing, conflict doesn’t bother me in this sense. Conflict is how you understand what each one really cares about. Conflict reveals values and feelings and it can do wonderful things to help you grow in understanding each other. So, conflict can be very helpful if it’s handled in a mature and godly way.

If conflict isn’t handled in a healthy way, it will tear the two of you apart. It will rip that infatuation apart faster than you can believe. And two real concerns when it comes to conflict are those that completely avoid conflict. It’s sort of like saying, you feel a lump in your throat, but if you don’t go to the doctor, they can’t diagnose it and you won’t be in trouble, right? Well, we know that’s not the case. Actually, it can become worse.

The other problem is when somebody is just not mature enough to handle their anger without getting physical. Now I know this will seem extreme to some of the single women out there, but when it comes to dating and a guy’s getting a little bit physical, rough, here’s my advice. One strike and he’s out. If he’s a little too angry when you’re dating, he will be much too angry when you’re married. He’s simply not ready or she’s simply not ready to be married if they can’t handle frustration without getting violent. It has brought so many marriages down.

The second thing that’s so important is that you marry someone who will be a spectacular parent. You’re not just choosing your kid … your husband or wife. You’re choosing your kids’ mom or dad. And when your kids are theoretical, you don’t realize how much they’re going to grip your heart and never let go.

I … I was a pacifist when my first child was born. I’d written on it. I’d talked about it. It all changed that day my first daughter was born. All that happened, I didn’t read any new books, didn’t exegete any new Scriptures. They just lifted that girl, put her on my wife’s chest. I looked at that baby girl. I said, anybody touches her, I’m doin’ prison ministry from the inside, all right. (Laughter) I’m just … completely changed the course of my life. And it’s hard to imagine what that’s gonna be like. But the day will come when you will say, I … “out of all the things I’ve done in this life, what I am most grateful for is, I gave you the best father, I gave you the best mother that I could find.”

I had a woman come up to me one time. “Gary, would you please talk to my daughter.” And the woman was concerned because her daughter was about to marry an atheist whose parents were Buddhist.

And so, I talked to the young woman. I said, uh … “Do you want to have children?” She goes, “Oh, absolutely.” “How important is it to you that your kids become believers in Christ?” “It’s more important to me than anything in the world!” I said, “I think you’ll agree, I … I’m sure that’s true and you’ll feel that way when your kids get a little bit older. So, let me paint a scenario when your boy is 6- or 7-years-old, really identifying with his dad. He … you’re taken him to church every weekend because it’s so important to you and you love him, and you want him to connect with Christ. But he’s just becoming aware and he notices dad never comes along.

And so, he goes to his father and he says, “Dad, how come you never go to church?” and (he) makes fun of it or says it’s for women or, “who do you think Cain went off and married anyway?” I mean, you just have some little thing.” And then he goes and spends the weekend with his grandparents. And he sees this colorful little shrine in the living room, and he says, “Grandma, Grandpa, what’s that?” And they say, “Oh, grandson, that’s where we pray. Can we teach you how to pray?” A very natural thing for grandparents to suggest. I said, “If … if the most important thing for you is that your kids become believers, is raising ‘em in an environment where one mom takes him to church and the dad undercuts that, and then grandparents speak of an entirely different concept of God, is that the surest way to help your child embrace the eternal truth?

John: You’re listening to Gary Thomas on Focus on the Family. And you can get his book, The Sacred Search, and today’s broadcast CD when you call 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Or donate and request those at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Let’s go ahead and return now to more from Gary Thomas.

Gary: The third thing that is so important and it doesn’t sound so exciting, but it is so key, is that you want to marry somebody who knows how to pray. It is so much more important than six-pack abs. It might be hard for some people to believe.

Here’s the thing. Here’s what one wife told my wife and I at a conference. She said, “I just feel so much safer when my husband is praying.” Now catch this — “And I don’t have to ask him. I can tell from his attitude. I can tell from how he handles tension, how he deals with stress, the way he treats us. There is just a fundamental difference in the way my husband operates when he’s praying and in the Word and when he’s not.”

And if I could say somethin’ to the single women there, I would tell you, 90 percent of the changes I have made in my marriage haven’t come about because my wife has challenged me or confronted me. They’ve come about when I’ve been praying to my heavenly Father with my own agenda. God interrupts my agenda and says, “Gary, before you get to that, I want to talk about how you’ve been treating My daughter or ignoring My daughter or speaking to My daughter.” And now it’s not between me and my wife, it’s between me and my God. And women, why would you not? And men, why would you not want to have God as your strongest ally in marriage? You will have no truer friend in the difficulties of marriage.

And if you marry someone who doesn’t listen to God, who isn’t open to the conviction of God, your only tool that you have left is nagging. Ask any wife how successful nagging is to change a marriage and you’ll know why it’s so important to marry somebody who prays. Now how do you know that? I like to say this for Christians because sometimes I believe when somebody sees the security and joy and sometimes just the confidence of a believer, they’ll act like they’re in God because you’re really into God and they’re really into you, so they act like they’re into God.

If I had a close friend, it is beyond belief that my wife would never have heard about him; he never came up in a conversation, if she never saw me spending time with him. So, if your boyfriend or girlfriend never talks about God, they’re never talking to God. If you never hear this sense of “God is laying this on my heart or He’s convicting me of this or He’s given me a vision for that,” God is not silent. He’s dynamic in a person’s life, so find someone who prays.

And then fourth, this is so key. You want to marry somebody who’s humble. Humility is so underrated when it comes to marriage, but I believe humility is the preserver of happiness in marriage and the foundation for growth in marriage, so that you can grow every closer.

James 3:2 says, “We all stumble in many ways.” So, nobody gets to marry a perfect person. Nobody gets to marry the fourth member of the Trinity, ‘cause that person doesn’t exist. But the only thing more difficult than being married to somebody who isn’t perfect is being married to somebody who isn’t perfect, but who thinks they are. Because then every issue in marriage will be resolved when you get your act together. It’s not about how they’re being confronted or how they’re being convicted or how they can grow. It always comes back to, “if you will change, our marriage will improve.”

Three times in Scripture, twice in the New Testament and once in the Old, we’re told that God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Why would you marry somebody that becomes a declared enemy of God because they’re acting with pride? Humility is so key. And so, you want to say, do they want to grow every bit as much as they want you to change?

Now here’s the challenge because often you’ll go on those five-hour first dates and you’ll share all of your stuff and all of your past, which I don’t recommend, but it’s very common. That’s not an act of humility. It doesn’t take a lot of humility to confess something that you did 10 years ago.

If you want to know if somebody’s humble, what are they sharing with you that God is convicting them about today? ‘Cause the Bible tells you they stumble in many ways and if they can’t think of one way that they stumble now, they either think God is a liar or they’re completely numb to the conviction of God.

And so, if you marry somebody who’s not humble, they can’t change because they don’t think they need to change. So, you better really, really like ‘em, ‘cause they’re not gonna grow and they’re not gonna improve through life without being humble.

Number five, and this will be so hard for some of you to embrace, but it is so key. Just as you can divide the world up into dog people and cat people, you can divide the world into givers and takers. Some people get joy out of giving. Some people get their highest joy out of taking. And the problem is, when the couples start dating, you have a giver who’s dating a taker. The giver gets to give. The taker gets to take. They feel like it’s a match made in heaven.

But marriage is a long-term relationship. It is a life-long marathon and the time is gonna come when the giver needs to receive, and the taker needs to give. And often, rather than having empathy for you, they’ll feel sorry for themselves because their whole world is oriented toward themselves.

And I know it sounds so selfish for you givers and I love you because you’re givers for thinking that you … we even want to think about that. It sounds selfish to think about that but let me put it in a new light. Your ability to give to build God’s kingdom, to do God’s work, will be halved if you marry a taker. When you put two givers together, you inspire each other. You encourage each other. You support each other. You release each other and you’re able to give twice, three, 10 times as much as you would be as an individual.

But when a giver marries a taker, their ability to give is often cut in half because it’s sucked out by the person they’re married to. I could not have had the life I’ve had, I could not have had the ministry I’ve had if I had married a taker. So, if you want to give, increase your ability to give by marrying a giver. And the other way to look at this is this. You’re not just choosing a husband or wife. Like I said, you’re choosing your kid’s mom or dad. Do you want your kids to be raised by someone who looks at their kids’ needs as an encumbrance and as an inconvenience and who resents it? Your kids will feel like projects if their mom or dad acts that way. Or do you want your kids to be raised by someone who gets great joy giving and serving and they delight in meeting their children’s needs?

And then finally, the sixth thing I think is so key and it’s that, you know, cliché “last, but not least.” Is the Holy Spirit active in their life? Not just are they a believer, but are they a believer in the sense that you see evidence of the Holy Spirit? And I’m not talking about Pentecostal or charismatic expressions, not that I have a problem with any of that. I mean the fruit of the Spirit that Scripture says is present when anyone is surrendered to the work of God in their life.

We’re told in Acts 6:3 to choose deacons, choose men who are filled with wisdom and the Spirit. And that’s a good test for some of you young women when you’re trying to think, “how … how do I think about this guy?” And you’re talking to your friends and they say, “Why do you want to marry him?” And you say, “Well, he seems to me unusually filled with the Spirit and wisdom” and if they spew their coffee halfway across Starbucks, you might be in a state of idealization.

In fact, if you want one of the best biblical manuals for who you want to hook your life to, you would turn to Galatians 5:19 through 23. Paul tells you what to avoid and he tells you what to look for. Galatians 5:19 through 23. He says the acts of the sinful nature are obvious. These are red flags. Sexual immorality, does he put his pleasure above your standing and integrity before God? Impurity. Are they drawn to the crude? Debauchery, idolatry and witchcraft. Men, you go into her dorm room and she’s sticking needles into funny-looking dolls, get out of there. That’s a really bad sign. Hatred, discord, jealousy. You know, they always seem to be at odds with everybody. Fits of rage, we’ve already talked about violence. Selfish ambition — they don’t have in mind the things of God, but themselves. Dissensions, factions and envy. Drunkenness, orgies and the like.

He’s talking about addictions there and I would say, please be very careful here, singles. Because we know neurologically that in one sense, addictions stamp our brains and it is hard to ever walk out of them. And we’re always more susceptible once we’ve given way to creating the neural pathway of an addiction. And I’ve seen addictions cause so much grief in marriage. I think self-control is vastly underrated. Okay, those are the things that should give us concern.

But look at this where he says this is what you want to look for. This is what is so powerful. “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

Now the challenge is that those words are so familiar. They’re like clichés. You’ve … you’ve heard ‘em and you don’t even really understand their power. And so … I … I’m just prayin’ that God could make these words come alive for you right now.

Just imagine what it would be like to marry somebody who is motivated and filled with love. They love God. They love you. They love on others. That’s just their motivation. How that would inspire you, how that would bless you, how it would … would encourage you to grow in love yourself.

Joy: we live in a dark world with a lot of frustrations, a lot of awful things going on. Imagine marrying somebody who has this supernatural well of joy. However dark things get, they have a real joy because God’s work is within them and is so powerful.

I mean, if you want to marry Eeyore, you can marry Eeyore. But sometimes it might be fun to go off with Tigger for a little bit, so (Laughter) look for joy.

Peace — do you want to marry the drama queen, the drama king? Or do you want to have somebody say, “Look, God has got this.” Patience — let me speak to the men for just a second here. The Bible tells us, we all stumble in many ways. We mess up. And if we marry a wife who’s not patient, we’re gonna make her miserable and she’s gonna turn around and make us miserable. When you know you mess up, marrying somebody who doesn’t have patience is sort of like drafting a quarterback who can’t throw the ball. Alright, it doesn’t make sense. It’s a necessary skill for the position. It is a necessary skill for marriage, to stay close, to keep growing closer, to have patience for each other.

Kindness, goodness, faithfulness — these are wonderful things. Gentleness — you’re not always harsh. Self-control — they’re protecting your family. They’re creating boundaries. Because your spouse can bring so much grief to you and your kids if they don’t know self-control. Now here’s what’s so powerful about this list. Here’s why I think this is the list that you want to look off of.

The three things of the world that we talked about—infatuation, we know neurologically it fades. Sexual chemistry, it fades. Date compatibility, it fades, as well because when you have a mortgage and you’re raising kids and you’re dealing with all these other issues, date compatibility goes out the window. The things that the world picks and too many Christians, frankly, have nothing to do with long-term satisfaction in marriage.

But if you base your decision off the fruit of the Spirit, here’s what’s so amazing. The fruit of the Spirit grows because God makes it grow.

The source isn’t in the person. The source is God within them. Kindness gets wider. Peace gets deeper. Goodness goes higher. Wisdom is … is increasing on a regular basis. And so, if you fall in love with someone for that reason, you will love them more at year 20 and 30 and 40 than you ever did at day 20 or month 20 or year 2.

And so, not only are you giving your children a parent who will model the effects of Christ in the life and that will invite them to embrace that same Savior. You’re also bringing along a partner with whom shoulder to shoulder, arm in arm, hand in hand, you can serve God and that will give your marriage meaning. It will give you purpose. It will give the two of you something to talk about and something to pray about.

And let me just say, it will give you one of the happiest marriages you can possibly give, because you know as good as it is now, because of the work of God, it’s going to get even better. Thank you.

Audience: (Applause)

John: Pastor Gary Thomas with a blueprint for a truly happy marriage on today’s episode of Focus on the Family.

Jim: John, I think you, and I, can both say that we are SO grateful to have married godly women who are the kind of ‘Kingdom partner’ Gary talked about right there. We are very blessed!

John: We are. Both of those ladies, Dena and Jean, have terrific hearts for God and they’re real treasures!

Jim: And here at Focus on the Family, we understand that preparing for marriage is a very important process which is why we devote resources to that aspect of building a family. And one of the best examples of that effort is our outreach to single adults called Boundless. Our colleague Lisa Anderson hosts the Boundless weekly radio broadcast and podcast, building a community of single young people who want to take the drama out of dating, navigate the tough times of life, and dive deeper into their faith together.

There’s also a Boundless website and blog providing hundreds of helpful articles to young adults in their 20’s and 30’s on their journey toward marriage and family.

So, let me just remind you that when you give to Focus on the Family you are helping to support efforts like Boundless. And when you make a donation of any amount today, I’d like to send you the book Gary Thomas wrote for singles, it’s called The Sacred Search.

So, join us as a financial partner as we, together, help guide our young people to build families. And to ultimately thrive in Christ.

John: Donate today and request Gary’s book when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. That’s 800-232-6459. Or online we’re at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast

When you’re at the website, look for some extra audio from Gary about how to tell whether you’re dating a ‘Giver’ or a ‘Taker.’

And be sure to be back with us next time, when Dr. Kathy Koch explains how you can find health and wholeness according to God’s design.

On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller inviting you back as we once more help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

Bundle of Why Your Kids Misbehave

Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

Headshot of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!