Focus on the Family Broadcast

Looking Ahead in a Divided Country

Looking Ahead in a Divided Country

Jim Daly is joined by U.S. Senator James Lankford to reflect on the events of January 6, the current division in our nation, and how we might move toward unity. They encourage listeners to take heart during these trying times and hold fast to their faith while praying for our country. Be sure to watch the entire broadcast for bonus content!
Original Air Date: January 29, 2021

John Fuller: Confusion, fear, and anger. Those are just some of the emotions many are feeling as they look across the land and see political, moral, and spiritual division. I’m John Fuller, this is Focus on the Family, and we’re so glad to have you with us today as we offer some hope and perspective on what’s going on and how we can move ahead in this country. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly, and Jim, we’re in Washington, DC, today.

Jim Daly: Uh, we are, and you’ve hit it really well, John. There’s so much angst in the country right now, and uh, fundamentally we’re here for the March for Life that’ll be done virtually. We’re also having meetings with senators and people in the House of Representatives. It’s interesting to come to Washington to always get an inside peek about what’s happening, especially from our perspective as a Christian. And so that’s, uh, what we want to do today is inform you and talk to someone who is right at the top of their game. Uh, Senator James Lankford from Oklahoma is within the leadership of the Senate, and he’s extremely knowledgeable of the things that are going on, and I really just wanted to hear from him, uh, his feelings as a Christian and as a senator, as to what’s happening in the country right now. I know there are some who are gonna feel like, “Wh- why do we wanna talk about this?” Uh, it’s important for us as Christians to be knowledgeable and informed about what’s happening in our country. So, there’s no agenda other than to do just that, to inform you and talk to Senator Lankford, um, as a believer about what’s happening today.

John: And Senator James Lankford has been in the US Senate since 2014. Uh, before that, he served in the House of Representatives for four years, and as, Jim, you noted, he, uh, was a youth pastor prior to that for about 20 years.

Jim: Mm. Senator Lankford, it’s great to have you with us. Thank you for bein’ here.

Sen. James Lankford: Oh, it’s really my pleasure to be back with you again.

Jim: You know, I, I wanna start at the, kinda the big end of the funnel. Uh, you’re a believer. You were a youth pastor for 20 years before getting into Congress. Um, when you look at the landscape right now, more as a Christian, not a Senator-

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: … wh- wh- what do you see and how do you process what’s going on right now in the country?

Sen. Lankford: Yeah. It is difficult to process, whether you’re a Senator or a pastor. Uh, it’s interesting the number of pastors that I’ve talked to recently who said there are people in their church that are angry or they’re leaving the church because they’re not talking enough about politics. Or they’re talking too much about politics. Or current issues. And, uh, the issues on the front page of the newspaper are bleeding into the church. Not, not because the church is not relevant. The church is relevant to speak to those things. Uh, but there are some people really interested in saying that’s all the church should talk about. Or they should talk about it more. And there, there, there’s a bigger kingdom purpose that’s out there, and we seem to be losing track of that somewhat as a country. And, uh, so, the- uh, uh, I, I guess just finding our way-

Jim: Yeah.

Sen. Lankford: … uh, as followers of Christ and to be able to say, “Wh- wh- what is it we’re called to do?” And to do that well. And to literally seek first the Kingdom of God and know all those other things are gonna be taken care of.

Jim: You know, I interact with the press, not to the extent that you do, but one of the common questions for me as a, a, a Christian in leadership will be, you know, “W- why do you land with the Republican Party so often?” right?

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: But I’ll say, “It’s because, uh, that party, although I wish both parties in our country would embrace these things, that they’re pro-life.”

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: Their plank is pro-life. Uh, they’re pro-family. These are the things that we stand for at Focus on the Family, so it, it’s almost like they’re trying to shame us into, uh, you know, “Why would you support those Republicans?”

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: And I think, for the audience, I just wanna get that out. I mean, you’re, you’re in the Senate, and I so appreciate those pro-life positions. Uh, for you, I think Susan B. Anthony. They gave you the A+ award-

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: … as being a pro-life senator. Um, what would you say to that person that’s eh- egging that debate on? You know? Why do Christians typically lean toward the Republican Party? And why is faith in politics?

Sen. Lankford: Yeah. I, I wou-, I would say, I, I know believers that are Democrats, and so I’ll have folks that’ll say, “You, you think all believers are all Republicans.” No, no, that’s not true. Uh, and so I, I get in, th- th- Jesus was not Republican, Democrat. He’s the King of the world-

Jim: (laughs) That’s right.

Sen. Lankford: … and, uh, and so, that, that, that, that’s not, that’s not the issue on it. Uh, but this… uh, I do have a very profound believe th- in the value of every single person. Uh, and I can’t seem to shake, uh… some of my friends on the Democratic side that believe some children are valuable and some children are not. I, I just, I can’t get past that-

Jim: Yeah.

Sen. Lankford: … to say I really do believe every child is a gift from God, and I’m, I don’t have the right to be able to declare, “That one’s valuable. That one is medical waste,” and to just set that aside. So that’s not what I’m gonna do, number one. And so that’s a big issue for me. It’s a dividing point. I’ll often hear people say things like, “Well, Democrats care more about the child after they’re born, and, uh, Republicans just care about ’em when they’re born,” and I always laugh, and I think, “That’s a nice cliché. It’s just not factually true, actually.” Uh, last year’s budget, uh, that passed when we were dealing with, uh, CARES Act funds and we were dealing with education and childcare and all those things. Overwhelmingly, Republicans and Democrats support those issues as we’re walking through the last year. So, it’s a cop out in some ways for some people to be able to say, “Well, you only care about ’em in the womb.” It’s not true in that.

Sen. Lankford: But we do have a s- different set. Tha- we, we don’t believe that government should take care of everything and every child. There’s a role for the family. The family should have more choice in education. The family should have more opportunity to be able to do things with their children and be able to lead. They shouldn’t have a heavy hand of government. Now, that is a difference, uh, between us, but that’s just a, a core belief in the value of the family and the importance of family.

Jim: Yeah. And I, I mean those of us that are watching what you’re doing in the Senate applaud you, uh, being able to weave both your faith and the vocation of politics together. Uh, let me ask you, Senator, uh, on the 6th, the day that-

Sen. Lankford: Yeah.

Jim: … um, the Mall hosted the rally, and then some of those people went to the Capitol-

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: … and stormed the Capitol. You were actually speaking in the Senate-

Sen. Lankford: I was.

Jim: … right at that moment. Uh, describe for us that day, what took place, and how you felt about it.

Sen. Lankford: Yeah, January 6th was a dark day for the country, uh, to say the least. Um, it, it was a day that, we were concerned about some level of violence outside, uh, thinking, “Okay, if th- if there are protesters and counter protesters outside, everybody’s pretty fired up. I hope they, they, everyone behaves themselves.” But none of us had any thought that someone would actually smash through the doors and try to work their way in. That didn’t even cross our mind. Uh, we have protests at the Capitol every day. Uh, literally, I can walk out of the Capitol after a vote and look outside and go, “Who’s protesting today? What are they protesting?” Because it’s just so common to see protesters around the Capitol for different issues all the time. So, that day, we really didn’t think was any different in a lot of ways. I, I was stepping up to speak, uh, in the Senate, and there was kind of a buzz that was going around me with other Senators looking at their phone and saying, “The, the protesters are right at the doors to the Capitol.” And I turned to Steve Daines, who’s a great solid believer, uh, who sits right next to me on the, on the Senate floor, and said, “I bet I don’t make it through this speech.”

Jim: Hmm.

Senate Lankford: And, uh, I stepped up to start speaking, and about two and a half minutes into the speech, as I’m speaking, I watch the Secret Service rush in the side door, grab Vice President Pence, and pull him out, and then they moved Chuck Grassley to go sit in that spot, and as soon as he did, he gaveled down the Senate, and said, “We’re in recess right now,” and a staff member walked up to me and said, “The protesters are in the building now.” And, uh, they started l- locking the doors all around the chamber. The security on the outside of the chamber moved to the inside. They moved the staff that work around the Senate into the Senate Chamber, locked the doors down, and it was clear this is where they’re gonna take their stand, is right inside this room. Uh, they were, they were not as worried about the building at that point, once they’d broken through in multiple places outside. They were most concerned about the people.

Jim: In, in that context, um, how do you process that? What, in your mind, was taking place? I mean, people are frustrated on all sides.

Sen. Lankford: Oh, sure.

Jim: The election… you know, there are many questions. I thought what the Senate was engaging in, along with the House, was a good discussion-

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: … about election security. You know, making sure that our elections are fair and equal and-

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: … all those right things.

Sen. Lankford: Sure.

Jim: Um, what, what’s going on with the angst in the country? Why is there such emotion that seems uncontrollable now?

Sen. Lankford: Uh, on all sides.

Jim: On all sides. We’ve seen in through the summer and yeah.

Sen. Lankford: It is exactly the issue. We, we, we have disagreements as Americans. That’s what the house and the senate are designed to do. We’re not designed to tell people, “Sit down and shut up”. We’re designed to… be able to say, “Okay, this is the place where we argue these things out and make sure everyone has a voice, uh, and that we actually all get a chance to be able to talk out our ideas.” So, it is entirely appropriate for the house and the senate to say, “There are millions of people have questions on both sides of this, and this is where we talk about it.” There’s nothing different about that. There’s nothing different about a protest, uh, around the Capitol, but there is obviously something very different about people who intentionally plan to come in and smash their way through as we know now. It wasn’t just a spontaneous event of passion. There are people that planned, robbed the materials, uh, walked the outside of the facility, looked for where they were going to go. And, while actually while the president was speaking, those folks were already in the process of smashing down and working their way through the police lines. Uh, so it wasn’t the crowd fired up from leaving the president time of the white house and coming down in a rage, it was already going on, they had planned to be able to do it. But we, we saw the summer and moments where there would be a protest speaking about racial justice in the country. That’s an entirely appropriate conversation for us to be able to have. We have a long history of racial injustice in the country. Why would we not want to continue that conversation to be able to work towards making sure every person made in the image of God is treated with honor and respect. That’s one of the signature items of us as Americans. That’s entirely appropriate to have those conversations. But then to watch it bleed over into violence often late at night and windows be smashed and trying to occupy federal courthouses, that’s not who we are as a country. And I, I think some of it is the pandemic, uh, some of it is just the built-up anger of people just being mad at the world because everything in their status quo has changed.

Jim: Right.

Sen. Lankford: But ultimately for those of us as Christians, we have a responsibility, uh, to be able to say, you know, our, our hope is somewhere bigger than all of this. And when the status quo change, God does not. Uh, so if he’s our light and our salvation, whom shall we fear? He’s the strong hold of our life, of whom shall we be afraid? Uh, so to be able to walk through that journey as a Christian is especially important right now, they see us be stable in the middle of all the chaos.

Jim: You know, a friend of mine who’s a non-believer said to me, “If you guys are concerned, I should be really concerned.”

Sen. Lankford: Yeah.

Jim: And that’s what you’re saying. In some ways, the Christian community, we need to keep our focus on the eternal things.

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: And it does feel like we’re losing a bit of that perspective, that the ground fighting has become so important that we’re missing the bigger picture.

Sen. Lankford: Yeah.

Jim: And, uh, that’s a frustration that I have constantly. But we’re drawn into it, because we’re concerned about the things that we’re losing. The reverence for God, the, the nation’s founding principles.

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: I mean, the idea, that conscience, religious liberty, these are core things that this nation was built on. So, people are feeling like we’re losing the core values. When we all talk about core values, those truly are core values.

Sen. Lankford: So, we lose the core values as a country in those critical aspects, because one family is not passing it on to the next generation, to the next generation, to the next generation. They’re expecting government or expecting somebody else to be able to carry on those values. They don’t, uh, we know from a biblical perspective, you pass that on from one generation to the next, the mom and dad pass it down to their children and their grandchildren. And so, when, when we see a failure of that in some families to be able to pass down that value, it gets filled in with the vacuum of the culture. Uh, so being salt and light begins at home. And, uh, so for, uh, two things I would say on that, one is, make sure our families are actually passing on those values. Do the first thing. Uh, I know we’re panicked about other people’s families, and what’s happening in other places in other states, make sure we’re taking care of her own. And the second thing is, make sure our hope is based on something that is eternal. Our hope is found in Christ and what he’s doing. If our hope is in a government, or in a place, or in a person, or an elected official, or what my school is going to do, your hope is in the wrong spot. Uh, we, we take care of our first responsibility, uh, to our family, uh, to our own personal walk with God, and then engage in our, in our culture in a way that makes the greatest difference.

Jim: Yeah. And I really appreciate that. And I think it’s difficult. I think the Christian community, particularly right now with the examples of the cancel culture.

Sen. Lankford: Sure.

Jim: I mean, even Focus on the Family, Twitter, uh, shut us down for a few days. I’m not even sure if we’re back up yet, on an issue where we were just stating a fact, and they call it hate speech.

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: So there’s this, uh, destabilization, I guess, that we’re not even sure how to communicate any longer.

Sen. Lankford: Yeah. It is. And it’s, it’s easier just to be able to, if, if I don’t agree with you, silence you. Find a way to able isolate, make sure you don’t have a platform to speak. People don’t handle that well. No, no one, no one likes being told, “Just be quiet. Sit in the corner. You don’t, you don’t matter anymore.” Every person matters to God. And though not every opinion is right. I understand that everyone has an opinion, but not every opinion is right. People do deserve to be heard. And that used to be a core value that we had as Americans; is everyone would be heard. That’s what our congress is all about.

Jim: Right.

Sen. Lankford: Uh, that’s what neighborhood conversations and school board meetings are all about. Let them be heard.

John: Senator, as, um, so many of our audience members aren’t in politics. Let me just ask a question on their behalf. Um, I’m Joe citizen, I’m Suzy homemaker. Whatever my role is, if I see my church being canceled out or shut down or pushed back on because of some faith issues, what do I do? How do I handle that?

Sen. Lankford: Yeah. It’s hard, because right now, uh, especially in the left, it’s really shout you down, uh, and to be able to find ways that you don’t get the opportunity to speak. Uh, it’s contact people that are donating to some conservative cause or some church that made a statement they don’t like and find people that donate to them and not go to their business and boycott them and all those things. Uh, so there’s a couple of things we can do, obviously engaging with your neighbors and friends and real conversation. Um, it, it doesn’t help us to say if was canceled, I’m going to cancel you back and I’m going to disengage from culture even more. Uh, that’s what that group wants. They, they want to say, “I don’t want to think about you. You’re a non-person to me. I’m canceling you. You don’t exist. And so, I want you to not to speak, and I don’t want to see you.” So one of the best things we can do is actually go serve them, and to actually go engage in those conversations and relationships and say, “I don’t think we’ve really met, because I’m hearing some things that you think I think, and I don’t. Can we get time to get dinner together? Can we get time to be able to talk?” And instead of saying, “Well, I hate you back.” Uh, to say, “Okay, I’m going to actually love you when you hate me. And let’s find out if the Jesus method actually works.” Because Martin Luther King Jr. talked about hate doesn’t drive out hate, only love can do that. Jesus said, “Light comes into darkness and dispels the darkness.” So, if there’s darkness there, insert some light and find out what happens. And again, people want to say, “Well, let me elect someone and they’ll just fix all this.” That’s not how it works in a culture. It’s each family, it’s each community, uh, it’s each individual choosing to be able to reach out to someone who disagrees and establishing that. And the more isolated we are from each other, the angry and the more separate we’ll be. The more that Christians actually engage with people that don’t agree philosophically, we end up being salt and light. And that seems to be a biblical principle of adding light to dark places and salt where salt needs to be applied.

Jim: It is so true. And I think I’ve even experienced that. And, uh, I think it reasserts the idea that we’re made in God’s image, because as I’ve met with LGBT folks-

Sen. Lankford: Sure.

Jim: When they feel sincerity from you, that you really do care about them, uh, I’d say it’s always going that way, that where their heart has opened up to what I have to say.

Sen. Lankford: Yeah. To have real dialogue.

Jim: It’s hard to persuade the human spirit or the human heart when you’re wagging a finger in their face. It’s just the way we’re wired. We will entrench ourselves in our position, but when people feel care and concern from another person, I think it’s God given that it cracks that person’s heart open to listen. I think it’s a spiritual formula.

Sen. Lankford: A gentle answer does turn away wrath.

Jim: (laughs), and there’s the scripture to support that.

Sen. Lankford: Yeah.

Jim: Um, Knights of Columbus on the uh, pro-life front.

Sen. Lankford: Yeah.

Jim: Knights of Columbus res-

Sen. Lankford: Amazing heroes.

Jim: … released their annual poll on pro-life issues. I just received these yesterday actually. But more than… I just want to read a couple of the stats from this. More than three-quarters of Americans, 76%, including a majority who identify as pro-choice want significant restrictions on abortion.

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: Think of that number, 77%, 76%. 77% of those polled either opposed or strongly opposed using tax dollars, which of course the Biden administration-

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: … through executive order has just issued. But 77% of Americans oppose using tax dollars for abortion, that’s 55% Democrat.

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: I mean, there is a, seemingly, a strong position in this country not to use tax dollars, not to fund international abortion.

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: Yet this government right now is headlong in that direction. And you’re sitting there as a senator in the minority, how do you shake the cobwebs from people? Or how do you, uh, try to help people make sense of this?

Sen. Lankford: So I was actually on the floor of the Senate yesterday, and spoke on this exact issue. I had a picture of a child in the womb, it was a great three-dimensional sonogram picture of those, pictures are, are remarkable now. When my kids were little it was just like, this fuzzy black smear on the page you could kind of figure it out. Now you can see their nose, and their eyes, and their lips, and it’s remarkable, the technology that we can see. I had that picture behind me. And I said, “There’s really only one question that we have to resolve, there’s only one out there. And there’s all these options of people saying… There’s only one question that I resolve, is that a child?” And I can show the picture and say, “Is this is a… I can count 10 fingers, I can count 10 toes, there’s a beating heart, there’s a functioning nervous system, there’s DNA that’s different than the mom’s DNA, they’re not the same DNA.”

Jim: Right.

Sen. Lankford: “That tissue is different than every other tissue in her body. Is that tissue right there of that child.” And to see this face and to say, “How can you say that’s not a child? How can you say that?” So really, I try to be able to ring it back to the central issue, a lot of people talk about it’s a woman’s choice, and if she wants to keep this child it’s up to her. I was like, “Whoa, whoa, whoa. Let’s first begin with the real question, is that a baby?”

Jim: Right.

Sen. Lankford: Because if that’s a baby, what are we going to do about that as a culture?

Jim: Yeah.

Sen. Lankford: Uh, because 48 years ago the Supreme Court determined, you know, not, not just is abortion going to be legal, but is it going to be required in every state? People lose track of what Roe v. Wade was. Roe v. Wade, uh, abortion was already legal in America, just most states didn’t allow it. Some states did. The Supreme Court stepped in and said, “Nope, every state has to allow this.” And so it suddenly became mandatory nationwide. And for the people that say, “Well, what if Roe was overturned?” Well, if Roe was overturned all that will mean is, the conversation will go back to the states again, and that states will have to make this decision. So it’s really a cultural conversation that we need to have with people. 48 years later, we don’t still, accept as a culture what the Supreme Court said, we don’t believe the death of 62 million children since 1973 is the right direction for our country.

Jim: Yeah.

Sen. Lankford: We believe that every child is valuable, not just some.

Jim: Yeah. I, I think Justice Blackmun, if I remember this correctly, in that decision even said, “As we progress, as science perhaps can determine the beginning of life more accurately-

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: … then we should probably come back and readdress this.” But-

Sen. Lankford: Science is on our side, it’s one of-

Jim: Science is totally on our side.

Sen. Lankford: … one of the things that I said yesterday is, “Please don’t tell me that you follow science and you ignore the life of a child.”

Jim: Yeah, that’s so true.

Sen. Lankford: Because there’s nothing in the womb that doesn’t show that’s not a life. In fact I jokingly tell people, if, if what we found in the womb we found on Mars, we would say there’s life on Mars.

Jim: Right.

Sen. Lankford: But no one seems to admit that’s life in the womb. Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Jim: That is a really good point right there. You know, you mentioned the ultrasound machines, and that’s something we’ve been engaged with-

Sen. Lankford: Good.

Jim: … at focus for years. 16 years, we’re nearing a half a million babies saved.

Sen. Lankford: Wow.

Jim: And we’re grateful to the pregnancy resource centers that we are able to place these machines in partnership with them. And it’s something like 57, 58% of abortion-minded women, when they are able to see that ultrasound and see their baby, those 10 fingers, those 10 toes-

Sen. Lankford: Yeah.

Jim: … that you mentioned, it changes their heart, because they have never seen that. And they think it’s just a blob of tissue.

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: But to your point, it’s a unique human being being knitted in their mother’s womb, that God knew from the beginning of this universe. And that’s the position we take. And I think that ripple effect, senator, of, um, defending life, and fighting for life, has such impact in what we’re seeing today with the disregard for children-

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: … and sex trafficking, and that life is not as precious as it once was. And I think it does begin with our attitude about abortion. And, uh, mm-hmm (affirmative).

Sen. Lankford: Yeah, if children are seen as disposable, and I could keep you or I could throw you away, I just had to decide, um, that does change everything about the psyche of a child to think, “Well, you chose to keep me, but am I not that valuable-

Jim: Yeah.

Sen. Lankford: … uh, one, one direction or the other.” It, it, it is, it is just something very important about recognizing the value of every person-

Jim: Yeah.

Sen. Lankford: … that sends a message to every other person. We really are created in the image of God, and we have value and purpose.

Jim: Yeah. I so appreciate the time that we’ve had. As the wrap up question, let me ask you this. Uh, again, being a youth pastor for 20 years, now a senator of the great state of Oklahoma right next to Colorado-

Sen. Lankford: Yes.

Jim: … and, uh, we love, we have so many good friends in Oklahoma that support the ministry. Um, what do you say to the Christian community about encouragement? There’s a heavy heartedness in the country right now, it’s a big load with the transition of government that we’ve just experienced, what’s happening with cancel culture, big tech, media-

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: Churches not being able to meet still-

Sen. Lankford: Right.

Jim: … because of the pandemic. Um, we’re heavy hearted, and I think we’re losing perspective. What would you say to us?

Sen. Lankford: Well, I’d say a couple of things to them. The first thing I would say is, uh, I really do believe God’s bigger than all of this. And, uh, he is one that can be trusted in the process. And we should ask the question, “God, what are, what are you doing? And what, what direction are you taking us? What are you pushing us out of?” Uh, I look at things, like, um, Acts chapter seven, uh, where you see the stoning of Stephen, a clearly horrible event in the stoning of Stephen, yet it was the, the trigger that actually pushed the church out of Jerusalem to go around the world to be able to share the gospel.

Jim: That’s right.

Sen. Lankford: Uh, so, uh, uh, you, you, you have to stop and ask questions when there are difficult moments. “God, what, what are you pushing us to do? Where are you pushing us to go? Uh, what is it I’m not doing that I should be doing that you’re trying to nudge me towards that I’m fighting against?” So I think, I think it’s a reasonable question to ask. Uh, and the second one is, quite frankly, um, yesterday I read Psalm 27 in the middle of all the craziness. Uh, I read the Psalms in the morning and other scriptures in the evening. Um, uh, I read Psalm 27, and as I, (laughs), read that Psalm, it, is just reminded me, again, the Lord is my light and my salvation of whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life, of whom shall I be afraid? Uh, when evil men advance against me to devour my flesh even, I, I, I’m not gonna fear.

Jim: Hm.

Sen. Lankford: And so i- there’s just so many great truths in scripture that you look at go, “Okay God, there have been very difficult moments in history before that we’ve seen.” And you can read through Old Testament or new, and to see what God has done through history and through time, and to realize he’s accomplishing a purpose, and this difficult moment is a difficult moment he’s teaching us with. If I ask people their testimony and say, “What’s God done in your life? When have you seen his evidence the most?” I, I, I bet 99 out of 100 would talk about a hard time in their life and what God did through that and how he proved himself faithful. But we’re, when we’re in that hard time we never seem to remember that. Um, but at this moment, and a hard moment, I would just encourage the church and believers to say, “I wonder what God’s going to do with this on the other side that we’re going to months from now turn around and praise him for that right now we’re griping about.”

Jim: Yeah.

Sen. Lankford: Um, and so le- let’s start praising him now for that and what is called the scripture of the sacrifice of praise, uh, to actually engage and say, “Okay God. I’m going to prepare myself and be faithful now.”

Jim: Yeah, so good. And, uh, boy, we will be praying for you in your role as a senator. Uh, Senator Lankford, thank you for being with us on Focus on the Family.

Sen. Lankford: Thanks. It’s really an honor to be with you again.

John: Well, we hope that this has been an encouraging conversation for you, and that you’ve seen some more hope that we have in Christ as we look across all the chaos of the day. Uh, if we can be of any help to you, please get in touch with us here at Focus on the Family. We’re a phone call away. Our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Uh, John, I do want to urge the viewers to be in prayer for our nation, uh, whether you’re Republican or Democrat. It’s important that we lift the nation up before the Lord, uh, scripture compels us to do that as well. Uh, Senator Lankford has given us a lot to think about, and again, I would ask you to pray specifically for him and others who have a pro-life perspective, who, uh, have a pro-marriage perspective, who are trying to do the things that help, uh, preserve this nation and to build on those things that most of us believe, uh, allowed this nation to be as strong as it is. Uh, we need our country to turn back toward God, and that’s going to start with us being humble and getting on our knees and praying for that. I love the scripture in Romans 12:21 that says, “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” And, uh, that’s what we try to do each and every day, both in our character, as well as our tone, and to represent Christ in a way that I think he would be pleased with. And remember, Focus on the Family stands ready to help you and your family at your point of need. It doesn’t have to be the big Washington DC thing. If you’re struggling, call us, we are there for you. And I want to make sure we alert you to that.

John: Yeah. And we, uh, have said it, uh, before, but we do have so many different resources for you, w- w- wherever you are as a family, or in your walk with Christ. And, uh, Jim, you mentioned praying for the Senator and others, pray for Focus as we continue to encourage families worldwide. Certainly, one of the things that, um, has poignancy right now, Jim, uh, here being in DC, is the sanctity of life, and, uh, Focus on the Family’s dedication to preserving life at all stages.

Jim: I’m excited about Option Ultrasound. We’ve been doing this program for 16 years. We’re approaching half a million babies saved through that effort. And that’s placing an ultrasound in a pregnancy resource clinic, along with all the other services that we can provide, the training materials and, uh, what a wonderful group of people that are on the front lines, uh, doing the Lord’s work each and every day. I’d encourage you to consider volunteering at that pregnancy resource center. Get involved however you can at that local level. Uh, that’s a wonderful way to express the love of Christ to these women who are in trouble. Also, you can help by supporting Focus on the Family with Option Ultrasound. We’ve got those metrics down now to where it’s sixty dollars to save a baby’s life. And I’d love for you to consider giving to Focus, to save that one child, um, for sixty dollars. And I don’t know how to say it, but can we do that? Let’s do it together.

John: Well, if you’re able to, please be generous and make a sixty-dollar sustaining pledge, a monthly gift to Focus on the Family, to make that difference. If you’re not able to, uh, do that monthly gift, a one-time gift of sixty dollars makes all the difference in the world. Our number again, 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. Or stop by the website for more. That’s focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Well, on behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller, hoping you have a great weekend and inviting you back on Monday as we once again, help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

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Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

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Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

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Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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