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Dr. Randy Schroeder: The glue for brokenness in all relationships is forgiveness. What is the reason the three of us are gonna go to heaven?
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Jim Daly: Huh, yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: It’s forgiveness for our sins, our faith in Jesus Christ. And likewise, forgiveness can heal the brokenness between husbands and wives, between parents and children. Uh, the c- what the central aspect of our Christian faith is the good news of forgiveness.
John Fuller: That’s Dr. Randy Schroeder, and he joins us again today on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller.
Jim: Uh, John, I am so excited to have Randy back with us. Uh, the listeners, the viewers, uh, love the things that he talks about, and we got a great book that we’re continuing to talk about, we have had previous broadcasts. One thing, if you didn’t hear those programs or any other Focus program, download the, uh, the app for Focus on the Family, and you can listen at your leisure, which is always good. But his book, Simple Habits for Effective Parenting, probably the most kinda straightforward, basic things you can apply in your parenting. And that’s one of the things I’m so concerned about, John, that we tend to overcomplicate it, like it’s some kind of calculus formula, and parenting is not that. And, uh, but again, Randy brings such wisdom with all his hours of experience as a counselor and talking to parents that have made mistakes and then getting them on a better track and getting really the child that they so desire, a child that has deep character, follows God, and treats people with loving and kindness.
John: Mm.
Jim: That’s what we want.
John: Yeah, yeah. And Dr. Randy Schroeder is passionate about, uh, equipping parents. He’s a marriage and family counselor, a pastor, and a former seminary professor of pastoral counseling. He’s a father and a grandfather. And, uh, his experiences and insights, as you said, Jim, are wrapped up, uh, in a great book called Simple Habits for Effective Parenting, and the subtitle is Specific Skills and Tools that Achieve Extraordinary Results in Raising a Child. Contact the ministry today for your copy. Our number’s 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, and we’re at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.
Jim: Randy, welcome.
Dr. Schroeder: Well, it’s great to be back-
Jim: (laughs)
Dr. Schroeder: … a second day to help parents have pers- specific practical wisdom that will make a huge positive difference in leading and guiding their child to be confident, responsible decision-makers.
Jim: It’s so good. And again, it’s so straightforward. And oftentimes we, as parents, we just need that reminder of doing things that I think many parents, especially Christian parents, are kind of aware of in their heart. We just don’t always apply them. Have you found that in your counseling?
Dr. Schroeder: Yes, sir. That can be. And, and it’s not a matter of just, uh, motivation, desire, it’s a matter of having that knowledge of what to say, how to say it, what to do, how to do it, and what not to do. Uh, and so yeah, par- la- Christian parents want to do, uh, what’s best for their kids, and they just need that knowledge.
Jim: Now, we do put some barricades, and we talked about those barricades last time, and if people missed that, uh, uh, like we said, get the download or get ahold of us, we’ll make sure you can get a link or get the smartphone app, et cetera. Let’s move on. Uh, when it comes to discipline, ah, that big question of discipline-
Dr. Schroeder: Mm-hmm.
Jim: … um, applying rules and setting boundaries, kind of what standard discipline is, parents tend to go into lecture mode. You touched on that last time. It made me very uncomfortable, Randy. (laughs)
Dr. Schroeder: (laughs)
John: (laughs)
Jim: I don’t know why. We just do it. We just go into that lecture mode and the kids hear, “Wah, wah, wah, wah.” So, A, I guess, why do we as parents do it? We think it’s effective when the kids are tuning out. What’s a more effective way to get the point across?
Dr. Schroeder: Well, and, and parents do it because they love their sons and daughters dearly, and, and they want the best for their kids, and they truly believe, “All I need to do is give the very best lecture”-
Jim: (laughs)
Dr. Schroeder: … yeah, “or discuss things to the nth degree, and then my child is gonna absorb all that information and they are just gonna become capable, confident, Christian individuals.”
Jim: And they’ll absorb it with a smile on their face. (laughs)
John: (laughs)
Dr. Schroeder: Well, they can, but-
Jim: ‘Cause it’s a great lecture.
Dr. Schroeder: Yeah. Yes, sir. Yes, sir.
Jim: (laughs)
Dr. Schroeder: And, and, uh, but what often happens, uh, what happened for the three of us, uh, when we received a lecture-
Jim: (laughs)
Dr. Schroeder: … is after the first five seconds, I always suggest kids turn the volume off.
Jim: Yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: Parents need to be brief and be silent, uh, use the skills, uh, we talked about another parenting interview of, “Will you please,” “either/or, you decide,” “when you, then you,” you know, grandma’s law, but they just need to cut down on the words. Too much talking will cause parent deafness and, uh, and actually not benefit their children.
Jim: When you have a mom and dad in front of you in your counseling sessions, and they have this is their core problem, do you give them a way to have a trigger so that they can catch themselves? Uh, uh, I mean, how do you move from the lecture mode, which comes so naturally to us, to hearing it and going, “Whoa, whoa. I gotta back up and ask the right question”?
Dr. Schroeder: Yes, sir, and, and we talked about that yesterday. It’s all about, uh, often asking how and what questions, but it’s also thinking if they’re going, when a parent is going to suggest advice, if they want to give advice, keep it in a paragraph. I kinda jokingly say since I’m a pastor, “Don’t be a pastor and speak in pages.” (laughs)
Jim: (laughs) No pages, paragraph.
Dr. Schroeder: One, one paragraph, you know? And, and then, and then ask a child a how and what question so that they, uh, can internalize that information. But yeah, parents need to be brief, be silent, and not go on and on.
Jim: That’s so good. That’s actually a good rule for all of life. (laughs) But that’s another issue.
Dr. Schroeder: It, it is, it is.
Jim: Um, let me say to the “try not to say no more than you say yes.” I love this quality. A good friend of mine encouraged me when my kids were really young to try to say yes more than no, a, a, and it, I think it was a really good attribute of my parenting style. But speak to that idea. Why is it damaging to have no, as the dominant response?
Dr. Schroeder: U- usually if no’s the dominant response, it goes back to a parent having that extreme style of being controlling. They think these rules are rigid-
Jim: Yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: … they’re not flexible, and parents need to have flexible rules. And it’s, you know, we think of a mother bird kinda opening their wings and letting the little chick fly away. That’s what parents are trying to do. So whenever possible, parents need to say yes to their children’s request and identify, is this a minor request or a major request? Because the goal of parenting is to help a child manage their own life, uh, from 18 to a hundred as a godly adult. That’s our goal, uh, as, as parents. And so parents, uh, if a child has a curfew of 11:30 and they’ve been very responsible getting home on time and they have something going on and they say, “Hey, Mom and Dad, can I stay out till midnight tonight?” if they have a scheduled activity for the reason they wanna stay out till midnight, Mom and Dad can say yes.
Jim: Mm.
Dr. Schroeder: Now, on the other hand, when Mom and Dad do need to say no when their child, uh, makes a request, what so often doesn’t happen is parents do not say it nicely. You know, “I told you no.” They need to say no in a friendly way that comes across to their child that “I really have your best interest at heart. I wish I could say yes”-
Jim: Right.
Dr. Schroeder: … “but I just need to say no because I have your best interest at heart. And right now, I just don’t think that’s a healthy activity for you to do.”
Jim: Let me, the follow-up there. So often parents can make everything a mountain, not a molehill.
Dr. Schroeder: Mm-hmm.
Jim: So everything’s a mountain. And what you’re saying is really critical. What are the core principles? It can’t be everything’s a core principle. And h- how, if you have the habit of making every molehill into a mountain and something I, I’ve gotta respond to forcefully, A, how do you reassess your criteria and then apply it?
Dr. Schroeder: Well, and, and rules are there like, uh, lines on a road to guide a child. And, and so parents need to think that they’re guiding. The, these are, they don’t have concrete barriers on the road as we drive down the road. And, and, and parents, if they can be just a little flexible and ask, “Is this gonna hel- provide growth for my child toward adulthood?” Because by the time a child’s a senior in high school, they may need to be making all their own decisions under parental guidance because after high school, a youngster could get an apartment, could get a job, could go to college, and who’s gonna be making the decisions? It’s gonna be them.
Jim: Yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: And so parents need to think, uh, Jim, “How can we guide in that direction?” And saying yes to a child’s request whenever possible can make that, uh, big difference.
Jim: Another, another concept you put in the book, which is so funny, uh, the story of Miss Talker-
John: Mm.
Dr. Schroeder: (laughs)
Jim: … and the power of optimism and positive labels. And John, you know the story. I mentioned it a couple times on air, but I remember my mom’s best friend at the time, I think I was five years old, and I, I could talk, and it’s so funny I’ve ended up doing-
John: (laughs)
Jim: … what I’m doing. (laughs) But, uh, she turned to me and she said, “You have diarrhea of the mouth.”
Dr. Schroeder: (laughs)
Jim: And I remember for, like, three hours, I tried to say nothing ’cause I didn’t (laughs) wanna over-talk because I didn’t-
Dr. Schroeder: You wanted to go, you want to go against that negative label.
Jim: (laughs) Right.
Dr. Schroeder: Yeah, yeah.
Jim: But that was when I read that, I was so connected with that. I mean, it, it was powerfully negative to me for a short period of time. But I, I still remember it to this day, the impact it made on me, like, “Be quiet, you talk too much.’
Dr. Schroeder: Well, and, and parents need to recognize helpful or harmful. Kids will live up to whatever labels a parent gives them or other people give them.
Jim: (laughs) That’s funny.
Dr. Schroeder: And, and, and so labels are powerful. Words can make us healthy. Words can make us, uh, unhealthy.
Jim: Mm.
Dr. Schroeder: And so when a parent says to a child, “I appreciate your hard work. I appreciate your determination. I appreciate your terrific character. I appreciate your respect,” those labels, that, a child will fulfill that reputation. And could I tell the story about Miss talker?
Jim: Yeah, Miss Talker?
Dr. Schroeder: Yeah, yeah.
Jim: Get to it.
Dr. Schroeder: Yeah.
Jim: (laughs)
Dr. Schroeder: Now, I had a mom, uh, dad did not come to the first session, but Mom brought her daughter and, uh, uh, sat down with her daughter on the sofa. Uh, and the daughter did not say anything to me. I said “hi” to the daughter and tried to get her to answer a question. She didn’t. But Mom sat on the sofa, and immediately before alm- almost I could say anything, uh, Mom said, “Dr. Schroeder, our dar- daughter’s extremely shy. She doesn’t talk.” Uh, and so I got with Mom in private, and I went over a number of these simple, yet very effective words and actions that make a difference. And then I asked Mom, I said, “Mom, whenever your daughter talks at home, and will you please, will you please ask your husband also to tell your daughter, ‘I appreciate your good talking.’ And then go to school and, and tell the teacher and the teacher assistant whenever she talks at school to make sure she says, ‘I appreciate how good you’re talking.'”
Jim: Huh.
Dr. Schroeder: And I asked the little girl, she’s sitting on the sofa with Mom before I met with Mom privately. I said, uh, “Ask her a few questions,” and she did answer them. And I said, “You are a really good talker. I appreciate how good you talk. May I call you Miss Talker? When I look at you, I see ‘Miss Talker’ on your forehead.”
Jim: Huh.
Dr. Schroeder: And she smiled and said, “Yes, Dr. Schroeder.” Well, every time I saw her, I never called her a name. When I would say, Mom and her and daughter were in the lobby, I’d say, “Mom and Miss Talker, come on back to my office.” And whenever I talked to her in the office, I just called her continually, “Miss Talker, Miss Talker, Miss Talker, Miss Talker.” And when she talked well, I s- would tell her, “I appreciate how good a talker you are.”
Jim: Yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: Well, six months later, John and Jim, what did that little girl become?
Jim: Yeah, yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: She was a talker.
Jim: (laughs)
Dr. Schroeder: She learned to be a good talker. But that positive label that mom, dad, and the teacher gave her and grandparents made a huge difference. And so parents can never underestimate the power of words. Parents can never underestimate the power of labels.
Jim: Mm.
John: Some, uh, really great insights today from Dr. Randy Schroeder on this episode of Focus on the Family. Uh, thanks for joining us. Do follow up and get a copy of Dr. Schroeder’s book, Simple Habits for Effective Parenting. Uh, we have that here at the ministry. Stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.
Jim: Randy, so often we hear this, and I want your response to it ’cause you speak to it in the book, if you want your children to grow up healthy and, uh, you know, have the character, the, the kind of the loving, kind spirit that you hope that they have, then show them a good marriage. Do you believe in that? And, and is it that simple?
Dr. Schroeder: Well, it, it is so essential that, again, when people and Mom and Dad are married, that they be good role models with that marriage. Uh, and, and let kids absorb what a healthy relationship looks like.
Jim: Huh.
Dr. Schroeder: Now, that being said, we know the divorce rate’s about 50%. And sadly, I would say of couples that are married, they’re married outta commitment, which is good, but only about 75% of couples have successful, satisfying marriages. And yet, that is so important for raising a child because when a marriage is not healthy, then kids often get involved with playing one parent against the other. When a marriage is strong, now the loyalty conflict is not there, and Mom and Dad can work together for the benefit of their child. And research has found that, uh, marriages where there’s two quarrelsome spouses, those, uh, children grow up to have conflicted adult relationships. And so yeah, parents… And that’s why in my Simple Habits for Marital Happiness book, uh, I look at all seven areas of making a marriage strong and successful. Only marriage book out there that looks at all seven areas of a marriage from apologizing, forgiving, to how you have respectful discussions. And I could go on, but yeah, you’re right. Marriage is essential for parenting a child to help a child be healthy.
Jim: And you mentioned that divorce rate, and, you know, it’s ha- a hard number to nail down, but the church is perhaps a little less than that, but not much. And in that context, especially for the Christian single parent, how do they express those things to their kids in an environment where they don’t have a spouse for whatever reason. Maybe that person died or, or they did, uh, divorce.
Dr. Schroeder: Well, and, and you’re right, uh, that can make it very difficult. And often what I do when I see a divorce situation in counseling, I’ll have Mom and Dad, even though they’re exes, come in because the mother of all learning is repetition. And I’ll have Mom and Dad buy a Simple Habits for Effective Parenting book, and then I go through that so that Mom and Dad, even though they may not be married or on the same page and using the same verbiage-
Jim: Mm-hmm.
Dr. Schroeder: … to influence their child’s heart to be a confident, godly, responsible decision-maker.
Jim: Yeah, that is so, so important. You speak to the issue of having a servant’s attitude. Um, that’s wonderful. You expressly talk about how Jesus had that servant attitude. Describe that and why it’s important and how we can help teach our kids to have a servant attitude.
Dr. Schroeder: Yes, sir. I’m glad you brought that up-
Jim: (laughs)
Dr. Schroeder: … because, uh, yeah, what, what does it say, “Jesus came not to be served”? What does the Bible say?
Jim: Yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: “Jesus came not to be served, but to serve.” And likewise, it’s so important for the three of us and every Christian to have a servant heart-
Jim: Mm.
Dr. Schroeder: … and want to serve and help others. Uh, and that can happen often with a parent’s help. It’s a, a child kinda working with a parent, whether it’s, you know, if a neighbor’s sick, helping take a meal over to the house. Okay? Making donations to a charity, uh, making treats for the firefighters at the firehouse, uh, writing a thank-you note to police officers, uh, that are helping, uh, maybe shoveling the elderly neighbor’s, uh, driveway next door. So kids developing that servant heart gives them that compassion and humility that Jesus had and that servant-like spirit, and I think another, uh, way to develop that servant heart is through prayer. Whenever we know of, uh, a situation, like the Ukraine, uh, war that’s going on-
Jim: Mm.
Dr. Schroeder: … you know, to pray for their safety.
John: Yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: And to pray that that conflict will come in, uh, will end is, is very important in developing a, a servant heart, a compassionate heart, a humble heart in a child.
John: Mm-hmm.
Jim: Mm.
John: Uh, Randy, as we continue through the book, I, I’d love for you to react to something I heard a mom say one time, and that was, “A, a messy room is a sign of poor character.” So we all know that we have to have some level of, of cleanliness and orderliness in our home. So how do we help our kids do that? And is it really a reflection of their character?
Dr. Schroeder: Well, it, I cringed on the inside when you-
Jim: (laughs)
Dr. Schroeder: … when y- y- you made that comment by that mom ’cause we don’t wanna, uh, give negative labels.
John: (laughs)
Jim: That could be a little perfectionist and-
Dr. Schroeder: Yeah, it’s a little perfectionist, a negative label. But yeah, again, successful people in life have good time management skills and they are organized. A, and I have no doubt, even though I don’t know you personally, Jim and John, that you guys are great time managers and you’re organized. And I think that likewise is what parents wanna help their children with. So in time management, it could be a bedtime routine, you know, helping a child establish what happens at bedtime, packing the bag, uh, which is also organization, but, you know, brushing teeth, have a good morning routine, have a homework routine, but when can they play? After school. When do they do homework? But so important, and again, we don’t wanna be perfectionistic, but it’s a flexible time management. And the one thing I find interesting, when I have counseled numerous thousands of adults that have anxiety and depression, often they are poor time managers and they are disorganized, and they have a lot of clutter, and they have cluttered cars and cluttered homes. And one of the first, people need to do their way out of anxiety and depression, one of the first things I suggest is to make sure that their home and car are decluttered. And that’s also good role-modeling, again, example’s not the best teacher, it’s only teacher, good role-modeling for the kids. And kids need to, maybe at night before they go to bed, organize their bedroom just a little, not perfectly, but just get it organized. Organize your papers for school.
John: Hmm.
Dr. Schroeder: And that carries over into life to help a child feel confident and self-disciplined.
Jim: That’s a really good point. Uh, just do, do something in the positive direction. It doesn’t have to be perfect.
Dr. Schroeder: Yes, sir. Yes, sir.
Jim: And, and look for that. Uh, let me talk about that idea of learning how to apologize, but also learning how to appreciate, if we can put those together. I just remember with Trent, our oldest, and I’m not saying anything he hasn’t approved, but he was really our strong-willed child.
Dr. Schroeder: (laughs)
Jim: And there was one day as a teenager, I remember it was so stark, he got up and from the dinner table and he had, he was going somewhere. And 10 minutes later, we get a text from him to Jean saying, “Mom, I just wanna thank you for the great meal you cooked and always having a great meal for dinner and I just so appreciate it.” And we both (laughs) looked at each other and said, “Who, who was that?”
John: (laughs)
Dr. Schroeder: That is terrific.
Jim: (laughs) But it really-
Dr. Schroeder: Yeah.
Jim: … it really was an amazing turning point. It was, it was, I mean, we could measure it.
Dr. Schroeder: Yeah.
Jim: I didn’t write the date down-
John: Hmm.
Jim: .. but there was a certain day-
Dr. Schroeder: Yeah.
Jim: … that we saw him mature.
Dr. Schroeder: Yeah.
Jim: And it was so refreshing. And he’s carried it forward and built upon it. And I don’t think he leaves the house now to head to his house that he doesn’t send Jean a note saying, “Thank you for what you’ve done tonight,” and it’s just so awesome.
Dr. Schroeder: That, that is terrific. And it goes back to just kind of having a servant heart. When we have gratitude for others and express appreciation to others, that makes a huge difference actually in our lives.
Jim: Yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: Uh, yeah.
Jim: But also it, it, it, don’t give up.
Dr. Schroeder: Yeah.
Jim: I wanna encourage those parents with the 13-year-old, the 14-year-old where you’re saying it all the time and it seems to not be registering. I think our experience is not unique. I think you’re gonna find at a little later stage all of that is gonna pay back, and all of a sudden, that mature brain will click on.
Dr. Schroeder: Well, and, and you’re exactly right, Jim. And we want to give parents hope and encouragement that, yeah, if the youngster’s struggling right now as a teenager, they can turn it around. I, I saw a troubled teenager years and years ago that was, uh, I was scared he was gonna end up in federal prison, but I gave Mom all the ideas, the knowledge, specific practical wisdom in my book. And Mom and Dad starting applying it. And a few years ago, and her son must be in his mid-30s now, she sent me a note and said, “You told me to not give up and just use these ideas and they’ll make a difference influencing my son’s heart,” and she said, “my son now is a doctor, and not only a doctor, he’s a surgeon.” And so, and so-
John: (laughs) Wow.
Jim: (laughs) Okay, Randy, let’s-
John: Yeah.
Jim: … hey, get the book. (laughs)
Dr. Schroeder: (laughs)
Jim: (laughs) That’s the best pitch you could make.
Dr. Schroeder: Well-
John: Yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: … but, and I’ve gotten many notes like that.
Jim: Yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: You know, that it, it doesn’t happen always 18 and under, but it happens later on that the, that influence on the heart made a huge difference.
Jim: And it’s so important.
Dr. Schroeder: Well, and apologizing and f- or forgiving is essential. The glue for brokenness in all relationships is forgiveness. What is the reason the three of us are gonna go to heaven?
Jim: Huh, yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: It’s forgiveness for our sins, our faith in Jesus Christ. And likewise, forgiveness can heal the brokenness between husbands and wives, between parents and children. Uh, the, what, the central aspect of our Christian faith is the good news of forgiveness. And so often, sadly, I’d say 98% of marriages, husbands and wives, 98% of parents do not know how to apologize and forgive.
Jim: Mm-hmm.
Dr. Schroeder: And I can touch on that briefly. In fact, uh, my PhD doctoral dissertation was on the benefits of apologizing and forgiving. And I wrote 350 pages.
Jim: Wow.
Dr. Schroeder: Now, I touch on that in the parenting book with about three or four pages. In my marriage book, it’s about 20, but I condensed that down to the Reader’s Digest version. And one of the things I discovered is that in my reading my research is that children as adults are more emotionally healthy when they had moms and dads, and it didn’t happen very often, but when they had moms and dads who said, “I’m sorry, I made a mistake.”
Jim: Mm.
Dr. Schroeder: “Will you please forgive me?” And the youngster could say, “Mom, Dad, I forgive you,” because they learn they don’t have to be perfect. “My mom and dad make mistakes.”
Jim: Yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: “And I’m gonna make mistakes and I’m forgiven.” So there’s kind of, uh, three parts to the apologizing and forgiving process that can make a difference. The first is to say, “I’m sorry I hurt you by,” uh, and then whatever-
Jim: Fill in, yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: … words or behaviors. And then the second part’s the most important, that takes humility, to not just say, “I’m sorry,” but to ask, “will you please forgive me, Mom and Dad?” Or, “Child, will you please forgive me as a parent for making a mistake?” And then the third part is not to say, “That’s okay, I’m over it. No problem,” but to actually say, “I forgive you.”
Jim: Yeah.
Dr. Schroeder: Just truly unbelievable. And parents need to do that. If they have more than one child, your listeners, they need to do that with, uh, sibling relationships. You know, for 25 years, uh, as you mentioned, I was a, a seminary professor of pastoral counseling. I taught premarital counseling, marriage counseling, family counseling. And a lot of our future pastors were in their 30s and 40s when they came back to prepare for the pastoral ministry. And so they had children. And so of course I went over this so they could counsel their parishioners one day and they would go home and apply these ideas to their marriage and say, “Oh my goodness. This made a huge positive difference in our marriage.” And I, they’d come back and say, “Dr. Schroeder, I can’t believe how the sibling relationships are improving.” Because what most parents do, they’ll have, if, if one sibling hurts another, they’ll have them just do the first part, and then it’s flippant.
Jim: Say you’re sorry.
Dr. Schroeder: “I’m sorry, I’m sorry.” Yeah. Say you’re sorry. “I’m sorry, I’m sorry.” But when the child has to ask the other sibling, “Will you please forgive me?” And then the other ch- sibling says, “I forgive you, I tell you, hundreds of seminarians said, “I can’t believe how that’s helped relationships in our family and in my marriage.”
Jim: Randy, this has been so good and there’s so much more to cover, and I know we can’t cover it all, but I think what you said a moment ago is so amazing. And I’m sure as a counselor, you could not have said to that mom, “I think your kids heading to prison here.” (laughs) You kept that quiet to your heart, but I think-
Dr. Schroeder: Yes, that that’d have been a negative label. (laughs)
Jim: (laughs) Yeah, encouraged her to apply the principles, and now he’s a surgeon. I mean, for those parents that are panicking, I can’t think of a better resource. And these applications are actually quite simple, Randy, and I appreciate that. It takes work, uh, as an author to hone these things down to something that people can apply. It’s easy to give them complex ideas and thoughts, but to get it down to some simplicity, the three these and the three that’s, really is a discipline that you’ve brought to, uh, this book. So thank you for that. Thank you for being with us.
Dr. Schroeder: Well, I appreciate your kind words and, and to God alone be the glory. And I just pray that these ideas will help thousands and thousands of parents to help their kids grow up to be godly, responsible adults, and be with the three of us one day for eternal life in heaven with our loving God.
Jim: Amen. And as I said last time, we have a great assessment tool, 7, uh, Traits of Effective Parenting. And, uh, you can do that. It’s free right at our website. John will give details. It takes about seven minutes to, uh, complete and it’ll give you some areas that you’re doing well in and other areas that you need to strengthen. In addition to that, and most importantly about today’s, uh, discussion, we also have Randy’s wonderful book, Simple Habits for Effective Parenting, that we’d love to put in your hands. If you can’t afford it, get in touch with us. Uh, that’s our goal here at Focus is to make sure you’re doing the best parenting job possible, uh, with the Lord’s guidance and with great, great, uh, insight from, uh, professionals like Randy. And this is one of those resources that we highly recommend. If you can make a gift of any amount, uh, we’ll send it as our way of saying thank you for being part of the ministry. If you can make that monthly, it’s great. It evens out everything for us. But a one-time gift is also just as good. So we’ll send it to you for either, uh, here at Focus on the Family.
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